Input: [Topic ID] 99 [Post ID] 577 [Date & Time] 2005-09-23 18:33:04 [Post Text]

Output: Hello there are two different types of the Herpies virus. Herpies 1 and Herpies 2. I caught the Herpies 2 virus last year in November. I had the blisters and boy, they were the most painful thing ever. I spent three days propped up on the sofa on top of a fan which was blowing cold air between my legs. To urinate I had to use this cream which numbed the area otherwise I was springing off the toilet seat in absolute hysteria with pain. My partner and I were both treated even though he had never had the virus, and I had performed oral sex on him two days before the blisters broke out. Since then, we have carried on like normal even with oral sex and we dont use condoms either. We dont sleep with anyone else so the risks of another breakout are limited to ourselves. We talked this through with the people at the GUM clinic and they strongly advised us to always use our own towels, and washing materials, never share our personal things even hair brushes, and always ensure that our bathroom is thoroughly cleaned after use. We have stuck to the advice to the letter and not had another breakout and touch wood we wont again. We had to include things in our diet too like extra vitiman C and B6 plus eat foods rich in iron like spinnach to boost our immune systems. If you look up the other highly contageous condition of Impetigo, the hygine rules are similar to that of herpies. Herpies 1 can present as colesores on the mouth, arm pits and under breast areas and sometimes between the thights. Herpies 2 is when the genitals have sores which swell, become extremely painful and weep. You can pass either of these on easily and without meaning to. Either by kissing, sharing cups or utencils, towels, and other things that come into contact with your body. On a personal note, we drove ourselves mad last year when this happened to me. I caught it from using a towel whilst away. I was sweating and so used someone elses bathroom while I was in their hotel room, and shouted out was it ok to use their towel to give myself a rinse. Needless to say I will NEVER be doing anything like that EVER again. I washed with water from the sink and wiped myself down inbetween my legs, around my breasts and under my arms. That was all it took. Lesson learned the hard way. I did not know this person well, hardly at all in fact. It was just someone who worked in our group occasionally. We went to pick up some paperwork from their room and I needed to use the toilet. It seemed like a good idea at the time to freshen up while I was in there. My Partner thought I had been unfaithful. We had couselling. He is ok now but cried when he saw the pain I was in and when he took me to the hospital after the doctor came to our house, he was emotional and worried sick. Neither of us knew what was going on. All I knew was pain. If I can just give you one piece of advice, both of you just get treated together and dont let this consume you. You are both together, faithful and love each other. Just get treated and get on with your lives. If either of you does break out again, just get treated again together. Share the experience and get treated at the same time. That way, there will be no resentment under the surface. What is done is done and cant be undone. You know about the condition now and your partner having had it before you were married. So move on. Get counselling at your local clinic if necessary. Quite a lot of people dont think that herpies is a big deal. That is until they get the herpies 2 virus. Then it does not seem so funny any more. People said to me "oh its only herpies, I have had that" and I used to look at them and think, how lax an attitude that was. Yes herpies 1 probably isnt a big deal but if you catch that after having a major operation like I did, or when you immune system is perhaps not as strong as it normally is, then it quickly develps into herpies 2. Anyway, I hope this all helps to put your mind at rest slightly. I would just both get treated together and not worry about it any more like we have done Princess [user=224]rosadog[/user] wrote: "another question about transmitting herpes: i have looked on different sites but they only answer general questions. the questions i would like to know answeres to are - 1.- i have read you can get herpes different places then just vaginal, anal, and oral... if you say that it can be caught from sharing a towel, does that mean you could get herpes anywhere the towel touches, like arms, legs,shoulders etc....??? ..also, if i have a breakout and i am drying myself with my own towel couldnt i then spread it all over myself??????- how does that work? 2.- medication only helps with holding back breakouts. but it does nothing to keep u from asymptomatically shedding the virus and transmitting it...(or does it)so, since my husband has only had 1 break out in 2 years and has not been on any medication, if i get diagnosed with it too as long as i dont have symptoms we should be fine having sex without condoms shouldnt we? or does this increase both our risks for having more breakouts. (obviously we would not be having sex at all if one of us had symptoms) 3.- oral sex is a no-no too i found out. but what if one of us is already infected in the mouth, would kissing be a no-no forever too? or do you have to have symptoms to be able to pass it from mouth to mouth?? i would hate to think i may never even be able to kiss him!!! .................i dont know about this stuff- hopefully some one else does!:( "

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Input: [Topic ID] 102 [Post ID] 547 [Date & Time] 2005-09-17 12:24:55 [Post Text]

Output: Okay. So I have been sexually activefor the past 3months. Give or take. Everything has been great andfulfilling. Recently I haven't been able to get wet. I feel aroused but there is nothing to show for it. Please help me out.

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Input: [Topic ID] 102 [Post ID] 568 [Date & Time] 2005-09-21 13:34:05 [Post Text]

Output: k-y jelly

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Input: [Topic ID] 102 [Post ID] 570 [Date & Time] 2005-09-22 01:24:59 [Post Text]

Output: try astroglide too,& if you have a castle's near you, you might want to pop in.& they have so many different types of lube.& everyone is different.& try small bottles and see what works for you.

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Input: [Topic ID] 103 [Post ID] 550 [Date & Time] 2005-09-17 16:09:26 [Post Text]

Output: Do you all fantasize when you maturbate to help you orgasm quicker or do you just pleasure yourself and not think of anything until you cum? I love to fantasize.& Sometimes I fantasize that I'm having sex while someone is watching me.& Sometimes, I fantasize that I'm with someone else other than my boyfriend or girlfriend. Stories please...do tell.

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Input: [Topic ID] 103 [Post ID] 554 [Date & Time] 2005-09-17 21:46:08 [Post Text]

Output: Hello and Welcome to the group :) Have you read the main site pages on fantasising? www.the-clitoris.com/n_html/n_fantasy.htm Princess

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Input: [Topic ID] 103 [Post ID] 572 [Date & Time] 2005-09-22 01:36:33 [Post Text]

Output: of course....i think every one fantasizes to some degree.& some more than others.& i like to look at porn, or home movies me and the fiance have made.& but everyone is different.

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Input: [Topic ID] 104 [Post ID] 553 [Date & Time] 2005-09-17 17:44:25 [Post Text]

Output: To: Group Hi everyone, I am not new to this group but have been inactive for quite a while. The reason is that my job kept me quite busy and for some reason I did not find out that the Yahoo Group was closed (the message was probably lost somewhere in my Inbox). Anyway, with Brad's help, I'm back but am still having a problem replying to your posts and starting new topics so I've asked Brad to post on my behalf. What is the best way to get your partner to try out something new? For instance, my girlfriend has never shaved her pubic hairs. I shave occasionally and wanted to experience how it would feel for both of us to be cleanly shaved. However, since she really has never shaved before, I dont want to seem insensitive by suggesting it directly. How can I go about this? Sincerely, G'Trotter (email: ) Note: Make sure you have cookies enabled or the software will not be able to see that you have logged in. Brad

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Input: [Topic ID] 104 [Post ID] 561 [Date & Time] 2005-09-20 12:35:21 [Post Text]

Output: If you do oral sex on her than you could say that you can't reach all of her sensitive areas (i hope i found the right word) and it could be more intensive for her. She should do it because she wants it by herself and not because you want it. Bye, Andy

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Input: [Topic ID] 104 [Post ID] 569 [Date & Time] 2005-09-21 13:39:12 [Post Text]

Output: if u are partners you should be able to talk about stuff. i always say if i cant talk to him a shouldnt be sleeping with him. there really is no way to tip-toe around the question....just say to her "how come you have never tried shaving? not that i mind, but maybe it might be fun to try it once just to see how sex feels..." if she knows who u are at all she should know you arent being insensitive!

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Input: [Topic ID] 104 [Post ID] 731 [Date & Time] 2005-10-29 00:39:54 [Post Text]

Output: Hello there. This is a rather interesting subject (I'm a male, right, of course it is!). There's a couple of reasons, as far as I can tell, why your girl might not want to get rid of the shag carpeting in the basement (let's see how well that joke goes over with the ladies :P). Firstly, she might be afraid. Really, shaving your pubic hair can be dangerous. Ever shaved your face?& I'm sure you cut yourself a couple times before you got it right, right? Now, imagine if your face was inbetween your legs and was folded like some Himalayan valleys. That's a little more difficult, eh? Not to mention how bad I can only imagine a nick or a scrape might feel! If that's the case, talk it out. Maybe you can convince her that you're a much more experienced "shaver" ;) & Secondly, maybe your girl has been warned about the "side effects". Although I've never met one, I hear from some reliable sources that those in the gynecological field advice that those hairs are important. If that's her hang-up, you might need to find a gynecologist who's a little inebriated (there's another one of those jokes, how'd ya like it?). Other than that, you may be stuck. & Thirdly (and lastly, God willing), maybe she's heard about what happens afterward. You know, the thick black hairs that come back, the ingrown ones, the razorburn, not to mention the uncomfortable feeling of little pokey hairs inbetween her legs. There's only one solution for that: waxing! And friend, if you're having trouble convincing her to even consider shaving, you're going to have to be a master debator (get it?) to convince her to put hot wax on that! & So, remember, if she's not willing to try it, you're either going to have to love it or leave it. It being her. Sometimes you just have to respect the decisions your partner makes regarding HER body. If you can't deal with it, pack 'er up, and get outta Dodge. & Six.

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Input: [Topic ID] 104 [Post ID] 734 [Date & Time] 2005-10-29 12:48:53 [Post Text]

Output: If she doesn't like to shave, maybe she agrees to just cut her pubic hair? It looks good, helps a lot when you're doing oral an her, but has no side effects. & Steffi

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Input: [Topic ID] 104 [Post ID] 756 [Date & Time] 2005-11-05 17:16:52 [Post Text]

Output: I do think suggesting her wax for a more sensual feeling is more likely for her to do it.& Another way, tell her you'd love to shave her.& Some women find that arousing. I know I would. & [user=301]six[/user] wrote: "Secondly, maybe your girl has been warned about the "side effects". Although I've never met one, I hear from some reliable sources that those in the gynecological field advice that those hairs are important. If that's her hang-up, you might need to find a gynecologist who's a little inebriated (there's another one of those jokes, how'd ya like it?). Other than that, you may be stuck. ""Ladybug's response: There are some gynecologists who do say that shaving is dangerous.& "" Thirdly (and lastly, God willing), maybe she's heard about what happens afterward. You know, the thick black hairs that come back, the ingrown ones, the razorburn, not to mention the uncomfortable feeling of little pokey hairs inbetween her legs. There's only one solution for that: waxing! And friend, if you're having trouble convincing her to even consider shaving, you're going to have to be a master debator (get it?) to convince her to put hot wax on that! ""Ladybug's response: It only appears to be thick hairs because the hair that was once shaven off has split.""I do recall reading that when shaving for the first time you should shave in the direction of the hair growth, and to not shave it completely bald.& Shave in the direction of the hair so your skin gets used to a razor running over it because the skin down there isn't yet used to it.& Then you eventually start shaving it bald going in the opposite direction for a smooth shave.& Wait a few days and proceed to shave again.& Getting the skin used to the razor can take awhile. ""Six. "

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Input: [Topic ID] 108 [Post ID] 564 [Date & Time] 2005-09-20 21:28:58 [Post Text]

Output: it takes my boyfriend a real long time to climax during oral sex do anyone have any suggestions on howor what i can do to speed up the process?:?

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Input: [Topic ID] 108 [Post ID] 733 [Date & Time] 2005-10-29 00:46:20 [Post Text]

Output: How long is too long? Are you in any kind of discomfort? & I know for me I can get oral sex for an hour and not come. Or, sometimes it only lasts fifteen minutes. It really depends on a lot of things. & However, if you need a tip just remember this - it's not about how fast you do it, it's all about rhythm.

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Input: [Topic ID] 109 [Post ID] 565 [Date & Time] 2005-09-20 22:06:09 [Post Text]

Output: why is it that some men think that just because a woman gives birth to a baby that it shouldn't hurt during sex

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Input: [Topic ID] 109 [Post ID] 576 [Date & Time] 2005-09-23 18:08:46 [Post Text]

Output: Hi and Welcome in short - lack of education perhaps talking this over may help? Princess

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Input: [Topic ID] 110 [Post ID] 574 [Date & Time] 2005-09-23 09:36:36 [Post Text]

Output: & I love maserbation. I do it a lot. During maserbation, i insert fingers in my pussy. but i do not touch my clit at all .I think& all girls masterbate without ever stimulating their clit . what do you say.

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Input: [Topic ID] 110 [Post ID] 578 [Date & Time] 2005-09-23 18:34:53 [Post Text]

Output: Hello lis no for me clitoral stimulation is a must during masturbation Princess

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Input: [Topic ID] 110 [Post ID] 580 [Date & Time] 2005-09-24 23:24:12 [Post Text]

Output: I think most women touch their clit. Very few women don't need to touch it at all. And probably most would find that both clitoral and vaginal stimulation together work best since more area is being stimulated.

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Input: [Topic ID] 110 [Post ID] 581 [Date & Time] 2005-09-25 02:53:14 [Post Text]

Output: I am a female. I know that clitotis is very important in female masterbation. However , every female is unique and responds in a different way during masterbation. ____________________ Please visit www.the-clitoris.com for more advice on this subject and feel free to continue discussions on here. Please do not advertise other sources of advice especially with a yahoo ( annonymous email address ) unless you run it by Brad first. Princess

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Input: [Topic ID] 110 [Post ID] 582 [Date & Time] 2005-09-25 12:32:56 [Post Text]

Output: & Dear Lis..I htink that we masturbate in the way we learned when we were growing and discovered it, most of us touch or massage our clit , others just rub the whole vulva, others love to have something inside and stimulate the inner of the vagina& and many other ways; I love the clitoral stimulation by fingers or other way and also the vaginal insertion... My point is that there is no general rule as stimulation goes, just what you find more pleasurable, I do recommend to my friends just to devote some time to ourselves in private and explore every inch of our bodies to find those erotic places. Love and luck in your quest.....love.Luisa PS tou can write I'll answer

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Input: [Topic ID] 110 [Post ID] 589 [Date & Time] 2005-09-27 05:26:41 [Post Text]

Output: This is quite an interesting topic... I had a girlfriend who actually involved me in her masturbation. I didn't realize it as masturbation at first but then figured it out. She used to get on top of me in the 'Cowgirl' position (aka woman on top position) and rub her vulva on my thigh or erect penis until she came. This was highly stimulating for me especially when she used my penis. While using my finger...she was not nearly as worked up and only came like this once. So I believe that not every woman likes to have fingers on her clit but I also believe that the clit still plays a huge role in most forms of female masturbation.

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Input: [Topic ID] 111 [Post ID] 575 [Date & Time] 2005-09-23 09:51:11 [Post Text]

Output: I have a roommate. She says that when she masterbates and put her fingers in her pussy , she can feel sensation(both sexual and touch) only in outer one 3rd of her pussy& but does not feel sensations& in her inner two 3rd of her pussy.& according to her only outer one third of pussy is sensitive enough . Is it true.

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Input: [Topic ID] 111 [Post ID] 579 [Date & Time] 2005-09-23 18:40:44 [Post Text]

Output: Hi try reading this page www.the-clitoris.com/n_html/n_methods.htm it may give you more insight into how others masturbate. Each woman is different. I find that my vulva, ( the outer 3rd you describe ) is very sensitive but not as sensitive as the inner vaginal area ( the inner 2 3rds you speak of ) and as the G-spot is situated quite high up behind the clitoris area, it is much more sensitive inside. When my partner is stimulating me with his hands or fingers, and touches deep inside me even with one finger it is more stimulating than just the outer third. Princess

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Input: [Topic ID] 112 [Post ID] 583 [Date & Time] 2005-09-25 21:28:39 [Post Text]

Output: Me and my girlfriend have decided after 3 years that we are ready for intercourse but we both are concerned regarding her pregency. Please help us. We arenot ready for a child right now at all. We would like to know as to which contraceptives should we prefer oral contraceotives for her or simply a usage of a condom by me will do just fine.... please help .... needed urgently!!

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Input: [Topic ID] 112 [Post ID] 585 [Date & Time] 2005-09-26 10:54:43 [Post Text]

Output: Hello jackbrown101 and welcome to the group :) For the first part, have you or your partner been to a family planning clinic for advice? There are so many contraceptives available nowadays. Injections and condoms may be suitable. The injection lasts for three months and your partner wont have to worry about taking the pill each day. All she needs do is go back to the doctor's or family planning clinic and have another one every three months. Condoms are strongly recommended for the prevention of spreading STD's but if this is the first time for both of you, then perhaps this would be more down to personal preference. It may be fun in any case to try using a condom so you have the experience. You are right to worry about pregnancy. There are other barrier methods of contraceptives available other than the condom but they dont prevent the spreading of diseases. The cap or diaphram for example. Then there is the contraceptive pill which needs to be taken every day. Some people swear by the injection over the pill. I would gather as much info on each method as you can to enable you both to make an informed decision together. The family planning clinic would be your best source as you could talk face to face there and come away with condoms as they are usually given out there to everyone. Good luck with your endevours and please dont hesitate to ask questions on the various methods of contraception as you learn about them. Princess

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Input: [Topic ID] 112 [Post ID] 718 [Date & Time] 2005-10-23 06:29:00 [Post Text]

Output: i came to know that pills have some some side effects like dizziness etc. Can u tell me wether pills are in any way harmful in the longrun or do they affect if one would need to stop them .... as i have heard that condoms arent always 100% effective.

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Input: [Topic ID] 112 [Post ID] 719 [Date & Time] 2005-10-23 12:21:13 [Post Text]

Output: Hi, There are numerous potential side affects associated with the use of hormonal contraceptives, but there are more potential side affects associated with pregnancy and delivery. The potential consequences of an unwanted pregnancy are certainly significant too. My concern with their use is that doctors actually know little about how hormones work within an "individual" woman's body, they are playing the odds. The hormone dosages have changed significantly since they were introduced, the dosages have decreased significantly. The reason a male contraceptive pill has not come about is because of the adverse side affects they cause. I have to wonder if a female pill would be approved today given the potential side affects and stricter regulations.& I personally would not recommend women take the pill, that is my gut feeling not a scientific opinion. But I would not fault a woman who chooses to use them either. While they are assumed and advertised to be 99% effective they are actually around 92% effective, which still leaves a significant risk of pregnancy. While doctors prescribe them like candy, and assume they are what women should and do want, women should educate themselves before using them. Doctors are also routinely prescribing them to regulate menstrual cycles and to reduce menstrual flow and cramps, they are presumed& to be the quick and easy fix, or they are the only option doctors have. The problem I see is that teens are prescribed them long before they become sexually active and there is no way of knowing if they are the cause of her current sexual difficulties involving desire and sensitivity to sexual stimulation. I have friends who do not want to take the Pill or who have experienced adverse side affects. My main concern is that some bad side affects have not gone away when their use was stopped. Here are links to more detailed information: [url=www.aafp.org/afp/991101ap/2073.html] www.aafp.org/afp/991101ap/2073.html On the following page note the difference in expected and actual effectiveness of the different birth control methods. [url=www.drugs.com/PDR/Ovral_Tablets.html] www.drugs.com/PDR/Ovral_Tablets.html More information: [url=www.healthsquare.com/newrx/ora1310.htm] www.healthsquare.com/newrx/ora1310.htm [url=www.ewtn.com/library/PROLIFE/OCSIUDS.TXT] www.ewtn.com/library/PROLIFE/OCSIUDS.TXT [url=www.youngwomenshealth.org/med-uses-ocp.html] www.youngwomenshealth.org/med-uses-ocp.html On& this page [url=en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Contraceptive_pill]en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Contraceptive_pill& it states: method effectiveness: is the Pearl index number for use under perfect conditions. The method effectiveness Pearl index for the Pill has been measured as low as 0.3 and as high as 1.25, which means that under ideal conditions, anywhere from 0.3 to 1.25 out of 100 users will become [url=en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pregnant] pregnant during one year of perfect use (Pearl index = 0.3 to 1.25). user effectiveness: is the Pearl index number for use under typical conditions. The user effectiveness measured by the Pearl index for the Pill has been measured as low as 2.15 and as high as 8.0, which means that anywhere from 2.15 to 8.0 out of 100 women will become [url=en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pregnant] pregnant during the first year of typical use (Pearl index = 2.15 to 8.0). [url=en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oral_contraceptive#endnote_2] [2] [/suP] [url=en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oral_contraceptive#endnote_3] [3] [/suP] [url=www4.nau.edu/fronske/brochures/bcp.html] www4.nau.edu/fronske/brochures/bcp.html This page [url=www.infoforhealth.org/pr/a10/a10chap1.shtml] www.infoforhealth.org/pr/a10/a10chap1.shtml& looks at the effectiveness around the world. Choosing an appropriate birth control method is not always an easy choice for a couple. Another thing to consider is that condoms should always be used to prevent the spread of disease, at least for dating couples, which is just about everyone not in a long term relationship.& If you don't see your current partner as your partner in 10 years you probably should be using a condom.& I know a& couple of my female friends have contacted sexually transmitted diseases from their partners. I get e-mails from very anxious young women who fear they are or will become pregnant. There is no way they could possible& enjoy intercourse because it causes significant anxiety. The simple truth is that some couples& should not be engaging in intercourse because the potential negative consequences are too great. If there would be dire consequences if you or your partner become pregnant then you shouldn't engage in intercourse. The use of birth control does not necessarily change that. Brad

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Input: [Topic ID] 113 [Post ID] 584 [Date & Time] 2005-09-25 21:33:33 [Post Text]

Output: As my girlfriend is a little scared about the pain that she might have during her first time can u help me as to what lubricants to use. As we are staying in India we do not have access to K-Y Jelly or other smilar products atleast not that we are aware of!!! What kind oils can be used for the same also please help us regarding her fear of the pain.... is it really that bad .... if not please tell me how do i explain that to her....(THATS THE DIFFICULT PART!!!!!!)

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Input: [Topic ID] 113 [Post ID] 586 [Date & Time] 2005-09-26 10:58:35 [Post Text]

Output: Hello again jackbrown101 Try ensuring that she is nicely relaxed first before attempting any sort of penetration. You could try massaging sweet almond or grapeseed oil into her vulva. Almond oil should be readily available in India. The pain that is felt with the first penetration is not "painful" it is more unusual as it is something which her body would not have been used to. Just make sure that she is ready for penetration by using lots of foreplay first. Stimulating her mentally as well as physically will make a lot of difference. Princess

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Input: [Topic ID] 113 [Post ID] 588 [Date & Time] 2005-09-27 02:22:37 [Post Text]

Output: I second the suggestion for sweet almond oil. You may also ask her to try putting her finger in herself first, so she can get used to the sensation of having something inside. Make sure you're both relaxed and maybe you can ask her to guide you inside with her hand so she feels more in control of the situation.

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Input: [Topic ID] 113 [Post ID] 598 [Date & Time] 2005-09-27 23:41:42 [Post Text]

Output: Hi, This subject is addressed on detail on the pages linked to below: [url=www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/virgin1.htm] www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/virgin1.htm Brad

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Input: [Topic ID] 113 [Post ID] 601 [Date & Time] 2005-09-28 03:45:20 [Post Text]

Output: Hmm.. if almond oil works, would sunflower cooking oil/olive oil work as well? :)

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Input: [Topic ID] 113 [Post ID] 603 [Date & Time] 2005-09-28 09:22:42 [Post Text]

Output: Hi olive oil does work but it is so rich it is not that good. Plus the smell and taste does kind of not gel with natural body smells and fluids if you see what I mean. Sunflower oil is no good neither are any of the vegetable oils. Peach Kernal oil is good as well as grapeseed oil. Jojohba oil is very good especially on the anus. Coconut oil not so good on the penis or inside the vagina as it is too thick and greasy. I cant think of any more now but will come up with a list later when I have more time. Any oil which is used in Aromatherapy as a "base" or "carrier" oil should be ok and safe to use as a natural lubricant. Princess

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Input: [Topic ID] 113 [Post ID] 610 [Date & Time] 2005-09-30 22:27:09 [Post Text]

Output: So, if I had no choice, olive oil would be better than sunflower oil, then?

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Input: [Topic ID] 113 [Post ID] 818 [Date & Time] 2005-11-15 15:20:26 [Post Text]

Output: hi, um.. is using baby oil good? I tried it for giving bf a handjob, but not with penetration... &

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Input: [Topic ID] 113 [Post ID] 823 [Date & Time] 2005-11-18 11:58:51 [Post Text]

Output: ya....i had the same question regarding the use of baby oil for lubricants i have heard from many people that baby oil can be used i would seriosly like ur expertise in this matter as baby oil is pretty much available everywhere....;)

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Input: [Topic ID] 113 [Post ID] 824 [Date & Time] 2005-11-18 13:59:50 [Post Text]

Output: Hi it is trial and error with things like baby oil. It irritated my vulva and that irritation developed into thrush. It felt great at the time but I would not be using it again. I stick to gels made from natural materials. Woods Of Windsor do a rose gel and a cucumber cream gel which are both really great. I also love SBC gels particularly their Vitamin E one. SBC ( Simply Beautiful Cosmetics ) is mostly available online and from QVC. The gel is light, does not dry up quickly and is vitamin enriched. It doesnt taste of anything in particular and feels good inside the vagina as well so makes a good lubricant. Hope this helps and please bare in mind that these are my own personal choices. Princess

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Input: [Topic ID] 114 [Post ID] 587 [Date & Time] 2005-09-26 17:40:12 [Post Text]

Output: My girlfriend isn't having orgasisms with pentetration. The only way I can make her cum is by rubbing my hard dick between her legs in the missionary postition with my dick down between her lips. She states it has always been like that for her. I am well endowed and have always been pretty good at licking pussy too, but I have even had trouble giving her an orgasism by eating her pussy too. She does not want me to put my fingers in her pussy and rub her g spot which I am very good at. She doesn't want my fingers down there at all. She loves me alot and is gorgeous and the only person that really seems to have a problem with this is me since it has always been that way for her. She won't even let me use a vibrator on her either. She states I am the best lover she has ever had which I believe because I have heard that with the last 5 women I have slept with, but it is a slight blow to my ego to not be able to give her an oragasim by licking it or penetration. I understand her pain. Before her no woman could make me cum by giving me head, but she figured it out and can suck the chrome off of a trailer hitch and makes me cum everytime. I want to return her the favor. Any suggestions.

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Input: [Topic ID] 114 [Post ID] 592 [Date & Time] 2005-09-27 09:37:57 [Post Text]

Output: Hello, not all women can cum through penetration. I cant without clitoral stimulation as well. I would get the idea that you are an amazing lover out of your mind. It is doing you no good at all. If you keep focusing on that, you will end up not being able to live up to your own expertations at all. Just because you may have had success with five women and they found you to be red hot, does not mean that other women, your partner included, will. Each woman is shaped differently on the inside as well as on the outside. What works with one may not, and often doesnt, work for another. Keep focusing on what feels good for your lover. If she has orgasms the way you describe, then carry on giving her that special gift. Once she is ready to try out or experiment with different methods of stimulation, she will let you know. Try encouraging her to speak to other women about what works for them. She may be feeling slightly odd. There is no need for her to feel like this as we all have our own special feelings about what feels good for us individually. Speaking to other women, on here perhaps, may give her new insight. You may also want to show her the clitoris main web site. There are heaps of information pages on there that I am sure will inspire her to try out different things. Does she masterbate at all? Encourage her to do this on her own. She has to get to know her own body and her reflex system herself then she can share this with you. Princess

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Input: [Topic ID] 114 [Post ID] 593 [Date & Time] 2005-09-27 14:33:25 [Post Text]

Output: she does not masterbate at all. She never has which is very new to me. It doesn't turn her on to masterbate. She has a problem with men touching her pussy also i think it is because her mon's ex boyfriend molested her as a young girl althoug she has no problem with intercourse. She says I am the first person to regularly touch her there even though she is 28 which makes me feel good because she trust me and I make her feel comforatable. She likes it when I give her a reach around when I penatrate her anally and she likes it when I put my finger in her butt and play with it while I go down on her. She won't let me put my fingers in her pussy when I go down on her though. I guess my problem is she says I am not using my finger in her ass enough when I go down on her. Thats what she says.If I could just get the ass thing right. She likes the combination of pleasure and pain.Alright I'll get it out of my mind that I am and amazing lover. Your right.& The only& girl that matters& if I please is her.& & I think I just need to take a day off of work& and go to town on her till I get it right. Thank you for your advice

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Input: [Topic ID] 114 [Post ID] 594 [Date & Time] 2005-09-27 14:36:58 [Post Text]

Output: I also can't come without clitoral stimulation but honestly I don't see it as a problem that I have to 'fix'. And the only two women I know willing to talk about sex also never come just from penetration. I have an idea, not sure if it'll work but maybe worth a try. Stop aiming to make her come with oral sex, try to see how far you can go before orgasm.. make it a game (this time 6, then 8... so on). Probably this will make you and her less nervous and am sure with time you'll get closer and closer. Problem is it's very hard to come when a guy is between your legs anxious to give you an orgasm and you're wondering if you're taking too long :S

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Input: [Topic ID] 114 [Post ID] 596 [Date & Time] 2005-09-27 16:12:20 [Post Text]

Output: I agree in part with Kay here. Sex and Love Making should not be about achieving orgasm but more like pleasuring and sharing with each other. Focus on that side of things for a while. Try reverse psychology. Tell her you are taking the day off. There will be romance and love and a lot of touching between you both. Massaging that type of gentle caress. Then tell her that she is not allowed to orgasm no matter what happens. It may work. If she is letting you, and loving it by the sounds of things, play with her anus, then there just seems to be a mental block. She may feel odd about the length of time it takes her to orgasm. You say she likes pleasure and pain, so tease the living daylights out of her without touching inbetween her legs at all. Dont got into her anus either. You may very well surprise yourself, and her :) We have another group which you are both welcome to join too if you are interested. It is for people who were sexually abused or whom have or still are experiencing incest. You can ask questions on there about your thoughts on her having been molested. It may help. The link is sexabuseandincest.mywowbb.com/ Princess

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Input: [Topic ID] 114 [Post ID] 600 [Date & Time] 2005-09-27 23:55:05 [Post Text]

Output: Hi, I believe it is more important to do what she wants or needs rather than what you want and expect. I don't believe the problem is with her but with your expectations. She isn't like your past girlfriends. Keep in mind that on average& about 1 out of 10 orgasms is faked, and on average only about 1 out of 2 sexual activities/techniques result in orgasm. So you really can't be sure what really did or didn't work for your past partners. Some women fake every orgasm, others rarely. Brad

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Input: [Topic ID] 114 [Post ID] 777 [Date & Time] 2005-11-07 09:11:59 [Post Text]

Output: May be she has the lack of desire. A friend of mine has used women supplements (Sentia) and From the way she speaks about sex now she is very pleased. She says she achieves orgasms fast and easy.

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Input: [Topic ID] 114 [Post ID] 1108 [Date & Time] 2006-01-30 14:51:13 [Post Text]

Output: I can tell you this. A girl I dated for over a year was mostly\only stimulated by rubbing the clitorious area, and that was it. Regular penitration, did notihing for her. Nothing. So I would end up giving her mulitple orgasms, like 10-15 in a row, all by firece, and I mean fierce rubbing of the clit. She would wet the bed, scream, really awesome for a time. But truthfully, it got a little old. There was not much in return from her sex wise. She just was into little else but having her clit rubhbed, she loved it, and just not anything else. SO, anyway, that was not the reason we broke up. But I have talked to other woman who say they are not stimulated by penitration, it is just a physical thing, nerve endings sensitivity, etc. So, good luck. I have also talked to guys who ran into the same situation that I did, all the woman wanted was her clit rubbed, and nothing else. Again, a lot of fun for me for months, then just got a little old, I would get nothing in return. I like a woman who loves all sex, that is the best. I think I found one to, highly sensitive everywhere. Really awesome

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Input: [Topic ID] 115 [Post ID] 590 [Date & Time] 2005-09-27 05:52:45 [Post Text]

Output: Hi everyone, I recently had a discussion with a friend of mine and we were sharing stories about the most interesting places that we had sex. For me, one of the most interesting places was on the roof of my girlfriend's house while her family were inside. There were quite a lot of trees in the yard but I was still afraid that one of the neighbors would see us. It was a cloudless night with the stars out and it felt pretty nice to have the wind on my nake butt. What is your experience?

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Input: [Topic ID] 115 [Post ID] 591 [Date & Time] 2005-09-27 09:27:47 [Post Text]

Output: Hello and what an interesting thread :) Years ago, when I was about seventeen, I was consumed with passion one night outside on a college camping trip. Me and my boyfriend at the time were kissing and ended up having sex. During the act, I looked over to my left and realised that we had, in our quest to find some privacy outside at night whilst on a camping weekend with at least a hundred and fifty other students and staff, ended up on the edge of an outdoor chapel. That really should have killed the moment but it didnt :) Princess

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Input: [Topic ID] 115 [Post ID] 595 [Date & Time] 2005-09-27 14:46:41 [Post Text]

Output: interesting :cool: Well, outdoors behind some trees and bushes between a street and a path.. I agree the night air is really nice. My bf was so excited he came twice in less than 5 minutes. And... near a deserted British military center in the country side in Germany. We were having a walk there and then thought why not?!

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Input: [Topic ID] 115 [Post ID] 597 [Date & Time] 2005-09-27 16:17:39 [Post Text]

Output: ....... and why not indeed :) Good for you both! I have been in a field in Northumberland UK and only came back down to earth when a helicopter fllew over :) Now that was an experience! It is fun to experiment with places I think. It always amazes me when I hear people talking about where they have dared to have sex. I know a couple who regularly have sex just on the edge of public places just because the thrill of almost being caught at it excites them. They can see people walking past fairly close by and she even waves occasionally with a friendly jesture while she is on top. But she says that the thought of knowing how daringly randy they are being and no one knows really turns her on. Princess :)

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Input: [Topic ID] 115 [Post ID] 599 [Date & Time] 2005-09-27 23:48:38 [Post Text]

Output: Hi, I was driving on a long road trip and& playing with my former girlfriend's pussy when a large bus passed us coming from the opposite direction. It didn't dawn on me right away that from the driver's position he might have seen quite a bit. We were out in the middle of nowhere, so not a lot of traffic and the road pretty straight. Certainly made her wet though! :P Brad

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Input: [Topic ID] 115 [Post ID] 602 [Date & Time] 2005-09-28 09:17:56 [Post Text]

Output: Hi Brad Good for you :) That would have got me going somewhat too! Princess

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Input: [Topic ID] 115 [Post ID] 607 [Date & Time] 2005-09-30 00:55:49 [Post Text]

Output: Now that we are bringing all the stories out one interesting (and exciting) one comes to mind. My girlfriend at the time invited a lot of people over at her house for a pool party. Her parents had agreed thinking that we would leave afterwards but she convinced them that it was too late for us to go home so we should just sleep over. Her parents innocently agreed and cooked dinner for us. Actually she had planned this all along to get me to sleep at her house and the party and everyone else was camoflage! ;) That night after sleeping arrangements were decided I ended up in the same room as her (what a coincidence). When we thought everyone was asleep we started kissing and petting. But there were other people in the room so I was not comfortable so I suggested that we go to the living room and she agreed. We had passionate sex right there in the living room and were only disturbed once by the family cat! I was so excited because she was making loud noises and I thought her parents or someone else would& come out any moment!& Needless to say it was probably my best sexual experience with her.& After we were spent and had returned to the room I found out in the dark that she didn't have on her underwear... I asked her why and she said she wanted to be as close to me as possible that night! In the morning she was back to being the innocent daughter with a bunch of friends over at her house...Wow!:)

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Input: [Topic ID] 115 [Post ID] 608 [Date & Time] 2005-09-30 01:00:50 [Post Text]

Output: To Princess and Kay, Sex in a field of grass is definitely on my list of must do's...I think its intensely erotic to make love in the woods or fields... To Brad, I always fantasize about sex in a car on a stretch of& quite highway...lets see if that happens.

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Input: [Topic ID] 115 [Post ID] 609 [Date & Time] 2005-09-30 06:53:14 [Post Text]

Output: Hi Workit yes, I have to agree. My field experience ranks top on my list of best ever experiences :) Princess

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Input: [Topic ID] 115 [Post ID] 723 [Date & Time] 2005-10-27 01:20:50 [Post Text]

Output: One of my favourite sexual experiences was with an ex boyfriend. We were staying at my parent's holiday house by the beach for a week. We went for a long walk one day and ended up making love on the soft sandy shore on a few towels with our swimsuits rearranged discreetly...& in broad daylight for anyone to see!! Luckily it was midweek and in the offseason so not many people actually saw it but it was still exciting to be in that situation. My second time having sex& was with my boyfriend at the time on some children's playground equipment in a park at night. It certainly allowed for a few interesting angles and positions! A friend of mine told us about masterbating while driving a long highway drive and how exciting it was, I've tried to convince my boyfriend to partake in some sexual activity whilst driving but he's a bit afraid. I guess safety really should pervail and sex driving really shouldn't be condoned, but it sounds so fun! Maybe I should masterbate for him while he's driving :D&

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Input: [Topic ID] 115 [Post ID] 852 [Date & Time] 2005-11-28 10:31:46 [Post Text]

Output: If "sex" doesn't have to include intercourse, one of my fondest memories is persuading my next-door neighbor -- who was my sex partner for more than a decade and quite a tomboy, as well -- to accompany me on a climb up a gigantic maple tree in the woods next to my house so we could see all the way down to Long Island Sound, which was about seven miles away. We got as high as we dared go -- probably a good 50 feet -- and sat facing each other in the crotch (pun intended) of two sturdy branches. It was so exhilirating being that high off the ground -- and in no small danger -- that it didn't take us very long to undo each other's clothes and give each other a thorough -- whaddaya call it? -- massage, not to mention a most excellent makeout session. Hope this qualifies!

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Input: [Topic ID] 116 [Post ID] 604 [Date & Time] 2005-09-29 15:19:33 [Post Text]

Output: i am a 31 year old female. and all my life i think i must have been oblivious to what some other women are thinking about being visual, liking porn and liking the male body. The reason is that i have always found looking at or just seeing a GOOD LOOKING guy naked or with an erection very stimulating. Also pornography and seeing women penetrated by men and even gay sex. I especially like looking at naked men with men . You get two see 2 naked guys instead of 1 and theyre really enjoying the moment. But I have been accessing the internet now for some years and have been reading comments from other women on how men dont have attractive bodies and that naked men dont turn them on . I am confused, i asked all my girlfriends and they agree with me that as long as a guy is hot is a huge turn on to see them naked and its the most natural thing in the world! I enjoy seing naked women, but more as a part of aprreciating theyre bodies and imagining being looked at by guys. I never thought i was weird before, but am i unusual to get turned on by a guy naked? & I mean if i see a guy on tv in the showers say on a soap it turns me on ?

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Input: [Topic ID] 116 [Post ID] 605 [Date & Time] 2005-09-29 16:27:45 [Post Text]

Output: Hi, not at all wierd... I also find the naked male body very very arousing, however naked women don't do much for me though I dont mind looking:) I find the thighs especially arousing and obviously the genitals. And I also find myself sometimes aroused in what would be considered wierd: there was a huge ad on the streets where I live showing a guy in a sauna. He was sitting down and had a towel wrapped around him; it was so obvious that it wasn't meant to be erotic at all (some ad for the redcross). The first time I saw it I was so turned on by his sweaty and slightly spread legs my panties were wet :shock::) The biggest turn on is a man's face when he's coming or about to. I think we talked about it somewhere else here that it would be cool if there was porn aimed at women :)

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Input: [Topic ID] 116 [Post ID] 606 [Date & Time] 2005-09-29 16:58:32 [Post Text]

Output: Thank You Kay for your response i feel a bit better. I would like some more responses for others if i may . Hey if some women dont like men bodies etc please tell me and maybe you can explain what dosent turn you on or does etc and why Il appreciate any help I can get Thank You

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Input: [Topic ID] 116 [Post ID] 612 [Date & Time] 2005-10-02 01:22:56 [Post Text]

Output: Claire, I agree with you entirely. I am very aroused by the male body. I prefer gay porn to straight porn simply because straight porn always seems to focus on the female body. I want to see naked men instead! lol. I don't think you're weird at all. Sara

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Input: [Topic ID] 116 [Post ID] 614 [Date & Time] 2005-10-02 08:39:53 [Post Text]

Output: I am a guy and I have not watched gay porn before but I am not turned on by another guy's body. However I am turned on by a penis going in and out of a vagina. So much so that I do not like sex in the dark or using positions that prevent me from seeing my penis go in and out of a vagina. Something crazy happened once... I was having sex with my girlfriend in a dark room and could not turn on the lights because we didn't want other people to know what we were doing so I used the light from my cell phone to 'catch the action'!!

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Input: [Topic ID] 116 [Post ID] 637 [Date & Time] 2005-10-04 12:41:13 [Post Text]

Output: yup the penis moving in and out is a huge turn on and what I also like is watching my bf's hips moving and his legs' muscles working at it :) Right now, if am watching our personal home-made videos, I orgasm rather quickly (5 or 10 minutes). Without any visual stimulation or outside help, it takes me around 20 minutes to orgasm (I just keep getting distracted so takes a while to focus :))

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Input: [Topic ID] 116 [Post ID] 643 [Date & Time] 2005-10-05 21:44:07 [Post Text]

Output: Hi Kay...watching a guy's face when he is or is about to come is fascinating..isn't it? I find if your hair is in the guy's face, he comes very fast...

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Input: [Topic ID] 116 [Post ID] 644 [Date & Time] 2005-10-05 21:46:40 [Post Text]

Output: Yeah, the penis going in and out of the vagina is great to watch...a good technique also is to use a mirror, so she can see it pistoning in and out and getting wetter each time...it is alos great to watch when the balls slap the inner thighs...

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Input: [Topic ID] 116 [Post ID] 648 [Date & Time] 2005-10-06 10:49:01 [Post Text]

Output: Fascinating is the word!!!& :D& interesting about the hair, I have long hair but i always have to keep it from his face otherwise it tickles him. I've only used a mirror so far to look at both of us from far, didn't try using on to zoom in on the action :cool:, will try that soon :)

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Input: [Topic ID] 116 [Post ID] 660 [Date & Time] 2005-10-08 22:58:24 [Post Text]

Output: Hair in his face tickles?...that is too funny! but try a mirror for up near... it's fascinating as you say to watch a penis going in and out of a vagina...

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Input: [Topic ID] 117 [Post ID] 611 [Date & Time] 2005-09-30 23:34:57 [Post Text]

Output: After a short while (less than a minute), my vaginal muscles will contract hard, and then pulse/spasm for a bit, sort of. I take that to mean I have successfully began to arouse myself. But then what? Either I lose the strength/willpower to continue rubbing my clit fast enough when that happens, or there's something else I should be doing, because more often than not it just stops there, and my clit becomes so sensitive that I can't seem to bear touching it any longer. How do the rest of you feel when you masturbate? I don't mean how you do it, or& how great the pleasure is& -- I mean the physical feeling, like muscle contractions, etc. Also, silly Q, but how do you KNOW you've achieved orgasm? :/

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Input: [Topic ID] 117 [Post ID] 613 [Date & Time] 2005-10-02 01:28:22 [Post Text]

Output: Well, I know I've achieved orgasm when I experience exactly what you have described--pulsating contractions of the vaginal muscles. At the same time, my entire body tenses up, sending a tingling feeling from my toes to my head. Also, the hypersensitivity of the clitoris you've described is common immediately after orgasm. I think you became so focused on the goal of orgasm that you just assumed you were not reaching it. Hope that helps. Sara

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Input: [Topic ID] 117 [Post ID] 617 [Date & Time] 2005-10-02 20:46:33 [Post Text]

Output: Hi I understand your frustration..the process you follow is about the normal process I follow but I'll recomend something that worked for me: find a place private and be sure nobody will interrupt, get naked. light a perfumed candle , get soft music and if you like scented oils you can rub yourself, get a mirror and start to examine your body and caress it slowly noting the most sensitive places like, your butt, or labia or whole vulva, nipples, neck, lips..etc you will be surprised to find places that when are touched send you a shiver of pleasure and try no to be anxious to get an orgasm it will develop slowly and also you may use erotic toys. One hting for sure is& that I do not believe they are two orgasms the same, for me an orgasm is osmething out of the normal that happens after being sexually stimualted and it could involve some ejacualtion. Good luck love Luisa PS if you want to write look my profile

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Input: [Topic ID] 117 [Post ID] 621 [Date & Time] 2005-10-03 02:29:46 [Post Text]

Output: But that's -all-? I mean, it certainly doesn't seem like the 'out-of-the-world' experience frequently heard about. I can even continue watching the porn vids I was watching (and know what happened!),& the rest of my body feels somewhat the same, only my vagina contracts hard and then pulses a little. And sometimes it happens within less than 5secs of touching my clit, especially when I'm watching porn. How do I have subsequent orgasms within that period of time, then? Even if I continue rubbing it doesn't seem to work, and I can't bring myself to rub harder due to hypersensitivity of clit. And does taking longer to achieve orgasm -really- help? The 'contractions'& I've had within 5 seconds and within a few mins don't seem to have any difference..

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Input: [Topic ID] 117 [Post ID] 631 [Date & Time] 2005-10-04 03:08:24 [Post Text]

Output: First of all, I'd like to say, thanks, guys. From all the replies and further reading, I realized that I did experience what most people would consider an orgasm, albeit a single, short, and mild one. The thing is, I can't seem to get beyond there, due to the hypersensitive clit.& How soon after the first will the subsequent orgasms usually come? If I wait long enough for the clit to get less sensitive (resolution phase?) I find I just don't feel aroused anymore! Also, I realized I do tense up, and experience a tingling sensation throughout my body, even if I didn't notice it before. But I don't pass out or ejaculate or anything of the sort.

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Input: [Topic ID] 117 [Post ID] 3635 [Date & Time] 2007-02-04 08:34:08 [Post Text]

Output: I have EXACTLY the same problem.& After less then a minute, my body spasms, I feel quite plesurable (nothing amazing)& and after that I cannot continue, I no longer 'feel like it'.& I really want to know how to prolong the experience or how to achiever multiple orgasms/ejaculation.& Sorry if this sounds wierd :?.

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Input: [Topic ID] 117 [Post ID] 3672 [Date & Time] 2007-02-10 03:21:00 [Post Text]

Output: I don't think it sounds wierd at all.& I think this is a great topic.& I remember trying to joke about myself for this, saying I sometimes have 'premature orgasms' (when in fact I didn't think it was a joke) and there have been some points when I worried that something might be wrong with me.& I find that sometimes taking little cat naps and various relaxation techniques and then resuming masturbation can be helpful.& I've also discovered that my issues have psychological and hormonal causes and/or explanations, so I'm trying to straighten those issues out as well.& Hope this helps.& Take care.:)

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Input: [Topic ID] 118 [Post ID] 615 [Date & Time] 2005-10-02 08:52:57 [Post Text]

Output: Hi everyone, I would like to have your opinion regarding oral sex. Everywhere I turn I see or hear of people performing oral sex (cunnilingus/fellatio) as a means of safe sex. How safe is it? Even in porno movies where condoms are used, there is still a lot of oral sex. I notice that quite a few couples see oral sex more as a sign of intimacy rather than a sure way to orgasm. What's your opinion on this?

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Input: [Topic ID] 118 [Post ID] 788 [Date & Time] 2005-11-08 18:50:27 [Post Text]

Output: I'm not an expert but I think this question should not remain unanswered. I never considered oral safe and to my knowledge it is not. That is if you define safer sex as safe with respect to STDs. The interesting part is why people sometimes consider oral sex safe. A lot of people are more afraid of pregnancies than they are of diseases. (How stupid? Most people theoretically could manage to feed a child if "it happens".) I think that explain a lot. And then, there is kind of a hierachy (like holding hands - kissing - touching - getting undressed - "sexual something" - "actual sex") where "actual sex" mostly means intercourse and "something" could be oral. When it comes to actual sex we are taught to play it safe. However, unless we are having "real sex" we are trying to be more relaxed, merely having a good time, no need to worry about anything, no time to worry....

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Input: [Topic ID] 118 [Post ID] 789 [Date & Time] 2005-11-09 05:23:55 [Post Text]

Output: Hi, oral sex can transmit STDs like the HIV virus, although it is less risky than intercourse. I think in order of how risky it is, oral sex is the least risky, intercourse comes next, and most risky is anal sex

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Input: [Topic ID] 118 [Post ID] 790 [Date & Time] 2005-11-09 21:25:13 [Post Text]

Output: As everyone else has stated, Oral sex is only safe when it comes to pregnancies.& As for spreading diseases, it's highly possible. That's why it's always safe to use condoms/dental dams.& Unless you are completely 100% positive you both are disease free.

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Input: [Topic ID] 118 [Post ID] 929 [Date & Time] 2005-12-30 08:08:01 [Post Text]

Output: [user=116]Ladybug[/user] wrote: "As everyone else has stated, Oral sex is only safe when it comes to pregnancies. As for spreading diseases, it's highly possible. That's why it's always safe to use condoms/dental dams. Unless you are completely 100% positive you both are disease free. " it's not "highly" possible. rate of transmission with oral sex is significantly lower than with intercourse or anal sex due to the nature of the membranes and the types of fluids in the mouth (the mouth is very hostile towards HIV in particular). other diseases are solely genital diseases. also, oral isn't necessarily pregnancy proof either. it's possible for semen to be transferred by a kiss and wind up in the vagina during cunnilingus (and anal sex is also not foolproof against pregnancy for that matter). that said, the only safe sex is no sex.

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Input: [Topic ID] 118 [Post ID] 933 [Date & Time] 2005-12-30 16:00:27 [Post Text]

Output: Hi, I saw the following linked to magazine article while on a trip but could not find a copy for myself when I went to the store,& but I just found it on line. [url=www.discover.com/issues/oct-05/departments/the-biology-of-saliva/] www.discover.com/issues/oct-05/departments/the-biology-of-saliva/ Brad

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Input: [Topic ID] 119 [Post ID] 618 [Date & Time] 2005-10-02 21:21:38 [Post Text]

Output: Hello there-- I just discovered the clitoris website today, and i cannot even begin to say how much it's helped me understand a lot about myself. I'm seventeen, and I've always been very sexual but just recently discovered what a clitoris is..I know, I know, but I was raised catholic and it was just never discussed. Anyway, on to my question. I don't know entirely how to talk about this, or if I'm even in the right place, but if anyone has any advice or whatever I'd love it. Basically, about a year or two ago, I dont remember exactly when, I started to get wet when fantasizing and masturbating and stuff. Just getting horny, though, came with the intense feeling of needing to urinate, so much so that I never knew which came first, getting horny or having to pee. And sometimes, I'd get so wet that I wasn't sure what it was that was coming out of me. So anyway, I've been assosiating that feeling with sexual feelings. However, let's see, to make a long story short, I have a long distance boyfriend and we engage in phone sex conversations that are nothing like just fantasizing on my own...and so I am a lot wetter. A LOT. I don't know if this is normal. It sometimes seems like its just flowing out, even when i'm not coming. I'm scared its not what's supposed to be coming out. I want to find out more about this, but i can't find anything online and I just don't know what to do. Especially for when I'll be with my boyfriend soon--I don't want to be embarrased by how soaked i get everything. So thanks for any help and comments, I appreciate it!

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Input: [Topic ID] 119 [Post ID] 619 [Date & Time] 2005-10-02 21:35:52 [Post Text]

Output: I think it's called female ejaculation. Search for subjects related to it (like g-spot) and your doubts will be answered.

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Input: [Topic ID] 119 [Post ID] 624 [Date & Time] 2005-10-03 13:56:34 [Post Text]

Output: Hello coteroo and welcome to our group :) Yes you are in the right place. First off, there is nothing wrong with you. You are a perfectly normal functioning sexual young woman. I will talk about the urge to pee first. This is what we feel prior to an intense orgasm. It is quite shocking at first and it can mentally act as a barrier for us enjoying ourselves later on when we are with our partners. Let me tell you - no matter how intense the urge to pee is, you wont. The body has a shut off mechanism for the uretha and urine wont come out. Now moving on to the liquid. This is all part of being aroused. The amount of discharge that is produced varies from woman to woman. Sometimes you may not produce as much and other times you may feel like a waterfall is going on. This is all natural and again, perfectly normal. The liquid is produced as a natural lubricant. Make the most of it as later on in life in a couple of decades you may experience the complete opposite and have dryness instead. When you are with your boyfriend, please do not worry about being wet or feeling like you want to empty your bladder. If you dwell on this, it may ruin the experience for you a little as you will be preoccupied. You know you are able to experience an orgasm. You know you have a clitoris and how to stimulate it. You know you have all the right bits in all the right places. Just set the scene in your mind next time you have phone sex. Mention that you are dripping wet. Then when you are together if you feel a little self conscious about the amount of fluid you produce when getting aroused, laugh it off and say something like "well I told you I get dripping wet for you". Trust me, it will be a huge turn on at the time when your boyfriend sees just how aroused you become. Above all else, enjoy your body and yourself. There is only one of you. Princess :)

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Input: [Topic ID] 119 [Post ID] 628 [Date & Time] 2005-10-03 16:45:04 [Post Text]

Output: thank you very much for you comments! this makes me feel so much better, i can't even tell you. i'll definatly take that suggestion of mentioning it. thanks again!

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Input: [Topic ID] 119 [Post ID] 635 [Date & Time] 2005-10-04 10:41:39 [Post Text]

Output: Hi, You can get an idea of the amount of lubrication other women experience by the results of the survey about sexual arousal on the website, linked to below: [url=www.misterpoll.com/results.mpl?id=966966231] www.misterpoll.com/results.mpl?id=966966231 Some women also experience female ejaculation during sexual arousal and that is addressed on the same survey. Brad &

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Input: [Topic ID] 119 [Post ID] 636 [Date & Time] 2005-10-04 12:35:13 [Post Text]

Output: As far as I know, men LOVE it when a woman is completely wet so no need to worry... u know, you shouldn't worry even if a guy doesn't like it :) but I don't think you'll find one easily.

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Input: [Topic ID] 119 [Post ID] 642 [Date & Time] 2005-10-05 21:41:24 [Post Text]

Output: Getting VERY wet during arousal is normal...andsometimes it gets very gooey..

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Input: [Topic ID] 120 [Post ID] 620 [Date & Time] 2005-10-03 00:52:50 [Post Text]

Output: As I was recently in the middle of intercourse, while my boyfriend reached down he said he felt something. Later I looked and sure enough there is a small whitish bump, its not big but easily irritated, not itchy but painful to touch, there is only one and it looks to me like a pimple of sorts. I am not sure whether or not to worry about this, nothing has happened as such before, I just wanted to know if any of you have expirienced this before, and what you did to treat it. For now I will just leave it alone untill I can see a doctor. Still, moral support from the fellow female race.

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Input: [Topic ID] 120 [Post ID] 625 [Date & Time] 2005-10-03 14:03:49 [Post Text]

Output: Hello Cherry Vegas It is possible to get spots like pimples around the vaginal area on the lips, just inside the vulva and around the pubic hair region. These are normal. But there is a condition called genital warts. This is not normal and is an STD. If the bump is behaving like a normal pimple, and bursts the same way a normal spot does on another part of the body ( face, shoulders or back etc. ) then it is nothing to worry about. If the spot is like a blister, this will need to be checked out by a doctor as it could be herpies related. If the bump is not like a spot, white and like a small growth rather than something you can pop, then please ask your doctor to look for genital warts. Chances are it is just a normal pimple. I have had one or two over the years. I hope this answers your question and helps a little. I cant stop you worrying about this but I am here if you need a chat. Princess

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Input: [Topic ID] 120 [Post ID] 626 [Date & Time] 2005-10-03 15:43:45 [Post Text]

Output: Thank you much Princess...Ill have it checked out.

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Input: [Topic ID] 120 [Post ID] 627 [Date & Time] 2005-10-03 16:20:26 [Post Text]

Output: It's ok. I am sorry but I forgot to mention before, you can bath in a quarter filled bath with five to eight drops of Patchuli essential oil. This must be pure not diluted. When you put the drops into the bath water, swish the water about with your hand before you get in. This breaks up the pure oil and dispurses it in amongst the water. Patchuli is a natural remedy for treating vaginal infections and or irritations. Do not use any soap or cleaning agent in the bath to wash. The bath is purely for relaxing in whilst the oil gets to work on your delicate skin. Gently wash yourself with the water alone with nothing else added. If this turns out to be just a normal pimple, and it bursts, this will aid the healing a great deal and may even minimalise the soreness. Let me know how you get on. Princess

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Input: [Topic ID] 120 [Post ID] 630 [Date & Time] 2005-10-03 23:36:07 [Post Text]

Output: Thanks, I love patchoulli....So i will definately pick up some oil and use it, hopefully it works. Ill let you know how it goes. Much grattitude ~CV

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Input: [Topic ID] 120 [Post ID] 866 [Date & Time] 2005-12-04 23:45:25 [Post Text]

Output: I actually have a similar thing. It reminds me of acne a lot. I burst it the first time like a normal pimple.But it has been around the pubic hair region for over two weeks. I always clean down there, so it's not a matter of that, and I have been using a special anti-bacterial acne rinse to see if it would clear it up, but it is still there, and relatively painful. Now it's a bit sorer and redder, and I want to leave it alone for a bit more to see if it will clear up on it's own, but it doesn't look like it. Perhaps it's still infected? I don't know what to look for at a "blister".

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Input: [Topic ID] 120 [Post ID] 867 [Date & Time] 2005-12-05 07:46:11 [Post Text]

Output: Hi I recommend going straight to your doctor's to see if you need antibiotics. It could be that it was a normal pimple area and then you have inflamed it somehow. Jeans, nylon underwear, too much acidic food in your diet, or using something different to wash with than you normally do. It could be hormones, or another imbalance. Dont take any chances. As it has now become red and it hurts, they shouldnt hurt, so get the spots checked out. I hope everything works out for you and do let me know what the doctor says. Princess

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Input: [Topic ID] 120 [Post ID] 869 [Date & Time] 2005-12-05 18:04:19 [Post Text]

Output: If it goes untreated and becomes an infection, what are the risks? It's just painful to the touch. I also have a cold at this time, could that be an indication of anything.

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Input: [Topic ID] 121 [Post ID] 622 [Date & Time] 2005-10-03 04:28:21 [Post Text]

Output: Anyone know of any online sex toy stores that ship at really cheap fees ($10.00 or less?)

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Input: [Topic ID] 121 [Post ID] 623 [Date & Time] 2005-10-03 11:54:46 [Post Text]

Output: Hi, Our shipping fees start at $6.25. Brad

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Input: [Topic ID] 121 [Post ID] 629 [Date & Time] 2005-10-03 20:46:30 [Post Text]

Output: I doubt they'd be below $10.00 for people in Southeast Asia, though? :( &

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Input: [Topic ID] 121 [Post ID] 633 [Date & Time] 2005-10-04 10:30:38 [Post Text]

Output: Hi, I would say that is impossible, as most businesses use UPS or the like and the charges start at around $60.00 for them. I use the Post Office so charges start at $15.00. That is likely the cheapest you will find anywhere, unless you don't mind waiting 4 to 6 weeks for things to arrive by boat. Brad

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Input: [Topic ID] 122 [Post ID] 632 [Date & Time] 2005-10-04 07:26:53 [Post Text]

Output: Sorry if something like this has been assessed before. I used search, but found nothing. Kind of need direct advice, anyway. Right, I've been going out with my girlfriend for about a year now. She's a virgin, (hence the thread title) and we've been trying since about the second or third month. No amount of lubrication seems to change anything- it's like pressing up against a brick wall, and the slightest amount of pressure hurts her a surprising amount. If I get her to the brink of orgasm (through oral or rubbing), I can manage to get one finger inside, provided I get it wet first, and proceed like I'm playing a game of 'Operation'. Yes, I have tried keeping her at this point, and trying with both my fingers and dick. No dice. She's 18, and I'm a few months behind her at 17. I'm not a virgin, and I've deflowered a virgin before without much trouble (just ruling out the "are you in the right place?" question.) I think that some of it may be a psychological thing, as well. She gets visibly tense when my penis touches her vagina. Can't say I'm sure of the reason for this. Hands and tongue are fine. No flinching at all there. I'm probably not her ideal size (I'm a little over 8 inches, while she's a small girl in all aspects) but I doubt that it actually scares her. Hopefully. There are some positions that should make it easier for both of us that she will absolutely not try, usually ones where she'll be in control of all movement. That makes things a little more difficult. It’s beginning to get more and more frustrating for both of us. She cries about it occasionally, as she seems to think it’s her fault, as much as I’ve tried to tell her otherwise. She’s thinking about going in for a Hymenectomy, which I’m thinking may be a good idea. It is quite difficult to keep it up for an hour and a half on top of a woman that’s close to tears with no stimulation at all, moving into her at the speed of continental drift. Just a few general things- she doesn’t (and won’t) masturbate, she uses pads and not tampons (they never used to be able to fit. I at least seem to have stretched her enough for my finger. Unfortunately, I have very skinny fingers), she is on the pill (painful periods) and as far as she’s told me, has not been molested (not that I asked). Right. Suggestions? Advice? Vaginismus? Questions? Seemingly random accusations of me forcing her into it? Anything's appreciated.

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Input: [Topic ID] 122 [Post ID] 634 [Date & Time] 2005-10-04 10:36:18 [Post Text]

Output: Hi, It sounds like she really isn't ready to be having intercourse. If she isn't willing to be an active participant and learn to masturbate there is little you can do. If she tenses when you go to insert& your penis then she isn't ready for intercourse or she fears it will hurt. She needs to work on inserting fingers or objects on her own, if she isn't willing, not much you can do. While there may have been a purely physical problem to begin with there is now also a psychological one, likely the result of repeated failed and painful experiences. Have her read the information on the website written for virgins, linked to below: [url=www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/virgin1.htm] www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/virgin1.htm Brad

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Input: [Topic ID] 122 [Post ID] 638 [Date & Time] 2005-10-04 13:00:17 [Post Text]

Output: I dont think the hymen is the problem, it's the muscles. The hymen is a thin layer that will just stretch with the penis if it's really that strong. maybe sharing my personal experience would help, my bf had to 'stretch' my vagina for 3 weeks daily before we succeeded at penetration. He started with his little finger and even that hurted me alot at the beginning but I really wanted to have sex so I just withstood the pain. he would spend a decent 30 minutes or so daily carefully sliding it in there and then turing ever so gently in each direction and pressing. It worked when we got to three fingers. Even now, if I go for few days (say 10 days or 2 weeks) without any penetration it hurts again slightly at first. I sort of close up :? Now since you've been at it for months, and she's feeling that bad about it, maybe seeing a doctor would help, at least to rule out any physical problems.

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Input: [Topic ID] 122 [Post ID] 641 [Date & Time] 2005-10-05 18:22:46 [Post Text]

Output: Thanks for your help. If anything, I'm glad this didn't contain only one useful post before a someone decided it was her duty to inform me that I was a Chauvinist for 'forcing' her into sex, and it spouting into a flamewar and being locked while I was asleep. 'Sexuality' forum my arse. Brad- She may well not be ready. I did have her tell me when she wanted to do it, not the other way around. Maybe she felt I wanted to do it? :? I don't know, she's a... perplexing girl. Thanks for the link, maybe she'll listen to it if it's someone else saying it :) Kay- We did try that for a while, but after a month we didn't seem to be getting anywhere but Paintown. Perhaps it might be time to start doing it again. Thanks again.

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Input: [Topic ID] 122 [Post ID] 647 [Date & Time] 2005-10-06 10:44:50 [Post Text]

Output: You said you tried some positions.& Position is very important.& The following is of course just my personal experience but maybe it would help.& Though I really like it right now, the missionary position is probably the worst, because niether of you can really see what is going where.& We gave it up after the first few tries.& Now woman on top is an improvement bec the man can hold his penis while the woman lowers herself on it at her convenience, still it was too painful for me to go on with it (I needed him to do the pushing).& Try this one if you did not already.& & It was what finally worked for us.& Let her& sit on the edge of the bed and lay her back down or& rest on cushions. You, kneeling infront of her, can try to enter.& This way she's comfortable, no weight to support but hers, and you can see completely what's going on :) And you mentioned she is really upset the whole thing, I understand, I was completely upset and cried about it a few times.& I just want to tell you that it is very hard for a girl with limited sexual experience to sit naked, legs apart while a man is between her legs streching her vagina.& I was convinced at first that my bf hated the whole thing, inspite of his assurances.& He really spent alot of time telling me I looked beautiful and he loved looking at me and touching me, he repeated that what must've been a thousand times until finally he would show me his full erection as proof he liked it. Try to see if you can get her interested in her own genitals, like looking at them in the mirror or just touching them, finding out where her clitoris is, with no suggestion of masturbation at first. I hope some of this help :)

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Input: [Topic ID] 122 [Post ID] 649 [Date & Time] 2005-10-06 10:57:40 [Post Text]

Output: Hi, My response was based on the numerous e-mails I have received from women or their partner who attempted penetration despite the pain on numerous occasions and found themselves dealing with psychological issues not just a physical or medical ones. Since we are told& intercourse is suppose to hurt the woman in the beginning couples may ignore the pain. Pain always indicates something is wrong, that something potentially harmful is occurring to the body.& Pain during first attempts at intercourse usually means the hymen is still partially blocking the entrance to the vagina, the pelvic muscles are in contraction, or there is not enough lubrication. Less often it indicates a medical problem. For most the muscles may be only a little tight and expand with little trouble and the hymen is thin and tears without effort. For others the hymen will not tear and needs to be surgically removed, or stretched slowly over time. If the pelvic muscles are tight that indicates they are not healthy, as healthy muscles are strong and flexible. Forcing entry likely worsens the state of the pelvic muscles and poor muscle tone will lead to problems in the future, lack of friction during intercourse and loss of control over bladder. It is better to learn Kegel exercises to learn to relax and strengthen the muscles. The problem is worsened when the girl has been raised to believe she just has to lay there and things will magically happen and the pleasure and rewards are automatic. This topic is addressed in more detail on the pages about virginity and the Q&A section of the website. Brad

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Input: [Topic ID] 122 [Post ID] 653 [Date & Time] 2005-10-07 09:23:25 [Post Text]

Output: [user=255]Triple[/user] wrote: "Thanks for your help. If anything, I'm glad this didn't contain only one useful post before a someone decided it was her duty to inform me that I was a Chauvinist for 'forcing' her into sex, and it spouting into a flamewar and being locked while I was asleep. 'Sexuality' forum my arse. " that would only happen ( locked or deleted thread ) if you were offensive, disrespectful or had broken our rules! We are quite an open minded bunch here. Well I like to think so. :) Princess

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Input: [Topic ID] 122 [Post ID] 811 [Date & Time] 2005-11-14 03:12:16 [Post Text]

Output: I have known someone with this same issue. Turns out there is a condition where the vagina goes into a spasm automatically, can be a result of a previous trauma or religious prejudice or if there is a bit of pressure on to perform and nothing happens, the mind tells the walls of rthe vagina to shut up shop, so to speak. This can be remedied with her developing a trust in you, that means not getting upset when nothing happens (even over long periods of time). Professional help may provide a kit of dilators which start out as very narrow and are removed and exchanged for a larger dilator in a gradual process as your girlfriend relaxes and gets used to penetration. This can be a long process and lots and lots and LOTS of love and patience is required. The results are worth it as your girlfriend will most likely be appreciative of your patience.

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Input: [Topic ID] 122 [Post ID] 813 [Date & Time] 2005-11-14 11:03:21 [Post Text]

Output: Aha, here is where I come in useful. That wall, all of us vag sufferers know that all too well. I am a sufferer of vag and, at 26, have never been able to have ic because of it. It felt like there was a wall when& I tried, like there wasn't even a hole. I could have a finger inserted at any time but vag sufferers are all different, some can have ic but not have exams like smears and other are the other way around, this is called situational vaginismus, some can insert a finger or two, other can insert nothing at all at first but it is curable although it can take some time and a lot of patience. If you read the thread I started a little further down the board, you'll get a bigger picture of my story and the things I'm doing and also get a better picture about vag as a whole but do as much research as you can about it and get her to as well. It is possible she doesn't have vag but I'd recommend her getting checked out and researching it all the same and also, if she does think that she has it, to join the support groups where I am a member and she can talk to us lot about all things related to vag and other sex issues without feeling judged. I'll gove you the links to them both if you want. One is for primary vag sufferers, those who were never able to have ic, and the other is for all vag sufferers be it primary or secondary. Secondary vag often crops up where a woman might start experiencing pain due to infection and this trains her muscles to start clamping up even when she used to have pain free ic or it can crop up in women who have been raped etc...plus other reasons, even simple change in partner can cause it or a long period without ic. There are lots of websites that describe vaginismus and such if you want to look it up but researching on sexual anatomy and sexuality in general is also a must. I found the clit.com site very useful. If she seems tense as soon as your penis touches her, I know that feeling, chances are she is frightened of the idea of penetration, expecting pain or even injury and this is what causes the muscles to spasm, the brain tells them to do so, her subconscious, she has no conscious& control over it. Curing vag means retraining your brain. If she does have vaginismus, I strongly recommend not trying intercourse for a while because if you do try and it causes pain, this will reinforce her subconscious that pain will come on any attempt at penetration and this will make her muscles spasm even more and make the whole condition worse. Please try not to get impatient with her, ic isn't everything and there are still plenty of other things you can both do and enjoy. Too many blokes run in the opposite direction when confronted with something like this because they can't live without ic but you can prove how much of a real decent man you are by sticking around and helping her to cure this and, when it is cured, you can feel proud knowing you stuck it out and that it was partly your support which enabled it to happen. There is also a yahoo group for partners of vag sufferers if she does turn out to have this and you would like to talk to other men who have partners going through this same problem. & I'll be glad to help if you have anything more to ask.

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Input: [Topic ID] 122 [Post ID] 1803 [Date & Time] 2006-06-26 15:30:54 [Post Text]

Output: My girlfriend and I had the same thing happen to us. We had been together for a year when we decided to try. It just wouldn't work. I could see that she would get nervous as soon as my penis touched her vagina. We often had outercourse rubbing her clitoris with my penis. I had fingered her before but she was reluctant to try fingering unless she was extremely excited and forgot to be scared.& She had heard all the stories of pain and blood and women who dislike sex because it's painful. She is not one to go looking for information about sexuality and didn't know anything about it when we met. She hadn't really dated prior to me, nor did I. She had never experienced orgasm, probably never really been excited to be with a guy. I knew that pressuring her to do it wouldn't be enjoyable for her, likely leading to less intimacy than if she turned around and asked for it. We tried a few times in the last few months and I could tell that she wanted it but her body wasn't letting her. She told me once recently that she did want it and was disappointed that she couldn't. She is orgasmic and I love eating her. I showed her some links on the-clitoris.com even though she squirmed a bit looking at some pictures talking her through it really helped. The newest page on finding the vagina had perfect timing for us. I did get my finger inside and she had to learn that the feelings she was afraid of were new and not necessarily pain, though she did know what hurt. I also asked her to squeeze her PC muscle while my finger was inside so she could tell when she was tense and relaxed. This weekend we experienced intercourse for the first time. After extended foreplay that involved shaving her pussy and slow going she accepted me inside her. She said it hurt a little when it first slipped in. Then it felt good. I didn't move at all at first. I let her wiggle as she learned what would feel good. As she got more excited she let me move just enough that she could feel it. No thrusting, just a little movement. We were close together with me on top. It felt amazing. She could feel my erection soften and harden during our movement and rest. Being so close together and excited she actually came which surprised me, I was probably rubbing her clit a bit in that position. Orgasm was actually quite painful for her as her muscles contracted during. Soon after she asked me to come out so she could relax, as I was still aroused. She finished me off and I came like never before. We snuggled and talked about it. She didn't bleed, she said it didn't hurt as much as she thought it would with the stories she had heard, and she actually enjoyed it. She thought it was her hymen that was causing the trouble. After reading this site I decided it wasn't. I think it didn't even tear, but we don't know right now. For those guys that are experiencing trouble with sex and your woman. Sex is something you give to her, you can't take it. If you don't feel her apprehensions and love her like there is no other, she won't be comfortable enough to accept you. Position was important. Use your finger to explore and ask her what feels best. Getting your dick in the right place for her isn't as easy as it seems if she is sensitive. Take the time to excite her, wait until she asks you to try. For a woman who is sensitive, or unprepared, you can't rush things. Take your time. There is no need to rush. I don't mind spending hours naked with her. It's not HER problem it's BOTH of yours. If you don't accept that, I don't know what to tell you. If it's not working and you don't know what to do except stick your dick in her pussy get a clue and learn something. I started learning about sex as I got older because I was worried that when I did meet a woman (I didn't date at all due to shyness) I would likely have to measure up to other guys that she had been with. Even without experience, I thought the knowledge would be helpful. I researched a lot more when we found out it wasn't going to work as easily as we thought. She's 24. I'm 28. We have lived together for a year and met a year and a half ago. Neither of us really dated prior, let alone had sex. I do have one regrettable drunken experience. I would do anything to take that back to give it to my girlfriend as she waited. I will marry her. "Dance like nobody's watching; love like you've never been hurt. Sing like nobody's listening; live like it's heaven on earth."

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Input: [Topic ID] 122 [Post ID] 1805 [Date & Time] 2006-06-26 17:01:23 [Post Text]

Output: I wish more male& partners were like you. I read the stories of other women in the vag group about how their BFs and husbands treat them and it's so sad and annoying and makes me lose hope about ever finding a guy who could deal with my condition. I only hope I can be lucky enough to find a guy who understands or does his best to understand.

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Input: [Topic ID] 122 [Post ID] 1806 [Date & Time] 2006-06-26 18:31:37 [Post Text]

Output: The deformed portrayal of sex in porn causes part of men's insensitivity toward sex. Canis, there is hope. I've read some of your story. I wouldn't wear a t-shirt proclaiming your condition on your first date, but do tell the guy if you see sparks after a week or two. He will or will not be able to deal with it. If he is attracted to you, it will be for your other qualities also. Sex virtually always works out when love is real. There is a movie in the US called 40 days and 40 nights, when you find an interested guy you might watch it with him. You should definitely be looking for a sensitive guy. Trust me, I had concerns about it at first. Especially when her sex drive dropped because of stress in her life. At first she would just push me away and it was a while before she wanted sex again. She told me she loved me and when she actually said she wanted to have intercourse it made a difference, even if she couldn't. We did talk about sex soon after we met. She told me she was a virgin and was waiting for the man she would marry. I told her that I would wait as long as she needed and that there are many things to enjoy sexually before intercourse comes into the picture. Knowing that there is much more to sex than intercourse was great because I knew what to do to turn her on, and orgasm. I remember how wet she would get, she'd leave at the end of the night with soaked panties and I never took off her clothes to pleasure her clit.

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