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Subtitles and Transcript 0:11 There is something you know about me, something very personal, and there is something I know about every one of you and that's very central to your concerns. There is something that we know about everyone we meet anywhere in the world, on the street, that is the very mainspring of whatever they do and whatever they put up with. And that is that all of us want to be happy. In this, we are all together. How we imagine our happiness, that differs from one another, but it's already a lot that we have all in common, that we want to be happy. 1:08 Now my topic is gratefulness. What is the connection between happiness and gratefulness? Many people would say, well, that's very easy. When you are happy, you are grateful. But think again. Is it really the happy people that are grateful? We all know quite a number of people who have everything that it would take to be happy, and they are not happy, because they want something else or they want more of the same. And we all know people who have lots of misfortune, misfortune that we ourselves would not want to have, and they are deeply happy. They radiate happiness. You are surprised. Why? Because they are grateful. So it is not happiness that makes us grateful. It's gratefulness that makes us happy. If you think it's happiness that makes you grateful, think again. It's gratefulness that makes you happy. 2:25 Now, we can ask, what do we really mean by gratefulness? And how does it work? I appeal to your own experience. We all know from experience how it goes. We experience something that's valuable to us. Something is given to us that's valuable to us. And it's really given. These two things have to come together. It has to be something valuable, and it's a real gift. You haven't bought it. You haven't earned it. You haven't traded it in. You haven't worked for it. It's just given to you. And when these two things come together, something that's really valuable to me and I realize it's freely given, then gratefulness spontaneously rises in my heart, happiness spontaneously rises in my heart. That's how gratefulness happens. 3:30 Now the key to all this is that we cannot only experience this once in a while. We cannot only have grateful experiences. We can be people who live gratefully. Grateful living, that is the thing. And how can we live gratefully? By experiencing, by becoming aware that every moment is a given moment, as we say. It's a gift. You haven't earned it. You haven't brought it about in any way. You have no way of assuring that there will be another moment given to you, and yet, that's the most valuable thing that can ever be given to us, this moment, with all the opportunity that it contains. If we didn't have this present moment, we wouldn't have any opportunity to do anything or experience anything, and this moment is a gift. It's a given moment, as we say. 4:42 Now, we say the gift within this gift is really the opportunity. What you are really grateful for is the opportunity, not the thing that is given to you, because if that thing were somewhere else and you didn't have the opportunity to enjoy it, to do something with it, you wouldn't be grateful for it. Opportunity is the gift within every gift, and we have this saying, opportunity knocks only once. Well, think again. Every moment is a new gift, over and over again, and if you miss the opportunity of this moment, another moment is given to us, and another moment. We can avail ourselves of this opportunity, or we can miss it, and if we avail ourselves of the opportunity, it is the key to happiness. Behold the master key to our happiness in our own hands. Moment by moment, we can be grateful for this gift. 5:52 Does that mean that we can be grateful for everything? Certainly not. We cannot be grateful for violence, for war, for oppression, for exploitation. On the personal level, we cannot be grateful for the loss of a friend, for unfaithfulness, for bereavement. But I didn't say we can be grateful for everything. I said we can be grateful in every given moment for the opportunity, and even when we are confronted with something that is terribly difficult, we can rise to this occasion and respond to the opportunity that is given to us. It isn't as bad as it might seem. Actually, when you look at it and experience it, you find that most of the time, what is given to us is the opportunity to enjoy, and we only miss it because we are rushing through life and we are not stopping to see the opportunity. 7:00 But once in a while, something very difficult is given to us, and when this difficult thing occurs to us, it's a challenge to rise to that opportunity, and we can rise to it by learning something which is sometimes painful. Learning patience, for instance. We have been told that the road to peace is not a sprint, but is more like a marathon. That takes patience. That's difficult. It may be to stand up for your opinion, to stand up for your conviction. That's an opportunity that is given to us. To learn, to suffer, to stand up, all these opportunities are given to us, but they are opportunities, and those who avail themselves of those opportunities are the ones that we admire. They make something out of life. And those who fail get another opportunity. We always get another opportunity. That's the wonderful richness of life. 8:09 So how can we find a method that will harness this? How can each one of us find a method for living gratefully, not just once in a while being grateful, but moment by moment to be grateful. How can we do it? It's a very simple method. It's so simple that it's actually what we were told as children when we learned to cross the street. Stop. Look. That's all. But how often do we stop? We rush through life. We don't stop. We miss the opportunity because we don't stop. We have to stop. We have to get quiet. And we have to build stop signs into our lives. 9:02 When I was in Africa some years ago and then came back, I noticed water. In Africa where I was, I didn't have drinkable water. Every time I turned on the faucet, I was overwhelmed. Every time I clicked on the light, I was so grateful. It made me so happy. But after a while, this wears off. So I put little stickers on the light switch and on the water faucet, and every time I turned it on, water. So leave it up to your own imagination. You can find whatever works best for you, but you need stop signs in your life. And when you stop, then the next thing is to look. You look. You open your eyes. You open your ears. You open your nose. You open all your senses for this wonderful richness that is given to us. There is no end to it, and that is what life is all about, to enjoy, to enjoy what is given to us. 10:05 And then we can also open our hearts, our hearts for the opportunities, for the opportunities also to help others, to make others happy, because nothing makes us more happy than when all of us are happy. And when we open our hearts to the opportunities, the opportunities invite us to do something, and that is the third. Stop, look, and then go, and really do something. And what we can do is whatever life offers to you in that present moment. Mostly it's the opportunity to enjoy, but sometimes it's something more difficult. 10:50 But whatever it is, if we take this opportunity, we go with it, we are creative, those are the creative people. And that little stop, look, go, is such a potent seed that it can revolutionize our world. Because we are at the present moment in the middle of a change of consciousness, and you will be surprised if you -- I am always surprised when I hear how many times this word "gratefulness" and "gratitude" comes up. Everywhere you find it, a grateful airline, a restaurant gratefulness, a café gratefulness, a wine that is gratefulness. Yes, I have even come across a toilet paper whose brand is called "Thank You." 11:40 (Laughter) 11:42 There is a wave of gratefulness because people are becoming aware how important this is and how this can change our world. It can change our world in immensely important ways, because if you're grateful, you're not fearful, and if you're not fearful, you're not violent. If you're grateful, you act out of a sense of enough and not of a sense of scarcity, and you are willing to share. If you are grateful, you are enjoying the differences between people, and you are respectful to everybody, and that changes this power pyramid under which we live. 12:23 And it doesn't make for equality, but it makes for equal respect, and that is the important thing. The future of the world will be a network, not a pyramid turned upside down. The revolution of which I am speaking is a nonviolent revolution, and it's so revolutionary that it even revolutionizes the very concept of a revolution, because the normal revolution is one where the power pyramid is turned upside down and those who were on the bottom are now on the top and are doing exactly the same thing that the ones before. What we need is a networking of smaller groups, smaller and smaller groups who know one another, who interact with one another, and that is a grateful world. 13:13 A grateful world is a world of joyful people. Grateful people are joyful people, and joyful people -- the more and more joyful people there are, the more and more we'll have a joyful world. We have a network for grateful living, and it has mushroomed. We couldn't understand why it mushroomed. We have an opportunity for people to light a candle when they are grateful for something. And there have been 15 million candles lit in one decade. People are becoming aware that a grateful world is a happy world, and we all have the opportunity by the simple stop, look, go, to transform the world, to make it a happy place. And that is what I hope for us, and if this has contributed a little to making you want to do the same, stop, look, go. 14:15 Thank you. 14:16 (Applause)
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Transcript Translated by Mladen Barešić Reviewed by Ivan Stamenkovic 0:11 Postoji nešto što znate o meni, nešto vrlo osobno, a postoji i nešto što ja znam o svakome od vas, nešto što je u samom središtu vaših interesa. Postoji nešto što znamo o svakome koga sretnemo bilo gdje na svijetu, na ulici, nešto što je glavni pokretač svega što oni rade i svega što podnose, a to je da svi mi želimo biti sretni. To nam je svima zajedničko. Ono kako zamišljamo svoju sreću razlikuje se od pojedinca do pojedinca, no već je puno i to što nam je zajedničko: Mi želimo biti sretni. 1:08 Moja tema je zahvalnost. Kakva je veza između sreće i zahvalnosti? Mnogi bi rekli da je to vrlo jednostavno. Kad ste sretni, onda ste i zahvalni. No, promislimo malo. Jesu li sretni ljudi uistinu ti koji su zahvalni? Svi poznajemo mnogo ljudi koji imaju sve što im treba da bi bili sretni, no oni nisu sretni, jer žele nešto drugo, ili žele više od onoga što imaju. Svi poznajemo ljude koje su brojne nedaće pogodile, nedaće kakve mi sami ne bismo željeli imati, a oni su istinski sretni. Oni zrače srećom. Iznenađeni ste. Zašto? Zato što su zahvalni. Dakle, sreća nas ne čini zahvalnima. Zahvalnost je ta koja nas usrećuje. Ako mislite da je sreća ono što vas čini zahvalnima, razmislite ponovo. Zahvalnost je ono što vas usrećuje. 2:25 Možemo se upitati što točno podrazumijevamo pod zahvalnošću? I kako ona djeluje? Obraćam se vašem vlastitom iskustvu. Svi iz iskustva znamo kako to funkcionira. Doživimo nešto što nam je vrijedno. Darovano nam je nešto što nam je vrijedno. I to se doista podrazumijeva. Ovo dvoje mora postojati. To mora biti nešto vrijedno, i to je pravi dar. Niste to kupili. Niste to zaradili. Niste to razmijenili. Niste za to radili. To vam je naprosto dano. Kad su ta dva uvjeta ispunjena, nešto što mi je zaista vrijedno, i ja shvaćam da je to besplatan dar, tada zahvalnost spontano izranja u mom srcu, radost se spontano budi u mom srcu. Tako se rađa zahvalnost. 3:30 Ključ svega ovoga je da to ne možemo samo povremeno iskusiti. Ne možemo samo imati iskustva zahvalnosti. Možemo biti ljudi koji žive zahvalno. Zahvalno življenje, to je prava stvar. A kako možemo živjeti zahvalno? Stjecanjem iskustava, osvještavanjem da je svaki trenutak dar, kako to znamo reći. To je dar. Niste ga zaslužili. Ni na koji ga način niste uzrokovali. Ne postoji način da si osiguramo još takvih darovanih trenutaka, pa, ipak, to je najvrednije što će nam ikada biti dano, ovaj trenutak, sa svim mogućnostima koje uključuje. Kad ne bi bilo ovog sadašnjeg trenutka, ne bismo imali prilike učiniti ništa niti išta iskusiti, tako da je sadašnji trenutak dar. Kažemo da je to darovan trenutak. 4:42 Kažemo da je dar unutar ovoga dara prava prilika. Ono za što smo uistinu zahvalni jest prilika, ne sama stvar koja vam je dana, jer, da je ta stvar negdje drugdje i da nemate priliku uživati u njoj, napraviti nešto s njom, ne biste bili zahvalni na njoj. Prilika je dar unutar svakog dara, i postoji izreka da prilika samo jednom kuca na vrata. No, u krivu smo. Svaki trenutak je novi dar, opet i opet, i ako propustite priliku ovoga trenutka, darovan vam je novi trenutak, i zatim slijedeći novi. Možemo iskoristiti tu priliku, ili je možemo propustiti, a ako iskoristimo tu priliku, to je ključ radosti. Pogledate glavni ključ naše sreće u našim rukama. Trenutak za trenutkom, možemo biti zahvalni na tom daru. 5:52 Znači li to da možemo biti zahvalni za sve? Sigurno da ne možemo. Ne možemo biti zahvalni za nasilje, rat, za ugnjetavanje, izrabljivanje. Na osobnoj razini, ne možemo biti zahvalni za gubitak prijatelja, za nevjernost, za težak gubitak. No, nisam rekao da možemo biti zahvalni za sve. Rekao sam da možemo biti zahvalni u svakom danom trenutku za priliku, i čak kada smo suočeni s nekom iznimno velikom poteškoćom, možemo pokazati da smo dorasli situaciji i odgovoriti na priliku koja nam se nudi. Nije tako loše kako se možda čini. Zapravo, kada to malo bolje razmotrite i iskusite, shvatite da vam je većinu vremena darovana prilika da uživate, a mi je propuštamo jedino zato što žurimo kroz život i ne stajemo da uočimo priliku. 7:00 No, svako malo dano nam je nešto vrlo teško, i kada nam se dogodi ta poteškoća, to je izazov da se suočimo s tom prilikom, i možemo se suočiti s njom tako da nešto naučimo što katkad može biti bolno. Primjerice, učiti se strpljivosti. Rečeno nam je da put do mira nije sprint, već više nalikuje na maraton. Za to treba strpljenja. To je teško. To može biti i potreba da se zauzmete za svoj stav, za vaše uvjerenje. To je prilika koja nam je dana. Da učimo, patimo, da se zauzmemo za sebe, sve ove prilike su nam dane, no one su prilike, a oni koji iskoriste te prilike su osobe kojima se divimo. Oni rade nešto od svojih života. A oni koji ih ne iskoriste, dobiju drugu priliku. Uvijek dobijemo drugu priliku. To je predivno bogatstvo života. 8:09 Kako onda možemo pronaći metodu kojom ćemo ovo moći iskoristiti? Kako svatko od nas može pronaći metodu za zahvalno življenje, ne da smo zahvalni samo tu i tamo, već da smo zahvalni u svakom trenutku. Kako to možemo postići? To je vrlo jednostavna meoda. Toliko je jednostavna, da je to zapravo ono što su nam govorili kada smo kao djeca učili prelaziti cestu. Stani. Pogledaj. Kreni. To je sve. No, koliko često stajemo? Žurimo kroz život. Ne stajemo. Propuštamo priliku jer ne stajemo. Moramo stati. Moramo se umiriti. I moramo uvesti stop znakove u naše živote. 9:02 Kada sam prije nekoliko godina bio u Africi i potom se vratio, primijetio sam vodu. U Africi gdje sam bio nisam imao pitke vode. Svaki put kada bih okrenuo slavinu, preplavili bi me osjećaji. Svaki put kada bih upalio svjetlo, bio sam toliko zahvalan. To me je činilo jako sretnim. No, to nakon nekog vremena prođe. Tako da sam stavio male naljepnice na prekidač i na slavinu, i svaki put kada bih je okrenuo - voda. Ostavljam vam na to maštu. Možete pronaći što vama najbolje odgovara ali potrebni su vam stop znakovi u vašem životu. I kada stanete, slijedeća stvar jest da promatrate. Gledate. Otvarate oči. Otvarate uši. Otvarate nos. Otvarate sva vaša osjetila za to predivno bogatstvo koje nam je dano. Tome nema kraja. i u tome je smisao života, uživati u onome što nam je dano. 10:05 Tada možemo i otvoriti svoja srca, za prilike, također za prilike da pomognemo drugima, da druge usrećimo, jer nas ništa ne usrećuje više od toga da smo svi sretni. Kada otvorimo svoja srca prilikama, one nas pozivaju da nešto učinimo, i to je treća instanca. Stani, pogledaj, a potom kreni i zaista učini nešto. Ono što možemo učiniti jest štogod nam život nudi u tom trenutku. Najčešće je to prilika da uživamo, no ponekad je to nešto teže. 10:50 No, štogod da jest, ako iskoristimo tu priliku, idemo s njom, kreativni smo, to su kreativni ljudi, taj maleni savjet stani, pogledaj, kreni, je toliko snažan da može revolucionirati naš svijet. Budući da to trebamo, mi smo u sadašnjem trenutku usred promjene svijesti, i bit ćete iznenađeni ako -- ja sam uvijek iznenađen kada čujem koliko puta se spomene riječ "zahvalnost". Nalazimo je posvuda, zahvalna avio kompanija, restoranska zahvalnost, kafić zahvalnosti, vino koje je zahvalnost. Čak sam naišao na toaletni papir čiji je naziv brenda Hvala. (Smijeh) Postoji val zahvalnosti jer ljudi postaju svjesni koliko je to važno i koliko to može promijeniti naš svijet. To može promijenti naš svijet, na neizmjerno bitne načine, jer ako ste zahvalni, niste ustrašeni, a ako niste ustrašeni, niste nasilni. Ako ste zahvalni, djelujete na temelju dostatnosti, a ne na temelju nedostatka, i voljni ste dijeliti s drugima. Ako ste zahvalni, uživate u razlikama među ljudima, i imate poštovanja prema svakome, to mijenja piramidu moći pod kojom živimo. 12:22 To ne doprinosi jednakosti, ali doprinosi jednakom poštovanju, i to je bitna stvar. Budućnost našeg svijeta je mreža, a ne obrnuto okrenuta piramida. Revolucija o kojoj pričam je nenasilna revolucija, i tako je revolucionarna da čak revolucionarizira samu ideju revolucije, budući da normalna revolucija uključuje okretanje piramide moći, i oni koji su bili na dnu sada su na vrhu i rade upravo istu stvar koju su radili njihovi prethodnici. Potrebno nam je umreženje manjih skupina, manjih i manjih skupina koje se međusobno znaju, koje međusobno djeluju, a to je zahvalan svijet. 13:13 Zahvalan svijet je svijet radosnih ljudi. Zahvalni ljudi su radosni ljudi, a radosni ljudi, što je više radosnih ljudi, to ćemo imati radosniji svijet. Imamo mrežu za zahvalno življenje, i ona se brzo razvila. Ne možemo razumijeti zašto se razvila. Ljudi imaju priliku upali svijeću kada su zahvalni za nešto. A u jednom desetljeću je bilo upaljeno 15 milijuna svijeća. Ljudi postaju svijesni da je zahvalan svijet radostan svijet, i svi imamo priliku jednostavnim stani, pogledaj, kreni, promijeniti svijet, učiniti ga radosnim mjestom. Tome se nadam, i ako je ovo imalo pridonijelo tome da i vi poželite učiniti isto, stanite, pogledajte, krenite. 14:15 Hvala vam.