<p>There is a restaurant in the Ximending district of Taipei, Taiwan, with a giant banner exclaiming;</p>

<blockquote>
  <p>真他媽的好吃</p>
  
  <p>=~ "Truly f**ing tasty"</p>
</blockquote>

<p>I equate it to the British "bloody". "That's bloody tasty".</p>

<p>Offensive in a formal context, but a commonly accepted expletive.</p>

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Matthew Rudy 马泰
<p>In every formal environment, is not appropriate like fxxking &amp; shxt in english.</p>

<p>Unofficially, in oral, people also use 他妈的 equivalent to VERY.</p>

<p>Examples:</p>

<blockquote>
  <p>天气真他妈的热(It's really fxxking hot today)</p>
</blockquote>

<p>when used isolated, just means damn it and the same degree of offensiveness.</p>

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2014-07-09T07:00:44.737Z
We're talking about the perceived rudeness of the word and in this case there's simply no way that it equates to "very". We're not talking about how it functions grammatically!
Olle Linge
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Alex Chen
<p>I believe that 他妈的 would be a general curse like "f--k!" (or "damn"), but not an insult , whereas 你妈的 would be a personal insult like "f--k you" or "you mother(<em>truck</em>)er."</p>

<p>Think of 他, in this context, as a generic form of "you", much like "on" in French. In other words, "one's mother" or "someone's mother" (although could also specifically be "his mother" - depends on context).</p>

<p>Correct me if I'm wrong, but I believe the particular insult is an euphemistic omission of the female genital organ after "的"...</p>

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2011-12-14T13:33:36.130Z
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Krazer
<p>Since new swearing tag appears thick and fast...<br />
<code>他妈的</code>is already sounds traditional...
It could come out of a gentleman's mouth,like the essay wrote by the great writer and thinker Lu Xun:</p>

<blockquote>
  <p>Those who live in China will often have occasion to hear the swear: tamade (他妈的) and others like it. I think the geographical distribution of this phrase is probably as wide as the lands upon which the Chinese have set foot; and I’m afraid the frequency of its use may not be less than that of the polite nin hao ya (您好呀). If, as some have put it, the peony is China’s “national flower”, then this has to be considered China’s “national swear” (guoma 国骂).</p>
</blockquote>

<p>Quote from <a href="http://languagehat.com/tamade/" rel="noreferrer">http://languagehat.com/tamade/</a> </p>

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meeming
<p>It's very offensive and strange to talk to strangers or in a formal situation.
It also depends on users' level of social class I think.
I never use it to describe something good or when I miss somebody.
Speaking of that, I never use f..k in English to talk to my friends either.
I guess it depends on the people's personality.
I could imagine the gangsters using 他妈的 all the time to address their buddies.</p>

<p>But using 他妈的 to describe a pain is really common.
like if I bump my head, I would say '操,他妈的真疼'</p>

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Ike
<p>It is a highly offensive expression comparable in meaning and offensiveness to "s-o-b" in English. It refers to coming out of one's mother (one's birth), and not for the better.</p>

<p>It means, she's a "b, because you're an "s-o-b."</p>

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Do you mean SOB as in son-of-a-b?
congusbongus
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@congusbongus: Yes. Clarified that with a new comment.
Tom Au
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Tom Au
<p>I think it has the exactly same meaning as 'fucking', not more offensive or less. It should only be used between people about the same age and who meet each other very often.</p>

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Joe Li
<p>I think 他妈的 is perfectly normal and not offensive just like the word fucking. It is used to emphasize something, but people may regard you rude and uneducated if you say this in some formal situation.</p>

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It is not clear what is meant at the end of the first sentence (after "not offensive"),
goPlayerJuggler
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@goPlayerJuggler: I would guess "like" in place of "liking."
Brian Tung
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@BrianTung yes that must be it. I'll edit it.
goPlayerJuggler
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Junting Zhu
<p>I have to disagree with the accepted answer. There is quite a bit of regional variation (some regions are reputed for foul wording), but in general 他妈的 is considered quite a bit less offensive than the f-word. IMO, it's closer to &quot;damn&quot; in English. &quot;你他妈的&quot; is much more offensive, but not nearly as offensive as that three-character word which I would not write down here (the latter is closer to &quot;f-you&quot;, IMO).</p>
<p>So, yes, it is a curse word, but people tend to use 他妈的 or variants a lot when they do get angry or frustrated, and it's so common that it would barely get anyone to raise an eyebrow.</p>

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xuq01
<p>I just witnessed a scene where the driver used this expression several times with his mistress, although I am a foreigner I thought it was very rude. I would never allow my driver to use the F word with me. They were discussing because the lady wanted him to accompany her to the school door, but he could not because the road is closed at peak  hours. So he was right but very rude.</p>

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lilli
<p>First, it is never considered as polite. It can be offensive depending on how you use it.</p>
<h2>Used alone.</h2>
<p>When used alone, it is not offensive. It is usually just expressing anger.</p>
<p>Example:</p>
<pre><code>他妈的，好疼！ （just for pain relief）
他妈的，真热！ （just complaining）
他妈的！ (What happened is not important, we just know the person is in anger)
</code></pre>
<h2>Used without pointing to a person</h2>
<p>When not pointing to someone, it is not offensive.</p>
<p>Example:</p>
<pre><code>这题谁他妈会啊？ （just complaining. 谁 is not anyone in specific, so not directional, so not offensive）
真他妈热！ （just complaining）
我他妈当场就跪了 (sort of complaining, more expressing helplessness. 我 is in the front, it is not pointing to anyone else, so not offensive)
</code></pre>
<h2>Used with pointing to a person</h2>
<p>It is very offensive.</p>
<p>Example</p>
<pre><code>你他妈有完没完 （你 is in front of tama, which is very offensive to the listener）
</code></pre>
<h2>Soften the curse</h2>
<p>Sometimes people use 喵 instead of 妈 to reduce the amount of offensiveness. 喵 is &quot;meow&quot; the cat sound.</p>
<p>Example</p>
<pre><code>喵了个咪 （dog my cats, expressing anger, but softer way）
你他喵的在不在听我说话 （compalaining, but softer way）
</code></pre>

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River
<p>It's not that offensive, I hear it all the time and it means the f-word. Avoid using it too much but if you need to say it like in the following text...</p>
<blockquote>
<p>Oh fu*k it, I failed the exam!</p>
</blockquote>
<p>...Just say it. Don't hold it in if you can't handle it.</p>

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Ramie_rubberduckys 
<p>NiTaMaDe simply means fuck you, thats all</p>

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You can develop more to avoid being down voted.
zyy
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somebody
<p>It is very common and, in my personal experience, has similar offensiveness as the f word in English. </p>

<p>It can be offensive and quite rude: e.g. in a business negotiation, when the deal is finally broken and one side says:</p>

<blockquote>
  <p>你他妈的给我滚出去 = "Get your fucking ass out of my office"</p>
</blockquote>

<p>It may be used in irony among close friends which is not offensive then:
E.g. when two close friends meet after a long time, one may say:</p>

<blockquote>
  <p>你最近死哪去了? 他妈的都忘了哥了! similar as "Where have you been lately? I fucking miss you!"</p>
</blockquote>

<p>Hope this help to get the points.</p>

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2014-05-28T06:47:50.480Z
How to pronounce the “的” part? Is it "Ta Ma De" or "Ta Ma Di" ?
null
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2014-06-17T05:20:29.393Z
@suud "De" is the only correct pronunciation in this case. Never try the second....
Chitanda
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Flake
<p>How offensive is the expression 他妈的? What is an English expression with a similar degree of offensiveness? In what situations is this expression appropriate / not appropriate?</p>

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2014-07-09T07:15:30.973Z
For comparison, what would you advise a non-English speaker about when to say "fucking" in English?
Colin McLarty
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+1 for introducing me to the swearing tag :)
Mark E. Haase
<meaning><swearing>
How offensive is 他妈的?
# How offensive is 他妈的?

(Asked by: username_0 on 2011-12-14)

How offensive is the expression 他妈的? What is an English expression with a similar degree of offensiveness? In what situations is this expression appropriate / not appropriate?

**Tags:** meaning, swearing

> **Comments:**
> **username_2**: +1 for introducing me to the swearing tag :)  
> **username_1**: For comparison, what would you advise a non-English speaker about when to say "fucking" in English?  

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## 14 answers

### Answer by username_21 on 2011-12-14. Score: 20 | Accepted answer

It is very common and, in my personal experience, has similar offensiveness as the f word in English.

It can be offensive and quite rude: e.g. in a business negotiation, when the deal is finally broken and one side says:

> 你他妈的给我滚出去 = "Get your fucking ass out of my office"

It may be used in irony among close friends which is not offensive then:
E.g. when two close friends meet after a long time, one may say:

> 你最近死哪去了? 他妈的都忘了哥了! similar as "Where have you been lately? I fucking miss you!"

Hope this help to get the points.

> **Comments:**
> **username_22**: How to pronounce the “的” part? Is it "Ta Ma De" or "Ta Ma Di" ?  
> **username_23**: @suud "De" is the only correct pronunciation in this case. Never try the second....  

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### Answer by username_3 on 2011-12-14. Score: 19

There is a restaurant in the Ximending district of Taipei, Taiwan, with a giant banner exclaiming;

> 真他媽的好吃
>
> =~ "Truly f\*\*ing tasty"

I equate it to the British "bloody". "That's bloody tasty".

Offensive in a formal context, but a commonly accepted expletive.


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### Answer by username_4 on 2011-12-14. Score: 7

In every formal environment, is not appropriate like fxxking & shxt in english.

Unofficially, in oral, people also use 他妈的 equivalent to VERY.

Examples:

> 天气真他妈的热(It's really fxxking hot today)

when used isolated, just means damn it and the same degree of offensiveness.

> **Comments:**
> **username_5**: We're talking about the perceived rudeness of the word and in this case there's simply no way that it equates to "very". We're not talking about how it functions grammatically!  

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### Answer by username_7 on 2014-07-09. Score: 6

Since new swearing tag appears thick and fast...  
`他妈的`is already sounds traditional...
It could come out of a gentleman's mouth,like the essay wrote by the great writer and thinker Lu Xun:

> Those who live in China will often have occasion to hear the swear: tamade (他妈的) and others like it. I think the geographical distribution of this phrase is probably as wide as the lands upon which the Chinese have set foot; and I’m afraid the frequency of its use may not be less than that of the polite nin hao ya (您好呀). If, as some have put it, the peony is China’s “national flower”, then this has to be considered China’s “national swear” (guoma 国骂).

Quote from <http://languagehat.com/tamade/>


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### Answer by username_6 on 2011-12-14. Score: 4

I believe that 他妈的 would be a general curse like "f--k!" (or "damn"), but not an insult , whereas 你妈的 would be a personal insult like "f--k you" or "you mother(*truck*)er."

Think of 他, in this context, as a generic form of "you", much like "on" in French. In other words, "one's mother" or "someone's mother" (although could also specifically be "his mother" - depends on context).

Correct me if I'm wrong, but I believe the particular insult is an euphemistic omission of the female genital organ after "的"...


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### Answer by username_8 on 2014-07-07. Score: 3

It's very offensive and strange to talk to strangers or in a formal situation.
It also depends on users' level of social class I think.
I never use it to describe something good or when I miss username_19.
Speaking of that, I never use f..k in English to talk to my friends either.
I guess it depends on the people's personality.
I could imagine the gangsters using 他妈的 all the time to address their buddies.

But using 他妈的 to describe a pain is really common.
like if I bump my head, I would say '操,他妈的真疼'


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### Answer by username_9 on 2011-12-14. Score: 2

It is a highly offensive expression comparable in meaning and offensiveness to "s-o-b" in English. It refers to coming out of one's mother (one's birth), and not for the better.

It means, she's a "b, because you're an "s-o-b."

> **Comments:**
> **username_10**: Do you mean SOB as in son-of-a-b?  
> **username_9**: @username_10: Yes. Clarified that with a new comment.  

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### Answer by username_11 on 2014-06-16. Score: 2

I think it has the exactly same meaning as 'fucking', not more offensive or less. It should only be used between people about the same age and who meet each other very often.


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### Answer by username_12 on 2013-10-09. Score: 2

I think 他妈的 is perfectly normal and not offensive just like the word fucking. It is used to emphasize something, but people may regard you rude and uneducated if you say this in some formal situation.

> **Comments:**
> **username_13**: It is not clear what is meant at the end of the first sentence (after "not offensive"),  
> **username_14**: @username_13: I would guess "like" in place of "liking."  
> **username_13**: @BrianTung yes that must be it. I'll edit it.  

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### Answer by username_15 on 2022-06-21. Score: 1

I have to disagree with the accepted answer. There is quite a bit of regional variation (some regions are reputed for foul wording), but in general 他妈的 is considered quite a bit less offensive than the f-word. IMO, it's closer to "damn" in English. "你他妈的" is much more offensive, but not nearly as offensive as that three-character word which I would not write down here (the latter is closer to "f-you", IMO).

So, yes, it is a curse word, but people tend to use 他妈的 or variants a lot when they do get angry or frustrated, and it's so common that it would barely get anyone to raise an eyebrow.


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### Answer by username_16 on 2018-04-13. Score: 1

I just witnessed a scene where the driver used this expression several times with his mistress, although I am a foreigner I thought it was very rude. I would never allow my driver to use the F word with me. They were discussing because the lady wanted him to accompany her to the school door, but he could not because the road is closed at peak hours. So he was right but very rude.


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### Answer by username_17 on 2020-09-11. Score: 1

First, it is never considered as polite. It can be offensive depending on how you use it.
Used alone.
When used alone, it is not offensive. It is usually just expressing anger.
Example:
他妈的，好疼！ （just for pain relief）
他妈的，真热！ （just complaining）
他妈的！ (What happened is not important, we just know the person is in anger)

Used without pointing to a person
When not pointing to someone, it is not offensive.
Example:
这题谁他妈会啊？ （just complaining. 谁 is not anyone in specific, so not directional, so not offensive）
真他妈热！ （just complaining）
我他妈当场就跪了 (sort of complaining, more expressing helplessness. 我 is in the front, it is not pointing to anyone else, so not offensive)

Used with pointing to a person
It is very offensive.
Example
你他妈有完没完 （你 is in front of tama, which is very offensive to the listener）

Soften the curse
Sometimes people use 喵 instead of 妈 to reduce the amount of offensiveness. 喵 is "meow" the cat sound.
Example
喵了个咪 （dog my cats, expressing anger, but softer way）
你他喵的在不在听我说话 （compalaining, but softer way）


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### Answer by username_18 on 2021-10-04. Score: 0

It's not that offensive, I hear it all the time and it means the f-word. Avoid using it too much but if you need to say it like in the following text...

> Oh fu\*k it, I failed the exam!

...Just say it. Don't hold it in if you can't handle it.


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### Answer by username_19 on 2019-07-20. Score: 0

NiTaMaDe simply means fuck you, thats all

> **Comments:**
> **username_20**: You can develop more to avoid being down voted.  

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