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बोझ उठाना: दूसरों की जिम्मेदारी से खुद का विमोचन ?????????, सह निर्भरता, ऊर्जा पैशाचिकी ... आप इसे ऊर्जा के बंटवारे कॉल करना चाहते हैं और आप दूसरों की ऊर्जा के साथ कैसे सौदा जो कुछ भी अगर आप इसे जाने को पूरी तरह से अपने जीवन से आगे निकल करने की क्षमता है. 'सहानुभूति' तेजी से अक्सर introverts से जुड़ा हुआ एक चरित्र विशेषता या पीढ़ी संवेदनशील के रूप में पहचाना जा रहा है हालांकि, सह निर्भरता कुछ अधिक दशकों के लिए मनोविज्ञान की दुनिया में अपनी जगह पड़ा है. और यह इस कारण के लिए है, अधिक आध्यात्मिक दिशा निर्देशों के हालांकि अलग अलग, इस विशेष 'रोग' के उपचार हमारे घावों में हमें और अधिक अंतर्दृष्टि प्रदान कर सकते हैं और वे पहली जगह में गठन कैसे. हम दूसरों की मदद करने के लिए पृथ्वी पर भेजा आत्माओं रहे हैं, विदेशी जीवन रूपों काफी मानवीय भावनाओं की गहराई के आसपास हमारे सिर मिलता है ... या नहीं नहीं कर सकते हैं, सबसे सह-निर्भरता की जड़ बचपन से एक सीखा व्यवहार है. आमतौर पर एक शराबी माता पिता होने से जुड़ा हुआ, हम एक कम उम्र से की अन्य कार्यों के लिए जिम्मेदारी लेने के शुरू में जब सह निर्भरता रूपों. बच्चों के रूप में, हम व्यक्तिगत रूप से सब कुछ ले लो और नियंत्रण और प्रभाव के बारे में हमारी खुद की परिधि के लिए दूसरों को और बाहरी घटनाओं की कार्रवाई से संबंधित. यह हम सीखने कैसे है, और बाद में 'मदद' हमें हम वयस्कता में विकसित होगा जैसा कि हमारे सहज वृत्ति से लड़ने या उड़ान प्रतिक्रियाओं रूपों. लेकिन उन सीमाओं झूठी या बेकार परिधि पर गठन कर रहे हैं तो क्या? हमारे जीवन में वयस्कों के लिए पूरी तरह से हमें के बाद देख के काबिल नहीं हैं जब (or themselves for that matter), then the balance is tipped and children can end up taking on much more than the parent or others around them could ever realize. Feeling responsible for others as a learned behavior usually occurs like this: the child learns the pattern of the ‘problem’, for example an adult drinking alcohol or crying over the loss of someone close to them, and finds ways to protect them, putting the full weight of this responsibility on their own shoulders. As children we are extremely sensitive and often, being more pure and connected to ourselves in the first place, are able to understand much more than the adults around us about what is really going on as well as experience purer feelings of empathy without rationalization and logic clouding our experience. The act of ‘taking on’ these superhuman acts; essentially trying to control the actions of others then becomes habit and how we deal with those around us is always that little bit off balance, even when triggered by the seemingly smallest circumstances. Say for example, your parents decided to divorce when you were six and a step family moved in. Any child, particularly one who was sensitive in the first place might sense how everyone was feeling; the tension between particular individuals, the desire to be liked, the anger at a parent from another sibling, and the need to protect all involved. This outward mirroring is the beginning of a slippery slope into being unable to mirror oneself and ultimately leads to the coping strategy of trying to control the events that follow. The fear that that parent might start crying again would lead to the child finding some way to distract or console them (often at the detriment to the child), and therefore put that individual’s feelings before their own. Co-dependent habits can fade in and out of our lives, but usually return in full force in our relationships with others, in particular emotionally abusive and manipulative partnerships. Because of the long-standing feelings of resentment from pushing your own feelings aside from an early age, the more progressive stages of the disease can lead to various forms of depression, eating disorders, abusing or neglecting your own children, and even suicide. Being on a spectrum that most people – more likely than not – have had experience of to some degree, it can be difficult to spot co-dependent habits let alone fix them. So how do we go about protecting ourselves? Though the advice for empathists can be extremely valid; building energy fields around ourselves to block out negative energy or cleansing ourselves as a daily ritual, often we need to get the mirror out and have a good old dig in order to begin the healing process before we can even approach such practices. Detachment begins with locating the moments – situations, particular people, particular places – where we feel drained or caught off guard. When are we rescuing others and ignoring our own feelings? Doing what you want at all times is a really helpful and a bold statement to start off with, but it can take a while for this to trickle through the cracks. This kind of self honesty can often be alarming as we might find, having turned the mirror on ourselves, that caring for, blaming others for our feelings and/or constantly looking outwards appears to be the full extent of our identities and that, without it, there doesn’t appear to be very much there. This can be an incredibly liberating moment and, if we have enough courage to do so, it can be the moment we begin to rediscover ourselves again. Rather than protecting yourself against that ever-present and continuously unpredictable presence of ‘other people’s energy’, try completely blocking it out for a while. Tell yourself that nothing is about you. This will give you the space to begin examining your own feelings. Every time you feel a strong emotion, examine it. Allow it to pass through you. The only way to release emotions healthily is to recognize and accept them, and so building up the habit of naming the core emotion to yourself can be the start of this wonderful practice. Keeping it simple – as you would for a child – will help you to avoid analyzing it. ‘Sad,’ ‘scared’, ‘happy’, ‘angry’… most things can be stripped back to these four core emotions. Once you let these emotions pass through you, you might find that the ‘solution’ to what to do about them will usually present itself of its own accord. Just recognizing them is actually a huge leap forward in self respect; it is honoring your feelings. You will also probably find yourself ‘uncovering’ the person who caused those repressions in the first place and, with your new-found honesty, be able to forgive them. As we know, we attract from the universe at the frequency we are giving out, and so the more honesty and honoring we treat ourselves to, the more others will stop walking all over us and begin to give us the respect we deserve. Removing the victim and simply taking responsibility for ourselves can be a lengthy process but will ultimately lead to a brighter future and is the answer for any empathist and co-dependent. Once we have come to terms with this new way of being, we usually find we actually are able to help others, having lifted the burden of it from our shoulders. Detaching from ‘reacting’; seeing someone has a problem and then trying to rescue them from it… leading to feelings of resentment when they aren’t grateful or act accordingly, which then leads to suppressed anger and persecution (co-dependents can often seem controlling and dominant), is the only way out. The lack of reaction is often the best way to help anyone, and is the ultimate way to mirror back to them how they are acting. People feed on each other’s reactions, and so if we are always reacting; answering questions as soon as they are asked, becoming angry when we are undermined or taken advantage of, each party will never find wisdom. Becoming receptive and listening to the gaps between other’s words and actions leads to compassion for them. Then we become The Master; watching ourselves acting in these situations in order to learn from them, and detaching ourselves from taking it personally, more fully able to understand the soul’s purpose and the lessons we are here to learn.
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Podizanje tereta: Sebe, oslobađa od odgovornosti drugih Empatija,,en,Neznanje,,en,Opstanak,,en, co-ovisnost, Energija vampirizam ... što god želite to nazvati razmjenu energije i kako se nositi s drugima 'energije ima potencijal da u potpunosti prestići svoj život, ako ga pustiti. Iako je 'suosjećanje' sve više postaje priznata kao karakterna osobina često povezan s introvertirani ili pretjerano osjetljivi, co-ovisnost je imala svoje mjesto u svijetu psihologije za nekoliko desetljeća. A to je zbog toga, iako izrazito razlikuje više duhovne smjernice, iscjeljivanje ovaj 'bolest' može nam ponuditi puno bolji uvid u naše rane i kako se formira na prvom mjestu. Bilo mi smo duše poslani na Zemlju kako bi pomogli drugima, stranac oblika života koji se ne može baš doći glave oko dubine ljudske emocije ... ili ne, korijen većine međuovisnosti je naučeno ponašanje iz djetinjstva. Obično vezan za potrebe alkoholno roditelja, ko-ovisnosti oblika kada počnemo preuzimati odgovornost za svoje postupke drugih od rane dobi. Kao djeca, ćemo poduzeti sve što je osobno i odnose akcije drugima i vanjskim događajima na našim perimeters kontrole i utjecaja. To je, kako doznajemo, i oblikuje naša instinktivna borba ili bijeg reakcije koje će kasnije 'pomoć' nas kao što smo razviti u odrasloj dobi. No, što ako su ti granice su formirane na lažnih ili nesusretljivim perimeters? Kada su odrasli u našim životima su nesposobni potpuno potrazi za nama (ili se za taj tvar), onda ravnoteža vrhom i djeca mogu završiti preuzimajući mnogo više od roditelja ili drugih oko njih mogao ikada shvatiti. Osjećaj odgovorni za druge kao naučeno ponašanje najčešće javlja ovako: dijete uči uzorak problem ', primjerice odrasla pod utjecajem alkohola ili plače zbog gubitka bliske njima, i pronalazi načine kako bi ih zaštitio, stavljajući svu težinu ovog odgovornosti na svojim ramenima. Kao djeca smo izuzetno osjetljivi i često, što čišća i povezan je s nama na prvom mjestu, su u mogućnosti da razumiju puno više nego što su odrasli oko nas o tome što se zapravo događa, kao i iskustvo čišći osjećaj empatije, bez racionalizacije i logike zamagljivati naše iskustvo. Čin 'da se na "tim nadljudskim djela; u biti pokušava kontrolirati postupke drugih tada postaje navika i kako se nositi s onima oko nas je uvijek da je malo off balance, čak i kada je potaknuta naizgled najmanjih okolnostima. Recimo, na primjer, tvoji roditelji odlučili razvesti kada su šest i korak obitelj se preselila u. Svako dijete, osobito onaj koji je osjetljiv na prvom mjestu mogla osjetiti kako se svatko osjeća; Napetost između određenih pojedinaca, želja da se svidjela, ljutnja na roditelja iz drugog brata, i potreba kako bi zaštitili sve uključene. To van zrcaljenje je početak sklizak padini u nemogućnosti da se čovjek ogledalo i na kraju dovodi do suočavanja strategije pokušava kontrolirati događaje koji slijede. Strah da je roditelj može početi ponovno plakati će dovesti do djeteta pronalaženju neki način odvratiti ili ih utješiti (često na štetu djetetu), i zato stavio da pojedinačne osjećaje pred sami. Co-ovisna navike mogu nestati i iz naših života, ali obično se vratiti u punoj snazi u našim odnosima s drugima, posebno emocionalno uvredljiv i manipulativne partnerstva. Zbog dugotrajnog osjećaja ogorčenosti iz guraju svoje osjećaje po strani od rane dobi, Što je više progresivne faze bolesti može dovesti do raznih oblika depresije, poremećaja prehrane, zlostavlja ili zanemarivanja svoje djece, pa čak i samoubojstvo. Budući da se na spektra da većina ljudi - više nego vjerojatno ne - imali iskustvo u određenoj mjeri, to može biti teško uočiti co-ovisne navike kamoli ih riješiti. Pa kako ćemo ići o zaštiti sebe? Iako savjet za empathists može biti vrlo vrijedi; izgradnju energetskih polja oko sebe blokirati negativnu energiju ili se čisti kao dnevni ritual, Često nam je potreban da bi se ogledalo van i imaju dobru staru kopati kako bi započeli proces ozdravljenja prije nego što smo se približiti takve prakse. Odreda počinje locirati trenutke - situacije, Pojedini ljudi, Posebni mjesta - gdje osjećamo ispustiti ili zatečena. Kad smo sanaciju drugima i ignoriranje vlastite osjećaje? Radi ono što želite u svakom trenutku je jako korisno i podebljano izjavu da počnete s, ali to može potrajati neko vrijeme za to da se slijevati kroz pukotine. Ova vrsta samo iskrenost često može biti alarmantna kao što smo mogli naći, okrenuvši se ogledalo na sebe, da brine za, okrivljavanje drugih za naše osjećaje i / ili stalno gleda prema van, kako se čini da je cjelokupan opseg naših identiteta i da, bez nje, Tu se ne čini da se jako puno tamo. To može biti nevjerojatno oslobađajuće trenutak i, Ako imamo dovoljno hrabrosti da to učini, to može biti trenutak počinjemo ponovno se otkriju. Umjesto da se zaštiti od te sveprisutne i kontinuirano nepredvidljive prisutnosti "tuđe energije ', pokušajte ga potpuno blokira neko vrijeme. Recite sebi da ništa o vama. To će vam dati prostora da se počne ispitivanje vlastitih osjećaja. Svaki put kada se osjećate snažnu emociju, ga ispitati. Dopustite da prođe kroz vas. Jedini način za oslobađanje emocija zdravo je prepoznati i prihvatiti ih, pa izgradnji naviku imenovanja osnovne emocije za sebe može biti početak ovog prekrasnog prakse. Imajući to jednostavno – kao što bi za dijete – će vam pomoći da se izbjegne to analizira. 'Sad,'' Prepala ', 'Happy', 'Bijesni' ... većina stvari može biti oduzeta vratiti na ove četiri osnovne emocije. Nakon što neka ti osjećaji prolaze kroz vas, možda će vam da 'rješenje' za što učiniti s njima obično će se predstaviti od sebe. Samo ih prepoznavanje je zapravo veliki korak naprijed u samopoštovanja; to je čast svoje osjećaje. Također ćete vjerojatno pronaći sebe 'otkrivanja' osobu koja je uzrokovana ta represije na prvom mjestu i, sa svojim novostečenim iskrenost, biti u mogućnosti da ih oprosti. Kao što znamo, možemo privući iz svemira na frekvenciji dajemo out, i tako više poštenje i čast mi se počastite, više ostali će prestati hoda diljem nama i početi nam dati poštovanje smo zaslužili. Uklanjanje žrtvu i jednostavno preuzimanje odgovornosti za sebe može biti dugotrajan proces, ali će u konačnici dovesti do svjetliju budućnost i odgovor za bilo empathist i co-ovisna. Nakon što smo se pomiriti s ovim novim načinom postojanja, mi obično nalazimo zapravo u mogućnosti pomoći drugima, nakon što je podigao teret od njega od naših ramena. Odvajanje od 'reagira'; vidim netko je problem, a onda ih pokušava spasiti od njega ... što dovodi do osjećaja ogorčenosti kad nisu zahvalni i djelovati u skladu s tim, što onda dovodi do potisnute ljutnje i progona (ko-uzdržavane često može činiti kontrolu i dominantna), je jedini izlaz. Nedostatak reakcije često najbolji način da se pomogne svakome, te je krajnji način da odražava natrag na njih kako su oni djeluju. Ljudi se hrane međusobnim reakcijama, pa ako smo uvijek reaguje; odgovoriti na pitanja čim su pitali, postaju ljuti kada su narušena ili iskoristili, svaka stranka nikada neće naći mudrost. Postati prijemljiv i slušajući praznine između ostalih riječima i djelima dovodi do suosjećanja za njih. Onda smo postali majstor; gledajući nas djeluju u tim situacijama, kako bi učiti od njih, a sebe odvaja od uzimanja osobno, više u potpunosti u stanju razumjeti duše svrhu i lekciju smo ovdje kako bi naučili. Izvor slike Empatija,,en,Neznanje,,en,Opstanak,,en Emocija Uzašašće