<p>The search term <a href="https://www.google.com/search?client=firefox-b-m&amp;sxsrf=ACYBGNSNzZsyp9P-h3D8KqmUIP9swP99kQ%3A1581321035800&amp;q=children%20hitting%20for%20fun&amp;oq=children%20hitting%20for%20fun" rel="nofollow noreferrer">"children hitting for fun"</a> seems to yield the results you may want although the results seem to come from sites such as mumsnet.</p>

<p>An aspect to this phenomenon is that this behaviour <strong>may</strong> lead to bullying behaviour later on in life if the right responses are not given when this occurs.  The child needs to learn the <em>cause and effect</em> of hitting.</p>

<p>Typing the same term <a href="https://scholar.google.com/scholar?hl=en&amp;as_sdt=0%2C5&amp;q=children%20hitting%20for%20fun&amp;btnG=" rel="nofollow noreferrer">in Google Scholar</a> gives research articles on dealing with bullying.</p>

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I appreciate your response and taking the time to try and help. The first few hits don't really describe the situation. I assume I just don't know how to describe what is going on adequately. (He is not taking joy from causing pain, and he is not doing it out of fear.) It's almost like he perceives hugging and affectionate hitting (for lack of a better word) as the same thing.
Jay
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I can see what you mean now I think @Jacob and I am not necessarily saying it is done "with joy" but you described that there is no anger or distress and this separates your scenario from the "more acceptable", or expected, hitting behaviours. This however is the closest search term I can come up with at this time and the second part of my answer does still stand.
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<p>When I am about to leave, my youngest son will show affection by hugging me before I leave. When we are playing a game and he is really enjoying it, he will actually smile at me and hit me really quickly maybe 5 times a row. Sometimes this coincides snuggling his head into my body. </p>

<p>Initially I thought he was being angry or acting out, it has become clear that he only does it a happy face while we are doing something fun. (And not in an "I am overwhelmed" kind of way. Lately I respond by returning a hug instead of giving him a surprised or irritated face, and he likes that).</p>

<p>Anyway, when I try to google to understand this, keywords such as "affectionate hitting" simply return thousands of "anti-parent hitting children sites". Is there an term for when children do this so I can find more helpful thoughts/discussion about this?</p>

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Are you aware of [Parenting.SE](https://parenting.stackexchange.com/)?
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# How to learn about children using hitting affectionately

(Asked by: username_0 on 2020-02-09)

When I am about to leave, my youngest son will show affection by hugging me before I leave. When we are playing a game and he is really enjoying it, he will actually smile at me and hit me really quickly maybe 5 times a row. Sometimes this coincides snuggling his head into my body.

Initially I thought he was being angry or acting out, it has become clear that he only does it a happy face while we are doing something fun. (And not in an "I am overwhelmed" kind of way. Lately I respond by returning a hug instead of giving him a surprised or irritated face, and he likes that).

Anyway, when I try to google to understand this, keywords such as "affectionate hitting" simply return thousands of "anti-parent hitting children sites". Is there an term for when children do this so I can find more helpful thoughts/discussion about this?

**Tags:** developmental-psychology

> **Comments:**
> **username_1**: Are you aware of [Parenting.SE](https://parenting.stackexchange.com/)?  

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### Answer by username_2 on 2020-02-10. Score: 1

The search term ["children hitting for fun"](https://www.google.com/search?client=firefox-b-m&sxsrf=ACYBGNSNzZsyp9P-h3D8KqmUIP9swP99kQ%3A1581321035800&q=children%20hitting%20for%20fun&oq=children%20hitting%20for%20fun) seems to yield the results you may want although the results seem to come from sites such as mumsnet.

An aspect to this phenomenon is that this behaviour **may** lead to bullying behaviour later on in life if the right responses are not given when this occurs. The child needs to learn the *cause and effect* of hitting.

Typing the same term [in Google Scholar](https://scholar.google.com/scholar?hl=en&as_sdt=0%2C5&q=children%20hitting%20for%20fun&btnG=) gives research articles on dealing with bullying.

> **Comments:**
> **username_0**: I appreciate your response and taking the time to try and help. The first few hits don't really describe the situation. I assume I just don't know how to describe what is going on adequately. (He is not taking joy from causing pain, and he is not doing it out of fear.) It's almost like he perceives hugging and affectionate hitting (for lack of a better word) as the same thing.  
> **username_2**: I can see what you mean now I think @Jacob and I am not necessarily saying it is done "with joy" but you described that there is no anger or distress and this separates your scenario from the "more acceptable", or expected, hitting behaviours. This however is the closest search term I can come up with at this time and the second part of my answer does still stand.  

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