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When learning a language, eventually you’re going to need to actually talk to someone. The internet makes it stupidly easy to get in touch with new people (both for language exchanges and for conversation in general), but what are you going to talk about? “I’m learning Russian.” “Why?” “Blah blah blah…” lasts for about 5 minutes. Then what? This is a list of conversation questions and topics that have one overarching goal: can you find some points of connection with a conversation partner? Could you even create a lasting friendship? Anyone who’s played around with the 5-minute chats on Verbling gets a sense that it’s easy to get bored with small talk. The people you actually want to converse with are people who you’ve gotten to know on a deeper level than “What’s the weather like in Moscow?”. The Science of Friendship A psychologist named Arthur Aron published a neat study about this. Basically, he stuck two people in a room and had them chat about the inane crap we tend to talk about when we’re stuck in a room with a random person – Where are you from, do you have any siblings, where do you work, etc. As you might expect, most people had little interest in keeping in touch with their conversation partner after the study. Then he tried something different. He gave participants a particular series of questions which they would ask each other. These questions were deeper than your average “How’s the weather where you’re from” – things like: -What is the greatest accomplishment of your life? -If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be? -Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why? Which, after a while (and after both people got a bit more comfortable with each other), eventually led into more personal questions: -Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it? -What is your most treasured memory? -How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s? And finally, after a string of questions like those, landed on some fairly intimate stuff: -If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet? -If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know. -When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself? After 45 minutes of this, study participants consistently reported having positive feelings for their conversation partners, and wanted to keep in touch. They didn’t even balk at the personal nature of the questions; they all had a lot of fun (in part, this was because the earlier questions are less intense than the later questions, so you both kind of warm up to it). Interestingly enough, this was regardless of whether or not they had anything in common in the first place. What’s going on? Basically, the main thing that produces a feeling of connection with someone else is self-disclosure. If all you and your conversation partner know about each-other is the number of siblings you both possess, you’re not going to want to stay in touch. But if you know something about the values, feelings and goals of your partner – what’s going on beneath the surface – and he/she knows the same about you, you’ll both want to stay in touch. Aron’s questions are designed to gradually, comfortably increase the amount of self-disclosure between two people until they feel like old friends. He’s just squeezing all that self-disclosure into a single 45 minute period. So what’s all this mean for language learning? I’m not suggesting you charge into a language exchange and immediately ask about your conversation partner’s relationship with his mother. Nor am I suggesting that you start by declaring a set of game rules – I’m going to ask you a question. Then you have to ask me the same question – and making your partner play your game. But a little bit of knowledge (and a small reserve of well-thought-out questions) can go a long way. If you know that “What’s the weather like in Moscow” isn’t going to be as interesting for you or your partner than “What’s one of your favorite memories,” then you can generally steer in the direction of self-disclosure and see if your exchange partner follows suit. You’ll often find that they will, and with a little luck, you might make a new friend who happens to speak your target language. A list of conversation questions Questions from Aron’s study: As far as I can tell, the original list of 36 questions was broken into 3 groups of 12, in order of increasing self-disclosure. I’m going to italicize the questions I think could actually make their way into a typical language exchange (i.e. aren’t ridiculously personal when they come out of the blue). List A: Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest? Would you like to be famous? In what way? Before making a phone call, do you ever rehearse what you’re going to say? Why? What would constitute a perfect day for you? When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else? If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you choose? Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die? Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common. For what in your life do you feel most grateful? If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be? Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained one quality or ability, what would it be? List B: If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know? Is there something that you’ve dreamt of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it? What is the greatest accomplishment of your life? What do you value most in a friendship? What is your most treasured memory? What is your most terrible memory? If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why? What does friendship mean to you? What roles do love and affection play in your life? Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s? How do you feel about your relationship with your mother? List C: Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “we are both in this room feeling…” Complete this sentence “I wish I had someone with whom I could share…” If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know. Tell your partner what you like about them: be honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself? Tell your partner something that you like about them already. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about? If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet? Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why? Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen. (Many (if not all) of Aron’s questions came from Dr. Gregory Stock’s Book of Questions, which is a lovely source for these sorts of things!) Questions from a similar 2008 study about developing friendship in groups Group A: - Do your close friends tend to be older or younger than you? - Does living as if you control your own destiny lead to a more powerful life? - If you could choose the sex and physical appearance of your soon-to-be-born child, would you do it? - What would your ideal or perfect life be like? - How many times a day do you look at yourself in the mirror? - Would you be willing to have horrible nightmares for a year if you would be rewarded with extraordinary wealth? - What sorts of things would you do if you could be as outgoing and uninhibited as you wished? - What important decision in your professional life have you based largely upon your intuitive feelings? What about in your personal life? - While on a trip to another city, your spouse (or lover) meets and spends a night w/ an exciting stranger. Given they will never meet again, and you will not otherwise learn of the incident, would you want your partner to tell you about it? - Do you judge others by higher or lower standards than you judge yourself? Why? - How do you feel when people like you because they think you are someone you are not? - How many children do you hope to have? Do you know what you will name them? If yes, what? Group B: - If your friends and acquaintances were willing to bluntly and honestly tell you what they thought of you, would you want them to? - Would you be content with a marriage of the highest quality in all respects but one – it completely lacked sex? - What are you looking for when you converse with people? What kinds of things do you usually discuss? Are there things that would be more interesting to you? - If you could take a one-month trip anywhere in the world and money were not a consideration, where would you go and what would you do? - How much do you tend to examine your actions and motives to find out more about yourself? - What was your most enjoyable dream? Your worst nightmare? - Whom do you admire most? In what way does that person inspire you? - When you are with your friends, do your interactions include much touching – for example, hugging, kissing, roughhousing, or rubbing backs? Would you like to have more of this? - If you could choose the manner of your death, what would it be? - Can you envision how you are likely to look back upon the things you are doing today? If so, how much do you try to live now as you think you will one day wish you had lived? - What do you like the best about your life? Least? - What would make you feel most betrayed by your mate – indifference? Dishonesty? Infidelity? Group C: - Do you have any specific long-term goals? What is one and how do you plan on reaching it? - Do you ever feel nervous about hanging out with other people, even your close friends? - Do you find it so hard to say “no” that you regularly do favors you do not want to do? If so, why? - What things are too personal to discuss with others? - Have you ever disliked someone for being luckier or more successful than you? - Who is the most important person in your life? Wht could you do to improve the relationship? Will you ever do it? - Do you believe our life is predetermined by fate or is solely a consequence of the choices we make (or both)? Explain why. - If you were guaranteed honest responses to any three questions, who would you question and what would you ask? - ould you risk your life for someone close to you out of feelings of obligation or out of feelings of love? What if the person asked you not to risk your life? - In terms of their relative unpleasantness, how would you rank the following: a nude stroll in public; being spat upon by a crowd of people; being arrested for shoplifting; begging for money at an airport? - If you were happily married, and then met someone you felt was certain to always bring you deeply passionate, intoxicating love, would you leave your spouse? What if you had kids? - Do you believe in any sort of God? If not, do you think you might still pray if you were in a life-threatening situation? (More info from the UC Berkeley Relationships/Social Cognition Lab) Some picks from a recent AskReddit thread: This post was inspired by a recent AskReddit thread, “Reddit, what are your best questions to get to know someone?”. Here are some picks that would actually work for a language exchange. I’ve added links to the comments with a bit more background than just a question: - What’s the last thing you’ve done for the very first time? (icepick_) - What’s your favorite food and where I can get it? (cminnett) (permalink) - What is your favorite/least favorite word? (Just_an_ordinary_man) (permalink) - What is your favorite/least favorite curse word? (Just_an_ordinary_man) (permalink) - What profession other than your own would you like to attempt? (Just_an_ordinary_man) (permalink) - What’s your LEAST favorite movie? (Mitch_Deadberg) (permalink) - What are the top 3 websites you visit? (totinospizzaftw) (giant list: permalink) - If the world was going to end and you knew it, what 3 things would you do? (totinospizzaftw) (giant list: permalink) - What’s the best/worst gift you ever got? (totinospizzaftw) (giant list: permalink) - What’s your favorite book/author? (totinospizzaftw) (giant list: permalink) - If you could visit anywhere where would you go? (totinospizzaftw) (giant list: permalink) - What’s something (not language related) that you wish you were better at? (totinospizzaftw) (giant list: permalink) - What is something you can’t help but spend money on? (totinospizzaftw) (giant list: permalink) - How would you describe yourself if you could only use five words? (totinospizzaftw) (giant list: permalink) Do you have some conversation starters that always seem to work, particularly in the context of language exchanges? Put them in the comments! Edit: A friend just suggested a $2 eBook entitled How Did You End Up Here? It’s compiled by Davy Rothbart, from TED, and it contains a collection of ~100 crowd-sourced and curated questions to ask someone you’ve just met. Check it out!
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Kad učenje jezika, na kraju ćete morati zapravo razgovarati s nekim. Internet čini glupo lako na dobiti u dirati s novim ljudima (i za jezične razmjene i razgovor u cjelini), ali što se ide na razgovor oko? “Učim ruski.” “Zašto?” “Bla bla bla…” traje oko 5 zapisnik. Onda što? Ovo je popis pitanja i tema razgovora koje imaju jedan sveobuhvatni cilj: Možete li naći neke točke veze s partnerom razgovor? Možete li čak i stvoriti trajan prijateljstvo? Svatko tko je igrao oko s 5-minutnim razgovore o Verbling dobiva osjećaj da je lako dobiti dosadno s čavrljanjem. Ljudi zapravo žele razgovarati sa su ljudi koji ste upoznali na dubljoj razini nego “Kakvo je vrijeme u Moskvi?”. Znanost o prijateljstvu Psiholog Arthur Aron ime objavljeno uredan studija o tome. U osnovi, Zabio dvije osobe u sobi i da ih razgovor o besmislen sranja smo skloni razgovarati o tome kada smo zapeli u sobi sa slučajnim osobi – Odakle ste, da li vi imati bilo braće i sestara, gdje radite, i sl.. Kao što ste mogli očekivati, većina ljudi imali malo interesa za čuvanje u kontaktu sa svojim partnerom razgovor nakon studija. Tada je pokušao nešto drugo. Dao sudionicima određeni niz pitanja na koja oni će pitati jedni druge. Ova pitanja su dublji od vašeg prosjeku “Kakvo je vrijeme u kojem ste iz” – stvari kao što su: -Ono što je najveći uspjeh vašeg života? -Ako bi mogao probuditi sutra nakon što je stekao bilo jednu kvalitetu ili sposobnost, što bi to bilo? -Prije izrade telefonski poziv, da li ste ikada vježbati što ćete reći? Zašto? Koji, malo kasnije (, a nakon što su obje osobe dobio malo više ugodno jedno s drugim), na kraju dovelo u više osobnih pitanja: -Ima li nešto što ste željeli raditi za dugo vremena? Zašto niste to učinili? -Koji je tvoj većina dragocjen memorije? -Kako blizak i topao je vaša obitelj? Osjećate li se vašeg djetinjstva bio sretniji od većine drugih Narodne? I je konačno, nakon niza pitanja poput onih, sletio na nekom prilično intimnom stvari: -Ako ste bili umrijeti večeras bez mogućnosti komunikacije s kim, ono što većina ne bi žaljenje što je rekao netko? Zašto nisi rekao im još? -Ako ste bili će postati bliski prijatelj s partnerom, molimo Vas da podijelite ono što će biti važno za njega ili nju da zna. -Kad ste zadnji krik pred drugom osobom? Po sebi? Nakon 45 minuta ovu, Ispitanicima je dosljedno izvijestio imajući pozitivne osjećaje za njihov razgovor partnera, i htjela ostati u kontaktu. Nisu ni zadržavati na osobne naravi pitanja; svi su imali puno zabave (djelimično, to je zato što su ranija pitanja su slabiji od kasnijih pitanja, tako da obje vrste toplo do njega). Zanimljivo, ovo je bez obzira na to jesu li ili nisu imali ništa zajedničko na prvo mjesto. Što se zbiva? U osnovi, Glavna stvar koja stvara osjećaj povezanosti s nekim drugim je self-objavljivanje. Ako svi vi i vaš partner znati razgovor jedni o drugima, je broj braće i sestara i da posjeduju, ne idete da želite ostati u kontaktu. Ali ako znate nešto o vrijednostima, osjećaji i ciljevi vašeg partnera - što se događa ispod površine - i on / ona zna ista o vama, ćete oboje želite ostati u kontaktu. Aron je pitanja su napravljeni kako bi se postupno, komotno povećati količinu samo-otkrivanja između dvoje ljudi dok se oni osjećaju kao stari prijatelji. On je samo stiskanja sve to samo-otkrivanja u jednom 45 minutnog razdoblja. Zato što je sve to znači za učenje jezika? Nisam sugerirajući vam naplatiti u jeziku razmjene i odmah pitati o svom razgovoru partnera odnos s majkom. Niti sam ja sugerirajući da počnete proglašavajući skup pravila igre - Ja ću vam postaviti jedno pitanje. Onda moraš me pitati isto pitanje - I što vaš partner igrati svoju igru. No, malo znanja (i mali rezervat dobro osmišljenim pitanja) može ići dug put. Ako znate da je “Kakvo je vrijeme u Moskvi” ne će biti zanimljivo za vas ili vašeg partnera od “Što je jedan od omiljenih sjećanja,” onda općenito može usmjeriti u pravcu samo-otkrivanja i vidjeti ako je vaš partner razmjena slijedi odijelo. Često ćete naći da će, , a uz malo sreće, možda napraviti novu prijateljicu koja se događa da govori ciljani jezik. Popis razgovor pitanja Pitanja od Aron studiji: Koliko ja mogu reći, Izvorni popis 36 Pitanja je provaljeno 3 skupine 12, u cilju povećanja samo-otkrivanja. Idem kurzivom pitanja mislim da bi zapravo mogao napraviti svoj put u tipičnom jeziku razmjenu (I.E. nisu smiješno osobni kad su došli niotkuda). Popis: S obzirom na izbor bilo koga u svijetu, koga bi želite kao gost večere? Želite li biti poznati? Na koji način? Prije izrade telefonski poziv, da li ste ikada vježbati ono što si htio reći? Zašto? Koji bi bio savršen dan za tebe? Kad ste zadnji put pjevaju na sebe? Da netko drugi? Ako ste bili u mogućnosti živjeti u dobi od 90 i zadržati ili um ili tijelo 30-godišnjak za posljednja 60 godina svog života, što bi ste izabrali? Imate li tajni predosjećaj o tome kako ćete umrijeti? Navedite tri stvari koje vi i vaš partner čini se da imaju zajedničko. Jer ono što u vašem životu se osjećate jako zahvalan? Ako bi mogao promijeniti ništa o načinu na koji su podigli, što bi to bilo? Uzmi četiri minute i recite partneru vaša životna priča u što više detalja moguće. Ako bi mogao probuditi sutra nakon što je stekao jednu kvalitetu ili sposobnost, što bi to bilo? Popis B: Ako lopta kristalima mogla reći istinu o sebi, vaš život, Budućnost ili bilo što drugo, Što biste htjeli znati? Ima li nešto što ste željeli raditi za dugo vremena? Zašto niste to učinili? Ono što je najveći uspjeh vašeg života? Što najviše cijenite u prijateljstvu? Koji je tvoj većina dragocjen memorije? Koja je tvoja najstrašniji memorije? Ako ste znali da je u jednoj godini, da bi iznenada umrijeti, bi li promijenili ništa o načinu na koji sada žive? Zašto? Što znači za vas prijateljstvo? Što učiniti uloge ljubav i naklonost igrati u vašem životu? Alternativni dijeljenje nešto što Vam se pozitivno obilježje partnerom. Podijelite s ukupno pet predmeta. Kako blizak i topao je vaša obitelj? Osjećate li se vašeg djetinjstva bio sretniji od većine drugih Narodne? Kako se osjećate o svom odnosu sa svojom majkom? Popis C: Napravite tri istinito “mi” izvještaji svaka. Na primjer, “oboje smo u ovoj sobi osjećaja…” Ispunite ovu rečenicu “Volio bih da sam imao nekoga s kim bih mogla podijeliti…” Ako ste bili će postati bliski prijatelj s partnerom, molimo Vas da podijelite ono što će biti važno za njega ili nju da zna. Recite partneru što vam se sviđa kod njih: Iskreno ovaj put, govore stvari koje ne bi mogli reći nekome da ste upravo sreo. Podijelite s partnerom neugodna trenutak u vašem životu. Kad ste zadnji krik pred drugom osobom? Po sebi? Recite partneru nešto što vam se sviđa kod njih je već. Što, ako ništa, je previše ozbiljna da bi se šalila? Ako ste bili umrijeti večeras bez mogućnosti komunikacije s kim, ono što većina ne bi žaljenje što je rekao netko? Zašto nisi rekao im još? Vaša kuća, koji sadrži sve što posjedujete, hvata vatru. Nakon spremanja svoje najmilije i kućni ljubimci, Imate li vremena za sigurno donijeti konačnu crtica za spremanje bilo koju stavku. Što bi to moglo biti? Zašto? Od svih ljudi u vašoj obitelji, čija je smrt bi vam najpogubnija? Zašto Podijelite osobni problem i pitajte vašeg partnera savjete o tome kako on ili ona može podnijeti. Također, zamolite partnera da odražava natrag na vas kako vam se čini da se osjećate o problemu koji ste izabrali. (Mnogi (ako ne i svi) Aron je od pitanja je došao iz dr. Gregory Stock-a Knjiga pitanja, što je lijep izvor za ove vrste stvari!) Pitanja od sličan 2008 učiti o razvoju prijateljstva u skupinama Skupina: - Imaju li vaši bliski prijatelji imaju tendenciju da se stariji ili mlađi od tebe? - Ima li života kao što kontrolirati svoje vlastite sudbine vodstvo na snažniji života? - Ako ste mogli izabrati seksualni i fizički izgled vašeg uskoro-to-biti-rođeno dijete, bi li to učiniti? - Što bi vaš idealan i savršen život bude kao? - Koliko puta dnevno ne pogledate se u ogledalo? - Biste li bili spremni imati strašne noćne more za godinu dana ako će biti nagrađeni s izvanrednim bogatstva? - Što svašta bi vam učiniti ako ste mogli biti kao odlaznih i nesputano kao što ste poželjeli? - Što važna odluka u svom profesionalnom životu ste temelji uglavnom na svoje intuitivne osjećaje? Što je u vašem osobnom životu? - Dok je na putovanje u drugi grad, vaš suprug (ili ljubavnika) sastaje i provodi noć w / uzbudljivi stranca. S obzirom da nikada neće ponovno susresti, i inače ne će naučiti o incidentu, bi želite da vaš partner koji će vam reći o tome? - Da li suditi drugima viši ili niži od standarda što se suditi? Zašto? - Kako se osjećate kad vas ljudi vole jer misle da se netko niste? - Koliko djece se nadate da ćete imati? Znate li što će ih imenovati? Ako da, što? Skupina B: - Ako vaši prijatelji i poznanici su bili spremni otvoreno i iskreno reći što misli o vama, bi ih želite? - Hoćete li biti zadovoljni s vjenčanja najviše kvalitete u svim aspektima, ali jedan – to je potpuno nedostajalo seks? - Što ste u potrazi za kada razgovarati s ljudima? Koje vrste stvari koje se obično razgovarali? Postoje li stvari koje bi bilo zanimljivije za vas? - Ako ste mogli uzeti jednomjesečnu izlet bilo gdje u svijetu i novac nisu bili uzeti u obzir, gdje će vam ići i što će učiniti? - Koliko ste skloni ispitati svoje postupke i motive kako biste saznali više o sebi? - Koji je bio vaš najveći užitak snova? Vaša najgora noćna mora? - Koga najviše dive? Na koji način se ta osoba vas inspiriraju? - Kada ste s prijateljima, Vaši interakcija uključuje puno dira – na primjer, grljenje, ljubakanje, roughhousing, ili trljanje leđa? Želite li imati više od ovoga? - Ako ste mogli izabrati način svoje smrti, što bi to bilo? - Možete li zamisliti kako ste vjerojatno osvrnuti na ono što radite danas? Ako je tako, koliko ti pokušati živjeti sada, kao što mislim da će se jednoga dana želi vam živio? - Što vam se sviđa najbolje o svom životu? Najmanji? - Što će učiniti ako se osjećate najviše izdao vašeg partnera – ravnodušnost? Nepoštenje? Nevjera? Grupa C: - Imate li kakvih posebnih dugoročnih ciljeva? Koji je jedan i kako mislite na to dostizanje? - Osjećaš li se ikada nervozan druženje s drugim ljudima, čak i vaši bliski prijatelji? - Da li ga pronašli kako teško je reći “ne” da redovito ne favorizira ne želite raditi? Ako je tako, zašto? - Koje su stvari previše osobno razgovarati s drugima? - Jeste li ikada volio nekoga zato što sretnije i uspješnije od vas? - Tko je najvažnija osoba u vašem životu? WHT može učiniti kako bi poboljšali odnos? Hoće li se ikada to učiniti? - Vjerujete li naš život predodređen sudbinom ili je isključivo posljedica odluke koje donosimo (ili oboje)? Objasnite zašto. - Ako su zajamčena pošten odgovore na sva tri pitanja, Tko bi ti pitanje i što bi vas pitati? - Ould li riskirati svoj život za nekoga u blizini vas iz osjećaja obveze ili iz osjećaja ljubavi? Što ako osoba koja vas je zamolio da ne riskirati svoj život? - U smislu njihove relativne neugodnosti, kako bi se čin sljedeće: gola šetnja u javnosti; se popljuvali po gomili ljudi; što je uhićen zbog krađe; moleći za novac u zračnoj luci? - Ako ste bili u braku sretno, a potom susreo netko osjetio je uvjeren da uvijek donijeti duboko strastveni, opojan ljubav, će vas ostaviti vaš suprug? Što ako je imao djecu? - Vjerujete li u bilo kakve Boga? Ako se ne, misliš da još uvijek može moliti, ako ste bili u po život opasne situacije? (Više informacija na UC Berkeley Odnosi / Socijalna Spoznaja Lab) Neki pijucima iz nedavne AskReddit nit: Ovaj post je inspiriran Nedavna AskReddit nit, “Reddit, Koji su vaši najbolji Pitanja upoznati nekoga?”. Ovdje su neki tipovi koji bi zapravo rade za razmjenu jezika. Ja sam dodao linkove na komentare sa malo više pozadinu nego samo pitanje: - Što je zadnje što ste učinili za vrlo prvi put? (icepick_) - Koja je tvoja omiljena hrana i gdje se mogu nabaviti? (cminnett) (permanentni) - Koja je tvoja omiljena / najmanje omiljena riječ? (Just_an_ordinary_man) (permanentni) - Koja je tvoja omiljena / najmanje omiljena psovka? (Just_an_ordinary_man) (permanentni) - Koje profesije osim vlastite želite pokušati? (Just_an_ordinary_man) (permanentni) - Koji je vaš omiljeni film BAREM? (Mitch_Deadberg) (permanentni) - Što su top 3 Web stranice koje posjećujete? (totinospizzaftw) (div popis: permanentni) - Ako svijet ide do kraja, a ti si to znao, što 3 stvari koje će vas učiniti? (totinospizzaftw) (div popis: permanentni) - Koji je najbolji / najgori poklon li ikada dobio? (totinospizzaftw) (div popis: permanentni) - Koja je tvoja omiljena knjiga / autora? (totinospizzaftw) (div popis: permanentni) - Ako ste mogli posjetiti bilo kojoj bi idete? (totinospizzaftw) (div popis: permanentni) - Ono što je nešto (jeziku odnose) da li bih da si bolje? (totinospizzaftw) (div popis: permanentni) - Ono što je nešto što se ne može pomoći, ali trošiti novac na? (totinospizzaftw) (div popis: permanentni) - Kako biste opisali sebe ako može samo koristiti pet riječi? (totinospizzaftw) (div popis: permanentni) Imate li neki početak razgovora koji se uvijek čini da rade, osobito u kontekstu jezičnih burzama? Stavite ih u komentarima! Uredi: Prijatelj je upravo predložio $2 knjiga pod naslovom Kako ste završili ovdje? To je sastavio Davy Rotbarta, na TED-u, i sadrži zbirku ~ 100 gužve-podrijetlom i kustos pitanja pitati nekoga ste upravo sastali. Check it out!