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Understanding Narcissism and Coping with It In Greek mythology, Narcissus, a young man renowned for his beauty, sees his reflection in a body of water and falls in love with his own image. Unable to leave the beauty of his reflection, Narcissus fell to his death. That’s how the word “narcissism” came about. Narcissism is a term used to describe a focus on the self and self-admiration that is taken to an extreme. It involves admiration of one’s own physical or mental attributes, often defined as excessive self-love. Does that mean narcissism is bad or is there a healthy dose of narcissism that can be used to thrive? Lets find out more… Healthy Narcissism The concept of excessive self-admiration has also been explored by various philosophers and thinkers throughout history. Sigmund Freud in his paper titled ‘On Narcissism: An Introduction’ – ਵਿੱਚ 1914 – suggested that narcissism is actually a normal part of the human psyche, referred by him as primary narcissism. In Freud’s theory of personality, people are born without a basic sense of self, and its only through the experiences that occur during early childhood that people gain what is known as ego, or a sense of self. As a child interacts with the outside world and is conditioned to adhere to the social and cultural expectations, he develops a perfect image of himself that the ego strives to attain. Another psychologist Alfred Adler believed that it was natural to strive for a sense of superiority and perfection – its the need for approval driven by the ego to feel loved and important. This is healthy narcissism or a normal defense that protects us from failures and keeps us away from feelings of helplessness. Its seen more as a morale-boosting (Healthy Narcissism) activity to keep our motivation levels up in life. In healthy narcissism, one is aware of their strengths and weaknesses and is able to have realistic expectations of their self. There is no need for any “one-up-manship” or “one-down-manship” in the relationship. While unhealthy narcissism on the other hand is in complete contrast. Extreme side of Narcissism Many times, people tend to confuse self-love with narcissism but there is a clear distinction between the two. Self-love is important to evolve mentally, physically and spiritually, whereas self-obsession is confined to our outward perception of self, position, power and status. Self-love is triggered by sense of oneness but self-obsession is a constant struggle to fight low self-esteem, insecurity and other complex issues. Extreme Narcissism can lead to Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). The disorder is caused by a severe case of egocentrism. They believe that they’re superior to others and have little regard for other people’s feelings, derived from arrogant pride and lack of empathy. Narcissists spend a good deal of their time and energy doing things to make themselves look and feel good and pumping up their egos. More than others, a narcissistic individual is causing damage to their own mind and body. He sticks to feelings of self-grandiosity and lives under the impression that they are not prone to vulnerability. But behind the mask of this over-confidence lies this fragile self-esteem, vulnerable to the slightest criticism. The disorder interferes with the development of healthy relationships with others. The cause may be linked to a dysfunctional childhood, such as excessive pampering, extremely high expectations, abuse or neglect. Narcissism on the Rise Much research has been done to prove that narcissism has been on the rise during the last 30 ਸਾਲ, especially among young people. People are paying more heed to entitlement instead of enlightenment. A new study showed that Narcissists have no problem admitting they are narcissists. Even the word ‘selfie’ and what it stands for has a rather narcissistic implication, don’t you think? People suffering from extreme narcissism need healing. More than anything, working on their thought patterns is a necessity, since that distorts their self-image and to help them create a more healthy and realistic self-image. All human beings crave intimacy and love and to experience the same one has to be vulnerable and free. Narcissistic leaders and corporate owners rule us. Being profit-oriented and pragmatic is easy to achieve but being selfless to help one another takes some courage and is rewarding in ways that is good for the soul and mind. If you identify yourself as a narcissistic or if you know someone who shows these traits, few things can help you deal with it. Be compassionate – Be compassionate towards oneself and others. Understand that everyone makes mistakes, and in those mistakes lies valuable lessons of life. Learn from them and evolve. Understand Emotions Understand your feelings which are driving you crazy and then tell yourself that it’s momentary and you are capable of converting that feeling into something positive. For example – If you fear that you will fail and it has left you feeling anxious, encourage yourself into believing that you won’t fail. Narcissistic have the need to be constantly admired. Here, it is a good idea to remind yourself that your existence is a beautiful creation in itself and you don’t need laurels to prove your worth constantly. “There is a universal urge for intimacy, for trading subjectivities, in communication. For Telepathy. Our desire for it tells us about what we wish to be: truly intersubjective beings.” – David Porush Embrace nature – Nature heals the body and mind in more ways than one. It expands our thinking and teaches us to appreciate it’s natural beauty. When you are too absorbed in yourself, you fail to enjoy the simple joys of life. Observe your surrounding. Go to beautiful places not with the idea of vacation but to unravel the unknown that lies within. “The first act of awe, when man was struck with the beauty or wonder of nature, was the first spiritual experience.” ~ Henryk Skolimowsk Let go of insecurities – Having insecurities blocks your flow of energy in the mind and body as few muscles and nerves always remain tensed. Insecurities won’t help, it will only worsen the problem. ਵਾਸਤਵ ਵਿੱਚ, insecurities attract more negative energy and successfully execute Murphy’s Law. ਇਸ ਲਈ, just breathe and take one day at a time. “To put is still more plainly: the desire for security and the feeling of insecurity are the same thing. To hold your breath is to lose your breath. A society based on the quest for security is nothing but a breath-retention contest in which everyone is as taut as a drum and as purple as a beet.” – Alan Watts ਹਵਾਲੇ ਅਤੇ ਚਿੱਤਰ ਸਰੋਤ History of Narcissism Narcissus Narcissism , Everything is always about me
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Razumijevanje narcisoidnosti i suočavanje s njom U grčkoj mitologiji, Narcis, Mladić je poznat po svojoj ljepoti, vidi svoj odraz u tijelu vode i zaljubljuje se u svoju sliku. Ne mogu napustiti ljepotu svoga razmišljanja, Narcis je pao u smrt. To je kako je riječ "narcizam" došlo. Narcisoidnost je pojam koji se koristi za opisivanje fokus na sebe i samo-divljenju koje je potrebno da se ekstremni. To uključuje divljenje vlastitim tjelesnim ili mentalnim atributima, često definira kao pretjeranog samoljublja. Znači li to da narcizam je loše ili postoji zdrava doza narcisoidnosti koja se može koristiti da bi se uspješno? Omogućuje saznati više… Zdrava Narcisoidnost Koncept pretjeranog samo-divljenje također je istražena od strane raznih filozofa i mislilaca u povijesti. Sigmund Freud je u svom članku pod naslovom 'Na narcizma: Uvod’ – u 1914 – predložio da narcizam je zapravo normalan dio ljudske psihe, naziva po njemu kao primarni narcizam. U Freudove teorije osobnosti, ljudi su rođeni bez osnovnog osjećaja sebe, i jedina je kroz iskustva koja se javljaju tijekom ranog djetinjstva da ljudi steknu ono što je poznato kao ja, ili osjećaj sebe. Kao dijete komunicira s vanjskim svijetom i uvjetovano da se pridržavaju socijalnih i kulturnih očekivanja, on razvija savršenu sliku o sebi da ego nastoji postići. Još jedan psiholog Alfred Adler je vjerovao da je prirodno da se zalažu za osjećaj superiornosti i savršenstva – njegova potreba za odobrenje vođeni egom da se osjeća voljeno i važno. To je zdrav narcizam ili normalnu obranu koja nas štiti od neuspjeha i da nas drži podalje od osjećaja bespomoćnosti. Njegova vidi više kao moral-jačanje (Zdrava Narcisoidnost) aktivnost da naša razina motivacije u životu. U zdravom narcizma, jedan je svjestan svojih prednosti i slabosti te je u stanju imati realna očekivanja od njihovog sebe. Nema potrebe za bilo "jedan-up-sjednici za" ili "one-down-sjednici za" u vezi. Dok nezdravi narcizam s druge strane je u potpunom kontrastu. Ekstremna strana narcizma Mnogo puta, ljudi imaju tendenciju da se zbuniti ljubav prema sebi s narcizma, ali postoji jasna razlika između dva. Ljubav prema sebi je važno da se razvije psihički, tjelesno i duhovno, a self-opsesija je ograničena na naše vanjske percepcije sebe, Položaj, moć i status. Ljubav prema sebi je potaknuta osjećajem jedinstva, ali self-opsesija je stalna borba za borbu protiv nisko samopoštovanje, nesigurnost i drugih složenih pitanja. Ekstremni Narcisoidnost može dovesti do narcisoidnog poremećaja ličnosti (NPD). Poremećaj uzrokuje teške slučaju egocentrizma. Oni vjeruju da su oni superiorniji od drugih i imaju malo obzira prema tuđim osjećajima, proizlazi iz arogantnog ponosa i nedostatka empatije. Narcissists potrošiti dobar dio svog vremena i energije radi stvari da sami izgledati i osjećati dobro i crpne svoje ego. Više od drugih, narcisoidni pojedinac šteti njihovom vlastitom umu i tijelu. On drži do osjećaja vlastite grandioznosti i živi pod dojmom da nisu skloni ranjivosti. No, iza maske ovog pretjeranog samopouzdanja leži ovo krhko samopouzdanje, osjetljiva na najmanji kritike. Poremećaj ometa razvoj zdravih odnosa s drugima. Uzrok može biti povezan s disfunkcionalne djetinjstva, kao što su prekomjerne maženje, iznimno visoka očekivanja, zlostavljanja ili zanemarivanja. Narcisoidnost na Ustanite Velik dio istraživanja je učinjeno da se dokaže da je narcizam je u porastu tijekom prošlog 30 godina, pogotovo među mladima. Ljudi su plaćati više obazirati na pravo umjesto prosvjetljenja. Nova studija je pokazala da narcissists nemam problema priznali da su narcissists. Čak i riječ 'selfie' i što to znači ima dosta narcisoidni implikaciju, ne mislite? Osobe koje pate od ekstremne narcisoidnosti potrebno ozdravljenje. Više od ičega, radeći na svojim razmišljanja je nužnost, budući da narušava njihovu sliku o sebi i pomoći im stvoriti više zdrav i realan sliku o sebi. Sva ljudska bića žude intimnost i ljubav i doživjeti isto jedna mora biti ranjiva i besplatno. Narcisoidni lideri i korporativnim vlasnicima nas vladaju. Budući da je dobit orijentirana i pragmatični je lako postići, ali je nesebično pomoći jedna drugoj traje neko hrabrost te je zahvalno na način koji je dobar za dušu i um. Ako ste se identificirali kao narcisoidni ili ako znate nekoga tko pokazuje te osobine, Nekoliko stvari može vam pomoći nositi se s njom. Budite suosjećajni - Budite suosjećajni prema sebi i drugima. Shvatite da svatko griješi, te u tim greškama leži vrijedne lekcije iz života. Učite od njih i razvijati. Razumjeti Emocije Razumjeti svoje osjećaje koji vozite li luda i onda recite sebi da je trenutna i vi ste u stanju pretvoriti taj osjećaj u nešto pozitivno. Na primjer - Ako se bojite da ćete uspjeti i to je ostavilo osjećate tjeskobno, se poticati u uvjerenju da neće uspjeti. Narcisoidni imaju potrebu da se stalno divili. Ovo je prilika da se upu, to je dobra ideja da se podsjetiti da je vaš život je lijep stvor u sebi, a vi ne morate lovorike dokazati svoje vrijednosti konstantno. “Postoji univerzalna nagon za intimnošću, za trgovanje subjektivnosti, u komunikaciji. Za telepatiju. Naša želja za to nam govori o tome što želimo biti: doista intersubjektivnim bića.” – David Porush Zagrli prirodu - Priroda liječi duh i tijelo u više od jednog načina. To proširuje naše razmišljanje i uči nas da cijenimo to je prirodna ljepota. Kada ste previše upija u sebe, vi ne uživate jednostavne radosti života. Poštujte svoje okolnim. Idi na lijepim mjestima ne s idejom odmor, ali otkrivati nepoznato koji se nalazi unutar. “Prvi čin strahopoštovanja, kada čovjek je pogodio s ljepotom ili čudo prirode, Bio je to prvi duhovno iskustvo.” ~ Henry Skolimowska Pusti nesigurnosti – Imajući nesigurnosti blokira protok energije u umu i tijelu nekoliko mišića i živaca uvijek ostaju napeti. Nesigurnosti neće pomoći, to će samo pogoršati problem. Zapravo, nesigurnosti privući više negativne energije i uspješno izvršavanje Murphyjev zakon. Tako, Samo diše i uzeti jedan dan u isto vrijeme. "Da bi se još jasnije: želja za sigurnošću i osjećaj nesigurnosti su ista stvar. Da zadržite dah je gubiti dah. Društvo koje se temelji na traganju za sigurnošću nije ništa drugo nego natjecanju dah-zadržavanje u kojem je svatko kao napeta kao bubanj, a što je ljubičasta kao repe. " – Alan Watts Reference i slike Izvor Povijest narcizma Narcis Narcisoidnost , Sve se uvijek vrti oko mene