<p>Most any book on codependency will mention substance abuse, if for no other reason than the concept began there. Treatment of codependency is about empowering the person who is the caregiver to stop that sort of behavior. The best book I can recommend (I'm a LMHC) is Codependent No More. I would also suggest looking at Attachment Theory, as some researchers believe it can encompass the problems ascribed to codependency in a wider-reaching theoretical approach. To that end you might read Attached.</p>

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Damien DuPont
<p>Maybe check out the work of Pia Mellody.  It's nearly impossible to speak about codependency outside of the context of addiction.  That being said, Pia comes at codependency from the perspective of <a href="https://rads.stackoverflow.com/amzn/click/com/0062505890" rel="nofollow noreferrer" rel="nofollow noreferrer">trauma and attachment</a></p>

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Tony Bleything
<h1>This is a non-scientific suggestion</h1>

<p><strong>[Please be open-minded since we're all just trying to help here]</strong></p>

<p>Maybe we can try looking at codependency from a different angle. We are made of the physical body, emotional and spiritual elements. </p>

<p>If <em>biology</em> is the <strong>logical</strong> step towards understanding the pathway of the physical body, then <em>astrology</em> explains the whole <strong>gravity of your personality</strong>. Not only does it explains who you are, it also explains how you became who you are. One can only heal when there is an awareness of the root of an event. (There are many psychotherapists that are astrologers as well, a faster way to identify the cause of a trauma or event.)</p>

<p>The placements of Neptune and Pluto between two individuals are highly related to codependency and empath/narcissist or victim/saviour relationships. Know your boundaries and make them known, instead quietly resenting yourself for being submissive to the other party.</p>

<p>Healing might take place after reading a book, meeting someone, witnessing an event. What harm does it do to give it a try?</p>

<p>Codepency from an astrological point of view:</p>

<p>1) <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9vaJ2YiuRrQ" rel="nofollow noreferrer">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9vaJ2YiuRrQ</a>
2) <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a93jjY_Lj3g" rel="nofollow noreferrer">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a93jjY_Lj3g</a>
3) <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tg_5xxlhxeM" rel="nofollow noreferrer">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tg_5xxlhxeM</a></p>

<p>Astrology book suggestion: Alive and Well with Neptune (Bil Tierney)</p>

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Downvoted as [merely unscientific opinion](https://psychology.meta.stackexchange.com/q/1037/7001).
Arnon Weinberg
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Luna Fiona
<p>I would like to find a book that would be helpful to a codependent person with the following criteria.</p>

<ol>
<li>The book focuses on relationships with needy people who don't care for themselves, instead of focusing on relationships with substance abusers.</li>
<li>The book emphasizes leaving and avoiding these kinds of relationships instead of helping the reader improve these relationships.</li>
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Can I ask why emphasise leaving the relationship rather than helping the reader with their co-dependency tendencies?
Chris Rogers
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@ChrisRogers The same reason alcoholics shouldn't hang around in bars. Helpless people are too tempting for me.
recovering codependent
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Please recommend a book about codependency that is not in regards to substance abuse
recovering codependent
# Please recommend a book about codependency that is not in regards to substance abuse

(Asked by: username_0 on 2019-03-18)

I would like to find a book that would be helpful to a codependent person with the following criteria.

1. The book focuses on relationships with needy people who don't care for themselves, instead of focusing on relationships with substance abusers.
2. The book emphasizes leaving and avoiding these kinds of relationships instead of helping the reader improve these relationships.

**Tags:** reference-request, personality

> **Comments:**
> **username_1**: Can I ask why emphasise leaving the relationship rather than helping the reader with their co-dependency tendencies?  
> **username_0**: @ChrisRogers The same reason alcoholics shouldn't hang around in bars. Helpless people are too tempting for me.  

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## 3 answers

### Answer by username_2 on 2019-03-19. Score: 1

Most any book on codependency will mention substance abuse, if for no other reason than the concept began there. Treatment of codependency is about empowering the person who is the caregiver to stop that sort of behavior. The best book I can recommend (I'm a LMHC) is Codependent No More. I would also suggest looking at Attachment Theory, as some researchers believe it can encompass the problems ascribed to codependency in a wider-reaching theoretical approach. To that end you might read Attached.


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### Answer by username_3 on 2019-04-18. Score: 0

Maybe check out the work of Pia Mellody. It's nearly impossible to speak about codependency outside of the context of addiction. That being said, Pia comes at codependency from the perspective of [trauma and attachment](https://rads.stackoverflow.com/amzn/click/com/0062505890)


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### Answer by username_4 on 2019-05-19. Score: -4

# This is a non-scientific suggestion

**[Please be open-minded since we're all just trying to help here]**

Maybe we can try looking at codependency from a different angle. We are made of the physical body, emotional and spiritual elements.

If *biology* is the **logical** step towards understanding the pathway of the physical body, then *astrology* explains the whole **gravity of your personality**. Not only does it explains who you are, it also explains how you became who you are. One can only heal when there is an awareness of the root of an event. (There are many psychotherapists that are astrologers as well, a faster way to identify the cause of a trauma or event.)

The placements of Neptune and Pluto between two individuals are highly related to codependency and empath/narcissist or victim/saviour relationships. Know your boundaries and make them known, instead quietly resenting yourself for being submissive to the other party.

Healing might take place after reading a book, meeting someone, witnessing an event. What harm does it do to give it a try?

Codepency from an astrological point of view:

1) <https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9vaJ2YiuRrQ>
2) <https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a93jjY_Lj3g>
3) <https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tg_5xxlhxeM>

Astrology book suggestion: Alive and Well with Neptune (Bil Tierney)

> **Comments:**
> **username_5**: Downvoted as [merely unscientific opinion](https://psychology.meta.stackexchange.com/q/1037/7001).  

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