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Tips Of The Married Life · When you’re at an event with your man, shoot him a come-hither look across the room. Attempt to pick him up with only your eyes. · Wake your guy this morning with soft kisses all over his body. What a wonderful way to wake up. · Let him take the lead tonight. Allow him to choose your outfit, the restaurant, or the movie. Surrendering the decision-making gets you in the mood. · In particularly stressful moments, whisper something to your man. The soft tone and warm breath on his ear will calm him down immediately. · Go on a movie date and make sure to graze his lap as you reach for the popcorn. Give him your eye that lets him know that you know exactly what you are doing. · When you wake up in the morning, tell him you had the most amazingly erotic dream about him. Give him full details even if you are making them up as you go. · When you are getting ready in the morning, give him a full on flash. Hold your robe open for a few seconds and tell him to remember the image of you nude all…day…long. · When you travel together buy postcards. Once you return, send one to your man to remind him of all the fun you had while you were traveling together. · Find your inner dominatrix. Start by pulling his hair a little while you are in the throes of passion. · Take turns kissing each other’s belly buttons. It tickles and feels so good. · When you are kissing your man, take your time. Pause and look into his eyes softly, then continue. Your glance will tell him how you are feeling about him. · Make putting on the condom part of sexy foreplay. Unroll it on him. You can use your lips to do so. · Buy a book of Mad Libs and require only risqué answers. Read them back to each other and giggle at the story you create. · Give your man a full body massage without using your hands. · Fill water pistols with fruit juice or wine and squirt each other without mercy. Lick each other clean and then wash off the rest of the sticky in the shower…together. · Do some partner stretches in the living room or in the bedroom. It is a great way to really get to know your partner’s body. You will surprise each other with your flexibility and can incorporate that into your sex life. · Happy Thanksgiving! Make sure you tell your partner all of the reasons you are thankful for him! · Decorate your bedroom with bundles of fall flowers. Your room will smell and feel fresh, and the colors will create a warm, relaxing glow. · Hide under the covers when your man comes to bed and surprise him with a pillow attack. Wear a skimpy nightie to ensure plenty of flashing potential. · Wednesday is Hump Day. Take that literally and engage is some mid-week nookie to get you to the weekend. · Wake your husband up with a cup of coffee and the paper. Tell him he is to stay in bed for as long as his heart desires. He’ll probably pull you back in to be with him. · After midnight, bundle up and head outside. Have sex under the moonlight. The cool night air will feel great but your warm breath and bodies will keep you toasty. · Cool off at the ice-skating rink. Grab your jacket and a good pair of socks and warm each other up on the ice. Don’t forget to couple skate! · When you dress for a date, lay out your clothes, down to your sexy lingerie. Make sure he sees the spread before you get dressed. · Go on a body treasure hunt. Do you know where all of his freckles are? Make the curves and marks of his body your business. · When you greet your man with a kiss after work tonight, be sure to grab his package. He’ll appreciate your bold gesture. · Watch Basic Instinct with your man and steal some of Sharon Stone’s moves — not the murderous ones, just the sexy ones, like when she turns Michael Douglas into her sex slave! · Give him opportunities to “accidentally” graze your breast while you are out in public. Give him a wicked smile to let him know you meant for it to happen. · Head to a dive bar and flirt with your man, relentlessly. If you can muster the courage, pull him into the restroom for a quickie. · Buy keychain flashlights and take them to bed with you. Ask him to illuminate his body parts that need your attention. You do the same for him! · When your husband is repairing things around the house, tell him the sight of him with a hammer, vacuum, mop, whatever it may be makes you really hot. · Treat yourself to a manicure and then use those gorgeous nails to scratch your guy’s body parts. Pay close attention to his arms and chest. · Allow him to watch you pleasure yourself with your vibrator. Men are visual creatures. This will be quite a gift for him…and you! · On your next road trip, go down on him while he’s driving. Make sure you are on an open road. This will catch him off guard and spice up the long drive. · When you look deeply into your partner’s eyes, you are telling him that he is the most important person in the room. He’ll appreciate that you only care about what he’s saying. · Masturbate your partner to the point of climax and then slow down for a few seconds for a fantastic orgasm. · Buy and men’s undershirt tank top have it personalized to say something special to your man. Maybe- “I’m yours!” or “Just for you!” or just his name. · Reenact how you met your mate. Go back to the spot and relive the moments you met. You’ll have so much fun thinking about those first moments. You will take yourselves back to the reasons you got together and fell in love. · Happy Halloween. Keep the costumes on while you do the deed! Haven’t you always wanted to get busy with Spider-Man? · Buy a couple of pumpkins and take them home and have a carving contest. Save the seeds for roasting! · Going away with your honey? Check out this travel kit from Blissbox! · Be silly with your man. Head to a wig shop and buy wigs for each other. Of course the next step is to wear them in bed. It will feel like you’re a making love to a new person but you aren’t cheating and you are laughing and having fun. · Everyone has that one household chore they can’t stand doing. Trade the one thing you hate to do for the one thing he hates to do. Do you hate scrubbing the tub? He can take that on. If he hates taking out the trash then you can take that on. Relieve yourselves from the stress of dreading that chore. · Quiz each other and giggle for hours with Naughty Crosswords: Nerve.com Presents Fifty Sexy and Outrageous Puzzles. · Have you planned your Halloween costume yet? Be a naughty nurse, a French maid, or a cowgirl who lassos her man — have your own private rodeo! · Reprogram your name in his phone. The next time you call, instead of your name, “Hot Babe,” “Horny Girlfriend,” or “Sexy Wife” will show up instead. · Make your partner your number one supporter by letting him know how he can meet your needs emotionally. Communication is key! · Some men enjoy anal stimulation. See if he is open to exploring this. Neither of you will regret adding this to your sex life. · Some men enjoy anal stimulation. Talk with him to see if he’s open to exploring this. Once you decide that he is, use a lot of lubrication and find out what he likes. · Cover each other with massage oil and feel the incredible sensation of sliding your bodies together. · Today is Miss American Rose Day. Celebrate by sprinkling rose petals in a trail leading to your bed. Spread handfuls of petals between the sheets too. · Affirm his actions by reminding him, out of the blue, how special he makes you feel when he does little things for you. · Nibble your partner during foreplay. A gentle bite brings blood to the surface of the skin and creates a fantastic sensation. But be gentle; don’t break skin. · Find a bra and panty set in red, a hot (and naughty!) color. Let your man know you’re wearing it under your clothes — he’s sure to peel off the outer layer fast! · Give him a tush massage. Kneed his bum with your strong hands. Massage his buns in the same way you would fold dough. · Don’t neglect his arms when you are making out or having sex. Men are proud of their biceps and love to have you stroke and massage their forearms. · Create the best scenario for lovemaking to end in orgasm for you: Put a pillow under your bum to give you the optimum pelvic tilt. · Have you done it on all pieces of furniture in your home? If you haven’t, make that a goal to complete in a month. · Give him a scalp massage using some mint-infused lotion. Then wash it out by giving him a sensual shampoo. · Greet him with a warm towel and personal rubdown when he gets out of the shower. · Get dirty while you are doing the laundry. Try out the spin cycle. He sits on the washer and you straddle him. The washing machine is like your very own gigantic vibrator. · Find a lover’s lane in your home town. Have an old-school date by going there to make out in your car. Be discreet because the police will give you a ticket for indecent exposure if you get caught. Being sneaky is so much fun · When you are on top, bring him inside of you very shallow. Then do a few kegels to massage the most sensitive part of his penis. You will drive him wild. · Prolong his orgasm by licking or rounding the top of his penis with your fingers. · Take a drive in the country to check out the colors of the changing leaves. Pull off for a country hike or picnic. · How you feel about yourself is directly tied to how you feel about having sex. So, be healthy and be good to you. · Kidnap the remote control and hold it for ransom. Your note should give explicit directions on how he can have it back. · If you really aren’t in the mood for sex, be gentle with how you say so. Offer him a rain check in the form of a cute coupon. · If you find your mind wandering during sex, try to center yourself and your thoughts. If you aren’t in the moment, you are shortchanging yourself and your partner. · Today is Family Heath and Fitness Day USA. Get sweaty with your partner and take the kids with you. There are few things that can match the endorphin rush after a good work out. · Be completely blunt and a bit naughty. Use your sexy walk to approach him and tell him you want to *&^%. · Involve him in your dressing routine. Ask him to zip up your dress. And most importantly, ask him to unzip it as well. · At a party, sit on his lap and discreetly shift your weight to put slight pressure on his private parts. · Go on a movie date. During the previews, place his hand on your thigh to give him a preview of what the night has to bring. · Use your lip liner to mark arrows to all the places on your body that you want him to spend some special time. · When you strip out of your work clothes tonight, “forget” to take off your heels and prance around for your man. · Set your alarm for an hour early. Spend the extra 60 minutes in the 69 position. · You can communicate your feelings without saying a word. A simple bat of the eye can send him the right signals. · Name your man’s manly parts! For instance, name him “Frank” and make sure to invite Frank out to play often. · Mistletoe doesn’t have to be limited to the holidays. Hang some in several doorways in your house. Meet beneath it regularly! · Curious about that sexy trick or toy? See how others rated hot products and techniques at the Sex-Life Road Test. · If you are sleeping in a king size bed, your man is just too far away. Downsize your mattress size and increase your intimacy and lovemaking. · Tackle problems as a team. Whether you need to tame the weeds in the back yard or chip away at credit card debt. · Have your palms read together! Gain insight into your partner’s life and love lines. · Pinch his bottom when you are walking in the mall or shopping at the market. He loves your playful side. · Suck on some ice, then give him a blow job. The cool feeling will make him shiver in all the right ways. · Take 30 minutes to cuddle with your love today. It is a nice way to remember families who lost loved ones on this day. · While doing mundane house chores or shopping, spice things up by flashing him in public. Don’t get caught! · Kissing is a great way to boost your intimacy and your overall love life. Check out William Cane’s The Art of Kissing. · Today is “Bald is Beautiful” day! Celebrate by trying a Brazilian bikini wax. · Send your man a text at work today telling him you aren’t wearing any panties. He’ll fantasize about you all day. · Have a night of solo sex — just for you. Draw a bath, put on some music you love, have a glass of wine, and enjoy yourself. · Wear thigh high stockings with your lingerie tonight. Make sure he watches you put them on. Very sexy. · Throw one new move into your next session. Caress his inner thigh for a few minutes instead of going right to the jewels. · Happy Labor Day! Breakfast is served in bed today. Dine between the sheets and off of each other. · Say your partner’s name while you are having sex. Hearing you moan his name will totally turn him on. · The next time you are in an elevator with your man and the two of you are alone, take advantage of the solitude. · Do you know the special thing to do when your partner needs a boost? Find out and make sure he gets what he needs. · Have sex with your clothes on. How? Oh, you can figure that out. Have fun. · Keep your eyes open when you make love tonight. You will feel the surge of pleasure and intimacy. · Let him be the boss of you. He calls all the shots in bed tonight. Tomorrow night it is your turn. · Make goodbye kisses part of your ritual. It is the perfect way to remember your partner all day. · Pretend you’re John and Yoko and spend the day in bed. Have finger foods and champagne within reach! · Make sure the door is locked when he comes home. When he rings the doorbell, answer the door in only a robe. · Tonight, no hands allowed. Explore a new way of having sex with just your tongue, lips, nose, eye lashes… · Sneak up behind your man and wrap your arms around him. Once he’s excited, explore his body and bring him to climax. · Send your man to the market for some food items for the bedroom. Then call and tell him what you’re going to do with them. · Do a little dirty dancing in your living room. Put on some pulsating music and gyrate to your heart’s content. · The next time you are on top, try mixing it up by moving your hips in a figure eight. · Make it last! Unless you are grabbing a quickie, make sure your lovemaking lasts longer than 30 minutes. Ramp up the foreplay and connect mentally and physically. Sex is best when you and your partner are connecting, not just going for the goal. · Pop your favorite lotion in the fridge and then spread it all over each other. Take a really long time to rub it in. · Pop a mint in your mouth before you go down on him. The cool sensation on his penis will really drive him crazy. · Ask him to hum or sing or talk while he is going down on you. Feeling vibration while he’s pleasuring you will do the trick. · Have a long, steamy, touch-free make-out session with your sweetie. It will get you both riled up! · Try outercourse. Instead of having him penetrate you, bring yourselves to orgasm by rubbing your bodies together. · Play with his penis. As long as you don’t bend it or scratch it, the pressure and rough handling feels good to him. · Let him watch while you pleasure yourself. You’ll feel liberated, and he’ll feel, well, overwhelmed in the best way. · Spend at least one minute kissing and caressing each of his favorite spots. He’ll demand to pleasure your spots as well. · Surprise your man by sporting a costume. Maybe you feel like being a cop and arresting him for his naughty behavior! · Surprise your man with a design “down there”. Get ideas at shavehaven.com. Even better, ask him to participate in the grooming! · If your guy is interested in shedding some fur around his penis and in turn making it appear larger, give him a shave with a Bodygroom by Norelco. You’ll enjoy being his barber. · Feel the rhythm with the OhMiBod. Plug this vibrator into your iPod and it will vibrate to the beat of the music. · Turn off the lights and jump in the shower. Lather up and get slippery. Instead of drying off just jump between the sheets. · Leave a note on your husband’s pillow detailing why you chose him. · Heat things up with some warming lube! There are plenty of kinds but you can find KY Warming liquid in almost any drugstore! · Make love to him in a chair. It is a great way to keep eye contact and you can leverage your weight to your delight. · Men love blow jobs. Find out how he likes it and indulge him often. · Heat things up with some warming lube! There are plenty of kinds but you can find KY Warming liquid in almost any drugstore! · Use your fingernails all over his body. As long as you aren’t drawing blood, the pressure and sensation is fantastic. · Find the best time to make love. Sometimes the feeling strikes first thing in the morning. There’s not many better ways to start the day! · On your bed, spread out the lingerie you plan to wow him with later in the night. · From time to time, leave a sexy note on his pillow. · Are you ready for a big challenge? Try to become a member of the mile-high club. It is up to you how you accomplish this feat. · Ask your hottie out for a date. Use your flirting skills, then pick up the bill and try to get in his pants. · Have a spontaneous tickle fight. Make a mental list of his weak spots and be relentless. · Do you know his top five favorite movies? Does he know yours? Have both your faves on hand for a stay-at-home date. · Treat yourself like a queen, whether it’s keeping your skin soft with top-shelf lotion or getting a regular massage. Your partner will follow in your footsteps. · It’s naked day! Today, do everything totally naked — from laundry to home improvement to hide-and-seek. · Try a condom sampler pack. Safe sex is imperative, but it doesn’t have to be a chore. Have fun test-driving every kind you can find. · TGIF! Relax in the tub with the lights off. Light some candles and use this bubble bath to add to the ambience. · Give your guy a gift you will that will benefit you both…in bed. Wrap up a pocket rocket and then give it a whirl together. · Give your guy a lap dance. If you need some tips, consult The Little Bit Naughty Book of Lap Dancing for Your Lover by Rebecca Drury. · Head to a lingerie shop for three great-quality bra and panty sets. A good bra will do wonders for your look and your self-image. · Buy a couple of Super Soaker water guns. Spend a few hours hunting each other down. Wear something that turns revealing when it gets wet. · Check out some live music on your next date, then have fun talking about your favorite part of the evening on the way home. · Connect mentally with some great conversation, since our sexuality lies largely in our brains. Use Gregory Stock’s Book of Questions to get started. · Breathing is an important part of receiving pleasure. Be sure to inhale and exhale deeply when being intimate with your partner. · Head to a museum. Hold hands and whisper your thoughts to each other. The feeling of closeness will put you in the mood. · Increase your sense of touch by wearing a soft pair of gloves or mittens during foreplay. Cashmere or soft cotton is a great choice. · Give yourself a temporary tattoo in a hidden location. Challenge your partner to find it. · Take charge tonight. Try How to Be a Dominant Diva. There are more than 300 pages of pictures and tips. · Blindfold each other. Since you won’t be able to see your partner’s every move, you’ll have to ask directly for what you want. · Jump in the shower and invite some aquatic life. This octopus from has eight vibrating tentacles to massage all of you and your man. · Invite some friends over for a barbecue and let the guys man the grill. There’s something really sexy about watching your guy take charge over an open flame. · Taking a road trip together? Forget a typical audio-recorded book. Slip in Kiss Your Ear, nine erotic short stories. · When you are at a serious event in public, whisper a naughty little nothing in his ear. · Pick a day and a volunteer project to do together. It is very sexy to see each other giving time and energy to those who really need your help. · Expand your sexual repertoire. Try a new position, in a new room, at a new time. · Wear nothing (or very little!) to bed frequently. Spooning in the buff is very sexy. · Play the “pleasure points” game. Take turns naming the top 10 pleasure points on your partner’s body. Don’t forget to touch and kiss every one of them. · What’s play without toys? Make a date out of browsing the adult toy store near you. If you’re too shy, check out your options online. · If your sweetie is on a long business trip, overnight a pair of your panties to his room. Mark the envelope “private.” · Make a habit of going to bed together. Cuddling up and drifting off to sleep at the same time is a nice way to put the day behind you. · Save for a weekend getaway. For 90 days, save $5 apiece and you’ll have almost $1,000. · Order his favorite meal tonight. Forgo your concerns about cholesterol for one evening and take a break from cooking. · Create anticipation with your kiss. Press your body to his and you’ll leave him wanting much more! · When it’s hot outside, make an ice cream date. Find out what flavor your partner is. · On his way out the door, plant a sensuous kiss on him and tell him you can’t wait to make him yours later. · Perfect your sexy walk. Look straight ahead with a slight smile. Put one foot directly in front of the other, keeping shoulders back. · Learn to accept his compliments, even if you are embarrassed by his attention or feel the urge to shake it off. · Spend a day at the spa together! Take a massage course for couples and think of all the free massages you will get while your partner is practicing! · Become a student of lovemaking and create a library! Start the required reading with Jay Wiseman’s Tricks to Please a Man. Now hit the books! · Try a new recipe in the kitchen. If it’s a flop, who cares? Salvage the good stuff or order in. · Remember the mix tape — the ultimate gift from your boyfriend in high school? Create a playlist from you to him for his iPod. · Do you have a favorite song? If you don’t, you must pick one. Play it over and over while you slow dance in the living room. · Feeling up for a challenge? Go skydiving! The adrenaline rush is the best thing you’ll ever feel together… almost. · Snag two good seats at a baseball game. Cheer for the home team together, and then hit your own home run later that day! · Allow your man to be the hero sometimes, even if you don’t need protecting. Enjoy having someone watch over you. He’s doing that because he loves you. · On a romantic dinner date with your husband, spice up the meal with a lot of sex talk. You’ll feel nice and naughty talking about private thoughts in public. · Looking for some fun? Go ahead, roll the dice. You’ll want to spend all night shaking ’em up and rolling ’em again. · Tonight, use your sheets to make a tent in the living room. Snuggle up with your man and pretend you’re in your favorite getaway spot. · Find a nice box with a lock to serve as your treasure chest for your sex toys. Have fun filling it up with your favorite accessories. · Give your honey a hand massage. Before you know it, his hands will be all over your body. · Take turns making the bed in the morning. There’s nothing better than having that nagging morning chore taken care of for you. · Get ready for summer by kidnapping your man for the day and crashing the pool at a fancy hotel. Just casually claim a couple of chairs on the deck! · Get cheeky! Experience the thrill of spanking . Find out how you like it or if you don’t like it. You’ll never know till you give a whack at it. · Do you have a plan for emergency contraception? Plan your next step. You’ll save yourself from an unwanted pregnancy and a lot of emotional anxiety. · Take a walk in the rain with your man. After you are both soaked, find a tree for shelter and make out like a couple of teenagers. · Celebrate the last weeks of spring by spreading your sexual wings with the Butterfly. This remote vibrator is a lot of fun. · You don’t want to hear about his ex, and he doesn’t ever want to hear about yours. In the name of great sex, don’t talk about either. · Happy Memorial Day! Celebrate the day off from work by staying in bed until 10 a.m. Have breakfast in bed and then… well, the rest is up to you! · Deprive yourself of sex for four days but indulge with some “heavy petting.” Waiting will never feel so good. · Spend time with other couples. It allows you to laugh about dealing with some of the same issues and will help things seem awfully normal. · Relax this Memorial Day weekend! Even if you’re staying home, make sure to enjoy the gorgeous weather with your man. · Do what feels right. If your partner suggests something that you aren’t comfortable with, or aren’t ready for, tell him. · Increase intensity during sex by looking into your partner’s eyes, feeling his touch, and concentrating on how his body feels. · Lick, nibble, pinch, and squeeze his nipples. Many men find them a wonderfully sensitive sexual spot. · Compliment your man to your friends, but keep the intimate details of your relationship private. · Scrap the to-do list and take a leisurely Sunday stroll with your sweetie. Hold hands and share an ice cream cone. · Tell your man you’d like him to play hard-to-get tonight. Then pursue him relentlessly. · Pick one night of the week that you and you partner are committed to having sex and don’t waiver. · Invite his friends over and then disappear. He will love that you support his interests and respect his friendships. · Check your sarcasm level. He might interpret your comments as criticism or anger. · Videotape yourselves having sex. Then watch it a few times and delete it together. · Write down 20 things you like best (TV shows to sex positions). Have him do the same. Switch lists and read them aloud. · Having a crisis of confidence? Repeat an affirmation like, “I am sexy, confident, and dynamite in bed.” It works. · Head to an adult video store together and ask for recommendations for a film geared toward couples. · Shower your guy with affection. He will love it and is sure to return the sentiment. · Never fake an orgasm. You deserve to climax, and your partner deserves to know how to take you there! · Write fun fantasies and areas of your home on two sets of cards. Drop each set into a hat. Draw from both and go for it! · Keep pictures of your parents and friends out of the bedroom. You don’t want Mom staring at you while you’re getting it on. · Perfect your hand-job method. Learn how your man likes it and surprise him at an unexpected time. · Give each other pedicures. Start with the footbath and end with lotion and massage. · Before giving him a blow job, suck on an ice cube or a wintergreen mint. The tingling sensation will make him feel so good. · Cover his body with soft nibbles and kisses. Pay special attention to his inner thighs — you’ll drive him wild! · Every couple needs a feather tickler. Enhance the sensation by blindfolding your man. · Tonight is a full moon. Make sure to take advantage of the extra lunar light and take a moonlit walk. · Make sure he’s watching as you slowly apply lip gloss. Catch his eye and wink when you are done. · While you are out, gently play with the stem of your wine glass or your hair — both signs that you’re attracted to your companion. · Book a couples massage. Show how good you feel by gently biting your lower lip and giving him a sly smile. · After a long day of work, massage his hands and wrists using plenty of lotion. The hands are full of nerve endings and are erogenous zones. · Keep the tough topics out of bed, even if you’re having a busy week. Keep talk loving and conflict-free. · Discover your G-spot with the help of G-spot Center . The two of you will have fun with this educational exercise. · Make your relationship a priority by giving your love life the attention it deserves! Practice regularly. · Take advantage of the warm weather by packing a picnic for two and heading outdoors. · Bond by training together. Team In Training hooks you up with a program for everything from marathons to bike rides. · Laughter is an aphrodisiac. Head out for a night of stand-up comedy at a club or find an open-mic night. · Shower sex seems hot but it is never as easy as it looks. Try a silicone lubricant that will keep things nice and slippery. · Shake up your normal routine. Tell him a standard move is off-limits and discover a new one. · Spray a little of your perfume on his pillowcase. He’ll think about you, even if you aren’t around. · Find some sexy, comfortable gear to lounge in. Try a cute pair of panties and his oversize dress shirt. · Book a lunch date with your honey and meet him at home for a lunchtime romp in the sack. 232 Tips Of The Married Life Maky Your Married Life Happy - When you’re at an event with your man, shoot him a come-hither look across the room. Attempt to pick him up with only your eyes. - Wake your guy this morning with soft kisses all over his body. What a wonderful way to wake up. - Let him take the lead tonight. Allow him to choose your outfit, the restaurant, or the movie. Surrendering the decision-making gets you in the mood. - In particularly stressful moments, whisper something to your man. The soft tone and warm breath on his ear will calm him down immediately. - Go on a movie date and make sure to graze his lap as you reach for the popcorn. Give him your eye that lets him know that you know exactly what you are doing. - When you wake up in the morning, tell him you had the most amazingly erotic dream about him. Give him full details even if you are making them up as you go. - When you are getting ready in the morning, give him a full on flash. Hold your robe open for a few seconds and tell him to remember the image of you nude all…day…long. - When you travel together buy postcards. Once you return, send one to your man to remind him of all the fun you had while you were traveling together. - Find your inner dominatrix. Start by pulling his hair a little while you are in the throes of passion. - Take turns kissing each other’s belly buttons. It tickles and feels so good. - When you are kissing your man, take your time. Pause and look into his eyes softly, then continue. Your glance will tell him how you are feeling about him. - Make putting on the condom part of sexy foreplay. Unroll it on him. You can use your lips to do so. - Buy a book of Mad Libs and require only risqué answers. Read them back to each other and giggle at the story you create. - Give your man a full body massage without using your hands. - Fill water pistols with fruit juice or wine and squirt each other without mercy. Lick each other clean and then wash off the rest of the sticky in the shower…together. - Do some partner stretches in the living room or in the bedroom. It is a great way to really get to know your partner’s body. You will surprise each other with your flexibility and can incorporate that into your sex life. - Happy Thanksgiving! Make sure you tell your partner all of the reasons you are thankful for him! - Decorate your bedroom with bundles of fall flowers. Your room will smell and feel fresh, and the colors will create a warm, relaxing glow. - Hide under the covers when your man comes to bed and surprise him with a pillow attack. Wear a skimpy nightie to ensure plenty of flashing potential. - Wednesday is Hump Day. Take that literally and engage is some mid-week nookie to get you to the weekend. - Wake your husband up with a cup of coffee and the paper. Tell him he is to stay in bed for as long as his heart desires. He’ll probably pull you back in to be with him. - After midnight, bundle up and head outside. Have sex under the moonlight. The cool night air will feel great but your warm breath and bodies will keep you toasty. - Cool off at the ice-skating rink. Grab your jacket and a good pair of socks and warm each other up on the ice. Don’t forget to couple skate! - When you dress for a date, lay out your clothes, down to your sexy lingerie. Make sure he sees the spread before you get dressed. - Go on a body treasure hunt. Do you know where all of his freckles are? Make the curves and marks of his body your business. - When you greet your man with a kiss after work tonight, be sure to grab his package. He’ll appreciate your bold gesture. - Watch Basic Instinct with your man and steal some of Sharon Stone’s moves — not the murderous ones, just the sexy ones, like when she turns Michael Douglas into her sex slave! - Give him opportunities to “accidentally” graze your breast while you are out in public. Give him a wicked smile to let him know you meant for it to happen. - Head to a dive bar and flirt with your man, relentlessly. If you can muster the courage, pull him into the restroom for a quickie. - Buy keychain flashlights and take them to bed with you. Ask him to illuminate his body parts that need your attention. You do the same for him! - When your husband is repairing things around the house, tell him the sight of him with a hammer, vacuum, mop, whatever it may be makes you really hot. - Treat yourself to a manicure and then use those gorgeous nails to scratch your guy’s body parts. Pay close attention to his arms and chest. - Allow him to watch you pleasure yourself with your vibrator. Men are visual creatures. This will be quite a gift for him…and you! - On your next road trip, go down on him while he’s driving. Make sure you are on an open road. This will catch him off guard and spice up the long drive. - When you look deeply into your partner’s eyes, you are telling him that he is the most important person in the room. He’ll appreciate that you only care about what he’s saying. - Masturbate your partner to the point of climax and then slow down for a few seconds for a fantastic orgasm. - Buy and men’s undershirt tank top have it personalized to say something special to your man. Maybe- “I’m yours!” or “Just for you!” or just his name. - Reenact how you met your mate. Go back to the spot and relive the moments you met. You’ll have so much fun thinking about those first moments. You will take yourselves back to the reasons you got together and fell in love. - Happy Halloween. Keep the costumes on while you do the deed! Haven’t you always wanted to get busy with Spider-Man? - Buy a couple of pumpkins and take them home and have a carving contest. Save the seeds for roasting! - Going away with your honey? Check out this travel kit from Blissbox! - Be silly with your man. Head to a wig shop and buy wigs for each other. Of course the next step is to wear them in bed. It will feel like you’re a making love to a new person but you aren’t cheating and you are laughing and having fun. - Everyone has that one household chore they can’t stand doing. Trade the one thing you hate to do for the one thing he hates to do. Do you hate scrubbing the tub? He can take that on. If he hates taking out the trash then you can take that on. Relieve yourselves from the stress of dreading that chore. - Quiz each other and giggle for hours with Naughty Crosswords: Nerve.com Presents Fifty Sexy and Outrageous Puzzles. - Have you planned your Halloween costume yet? Be a naughty nurse, a French maid, or a cowgirl who lassos her man — have your own private rodeo! - Reprogram your name in his phone. The next time you call, instead of your name, “Hot Babe,” “Horny Girlfriend,” or “Sexy Wife” will show up instead. - Make your partner your number one supporter by letting him know how he can meet your needs emotionally. Communication is key! - Some men enjoy anal stimulation. See if he is open to exploring this. Neither of you will regret adding this to your sex life. - Some men enjoy anal stimulation. Talk with him to see if he’s open to exploring this. Once you decide that he is, use a lot of lubrication and find out what he likes. - Cover each other with massage oil and feel the incredible sensation of sliding your bodies together. - Today is Miss American Rose Day. Celebrate by sprinkling rose petals in a trail leading to your bed. Spread handfuls of petals between the sheets too. - Affirm his actions by reminding him, out of the blue, how special he makes you feel when he does little things for you. - Nibble your partner during foreplay. A gentle bite brings blood to the surface of the skin and creates a fantastic sensation. But be gentle; don’t break skin. - Find a bra and panty set in red, a hot (and naughty!) color. Let your man know you’re wearing it under your clothes — he’s sure to peel off the outer layer fast! - Give him a tush massage. Kneed his bum with your strong hands. Massage his buns in the same way you would fold dough. - Don’t neglect his arms when you are making out or having sex. Men are proud of their biceps and love to have you stroke and massage their forearms. - Create the best scenario for lovemaking to end in orgasm for you: Put a pillow under your bum to give you the optimum pelvic tilt. - Have you done it on all pieces of furniture in your home? If you haven’t, make that a goal to complete in a month. - Give him a scalp massage using some mint-infused lotion (go to aveda). Then wash it out by giving him a sensual shampoo. - Greet him with a warm towel and personal rubdown when he gets out of the shower. - Get dirty while you are doing the laundry. Try out the spin cycle. He sits on the washer and you straddle him. The washing machine is like your very own gigantic vibrator. - Find a lover’s lane in your home town. Have an old-school date by going there to make out in your car. Be discreet because the police will give you a ticket for indecent exposure if you get caught. Being sneaky is so much fun - When you are on top, bring him inside of you very shallow. Then do a few kegels to massage the most sensitive part of his penis. You will drive him wild. - Prolong his orgasm by licking or rounding the top of his penis with your fingers. - Take a drive in the country to check out the colors of the changing leaves. Pull off for a country hike or picnic. - How you feel about yourself is directly tied to how you feel about having sex. So, be healthy and be good to you. - Kidnap the remote control and hold it for ransom. Your note should give explicit directions on how he can have it back. - If you really aren’t in the mood for sex, be gentle with how you say so. Offer him a rain check in the form of a cute coupon. - If you find your mind wandering during sex, try to center yourself and your thoughts. If you aren’t in the moment, you are shortchanging yourself and your partner. - Today is Family Heath and Fitness Day USA. Get sweaty with your partner and take the kids with you. There are few things that can match the endorphin rush after a good work out. - Be completely blunt and a bit naughty. Use your sexy walk to approach him and tell him you want to *&^%. - Involve him in your dressing routine. Ask him to zip up your dress. And most importantly, ask him to unzip it as well. - At a party, sit on his lap and discreetly shift your weight to put slight pressure on his private parts. - Go on a movie date. During the previews, place his hand on your thigh to give him a preview of what the night has to bring. - Use your lip liner to mark arrows to all the places on your body that you want him to spend some special time. - When you strip out of your work clothes tonight, “forget” to take off your heels and prance around for your man. - Set your alarm for an hour early. Spend the extra 60 minutes in the 69 position. - You can communicate your feelings without saying a word. A simple bat of the eye can send him the right signals. - Name your man’s manly parts! For instance, name him “Frank” and make sure to invite Frank out to play often. - Mistletoe doesn’t have to be limited to the holidays. Hang some in several doorways in your house. Meet beneath it regularly! - Curious about that sexy trick or toy? See how others rated hot products and techniques at the Sex-Life Road Test. - If you are sleeping in a king size bed, your man is just too far away. Downsize your mattress size and increase your intimacy and lovemaking. - Tackle problems as a team. Whether you need to tame the weeds in the back yard or chip away at credit card debt. - Have your palms read together! Gain insight into your partner’s life and love lines. - Pinch his bottom when you are walking in the mall or shopping at the market. He loves your playful side. - Suck on some ice, then give him a blow job. The cool feeling will make him shiver in all the right ways. - Take 30 minutes to cuddle with your love today. It is a nice way to remember families who lost loved ones on this day. - While doing mundane house chores or shopping, spice things up by flashing him in public. Don’t get caught! - Kissing is a great way to boost your intimacy and your overall love life. Check out William Cane’s The Art of Kissing. - Today is “Bald is Beautiful” day! Celebrate by trying a Brazilian bikini wax. - Send your man a text at work today telling him you aren’t wearing any panties. He’ll fantasize about you all day. - Have a night of solo sex — just for you. Draw a bath, put on some music you love, have a glass of wine, and enjoy yourself. - Wear thigh high stockings with your lingerie tonight. Make sure he watches you put them on. Very sexy. - Throw one new move into your next session. Caress his inner thigh for a few minutes instead of going right to the jewels. - Happy Labor Day! Breakfast is served in bed today. Dine between the sheets and off of each other. - Say your partner’s name while you are having sex. Hearing you moan his name will totally turn him on. - The next time you are in an elevator with your man and the two of you are alone, take advantage of the solitude. - Do you know the special thing to do when your partner needs a boost? Find out and make sure he gets what he needs. - Have sex with your clothes on. How? Oh, you can figure that out. Have fun. - Keep your eyes open when you make love tonight. You will feel the surge of pleasure and intimacy. - Let him be the boss of you. He calls all the shots in bed tonight. Tomorrow night it is your turn. - Make goodbye kisses part of your ritual. It is the perfect way to remember your partner all day. - Pretend you’re John and Yoko and spend the day in bed. Have finger foods and champagne within reach! - Make sure the door is locked when he comes home. When he rings the doorbell, answer the door in only a robe. - Tonight, no hands allowed. Explore a new way of having sex with just your tongue, lips, nose, eye lashes… - Sneak up behind your man and wrap your arms around him. Once he’s excited, explore his body and bring him to climax. - Send your man to the market for some food items for the bedroom. Then call and tell him what you’re going to do with them. - Do a little dirty dancing in your living room. Put on some pulsating music and gyrate to your heart’s content. - The next time you are on top, try mixing it up by moving your hips in a figure eight. - Make it last! Unless you are grabbing a quickie, make sure your lovemaking lasts longer than 30 minutes. Ramp up the foreplay and connect mentally and physically. Sex is best when you and your partner are connecting, not just going for the goal. - Pop your favorite lotion in the fridge and then spread it all over each other. Take a really long time to rub it in. - Pop a mint in your mouth before you go down on him. The cool sensation on his penis will really drive him crazy. - Ask him to hum or sing or talk while he is going down on you. Feeling vibration while he’s pleasuring you will do the trick. - Have a long, steamy, touch-free make-out session with your sweetie. It will get you both riled up! - Try outercourse. Instead of having him penetrate you, bring yourselves to orgasm by rubbing your bodies together. - Play with his penis. As long as you don’t bend it or scratch it, the pressure and rough handling feels good to him. - Let him watch while you pleasure yourself. You’ll feel liberated, and he’ll feel, well, overwhelmed in the best way. - Spend at least one minute kissing and caressing each of his favorite spots. He’ll demand to pleasure your spots as well. - Surprise your man by sporting a costume. Maybe you feel like being a cop and arresting him for his naughty behavior! - Surprise your man with a design “down there”. Get ideas at shavehaven.com. Even better, ask him to participate in the grooming! - If your guy is interested in shedding some fur around his penis and in turn making it appear larger, give him a shave with a Bodygroom by Norelco. You’ll enjoy being his barber. - Feel the rhythm with the OhMiBod. Plug this vibrator into your iPod and it will vibrate to the beat of the music. - Turn off the lights and jump in the shower. Lather up and get slippery. Instead of drying off just jump between the sheets. - Leave a note on your husband’s pillow detailing why you chose him. - Heat things up with some warming lube! There are plenty of kinds but you can find KY Warming liquid in almost any drugstore! - Make love to him in a chair. It is a great way to keep eye contact and you can leverage your weight to your delight. - Men love blow jobs. Find out how he likes it and indulge him often. - Heat things up with some warming lube! There are plenty of kinds but you can find KY Warming liquid in almost any drugstore! - Use your fingernails all over his body. As long as you aren’t drawing blood, the pressure and sensation is fantastic. - Find the best time to make love. Sometimes the feeling strikes first thing in the morning. There’s not many better ways to start the day! - On your bed, spread out the lingerie you plan to wow him with later in the night. - From time to time, leave a sexy note on his pillow. - Are you ready for a big challenge? Try to become a member of the mile-high club. It is up to you how you accomplish this feat. - Ask your hottie out for a date. Use your flirting skills, then pick up the bill and try to get in his pants. - Have a spontaneous tickle fight. Make a mental list of his weak spots and be relentless. - Do you know his top five favorite movies? Does he know yours? Have both your faves on hand for a stay-at-home date. - Treat yourself like a queen, whether it’s keeping your skin soft with top-shelf lotion or getting a regular massage. Your partner will follow in your footsteps. - It’s naked day! Today, do everything totally naked — from laundry to home improvement to hide-and-seek. - Try a condom sampler pack. Safe sex is imperative, but it doesn’t have to be a chore. Have fun test-driving every kind you can find. - TGIF! Relax in the tub with the lights off. Light some candles and use this bubble bath to add to the ambience. - Give your guy a gift you will that will benefit you both…in bed. Wrap up a pocket rocket and then give it a whirl together. - Give your guy a lap dance. If you need some tips, consult The Little Bit Naughty Book of Lap Dancing for Your Lover by Rebecca Drury. - Head to a lingerie shop for three great-quality bra and panty sets. A good bra will do wonders for your look and your self-image. - Buy a couple of Super Soaker water guns. Spend a few hours hunting each other down. Wear something that turns revealing when it gets wet. - Check out some live music on your next date, then have fun talking about your favorite part of the evening on the way home. - Connect mentally with some great conversation, since our sexuality lies largely in our brains. Use Gregory Stock’s Book of Questions to get started. - Breathing is an important part of receiving pleasure. Be sure to inhale and exhale deeply when being intimate with your partner. - Head to a museum. Hold hands and whisper your thoughts to each other. The feeling of closeness will put you in the mood. - Increase your sense of touch by wearing a soft pair of gloves or mittens during foreplay. Cashmere or soft cotton is a great choice. - Give yourself a temporary tattoo in a hidden location. Challenge your partner to find it. - Take charge tonight. Try How to Be a Dominant Diva. There are more than 300 pages of pictures and tips. - Blindfold each other. Since you won’t be able to see your partner’s every move, you’ll have to ask directly for what you want. - Jump in the shower and invite some aquatic life. This octopus from has eight vibrating tentacles to massage all of you and your man. - Invite some friends over for a barbecue and let the guys man the grill. There’s something really sexy about watching your guy take charge over an open flame. - Taking a road trip together? Forget a typical audio-recorded book. Slip in Kiss Your Ear, nine erotic short stories. - When you are at a serious event in public, whisper a naughty little nothing in his ear. - Pick a day and a volunteer project to do together. It is very sexy to see each other giving time and energy to those who really need your help. - Expand your sexual repertoire. Try a new position, in a new room, at a new time. - Wear nothing (or very little!) to bed frequently. Spooning in the buff is very sexy. - Play the “pleasure points” game. Take turns naming the top 10 pleasure points on your partner’s body. Don’t forget to touch and kiss every one of them. - What’s play without toys? Make a date out of browsing the adult toy store near you. If you’re too shy, check out your options online. - If your sweetie is on a long business trip, overnight a pair of your panties to his room. Mark the envelope “private.” - Make a habit of going to bed together. Cuddling up and drifting off to sleep at the same time is a nice way to put the day behind you. - Save for a weekend getaway. For 90 days, save $5 apiece and you’ll have almost $1,000. - Order his favorite meal tonight. Forgo your concerns about cholesterol for one evening and take a break from cooking. - Create anticipation with your kiss. Press your body to his and you’ll leave him wanting much more! - When it’s hot outside, make an ice cream date. Find out what flavor your partner is. - On his way out the door, plant a sensuous kiss on him and tell him you can’t wait to make him yours later. - Perfect your sexy walk. Look straight ahead with a slight smile. Put one foot directly in front of the other, keeping shoulders back. - Learn to accept his compliments, even if you are embarrassed by his attention or feel the urge to shake it off. - Spend a day at the spa together! Take a massage course for couples and think of all the free massages you will get while your partner is practicing! - Become a student of lovemaking and create a library! Start the required reading with Jay Wiseman’s Tricks to Please a Man. Now hit the books! - Try a new recipe in the kitchen. If it’s a flop, who cares? Salvage the good stuff or order in. - Remember the mix tape — the ultimate gift from your boyfriend in high school? Create a playlist from you to him for his iPod. - Do you have a favorite song? If you don’t, you must pick one. Play it over and over while you slow dance in the living room. - Feeling up for a challenge? Go skydiving! The adrenaline rush is the best thing you’ll ever feel together… almost. - Snag two good seats at a baseball game. Cheer for the home team together, and then hit your own home run later that day! - Allow your man to be the hero sometimes, even if you don’t need protecting. Enjoy having someone watch over you. He’s doing that because he loves you. - On a romantic dinner date with your husband, spice up the meal with a lot of sex talk. You’ll feel nice and naughty talking about private thoughts in public. - Looking for some fun? Go ahead, roll the dice. You’ll want to spend all night shaking ’em up and rolling ’em again. - Tonight, use your sheets to make a tent in the living room. Snuggle up with your man and pretend you’re in your favorite getaway spot. - Find a nice box with a lock to serve as your treasure chest for your sex toys. Have fun filling it up with your favorite accessories. - Give your honey a hand massage. Before you know it, his hands will be all over your body. - Take turns making the bed in the morning. There’s nothing better than having that nagging morning chore taken care of for you. - Get ready for summer by kidnapping your man for the day and crashing the pool at a fancy hotel. Just casually claim a couple of chairs on the deck! - Get cheeky! Experience the thrill of spanking . Find out how you like it or if you don’t like it. You’ll never know till you give a whack at it. - Do you have a plan for emergency contraception? Plan your next step. You’ll save yourself from an unwanted pregnancy and a lot of emotional anxiety. - Take a walk in the rain with your man. After you are both soaked, find a tree for shelter and make out like a couple of teenagers. - Celebrate the last weeks of spring by spreading your sexual wings with the Butterfly. This remote vibrator is a lot of fun. - You don’t want to hear about his ex, and he doesn’t ever want to hear about yours. In the name of great sex, don’t talk about either. - Happy Memorial Day! Celebrate the day off from work by staying in bed until 10 a.m. Have breakfast in bed and then… well, the rest is up to you! - Deprive yourself of sex for four days but indulge with some “heavy petting.” Waiting will never feel so good. - Spend time with other couples. It allows you to laugh about dealing with some of the same issues and will help things seem awfully normal. - Relax this Memorial Day weekend! Even if you’re staying home, make sure to enjoy the gorgeous weather with your man. - Do what feels right. If your partner suggests something that you aren’t comfortable with, or aren’t ready for, tell him. - Increase intensity during sex by looking into your partner’s eyes, feeling his touch, and concentrating on how his body feels. - Lick, nibble, pinch, and squeeze his nipples. Many men find them a wonderfully sensitive sexual spot. - Compliment your man to your friends, but keep the intimate details of your relationship private. - Scrap the to-do list and take a leisurely Sunday stroll with your sweetie. Hold hands and share an ice cream cone. - Tell your man you’d like him to play hard-to-get tonight. Then pursue him relentlessly. - Pick one night of the week that you and you partner are committed to having sex and don’t waiver. - Invite his friends over and then disappear. He will love that you support his interests and respect his friendships. - Check your sarcasm level. He might interpret your comments as criticism or anger. - Videotape yourselves having sex. Then watch it a few times and delete it together. - Write down 20 things you like best (TV shows to sex positions). Have him do the same. Switch lists and read them aloud. - Having a crisis of confidence? Repeat an affirmation like, “I am sexy, confident, and dynamite in bed.” It works. - Head to an adult video store together and ask for recommendations for a film geared toward couples. - Shower your guy with affection. He will love it and is sure to return the sentiment. - Never fake an orgasm. You deserve to climax, and your partner deserves to know how to take you there! - Write fun fantasies and areas of your home on two sets of cards. Drop each set into a hat. Draw from both and go for it! - Keep pictures of your parents and friends out of the bedroom. You don’t want Mom staring at you while you’re getting it on. - Perfect your hand-job method. Learn how your man likes it and surprise him at an unexpected time. - Give each other pedicures. Start with the footbath and end with lotion and massage. - Before giving him a blow job, suck on an ice cube or a wintergreen mint. The tingling sensation will make him feel so good. - Cover his body with soft nibbles and kisses. Pay special attention to his inner thighs — you’ll drive him wild! - Every couple needs a feather tickler. Enhance the sensation by blindfolding your man. - Tonight is a full moon. Make sure to take advantage of the extra lunar light and take a moonlit walk. - Make sure he’s watching as you slowly apply lip gloss. Catch his eye and wink when you are done. - While you are out, gently play with the stem of your wine glass or your hair — both signs that you’re attracted to your companion. - Book a couples massage. Show how good you feel by gently biting your lower lip and giving him a sly smile. - After a long day of work, massage his hands and wrists using plenty of lotion. The hands are full of nerve endings and are erogenous zones. - Keep the tough topics out of bed, even if you’re having a busy week. Keep talk loving and conflict-free. - Discover your G-spot with the help of G-spot Center . The two of you will have fun with this educational exercise. - Make your relationship a priority by giving your love life the attention it deserves! Practice regularly. - Take advantage of the warm weather by packing a picnic for two and heading outdoors. - Bond by training together. Team In Training hooks you up with a program for everything from marathons to bike rides. - Laughter is an aphrodisiac. Head out for a night of stand-up comedy at a club or find an open-mic night. - Shower sex seems hot but it is never as easy as it looks. Try a silicone lubricant that will keep things nice and slippery. - Shake up your normal routine. Tell him a standard move is off-limits and discover a new one. - Spray a little of your perfume on his pillowcase. He’ll think about you, even if you aren’t around. - Find some sexy, comfortable gear to lounge in. Try a cute pair of panties and his oversize dress shirt. - Book a lunch date with your honey and meet him at home for a lunchtime romp in the sack. 21 Ways to Say “I Love You” (Without Saying a Word) You already know it’s important for you and your guy to tell each other “I love you” — as often as possible. But you shouldn’t depend on those three little words to let your one-and-only know what’s in your heart. In fact, nonverbal displays of affection are often a better way to get through to the man in your life. “Guys tend to be action-oriented, so they feel less comfortable using words to express emotions,” says REDBOOK Love Network expert and psychiatrist Scott Haltzman, M.D., author of The Secrets of Happily Married Men. “They’ve seen enough Tom Hanks movies to know they’re supposed to always say ‘I love you,’ but they’re not sure that words alone convey how they feel.” Ready to let what you do speak louder than what you say? We asked REDBOOK readers and the men in their lives to share some sweet ideas. Plus, we added in some expert tips on how to give your love a boost without uttering a word. “Sometimes I ‘write’ a love message on my husband’s breakfast toast. Using cookie cutters, especially my Valentine’s Day set of hearts, I press one lightly into a slice of bread, just hard enough to imprint it, then I toast it. It never fails to bring a smile to his face.” —Anita Crehan, Mason, NH ROMANCE, REVISITED “Every now and then I leave a card saying how much I love and appreciate him under his pillow for him to find before he goes to sleep.” —Cim Collins, Springfield, IL “My wife, Leigh Anne, sometimes has to travel for work, and when she gets home, I give her a small gift for every day she has been gone. I’ll set them on the kitchen table and wait for her to notice them — things like her favorite perfume, fresh flowers, or a cool piece of handmade jewelry. I love to spoil her!” —John Montgomery, Birmingham, AL “I place special little love notes, cartoons, jokes, or small articles — sometimes racy ones — in her underwear drawer. She never knows what to expect next. She gets a big kick out of them and knows it is my way of saying I love her.” —Joe Cirillo Jr., Englewood, FL “When I take a shower at night, I write messages on the fogged-up mirrors so they appear when he takes a shower in the morning before he goes to work.” —Jackie Peirce, Oley, PA MAKE LIFE A LITTLE EASIER “My husband puts toothpaste on my toothbrush and leaves it lying on the sink for me every night before bed. He is the sweetest husband ever!” —Lisa Wilkes-North, Heath, TX “I scour the TV listings for his favorite movies or a sporting event that I know he’d love to watch. I TiVo it without telling him, then surprise him with it on Saturday morning. Bonus: While he’s on the couch, I’ve just bought myself some me-time. Manicure, pedicure, here I come!” —Cindy Panowicz, Grand Island, NE “Before my husband leaves for work, he sets the table for my breakfast. He lays out a bowl for cereal, a cup for orange juice, strawberries, a napkin, and a spoon. For a big, manly union guy, this is a really major step!” —Patricia Armstrong, Danvers, MA “I love that my husband gets up every morning when I do. His job doesn’t start till 9, so he could easily sleep later than me, but he doesn’t. While I get ready, he gets our three kids dressed and loads them into the van with their backpacks. To me, this is one of the best ways he can say he loves us all.” —Jeanette Dominguez, El Paso, TX SHOW YOUR APPRECIATION “We brag about each other when we’re out with our friends — even if it’s about something little, like, ‘Oh, Barry had the best idea the other day’ or ‘Barry fixed the whatsit that’s been leaking!'” —Jennifer Starr, Columbus, OH “For Christmas, I bought a dictionary and went through it, highlighting all the definitions that describe him or remind me of him.” —Jaynee Germond, Roseburg, OR “Every morning before I get up, he leaves two folded towels in the bathroom for me for when I take a shower — one big towel for my body and a smaller towel for my head.” —Amy Rossi-Espagnet, Atlanta • EXPERT CHALLENGE: SHOW HIM YOUR GRATITUDE WITH A BEAR HUG “The number one complaint I hear from guys is they feel like they don’t get rewarded for the things they do, only told what they didn’t do. Next time your man takes out the trash without being asked or starts the coffee pot for you in the morning, reward him with a 30-second full-body hug. Guys are so physical — it’s easy and teasy.” —Toni Coleman HIGH-SPEED SIGNS OF DEVOTION “I changed the banner on his cell phone to read ‘I Love You’ when he wasn’t looking!” —Becky White, Newton, AL “My husband and I send each other short e-mails to say what we are thinking about at that very moment. Once, he wrote me, ‘The new Brad Paisley song makes me think of you.’ Now every time I hear it on the radio, I’m reminded how much my husband loves me.” —Michelle Magnetti, Colorado Springs, CO “My husband gets up at 5:30 a.m., but he pulls his dresser drawers open the night before so the noise of them opening and closing won’t disturb me. Now, that’s love!” —Connie Maynord, Bastrop, TX SEND A SECRET MESSAGE • EXPERT CHALLENGE: POINT THE WAY “Here’s a suggestive sign he can’t miss: Leave a trail of Post-it notes in the hallway with arrows on them leading all the way to the bedroom.” —Joyce Morley-Ball, Atlanta psychotherapist and author of Seeds for the Harvest of a Lifetime. “Every time we kiss, we do it three times, which stands for ‘I love you.’ When my husband pulls out of the driveway in the morning, I stand at the door while he sets off the emergency light on his truck, also three times for ‘I love you.'” —Peggy Clayton, Dubuque, IA What Men Still Don’t Understand We got guys to reveal the intimate, embarrassing, surprising things they really want to know about how to make sex with you better, sweeter, hotter. Here, the good news you can both use. As far as sex goes, we men have only two questions. They sum up every curiosity we’ve ever had, every mystery we’ve yearned to unravel. Now? Why not now? Well, those are the only official questions. Unofficially, there are a few others we’d like to ask, some that pertain to certain puzzles that have nagged at us since time commenced. Just don’t expect to hear them aloud, because there’s little chance that we’ll ask you the sex questions that we really want answers to. You might freak out. Or dial 911. Or, worst of all, you might discover how clueless we are. So just what are men’s most burning bedroom riddles? Here — according to sex therapists and an unofficial poll of dozens of men who participated in this story only under a veil of secrecy — are the questions that are likely simmering in your guy’s head right now. Plus, you’ll find some tips on how you can help him learn the answers in the least humiliating way possible. “She loves foreplay. My repertoire is a little limited and, honestly, foreplay’s not my favorite part of sex. Any new tricks I can surprise her with?” If men tend to rush through foreplay, it’s because we — to put it mildly — don’t see it the same way you do. We’re ready for sex the moment we have an erection. Delaying intercourse when we have an erection and a willing woman nearby? That’s idiotic, according to our biological wiring. Look, we may have only so many potent hours in our lifetime. Asking us to waste even a precious few minutes on foreplay doesn’t jibe with our evolutionary programming. To us, foreplay has only one purpose: to get you craving penetration as quickly as possible, by warming you up and helping you lubricate. To make that happen, we may touch you the way we like to be touched sexually — i.e., we make a rush for the genitals. “Women usually enjoy the lightest, feathery, teasing touch in areas that men don’t necessarily think of as erotic, such as the face, hair, neck, and the sides of her body,” says sex therapist Aline P. Zoldbrod, Ph.D., author of Sex Talk: Uncensored Exercises for Exploring What Really Turns You On. “Because men often don’t like to be touched like this, they don’t think to touch their partners like this.” If you really want your guy to love foreplay and get creative with it, stop calling it “foreplay” and start calling it “building anticipation.” “Men want to be playful,” says Scott Haltzman, M.D., a clinical assistant professor at Brown University in Providence and author of The Secrets of Happily Married Men. As long as we know that sex is coming eventually, making a game out of getting there can create a mind-blowing urgency — one that will soon make sex without foreplay seem dull by comparison. Two ideas to build on: Set a timer, and tell him he’s not allowed to take off his pants for 15 minutes. “It’ll force him to become more creative,” says Haltzman, “and it has all the buildup.” Use sex candies. Or whipped cream. Bait the areas of your body where you want more attention — all the places he misses when going in for the kill. React passionately, and you’ll soon make him a foreplay connoisseur — without uttering one (intelligible) word. “She can only climax when I give her oral sex. Is this normal?” It’s not that guys feel inadequate, mind you. It’s just that we like to see all of the effort and grit of intercourse culminate into something more than, well, you lovingly waiting to get yours. Our intentions are noble; it’s our understanding of anatomy and female arousal that’s lacking. “Men often think that intercourse triggers orgasm for women,” says Sallie Foley, a marital and sexual therapist at the University of Michigan in Ann Arbor and author of Sex Matters for Women. “Actually, most women need direct stimulation of their clitoris in order to have an orgasm.” Few guys know that almost half of women don’t come during intercourse, so if you don’t, we may think we’re doing something wrong. The cure for this is a little knowledge. “When couples find out this is completely normal, it takes all the pressure off,” says Foley. Experiment with positions that may give your clitoris more sensation, and use a vibrator or your fingers (or have him caress you) during sex. “When I’m tired or just don’t have my A-game working, I don’t know if she wants me to keep going till she comes, or give up. Should I keep soldiering on or can I tell her I want to stop?” If you can’t imagine why he couldn’t just say, “I’ve had it — can we pick this up again tomorrow?” you’ve clearly never been a man. Quitting mid-game just because you’re losing is a real weanie move. So when you sense that he’s been pistoning on sheer willpower, cut him a face-saving break. Change the rhythm. Kiss your guy and say, “Let’s stop just a minute — I want to put on some music,” suggests Haltzman. Looking through CDs will break his “must please her” trance and mercifully let him collapse on the mattress. When you climb back into bed, stroke his chest or his back. He’ll already be asleep. “Our lovemaking’s become routine. How can I get her to consider something new without having her freak out?” He’s smart to be wondering about this, and it should be on your mind, too. “Routines are dangerous to sexual relationships because they can mean you’ve stopped paying attention,” says Russell J. Stambaugh, Ph.D., a sex therapist in Ann Arbor, MI. “Arousal and desire are all about attention.” We have countless common sexual fantasies, but those that involve you — our steady partner, and a woman who knows where we live — comprise a much shorter list. “The number one thing that guys want to try is anal sex,” says Haltzman. If you’re flatly not into it, tell him you’d like to have more sex in the doggie-style position, Haltzman suggests. A simulation is better than a total rejection. Among the other wishes men cite repeatedly: more oral sex, bondage or S&M play, having you dress provocatively for us and do a striptease, and threesomes. Some couples might discuss these ditties as casually as they would a grocery list. You and your guy aren’t among them? Then be compassionate if he suggests something that you’re not down with. Chiefly, restrain from laughing and saying, “When hell freezes!” “He’s putting himself on the line by asking this and probably feels pretty anxious,” says Haltzman. You want to convey that you take his sick, perverse needs seriously. The winning response: “Let’s think of something that can be just as exciting that I’m into, too.” And remember, we might crave the kinky stuff, but almost anything new — a different perfume, a tight-fitting tee — can add a jolt when we’re in a rut. We’re pretty easy to please. “What is the most expert way to hit her alleged G-spot?” The G-spot has been the best and worst thing ever to happen to men. It’s incredibly empowering to think there’s a magic button we can push to make you blow through the gates of ecstasy. And it’s infuriating and humiliating when we can’t find this damned button or make it work. A secret: As long as you come, we’re happy. It’s when you can’t come — or when we decide that we must do some experimenting, perhaps with your encouragement — that we begin looking for that mystical button-size zone on your upper vaginal wall. Every literate man in America over 25 has read the directions on G-spot stimulation at least 30 times: When you’re fully aroused, he’ll put his finger inside you, press up toward your navel, and lightly stroke you back and forth in a “come hither” fashion. And then you’ll explode like an H-bomb. Right? Not necessarily. Just as many women won’t orgasm from intercourse alone, many women don’t respond to G-spot stimulation, says Zoldbrod. If it does nothing for you, show us what does put you over the top. Rest assured, we’ll happily do whatever works. “She doesn’t want me to go down on her if she hasn’t showered immediately beforehand, even though I tell her that it’s not necessary. Why is she so self-conscious?” Guys are not bashful about receiving oral sex, so when a woman is reluctant to receive it, we can’t relate. We did learn during our dating days, however, that women fall into three camps regarding cunnilingus: They either love it, accept it but wish we’d stop, or close the gates of Oz and say, “No way, no how.” Occasionally even a fervent female fan will decline. “I didn’t know I’d be exposed tonight,” one lover shyly said to me, perhaps because it had been 72 hours since she waxed. To date, I have never said that while holding up my boxers. If you see your guy’s head traveling downward, consider any fears about your odors or tastes to be unfounded. Interestingly, your scents likely seem stronger and more unpleasant to you than they do to him, because you have a keener sense of smell (perhaps to prevent you from eating something poisonous while pregnant, scientists speculate). How much keener? A study of 50 subjects conducted by researchers at the State University of New York at Albany found that 19 out of 32 women could identify the scent of their own underarm odors (on gauze pads worn overnight, if you must know), while only one of 18 men could identify their own odor. And women rated their own scents and those of other females as more unpleasant than males did. So we detect aromas differently, which was probably apparent to you the first time you set foot in our apartment. So let him be spontaneous, won’t you? If no amount of logic will make you comfortable, then shower together first, says Zoldbrod. All you need to say: “Honey, I know you love how I taste, but this will let me have a great orgasm with no distractions.” “I love it when she initiates sex. How can I get her to do it more often?” Men have wanted this since the Neolithic period. But unfortunately, even after all these years, we still don’t always recognize it when it’s happening. “His idea of her initiating sex might mean her prancing into the room in a negligee, and her idea may be giving him an extra-long kiss when he comes home,” says Stambaugh. If he doesn’t take the bait, even because he’s had a stressful day at work, you may feel rejected and decide that you’ll leave the initiating to him. This miscommunication illustrates a common problem. Women expect men to intuit things from obvious hints — such as “those earrings would look great with my new dress” — and then become frustrated when guys miss the message. “With men, you need to be explicit,” says Haltzman. Look him in the eye (or send him a text message) and say, “Would you like to make love tonight?” Or be more playful and say, “How about a roll in the hay, soldier?” Either will thrill him. If you want to devise a subtler sign (such as, say, asking him to shave before bed), tell him what the code means the first time — and don’t flip out when he forgets it the fifth time. “I think I know when she’s had an orgasm, but there’s always the chance that she’s faking. How can I tell that she had a real one?” To us, making you orgasm is like seeing the golf ball fall into the cup. Until that happens, it ain’t over. We just keep on stroking and hope things don’t get too embarrassing. And hope we have the energy to do it 17 more times. The catch: The damned ball is invisible, and only you know if we nailed the cup. The gravest, most unsporting insult you can give a man is to let him win out of pity, and the fear that you’re doing just that — by faking your orgasm — may creep into his brain if he’s the paranoid sort. Or if you’ve given him reason to suspect you of faking in the past. Men’s magazines will tell us to look for orgasm clues like flushing and vaginal contractions, which strengthens the troubling notion that we need to be detectives. (And it becomes even more disheartening when we learn those can be faked, too.) You can kill all of this anxiety by uttering three words: “I didn’t come.” Say this, and then show us what to do to make it happen. Then we’ll know and trust that you’ll speak up when you don’t get yours. We’ll know you play fair. And we won’t worry about it again. Finally, educate us by saying another short sentence, if it’s true in your case. Tell your guy, “I don’t always need to come to have great sex with you.” “Highly sexually satisfied couples can take turns pleasing each other,” says Stambaugh. You both don’t always have to reach the peak to make the trip worthwhile, and couples learn that in time. A great script to use, says Haltzman: “It’s an incredibly powerful feeling for me to see you having fun in bed, and you trying to give me an orgasm is just going to get in the way of it.” Even if that’s a lie, it’s so sexy, we won’t care. “How can I make my erection last longer for her?” “Guys often joke that when they’re in their early 20s, their erections are so firm that they could hang a towel on them,” says Foley. (This frightens guests who enter the bathroom, however.) Of course, as a guy ages, what once held up a wet bath towel at 70 degrees may now only support a washcloth parallel to the ground. We don’t greet this change happily. “Men often buy into the male myth about how they should be performing,” says Zoldbrod. If your guy is distracted during sex by thinking about his erection, he’ll probably lose it. Learning that it’s normal for his erection to wax and wane while he’s making love can help a great deal. Sure, in his 20s, his erection stayed hard even when he wasn’t being fondled. But now, if he’s getting no touch, there’s a natural “relaxation” until he becomes aroused again. Men need to know that they can ask for stimulation to stay hard, Zoldbrod says. (For your part, remember to include his inner thigh and perineum — the sensitive region under his testicles — as well as the penis.) And if he’s unable to have an erection at all, consult a doctor. Many curable or treatable conditions could be to blame. If he’s overweight or has high blood pressure or diabetes, you may have found your culprit. “Sex once a week is plenty for her, but not for me. Can I do anything about it besides hinting and pleading?” We know that a dip in sex drive after marriage is normal in women. We heard the jokes at bachelor parties, and married life has confirmed the rumor. So has science; a British survey of more than 11,000 men and women ages 18 to 64 found that women had a decline in sexual desire after about three years of marriage, and in their 30s and 40s, many had sex drives that were lower than the men their ages had. Women with small children were more likely to report problems. What’s behind the dip? Researchers attribute it to women’s decreasing testosterone levels; men have 10 times as much of the sex hormone as women do, so to expect that we’d all have the same level of desire is ludicrous. Life pressures weigh women down, too. “Women in their mid- to late 30s tend to have way too much on their plates,” says Zoldbrod. Mix a demanding job with kids, and sleep becomes more indulgent than sex. We get that. And many of us have no problem with it. “My research has found that about 75 percent of men had stronger sex drives than their wives, but a significant percentage — more than a third — were comfortable with that,” says Haltzman. Those who were okay with it tended to be older (starting in their late 30s), and to feel satisfied in their marriages overall, he explains. “Studies show that in a good marriage, sex only accounts for about 20 percent of what people say makes it good,” Haltzman adds. So if the marriage is great, and you want sex once a week while we’d prefer it thrice, we probably don’t care — as long as we’re getting enough between-the-sheets time to feel like we have a loving partner. If your guy isn’t happy with the boot-knocking frequency — a hint would be that you’ve turned down his last three overtures — bring this up and negotiate. “Men’s sex drive is more than just a biological need, it’s a drive to connect emotionally,” explains Haltzman. And you, our beloved partner, are the one holding the key. 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How To Create A Bonsai Tree How To Create A Bonsai Tree Many kinds of trees, plants and shrubs can be made into a bonsai. A bonsai is a miniature version of a tree planted in a pot. Japanese maples are ideal deciduous trees for creating beautiful bonsai. Using a method called air layering, it is very easy to make a branch sprout roots that will support it after separation from the tree. By selecting a nicely shaped branch, you can start a bonsai tree that will bring years of enjoyment. Here’s how to create a tree that would normally take five years or more to develop from seed or cuttings. STEPS - Select the species of tree. When selecting a tree species its important to consider your geographic location. Some trees lose their leaves in the winter and require the temperature to drop below freezing so that they can enter a dormant state and prepare for the spring. Other trees will not survive long in the freezing weather. Some trees will require a lot of water during a hot summer while others are heat hardy. Research the kind of trees that do well in your area. - Select the size of your bonsai. Bonsai trees can be as anywhere from miniature (6 inches tall) to large bonsai (up to 3 ft tall). Decide what size bonsai you would like before actually going out to select the plant. - Select the plant. Once you have decided which kind and what size bonsai you would like, you can go to a nursery or a bonsai shop and select the plant that you will use to make your bonsai tree. When choosing a plant, look for leaf color to make sure that the plant is healthy. Then look around at the selection of plants and imagine what each plant would look like after it is pruned. It’s important to visualize the bonsai before you buy the plant and bring it home. You do not want to bring a plant home only to decide that it isn’t immediately suitable to be a bonsai. - Select a pot. Selecting the right pot has a lot to do with the desired size and style of the plant. Select a shape and color that you personally find aesthetically pleasing. The pot must be large enough to allow enough soil to cover the roots of the plant. You do not want to have such a small amount of soil in the pot that the tree roots can not retain moisture. You will kill the plant if you do not have a large enough pot. At the same time, you want to maintain the illusion of nature and select a pot just large enough to support the tree. The idea of a bonsai is to balance the pot with the plant and make the plant look like a miniature tree. Some bonsai pots do not come with pre-drilled drainage holes. If you do not have a drill that will cut through ceramic, then make sure you purchase a pot with pre-drilled drainage holes. - Prepare the tree. Prune the tree to the desired shape. Wire any branches that need to be wired. Remove the plant from its existing pot and water the roots. Most of the roots will be cut before the plant is repotted into the bonsai pot. Cut away enough roots so that the root system can fit securely in the new pot with the proper amount of soil. - Pot the tree. Install mesh screens over the drainage holes to prevent soil erosion. Add some soil to the pot and then place the tree into the pot. Before covering the top of the roots with soil position the tree in the desired orientation. Run a heavy gauge wire from the bottom of the pot through the drainage holes on the bottom of the pot. Tie the wire around the root system in order to hold the plant in place. Finish adding soil to the pot. If it is warm out, make sure to keep the newly planted tree watered well until the roots get established in the new pot. - Experiment. You can experiment with many kinds of trees, plants and shrubs. Try making bonsai with plants native to your area. - Join a club. If you can’t find a local one, there is one online called the Internet Bonsai Club. लामा औँला भएकाहरु खतरनाक चालक लामा औँला भएकाहरु खतरनाक चालक लामा औँला भएका व्यक्तिहरु कार दौडाउनमा बढी नै रुचि लिने र तिनीहरुले खतरनाक तरिकाले गाडी ओभरटेक गर्ने तथा अवैधानिक तरिकाले पार्किङ गर्ने गरेको एउटा अध्ययनले देखाएको छ । टेस्टोस्टेरोन हार्मोनका कारणले मानिसको शरीर कस्तो हुने भन्ने निश्चित गर्ने भएकाले औँलाका लम्बाई गर्भैमा टुङ्गो लाग्ने अध्ययनले सुझाएको छ । यसअघि गरिएका केही अध्ययनले पनि साइँली औँलाको आकार र प्रकारले व्यवहार र स्वास्थ्यमा शक्तिशाली हुने वा नहुने भन्ने कुराको निधो गर्ने बताएका थिए । गर्भमा रहँदा टेस्टोस्टेरोन हार्मोनले काम गर्ने र पछि जीवनमा दिमागले काम गर्ने गरेको अध्येताहरुले बताएका छन् । जर्मनीको युनिभर्सिटी अफ मानिएजका अध्ययेताहरुले ७७ जना अनुमानित ३८ वर्षो चालकहरुमाझ गरेको अध्ययनले यो कुरालाई पुट दिएको हो । ७७ जनाको विगत पाँच वर्षो ड्राइभिङ इतिहास अध्ययन लामा औँला भएका चालकहरुले एकदेखि २० पटकसम्म विभिन्न नियम उल्लङ्घन गरेको पाइएको थियो । हालै प्रकाशन गरिएको “एक्सिडेन्ट एनालिसिस एण्ड प्रिभेन्सन” अध्ययनमा यो कुराको उल्लेख गरिएको हो । लामो साइँली औँला भएको व्यक्तिले बढी दर्घटना गराउन सक्ने सम्भावना रहने हुनाले गर्भमै हार्मोनको गडबडीबाट बचाउने प्रयास गर्नुपर्छ । The Super-Slim New Laptop Apple CEO Steve Jobs holds an envelope containing the new MacBook Air during his keynote at the MacWorld Conference in San Francisco. The super-slim new laptop is less than an inch thick and turns on the moment it’s opened. MacBook Air measures 0.16 inches (0.4cm) at its thinnest point while its maximum height of 0.76 inches (1.93cm) is less than the thinnest point on competing notebooks. A new MacBook Air ultra thin laptop sits on display at the MacWorld Conference & Expo in San Francisco. Attendees look at the new MacBook Air at the MacWorld Conference in San Francisco. The super-slim new laptop is less than an inch thick and turns on the moment it’s opened. Fish Robot to detect Pollution in the Ocean London – A group of sophisticated robot ready to roam in the ocean to detect pollution. But the author may need the alert so this expensive robot is not catched by fishermen because they look like real fish. AFP, the fish robot is made by the researchers in the UK and will be operated in Spain. With length 1.5 meters, the robot provided detectors to identify the sources of marine pollution, such as ships, oil tankers or chemicals in the water. The robots cost around 20,000 Pounds Sterling per unit. This Robots that can operate independently and is designed to explore the ocean within a few months. Take about 3 years for the researchers at Essex University to do so. Professor Huosheng Hu as one of inventor states that a robot is expected to prevent the spread of pollution to track the source. If the experiment is successful, the robot will be used in various parts of the world to do the same mission तपाइँले थाहा नपाएका सिने-फ्याक्ट्स सिन्दूर नेपालमा धेरै लामो समयसम्म चल्ने चलचित्र हो । यो २०३४ मंसीर १० गतेदेखि चल्न शुरु गरेकोमा लगातार ६ महिनासम्म चलेको थियो । दर्पण छायाँ उपत्यकाभन्दा बाहिर पहिलो पटक सय दिन मनाउने चलचित्र हो । वसन्ती २०५७ सालभित्र उपत्यकामा प्रदर्शित नेपाली चलचित्रमध्ये सय दिन पार गर्ने पहिलो चलचित्र हो । तँ त साह्रै नै बिग्रिस् नि बद्री र आफ्नो मान्छे आठ वटा हलहरुमा एक साथ ५१ दिन पूरा गर्ने चलचित्रको रर्ेकर्ड राखेका थिए । कुसुमे रुमाल नेपाली चलचित्रको इतिहासमा पहिलो पटक रजत जयन्ती मनाउने चलचित्र हो । पहिलो सिनेमास्कोप चलचित्र राँको र यसका निर्देशक किशोर राना हुन् भने दोस्रो सिनेमास्कोप चलचित्र माइली हो । नेपाली चलचित्रमा पहिलो पटक दोहोरो भूमिका -डबल रोल) गर्ने कलाकार गोपालराज मैनाली हुन् । उनले जीवनरेखाका लागि बलवीर र वीरबलको भूमिका निभाएका थिए भने राजेश हमालको पहिलो डबल रोल भएको चलचित्र गोपीकृष्ण, कृष्टी मैनालीको लक्ष्मीपूजा र निखिल उप्रेतीको क्रोध हो । नेपाल बाहिर बनेको पहिलो नेपाली चलचित्र सत्य हरिश्चन्द्र हो भने यसका निर्देशक डीबी परियार हुन् । निजी लगानीमा पहिलो पटक बनेको चलचित्र माइतीघर हो । जसमा लता मंगेशकरले पहिलो र अन्तिम पटक नेपाली गीत गाएकी छिन् । पहिलो चलचित्र सम्पादक -फिल्म एडिटर) तर्ीथलाल श्रेष्ठ हुन् । उनले चलचित्र कुमारीका लागि सम्पादन गरेका थिए । यसअघि भारतीय सम्पादकले नेपाली चलचित्र सम्पादन गर्ने गर्थे । भारतको प्रसिद्ध चलचित्र सम्बन्धी प्रशिक्षण दिने फिल्म एण्ड टेलिभिजन इन्स्िटच्यूट अफ इण्डिया पुनाबाट लागि प्रशिक्षण लिने पहिलो नेपाली प्रेमबहादुर बस्नेत हुन् । उनले चलचित्रको पटकथामा सन् १९६५ मा प्रशिक्षण लिएका थिए । उनले कुमारी निर्देशन गरेका थिए र कुमारी पहिलो नेपाली रंगीन चलचित्र हो । पुना इन्स्िटच्यूटबाट छायाँकनमा पहिलो पटक प्रशिक्षण लिने छायाँकार वैकुण्ठ मास्के हुन् । नेपालमा पहिलो पटक प्रशोधन र छपाईँ -प्रिन्ट तयार गर्ने कार्य) गरिएको चलचित्र रक्षा हो । नेपालमा पहिलो पटक प्रिन्ट निकालिएका चलचित्र चोखोमाया हो । यसका निर्देशक राजविक्रम शाह हुन् । नेपालमा पहिलो पटक मिक्सिङ गरिएको चलचित्र प्रतीक्षा हो । यसका निर्देशक राजविक्रम शाह हुन् । नेपालभित्रै डबिङ गरिएको पहिलो चलचित्र सिन्दूर हो । सबैभन्दा उच्च हिमाली भेगमा छायाँकन गरिएको पहिलो चलचित्र झुमा हो । पहिलो पटक विदेशमा छायाँकन गरिएको चलचित्र कस्तुरी हो । चलचित्रबाट घाटा भएर त्यसले घरमा तनाव भई विष खाई आत्महत्या गर्ने पहिलो निर्माता नवीन केसी मानिन्छ । जसले माइतीघर बन्नुअघि नै कहीँ दियो कहीँ बत्ती चलचित्र बनाउने प्रयास गरेका थिए । तर चलचित्र बनाएर नै घाटाका कारण आत्महत्या गर्ने पहिलो निर्माता रक्षा चलचित्रका मोहन वैद्य हुन् । उनले २०५० साल कात्तिक २ गते विष खाई आत्महत्या गर्न पुगेका थिए । उनलाई पछ्याउँदै २०५१ साउन १९ गते संकल्प चलचित्रका निर्माताले आत्महत्या गरेका थिए । गायक उदितनारायण झाले नेपाली चलचित्र निर्माण गरेका थिए । २०४४ सालमा निर्माण शुरु गरिएको पिरती नामक उक्त चलचित्रमा उदित स्वयम् तथा नवीना श्रेष्ठ, गौरी मल्लको भूमिका थियो भने चलचित्रलाई चन्द्रप्रकाश घिमिरेले निर्देशन गरेका थिए । घिमिरेद्वारा निर्देशित यो पहिलो चलचित्र हो भने उनी चर्चित छायाँकारका रुपमा परिचित छन् । गायिका मनीला सोताङले आफ्नो बिहेअघि नै २०४४ सालमा चलचित्र अन्यायका लागि गाएकी थिइन् । चलचित्र निर्माता तथा निर्देशकका रुपमा परिचित युवराज लामाले चलचित्र भाग्यरेखाका लागि पहिलो र अन्तिम पटक नृत्य निर्देशकको जिम्मेवारी निभाएका थिए । चलचित्र निर्माता उद्धव पौडेलले गीतकारको रुपमा आफ्नो चलचित्र तिलहरीको लागि गीत लेखेका थिए । मनीषा कोइरालाले पहिलो र अन्तिम पटक खेलेको नेपाली चलचित्र फेरि भेटौँला हो । उनले त्यस चलचित्रमा खेलेबापत ५० हजार रुपियाँ लिएकी थिइन् । त्यो रकम त्यसबेलाको सबैभन्दा महंगो मानिन्थ्यो । शम्भुजीत बासकोटाले पहिलो पटक चलचित्रमा पूर्ण रुपमा संगीत दिएको चलचित्र हो माया । यसअघि उनी शुभबहादुर सुनामसँग मिलेर सङ्गीत दिने गर्दथे । यो जोडीले संगीत दिएको प्रथम चलचित्र के घर के डेरा थियो । प्रसिद्ध नाटककार अशेष मल्लले चलचित्रका लागि संवाद पनि लेखेका छन् । उनले पहिलो पटक चलचित्र भाग्यरेखाका लागि लेखेका थिए । पछि चेलीबेटीका लागि सहलेखन गरेका थिए । चलचित्र निर्माता निर्देशक युवराज लामाले पहिलो पटक द्वन्द्व निर्देशकको रुपमा चलचित्र विजयपराजयका लागि काम गरेका थिए । लामा कराँतेतर्फा ब्ल्याकबेल्ट उपाधिधारी पनि हुन् । अहिले ब्ल्याक लिस्टमा परेका पर्ूव गृहमन्त्री कमल थापाले पहिलो पटक चलचित्रका लागि युगदेखि युगसम्मका लागि गीत लेखेका थिए । भारतीय चलचित्रका नामूद कलाकार डेनीले पहिलो पटक नेपाली चलचित्र अन्यायका लागि गाएका थिए भने अन्तिम पटक उनले चलचित्र तृष्णामा गाएका थिए । ‘मैले नेपाली चलचित्र उद्योगका सबै जनासँग रात बिताएको छु’ भनेर विवादमा परेका निर्माता समुद्र भट्टचनले पहिलो पटक देउकी निर्माण गरेका थिए । टेलिभिजनका प्रख्यात कार्यक्रम निर्माता निर्देशक सन्तोष पन्तले पहिलो पटक चलचित्र चाहनाको कथा लेखेका थिए । अहिलेका चर्चित चलचित्र निदर्ेशक शिव रेग्मीले पहिलो पटक चलचित्र मोहनीको कथा लेखेका थिए भने उनले पहिलो पटक चलचित्र आफन्तको निर्देशन गरेका थिए । सुमित्रा पौडेल, जो उद्धव पौडेलकी श्रीमती र सयपत्री फिल्म्सकी संस्थापक पनि थिइन्, उनले लगभग १० वर्षो चलचित्र निर्माणको क्रममा जयबाबा पशुपतिनाथ नामक धार्मिक चलचित्रमा मात्र अभिनय गरेकी थिइन् । संसारको सानो किताब क्यानडाका खोजकर्ताहरुले हालै संसारको सबैभन्दा सानो प्रकाशित किताब फेला पारेको बताएका छन् । एउटा विरुवाका विषयमा लेखिएको यो पुस्तक पढ्नका लागि इलेक्ट्रोन माइक्रोस्कोप चाहिने खोजकर्ताहरुले बताएका छन् । ‘टिनी टेड फ्रम टर्निप टाउन’ नामक यो पुस्तकको आकार ०.०७X०.१० मिलिमिटर सानो रहेको बताइएको छ । यसमा रहेका अक्षरलाई गेलियमले कुँदिएको छ । गेलियममा रहने क्रिष्टेलिन सिलिकनका कारण अक्षरहरु चम्किने र माइक्रोस्कोप लगाई पढ्न सरल हुने सिमोन फ्रेजर युनिभर्सिटीले बताएको छ ।दुइ मिलिमिटरको एउटा सानो काँटीको टाउको भन्दा पनि सानो आकारको उक्त पुस्तिकाले यसअघिको गिनिज विश्व रेकर्डलाई समेत चुनौति दिएको छ । यसअघि सन् २००१ मा किङ जेम्स बाइबललाई संसारकै सबैभन्दा सानो पुस्तिकामा ढालिएको थियो भने त्यसपछि सन् २००२ मा एन्तोन चेखवको क्यामेलिअनलाई त्योभन्दा सानो पुस्तिका आकारमा प्रकाशन गरिएको थियो । यी दुवै ‘नानोबुक’ ३० वटा माइक्रो ट्याब्लेटमा बनाइएको थियो । शान्ति सम्झौताको एक वर्ष – २३४ को हत्या सरकार र माओवादीबीच शान्ति सम्झौता भएको एक वर्ष बितिसके पनि हत्या र गम्भीर मानव अधिकार उल्लंघनका घटनाहरू जारी छन् । गत वर्ष मंसिर ५ मा शान्ति सम्झौता भएयता राज्य, माओवादी र अन्य समूहले गरी २ सय ३४ जनाको हत्या गरेको अनौपचारिक क्षेत्र सेवा केन्द्र -इन्सेक) ले जनाएको छ । राज्यबाट २८, माओवादीबाट २२ र माओवादीकै युवा संगठन वाईसीएलबाट एक व्यक्ति मारिएका छन् । यसमा माओवादीले छाडेको घरेलु बम विस्फोटमा परी जेठ १५ गते पाल्पामा मारिएका नौ जनासमेत जोडिएको छ । त्यस्तै मधेसी जनअधिकार फोरमबाट ३३, जनतान्त्रिक तराई मुक्ति मोर्चाबाट २, जनतान्त्रिक तराई मुक्ति मोर्चा -गोइत) बाट १८ र ज्वाला सिंहबाट २७ व्यक्तिको हत्या भएको छ । संयुक्त जनतान्त्रिक तराई मुक्ति मोर्चाबाट ३, तराईका अन्य समूहबाट ५ र अज्ञात समूहले १५ जनाको हत्या गरेका छन् । यो अवधिमा ७ सय ७२ जनालाई अपहरण गरिएको छ । अपहरणमा राज्यबाहेक हत्यामा संलग्न सबै पक्ष संलग्न छन् । सम्झौता यता ५ सय ४८ कुटपिट, २ सय ४४ धम्की र २ सय ७९ घटनामा सम्पत्ति कब्जा गरिएको इन्सेकद्वारा बुधबार जारी विज्ञप्तिमा उल्लेख छ । शान्ति सम्झौता अनुगमन गरिरहेको अधिकारवादी संस्था पपुलेसन वाच/इन्हुरेड इन्टरनेसनलले सम्झौता पालना नभएकाले आम जनतामा अझै डर, त्रास र चिन्ता रहेको जनाएको छ । वाचले बुधबार राजधानीमा सार्वजनिक गरेको प्रतिवेदनमा राज्य र माओवादी दुवै पक्ष सम्झौता उल्लंघनमा संलग्न रहेको उल्लेख छ । ‘राज्यभन्दा पनि माओवादी सम्झौता उल्लंघनको घटनामा बढी उद्यत देखिएको छ,’ प्रतिवेदनमा छ । प्रतिवेदन सार्वजनिक गर्ने क्रममा अधिकारकर्मीहरूले शान्ति सम्झौतालाई सरकार र माओवादी कुनैले पनि स्थानीय निकायसम्म नपुर्याएको बताए । ‘शान्ति सम्झौता अप्ठ्यारो मोडमा छ,’ इन्हुरेड इन्टरनेसनलका अध्यक्ष गोपालकृष्ण सिवाकोटीले भने- ‘संक्रमणकालीन अवस्था भनेर आँखा चिम्लन सकिने अवस्था छैन, अवैधानिक कर, जबर्जस्ती चन्दा असुली, अपहरण र कुटपिट पछिल्लो समयमा बढेको छ ।’ वाचले पाँचै विकास क्षेत्रको एक/एक जिल्लालाई लिएर गत असारदेखि कात्तिकसम्मका घटनाहरूको अनुगमन गर्दा माओवादीबाट २ सय ४२ र राज्य पक्षबाट १२ उल्लंघनका घटना देखिएको जनाएको छ । राष्ट्रिय मानव अधिकार आयोगले पनि शान्ति सम्झौताका आधारभूत मानव अधिकारका विषयहरूमा दुवै पक्ष उदासीन रहेको जनाएको छ । ‘सम्झौताअनुसार राज्य र माओवादीले ६० दिनभित्र बेपत्ता बनाएकाहरूको स्थिति सार्वजनिक गर्ने, कब्जामा लिएका घरजग्गा फिर्ता गर्ने तथा विस्थापितलाई पुनःस्थापनाको व्यवस्था गर्नेलगायत प्रतिबद्धता पूरा गरेका छैनन्,’ आयोगका संरक्षण तथा अनुगमन महाशाखा प्रमुख यज्ञ अधिकारीले कान्तिपुरसँग भने- ‘यसले गर्दा दण्डहीनताको अवस्था आएको छ ।’ आयोगमा ६ सय ४२ राज्यको सुरक्षा फौज र २ सय ८४ माओवादीबाट बेपत्ता बनाएको उजुरी छ । आयोग र अन्य अधिकारवादी संस्थाका प्रतिनिधिहरूले पछिल्लो समयमा मानव अधिकार रक्षकहरूमा समेत त्रास बढेको बताएका छन् । तराईका जिल्लामा सशस्त्र समूहहरूले अधिकार रक्षकलाई समेत निसाना बनाएको उनीहरूले बताए । इन्हुरेडका अध्यक्ष सिवाकोटीले महेन्द्रनगरका पत्रकार प्रकाश ठकुरीको अपहरण प्रतिवेदन सार्वजनिक गरेपछि अधिकारकर्मीलाई धम्की आएको जनाए । माओवादी नेता मोहन वैद्यले भने शान्ति सम्झौताप्रति आफूहरू इमानदार रहेको उल्लेख गर्दै अनुशासनका केही पक्षमा कमजोरी भएको बताए । ‘सरकारले सुरक्षा प्रत्याभूति दिन नसक्दा समस्या देखा परेको हो,’ उनले भने- ‘हामीले आफ्नातर्फबाट पूर्ण इमानदारीका साथ सम्झौता पालना गरेका छौं ।’ बाँझोपनको पनि उपचार हुन्छ सिन्धुलीकी २४ वर्षीया रुक्मिणीको विवाह भएको दुई वर्षसम्म पनि सन्तान नभएपछि विभिन्न ठाउँमा भाकल गर्नुका साथै औषधि उपचार पनि सुरु गरियो तर सन्तान भएनन्। स्वास्थ्य परीक्षण गर्दा उनमा कुनै खोट नभेटिएपछि पतिलाई पनि परीक्षणका लागि बोलाइयो तर शिक्षण पेसामा संलग्न उनका पतिले आफ्नो कुनै कमजोरी नभएकोले परीक्षणको जरुरत नै नपर्ने जिद्दी कसे। विवाह भएको ५ वर्षसम्म पनि सन्तान नभएपछि अरुको सल्लाहमा रुक्मिणीका पतिले अर्की विवाह गरे तर दोस्रो विवाह गरेको ३ वर्षमा पनि कुनै सन्तान नभएपछि बल्ल उनी जँचाउन गए। स्वास्थ्य परीक्षण गर्दा उनको शुक्रवाहिनी नली (शुक्रकीट बहने नली) बन्द भएको पत्ता लाग्यो। बन्द नलीको उपचारपछि उनका दुवै पत्नीबाट सन्तान भए तर आफ्नै अहम् र गल्तीका कारण दुईवटी पत्नीको लोग्ने बन्नुपरेकोमा उनलाई ग्लानि र पछुतो भयो। तर उनले सच्याउन नसकिने ठूलो भूल गरिसकेकाले पछुतो मान्नुको कुनै तुक थिएन। रुक्मिणी दम्पतीको जस्तै समाजमा धेरै मानिस बाँझोपन र यससँग सम्बन्धित अज्ञानता र अन्धविश्वासका कारण अनेक सामाजिक समस्या झेलेर बसिरहेका छन् भने केहीले बेलैमा उपचार गरी सन्तान पनि प्राप्त गरिरहेका छन्। सामाजिक समस्याको रुपमा बाँझोपन बाँझोपन विश्वव्यापी समस्या हो। विश्व स्वास्थ्य संगठनका अनुसार विश्वका करिब ८ देखि १२ प्रतिशत मानिसले प्रजनन उमेरमा बाँझोपनको समस्याको अनुभव गर्छन्। नेपालमा बाँझोपनको समस्या कुन स्थितिमा छ भन्नेबारे विस्तृत अध्ययन नभए तापनि लगभग यस्तै स्थितिमा रहेको सम्बद्ध विज्ञहरुको अनुमान छ। अध्ययनअनुसार करिब ६ प्रतिशत नेपालीमा बाँझोपनको समस्या रहेको नेपाल परिवार नियोजन संघका कार्यक्रम निर्देशक डा. गिरिधारी शर्मा बताउनुहुन्छ। बाँझोपन महिला र पुरुष जसलाई पनि हुन सक्ने भए तापनि नेपालमा अज्ञानता र अन्धविश्वासका कारण यो समस्या महिलाहरुलाई नै हुन्छ भनेर लान्छना लगाउने गरिएको छ। यसले गर्दा विनाकारण धेरै महिलाले हीनताबोध र पारिवारिक तथा सामाजिक उपेक्षा खेप्नुपरिरहेको पाइन्छ। बाँझोपनको उपचारमा सम्लग्न निःसन्तान केन्द्रका प्रमुख डा. उमा श्रीवास्तव भन्नुहुन्छ- ँविवाह गरेको एक-दुई वर्षमा सन्तान भएन भने महिलालाई दोषी ठहर्याउने, अपहेलना गर्ने र उपचारका लागि महिलालाई नै पठाउने गरिन्छ। तर समस्या महिला-पुरुष दुवैलाई हुन सक्ने भएकाले दुवैलाई सँगै बोलाएर सोधपुछ, परीक्षण र आवश्यकताअनुसार उपचार गर्ने गरिएको छ।’ बाँझोपनको दोष महिलालाई मात्र दिने सामाजिक कुपरम्पराका साथै नेपालको कानुनले समेत यससम्बन्धमा भेदभावपूर्ण व्यवहार गरेको छ। यदि विवाह गरेको १० वर्षसम्म जीवित बच्चा जन्मेको छैन भने उनको पतिले विवाह गर्न पाउने व्यवस्था छ। नेपालको वर्तमान कानुनले पनि बाँझोपनको समस्या पुरुषमा पनि हुन सक्छ भन्ने सत्यतातर्फ ध्यान पुर्याएको पाइँदैन। नेपाल परिवार नियोजन संघका कार्यक्रम निर्देशक डा. गिरिधारी शर्मा भन्नुहुन्छ- ँबाँझोपन हुँदा पुरुषको परीक्षण नै नगरी महिलाको मात्र परीक्षण गर्ने, महिलालाई बहिष्कार गर्ने, कमजोर पार्ने, अर्की विवाह गर्ने कुसंस्कार छ, यसले ठूलो सामाजिक समस्या ल्याइरहेको छ। सहरी क्षेत्रमा दुवैले उपचार गर्ने चलन आए तापनि ग्रामीण क्षेत्रमा उपचारै नगरी विवाह गर्ने चलन अझै विद्यमान छ।’ बाँझोपनको समस्या आएमा दुवैको उपचार गर्दा अधिकांशको सन्तान हुन सक्ने दृष्टिकोण राखी नेपाल परिवार नियोजन संघले आफ्ना कार्यक्रम सञ्चालन गरिरहेको डा. शर्माले जानकारी दिनुभयो। वास्तवमा बाँझोपनको समस्या महिला र पुरुष दुवैलाई हुन सक्छ। अहिलेसम्मको अध्ययनअनुसार बाँझोपनको ३५ प्रतिशत कारणहरु महिलामा र ३५ प्रतिशत नै कारण पुरुषमा पाइएको छ। बाँकी ३० प्रतिशत कारण महिला-पुरुष दुवै -दम्पती)मा वा कारण नै पत्ता नलागेको स्थिति छ। यस्तो स्थितिमा बाँझोपनको कारण महिलालाई मात्र थोपर्नु कदापि उचित होइन। यसले बाँझोपनको समस्यालाई अझ लम्ब्याउँछ र महिलाहरुको मान मर्दन गर्छ। त्यसकारण बाँझोपनको अनुभव हुनासाथ दम्पतीले नै संयुक्तरुपमा स्वास्थ्य परीक्षण गराई सन्तान प्राप्तिको प्रयास गर्नु बुद्धिमानी हुन्छ। बाँझोपनसम्बन्धमा राम्रो जानकारी नभएका कारण पनि यो एउटा सामाजिक समस्याको रुपमा देखा परेको छ। सरकार र समाजले यसलाई त्यति महत्त्व नदिएको र सूचना प्रवाहमा कमी भएकाले बाँझोपनको उपचारको सम्भावना र उपचार गर्ने स्थानका बारेमा सर्वसाधारणमा राम्रो जानकारी छैन। बाँझोपनको उपचार विभिन्न सरकारी अस्पतालहरुमा हुने भए तापनि जनस्वास्थ्यका दृष्टिले जनचेतना जगाउने, रोकथाम गर्ने, प्रचारप्रसार गर्ने सरकारी कार्यक्रम हाल नभएको स्वास्थ्य सेवा विभाग परिवार स्वास्थ्य महाशाखाकी स्त्रीरोगविज्ञ डा. शीलु अर्याल बताउनुहुन्छ। नेपाल परिवार नियोजन संघले आफ्नो कार्यक्रम क्षेत्रमा सन् २००५ मा गरेको एक अध्ययनअनुसार १८.५ प्रतिशत प्रजनन उमेरका मानिसले बाँझोपनका बारेमा थाहा नपाएको बताएका थिए। यसमध्ये ७४ प्रतिशत पुरुष र ८९.४ प्रतिशत महिलाले मात्र यसबारेमा जानकारी पाएको बताएका थिए। त्यस्तैगरी ६८.३ प्रतिशत किशोर र ८५.८ किशोरीले यसबारेमा थाहा पाएको बताएका थिए। यसले बाँझोपनका बारेमा महिलालाई भन्दा पुरुषलाई कम ज्ञान भएको थाहा हुन्छ । त्यस्तैगरी २० प्रतिशत पुरुष र २६ प्रतिशत महिलालाई मात्र बाँझोपनको उपचार हुन सक्छ भन्ने थाहा भएको सर्वेक्षणमा पाइएको थियो। यी तथ्यांकले बाँझोपनसम्बन्धमा जनचेतनाका कार्यक्रमको अभाव महसुस हुन्छ। गर्भनिरोधक कुनै पनि साधन प्रयोग नगरेको र सन्तान प्राप्तिका लागि लगातार दुई वर्षसम्म प्रयत्न गर्दा पनि सन्तान भएन भने यस्तो अवस्थालाई बाँझोपन भनिन्छ। विश्व स्वास्थ्य संगठनले विकसित देशमा एक वर्षर विकासोन्मुख मुलुकमा २ वर्षसम्म स्त्री-पुरुषसँगै बस्दा पनि सन्तान नभएको अवस्थालाई बाँझोपनको दायराभित्र राखेको छ। प्रजनन उमेरका स्त्री-पुरुषले एक वर्षसम्म लगातार प्रयत्न गर्दा पनि सन्तान नभएमा त्यस्ता दम्पतीले उपचारको सोचविचार गर्नु उपयुक्त हुन्छ। परिवार स्वास्थ्य महाशाखाका अनुसार सामान्यतया गर्भनिरोधका साधन प्रयोग गरेको छैन र गर्भ रोक्नका लागि कुनै विधि पनि अपनाइएको छैन भने विवाह गरेको ६ महिनाभित्र ८५ प्रतिशत महिला गर्भवती हुन्छन् र एक वर्षभित्र प्रायः सबै महिला गर्भवती हुन्छन्। कतिपय महिलाहरुचाहिँ गर्भधारण गरे पनि विविध कारणले भ्रूण खस्ने समस्याबाट पीडित हुन्छन्। यसको पनि उपचार गरी बाँझोपनको समस्याबाट मुक्त हुन सकिन्छ। अन्धविश्वासका कारण बाँझोपनलाई ँदैवी श्राप’, ँपूर्वजन्मको फल’ आदि भनेर महिलाहरुलाई कतिपय सामाजिक तथा सांस्कृतिक कार्यहरुमा सम्लग्न गराइँदैन र उपचारको प्रयास पनि गरिंदैन। उपचारको प्रयास गर्दा पनि महिलाहरुको मात्र गरिन्छ। तर बाँझोपनको कारण दैवी श्राप वा पूर्वजन्मको फल नभई विभिन्न स्वास्थ्य समस्याहरु हुन् र त्यसको उपचार पनि हुन सक्छ। त्यसकारण बाँझोपनको दोष एक-अर्कालाई लगाउनुभन्दा यसलाई साझा समस्या ठानेर दम्पतीले नै उपचारको प्रयास गर्नु उचित हुन्छ। बाँझोपनका कारण बाँझोपनको उपचारमा लामो समयदेखि संलग्न विशेषज्ञ तथा निःसन्तान केन्द्रकी प्रमुख डा. उमा श्रीवास्तव भन्नुहुन्छ- ँबाँझोपनको समस्या स्त्री-पुरुष दुवैमा उस्तै हुन्छ र बेलैमा उपचार गरे धेरैले सन्तान प्राप्त गर्न सक्छन्।’ पुरुषमा बाँझोपनको कारण डा. श्रीवास्तवका अनुसार विभिन्न कारणले गर्दा पुरुषमा बाँझोपनको समस्या देखिन सक्छ। शुक्रकीटको उत्पादन कम भएमा, वीर्यवाहिनी नली ट्युमर वा यौनरोग संक्रमणका कारण बन्द भएमा सन्तान प्राप्तिमा असर पर्छ। त्यस्तैगरी हर्निया, हाइड्रोसिलको अप्रेसन गरेको अवस्थामा शुक्रवाहिनी नलीमा असर पुग्न सक्छ। शरीरको विकास क्रममा पुरुष हर्मोन विकास हुने बेलामा हर्मोन असन्तुलित हुँदा अण्डकोषको विकास हुँदैन। यस्तै आमाको पेटमा हुँदा अण्डकोष शरीरभित्र हुन्छ र जन्मिदा बाहिर आउँछ। तर कसै-कसैमा बाहिर नआई भित्रै बस्छ र कसैमा आधा भित्र र आधा बाहिर हुन्छ। यस्तो अवस्थामा पनि पुरुष सन्तान उत्पादनका लागि सक्षम हुँदैन। बालक जन्मिएपछि अण्डकोष परीक्षण गरी उपचार गरेमा भविष्यमा बाँझोपनको समस्या आउँदैन। अण्डकोषको राम्रो विकास नभएको, अप्रेसनका कारण शुक्रवाहिनी नलीमा असर परेको तथा शुक्रकीट कम उत्पादन भएको अवस्थामा पनि उपचार गरी बाँझोपनको समस्या हटाउन सकिन्छ। कहिलेकाहीँ भाइरस संक्रमका कारण पनि अण्डकोष सुकेको हुन सक्छ। हाँडेरोग भाइरसका कारणले हुन्छ। यो रोग लागेको बेला भाइरस संक्रमण भई पेटको माथिल्लो भाग तथा अण्डकोष सुन्निने, दुख्ने हुन्छ र पछि अण्डकोष सुक्दै गई पहिलेको आकारभन्दा सानो हुन सक्छ। त्यसकारण हाँडेरोग भएको बेला अण्डकोष दुखेमा, सुन्निएमा तुरुन्तै डाक्टरलाई भेटिहाल्नुपर्छ। यस्तै शुक्रकीटहरु अण्डकोषबाट लिंगतर्फभएर आउने नली विभिन्न कारणले टालिन सक्छ। कुनै पुरुषलाई टी.बी. भएमा टी.बी.का कीटाणुहरु संक्रमण भई शुक्रवाहिनी नली टालिन सक्छ। यस्तै सिफलिस, गनोरिया, एचआईभी/एड्स आदि यौनसंर्सगबाट सर्ने यौनजन्य रोगका कारण पनि सन्तान उत्पादनमा बाधा पुग्न सक्छ। एड्सबाहेक अन्य रोगको उचार गरी सन्तान प्राप्त गर्न सकिन्छ। यौनजन्य रोगहरु पहिले नै लागेर निको भइसकेको भए तापनि ती रोगका कीटाणुले शुक्रवाहिनी नलीको प्वाल साँघुरो पार्ने वा टाल्ने काम गरेको हुन सक्छ। उपचारपछि यस्ता प्वाल खोल्न सकिन्छ। पुरुषहरुमा सन्तान उत्पादन क्षमता नहुनुका केही अज्ञात कारणहरु छन्। यी अज्ञात कारणहरुबाहेक उल्लिखित अधिकांश समस्याको उपचार गरी समाधान निकाल्न सकिन्छ। त्यसकारण बाँझोपनको समस्या देखिनासाथ सम्बन्धित स्वास्थ्य संस्थामा सम्पर्क गरी उपचार गरिहाल्नुपर्छ। महिलामा बाँझोपनको कारण डा. श्रीवास्तवका अनुसार महिलामा बाँझोपन आउनुका मुख्य कारणहरुमा डिम्बको विकास समयमै हुन नसक्नु, अनियमित महिनावारी, डिम्बवाहिनी नलीको विकास हुन नसक्नु तथा रोगका कारण साँघुरिनु वा टालिनु हुन्। डिम्बवाहिनी नली बन्द हुनुमा नलीभित्र गाँठाहरु आउनु, टी.बी.लगायत अन्य विभिन्न यौनरोगको संक्रमण पनि हुन सक्छ। यस्ता रोग लाग्नासाथ उपचार गरेमा समस्या नै आउँदैन। समस्या आइसकेको अवस्थामा बेलैमा उपचार गरी सन्तान प्राप्त गर्न सकिन्छ। असमयमै महिनावारी बन्द भएमा वा अनियमित भएमा तुरुन्त उपचार गर्नुपर्छ। यसले भविष्यमा बाँझोपन निम्त्याउन सक्छ। विवाहअघि नै महिनावारी अनियमित भएका युवतीहरु पनि अहिले आफ्नो क्लिनिकमा उपचार गराउन आइरहेको र यसले भविष्यमा आउन सक्ने बाँझोपनको समस्यालाई घटाउने डा. श्रीवास्तवको भनाइ छ। उहाँका अनुसार गर्भाधानका लागि मुख्य भूमिका खेल्ने अण्डको विकास समयमै नुहने समस्या बाँझोपनको प्रमुख कारणमध्ये रहेको छ। यसको पनि उपचार गरी समाधान गर्न सकिन्छ। साथै असुरक्षित गर्भपतन पनि बाँझोपनको कारण बनिरहेकाले आवश्यक परेको बेला सुरक्षित तथा स्वीकृत्रि्राप्त संस्थामा गई गर्भपतन गराउनुपर्छ। असुरक्षित गर्भपतन गराउँदा अण्डवाहिनी नली टालिने, पाठेघरमा प्वाल पर्ने भई भविष्यमा गर्भ नै नरहने हुन सक्छ। यसबाहेक केही अज्ञात कारणहरु पनि हुन सक्छन्। सामान्यतया बाँझोपनको उपचार गरी सन्तान प्राप्त गर्न सकिन्छ तर उपचारमा ढिलाइ गर्नु हुँदैन र जथाभावी उपचार गराउनुभन्दा सम्बन्धित विशेषज्ञकहाँ नै परीक्षण तथा उपचार गराउनु उचित हुन्छ। नेपालका पुरुष तथा महिलामा बाँझोपन देखिनुको एउटा कारण पोषणयुक्त खानाको कमी पनि हो। प्रजनन स्वास्थ्य राम्रो बनाउनका लागि पोषणयुक्त खानामा जोड दिनुपर्छ। पोषणयुक्त खाना भन्नाले रंगीचंगी र खोलमा प्याकिङ गरिएका सहरिया खाना भन्ने धेरैलाई भ्रम छ। तर स्थानीय रुपमा पाइने मकै, कोदो, गहुँ, फापर, कर्कलो, विभिन्न हरिया साग र तरकारीहरु, फलफूल, पाकेको फर्सी, भटमास, दाल आदि गेडागुडी अझ पोषिला हुन्छन्। यसका साथै मासु, माछा, अण्डा दूध पनि पोषणयुक्त खाद्यवस्तु हुन्। गाउँघरका धेरै मानिसले घरको कुखुरा, अण्डा, मेवा, केरालगायत मौसमी फलफूल, साग, तरकारी, दूध घिउ बेचेर सहरका भिटामिन, हर्लिक्स, चाउचाउलगायत विभिन्न खाद्यवस्तु किनेर उपभोग गरेको देखिन्छ। यो ज्यादै गलत विश्वास हो। साथै लागूपदार्थको दुर्व्यसन, धूमपान, मादकपदार्थको अधिक सेवनले पनि बाँझोपनको समस्या निम्त्याउन सक्ने भएकाले यस्ता कुलतबाट पनि बच्नुपर्छ। टी.बी. र यौनजन्य रोगहरुको बेलैमा उपचार गराएमा धेरै हदसम्म बाँझोपनबाट बच्न सकिन्छ। बाँझोपनको उपचार सम्बन्धित चिकित्सकहरुका अनुसार अधिकांश बाँझोपनको उपचार हुन्छ। अझ छिटो गर्न सके उपचार प्रभावकारी पनि हुन्छ, तर उपचार गराउन दम्पती नै जानुपर्छ। बाँझोपनको शंका हुनासाथ नजिकको स्वास्थ्य संस्थामा परामर्श गरी स्त्रीरोग विशेषज्ञकहाँ जँचाउनु राम्रो हुन्छ। त्यसमा पनि बाँझोपनको उपचारमा संलग्न विशेषज्ञकहाँ उपचार गराउनु बढी प्रभावकारी हुन्छ। परिवार स्वास्थ्य महाशाखाकी स्त्रीरोग विशेषज्ञ डा. शीलु अर्यालका अनुसार सबै सरकारी स्वास्थ्य संस्थाहरुबाट प्रजनन स्वास्थ्यसम्बन्धी सामान्य परामर्श सेवा पाइने भए तापनि उपचारात्मक सेवा अञ्चल तथा क्षेत्रीय अस्पतालहरुबाट प्राप्त गर्न सकिन्छ। यसका साथै प्रसूति गृह थापाथलीमा बाँझोपनसम्बन्धी विशेषज्ञ सेवा प्राप्त गर्न सकिन्छ। यहाँ बाँझोपनसम्बन्धी क्लिनिक सञ्चालित छ। सरकारले प्रजनन स्वास्थ्यका आठवटा मूल विषय तथा क्षेत्रहरु तोकेको र त्यसमा बाँझोपन (Sub fertility) समावेश भए तापनि उपचारात्मकबाहेक अन्य सेवा उपलब्ध गराएको छैन। तर निकट भविष्यमा नै २४ वटा जिल्लामा स्वास्थ्यकर्मीहरुलाई तालिम दिएर यससम्बन्धी परामर्श दिने, तहगतरुपमा सुविधाअनुसार सेवा दिने तयारी गरिएको डा. शीलु अर्यालले जानकारी दिनुभएको छ। यस्तैगरी नेपाल परिवार नियोजन संघले आफ्ना कार्यक्रम भएका ३२ वटा जिल्लामा ६५१ वटा क्लिनिकहरुमा प्रजनन स्वास्थ्यसम्बन्धी समस्या लिएर आउनेहरुलाई परापर्श दिने र आवश्यकतानुसार विशेषज्ञ भएका ठाउँमा पठाउने गरेको संघका कार्यक्रम निर्देशक डा. गिरिधारी शर्मा बताउनुहुन्छ। उहाँका अनुसार सन् २००६ मा संघको क्लिनिकहरुमा सेवा लिन आएका १३ लाख सेवाग्राहीमध्ये करिब २० हजार ८ सय जनालाई बाँझोपनसम्बन्धी परामर्श दिइएको थियो। त्यस्तैगरी स्त्रीरोग विशेषज्ञ भएका विभिन्न निजी अस्पताल तथा नर्सिङहोमहरुबाट पनि बाँझोपनसम्बन्धमा परामर्श तथा उपचार सेवा प्राप्त गर्न सकिन्छ। काठमाडौंका निःसन्तान केन्द्र र ओम अस्पतालले बाँझोपनको उपचारमा विशेषज्ञ सेवा उपलब्ध गराइरहेका छन्। अन्य औषधि उपचारबाट सन्तान प्राप्त नभएका अवस्थामा यी दुई स्वास्थ्य केन्द्रबाट आईभीएफ (टेस्टट्युब बेबी) प्रविधिको सेवा पनि लिन सकिन्छ। यी स्वास्थ्य केन्द्रमा टेस्टट्युब बेबी सेवा लिएर पनि धेरैले सन्तान प्राप्त गरिरहेका छन्। महिलाहरुको अण्डवाहिनी नली बन्द भई बाँझोपन भएको अवस्थामा नलीको अप्रेसन गरी खोल्ने प्रयास भएको पनि पाइन्छ। यो विधि खर्चिलो भए तापनि त्यति प्रभावकारी नभएकोले निःसन्तान केन्द्रले यसको वैकल्पिक उपचारका रुपमा अप्रेसन नगरी नली खोल्ने उपचार पद्धति सुरु गरेको केन्द्रका प्रमुख डा. उमा श्रीवास्तव बताउनुहुन्छ। बाँझोपनको सामान्य उपचार त्यति खर्चिलो नभए पनि यसको विशेषज्ञ उपचार अलि खर्चिलो छ। त्यसैले कतिपय दाम्पतीले उपचार सुरु गरे पनि उपचार बीचैमा छोड्ने गरेको डा. श्रीवास्तव बताउनुहुन्छ। उपचार गर्दा सबै परीक्षण नगरी हुँदैन। यसले बिरामीलाई भार पर्ने भएकाले यस्ता समस्या परेकालाई सरकारले पनि केही सहयोग गर्नुपर्ने डा. श्रीवास्तवको धारणा छ। चाहेको बेला गर्भधारण गर्नु, सन्तान जन्माउन पाउनु महिलाको मौलिक अधिकार भएझैं सन्तान नभएका अवस्थामा सन्तान प्राप्तिको उपाय खोज्न पाउनु पनि महिलाको अधिकार हो। त्यसकारण बाँझोपनका कारण सन्तान प्राप्त नभएमा दम्पतीले समयमै उपचार सेवा लिएर सन्तान प्राप्तिको अवसर उपयोग गर्नुपर्छ। बाँझोपन पुरुष र महिला दुवै वा कुनै एक जनामा भएको स्वास्थ्य समस्याका कारण हुने भएकाले दम्पतीले नै स्वास्थ्य परीक्षण गरी उपचार गर्नुपर्छ। बाँझोपनको रोकथाम तथा उपचारका लागि सरकारले पनि विशेष कार्यक्रमहरु सञ्चालन गर्न आवश्यक छ। Tips Of The Married Life · When you’re at an event with your man, shoot him a come-hither look across the room. Attempt to pick him up with only your eyes. · Wake your guy this morning with soft kisses all over his body. What a wonderful way to wake up. · Let him take the lead tonight. Allow him to choose your outfit, the restaurant, or the movie. Surrendering the decision-making gets you in the mood. · In particularly stressful moments, whisper something to your man. The soft tone and warm breath on his ear will calm him down immediately. · Go on a movie date and make sure to graze his lap as you reach for the popcorn. Give him your eye that lets him know that you know exactly what you are doing. · When you wake up in the morning, tell him you had the most amazingly erotic dream about him. Give him full details even if you are making them up as you go. · When you are getting ready in the morning, give him a full on flash. Hold your robe open for a few seconds and tell him to remember the image of you nude all…day…long. · When you travel together buy postcards. Once you return, send one to your man to remind him of all the fun you had while you were traveling together. · Find your inner dominatrix. Start by pulling his hair a little while you are in the throes of passion. · Take turns kissing each other’s belly buttons. It tickles and feels so good. · When you are kissing your man, take your time. Pause and look into his eyes softly, then continue. Your glance will tell him how you are feeling about him. · Make putting on the condom part of sexy foreplay. Unroll it on him. You can use your lips to do so. · Buy a book of Mad Libs and require only risqué answers. Read them back to each other and giggle at the story you create. · Give your man a full body massage without using your hands. · Fill water pistols with fruit juice or wine and squirt each other without mercy. Lick each other clean and then wash off the rest of the sticky in the shower…together. · Do some partner stretches in the living room or in the bedroom. It is a great way to really get to know your partner’s body. You will surprise each other with your flexibility and can incorporate that into your sex life. · Happy Thanksgiving! Make sure you tell your partner all of the reasons you are thankful for him! · Decorate your bedroom with bundles of fall flowers. Your room will smell and feel fresh, and the colors will create a warm, relaxing glow. · Hide under the covers when your man comes to bed and surprise him with a pillow attack. Wear a skimpy nightie to ensure plenty of flashing potential. · Wednesday is Hump Day. Take that literally and engage is some mid-week nookie to get you to the weekend. · Wake your husband up with a cup of coffee and the paper. Tell him he is to stay in bed for as long as his heart desires. He’ll probably pull you back in to be with him. · After midnight, bundle up and head outside. Have sex under the moonlight. The cool night air will feel great but your warm breath and bodies will keep you toasty. · Cool off at the ice-skating rink. Grab your jacket and a good pair of socks and warm each other up on the ice. Don’t forget to couple skate! · When you dress for a date, lay out your clothes, down to your sexy lingerie. Make sure he sees the spread before you get dressed. · Go on a body treasure hunt. Do you know where all of his freckles are? Make the curves and marks of his body your business. · When you greet your man with a kiss after work tonight, be sure to grab his package. He’ll appreciate your bold gesture. · Watch Basic Instinct with your man and steal some of Sharon Stone’s moves — not the murderous ones, just the sexy ones, like when she turns Michael Douglas into her sex slave! · Give him opportunities to “accidentally” graze your breast while you are out in public. Give him a wicked smile to let him know you meant for it to happen. · Head to a dive bar and flirt with your man, relentlessly. If you can muster the courage, pull him into the restroom for a quickie. · Buy keychain flashlights and take them to bed with you. Ask him to illuminate his body parts that need your attention. You do the same for him! · When your husband is repairing things around the house, tell him the sight of him with a hammer, vacuum, mop, whatever it may be makes you really hot. · Treat yourself to a manicure and then use those gorgeous nails to scratch your guy’s body parts. Pay close attention to his arms and chest. · Allow him to watch you pleasure yourself with your vibrator. Men are visual creatures. This will be quite a gift for him…and you! · On your next road trip, go down on him while he’s driving. Make sure you are on an open road. This will catch him off guard and spice up the long drive. · When you look deeply into your partner’s eyes, you are telling him that he is the most important person in the room. He’ll appreciate that you only care about what he’s saying. · Masturbate your partner to the point of climax and then slow down for a few seconds for a fantastic orgasm. · Buy and men’s undershirt tank top have it personalized to say something special to your man.Maybe- “I’m yours!” or “Just for you!” or just his name. · Reenact how you met your mate. Go back to the spot and relive the moments you met. You’ll have so much fun thinking about those first moments. You will take yourselves back to the reasons you got together and fell in love. · Happy Halloween. Keep the costumes on while you do the deed! Haven’t you always wanted to get busy with Spider-Man? · Buy a couple of pumpkins and take them home and have a carving contest. Save the seeds for roasting! · Going away with your honey? Check out this travel kit from Blissbox! · Be silly with your man. Head to a wig shop and buy wigs for each other. Of course the next step is to wear them in bed. It will feel like you’re a making love to a new person but you aren’t cheating and you are laughing and having fun. · Everyone has that one household chore they can’t stand doing. Trade the one thing you hate to do for the one thing he hates to do. Do you hate scrubbing the tub? He can take that on. If he hates taking out the trash then you can take that on. Relieve yourselves from the stress of dreading that chore. · Quiz each other and giggle for hours with Naughty Crosswords: Nerve.com Presents Fifty Sexy and Outrageous Puzzles. · Have you planned your Halloween costume yet? Be a naughty nurse, a French maid, or a cowgirl who lassos her man — have your own private rodeo! · Reprogram your name in his phone. The next time you call, instead of your name, “Hot Babe,” “Horny Girlfriend,” or “Sexy Wife” will show up instead. · Make your partner your number one supporter by letting him know how he can meet your needs emotionally. Communication is key! · Some men enjoy anal stimulation. See if he is open to exploring this. Neither of you will regret adding this to your sex life. · Some men enjoy anal stimulation. Talk with him to see if he’s open to exploring this. Once you decide that he is, use a lot of lubrication and find out what he likes. · Cover each other with massage oil and feel the incredible sensation of sliding your bodies together. · Today is Miss American Rose Day. Celebrate by sprinkling rose petals in a trail leading to your bed. Spread handfuls of petals between the sheets too. · Affirm his actions by reminding him, out of the blue, how special he makes you feel when he does little things for you. · Nibble your partner during foreplay. A gentle bite brings blood to the surface of the skin and creates a fantastic sensation. But be gentle; don’t break skin. · Find a bra and panty set in red, a hot (and naughty!) color. Let your man know you’re wearing it under your clothes — he’s sure to peel off the outer layer fast! · Give him a tush massage. Kneed his bum with your strong hands. Massage his buns in the same way you would fold dough. · Don’t neglect his arms when you are making out or having sex. Men are proud of their biceps and love to have you stroke and massage their forearms. · Create the best scenario for lovemaking to end in orgasm for you: Put a pillow under your bum to give you the optimum pelvic tilt. · Have you done it on all pieces of furniture in your home? If you haven’t, make that a goal to complete in a month. · Give him a scalp massage using some mint-infused lotion. Then wash it out by giving him a sensual shampoo. · Greet him with a warm towel and personal rubdown when he gets out of the shower. · Get dirty while you are doing the laundry. Try out the spin cycle. He sits on the washer and you straddle him. The washing machine is like your very own gigantic vibrator. · Find a lover’s lane in your home town. Have an old-school date by going there to make out in your car. Be discreet because the police will give you a ticket for indecent exposure if you get caught. Being s गर्भावश्थामा अनुहारमा चायाँ आउनु एक प्रमुख समस्या गर्भावश्थामा अनुहारमा चायाँ आउनु एक प्रमुख समस्या रहेको छ चायाँ आउनको मुख्य कारणहरु भनेको रगत फोहर हुनु, ग्यास्टिक, छाला अधिक मात्रामा सुख्खा हुनु, छाला चिल्लो हुनु र घाममा धेरै हिंड्नु आदी हुन् गर्भावश्थामा चायाँ आउनुलाई सामान्य मानेता पनि नौ महिना सम्म बोकेर हिंड्न अप्ठ्यारो हुन्छ त्यसैले यस्ता चायाँलाई हटाउन हामीले घरेलु औषधी प्रयोग गर्न सक्दछौं यस्का लागि हामीले आफ्नो छाला को प्रकार बुझ्नु पर्दछ हाम्रो छाला चार प्रकारको हुन्छ १) सुख्खा छाला २) चिल्लो छाला ३) दुबै मिसिएको छाला र ४) सामान्य छाला १) सुख्खा छालाको लागि प्याक बनाउन चाहिने सामाग्रीहरु निम्न प्रकार छन – आधा चम्चा चिनी – दुई ठूलो चम्चा पानी – अण्डाको पहेंलो भाग – आधा चम्चा कागतीको रस लगाउने तरिका चिनी र पानी तताएर एक आपसमा मिसाउने र मिसिए पछी अण्डाको पहेंलो भाग फेट्ने त्यसमा कागती पानी राखेर फेरी फेट्ने र २० मिनेट सम्म अनुहारमा लगाउने र सफा पानीले मुख धुने त्यस पछी भिटामिन ‘ ई ‘ भएको क्रिम लगाउने २) चिल्लो छालको लागि प्याक बनाउन चाहिने सामाग्री – पातलो कपडा – आलुको भित्री भाग – तातो पानी- कपास लगाउने तरिका :पहिले अनुहारमा बाफ लिने र कपासले सफा संग अनुहार पुछ्ने त्यसपछी आलुलाई पातलो कपडामा राखेर चायाँ भएको ठाउमा १० देखी १५ मिनेट सम्म सर्कल मसाज गर्ने ३) दुवै मिसिएको छालाको (चिल्लो तथा सुख्खा) लागि माथिकै सामाग्री प्रयोग गर्ने यदी तपाईंको छाला सुख्खा र चिल्लो दुवै खाले छ भने जहाँ चिल्लो छ त्यहा चिल्लो को फेस प्याक लगाउने र जहाँ सुख्खा छ त्यहा सुख्खाको फेस प्याक लगाउने ४) सामान्य छालाको लागि चाहिने सामाग्री :अण्डाको सेतो भागमा दुई चम्चा सख्खर राखेर फिट्ने र बदामको तेल दुई वा तीन थोपा हाल्ने त्यसपछी त्यो प्याक लाई अनुहारमा लगाएर सफा पानीले धुने अनुहार पखाली सके पछी मोइस्चराइजर क्रिम लगाउने तसर्थ घरमा नैं उपलब्ध सामाग्री प्रयोग गरेर हामीले गर्भावस्थामा आउने अनुहारको चायाँ बाट बन्चित हुन सक्छौं Recent - How To Create A Bonsai Tree - लामा औँला भएकाहरु खतरनाक चालक - The Super-Slim New Laptop - Fish Robot to detect Pollution in the Ocean - तपाइँले थाहा नपाएका सिने-फ्याक्ट्स - संसारको सानो किताब - शान्ति सम्झौताको एक वर्ष – २३४ को हत्या - बाँझोपनको पनि उपचार हुन्छ - Tips Of The Married Life - गर्भावश्थामा अनुहारमा चायाँ आउनु एक प्रमुख समस्या - French tarragon - Coriander Links Archives - September 2009 (2) - December 2008 (1) Categories - Afghanistan - Animal - Better Life - Birthday SMS - Bonsai - Business Tips - Cave - Challange - China - Clinic - Corruption - crime - Currency - Economic - Education - Entertainment - Extra - Fantastic Fanta - Fertilizer - Financial Tips - Friendship SMS - Fun - Funny - Garden - Good Life - Good Morning SMS - Great Peopel - Great Wall - Happy Life - Health - Health Tips - Herbs - History - Homo-Sexual - Info - Interview - Interview Tips - IT - Kitchen Garden - Life - Life Style - Love - Marriage Life - Media - Meditation - New - New Generation - Niti Shastra - OJT - Out of Track - Pilgrim - Politics - Poll - Population - Profile - Recipe - Relationship - Science - Sex - Sex Life - Sex Query - SMS - Sport - superstation - Technology - Tips - Tour - Travel - Twins - Uncategorized - Video - Welfare - Who is Who - Wise Word - Wonder - World Heritage RSSEntries RSS Comments RSS