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In a healthy relationship, both partners are able to express their feelings and respect each other’s boundaries about sex. You shouldn’t have to have sex to keep your partner. You may feel comfortable kissing or holding hands but not want to go any further. That’s ok. Deciding whether you want to have sex or when you should is a decision you should make when it feels right for YOU. In a healthy relationship, your partner respects your decisions, even when they don’t like them. If you are thinking about when to have sex, keep in mind: - You should feel comfortable with your decision. - Talk with your partner about safe sex practices, like getting tested for STIs and considering birth control options. - Be honest with yourself and your partner. If you’re not ready, that’s ok and your partner should respect it. - If something scares you or makes you feel uncomfortable, you can say no at any time. - You have the right to talk openly and honestly about your fears, worries and feelings. - If your partner tries to threaten or pressure you into having sex, it can be a sign of an unhealthy relationship. You deserve better. - No matter how long you’ve been with someone or how many times you’ve done something, you have the right to say no at anytime for any reason. - If someone won’t take no for an answer and repeatedly pressures you verbally, emotionally or physically it can be a sign of abuse. - You have control over your body, and no one else has the right to tell you what to do with it. Why is It So Complicated? Having sex can raise the intensity of emotions that people feel for each other — whether you’re in a serious or casual relationship. At times, this elevation is a good and enjoyable thing, but sometimes it makes a hard situation worse. It’s important that you feel ready and confident in your decisions about having sex. Even if you are in a healthy relationship and would like to have sex with your partner, some beliefs or expectations might make this decision more complicated. You and the people in your life might have different ideas about when or what type of sexual activity is alright and what is not. Here are a few ways this might happen: - Your family does not allow you to date, let alone have sex and there is a risk they would find out. - In your culture or religion, it is expected that you wait until marriage. You might agree, disagree or be questioning this belief. - You feel that your friends or peers will not agree with your decision and you care about their opinions. You might feel like you’re choosing between what you want and what others want, yet you might also share some of the same beliefs. Just remember that you are capable of making your own decisions and creating your own set of values. Learn to Communicate Only you know what’s on your mind, so unless you express yourself, the other person is only left guessing. Communication is always key to a healthy relationship, and the physical part of it is no different. It can be uncomfortable being completely open when it comes to talking about sex, even with a girlfriend or boyfriend. Still, it is important to push past that and let them know what you like, what you don’t like or if you don’t want to go any further. Encourage your partner to be open as well because it takes practice and patience. Learning to listen is equally, and possibly even more, essential to strong communication. When you show the other person that what they say matters to you, they will be more likely to trust you and listen to you in return. Sex and intimacy are strongly affected by how both people feel, so it really pays off to create a positive atmosphere. Break Out of the Box When people are not sure how to act in a certain situation or not sure what others will think is cool, they tend to try and be who they should be and not who they really are. A guy might be led to believe that he should have sex with a lot of girls and not get emotionally attached to them. On the other hand, a girl might be led to believe that having sex with too many guys is “slutty,” and that girls should “play hard to get.” Stereotypes like these can make it harder for everyone to be honest about what they really want and can also make them feel self-conscious. A relationship will be stronger and more real when both people can truly be themselves both inside and outside of the bedroom. When we question these “rules,” we respect our partner for who they are instead of who they “should be.” What is Sexual Abuse? Sexual abuse is any type of unwanted sexual contact. Forcing or pressuring someone to do something they don’t want or don’t consent to is sexual assault. No one should ever take advantage of you sexually when you are asleep, intoxicated or under the influence of drugs. This can be a very serious and dangerous form of abuse. Learn more about sexual abuse and what to do if you experience it.
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Zdrava veza i seks Pogledano: 1412 puta U zdravom odnosu, oba su partnera u mogućnosti izraziti svoje osjećaje i poštovati granice jedno drugog kada se radi o seksu. Ne biste trebali imati spolni odnos da biste zadržali partnera. Možda se bolje osjećate kada partnera poljubite ili se samo držite za ruke. To je u redu. Odlučivanje želite li imati spolni odnos i kada ga želite, odluka je koju trebate učiniti kada osjećate da je pravo vrijeme za vas. U zdravom odnosu, Vaš partner poštuje Vaše odluke čak i kada mu nisu po volji. Ako razmišljate o tome kada se trebate seksati, treba imati na umu neke stvari: Trebate osjećati ugodu pri svojoj odluci Razgovarajte sa svojim partnerom o „sigurnom“ seksu. Preventivno učinite testove koji pokazuju da ste oboje zdravi i koristite zaštitu (pilule, prezervativi...) Budite iskreni prema sebi i partneru. Ako niste spremni na seks, recite partneru, a on i trebao poštivati Vašu odluku Imate pravo razgovarati otvoreno o seksu, strahovima, osjećajima i brigama Ako Vas pak partner tjera na seks, imajte na umu da se radi o nezreloj osobi koja Vas ne poštuje i prvom znaku „nezdrave“ veze. Zaslužujete bolje! Bez obzira koliko ste dugo u vezi i koliko ste puta već neto probali, u svakom trenutku možete reći NE ako nešto ne želite. Ako netko ne prihvaća NE kao odgovor i vrši pritisak na Vas fizički, psihički i emocionalno, znajte da se radi o nekoj vrsti zlostavljanja u vezi. Imajte uvijek kontrolu nad svojim tijelom i nitko nema pravo govoriti Vam što trebate promijeniti na sebi ako to i sami ne želite. Volite svoje tijelo! Zašto je seks kompliciran? Seks može podići intenzitet emocija koje ljudi osjećaju jedni za druge bez obzira jesu li u ozbiljnoj ili povremenoj vezi. S vremena na vrijeme, to povećanje emocija dobra je i ugodna stvar, ali ponekad teške situacije postaju još gore. Važno je da se osjećate spremni i sigurni u svoje odluke o seksu. Čak i ako ste u zdravom odnos, a želite imati spolni odnos sa svojim partnerom, neka uvjerenja ili očekivanja mogu tu odluku učiniti složenom i kompliciranom. Vi i ljudi u vašem životu možete imati različite ideje o tome kada i kakvu vrstu seksualne aktivnosti treba prakticirati dok je za neke ljude to potpuno drugačije. Možda ćete se osjećati kao da morate birati između onoga što želite i ono što drugi žele. Dovoljno je zapamtiti da ste sposobni za stvaranje vlastite odluke i stvaranje svojih vlastitih vrijednosti i uvjerenja. Naučite komunicirati Samo Vi znate što Vam je na umu, a ako se ne izjasnite o tome što želite, druga osoba može samo nagađati. Komunikacija je uvijek ključ za zdrav odnos, a fizički dio odnosa bitno se ne razlikuje. Može biti vrlo neugodno biti potpuno otvoren kada je u pitanju razgovor o seksu čak i s partnerima. Ipak, važno je zaboraviti na prošlosti i neugodna iskustva, reći što se Vama sviđa, koliko želite ići dalje i želite li uopće. Potaknite partnera da bude otvoren i zato je potrebno prakse i strpljenja. Razgovarajte! Naučiti slušati partnera jednako je, a možda čak i više bitno da biste ostvarili dobru komunikaciju. Kada pokažete drugoj osobu da ono što kažu uistinu je Vama važno, partner će imati puno povjerenje u Vas i komunikacija će biti dvosmjerna, ne samo u seksu, već i u vezi općenito. Seks i intimnost snažno su povezani s ljudskim osjećajima. Potrudite se stvoriti pozitivnu atmosferu. Povezane teme: