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There are probably more in your church who’ve experienced loss than you realize. At a time of festivity, some in your congregation are struggling. The “Holidays” are no holiday for them. It’s a time of pushing emotional hot buttons. If you want to minister to a large percentage of your folks, figure out a way to convey some practical thoughts that will make an adjustment. Send an email, weekly ezine, or just build these into the end of a message… When you’re with friends and relatives at Thanksgiving-Christmas and others are sharing what they’re grateful for / are celebrating, instead of focusing on your past and sense of loss, tell a funny story about them! Close by making a toast to the memory of that person. Smile. Laugh, tears – it’ll be okay. Don’t be afraid to make changes to long-standing traditions. Keep a couple of them, then try on a few more to see how they fit. Repeat next year. Realize there is a difference between “Celebrating” and “observing.” Find a better focus. Here’s the biggest adjustment you can make to fight a negative focus – do something aimed beyond yourself. Reach out to the Needy for example. If you need an idea, go to an inner-city soup mission and serve in a practical way. “Soup ladling therapy.” Maybe buy a few dozen donuts and give them out to those who have to work on Christmas Eve / Day. Tell them this is a simple way to bring the amazing love of Jesus who is madly in love with them. If you are chicken to go by yourself, ask a few friends until someone agrees to come along. Bless those you touch with a 10 second prayer. They’ll probably say yes.
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Tá dócha níos mó i do eaglais a bhfuil na maidí caillteanas taithí ná tuigeann tú. Ag am ar festivity, roinnt i do bpobal atá ag streachailt. An “Laethanta Saoire” Níl aon saoire dóibh. Tá sé am ag brú cnaipí te mhothúchánach. Más mian leat chun aire céatadán mór de do folks, figiúr amach ar bhealach a chur in iúl roinnt smaointe praiticiúla a dhéanamh coigeartú. Seol r-phost, ríomhiris seachtainiúil, nó a thógáil ach iad faoin deireadh teachtaireacht… Nuair a bhíonn tú le cairde agus gaolta ag Thanksgiving an Nollaig agus daoine eile ag roinnt cad tá siad buíoch as / ag ceiliúradh, seachas díriú ar do am atá caite agus tuiscint ar chaillteanas, scéal a insint greannmhar mar gheall orthu! Dún trí toast do chuimhne an duine sin. Smile. Gáire, deora – beidh sé a bheith ceart go leor. Ná bíodh eagla ort chun athruithe a dhéanamh le fada an lá traidisiún. Coinnigh ar feadh cúpla acu, ansin déan iarracht ar níos cúpla a fheiceáil conas siad oiriúnach. Déan an bhliain seo chugainn. Realize go bhfuil difríocht idir “Ceiliúradh” agus “breathnú.” Aimsigh fócas níos fearr a. Seo é an coigeartú is mó is féidir leat a dhéanamh le dul i ngleic le fócas diúltach – rud éigin a dhéanamh atá dírithe thar féin. Bhaint amach do nGátar mar shampla. Más gá duit smaoineamh, dul go dtí an misean anraith lár na cathrach agus a sheirbheáil ar bhealach praiticiúil. “Anraith ladling teiripe.” B'fhéidir cheannach dosaen donuts cúpla agus iad a thabhairt amach dóibh siúd a bheith ag obair ar Oíche Nollag / Lá. Abair leo é seo ar bhealach simplí a thabhairt ar an grá iontach Íosa atá Kostek i ngrá leis leo. Má tá tú sicín dul le tú féin, a iarraidh ar roinnt cairde go dtí go n-aontaíonn duine éigin chun teacht. Beannaigh iad siúd tú teagmháil a dhéanamh le 10 paidir an dara. Beidh siad a rá dócha yes.