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8:15 AM - 早餐.我一直在享受早餐的时候了!的早晨对我来说是一个艰难的时间,前忙碌的小男孩长大了.大多数早晨,我坐在沙发上的贝贝看着TLC的早晨联盟度过的第一个小时.由于片断的贝贝的高需求,这只是没有任何早上的期望.现在,忙碌的男孩是在这里,我没有选择的余地.我要养活孩子!我绝对认为这有助于该片断的够大了,现在,她是在玩的东西感兴趣,所以她并不需要我不断关注和娱乐.即使她不进食固体食物,但我已经把她在她的椅子上,她最喜欢的玩具,或全麦饼干啃了,这样她就可以加入我们的早餐乐趣. 9:00 AM - 新的对接和播放时间.这是当我真的很高兴,片断的独立,将发挥她自己的,因为这可以让我做一些早上的例行家务的时候.在此期间,繁忙的男孩正在探索.他就是这样一个思想家.他喜欢对象是如何一起工作,尤其是在组合,我从来没有想到,像串起一个旅行车手柄上的塑料堆叠环. 10:00 AM - 繁忙的男孩,午睡时间片断的点心时间.是的,你看的没错,片断的究竟要经常上午小睡!大约一个月前开始,我爱它!根据她的感觉,她会睡1-3小时的任何地方.这是美妙的!点心时间是在一天的其他时间,我很感谢我的ASL的背景下,因为忙碌的男孩是能够让我知道他什么时候饿了,正是他想要的东西.这是令人难以置信的.我认真地差点哭了一天,而不是抱怨和呼噜声,他的帽子,他看到在他的尿布袋的时候,他签署了“的帽子,请.”惊人的. 10:30 AM – More play time. Since Bitty is usually asleep at this time, I try to take this time to spend some good one-on-one time with Busy Boy and work on more specific skills. It's pretty obvious that Busy Boy was never really read to, as he has no idea what to do with a book, and cannot identify objects in pictures…like any. So this is something I am really trying to work with him on. It's hard sometimes, because he is so active he doesn't really want to sit still with me. Now, don't get me wrong, he is a very cuddly kid, and loves to be rocked and snuggled, but right now reading seems like a waste of good play time to him. So I am trying to read AROUND him a lot, and catch him during his few quiet times. I've been collecting children's books for years, so I am super excited to share these wonderful books with my kiddos. We'll get there. Update: Since I wrote this, Busy Boy is now choosing to get books off the bookshelf and look at them independently! He has been pointing to pictures and telling me about them, such as pointing to a picture of Elmo taking a bath and signing and saying “bath time,” or “night nights” for Ernie in bed. 4:00 AM – Bitty usually wakes up declaring that she is starving to death, so I stumble out of bed, use the facilities as fast as possible, make her a bottle, and try not to fall asleep on my child as I give her the sustenance she so desperately desires. Then back to sleep for as long as possible. Just writing all that really reminds me of how much life has changed since Jeremiah and Gabe were here. Gabe came to visit last weekend, and he commented multiple times how funny it was to see all the baby stuff around the house. He loves it though, and is so glad to have the opportunity to be big brother to Busy Boy and Bitty. As I said in the last post, we knew that God knew what He was doing, and that even if the sib placement didn't work out, that He had a reason that He was preparing us. Finally, two weeks after we got the initial referral for the sibling group, our agency gave us a call to tell us that the variance for other family had been approved, so we would not be getting the 4-pack, but before she even took a breath she had something else to ask us. She asked me, because Hubby was at work, if we would consider taking a two year-old boy. 她和他分配的工作花了接下来的几分钟扬声器电话,我告诉我的,他们知道得太少了关于他的.他只照顾了几天,最初被放置在寄养家庭,谁决定他们不能处理大发脾气,.他们告诉我,显然他发脾气时,他听到“不”,打自己,并击中他的头往地板上. 我想在这一点上,“这个家庭不知道什么2岁的孩子吗?”男孩的一切是非常积极的,发脾气没吓着我了一下.其实,我真的很喜欢意志坚强性,配备了幼儿罩. I love how they are developing their sense of self, and literally learning how to be human. I love their creativity and ingenuity, and how they can help you think outside the box, because they do it so naturally. 作为一个不那么有趣的侧边栏,我得到了一个非常糟糕的情况下,胃流感,上周末开始,所以我是不适合任何其他比躺在沙发上,喝着水. That put all of our well-intentioned preparation plans on hold, so when we got the call about the little boy we had no choice but to go into overdrive. Hubby came home from work and got right to painting. 我完成了最后一道周三上午,几个小时前,我们的新的小家伙将抵达. There was such a lack of info on this little one that we really didn't know what to expect. When our worker pulled into the driveway, I was definitely excited, but not nervous at all. It's a weird feeling, waiting to see who this little person will be. 我从来没有出生,但我想,它是类似的,除了我们经常仅仅几天甚至几个小时的通知,预计这些新成员对我们的家庭. This time was particularly strange because, unlike Bright Eyes or Bitty Babe, this boy was already 2 years-old. 他有2年的历史,我们的一部分. 2 full years of experiences that shaped his little personality and his perception of this world of which we would never know the full extent. That is something unique to the foster care and adoption experience that is hard to describe completely. Anywho,个案工作的他,坐他的车,我得到了我第一次看到我们新增加的. He was tiny for a 27 month-old. 他穿着一件蓝色迷彩帽,遮住了他的草莓金色卷发. His bright blue eyes sparkled as he pointed at me and smiled and said something in his own little language. He reached up for me and I scooped him up and brought him up the stairs, and together we held the door open for the two workers (his worker and a worker in training) as they brought in his stuff. It only took a few moments for me to think of the perfect nickname for this little dude. As he raced around our house, exploring every detail along the way, I dubbed him “Busy Boy.” The workers (his worker and a workers spent about half an hour with us, answering questions as best they could, and observing his comfort level. They were both impressed at how observant he was and how quickly he figured out the house. 马上给我印象最深的一件事是智能忙男孩是如何.我给他看了自己的房间,告诉他:“这是你的房间!”,就是这样.他的幽默感了我个措手不及. At one point, while the workers were still here, he found a small blanket, covered himself up, and pretended to snore. 我崩溃了! Anywho, I could talk about Busy Boy's amazing personality all day, and I will definitely be expanding more about his first few days with us, but for now I will say that first impressions were better than I could have imagined. 他绝对是意志坚强,并用他的方式获得,但他“强烈发脾气”是可笑的,他回答立即向我们提供了结构化的环境. 我们不知道将来会怎样,无论是我们的小的,但事情肯定是朝着长期为. This is an exciting time for Hubby and myself. 我们每天在主的手中把我们的家庭,我们正享受着每一刻,我们拥有这些珍贵的小家伙. Finally I got a call from our agency saying that the DHS worker had been working with a different family trying to get them to take all four, but they had 4 already and so they were working on getting them a variance, since 8 is above the state's licensing limit. We (our agency worker included) were dumbfounded! Suddenly, the tables had totally turned. The DHS worker went from handing over the babies sight unseen, to totally changing her tune and trying to keep the kids in her county. The part that frustrated me was the unprofessionalism of leading us on, allowing us to continue to prepare for these kids, even having us come out and spend more time with them, when all the while she had another plan. Also, the lack of communication was very irritating. Why didn't she just tell us that they were exploring other options? Why didn't she call me back when she said she would? COMMUNICATION, PEOPLE! Anywho, even after we were told about the new plan, we still had to wait to see if the variance would be approved for the other family. If it wasn't approved, than we would be the only choice to keep the 4 together. So we waited. In the mean time, we knew that even if this placement didn't work out, that the Lord had been preparing us for a reason. Whether it were just an exercise in obedience, or whether He had another child in mind that He wanted to open our hearts for, we knew that He had a plan that was bigger than any DHS worker. Finally, this past Tuesday our agency gave us a call to tell us that the variance for other family had been approved, so we would not be getting the 4-pack, but before she even took a breath she had something else to ask us….
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Twists, Géara, agus Tosaigh Nua: Cuid 1 An dá anuas sheachtain a bheith ina sciobtha de mhothúcháin, roghanna crua, agus luach saothair mór. Mar a dúirt mé i mo bhlag físeán seo caite, bhí muid aghaidh leis an deis a ghlacadh i ngrúpa sibling de 4 cinn beag. Chuaigh muid chun freastal orthu agus thit i ngrá. An t-oibrí DHS ag iarraidh orainn a ghlacadh ar an dá leanaí an oíche, radharc unseen, ach ní raibh muid compordach leis an socrú sin. I gcás amháin, bhí againn chun labhairt le Rachel mar gheall air. Is é seo a teach freisin, tar éis gach. Mar sin, dúradh linn an t-oibrí go raibh gá againn le cúpla lá chun smaoineamh agus pray faoi, ansin ba mhaith linn a dhéanamh ar ár gcinneadh. Bheadh sé a bheith ina athrú ar an saol mór, ag cur ar cheithre, go háirithe ceithre sin óg (6 mhí, 2, 4, agus 6), ach bhí muid ar cheann nagging ceist ag ár gcroí nach mbeadh dul díreach amach: Más rud é nach linn, a? Mar sin, guí orainn faoi ar feadh dhá lá, agus ansin thóg muid an léim an chreidimh agus dúirt "Tá!" Rinne muid an cinneadh mar theaghlach; Rachel, Hubby, agus bhí mé féin go léir a bheith i gcomhaontú, agus bhí muid. Bhí imní cinnte, rudaí a freaked muid amach go hiomlán, ach sa deireadh bhí a fhios againn go raibh muid a bheith obedient agus a rá cad a bhí ár gcroí ag caoineadh, agus bhí siad ag caoineadh do na páistí. Mar sin, tar éis a dúirt muid yes, tar éis fanacht againn. Fhan muid a chloisteáil cad a bhí an chéad chéim eile ag dul a bheith agus nuair a bheadh na páistí ag teacht abhaile. A cinneadh i againn a bheith a socrúchán altrama seo caite, mar sin bhíomar ag iarraidh a bheith chomh hullmhaithe agus is féidir. Thosaigh muid láithreach a ullmhú ár n-bhaile agus chuir mé amach SOS le gach duine a d'fhéadfadh a thugann aire a thosú soláthairtí a bhailiú. Oddly, ní raibh cumarsáid beag ó DHS an chontae na páistí cónaí faoi láthair isteach Bhí sé lá roimh chuala muid rud ar bith, agus ansin cad a chuala muid go raibh nach raibh an t-oibrí DHS cinnte faoi na socrúchán ar bith níos mó. Shíl sí go raibh muid "standoffish" ag an gcruinniú, a fuair muid thar a bheith scéal é, bheadh duine ar bith a bhfuil aithne aige orainn ar chor ar bith. Bhí muid ar dhaoine eatarthu thar a bheith, go háirithe tar éis a rinne sí ar dtús chun a fháil ar ár gcumas a chur ar an páistí láithreach, gan riamh freastal ar fiú dúinn. Anywho, bhí ár gníomhaireachta stiúrthóir cúram altrama iontach idirghabhálaí mór agus iarracht a fháil ar rudaí figured amach, ach an t-oibrí DHS a bhí á thar a bheith mearbhall ar gach taobh. Ach choinnigh muid ag ullmhú. Sin Dé Luain seo chugainn bhí orm taisteal suas ar a mbealach chun Bitty Babe a thabhairt chuig an dochtúir le ceapachán, agus a n-DHS oibrí shíl mé go mbeadh sé ag smaoineamh maith dúinn chun freastal ar na páistí arís, chun iad a fháil chun sinn a fheiceáil, agus le linn a a fháil fhreagairt ceist ar bith, ós rud é dúradh linn ag an bpointe seo go mbeadh an t-aistriú i an dáta a bheith go Dé hAoine. Rachel a bhí ag dul a bheith liom, mar sin bheadh a bheith go deis iontach do di a freagairt dóibh. An cruinniú a bhí i ndáiríre, i ndáiríre corr. Bhí am iontach ag imirt leis na páistí, ach an t-oibrí DHS imithe! Nuair nár léirigh sí ar ais ar bun, ní bheadh sí freagra ar aon cheann de mo chuid ceisteanna. Bhí sí á incredibly elusive, fiú le rudaí simplí mar mhéideanna éadaí na páistí 'agus roghanna bia. Shíl mé go b'fhéidir sí nach raibh ach ag iarraidh a labhairt os comhair na leanaí, mar sin d'iarr mé uirthi más rud é go raibh muid ábalta labhairt níos déanaí an tráthnóna sin, agus dúirt sí go mbeadh sí a thabhairt dom glao tar éis thit sí na páistí amach. Ní raibh sí ag glaoch. Ní raibh sí ag glaoch ar an lá dár gcionn ach an oiread, tar éis d'fhág mé léi teachtaireacht ag iarraidh í a THOIL a thabhairt dom glao ar ais. Sí riamh ar a dtugtar. Cad ar fud an domhain a bhí suas? Ar deireadh, fuair mé glao ó ár gníomhaireachta rá go raibh an t-oibrí DHS ag obair le teaghlaigh éagsúla ag iarraidh a fháil dóibh gach ceithre, ach bhí siad 4 cheana féin, agus mar sin go raibh siad ag obair ar fáil dóibh Athraitheas, ó 8 os cionn an teorainn ceadúnaithe stáit. Táimid (ár oibrí gníomhaireachta san áireamh) a bhí dumbfounded! Go tobann, bhí na táblaí iompú go hiomlán. An t-oibrí DHS chuaigh ó handing thar an radharc leanaí unseen, go hiomlán ag athrú a tune agus ag iarraidh a choinneáil ar na páistí ina chontae. Ba é an chuid a frustrated dom an unprofessionalism le rá linn ar, a ligeann dúinn leanúint ar aghaidh ag ullmhú do na páistí, fiú tar éis dúinn teacht amach agus níos mó ama a chaitheamh leo, nuair a go léir agus go raibh sí plean eile. Chomh maith leis sin, bhí an easpa cumarsáide an-irritating. Cén fáth nach raibh sí ach a insint dúinn go raibh iniúchadh siad roghanna eile? Cén fáth nach raibh sí ag glaoch orm ar ais nuair a dúirt sí go mbeadh sí? CUMARSÁID, DAOINE! Anywho, fiú tar éis dúradh linn mar gheall ar an phlean nua, bhí muid fós ag fanacht a fheiceáil má bheadh an athraitheas a bheith ceadaithe le haghaidh an teaghlaigh eile. Más rud é nach raibh sé ceadaithe, ná mar ba mhaith linn a bheith ar an rogha amháin a choinneáil ar an 4 le chéile. Mar sin, tar éis fanacht againn. Idir an dá linn, bhí a fhios againn go fiú más rud é nach raibh an socrúchán ag obair amach, go raibh an Tiarna a ullmhú linn le haghaidh ar chúis. Cibé an raibh sé ach a fheidhmiú i obedience, nó cibé an raibh sé leanbh eile i gcuimhne go bhfuil Theastaigh sé a oscailt ár gcroí ar, bhí a fhios againn go raibh sé plean a bhí níos mó ná aon oibrí DHS. Ar deireadh, thug an am atá caite Dé Máirt ár gníomhaireachta dúinn glaoch a insint dúinn go raibh an athraitheas don teaghlach eile ceadaithe, mar sin ní ba mhaith linn a bheith ag fáil an 4-phacáiste, ach roimh thóg sí fiú anáil raibh sí rud éigin eile a iarraidh orainn ... . Chun leanúint ar aghaidh ..... Beannachtaí! Hannah