<p>FWIW, I've tried to find existing research on this and come up with next-to-nothing. Hypothetically speaking, I doubt it would be constructive to adopt new psychological jargon that even social and personality psychologists (like myself) have never heard of, given how little research there appears to be on this. The closest match I found was the following reference, which doesn't really discuss sexual attraction or infatuation:</p>

<p><sup>Rubin, Z., Peplau, L. A., &amp; Hill, C. T. (1981). Loving and leaving: Sex differences in romantic attachments. <em>Sex Roles, 7</em>(8), 821–835. Retrieved from <a href="http://www.peplaulab.ucla.edu/Peplau_Lab/Publications_files/Rubin_Peplau_Hill_81.pdf" rel="nofollow">http://www.peplaulab.ucla.edu/Peplau_Lab/Publications_files/Rubin_Peplau_Hill_81.pdf</a>.</sup></p>

<p>Anyway, if it's jargon you want, you might consider <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Passion_%28emotion%29" rel="nofollow">passion</a>, <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lust" rel="nofollow">lust</a> (this has somewhat more negative connotation than I'd expect an author to desire, but <a href="http://goo.gl/Z3xVTr" rel="nofollow">at least one article uses it</a>), <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Limerence" rel="nofollow">limerence</a>, or <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Triangular_theory_of_love#Forms_of_love" rel="nofollow">infatuated love</a>. These don't connote the existence of a broken commitment, but infatuated love does connote a lack of commitment or intimacy by Sternberg's definition, and all connote sexual attraction.</p>

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<p>Is there a psychological term for finding your former partner sexually attractive, or for wanting to get back with your ex? How does science describe this condition?</p>

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I guess you wouldn't expect to publish an article on "finding your ex hot" or "wanting to get back with your ex", but I don't think there are any terms for these that are unique to psychological literature. This might be a better question for English Language & Usage if you can't come up with a more professional way of phrasing these ideas. Jeromy's edit to the title just now is probably sufficient for rephrasing the first idea.
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"Amnesia" sounds close enough...
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Is there a psychological term for finding your former partner sexually attractive?
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# Is there a psychological term for finding your former partner sexually attractive?

(Asked by: username_0 on 2014-06-03)

Is there a psychological term for finding your former partner sexually attractive, or for wanting to get back with your ex? How does science describe this condition?

**Tags:** social-psychology, terminology, sexuality

> **Comments:**
> **username_1**: I guess you wouldn't expect to publish an article on "finding your ex hot" or "wanting to get back with your ex", but I don't think there are any terms for these that are unique to psychological literature. This might be a better question for English Language & Usage if you can't come up with a more professional way of phrasing these ideas. Jeromy's edit to the title just now is probably sufficient for rephrasing the first idea.  
> **username_2**: "Amnesia" sounds close enough...  

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### Answer by username_1 on 2014-06-03. Score: 4

FWIW, I've tried to find existing research on this and come up with next-to-nothing. Hypothetically speaking, I doubt it would be constructive to adopt new psychological jargon that even social and personality psychologists (like myself) have never heard of, given how little research there appears to be on this. The closest match I found was the following reference, which doesn't really discuss sexual attraction or infatuation:

Rubin, Z., Peplau, L. A., & Hill, C. T. (1981). Loving and leaving: Sex differences in romantic attachments. *Sex Roles, 7*(8), 821–835. Retrieved from <http://www.peplaulab.ucla.edu/Peplau_Lab/Publications_files/Rubin_Peplau_Hill_81.pdf>.

Anyway, if it's jargon you want, you might consider [passion](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Passion_%28emotion%29), [lust](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lust) (this has somewhat more negative connotation than I'd expect an author to desire, but [at least one article uses it](http://goo.gl/Z3xVTr)), [limerence](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Limerence), or [infatuated love](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Triangular_theory_of_love#Forms_of_love). These don't connote the existence of a broken commitment, but infatuated love does connote a lack of commitment or intimacy by Sternberg's definition, and all connote sexual attraction.


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