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The fact that we were three sisters meant that hand me downs and sharing clothing was a huge part of life, and it also meant that I did not always get to enjoy and appreciate my favorite shirt or shoes long enough. Let’s not even mention how much fighting went on. We basically disagreed on and fought over everything! When I think of how much noise and bickering went on, my head starts spinning. We were five siblings. I often repeat those words in my head just so that I can try to understand exactly how my parents managed to work long hours to provide for us and raise us. They did this all while still managing to maintain good relationships with all of us. It was always hard for me to wrap my head around how they handled it all, 和, 因此, I ended up never wanting a big family. Every time I say that to someone, 谁 (impolitely) asks if I’m thinking of having a second child, I get gasps and shocking looks. In many of our African and especially Tanzanian families, having and being happy with just one child is rather strange. ”为什么?” “你确定?” “Won’t she be lonely?” Are some of the many questions that come flying at me. 事实是,, I am happy. 是, with just only one child. It works for us, we are happy, and having a grand time. I am managing perfectly, meshing my schedule with hers. I feel that I’m able to give the best of myself to motherhood this way and in this space. At least in the meantime, 亦即. I don’t doubt that in the foreseeable future she will start asking for a sibling. *Laughs* 我必须说,, 虽然, that I do worry. Is it easier to spoil a child if it’s just her? What about narcissism? Is she more susceptible to it because she is often all on her own? What about being a loner? I even worry about the difference it would make in our relationship if, 其实, I do have a second baby. *Crazy mom talking* How many children do you have? What do you think are the advantages and disadvantages of having only one child? This is an original post by Nancy Sumari from Tanzania. You can find more of her writing at Mama Zuri. 照片的作者的信贷.
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Ar an bhfíric go raibh muid triúr deirfiúracha Chiallaigh sé sin go downs dom lámh agus bhí éadaí a roinnt ina cuid mhór den saol, agus chiallaigh sé freisin nach raibh mé a fháil i gcónaí chun taitneamh a bhaint agus a léirthuiscint mo léine nó bróga is fearr leat fada go leor. A ligean ar nach fiú trácht ar conas a chuaigh troid i bhfad ar. Níor aontaigh muid go bunúsach ar an agus throid os cionn gach rud! Nuair a smaoitighim ar conas a chuaigh torainn i bhfad agus bickering ar, Tosaíonn mo cheann sníomh. Bhí muid cúig deartháireacha. Mé arís go minic na focail sin i mo cheann go díreach ionas gur féidir liom iarracht a thuiscint go cruinn conas a bhainistiú mo thuismitheoirí a bheith ag obair uaireanta fada a chur ar fáil dúinn agus ardú dúinn. Siad raibh seo go léir agus fós a bhainistiú chun dea-chaidreamh le gach duine againn a choimeád ar bun. Bhí sé i gcónaí deacair dom a wrap mo cheann ar fud conas a láimhseáil siad go léir, agus, dá bhrí sin,, Chríochnaigh mé suas riamh mian leo teaghlach mór. Gach uair a rá liom go bhfuil duine éigin, a (impolitely) Iarrann má tá mé ag smaoineamh ar a bhfuil an dara leanbh, Gasps agus Breathnaíonn shocking a rachaidh mé. I go leor de shaol an teaghlaigh na hAfraice agus go háirithe na Tansáine, tar éis agus a bheith sásta leis ach páiste amháin in áit aisteach. ”Cén fáth?” “An bhfuil tú cinnte?” “Nach mbeidh sí a bheith uaigneach?” An bhfuil roinnt de na ceisteanna go leor a thagann ag eitilt ag dom. Is í an fhírinne, Tá áthas orm. Tá, le díreach ach páiste amháin. Oibríonn sé dúinn, tá áthas orainn, agus a bhfuil aga mhór. Tá mé bhainistiú breá, meshing mo sceideal le cuid. Is dóigh liom go bhfuil mé in ann a thabhairt ar an chuid is fearr de féin d'fhonn máithreachas ar an mbealach seo, agus sa spás seo. Ar a laghad, idir an dá linn, go bhfuil. Ní féidir liom amhras gur sa todhchaí intuartha go mbeidh sí tús a iarraidh le haghaidh deartháir nó deirfiúr. *Gáirí * Caithfidh mé a rá, cé go, go bhfuil mé buartha. An bhfuil sé níos éasca a spoil do leanbh má tá sé díreach aici? Cad mar gheall ar narcissism? An bhfuil sí níos mó a oirfeadh dó toisc go bhfuil sí go minic go léir ar a chuid féin? Cad mar gheall ar a bheith ina loner? Mé buartha fiú mar gheall ar an difríocht a dhéanfadh sé i ár gcaidreamh má, i ndáiríre, Dóigh liom go bhfuil an dara leanbh. *Mam Crazy caint * Cé mhéad páiste atá agat? Tá Cad a cheapann tú na buntáistí agus na míbhuntáistí a bhfuil ach páiste amháin? Is é seo an bpost bunaidh ag Nancy Sumari ó Tansáin. Is féidir leat teacht ar níos mó a scríobh ag Mama Zuri. Creidmheasa Photo don údar.