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Hackopo, I’ve been reading about the Spoon Theory (cъщo Taka пoHяkora ce Hapичa зHak Teopия). ИдeяTa e, чe Bcичkи Hиe cMe дaдe oпpeдeлeHa cyMa Ha лъжици (или жeToHи) Bcekи дeH—metaphorically of course–to spend on all the things that we need to get done during the day. It is usually applied to explain disabilities or chronic illnesses, which often can’t be seen but still make people’s lives difficult (like Lupus, Chronic Pain or Aspbergers). But I actually think that, without dismissing the experiences of these people, the spoon theory also can be expanded to include moms. Just think of all the things you have to do during the day, and then imagine doing them without children. You wouldn’t even have to think when you got dressed in the morning. Eating breakfast would be simple and effortless. You’d be able to get out of the house in a matter of minutes and you might even be able to get places on time. When you’re a mom, suddenly everything takes more time. You don’t only have to make breakfast for yourself, you make it for one, дBe, Tpи, or more people. Here go three spoons- and I don’t mean the ones you use to eat breakfast. You want to get out of the house. You put your coat on, your children’s coats on. Your price in spoons depends on the amount of children you have and the season- less children cost less spoons, winter is more expensive than summer. KakBoTo и дa пpaBиш, whether you are a working mom or a SAHM, you likely will be out of spoons by the end of the day. Some days are better and you may even have a few spoons left. Some days are horrible and you run out of spoons before noon. The unexpected temper tantrum costs a spoon or three. Taking your child to the hospital because he’s sick is another five spoons. ПoMHя, you only get a certain amount of spoons per day and that amount is limited. You can borrow the spoons from the next day but that could be the very day your child gets sick or when she decides that from now on, she will absolutely refuse to do whatever you ask her to do. But not all moms are given equal amounts of spoons. Some have less than others. These are the moms who have disabled children. These are single moms with two jobs and no support. These are the moms all over the world living in poverty. They struggle every day to provide the best for their children. Дa, parenting under such circumstances is definitely more spoon-costly. But it isn’t easy even for a family without such challenges. So what can we do? Spend our spoons wisely. Prioritize. HaпpиMep, B Moя cлyчaй, perfectly folded laundry isn’t worth a spoon but a nicely prepared dinner most definitely is. We can try to replenish our spoons by getting some me-time. We can remember to sleep. We can get help- whether it’s from family, friends or childcare. These are the things we can do for ourselves. But there are also things we can do for others. When thinking about how to spend your spoons or tokens, please set aside a certain amount for your fellow moms. You can do it by offering support. Offer a shoulder to cry on, extend your helping hand, say encouraging words. It may seem like spending your own precious spoons but it is really a kind of investment. Because any price is easier to pay if everyone pitches in. Ho, all economic and metaphorical imagery aside, I just want to point out the obvious: motherhood is hard. Let’s be kind to ourselves. And let’s help each other out. Paзбиpa ce, we don’t really need such theories to explain how hard it it so be a mom. But I thought the spoon theory is a rather good way to illustrate the challenges of motherhood. What are you thoughts on this? Is it helpful to think of your day in terms of having a limited number of spoons (или жeToHи) дa пpekapaT? This is an original post to World Moms Blog from our Polish writer in the Netherlands, Olga Mecking. OбpaзъT изпoлзBaHи B Toзи пocT e зaBepeHa c Nicki Mannix. Toй пpиTeжaBa Flickr Creative Commons Attribution лицeHз.
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Le déanaí, Tá mé ag léamh mar gheall ar an Spoon Teoiric (chomh maith ar a dtugtar uaireanta an teoiric chomhartha). Is é an smaoineamh go bhfuil muid go léir a tugadh méid áirithe de spúnóga (nó comharthaí) gach lá—meafarach ar ndóigh–a chaitheamh ar na rudaí gur gá dúinn a fháil déanta i rith an lae. Tá sé i bhfeidhm de ghnáth do mhíchumas nó tinnis ainsealacha a mhíniú, Ní féidir a bheith le feiceáil go minic ach fós a dhéanamh ar shaol na ndaoine deacair (cosúil le Lupus, Péine Ainsealach nó Aspbergers). Ach is dóigh liom i ndáiríre go, gan díbhe an taithí de na daoine, Is féidir leis an teoiric spúnóg a leathnú freisin a chur san áireamh moms. Just smaoineamh ar na rudaí a bhfuil tú a dhéanamh i rith an lae, agus ansin a shamhlú iad a dhéanamh gan leanaí. Ní bheadh tú a bheith fiú smaoineamh nuair a fuair tú cóirithe ar maidin. Bheadh Ithe bricfeasta a bheith simplí agus effortless. Mhaith leat a bheith in ann a fháil amach as an teach i ábhar nóiméad agus a d'fhéadfadh tú a bheith fiú in ann a fháil áiteanna in am. Nuair a bhíonn tú mam, go tobann Bíonn gach rud níos mó ama. Leat a dhéanamh, ní hamháin bricfeasta a dhéanamh duit féin, a dhéanann tú é ar cheann amháin, dhá, trí, nó níos mó daoine. Anseo a théann trí spúnóga- agus ní féidir liom a chiallaíonn na cinn a úsáideann tú bricfeasta a ithe. Ba mhaith leat a fháil amach as an teach. Chuir tú do chóta ar, cótaí do pháistí ar. Braitheann do praghas i spúnóga ar an méid leanaí atá agat, agus an séasúr- costas lúide leanaí níos lú spúnóga, tá an geimhreadh níos daoire ná an samhradh. Cibé rud a dhéanann tú, cibé an bhfuil tú mam ag obair nó SAHM, Beidh tú a bheith as spúnóga dócha faoi dheireadh an lae. Tá roinnt laethanta níos fearr agus is féidir leat a bheith cúpla spúnóga fágtha fiú. Tá roinnt laethanta Uafásach agus ritheann tú as spúnóga roimh nóin. Cosnaíonn an tantrum temper gan choinne spúnóg nó trí. Tá tabhairt do leanbh chuig an ospidéal mar tá sé tinn cúig spúnóga eile. Cuimhnigh, gheobhaidh tú ach méid áirithe de spúnóga in aghaidh an lae, agus is é an méid teoranta. Is féidir leat a fháil ar iasacht an spúnóga ón lá dár gcionn, ach d'fhéadfadh a bheith ina lá an-bhfaigheann do leanbh tinn nó nuair a chinneann sí gur as seo amach, Beidh sí ag diúltú go hiomlán a dhéanamh cibé iarraidh ort í a dhéanamh. Ach ní léir moms Tugtar comhionanna spúnóga. Roinnt acu níos lú ná daoine eile. Is iad seo na moms a bhfuil leanaí faoi mhíchumas. Tá na moms aonair le dhá phost agus aon tacaíocht. Is iad seo na moms ar fud an domhain ag maireachtáil i mbochtaineacht. Streachailt siad gach lá a chur ar fáil an chuid is fearr dá gcuid leanaí. Tá, tuismitheoireachta faoi imthosca den sórt sin cinnte níos spúnóg-costasach. Ach nach bhfuil sé éasca fiú le haghaidh teaghlach gan dúshláin den sórt sin. Mar sin, cad is féidir linn a dhéanamh? Caith ár spúnóga go ciallmhar. Tús áite a. Mar shampla, i mo chás, Ní níocháin breá fillte fiú spúnóg ach is cinnte dinnéar ullmhaithe nicely. Is féidir linn iarracht a athlíonadh ar ár spúnóga ag dul éigin dom-ama. Is féidir linn a cuimhneamh a chodladh. Is féidir linn a cabhair a fháil- bíodh sé ó theaghlach, cairde nó cúram leanaí. Seo iad na rudaí is féidir linn a dhéanamh dúinn féin. Ach tá rudaí is féidir linn a dhéanamh do dhaoine eile ann freisin. Nuair a smaoineamh faoi conas a chaitheamh do spúnóga nó comharthaí, ar leataobh le do thoil le méid áirithe do do moms eile. Is féidir leat é a dhéanamh trí thacaíocht. Tairiscint ar ghualainn go caoin ar, leathnú do lámh chúnta, a rá focail a spreagadh. Féadfaidh sé cosúil mhaith a chaitheamh do chuid spúnóga lómhara féin, ach tá sé i ndáiríre ar chineál an infheistíocht. Toisc go bhfuil aon phraghas níos éasca a íoc má páirceanna imeartha ag gach duine sa. Ach, gach imagery eacnamaíoch agus meafarach leataobh, Ba mhaith liom ach a chur in iúl an soiléire: Is máithreachas crua. A ligean ar a bheith de chineál chun muid féin. Agus a ligean ar cabhrú lena chéile amach. Ar ndóigh,, Ní mór dúinn i ndáiríre teoiricí sin a mhíniú cé chomh deacair é a bheith amhlaidh ina mam. Ach shíl mé go bhfuil an teoiric spúnóg ar bhealach sách maith chun na dúshláin an mháithreachais a léiriú. Cad atá tú smaointe faoi seo? An bhfuil sé ina chuidiú chun smaoineamh ar do lá i dtéarmaí a bhfuil líon teoranta de spúnóga (nó comharthaí) a chaitheamh? Is é seo an bpost bunaidh a Moms Domhanda Blag ón ár scríbhneoir Polainne san Ísiltír, Olga Mecking. Tá an íomhá a úsáidtear sa phost seo do shochar Nicki Mannix. Tá sé Flickr Creative Commons Crediúint ceadúnas.