<p>If I understand the question correctly, <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/obesely-speaking/201411/excessive-attention-seeking-and-drama-addiction" rel="nofollow noreferrer">this article</a> might interest you. </p>

<p>To break it down, it suggests that actions taken out to seek attention are a coping mechanism that have their roots in early neglect by the family. Since attention is an important social need, if it is not readily available as a child, the brain wires itself to go to extreme lengths to receive it. </p>

<p>In the case you mentioned, saying inflammatory things to enjoy a reaction fulfills that need for attention. According to the article, this releases endorphins that reduce the anxiety that accompanies not receiving adequate attention. </p>

CC BY-SA 4.0
2018-08-01T18:11:35.163Z
hoestly that PT page sounds like bollocks. The ref it cites for "Excessive attention seeking is not a character flaw. It is a brain wiring response to early developmental trauma caused by neglect." is https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/10831470 which I have no idea how someone can interpret like that; it's a study of trauma in adulthood etc.
got trolled too much this week
CC BY-SA 4.0
2018-08-01T15:53:11.477Z
2018-08-01T15:53:11.477Z
tacendus
<p>Is it <em>strange</em> or <em>categorically bad</em> to say things that shock others knowingly, and enjoy their reaction? </p>

<p>I have a close friend who partakes in such behavior, and I want to understand his motivation a bit better.</p>

<p><strong>Some context</strong></p>

<blockquote>
  <p>I am not speaking about an attention aspect, per se, since this satisfaction from saying "shocking things" would be usually in a personal relationship context, whether that be friendship, intimate, or familial. </p>
</blockquote>

<p>Perhaps the idea stems from <em>hurting others as a coping mechanism?</em></p>

<blockquote>
  <p>Further, the satisfaction is not sexual at all, but merely a satisfaction from the reaction to whatever was said.</p>
</blockquote>

<hr>

<p>I am currently investigating this idea, as I have seen my friend partake in such behavior, and often at that. This behavior is private, so I am doubtful that it is for attention. </p>

CC BY-SA 4.0
2018-08-01T18:15:42.997Z
Asking if something is "strange or categorically bad" is not within the mandate of this site, unless you want to clarify what you mean by "strange" so it fits here: a psychiatric disorder (alone it's not, I can tell you that already) or maybe just  a symptom that would qualify for some such (there might be too many). "Categorically bad" is a moral judgement, so maybe go to philosophy SE if you really want that angle.
got trolled too much this week
CC BY-SA 4.0
2018-08-08T07:23:38.107Z
IMHO, I think he thinks he can manipulate others' reactions through his words. That thought is somewhat a part of his ego.
Ax H
<behavior>
Saying things to shock others
Prime
# Saying things to shock others

(Asked by: username_0 on 2018-08-01)

Is it *strange* or *categorically bad* to say things that shock others knowingly, and enjoy their reaction?

I have a close friend who partakes in such behavior, and I want to understand his motivation a bit better.

**Some context**

> I am not speaking about an attention aspect, per se, since this satisfaction from saying "shocking things" would be usually in a personal relationship context, whether that be friendship, intimate, or familial.

Perhaps the idea stems from *hurting others as a coping mechanism?*

> Further, the satisfaction is not sexual at all, but merely a satisfaction from the reaction to whatever was said.

---

I am currently investigating this idea, as I have seen my friend partake in such behavior, and often at that. This behavior is private, so I am doubtful that it is for attention.

**Tags:** behavior

> **Comments:**
> **username_1**: Asking if something is "strange or categorically bad" is not within the mandate of this site, unless you want to clarify what you mean by "strange" so it fits here: a psychiatric disorder (alone it's not, I can tell you that already) or maybe just  a symptom that would qualify for some such (there might be too many). "Categorically bad" is a moral judgement, so maybe go to philosophy SE if you really want that angle.  
> **username_2**: IMHO, I think he thinks he can manipulate others' reactions through his words. That thought is somewhat a part of his ego.  

---

## 1 answers

### Answer by username_3 on 2018-08-01. Score: 0 | Accepted answer

If I understand the question correctly, [this article](https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/obesely-speaking/201411/excessive-attention-seeking-and-drama-addiction) might interest you.

To break it down, it suggests that actions taken out to seek attention are a coping mechanism that have their roots in early neglect by the family. Since attention is an important social need, if it is not readily available as a child, the brain wires itself to go to extreme lengths to receive it.

In the case you mentioned, saying inflammatory things to enjoy a reaction fulfills that need for attention. According to the article, this releases endorphins that reduce the anxiety that accompanies not receiving adequate attention.

> **Comments:**
> **username_1**: hoestly that PT page sounds like bollocks. The ref it cites for "Excessive attention seeking is not a character flaw. It is a brain wiring response to early developmental trauma caused by neglect." is https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/10831470 which I have no idea how someone can interpret like that; it's a study of trauma in adulthood etc.  

---

