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Tá, tá sé fíor. Mo mhac 8-bliain d'aois agus mé go raibh comhrá mar gheall ar a bheith ina leanbh amháin agus an chosúlacht air go bhfuil siblíní go luath amach anseo le déanaí. Agus, go maith, this was the response that I received from him: Níl, Mamaí, I don’t want any siblings. Chun a bheith macánta, I have been asked several times why I still only have one child. It’s been asked so often that I already have a set of predetermined answers that I use, depending on who I am speaking with. “Maybe eventually, when we get our own place, we can have another kid.” “We live in one room. The only space I have left to put a crib in is the bathroom.” "Ó, it’s so expensive raising a child! And I’m already going nuts with just one.” “Someday.” “Maybe I haven’t gotten pregnant because I have yet to lose the baby weight from my last pregnancy. Oh, agus tá, I know it’s been eight years.” And the list goes on and on. There are days, cé go, when I ask myself if it’s time. My husband and I talked about it, ró-, on more than one occasion. We both agree that if it’s meant to be, Beidh sé tarlú. We also are on the same page in thinking that we should focus on raising our son, instead of dwelling on what may come into our lives in the future. He’s the only one, but he sure isn’t lonely. One of the things I am often told is that I should give my son someone to play with. Agus tá, it’s put in exactly those words, as if having one more kid was as simple as buying a toy from the store. I know for a fact that the age gap between my son and any baby that we might eventually have is too big for them to truly become playmates. I would know because my sister and I were born six years apart, and it was already difficult to relate to each other growing up. With the at least nine-year gap we are looking at, ag an bpointe seo, getting pregnant in order for my son to have a playmate isn’t exactly a compelling reason. Fortunately, fate has made up for his lack of siblings with a surplus of cousins, who are also about his age. Between my cousins and I, we have five small boys, and they get see each other quite often. One is even in the same school and grade level as my son. We also recently made friends with some of our neighbors who have young boys at home, and so playdates are fun for us both. The mommies get to chitchat while the kids run around and be kids together. And just recently, our family was blessed with a vacation getaway together with fellow World Moms Blog contributor, Tina and her family! Her son and mine became friends in an instant, and that trip was definitely one of the most memorable yet. Tá, he may be the only one, but he sure isn’t alone. Don’t worry baby, I’m happy with just you. I am very content being mom to just one child. There are definite perks to having a small family. I get to focus on my child 100% each and every time. And because my attention is all on him, I can see so clearly what an awesome kid he has turned out to be. He has become very close to both his dad and I. He is growing up to be independent, secure and confident. He knows how to keep himself occupied and entertained, and without gadgets at that. He is excited about making new friends and spending time with them. He loves hanging out with his parents, seantuismitheoirí, aunts and uncle. I know that being able to care for him myself, with the help of family, ar ndóigh, has played such a big role in his development. I, go hionraic, can’t say if it would have been the same with more kids at home, but there’s really no reason to dwell on what might have been. Chun anois, I am happy with just the opportunity to be a mom and to raise a child. And in the future, if it’s meant to be, I know that I will be the most excited over having more. Cad é faoi tú, cé mhéad páistí atá agat? Parents with only one child, does your kid look forward to having siblings? And to the moms with several children, how has having siblings helped your child in his growth and development? This is an original post to World Moms Blog by Mrs. C of “Mrs. C Saol Sugarcoated” in the Philippines. Creidmheasa Photo don údar.
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Tá, tá sé fíor. Mo mhac 8-bliain d'aois agus mé go raibh comhrá mar gheall ar a bheith ina leanbh amháin agus an chosúlacht air go bhfuil siblíní go luath amach anseo le déanaí. Agus, go maith, this was the response that I received from him: Níl, Mamaí, I don’t want any siblings. Chun a bheith macánta, I have been asked several times why I still only have one child. It’s been asked so often that I already have a set of predetermined answers that I use, depending on who I am speaking with. “Maybe eventually, when we get our own place, we can have another kid.” “We live in one room. The only space I have left to put a crib in is the bathroom.” "Ó, it’s so expensive raising a child! And I’m already going nuts with just one.” “Someday.” “Maybe I haven’t gotten pregnant because I have yet to lose the baby weight from my last pregnancy. Oh, agus tá, I know it’s been eight years.” And the list goes on and on. There are days, cé go, when I ask myself if it’s time. My husband and I talked about it, ró-, on more than one occasion. We both agree that if it’s meant to be, Beidh sé tarlú. We also are on the same page in thinking that we should focus on raising our son, instead of dwelling on what may come into our lives in the future. He’s the only one, but he sure isn’t lonely. One of the things I am often told is that I should give my son someone to play with. Agus tá, it’s put in exactly those words, as if having one more kid was as simple as buying a toy from the store. I know for a fact that the age gap between my son and any baby that we might eventually have is too big for them to truly become playmates. Bheadh a fhios agam toisc go raibh a rugadh mo dheirfiúr agus mé sé bliana óna chéile, agus bhí sé deacair cheana féin a bhaineann le gach ceann eile ag fás suas. Leis an bhearna ar a laghad naoi mbliana táimid ag féachaint ar, ag an bpointe seo, nach bhfuil ag éirí torrach in ord do mo mhac a bheith acu playmate go díreach ar chúis láidir. Fortunately, Tá cinniúint déanta suas as a chuid easpa deartháireacha le barrachas de col ceathracha, atá freisin mar gheall ar a aois. Idir mo chol ceathracha agus mé, táimid tar éis cúig buachaillí beaga, agus a fhaigheann siad a fheiceáil gach ceann eile go minic go leor. Is é ceann fiú sa scoil agus den leibhéal céanna grád mar mo mhac. Déanta againn chomh maith le déanaí cairde le roinnt dár gcomharsana a bhfuil buachaillí óga sa bhaile, agus mar sin tá playdates spraoi do dúinn araon. Na máithreacha a fháil chun chitchat fad a reáchtáil na páistí thart agus nach leanaí a chéile. Agus díreach le déanaí, bhí bheannaigh ár teaghlaigh le getaway vacation mar aon leis an gcomh Moms Domhanda Blag ranníocóir, Tina agus a teaghlach! Tháinig a mac agus a chairde mianach ar an toirt, agus go raibh an turas sí ar cheann de na is mó i gcuimhne fós. Tá, féadfaidh sé a bheith an ceann amháin, ach nach bhfuil sé cinnte go n-aonar. Ná bíodh imní ort leanbh, Tá mé sásta leis díreach tar éis duit. Tá mé an-ábhar á mam a raibh ach páiste amháin. Tá perks cinnte go bhfuil teaghlaigh beag. Rachaidh mé chun díriú ar mo pháiste 100% gach agus gach uair. Agus toisc go bhfuil mo aird air, Is féidir liom a fheiceáil go soiléir cad a kid uamhnach Tá chas sé amach a bheith. Tá sé ag éirí an-gar do araon a athair agus mé. Tá sé ag fás suas a bheith neamhspleách, slán agus muiníneach. Tá a fhios aige conas a choinneáil ar áitiú féin agus aird, agus gan gadgets ag an. Tá sé excited faoi a dhéanamh cairde nua agus am a chaitheamh leo. Is breá leis crochta amach lena tuismitheoirí, seantuismitheoirí, aintíní agus uncail. Tá a fhios agam go bhfuil a bheith in ann aire a thabhairt dó féin, le cabhrú le teaghlaigh, ar ndóigh, Bhí sórt sin a ról mór i bhforbairt a. I, go hionraic, Ní féidir a rá an mbeadh sé a bheith mar an gcéanna le níos mó páistí sa bhaile, ach aon chúis a dwell ar cad a d'fhéadfadh a bheith ann i ndáiríre. Chun anois, Tá mé sásta leis ach an deis a bheith ina mam agus a ardú leanbh. Agus sa todhchaí, má tá sé i gceist a bheith, Tá a fhios agam go mbeidh mé a bheith ar an chuid is mó excited thar a bhfuil níos mó. Cad é faoi tú, cé mhéad páistí atá agat? Tuismitheoirí a bhfuil ach leanbh amháin, Ní do kid táim ag tnúth le bheith siblíní? Agus do na moms le roinnt páistí, conas a bhfuil chabhraigh siblíní do leanbh ina bhfás agus i bhforbairt? Is é seo an bpost bunaidh a Moms Domhanda Blag Mrs. C “Mrs. C Saol Sugarcoated” sna hOileáin Fhilipíneacha. Creidmheasa Photo don údar.