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Dating abuse Have you clicked on this page because you feel anxious or worried about your relationship with your boyfriend? If so, you have taken an important and positive step and we hope we can support you. If you feel you are in immediate danger, click here. If not, please read on. You are not alone in feeling something isn't right with your relationship. Abuse can happen to any woman at any age and in any type of relationship. You don't have to be married or be living with your boyfriend to experience abuse. Women in dating relationships contact Women's Aid every day because they are afraid of their boyfriends. Your boyfriend does not have the right to control and abuse you. You should not have to worry about how he will react to what you do. Maybe you feel that you are some how to blame for the abuse. Your boyfriend, and other people, may have told you that it is your fault. But that is not true. Your boyfriend is responsible for the abuse. And he alone can stop it. It is important to focus on keeping yourself safe. You may find that talking to someone about your situation will help you to sort out what is happening in your relationship and help figure out what next steps you feel comfortable and safe with. What is dating abuse? Dating abuse can happen to any woman at anytime and it means that your boyfriend does already/may try to: - control what you wear and who you see - isolate you from family and friends - bombard you with texts, check all of your text messages, email or social networking accounts to keep tabs on you - physically attack you including hitting, punching, spitting and throwing you against walls - threaten to kill you or himself - rape you or force you to do sexual things against you will You may feel like you are 'walking on eggshells' and living in fear of his moods and temper. Dating abuse is wrong and no one deserves to be threatened, beaten or be in fear for their lives. 10 signs of an abusive relationship - If he complains about your friends or says you spend too much time with them - If he insists on picking your clothes and comments on how you look or dress - If he complains that you spend too much time away from him and insists on your spending all your time with him. - He sends you constant texts checking up on you when you are not with him - He is jealous and suspicious and accuses you of cheating on him all the time - He demands your passwords and checks your emails and social networking accounts to see who you've been talking too. - He has a bad temper and you feel afraid to disagree with him - He hits, kicks or shoves you or threatens to hurt you - He puts pressure on you to do sexual things that have made you feel uncomfortable or has raped you. - You feel afraid to break up with him because he has told you he will hurt you or himself. You can take a relationship health check quiz on our www.2in2u.ie page. Women's Aid understands how hard it is to make sense of what is happening to you. It can be difficult to talk about your situation, even to your closest family and friends. You may feel lonely and isolated. Maybe you have been told by your boyfriend that he will hurt you or himself if you tell someone. Perhaps you have told someone and they have told you just to break up, run, to walk away. But we know it is not that easy. How Women's Aid can help Women's Aid knows how difficult it can be when your boyfriend is abusing you. That is why we offer free, confidential support and information. We will listen to you and talk to you about your situation. We won't judge you or tell you what to do. We won't tell anyone you've been in touch with us. We can discuss your options and help you plan your safety. What can I do? - Call the Women's Aid National Freephone Helpline on 1800 341 900 (10am to 10pm). - Talk to a friend or a family member or confide in a workmate, college counsellor or supervisor. - Explore this website. It contains lots of information including on how to keep safe online and phone and email safety. We also have information that might be useful to your family and friends as they support you along the way. - If you are under 18 you can call Childline on 1800 66 66 66 or www.childline.ie, or call Teenline 1800 833 634 www.teenline.ie Remember: Trust your instincts - if it feels wrong, it probably is. Women's Aid 2in2u Campaign Women's Aid is currently running a national public awareness campaign addressing the abuse of young women in relationships. Find out more about the 2in2u campaign here.
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An bhfuil cuidiú de dhíth ort? Ar chliceáil tú ar an rannán seo toisc go bhfuil eagla ort roimh dhuine éigin a bhfuil dlúthchaidreamh agat leo? Más é sin an cás, tá céim thábhachtach agus dhearfach glactha agat agus tá súil againn gur féidir linn cuidiú leat agus tú a choinneáil sábháilte. Má cheapann tú go bhfuil tú i gcontúirt láithreach cliceáil anseo le do thoil. Mura gceapann, léigh leat. Níl tú leat féin má cheapann tú go bhfuil rud éigin i do chaidreamh nach bhfuil i gceart. B'fhéidir go raibh roinnt comharthaí rabhaidh ann. Tarlaíonn foréigean baile do bhean amháin as cúigear in Éirinn. Cloisimid ó mhná a bhfuil eagla a n-anama orthu roimh a mbuachaillí, a bhfir chéile agus a bpáirtithe. Tarlaíonn mí-úsáid dóibh corruair nuair a bhíonn deireadh lena gcaidreamh. Cé is féidir liom labhairt leis? Tuigimid cé chomh deacair is atá sé cad atá ag tarlú duit a thuiscint. Is féidir leis a bheith deacair labhairt faoi do chás, fiú le do dhlúthbhaill teaghlaigh agus do dhlúthchairde féin. D'fhéadfadh sé go bhfuil tú ag mothú uaigneach agus leat féin. B'fhéidir gur inis do pháirtí duit go ngortódh sé tú má insíonn tú do dhuine ar bith eile cad atá ag tarlú. B'fhéidir gur inis tú do dhuine éigin é agus gur iarr siad ort é a fhágáil, rith ar shiúl, imigh uaidh. Ach tá a fhios againn nach bhfuil sé chomh furasta sin. Níl an ceart ag do pháirtí chun tú a rialú agus a smachtú. Níor cheart duit imní a bheith ort faoin dóigh a fhreagróidh sé ar rudaí a dhéanann tú. Is coir é foréigean baile agus níor cheart go gcuirfí bagairt ar dhuine ar bith, go mbuailfí iad nó go mbeadh eagla a n-anama orthu. B'fhéidir go mothaíonn tú go bhfuil an locht ortsa ar chúis éigin as an mí-úsáid. D'fhéadfadh sé gur inis do pháirtí nó duine éigin eile duit gur tusa is ciontaigh. Ach níl sé sin fíor. Tá do pháirtí freagrach as an mí-úsáid. Agus ní féidir le duine ar bith eile ach é féin é a stopadh. Coinnigh cuimhne - tá an céad agat a bheith sábháilte i do bhaile féin agus a bheith sábháilte agus meas a bheith ort i do chaidreamh. Cén dóigh ar féidir le Grúpa Cúnta na mBan cuidiú? Tá a fhios ag Grúpa Cúnta na mBan cé chomh deacair is atá sé a bheith ag maireachtáil faoi fhoréigean baile.Is é sin an fáth go bhfuilimid ag tairiscint tacaíocht agus eolas rúnda, saor in aisce. Éistimid leat agus labhraímid leat faoi do chás. Ní cháinfimid tú nó ní hinseoimid duit cad le déanamh. Ní hinseoimid do dhuine ar bith eile go ndearnadh teagmháil linn. Is féidir linn do roghanna a phlé agus cuidiú leat do shábháilteacht a phleanáil. Is féidir linn tacaíocht a thabhairt duit leis na roghanna éagsúla atá ar fáil duit a scrúdú. Is féidir linn dul chun na cúirte leat chomh maith. Is féidir linn feabhas a chur ar do shaol arís i ndiaidh mí-úsáid, cé go mb'fhéidir go bhfuil an chuma ann anois go bhfuil sé seo indéanta. Ní tharlódh sé thar oíche, ach éireoidh sé píosa beag níos fusa gach lá. Féadfaidh Grúpa Cúnta na mBan cuidiú a thabhairt duit leis seo. Léigh tuilleadh faoi fhoréigean baile agus tú féin a choinneáil sábháilte nó cuir scairt orainn inniu le labhairt le duine dár n-oibrithe ar an Líne Chabhrach ar 1800 341 900. Tá an líne seo ar oscailt 10am go 10pm gach lá den bhliain ach amháin lá Nollag.