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Seeking Freedom from Anger Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured. ~ Mark Twain Anger is a prominently felt emotion in today’s time and age. Somebody is angry with the government, somebody can’t stand the public transport, someone has issues with their colleagues, and it doesn’t end here. Someone is angry because he is not able to exert power, exercise supremacy, or can’t cope up with the brushings that life in general has to offer. We all have experienced that emotion and know that the outcome is never pleasant. Anger is a corrosive emotion that can run off with your mental and physical health. Aristotle said that it is very difficult to be angry with the right person for the right reasons. Predominantly, most of us think, we are right in what we say and do. And then many say, everything is right as long as you can justify it. A thief might be a thief because he has no other option for survival but yet he will be put behind the bars. So, when countries fight in the name of power, how is it not a moral cheating? In Buddhism, anger is considered one of the three poisons, other two being – greed and ignorance. There is no justifiable anger. Spend time introspecting on each time you’ve felt angry and what have you done about it. As humans, we are bound to feel angry but how do we deal with it is what defines us. When an unpleasant emotion or thought arises, do not suppress it, run away from it, or deny it. Instead, observe it and acknowledge it. Be mindful and honest with yourself about yourself is essential to overcome this negative emotion. Anger damages the nervous, cardiovascular and gut system blocking the passage to positivity. Anger, if fed, can also lead to depression. How do you deal with it? Compassion and patience are counter-attacks to anger. Be compassionate with yourself because anger is harming you more than anybody else. One can discover the root cause of anger and then take necessary steps, because anger is created by the mind. It arises due to unresolved issues bottled deep within and it gushes out in the form of anger. Its also the ego taking control of your mind and allowing negativity to take over you. One needs to have the patience to wait for the right time to act and say. As difficult as it might sound, in such situations, one has to leave it to the law of life. The prospect of retaliation seems like an appealing option. But anger is a backward-looking emotion. We think about the past and cause ourselves pain. Pain is self-inflicted in nature. And the concept of revenge is morally flawed. We can indulge in the act of harming the injurer to seek some relief from the damage caused but in doing so; we do drag ourselves in the vicious cycle. There are numerous way to let go of the anger. I use humour as a defence mechanism to anger. Whenever the mind goes into unwanted flashbacks, instead of being angry, breathe in and out. Take a walk. Drink some water. Trust in the law of universe and let it go. Thich Nhat Hanh explains it beautifully, “When you express your anger you think that you are getting anger out of your system, but that’s not true,” he said. “When you express your anger, either verbally or with physical violence, you are feeding the seed of anger, and it becomes stronger in you.” Image Source Comments How about anger as a catalyst to fighting injustices in the world. Your notion is mostly correct and noble but also somewhat idealistic and misguided. Anger over certain things is 100% natural in spurring us on to change something upsetting the balance and so to restore it. It is not meant to be a long term state of mind. Just long enough to motivate us to act for positive change. Anger is expressed in many ways….jealousy, blame, dishonesty. In my experience, it is preferable to be open and honest with ones emotions, ALL emotions, without preference for one over the other. Being authentic and accountable for emotions is a way to transform uncomfortable feelings, like anger; the destruction that repressed emotions create can be devastating and feelings buried alive never die. It’s a patriarchal trap that keeps us all repressed and fearful of feeling anything “negative”-keep that happy-happy face on, don’t look at the little man behind the curtain, everything is “just fine”, it’s someone else’s fault/problem. Facing and expressing “negative” emotions is the way to transform them. It’s an everyday struggle for me to deal with my anger. It feels like no matter what I see or hear, I get upset. What I try to do everyday is to not let it get to me so badly that I want to use violence, but I know that it would do me more harm than good. I also realize that it’s not only just my physical health that’s at steak, it’s also other people that I must deal with, and some of those people would like to see me fail, and if they know I get angry easily, they’ll try to use that to their advantage, and get me into trouble. In a relationship you should be complimenting each other not just with Love but in encouraging each other to be the best they can be, in what ever they do on a daily life basis. The little things can mean so much in your relationship because they are freely given. If you just talk about what each other likes to do even if your partner does not really understand fully or want be involved with some thing you like, you become more grounded with each other, let them be free to explore it and ENJOY IT. We came here to learn so many different things in life and that is our journey. What nature gives back to us when we open our Hearts and Minds, is the reality of living for today because it is more than enough especially with the amount of energy we use on a daily basis. (Anger) is a killer and it opens up so many illnesses I know have made myself ill so many times from getting angry. (Love is the Cure) it releases the ego wants / hurts that we create for ourselves. I tell my ego to get lost when the jealous side comes into being now, once control is back again you need to start breathing and relaxing it really works, once you take control again the ego will go quiet which allows you to be back into the Now. (Only the true you which is Love, can make your own day better). It can also be good to talk to a lovely mature wise owl, they know what life is about. Love light and laughter always Kenzie. Thank you for this way of looking at anger and the abuser/victim way of dealing with anger, I am in such a relationship and have finally come to understand the pain/sadness/depression stages and feel I can walk away from it if need be knowing I can not continue maintaining my existence as such even knowing I will feel sadness for the relationship not contributing to a peaceful and serene way of living. IF all that has been created is sacred, then how can all anger be poison? Doesn’t that contradict the generally recognized paradoxical nature of reality that Buddhism is generally good at calling out for us? Isn’t the embracing of the anger AND the pain underneath the only true liberation/transformation of that energy? For example, can anger not be initially for movement…e.g. : abused person getting out of a relationship. I find many Buddhists that I know to be people who convince themselves intellectually that they are not angry and not judge mental…yet what I often see is a kind of “leaking” out of that anger energy…often through the use of defenses that are often OUTSIDE OF THEIR INTELLECTUAL AWARENESS! (Similarly, I see a lot of go w the flow type folks who deny anger also having been brought up by angry critical judgmental people, and so the victim ends up frightened of anger, and sometimes, becomes a “wake and baker”! (again-w no awareness of the connection!) Wonderful insights. Thank you.
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Tražim slobodu od Anger Ljutnja je kiselina koja može učiniti više zla u posudu u kojoj je pohranjena nego išta na kojima se izlio. ~ Mark Twain Ljutnja je istaknut osjetio emocija u današnjem vremenu i dobi. Netko je ljut na vladu, netko ne može podnijeti javni prijevoz, netko ima problema sa svojim kolegama, i to ne završava ovdje. Netko je ljut jer on nije u mogućnosti vršiti vlast, Vježba nadmoć, ili se ne može nositi s četkice da je život u cjelini ima za ponuditi. Svi smo doživjeli da je emocija i znam da je ishod nikada nije ugodno. Ljutnja je emocija koja nagriza šteti vaše mentalno i fizičko zdravlje. Aristotel je rekao da je to vrlo teško biti ljut na pravu osobu za pravo razloga. Pretežno, većina nas misli, mi smo u pravu u onome što govore i čine. I onda mnogi kažu, sve je u pravu koliko god to može opravdati. Lopov može biti lopov, jer on nema drugog izbora za opstanak, ali ipak će se staviti iza rešetaka. Tako, kada su zemlje se bore u ime vlasti, kako je to nije moralno varanje? U budizmu, ljutnja se smatra jednim od tri otrova, druga dva su - pohlepa i neznanje. Ne postoji opravdana ljutnja. Provedite vrijeme introspecting na svaki put kad se nisam osjećao ljuti i što si učinio o tome. Kao ljudi, mi smo dužni da ljuti, ali kako ćemo se nositi s njim je ono što nas definira. Kada je neugodna emocija ili misao proizlazi, ne može se suzbiti, bježati od njega, ili to negiraju. Umjesto, promatrati i priznati ga. Budite svjesni i iskreni prema sebi o sebi je bitno da prevlada ovu negativnu emociju. Anger oštećuje živčani, kardiovaskularni sustav i crijeva. Ljutnja, ako je hranio, također može dovesti do depresije. Kako se nositi s njom? Suosjećanje i strpljenje su kontre do ljutnje. Budite suosjećajni prema sebi, jer gnjev se ti šteti više nego bilo tko drugi. One mogu otkriti uzrok ljutnje i potom poduzeti potrebne korake, jer ljutnja je stvorio um. Ona nastaje zbog neriješenih pitanja u bocama duboko u i to izvire u obliku ljutnje. Također je ego Preuzevši kontrolu nad svojim mislima i dopuštajući negativnost da se nad vama. Treba imati strpljenja čekati pravi trenutak za akciju i reći. Kao što je teško kao što možda zvuči, u takvim situacijama, jedan je da ga ostavite na zakon života. Perspektiva odmazde čini kao prizivanje opciju. No, ljutnja je unatrag izgleda emocija. Mislimo o prošlosti i uzrokovati sebi bol. Bol je self-nanijeli u prirodi. A koncept osvete moralno manjkav. Možemo uživati u činu šteti štetnik tražiti neki reljef iz štetu nastalu ali je pri tome; radimo sami povući u začaranom krugu. Postoje brojne način da otpusti od bijesa. Koristim humor kao obrambeni mehanizam na ljutnju. Kad god um ide u neželjenim flashbackova, umjesto da se ljuti, udahnite i izdahnite. Prošećite. Popijte čašu vode. Vjeruj u zakonu svemira i pustiti da ode. Thich Nhat Hanh to objašnjava lijepo, "Kad ste izraziti svoju ljutnju mislite da ste dobivanje bijes iz svog sustava, ali to nije istina,", Rekao je on. "Kad ste izraziti svoju ljutnju, bilo verbalno ili fizičko nasilje, ste hranjenja sjeme ljutnje, i to postaje jači u vama. Izvor slike Komentari Kako o ljutnji kao katalizator za borbu protiv nepravde u svijetu. Tvoja ideja je uglavnom točne i plemenito, ali i pomalo idealistički i pogrešno. Ljutnja nad nekim stvarima je 100% prirodno u nas je potaknulo na promjenu nešto traumatično ravnotežu i tako ga vratiti. To nije značilo da se dugoročno stanje uma. Samo dovoljno dugo da nas motivira da rade za pozitivne promjene. Ljutnja se iskazuje na mnogo načina….ljubomora, Krivnja, neiskrenost. U mom iskustvu, poželjno je da budu otvoreni i iskreni s one emocije, Sve emocije, bez davanja prednosti jednim nad other.Being autentičnom i odgovorne za emocije je način da se transformira neugodne osjećaje, poput ljutnje; uništavanje da potisnute emocije stvaraju može biti poražavajući i osjećaji živa zakopana nikada ne umiru. To je patrijarhalni zamka koja čuva nas sve potisnuti i strah od osjećaja ništa “negativan”-zadržati taj sretni-sretno lice na, ne gledati na malog čovjeka iza zavjese, sve je “sasvim u redu”, da je netko drugi kriv / problema. Suočavanje i izražavanje “negativan” Emocije je način da ih preobrazi. To je svakodnevna borba za mene da se bave mojim ljutnje. Ona se osjeća kao da bez obzira što sam vidio ili čuo, Ja se uzbuditi. Ono što sam pokušati učiniti svaki dan je da ne dopustite da se mi tako loše da želim koristiti nasilje, ali znam da će mi napraviti više štete nego koristi. Također sam shvatio da to nije tek moje fizičko zdravlje koje je na odrezak, to je također drugi ljudi, da se moram nositi s, a neki od tih ljudi bi željeli vidjeti mene uspjeti, i ako znaju da se naljutim lako, oni će pokušati iskoristiti da u svoju korist, i dobiti me u nevolje. U vezi bi trebali biti komplimente jedni drugima, ne samo s ljubavlju, ali u poticanju jedni druge da budu najbolje što mogu biti, u sve ono što im je činiti na dnevnoj osnovi životnog. Male stvari mogu značiti toliko toga u vašoj vezi, jer oni se slobodno dano. Ako samo govoriti o tome što se međusobno voli raditi, čak i ako je vaš partner baš i ne razumije u potpunosti ili žele biti uključeni u neke stvari vam se sviđa, što se više temelji jedni s drugima, neka se slobodno istraživati i uživati u njoj. Došli smo ovdje kako bi naučili toliko različitih stvari u životu i da je naše putovanje. Ono što priroda daje, vrati nam se kad smo otvorili naša srca i misli, je realnost življenja za danas, jer je više nego dovoljno pogotovo s količinom energije koju koristimo na dnevnoj bazi. (Ljutnja) je ubojica i to otvara toliko bolesti koje poznajem napravio sam bolestan toliko puta iz dobivanje ljut. (Ljubav je lijek) oslobađa ego želi / boli koje smo stvorili za sebe. Ja kažem moj ego da se izgubi kada ljubomorni strana nastaje sada, kada je kontrola opet trebate početi disanja i opuštanja to stvarno radi, nakon što preuzmu kontrolu opet ego će ići mirom koji vam omogućuje da se vrati u Sada. (Samo istina da što je ljubav, Možete napraviti svoj vlastiti dan bolje). To također može biti dobar za razgovor s lijepom zrelim mudre sove, oni znaju što je život oko. Ljubav svjetlost i smijeh uvijek kenzie. Hvala vam na taj način gledanja na ljutnju i način zlostavljač / žrtva bave ljutnje, Ja sam u takvoj vezi i konačno shvate bol / tugu / depresivne faze i osjećam da mogu otići od njega, ako treba znati da se ne može nastaviti s održavanjem moje postojanje kao takvo, čak i znajući da će se osjećati tugu za odnos ne pridonosi miran i spokojan način života. AKO sve što je stvorio svet, kako se onda može sve bijes biti otrov? Zar to nije u suprotnosti s općeprihvaćenim paradoksalnu prirodu stvarnosti da je budizam je općenito dobar u doziva nas? Nije Prihvaćanje bijes i bol ispod jedinog istinskog oslobođenja / transformacija te energije? Na primjer, Ljutnja može ne biti u početku za kretanje…pr. : zlostavljana osoba izlazi iz odnosa. Smatram da mnogi budisti, znam da se ljudi koji su intelektualno uvjeriti da nisu ljuti i ne suditi mentalno…Ipak, ono što sam često vidjeti je vrsta “curi” iz te ljutnje energije…Često kroz korištenje obrane koje su često izvan njihove INTELEKTUALNO SVIJESTI! (Sli?no, Vidim puno pokretu W tipa protok ljudi koji poriču ljutnju i što je doveo do ljut kritičnim prosudbene ljudi, i tako žrtva završi uplašen od bijesa, a ponekad, postaje “probudite i pekara”! (opet-W nema svijest o povezanosti!) Čudesni uvidi. Hvala.