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Spontaneity: Kungani Better Its kuka Ukuba Plan "Kumelwe bazimisele ukuba uyeke ukuphila esizihlelile ukuze abe nokuphila ukuthi ulinde us" - EM. Forster Be born, iya eskoleni, ukuthola umsebenzi, shada, babe izingane, babe grandkids, aguge, the. Lokho ilungelo plan? Well, kanjalo sicabanga. Ngeshwa abaningi kangaka babhajwe kule cookie wokusika umqondo walokho ukuphila kuthiwa ibukeke, only to live in constant frustration and disappointment that their life looks nothing like the standardized version. Life may drift them more and more off course, and they keep trying to control the helm by bringing it back to the life they think they should have, like the characters on TV. Unfortunately much of their life is spent in the struggle trying to get back “on course”, or what they believe is “on course.” So much time is wasted in this struggle to no avail. Only when a person just gives up, surrenders to the tides of their life are they able to see that their idea of how things were SUPPOSED to go was causing them a constant frustration because they were never actually enjoying anything about the present moment, or the way things WERE going. Who says things have to go exactly like that? If things aren’t going exactly like the social norm does that means that things have gone “wrong”? The fun and adventure lies in the spontaneity, in the suspense, in the uncertainty. Of course it’s fun to have goals and aspirations, things that we envision ourselves doing and ways that we can offer our gifts and talents to the world, but in order to become more open to possibilities and opportunities that are awaiting us, ones that we never expected were possible, the most important thing we need to do is stop planning our futures so rigidly. We must allow ourselves to relinquish the need to have absolute control over every single situation, small or big. We must let something else take over, something that knows way more than we do…. “When I finally learned to let go of having to totally control everything around me and let my life unfold, I was stunned by the results. How could I have ever thought I could outsmart the Universe?” – Geri Larkin The problem with trying to control how every situation will go is that we cannot always see the bigger picture in every situation. We have no idea why we didn’t get the job we applied for, or why our partner decided to leave us, or why the car wouldn’t start on our way to work. All the ego knows is that this situation was “bad”, we experienced some sense of sadness or pain, and because it does not desire to feel uncertain, or pain, sadness or vulnerability ever again, it must plan. It must control how everything in the future will go, so as to never feel out of control or open to chance ever again. Nokho, so much of our life is dependent upon things that we cannot control completely. The weather, traffic, how other people behave, whether or not we get the big promotion, who we meet and how we meet them, are all things that we cannot control 100% of the time. But the question is, why would we want to? Having total control over every single situation is not only an exhausting endeavor for us but is also a stifling experience for the people in our lives. The result of this fear of losing control is that we limit the universe in being able to direct us to paths that we may not have ever thought of on our own. As soon as an opportunity or possibility is presented to us that doesn’t fit into our box, or rather our plan of what our life is supposed to look like, we turn away from it and label it “bad idea”… bad idea because it’s not what we think life is supposed to look like. But if we look at our life from a broader view, from the big picture perspective, and openly accept the fact that we didn’t get the job, or we were dumped by our partner, or our car breaking down made us late for an appointment, we may in fact realize a better job opening was coming along, a new healthier relationship was just around the corner, or our car breaking down prevented us from being involved in a huge accident on the highway. So just because a situation is not what we WANTED to happen, or what we planned on happening does not necessarily mean that it was bad. We can look at life in two different ways, one is that things don’t go as planned and that’s a bad thing, or we can look at it as if we live in a universe that always conspires for our greater good, so when something goes “wrong” or unplanned, we trust that it was for our greater good, always, even if we never see exactly why. The first option leaves us in constant resistance, and angry, bitter and stressed out constantly… and the second one leaves us grateful, ukwamukela, and excited everyday about what that day may bring. “At times the world may seem an unfriendly and sinister place, but believe that there is much more good in it than bad. All you have to do is look hard enough. And what might seem to be a series of unfortunate events may in fact be the first steps of a journey” – Lemony Snicket If we envision anything for our future selves it should be that we are the best version of ourselves possible. We are healthy, and happy and doing something that we love to do and surrounded by people that love us. If we make the main focus health and happiness we leave ourselves open to all the many paths and roads and trails that one might take to achieve these goals, instead of getting too attached to exactly how we think life should happen. Think of the universe like the navigational system in the car, we know the end destination (us being the best version of ourselves), but the HOW we get there is always up in the air. We may take a million left turns, take the scenic route or we may take the shortest route possible, only to find a happier more fulfilling destination mid-way through. The one thing that we can depend on though is that the universe never lets us get completely off course. There is never too many “wrong turns” that the intelligence of the universe cannot re-route us back to being on track to our final destination. Empeleni, there is no “wrong” turns at all, there are only routes that allowed us to enjoy the view a little longer and take things a little slower, or routes that got us to our destination very quickly. Noma kunjalo, we realize the fun was in the unexpectedness of the adventure.
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Spontanost: Zašto Njegova bolje nego da je plan "Moramo biti spremni pustiti životu smo planirane tako da imaju život koji nas čeka" - EM. Forster Biti rođen, ići u školu, dobiti posao, vjenčati, imati djecu, imati unuke, ostariti, die. To je plan u pravu? Dobro, tako mislimo. Nažalost toliko zapeti u ovom cookie rezač ideju o tome što život trebao izgledati, samo da žive u stalnom frustracije i razočaranja koje im život izgleda ništa kao standardiziranog verziji. Život može ih pomicati sve više i više naravno, i oni stalno pokušavaju kontrolirati kormilo tako da ga vrati u život oni misle da bi trebali imati, poput likova na TV-u. Nažalost većinu svog života proveo je u borbi pokušava vratiti "na stazi", ili ono što oni vjeruju da je "na putu." Toliko je vremena izgubiti u ovoj borbi bez uspjeha. Tek kada čovjek jednostavno odustane, preda plime i oseke njihovog života su oni mogli vidjeti da je njihova ideja o tome kako stvari su trebali ići je uzrok im stalnu frustraciju jer nikada nisu zapravo uživa ništa o sadašnjem trenutku, ili kako stvari idu. Tko kaže da se stvari moraju ići baš kao što je to? Ako stvari ne idu baš kao društvene norme ne to znači da su se stvari otišli "u krivu"? Zabave i avanture leži u spontanosti, u neizvjesnosti, u neizvjesnosti. Naravno, to je zabavno imati ciljeve i težnje, stvari koje zamišljate sami radili i načina na koje možemo ponuditi našim darove i talente na svijetu, ali kako bi postali otvoreniji za mogućnosti i prilike koje su nas čekaju, Oni koji nikada ne očekuju bilo moguće, Najvažnija stvar koju trebate učiniti je prestati planira naša budućnost, tako čvrsto. Moramo dopustiti da se odrekne potrebu da imaju apsolutnu kontrolu nad svakom pojedinom situacijom, mali ili veliki. Moramo dopustiti da nešto preuzme, nešto što ne zna daleko više nego što nam je činiti .... "Kad sam napokon saznao pustiti da se potpuno kontrolirati sve oko sebe i neka moj život razvijati, Bio sam zapanjen rezultatima. Kako sam ikada pomislio sam mogao nadmudriti svemir?"- Geri Larkin Problem s pokušavate kontrolirati kako svaka situacija će ići da ne možemo uvijek vidjeti veću sliku u svakoj situaciji. Mi nemamo pojma zašto nismo dobili posao smo podnijeli zahtjev za, ili zašto naš partner odlučili da nas napusti, ili zašto auto ne bi početi na putu do posla. Sve ego zna da je ova situacija je "loša", smo iskusili neki osjećaj tuge ili boli, i jer ne žele da se osjećaju nesigurno, ili bol, tuga i ranjivost nikada, mora planirati. To se mora kontrolirati kako se sve u budućnosti će ići, kako nikada ne bi osjetiti izvan kontrole ili stihiji nikada. Me?utim, toliko našeg života ovisi o stvarima koje ne možemo kontrolirati u potpunosti. Vremenska prognoza, promet, kako drugi ljudi ponašaju, da li ili ne možemo dobiti veliku promociju, tko smo susret i kako smo im u susret, su sve stvari koje ne možemo kontrolirati 100% of the time. No, pitanje je, Zašto bi želimo? Nakon što potpunu kontrolu nad svakom pojedinom situacijom ne samo iscrpljujući pothvat za nas, ali je i zagušljiv iskustvo za ljude u našim životima. Rezultat tog straha od gubitka kontrole je da se ograniči svemir u biti u mogućnosti da nam se usmjeriti na staze koje nismo možda ikada pomislili na svoje. Čim prilika ili mogućnost prikazana su nam da se ne uklapa u naš okvir, odnosno naš plan što naš život trebao izgledati, mi odvratiti od njega i označiti ga "lošu ideju" ... loša ideja, jer to nije ono što mislimo da je život trebao izgledati. Ali, ako pogledamo naš život iz šireg gledišta, iz Big Picture perspektive, i otvoreno prihvatiti činjenicu da nismo dobili posao, ili smo bačena od strane naših partnera, ili naš auto razbije se nas kasno za imenovanje, možemo zapravo shvatiti bolje otvaranje radnih mjesta dolazi zajedno, Novi zdraviji odnos je samo oko kutu, ili naš auto razbije nas spriječiti od toga da bude uključen u ogromnoj nesreći na autocesti. Dakle, samo zato što stanje nije ono što smo htjeli da se dogodi, ili ono što smo planirali događa ne mora nužno značiti da je to loše. Možemo gledati na život na dva različita načina, jedan je da stvari ne idu kako je planirano, a to je loša stvar, ili možemo gledati na to kao da živimo u svemiru koji se uvijek dogovara za naše veće dobro, Dakle, kada nešto krene po "zlu" ili neplanirana, vjerujemo da je to za naše veće dobro, Uvijek, čak i ako nikada ne vide točno zašto. Prva opcija nas ostavlja u stalnom otporu, i ljuta, gorka i naglasio stalno ... a drugi ostavlja nam zahvalni, Prihvaćanjem, i uzbuđen svaki dan o tome što taj dan može donijeti. "U vrijeme svjetske može činiti neprijateljski i zlokobno mjesto, ali vjerujem da ima puno više dobra u njemu nego loše. Sve što trebate učiniti je tražiti dosta teško. A što bi moglo biti niz nesretnih događaja mogu zapravo biti prvi koraci putovanje "- Lemony Snicket Ako smo predvidjeti sve za našu vlastitu budućnost to bi trebalo biti da smo najbolja verzija sebe moguće. Mi smo zdravi, i sretni i radite nešto što volimo raditi i okruženi ljudima koji nas vole. Ako bi glavni fokus zdravlje i sreću mi sami ostaviti otvoren za sve mnogih staza i puteva i staza koje bi se moglo poduzeti za ostvarenje tih ciljeva, umjesto uzimajući previše vezan za točno kako mi mislimo da je život trebao dogoditi. Razmislite o svemiru kao navigacijski sustav u automobilu, znamo kraj odredište (nam se najbolja verzija sebe), ali kako smo dobili tu je uvijek u zraku. Možemo uzeti milijun lijevo skreće, uzeti slikovit put, ili ćemo uzeti najkraću rutu moguće, samo da bi pronašli sretnije ispunjeniji odredište na pola puta kroz. Jedna stvar koju možemo osloniti na, iako je taj svemir nikada ne dopušta nam da bi u potpunosti naravno. Ne postoji previše "pogrešnih skretanja" da inteligencija svemira ne može ponovno put nas natrag da se na putu do našeg konačnog odredišta. Zapravo, ne postoji "krivo" okreće na sve, postoje samo staze koje nam je omogućilo da uživaju u pogledu na malo duže i uzeti stvari malo sporije, ili staze koje nas je na naše odredište vrlo brzo. Bilo kako bilo, shvaćamo zabava bila u neočekivanosti za avanturu.