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bhacly @adminactive 2 hours, 37 minutes ago Fractal Enlightenment posted an update 10 months agoDon’t fear change! bhacly wrote a new post, Creating Boundaries: Why Putting Ourselves First is Necessary 10 months ago bhacly wrote a new post, The Art of Being in the World but Not Of the World 10 months, 2 weeks ago “Only your surface is disturbed; in your deepness there is stillness and total tranquility” – Bryan McGill Let’s face it, life happens. In today’s world people have responsibilities, we need money to survive, we need to take care of our kids, we need to take care of our health and we need to pay our bills. There are always going to be things that need to be done. And just when we think we’ve got everything down pat and all is well… a friend or family member comes along to tell us about their latest catastrophe in their lives. It seems as if stress has become a way of life for most. In fact, it has become so much of a norm that if you were to actually tell someone that life is good, you can’t complain or that you feel truly happy… most people won’t even believe you! They’ll either think you’re delusional, or in denial, or turning a blind eye to life in general. However, at a certain point we got sold a lie. That lie being that stress is normal, stress is honorable, stress means you’re ambitious, stress means you’re reaching goals, stress is glamorous, stress means you care about your job or your family, being stressed means you’re important and successful. But is there a happy medium? Is there a way to not only take on all of the responsibilities of our day to day lives plus listen to the calamities and complaints of our friends and family while still remaining in our peaceful center? Is there a way to physically be IN this world, participate in all of situations and circumstances while at the same time not being OF the world, which means not becoming so involved and attached to every event, to the point of pulling our hair out in worry or frustration? “Stress is never a given. There are people who get divorced amicably. There are people who pack up and move with no emotional toll. There is no stressor ‘out there’ in the world. We experience stress or we don’t based on what we believe.” – Andrew Bernstein Ironically, most stress is not happening in the present moment. It’s happening as a result of our thinking about a situation. Either we are replaying a past event and letting the replay anger us over and over again or we are worrying about an alleged future event that may or may not even happen. We are literally using our imagination, to dream up worst case scenarios, when in actuality it would take the same amount of time and effort to let our imagination conjure up best case scenarios. In order to become aware of which people, places and things in our lives are causing us the most stress we must become super aware of our thought patterns. How often are we thinking about certain things and what is the belief behind the thought that is causing the stress to happen? For example, if we are replaying a past event that continues to anger us over and over, it’s usually stemming from the belief that someone SHOULD HAVE acted in a certain way, or an event SHOULD HAVE happened in the way we expected it to. The belief that things should go exactly as we want them to causes us to become angry and frustrated. But the fact of the matter is, life rarely goes exactly as we expect it to. There are traffic jams, people run late, people say things we don’t like, we may feel sick, our family may get sick, etc… The sooner we come to terms with the fact that not every single event in our lives is going to go exactly like we planned we are able to connect with the calm amidst life’s storms. Our inner core, the peaceful center that resides in all of us, has no attachment to outcomes. It doesn’t live in the “should have” or the “shouldn’t have”, it literally takes life as it comes, therefore it rarely is disturbed by the unexpectedness of day to day events. When peacefulness becomes our norm, we naturally move away from places and people and even thought patterns that are disturbing that peace. From this state of being, one of being rooted in our awareness, we are able to handle life’s unexpected situations in an “as they come” manner. Problems that CAN be changed, are changed. People that CAN be removed from our lives are removed. Places that CAN be moved away from are moved away from. Life becomes amazingly simple. As for the things that cause us stress that can’t be solved, we learn the art of acceptance. If a situation arises that cannot be immediately fixed by us, we are forced to accept this thing as it is and instead change our thinking about the situation. The beauty of us becoming the calm in the middle of our own storms is that we can use this tactic when dealing with other people in our lives as well. Very often there will be people in our lives that beg for us to be involved in their drama, negative outlook or complaining about little things. Here, we not only get to practice acceptance, meaning we accept that they are in that moment complaining about their issue, but we also learn the practice of responding vs. reacting. Instead of allowing ourselves to get caught up in their storm we can respond to them from our own awareness. So either we give them a piece of advice we believe will help them, or we simply just listen to them and empathize that they are feeling upset. There is no right or wrong way to respond, because it comes from a genuine place vs. reactivity, which comes from a place of placing our own expectations and beliefs on their behavior. “I feel very still and empty, the way the eye of the tornado must feel moving dully along in the middle of the surrounding hullabaloo” – Sylvia Plath It may feel weird at first, perhaps even boring, to not be so involved in the eye of every storm. Usually when a person has become addicted to chaos and stress the first signs of inner peace may feel strange and quiet. But eventually what will happen is that little things become our excitement and joy. Eating a good meal, spending quality time with a quality friend, drinking an amazing cup of coffee or enjoying the peacefulness of a beautiful sunset replaces stress and becomes our “excitement”. And when we do start to find true joy in simple and small things vs. depending on stress to make us feel alive, it becomes harder and harder to convince us to get caught up in the petty pursuits of our own egos or the negativity of other people. At this point of experiencing inner stillness, happiness and gratitude becomes our natural state, which allows us to see the beauty, magic and extraordinary in everyday life. Image Source Fractal Enlightenment posted an update 10 months, 3 weeks ago❤ ❤ Reazon Da Vine and bhacly are now friends 11 months, 1 week ago jo and bhacly are now friends 11 months, 1 week ago David May and bhacly are now friends 11 months, 1 week ago bhacly posted a new activity comment 11 months, 3 weeks ago is this your art? bhacly posted an update 1 year ago @soffy – How are you doing? Koye and bhacly are now friends 1 year ago Sofy and bhacly are now friends 1 year ago Kulani and bhacly are now friends 1 year, 1 month ago Fractal Enlightenment unlocked the achievement: We are Family 1 year, 1 month ago SylviaL and bhacly are now friends 1 year, 1 month ago bhacly commented on the post, Death – The Desolation of Thought 1 year, 1 month ago Did you try signing in again? bhacly wrote a new post, No Tree Knows Mystery – Drawing Parallels Between the Life of a Human and a Tree 1 year, 1 month ago Life is a marvelous teacher. If you look closely at any part of life, you will realise there is something to learn from everything, even a tree. The life of a tree has many parallels to the life of a human. While most of these similarities are physical, there are existential lessons to be learned from the physical as it is how we process and experience life. Let’s take a look at what these words convey. From the very beginning of a tree’s life, we can see parallels to our own lives. While the processes are different, a seed is planted in the earth much like sperm and ovum are planted in the uterus. The seed begins to grow in two directions remarkably similar to the zygote which divides and grows through mitosis. The earth is the womb to the seed as the mother is the womb to zygote. Thus, the beginning of the lesson provided by the tree is that many things in life grow in two directions. We as humans are often taught that light is good and darkness is evil. The tree shows us that this is not the case as by growing down into the earth it nourishes, anchors and stabilizes itself. Simultaneously, the tree grows up into the atmosphere. Here, we see how the tree seeks sunlight to harness, convert and store its energy. The message is of maintaining a balance of up and down, dark and light, and that our primary sources of physical existence are the sun and earth. During birth and youth, the tree is vulnerable much like the humans. It requires proper environment to grow and flourish like nutrient rich soil, water and sunlight. The tree is shaped by its environment as the wind, soil, rain, rocks, animals and human constructs promote or interfere with its growth. Young humans too are profoundly influenced by their environment, both physically and emotionally. Humans require atmosphere, water, food, clothing and shelter as well as care givers to love and teach them. Again a parallel, the earth and sun are to the tree what the mother and father are to the child. As the tree transitions from sprout to sapling, it must be strong yet flexible as the elements in nature are at times harsh. The perils of the adolescent tree are many and include fire, drought, flood, extreme temperature, wind, moss, other plants, insects, animals and humans. These same elements are concerns to young humans as well. Apart from physical, humans have emotional and psychological needs that are ideally provided in a beneficial manner yet many times they are detrimental; much akin to treachery within nature. This parallel is that the beneficial supports and nourishes while the difficult strengthens and prepares us for future challenges. Throughout its existence the tree grows, blooms, reproduces, sheds, sometimes goes dormant and eventually dies just as all physical entities must. Humans also have seasons in life, and while we do not shed leaves we do have friends and family that perish (parts of our family tree). The physical losses of the tree are much like the physical losses of humans, yet we have an emotional/psychological component. A lesson from the tree shows that while it may lose all of its leaves and even some branches in the fall – there will soon be new leaves to grow and new branches that will help nourish its growth. Each time we lose a loved one we are given an opportunity to give that love to someone else, someone that needs it and someone that may very well respond in kind. In life trees behave in response to the seasons. They have means to procreate. They house many other organisms from the microscopic, to insects, reptiles, to birds, primates and in death they even house humans. They usually live for many years and provide stability and nourishment to topsoil. They provide shade, weather protection, oxygen, sometimes food in life and then in death they provide timber for building, heating and cooking. As we live our lives, we humans have comparable experiences and provide many of the same services to each other as well as to other species whether intentionally or inadvertently. Another phenomenon that the tree demonstrates well is how life continues uninterrupted even after what appears to be an end. Consider the tree that provides firewood to cook a meal that a human eats. In this instance, the life of the tree (its stored energy) is released to feed the fire which in turn cooks the food to feed a human who in turn has a child that plants a tree. Thus the tree shows us how there is no beginning, and no end to life. Life is a cycle that does not judge or condemn or expect anything. It just is. There are many lessons here as the tree does not begrudge or charge the insects and animals that take residence, sustenance or proximity to it. The tree gives much while taking only what it requires from the earth and the sun. It grows up into the light, and it grows down into darkness. All it has to give, it offers unconditionally without expectations and regrets. In the bleak of winter, it stands patiently awaiting spring without self-pity, complaint or worry. The tree in its simplicity understands that it is a beautiful part of something much grander than itself and if you care to observe its example you can learn from what it leaves. bhacly posted a new activity comment 1 year, 1 month ago thanks for being here bhacly posted a new activity comment 1 year, 1 month ago beautiful bhacly commented on the post, The Path of a Shaman, Herbert Quinteros 1 year, 1 month ago You can contact him on facebook…:) Sweekruti Barpanda and bhacly are now friends 1 year, 1 month ago - Load More
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Umjetnost postojanja u svijetu, ali nisu od svijeta "Samo tvoja površina je poremećena; U Vašem dubini je mirnoća i spokoj ukupno "- Bryan McGill Budimo iskreni, Život se događa. U današnjem svijetu ljudi imaju odgovornosti, trebamo novac za preživljavanje, moramo se brinuti o našoj djeci, moramo se brinuti o našem zdravlju i moramo platiti račune. Uvijek će biti stvari koje treba učiniti. I baš kad smo da imamo sve što je dolje Pat i sve je dobro ... prijatelj ili član obitelji dolazi zajedno kako bi nam reći o svom najnovijem katastrofu u njihovim životima. Čini se kao da je stres postao način života za većinu. Zapravo, ona je postala toliko norme koje, ako ste bili zapravo netko reći da je život dobar, ne mogu žaliti ili da se osjećate zaista sretni ... većina ljudi neće ni vas vjerujem! Oni su ili će misliti da si u zabludi, ili uskraćivanje, ili okreće slijepa oka na život u cjelini. Me?utim, u određenom trenutku smo se prodala laž. Ležeći se da je stres normalna, Stres je častan, stres znači da ste ambiciozni, stres znači da ste postizanju ciljeva, Stres je glamurozno, Stres znači da brinete o svom poslu ili vašoj obitelji, što je naglasio znači da ste važni i uspješni. No, postoji zlatna sredina? Da li postoji način da se ne samo preuzeti sve odgovornosti našem dana u dan život plus slušati nesreće i pritužbi naših prijatelja i obitelji, a još uvijek je ostao u našem mirnom centru? Da li postoji način da se fizički bude na ovom svijetu, sudjelovati u svim situacijama i okolnostima, dok u isto vrijeme ne bude dio svijeta, što znači ne postane toliko uključeni i priključen na svaki događaj, do točke povlačenjem iz naše kose u brige i frustracije? "Stres je nikad nije dao. Postoje ljudi koji su se rastali prijateljski način. Postoje ljudi koji spakirati i premjestiti bez emocionalne cestarina. Nema stresor 'vani' u svijetu. Mi doživjeti stres ili ne na temelju onoga što vjerujemo. "- Andrew Bernstein Ironično, najviše stresa se ne događa u ovom trenutku. To se događa kao rezultat našeg razmišljanja o situaciji. Ili su mi ponovi prošlih događaja i ostavljajući replay bijes nam iznova i iznova, ili ćemo se brinuti o navodnom budućem događaju koji može i ne mora ni dogoditi. Doslovno smo pomoću naše mašte, izmisliti najgore scenarije, kada je u stvarnosti to bi istu količinu vremena i truda da se neka naša mašta dočarati najbolje scenarije. Da bi postali svjesni kojima ljudi, mjesta i stvari u našim životima su uzrok nam najviše stresa moramo postati super svjesni naših misaonih obrazaca. Koliko često smo razmišljati o nekim stvarima, a što je vjera iza misli da je uzrok stres dogoditi? Na primjer, ako se ponovi prošli događaj koji i dalje nas bijes više i više, to je obično proizlazi iz uvjerenja da je netko trebao postupiti na određeni način, ili događaj trebalo dogoditi na način na koji ga očekuje. Uvjerenje da se stvari trebaju ići točno onako kako želimo da nas izaziva da se ljuti i frustrirani. No, činjenica je, Život rijetko ide točno onako kako smo očekivali da. Postoji prometne gužve, Ljudi trčanje kasno, ljudi kažu stvari mi se ne sviđa, možemo osjećati bolesno, naša obitelj može razboljeti, itd ... prije ćemo se pomiriti s činjenicom da nije svaki pojedinačni događaj u našem životu će ići baš kao što smo i planirali smo u mogućnosti povezivanje s mirnim usred životnih oluja. Naša unutarnja jezgra, mirna centar koji se nalazi u svima nama, nema vezanosti za ishode. Ona ne živi u "treba imati" ili "ne bi trebao imati", to doslovno traje život kao što je riječ, Stoga je rijetko uznemiren neočekivanosti dana u dan događaja. Kad mir postaje naš normu, prirodno odmaknuti od mjesta i ljudi, pa čak i misaone obrasce koje su ometaju taj mir. Iz ovog stanja postojanja, jedan od ukorijenjeni u našoj svijesti, mi smo u mogućnosti da obrađuju životne neočekivane situacije u "kao i oni dolaze" način. Problemi koji se mogu mijenjati, se mijenjaju. Ljudi koji se mogu ukloniti iz naših života su uklonjene. Mjesta koja može biti premještena od su se preselili daleko od. Život postaje nevjerojatno jednostavan. Što se tiče stvari koje uzrokuju nam stres koji se ne mogu riješiti, učimo umijeće prihvaćanja. Ako se desi situacija koja se ne može odmah fiksne nas, mi smo prisiljeni prihvatiti tu stvar kao što je to i umjesto toga promijeniti naše razmišljanje o situaciji. Ljepota nas postane mirno u središtu naših oluja je da možemo koristiti ovu taktiku kada se bave s drugim ljudima u našim životima i. Vrlo često će se ljudi u našim životima da molim za nas biti uključeni u drami, negativan stav ili gunđanje o malim stvarima. Ovo je prilika da se upu, ne samo da bi u praksi prihvaćanje, što znači da prihvaćamo da su se u tom trenutku gunđanje o svom problemu, ali mi smo također naučili praksu reagirati vs. reagiranja. Umjesto da se da biste dobili je uhvaćen u oluji možemo odgovoriti na njih iz vlastitog svijesti. Dakle, ili ćemo im dati savjet vjerujemo da će im pomoći, ili smo jednostavno samo slušati ih i suosjećaju da se osjećaju uzrujan. Ne postoji pravo ili krivo način odgovoriti, jer dolazi od pravog mjesta vs. reaktivnost, koji dolazi iz mjesta stavljanje vlastitih očekivanja i uvjerenja o njihovom ponašanju. "Osjećam se vrlo mirno i prazna, Način oku tornada mora osjećati kreće tupo zajedno u sredini okolnih galama "- Sylvia Plath To može osjećati čudno u početku, možda čak i dosadni, to ne mora biti tako uključeni u oku svake oluje. Obično kada osoba postaje ovisna o kaosu i stres prvi znakovi unutarnjeg mira može osjećati čudno i tiho. No, na kraju ono što će se dogoditi je da malo stvari postanu naše uzbuđenje i radost. Smetnje dobar obrok, trošenje kvalitetno vrijeme s kvalitetnom prijatelju, pio nevjerojatan šalicu kave ili uživanje u miru u prekrasnom zalasku sunca zamjenjuje stres i postaje naš "uzbuđenja". A kad mi počnu naći pravu radost u jednostavnim i malim stvarima vs. ovisno o stresu da bi nam se osjećati živ, postaje sve teže i teže da nas uvjeri da bi se uhvatili u sitne potrage za vlastitim egom ili negativnost drugih ljudi. U ovom trenutku doživljava unutarnje tišine, sreća i zahvalnost postaje naše prirodno stanje, što nam omogućuje da vidi ljepotu, magija i izvanredno u svakodnevnom životu. Izvor slike