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What is domestic violence? Information in Irish sign language Domestic violence is where one person tries to control and assert power over their partner in an intimate relationship. It can be physical abuse, emotional abuse, sexual abuse or financial abuse. In the majority of cases it is perpetrated by men and experienced by women. Any woman can be affected and it can happen in any home. There may be warning signs that your relationship is abusive. What is physical abuse? Physical abuse is perhaps the most recognisable form of abuse. It can result in physical injury, and in some cases it can be life threatening. It doesn't always leave visible marks or scars. Having your hair pulled or an egg thrown at you is domestic violence too. Don't underestimate what is happening to you. Over time it often gets worse. It includes: - being pushed - being punched and slapped. - being beaten with sticks, golf clubs, hurley sticks, hammers and belts. - being stabbed with knives or broken glass. - being gagged to stop the screams during physical assaults. - being spat and urinated on. - being bitten severely, being pulled by the hair. - being beaten and raped while pregnant, being thrown down the stairs while pregnant. - having your head banged off walls and car dashboards. What is emotional abuse? Emotional abuse is a highly effective means of establishing a power imbalance within a relationship. It is often unseen or intangible to those outside the relationship. Emotional abuse is as harmful as physical violence. It often involves threats of and actual physical or sexual abuse. It includes: - being put down - being constrantly criticised - being constantly controlled and monitored by the use of technology: including their phone use being checked and recorded; their mobile phone logs being checked and having all text messages read; abusers using spyware to read emails and secretly installing cameras in the house. - threats by the abuser to kill women, the children, members of women's family, or himself, including details of how and when he will do it. - property being destroyed including their cars, furniture, clothes, and home. - being referred to using derogatory language including calling women 'it', 'bitch'. - being trapped as the abuser takes their car keys, empties the petrol from their cars, and steals or smashes phones so women cannot seek assistance. - never being left on their own; women being followed room to room; being accompanied to all outside activities. What is sexual abuse? Where there is a dynamic of control and abuse in an intimate relationship, the likelihood of sexual coercion and abuse is high. It is harder for women who are being abused by their partner to negotiate a free and equal sexual relationship with that partner. It includes: - being repeatedly raped and beaten; being forcibly stripped and raped; being told that it is their duty to have sex with the abuser. - being raped in front of the children. - being raped when particularly physically vulnerable, e.g., directly following childbirth. - Sexual degradation including the enforced use of graphic and hardcore pornography. What is financial abuse? Financial abuse is a form of domestic violence in which the abuser uses money as a means of controlling his partner. It is a tactic that abusers use to gain power and dominance over their partners and is designed to isolate a woman into a state of complete financial dependence. By controlling the woman's access to financial resources the abuser ensures that she will be forced to choose between staying in an abusive relationship and facing extreme poverty. It includes: - Controlling the family finances - Not being allowed to have independent income - Having to account for all purchases including providing receipts and account for all spending. - Not being allowed to buy personal items such as tampons and sanitary towels. - Taking all of the woman's bank cards and emptying joint accounts. - Non-payment or erratic payment of child maintenance. - Women's signatures being forged on cheques. - Withholding money because women do not want to have sex. - Denying money for food for women and the children and money to pay household bills. - Using the recession to justify the abuse. If you are, or think you may be in an abusive relationship, you can ring the Women's Aid National Freephone Helpline 1800 341 900 today for information and support. Find out more about keeping safe and how Women's Aid can help .
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Cad iad na comharthaí rabhaidh a bhaineann le caidreamh mí-úsáid? Is éard is foréigean baile ann cás ina dtugann duine amháin iarraidh a bpáirtí a rialú agus iad a bheith faoi bhois an chait acu i ndlúthchaidreamh. D'fhéadfadh sé gur mí-úsáid chorpartha, mí-úsáid mhothúchánach, mí-úsáid ghnéasach nó mí-úsáid airgeadais atá i gceist. I bhformór na gcásanna is é fir a dhéanann an mhí-úsáid agus is do mhná a tharlaíonn sé. Is féidir leis tarlú do bhean ar bith agus is féidir leis tarlú i mbaile ar bith. D'fhéadfadh sé go bhfuil comharthaí rabhaidh ann go bhfuil do chaidreamh mí-úsáide. Cad is mí-úsáid chorpartha ann? Is cosúil gurb é mí-úsáid chorpartha an cineál de mhí-úsáid is inaitheanta atá ann. D'fhéadfadh gortú corpartha tarlú dá bharr, agus i roinnt cásanna d'fhéadfadh sé a bheith bagrach don bheatha. Ní fhágann sé marcanna nó coilm infheicthe i gcónaí. Is foréigean baile é fosta má tharraingnítear do ghruaig nó má chaitear ubh ort. Ná déan gannmheas ar a bhfuil ag tarlú duit. Le himeacht ama éiríonn sé níos measa de ghnáth. Áirítear leis: - tú a bhrú - dorn nó buille a bhuaileadh ort. - tú a bhuaileadh le bacaí, clubanna gailf, camain, casúir agus criosanna. - tú a shá le sceana nó le gloine bhriste. - mantóg a chur ort leis na scréacha a stopadh i rith ionsuithe corpartha. - seile a chaitheamh ort nó mún a dhéanamh ort. - greim an-dian a bhaint asat, do ghruaig a tharraingt. - tú a bhuaileadh nó a éigniú a dhéanamh ort agus tú ag súil, tú a chaitheamh síos an staighre agus tú ag súil. - do chloigeann a bhuaileann in éadan ballaí agus deaiseanna. Cad is mí-úsáid mhothúchánach ann? Is bealach an-éifeachtúil é mí-úsáid mhothúnánach le héagothromaíocht chumhachta a chruthú i gcaidreamh. Go minic ní fheictear daoine lasmuigh den chaidreamh é nó bíonn sé dóláimhsithe acu. Tá mí-úsáid mhothúnánach chomh contúirteach céanna agus atá mí-úsáid chorpartha. Bíonn bagairtí de mhí-úsáid chorpartha nó ghnéasach nó tarlaíonn mí-úsáid chorpartha nó ghnéasach i gceist leis. Áirítear leis: - tú a mhaslú - tú a cháineadh i gcónaí - tú a rialú agus a mhonatóiriú i gcónaí trí úsáid teicneolaíochta: lena n-áirítear a nguthán a sheiceáil agus a thaifeadadh; logaí a nguthán póca a sheiceáil agus na teachtaireachtaí téacs ar fad a léamh; mí-úsáideoirí ag úsáid earraí frithspiaireachta le ríomhphoist a léamh agus camearaí a shuiteáil go rúnda sa teach. - bagairtí ón mí-úsáideoir mná, na páistí, agus baill teaghlaigh na mná, nó é féin a mharú, lena n-áirítear sonraí ar an dóigh a ndéanfaidh sé é agus cá huair a dhéanfaidh sé é. - maoin a mhilleadh lena n-áirítear a gcarranna, an troscán, éadaí agus an teach. - teanga dhímheasúil a úsáid lena n-áirítear ag tabhairt 'rud' 'raicleach' ar mhná. - a bheith gafa toisc go dtógann an mí-úsáideoir eochracha a gcarranna leis, folmhaíonn sé an peitreal as a gcaranna, agus goideann nó briseanna sé gutháin sa dóigh nach mbeidh mná ábalta cuidiú a lorg. - ní fhágtar leo féin choíche iad; mná a leanúint ó sheomra go seomra; dul leo go dtí gach eachtra a bhíonn ar siúl lasmuigh. Cad is mí-úsáid ghnéasach ann? I gcás go bhfuil gné rialaithe nó mí-úsáide i ndlúthchaidreamh, tá sé an-chosúil ar fad go dtarlóidh comhéigniú nó mí-úsáid ghnéasach. Tá sé níos deacra do mhná a bhfuil a bpáirtí ag tabhairt mí-úsáid dóibh caidreamh gnéasach saor agus cothrom a bheith acu leis an bpáirtí sin. Áirítear leis: - tú a éigniú agus a bhuaileadh arís agus arís eile; tú a nochtú agus a éigniú; á insint duit gurb é do dhualgas é gnéas a bheith agat leis an mí-úsáideoir - tú a éigniú os comhair na bpáistí. - tú a éigniú agus tú i staid shoghonta coirp, e.g., go díreach i ndiaidh leanbh a bheith agat. - Díghrádú gnéasach lena n-áirítear tabhairt ort pornagrafaíocht ghrafach agus chrua a úsáid. Cad is mí-úsáid airgeadais ann? Is éard is mí-úsáid airgeadais ann foréigean baile ina n-úsáideann an mí-úsáideoir airgead mar bhealach lena pháirtí a rialú. Beart atá ann a úsáideann mí-úsáideoirí d'fhonn chumhacht a fháil agus d'fhonn ceannsacht a bheith acu ar a bpáirtithe agus bíonn sé ceaptha d'fhonn go mbeidh bean ag brath go hiomlán ar airgead a fháil uaidh. Trí rochtain mhná ar acmhainní airgeadais a rialú cinntíonn an mí-úsáideoir go mbeidh uirthi fanacht i gcaidreamh mí-úsáideach nó bheith faoi dhianbhochtaineacht. Áirítear leis: - Airgead an teaghlaigh a rialú - Gan cead ioncam neamhspleách a bheith ag an mbean - Bheith ar an mbean cuntas a thabhairt ar gach rud a cheannaíonn sí lena n-áirítear adhmhálacha a thabhairt agus cuntas a thabhairt ar an gcaiteachas ar fad. - Gan cead a bheith aici earraí pearsanta amhail tampóin agus pillíní sláintíocha. - Cártaí bainc ar fad na mná a thabhairt leis agus comhchuntais a fholmhú. - Neamhíocaíocht nó íocaíocht chorrach de chothabháil leanaí. - Sínithe na mná ar sheiceanna á mbrionnú. - Ag coinneáil airgid siar toisc nach bhfuil nach mbíonn na mná ag iarraidh gnéis. - Airgead le haghaidh bia agus le haghaidh billí tí a choinneáil ó mhná agus óna leanaí. - Ag úsáid an chúlaithe le húdar a thabhairt don mhí-úsáid. Má cheapann go bhfuil tú, nó go mb'fhéidir go bhfuil tú, i gcaidreamh mí-úsáideach is féidir leat scairt a chur ar Líne Chabhrach Náisiúnta Ghrúpa Cúnta na mBan ag 1800 341 900 inniu le heolas agus tacaíocht a fháil. Léigh tuilleadh faoi fanacht sábháilte agus faoin dóigh ar féidir le Grúpa Cúnta na mBan cuidiú leat.