Input: [Topic ID] 52 [Post ID] 291 [Date & Time] 2005-07-05 18:36:55 [Post Text]

Output: Thank your very much for your answer Luisa. Of course we nestle - nuzzle (kuscheln) before sex and kiss each others erogenous zones. It is the cunnilungus that i've never done before so i am a bit nervous how it is going to be for us. That's the reason i surfed around and found this forum. Believe me or not i came this link-way: google -> wikipedia -> the-clitoris -> this forum. And it is the very detailed cunnilingus article on the-clitoris with 'five' paragraphs about the smell and taste and that it differs when the woman is ill but no general answer that made me more curious about what i have to expect. In the end i suppose i shouldn't think too much about it. I'll 'taste' when it happens... About her pain i have to say that she never mastrubated in front of me so i can't tell how long "when it takes longer" means but she never complained about pain when we had our 'normal' sex. Could it be that there es everything ok with her vuvla-wettness and only her clit reacts oversensitive? If that is the case then i have to be very soft and careful. I remember the said "it should be very loving - tender - affectionate". Good Night, Andy

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Input: [Topic ID] 52 [Post ID] 303 [Date & Time] 2005-07-07 18:49:32 [Post Text]

Output: Any last tip for this weekend? Or a last warning? Still curious and nervous... Good Night, Andy

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Input: [Topic ID] 52 [Post ID] 330 [Date & Time] 2005-07-11 10:46:41 [Post Text]

Output: Just relax. ;)

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Input: [Topic ID] 52 [Post ID] 331 [Date & Time] 2005-07-11 17:04:33 [Post Text]

Output: Hi again, too late - i mean your posting Ladybug ;) I've never seen a woman having an orgasm before this weekend - and i never thought that they are so far away when they have one. Seems to be so much different to a man's... She had to point me here and there in the beginning after we had our long sensitive foreplay - but later i was able to react on her reactions. To answer my own question here - i enjoyed her taste. But to be true - all senses change when you are sexual stimulated - even taste and smell... It was so sexual stimulating i really got highly aroused - and it took long - longer than she mastrubates alone and longer than our regular sex. Some minutes later she said she enjoyed it so much and that she really had no pain till then, wich i was very afraid of before, but she neither wanted me to continue nor doing intercourse wich was the only thing that confused me a bit. She was in such a different mood after all - smiling so warm, satisfied and a bit exhausted at the same time. We kissed deeply and hugged each other for a really long time till we fall asleep. She faster than me wich is very unusual... In the end i'm still unsure if her genitals are oversensitive. I was very soft with my tongue and she didn't want me to finger her. I hope she hasn't lied to me when she said she has no pain when we have intercourse... Bye, Andy

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Input: [Topic ID] 52 [Post ID] 335 [Date & Time] 2005-07-13 15:53:48 [Post Text]

Output: ...and how should i ask her about that? in love and confused, Andy

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Input: [Topic ID] 52 [Post ID] 488 [Date & Time] 2005-09-03 04:42:15 [Post Text]

Output: Do you love her?do you want to be with her? You should care about her sexual life.Please do what she asks you to do

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Input: [Topic ID] 52 [Post ID] 491 [Date & Time] 2005-09-03 08:55:14 [Post Text]

Output: Hi Andy and Welcome :) When I started reading this thread, all sorts of points started coming to mind for me to post as a reply. But then I read of your loving experience and was so thrilled for you both. I think from reading how you have described this pain, that it is not "painful" in a sense and more a type of uncomfortable feeling that some women get prior to their orgasms. It sometimes feels like you are about to urinate and at first, if your girlfriend has not experiences that type of orgasm before, it wil register as slightly painful and can be quite scary as well. Also, direct stimulation on the clitoris can become painful if this is prolonged and no orgasm is reached. Try stimulating around the clitoris area instead of the actual clitoris itself. Then when she is very aroused and "away" gently stroke her clitoris with your tongue. This will bring out her orgasm and she will appreciate it all the more. Hope this helps Princess

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Input: [Topic ID] 52 [Post ID] 496 [Date & Time] 2005-09-04 11:48:07 [Post Text]

Output: Hi bifu, I guess we can start the German language forum now. ;) By now, you have probably found out how cunnilingus tastes. I didn't like the kind of salty taste when I first tried licking a girl down there but I was hot enough not to care. However, I like to take things naturally, so I never tried using anything else but the human body in bed (no lubricants, no parfums) except for condoms, of course. My advice for you is simply finding out by trying what your girlfriend likes. It's not wrong to educate yourself and talk about sex. However I find it most enjoyable (I mean 'prickelnd' for the Germans) if things just happen. When I finger a vulva I don't know where my finder is heading. I honestly don't know (unless I'm really trying hard to concentrate) because I find it difficult to match what I've seen with what touch. When giving cunnilingus I have my eyes closed (and there's no light anyways). Have fun

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Input: [Topic ID] 52 [Post ID] 497 [Date & Time] 2005-09-04 17:14:17 [Post Text]

Output: Hi coololver76, Princess and EuropeanGuy, thank you very much for answering. I nearly forgot about this forum when i saw in my email that someone answered to this thread. I am sorry to say that but after i got no reply i also posted in a known german forum where the thread with my story is now 118 postings long. So the story ist really too long to retell it all in english. Our sexlife totally turned around. My girlfriend was caught mastrubating when she was 12. Her father slapped her for doing it and forbid her to do it again. She continued doing it very fast and without reaching orgasm. Always scared that her parents find out. She had only one guy in her life before me (they lived together for 5 years) and he only 'used' her for his own sexual satisfaction (only intercourse on side from the back wich was the only position where he 'came'). We can see us only at weekend at the moment because of our workshifts and the distance. After i 'licked' her for the second time we had normal intercourse with no pain as she said. The next weekend i did it again but she refused to do intercourse. In the end of this chaotic week she told me the whole story about her ex and her childhood and that she don't want to have intercourse anymore because she has bad memories about it. At that time i understood the whole situation. She gives me handjobs now and i do cunnilingus on her. One evening we were out and flirted the whole time. Back at her home we had quite unusual sex. No showering and long stroking before. I 'licked' very long an intensive and she reached her first 'real' orgasm (all others before were faked but she said she enjoyed sex very much since we don't have intercourse anymore) wich scared her much. I was scared at first too because of her body reactions. And i also couldn't believe that she never came to that point through mastrubating. In our two weeks holiday we nearly had sex every day but she only had two more orgasms. Both in unusual situations. One time in a tent in the mountains. The other standing up in the hotel room. But i we don't want to force it. I also don't push her to have intercourse again. I let her time. We are still at the beginning of our relationship. We try to see us more often the week when our workshifts allow it. We love each other very much. But to be true. These weeks before our holidays were very chaotic. To be true i also had only one girlfriend before. That was 11 years ago when i was 18 and we both were virgins at that time. And it was horrible. So i am very thankful for this website for all the information and both forums users who answered on my questions. @princess It think it was exactly as you have written. She was scared about that painlike feeling. Maybe this was the reason that she always stopped mastrubating before reaching orgasm. What i don't know yet is if she reaches orgasm by mastrubating now too. And i am unsure if i should really ask her about that. @EuropeanGuy I was really afraid in the beginnig how it would taste. What i can say now is that i love her - and her natural taste :-) I hope that wasn't too long and my englisch was good enough to understand. Reading is so easy. Writing harder, especially on subjects like this one where i always have to find the right 'special' words that you don't need when reading english manuals. Listening is more harder. And my english speaking is horrible ;-) Andy

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Input: [Topic ID] 52 [Post ID] 499 [Date & Time] 2005-09-05 07:32:57 [Post Text]

Output: Hello bifu so pleased for you and your wife Good for you :) no your post was not too long we are pleased to have you take part and your English typing is great. Keep joining in ! Princess :)

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Input: [Topic ID] 53 [Post ID] 292 [Date & Time] 2005-07-06 02:45:17 [Post Text]

Output: I am 29yrs old, have 2 kids, and been w/ my fiance for about 3 1/2yrs.& I am on birth control pills and have had a regular period since i started them over 4 yrs ago.& I ended my period about 15days ago and I am in the middle of my b.c. pack.& so five days ago I started another period.& Heavy at first, then just consistently light for a couple of days.& Then nothing all day today.& Me and my fiance had sex tonite, and right after I went to shower and I am bleeding again, heavy flow.& I took a p.g. test on sunday to make sure I wasn't preggo and Im not.& I am still waiting for a call back from my gyno.& But any ideas?? anybody?& I would rather I am pregnant and having a miscarriage then something else more serious.& I have tried researching some online and no help there.& :(

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Input: [Topic ID] 53 [Post ID] 294 [Date & Time] 2005-07-06 10:55:09 [Post Text]

Output: Hi, I found the following information on a web search: What if I have breakthrough bleeding? Spotting or bleeding during the active pills of your pack is termed breakthrough bleeding. It is extremely common during the first three months of pill use. This bleeding can usually be ignored and should resolve by the third pack. If light bleeding persists for more than 5 to 7 days or heavy bleeding persists for more than 2 to 3 days, call your provider. We will sometimes recommend taking two pills a day (one it the morning, one in the evening) until the bleeding stops. The extra pills should be drawn from a separate pack of pills. Usually the extra pills need to be taken for 2 to 3 days. Breakthrough bleeding can also occur if you are late or forgot a pill. If you are experiencing breakthrough bleeding after your 3rd month of pill use for no obvious reason (you've taken your pills perfectly), you should call your provider. Brad

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Input: [Topic ID] 53 [Post ID] 296 [Date & Time] 2005-07-06 12:19:37 [Post Text]

Output: Thanks for your input.& I wish it were as simple as that.& I have been on the pill for over 3 years, and I take it religiously at 10pm every night.& I have only missed the pill maybe once or twice in my adult life, but it hasn t been recently which is why i'm concerned.& this morning I am still bleeding, still waiting for a call back from gyno. thanks for the help;)

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Input: [Topic ID] 53 [Post ID] 302 [Date & Time] 2005-07-06 22:18:38 [Post Text]

Output: Hi, I figured the second paragraph applied to you, which states you should consult your doctor. Brad

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Input: [Topic ID] 53 [Post ID] 305 [Date & Time] 2005-07-07 19:55:42 [Post Text]

Output: Sorry I have no scientific& knowledfe for you, but I have heard that it's not abnormal to experience breakthrough bleeding while on the pill, especially if you've been on it for a long time.

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Input: [Topic ID] 53 [Post ID] 308 [Date & Time] 2005-07-08 00:23:39 [Post Text]

Output: thanks for everyone's replies.& i went to doc today.& she wasn't too sure why it was occuring.& could be my hormones were out a wack, or stress related.& she's having me monitor my periods for the next month or two to see what happens.& No exam done, she just asked questions.& so that eased my mind a bit, but still, didn't get a whole lot of answers either.& i'll just keep an eye on my next one and see what happens during the next month. & &

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Input: [Topic ID] 53 [Post ID] 338 [Date & Time] 2005-07-14 16:15:42 [Post Text]

Output: Hi i have had 2 periods a month for a year, and am now waiting for blood tests for anemia and thyroid, then an exam at hospital. I have been told to stop taking the pill too, until i get my results

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Input: [Topic ID] 53 [Post ID] 339 [Date & Time] 2005-07-14 18:47:30 [Post Text]

Output: well they did ask me if i have thyroid problems in my family, and their aren't any.& They also asked about fibroid problems, which there is a history of.& But they didn't do any exams, no blood, nothing.& was a little puzzled that was all they did and paid an office visit for that.& So as of today I have been steadily bleeding for 3 weeks.& 2weeks ago i started the breakthrough bleeding, and today I continued on w/ my normal period starting w/ an extremely heavy flow.& I am really not liking the fact that i'm a woman this month.& let me know what they find out w/ you ok, i'm very interested.

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Input: [Topic ID] 53 [Post ID] 340 [Date & Time] 2005-07-15 10:46:05 [Post Text]

Output: Hi, Breakthrough bleeding is more likely with low dose birth control pills and the solution is to use a higher dose. Brad

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Input: [Topic ID] 53 [Post ID] 341 [Date & Time] 2005-07-15 13:10:44 [Post Text]

Output: Yeah i have heard that from people, but why would this start after years of using it.& I have been on it for 3 years, never had a problem, and prior to having my children i was on it for 2 years.& Just doesn't make sense.& I was on the depo shot before i got on the pill 3 years ago for 9months,& and w/ that high of a dose of hormones I bled consistently for 9months off and on.& nothing regular about my period then.& so then i went back on the pill and everything was normal again.& its sort of a double edge sword, if I stay on it i might bleed twice a month, if i go on something stronger I will be dealing w/ different side effects from a different delivery of hormones right? &

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Input: [Topic ID] 53 [Post ID] 342 [Date & Time] 2005-07-15 22:05:25 [Post Text]

Output: Hi, It doesn't help to know that doctors know little about women's hormones. This is because they are constantly changing and because they vary from woman to woman. It is a big guessing game. They also change, decrease, with age. I woman I know starting taking the Pill because of severe cramps.& The doctor just looked at a chart and chose the one that is recommended for her need. She has to try it and hope it works. She was really concerned about the side affects, because she doesn't need it for birth control. Brad

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Input: [Topic ID] 53 [Post ID] 343 [Date & Time] 2005-07-16 03:19:14 [Post Text]

Output: well it seems like the same game i& play w/ both of my children's doctor.& both my kids have asthma (moderate not severe) and I rely on my instinct most of the time to determine whether or not they will be getting their meds.& why, because i have taken them in to the er and sat there for hours while my child struggled to breath just so the nurse could finally hook him up and give him a nebulizer treatment that we could have done at home.& Now i finally have a doctor for them that understands my instincts are better than hers because i know them better, i'm there everyday.& its no different than a woman knowing her own body and what's going on.& for most women we dont enjoy going to the gyno and getting in the stirrups, not a trip to the amusement park.& so when we put ourselves thru it more than once a year, there's a freakin reason for it.& i know that its guessing game, that sucks that as far as medicine has come and we still can't figure out some basic things in the female body.& instead of trying to figure it out, they just try a different pill.& here......try this pill instead, yeah the side effects might make your sex drive disappear but its fine, you wont get pregnant. hmmm. that makes sense.

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Input: [Topic ID] 53 [Post ID] 344 [Date & Time] 2005-07-16 12:11:45 [Post Text]

Output: I have been on Depo for almost over& three years& now and I just don't even get my period, So I guess each woman is different but they say after the first shot you might have it light for three months and then nothing after that pretty much until you go off the shot, I went off the shot for about 8 months and never had a period in 8 months I was concerned and asked my doctor and they said it was completely normal and that once I did get it I could go back on the shot or on pills which ever I chose, I found no side affects for myself with the shot except for no period, but I have always been regular and never had cramps or heavy bleeding even when I was younger. Some people complain of depression ect when on the Depo shot but then some also do when on the pill, it's all a matter of the best choice for our own bodies I found the Shot to be most effecitive for me because I have a hard time remembering to take a pill at the same time every day, I don't mind not having a period so it's a non issue for me as it is for some woman but it was a little weird that my body took 8 months to expell the hormones from the shot, and when I did have my period it was heavyer longer and I had slight cramping for the first one and the one after that was normal. So this just gose to prove how different each womans body is, I know others who are on the same treatment and get a light period faithfully every month or there normal period and other's that have been on it and then go off and get there's in the first month of being of fit. The only thing I am cautious about is the fact that when I go off it again if I want to get pregant I may have to wait an indefinate amount of time... But I guess that's just the way the cookie crumbles

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Input: [Topic ID] 54 [Post ID] 304 [Date & Time] 2005-07-07 19:27:34 [Post Text]

Output: hello, i am new here and i´m sorry if i write something wrong because i speak spanish :D. i´ve been thinking about piercing my clit, but i need to know& if it´s worth the suffering or not. also if there are serious consecuences.& if& someone has it pierced, tell me how it feels, what it`s like, or& anything important. thanks for everything TETS:dude:&

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Input: [Topic ID] 54 [Post ID] 307 [Date & Time] 2005-07-07 22:41:24 [Post Text]

Output: Hi, Please see the following page that is in Spanish: [url=www.the-clitoris.com/spanish/html/s_piercing.htm] www.the-clitoris.com/spanish/html/s_piercing.htm In English see: [url=www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/piercing.htm] www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/piercing.htm Brad

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Input: [Topic ID] 54 [Post ID] 309 [Date & Time] 2005-07-08 01:54:28 [Post Text]

Output: I have never really thought about gential pericing although I have thought about nipple pericing.... Any how after reading this forum and what brad posted I am interested in learning more and more about it seems sort of fun and errotic

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Input: [Topic ID] 54 [Post ID] 314 [Date & Time] 2005-07-08 23:14:50 [Post Text]

Output: ok thanks!

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Input: [Topic ID] 55 [Post ID] 306 [Date & Time] 2005-07-07 21:51:26 [Post Text]

Output: Hello all, I am new here... I am a 24 year old sexually active female, although I have had few partners I find sex, masturbation and oral sex fun and exciting and enjoy it when I am with someone I really care about. Recently I have started seeing a guy a couple years older than me and I am beginning to feel that I don't have a right to be shy about my body. Yet I am and I can't help it nor can I control how I feel... I know I am a beautiful person inside and out that's not the problem my issue is I don't know how to experess things sometimes. I really like this person and enjoy his company and although we haven't had sex we have touched and stuff. He made me feel good but I find alot of the time with guys when they are using fore play or touching they tend to be rough, which turns me off and I am not sure how to explain it to them. I like gentle and soft it keeps me sexually aroused so much longer, when I masterbate I can go for hours and cum over and over again yet with guys I just don't feel as good most of the time. I feel like I am inadaquet and part of that is my shyness I know but part of it is that very few men can get me aroused and keep me there.... or maybe it's just a matter of finding the right man. It's strange because I have talked to a few online about this and I can get and stay aroused for hours and cum several times. Just the other night for example I talked to a guy about my age and he taught me a totally new concept to me called juicing/squirting/female ejaculation, I had so much fun with it and it felt so good and I continued for hours to stimulate my body and cum and squirt over and over again. Why can't I achive this same thing when I am with a guy... I am also fairly cirous about toys but am too shy to go and buy them...... :( Help Please:) & Princess241981

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Input: [Topic ID] 55 [Post ID] 315 [Date & Time] 2005-07-09 15:08:19 [Post Text]

Output: Hello and welcome to the group. Thanks for sharing your experiences with us. Firstly, you dont seam to have a problem expressing what you need to keep you stimulated and aroused to us on here. You explained very well how you dont need rough handling but soft sensous touches. Am I correct? The main part of really intense pleasurable sex is communicating from both sides. Talking is a huge part of this and being able to listen to what your partner likes as well. Quite a few people experience a different type of pleasure through masterbating than with having sex with a partner. One is not better or worse than the other in many instances just different. Try talking with this new guy. Sit down with him somewhere neutral and discuss things that you like and ask if there is anything that he likes and enjoys that you dont know about yet. You are a great typer and expressing yourself that way could be a good plan. I myself have had great success communicating what I want from a lover online through just generally chatting. They cant see you become embarrassed and as the conversation grows so does your braveness and you will say things through typing that perhaps sitting in front of a person you would not bring yourself to spit out the words. I have found that I could be more open and blunt so there was no confusion on things that I wanted or needed at the time. Try it - it works :) Princess

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Input: [Topic ID] 55 [Post ID] 316 [Date & Time] 2005-07-10 11:59:58 [Post Text]

Output: Princess, & Thank you for your response.... We have done the chatting online to some extent about certin things that are hard to communicate about in person. Were slowly working on it... But it's just a casual relationship and I am not sure I can be intitmit to the point of intercourse in that type of realtionship and I just hope he can except that. & &

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Input: [Topic ID] 55 [Post ID] 318 [Date & Time] 2005-07-10 17:49:55 [Post Text]

Output: Hi there, It is important to set clear boundries then if it is not going to follow on into a sexual friendship. You need to be quite clear about this I feel. Glad you are able to communicate with him. Just set out clear points as to what is off limits. Princess :)

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Input: [Topic ID] 55 [Post ID] 322 [Date & Time] 2005-07-10 21:01:24 [Post Text]

Output: Thanks, Yeah I have been clear.... In fact I don't think we have much of a relationship at all which is too bad since he's a nice guy but that's okay... We can be freinds... Seems I am at the age where no matter what I do guys are chasing me any how.... LOL I know sounds concited but that's not how it's supposed to sound.... & &

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Input: [Topic ID] 55 [Post ID] 325 [Date & Time] 2005-07-11 00:02:57 [Post Text]

Output: I too enjoy masturbation quite frequently, too much sometimes, lol.& My libido seems to get more out of control with each year that goes by.& And yes sometimes having an orgasm while masturbating is more pleasurable than having sex with my man.& But I also wouldn't replace it with that warm body on top of mine, his smell, deep groans, etc.& (you get the point).& But there are ways to get that same orgasm or close to it with your partner, but they have to be patient and understanding as well.& I have actually found with him hitting my gspot in a certain position I can "squirt" much quicker than when I do it myself.& and he totally gets off on it also.& &

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Input: [Topic ID] 55 [Post ID] 326 [Date & Time] 2005-07-11 00:03:35 [Post Text]

Output: you can buy toys online also if going into a store embaresses you.

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Input: [Topic ID] 56 [Post ID] 312 [Date & Time] 2005-07-08 19:34:54 [Post Text]

Output: Hello, im new here and also im new to sex, and what im wondering if i have sex while my vagina is kinda irritated if it'd hurt? 'cause i really want to be with my boyfriend and i dunno if its bad to have sex like this 'cause its not that bad the irritation, thanks!

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Input: [Topic ID] 56 [Post ID] 313 [Date & Time] 2005-07-08 22:48:13 [Post Text]

Output: What kind of irritation? Is it an infection, or just from dryness? If it's from an infection, you may want to refrain from penetration. Certain kinds of infections can be recurring because the microorganisms stay on the penis. If it's not from an infection, you can give it a try and see how it feels.

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Input: [Topic ID] 57 [Post ID] 327 [Date & Time] 2005-07-11 01:29:46 [Post Text]

Output: hey all....some help would be cool. been seeing a girl for about a month now, shes 18 im 20, ive been brought up encouraged to have sex, shes been a devote catholic until recently.& My sexual history is quite active, while she had only even kissed two other guys before me. So anyways....we had sex about a week back.& I tried in ernest to discuss things with her, she assured me she was okay but i could tell something was up.& Came out eventually she felt she wasnt ready for it all.& As frustrating as it is for me (she& was just as keen for things as me)& im more then happy to wait for her, shes the first girl& I have actually& cared about.& but non the less, sex has become how you express your feelings for a person to me, more then just sport fucking, and its a fair drag.& some advice on how to win her confidence? i guess that is what im after but it would& also be ace to hear other thoughts on& the situation.& I dont wanna push her at all, just convince her its all okay.

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Input: [Topic ID] 57 [Post ID] 328 [Date & Time] 2005-07-11 01:35:46 [Post Text]

Output: well i was raised in a pretty strict christian home.& I however rebelled against it, so I haven't ever taken any of their bull to heart.& But realize that a "first" for a girl is so different then a first for a guy.& My first broke my heart, he didn't realize how much I got hooked on him.& just give her time, if its only been a month and this was her first time, she probably doesn't know yet how great it can feel with someone who cares and takes the time to make it really awesome.& the first time is either really akward or painful, depends on the girl.& keep communication open, tell her how great it was for you but that you can wait if she needs more time.

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Input: [Topic ID] 57 [Post ID] 329 [Date & Time] 2005-07-11 01:41:37 [Post Text]

Output: thanks for taking the time:)& does help alot....

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Input: [Topic ID] 57 [Post ID] 373 [Date & Time] 2005-07-30 13:41:47 [Post Text]

Output: Hi... Just one question, did she enjoy it? I think for many girls it's quite a shock the first time how far sex is from what she sees in movies and stuff. Just ask! If she's embarassed find a way around it, by asking no/yes questions. I think your best bet here is to get her to relax with u first and then get her excited without the prospect of sex. Maybe fondling and sexplay somewhere or at some time where sex is improbable. Very likely with time, all that sexual build up will make her ask for it. But you have to find out WHY she's not ready, knowing that she's not wont get u far, but with why she's not, u have something to work on...

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Input: [Topic ID] 58 [Post ID] 333 [Date & Time] 2005-07-13 08:15:12 [Post Text]

Output: I am a young woman who is interested in the pros and cons of shaving and waxing - brazilian or other styles - I have had a look at [url=www.shave4fem.co.uk] www.shave4fem.co.uk which seems to contain some interesting links.& But it would be good to see if there are any comments to be made here? Thanks Shaver

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Input: [Topic ID] 58 [Post ID] 334 [Date & Time] 2005-07-13 10:16:08 [Post Text]

Output: Hi, There is a lot of advise and shared info on the page linked to below: [url=www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/shaving.htm] www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/shaving.htm Brad

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Input: [Topic ID] 59 [Post ID] 345 [Date & Time] 2005-07-16 14:43:34 [Post Text]

Output: My wife and I enjoy her lying face down on the bed w/pillows under her stomach (raising her ass) while I lick her add and finger her.& I insert 1 or 2 fingers until I hit her G-spot...and gently push towards her stomach...normally I just masturbate while she cums...any suggestions to positions where I can lick her ass, finger her and allow her to access me?

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Input: [Topic ID] 59 [Post ID] 346 [Date & Time] 2005-07-17 03:11:03 [Post Text]

Output: 69 it!& have her on top of you, ass in your face, you have all access to her, plus the added bonus of her sucking you off!& its a wonderful position.& you might have to lift your head a little bit or prop your head up to reach the butt hole, but its still a great way to pleasure eachother at the same time.;)

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Input: [Topic ID] 60 [Post ID] 347 [Date & Time] 2005-07-17 03:14:29 [Post Text]

Output: I dont know if anyone here has tried one of these, but if you haven't you got to. its called a liberator.& or you can get the smaller version called the "wedge".& its a triangle shaped pillow, but its a very hard foam.& if you lay it down and lay your woman's stomach over the highest end it puts her in the most perfect position.& there are so many other ways to use it, and i felt so silly buying it at the "naughty store", but i'm glad i did.

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Input: [Topic ID] 61 [Post ID] 348 [Date & Time] 2005-07-18 11:05:18 [Post Text]

Output: Hello there, I have only had two partners in my life, one guy who only wanted to have sex until he climaxed, but never allowed me to have an orgasm, and my husband. My husband is amazing in bed.& He has no problem bringing me to an orgasm, but as soon as I climax, I need the lovemaking to stop.& There is some kind of irritation feeling which gets even worse when my husband ejaculates.& It will just burn like crazy.& The same thing will happen if he fingers me.& I will come to an orgasm and then have to beg him to stop because it hurts too much. My husband has also mentioned that it feels different inside of me.& He says the fluid seems to be thicker or stickier than anything he's used to, and it's gotten to a point where he just can't enjoy having sex anymore. We've been married for almost five years, and I don't know what to do.& We've tested his semen for an elevated Ph, and the result is negative.& Neither of us have any STD's.& He hates that he is hurting me, but he's also scared to try anything because it could hurt worse.& & The result is that we have sex maybe once every few months.& Has anyone else experienced this, or could you give me some input?

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Input: [Topic ID] 61 [Post ID] 349 [Date & Time] 2005-07-18 14:37:01 [Post Text]

Output: Hi interesting question...you didn't mention how old are you, when we get older our hormonal makeup changes and it may be your problem, I experienced drynes of the vaginal wall and it is possible that the lubricants get thicker and help to create abration and the pain is unbearable; my opinion is to visit a good gyno and talk about your problem because it is more common than you think. It looks to me that your vaginal wall is getting raw with the friction and it is like a skin burn. Have you tried KY jelly and a comdom, it will eliminate semen acidity and help with the dryness. Good luck hugs and kisses Luisa;)

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Input: [Topic ID] 61 [Post ID] 350 [Date & Time] 2005-07-18 22:29:14 [Post Text]

Output: I'm still young at 27.& I don't really like the idea of condoms because to me it eliminates the spontonaeity.& But thank you for your input.

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Input: [Topic ID] 61 [Post ID] 351 [Date & Time] 2005-07-18 22:31:20 [Post Text]

Output: Hi, Do you experience the same discomfort when you masturbate to orgasm? Do you experience discomfort during sexual arousal? You could be allergic to his ejaculate. That subject is addressed on the following page: [url=www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/qa_8/qa8_12.htm] www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/qa_8/qa8_12.htm You should also have your doctor check your vagina pH to see if there is a problem. You may need to test it during sex too. Brad

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Input: [Topic ID] 61 [Post ID] 352 [Date & Time] 2005-07-19 21:44:39 [Post Text]

Output: Hi,,,,the suggestion of using a comdom is only& for a couple of times& just& to narrow the causes, if you find any difference just follow that path. I do agree comdoms take away the fun& love Luisa

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Input: [Topic ID] 61 [Post ID] 353 [Date & Time] 2005-07-20 07:46:18 [Post Text]

Output: Hello and welcome to our group :) Firstly, let me say that you are not alone and there are a couple of things you can do to empower yourself. Thrush can manifest itself at anytime. Basically it is a yeast inbalance within the vagina and vulva. Sometimes the slightest thing could set this inbalance off. From wearing nylon based material underwear, to eating startchy foods. It varies from woman to woman. Because our hormones are rapidly changing all the time, it is difficult to gage if a thrush based inbalanced has started to occur, unless one experiences the problems you detailed. Readily available from Chemists or Pharmacy's, you can buy a Canesten Once treatment cream. There is an applicator in the box which allows you to fill one end with cream, then deposit it deep within the vagina. Then you can apply some more cream to the outer lips and the vulva area too. It always helps if you apply some of the cream to the pubic hair region too and go down towards your inner thighs just incase if it is your own persperation setting this burning off. The only thing, you will need to buy 2 tubes of cream. One for you which is the Canesten Once cream with the applicator, and another Canesten cream tube for your husband to apply four times a day all around and under his forskin, pubic hair region, and in particular, around the head and rim of his penis. In the past, years ago, I was given this cream by my doctor and used it with success. BUT as soon as my Partner and I started making love again, the burning continued. Then somebody told me about men having to use this cream as well as the bacteria lives on their skin completely undetected with some men. But then rears its ugly head again when we have sex. I understand completely what you are going through and it is horrible. I felt alone when it was us and was convinced there was something wrong with me and that my Partner would look else where. He didnt and we sorted it out fairly quickly. He couldnt stand the thought of hurting me in that way or causing me any discomfort and so eventually became slightly impotent because of this experience. Another problem which disappeared with confidence and practice :) The other thing to try is not using any deoderising products to wash between your legs when you bath. Try Patchuli essential oil 4 drops in your bath water and do not use soap. Try a natural coconut oil based shower or body gel instead. You dont need to use anything to wash the vaginal lips or inside just your normal bath water with the Patchuli oil mixed in with it. Diet is important. Make sure you include some natural live greek yoghurt somewhere. Even if it is a couple of spoonfuls on some bran based cereal in the mornings. This will make all the difference. Also, cut down on caffine especially from coffee. I hope this helps and please let me know how you get on. When making love, the object does not need to include an orgasm. You mention that after you orgasm this happens where you get the burning sensation? Try heavy petting for a while without either of you climaxing. Give each other a massage and be gentle and loving together. Simply enjoy each other's bodies. This will not only keep you close, but will build up both of your confidences too with each other. I do understand how devistating this experience can be, but in the end you have all the time in the world. Just relax, enjoy each other and once you have let some time pass without penetration or orgasm, both of you will be ready again. Also one more point, when your husband stimulates you, especially with his mouth, try to not let him use his saliva on your vagina if he has been drinking alcahol. This sets me off with burning after I orgasm. If I think of anything else I have tried I will come back again All the best Princess :)

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Input: [Topic ID] 61 [Post ID] 482 [Date & Time] 2005-09-01 22:11:00 [Post Text]

Output: I had that sort of pain when i was pregnant. My husband kept wanting to have sex all the time but it just hurt too bad. So we didnt have sex alot. Have you tried anal sex? It is very stimulating.

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Input: [Topic ID] 61 [Post ID] 508 [Date & Time] 2005-09-08 22:34:04 [Post Text]

Output: I found out right before I got married that my mom is allergic to semen and other fluids including some of her own. So I don't think sex was as pleasurable for her towards the end. Maybe that is a possibility for you. you should check and see

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Input: [Topic ID] 62 [Post ID] 357 [Date & Time] 2005-07-22 06:08:25 [Post Text]

Output: so yeah....tell me anything!& i wanna learn, i wanna be the best i can be.& Gimme tips, start to finish stories, me no care, just wanna learn more about this cos i just LOVE making my girl happy. At the moment i will give it ofcourse, but as i find it hard as she is yet to shave (promised me she will cos im find it a little off putting and definately makes it harader) and as my hands are somewhat skilled its usually the fingers that do the job.& From what i can gather my prick and my fingers can never be as good as a well used tongue, so yeah.& teach me:)

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Input: [Topic ID] 62 [Post ID] 363 [Date & Time] 2005-07-24 03:05:23 [Post Text]

Output: well then...46 views and nothing...:(

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Input: [Topic ID] 62 [Post ID] 365 [Date & Time] 2005-07-24 22:41:50 [Post Text]

Output: Hi, You might ask her to trim rather than shave, razor burn is no fun.& She might like it if you trimmed or shaved yourself first. Have you seen the advise given on the website? [url=www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/howto.htm] www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/howto.htm Keep in mind each woman is unique so you need to experiment and communicate with her to find out what works best for& her. There is no easy answer. You must invest some time and effort to find the answer. At yesterday's presentation on cunnilingus Nina Hartley gave some very specific instructions on what to do, but as I expected, a woman I was talking to afterwards said the suggested technique would be painful rather than pleasurable for her. Brad

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Input: [Topic ID] 62 [Post ID] 366 [Date & Time] 2005-07-25 09:30:20 [Post Text]

Output: cheers mate...all about the practice i suppose but yeah im more then happy to loose my hair....almsot keen to actually, still good ideas and ill check out teh link

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Input: [Topic ID] 62 [Post ID] 1079 [Date & Time] 2006-01-23 22:31:10 [Post Text]

Output: :X& If she is aware that you are put off by her pubic hair,that might cause her to be reluctant to let you try. You should just Love her and accept her the way she is. Hair and all.:D

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Input: [Topic ID] 62 [Post ID] 1081 [Date & Time] 2006-01-23 23:28:46 [Post Text]

Output: well, if she shaves other parts of her body for cosmetic reasons, she ought to be willing at the very least to trim her pubic hair close even if she doesnt want to take it all the way down to the skin.

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Input: [Topic ID] 62 [Post ID] 1082 [Date & Time] 2006-01-24 00:19:31 [Post Text]

Output: *chuckle* & the thing is, it kinda stops me doing it, its not that i dont like her the way she is, but im constantly choking on hair and i cant get access to it easily making it hard and much less enjoyable im sure its like im a chauvanist, i would return the favour if she wanted without hesitation & but yes im learning all about what each girl likes, one girl iwas with a little lately loved how i was doing it, the girl i am kinda seeing now found it painful and i had to change, its different from woman to woman, but thanks for your advice:)

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Input: [Topic ID] 62 [Post ID] 1086 [Date & Time] 2006-01-24 11:35:45 [Post Text]

Output: I wouldn't mind trimming mine but I wouldn't want to shave it off, no thanks. I spend more than enough time de-fuzzing other parts just to live up to societies expectations without adding even more to it. It gets to the point where you just feel like a slave.

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Input: [Topic ID] 62 [Post ID] 1087 [Date & Time] 2006-01-24 17:31:57 [Post Text]

Output: interesting perspective, thanks for that:) i know how you feel, im losing my body hair fro my job, sucks, lol

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Input: [Topic ID] 62 [Post ID] 1088 [Date & Time] 2006-01-24 18:28:19 [Post Text]

Output: Yeah, shaving legs, arm pits and bikini line are already a chore that wastes too much of my time as it is and a few hours after shaving, you feel like sandpaper again they grow back so fast and I am not having waxes done and all the rest, no chance. I don't like the idea of going bare down there, I like to keep my pubes. I'll trim them no problem but not shaving them off for anyone. If a bloke doesn't like my pubes. TUFF!!!!!:P I wouldn't ask a bloke to shave his pubes off either.

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Input: [Topic ID] 62 [Post ID] 1089 [Date & Time] 2006-01-24 18:31:34 [Post Text]

Output: is it it fair enough then in your opinion that i shave if asked to?

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Input: [Topic ID] 63 [Post ID] 358 [Date & Time] 2005-07-23 08:23:35 [Post Text]

Output: I absolutely love giving my fiance blow jobs, but 7 out of 10 times he doesn't cum.& To me, there is nothing better than receiving and swallowing his sperm; it is the greatest thank you I could receive.& He has told me numerous times that there is nothing wrong with my technique,that it DOES feel really good, but after an hour, my jaw starts to lock up.& If anyone knows why this& might be& happening, please, I would like to know. Thanks

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Input: [Topic ID] 63 [Post ID] 359 [Date & Time] 2005-07-24 01:47:16 [Post Text]

Output: We don't want to give up the moment.& Once you cum you will& stop.& Please don't stop is my answer.& This is one of the greatest joys a man can ever have.:dude:

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Input: [Topic ID] 63 [Post ID] 364 [Date & Time] 2005-07-24 22:31:11 [Post Text]

Output: Hi, It is unlikely about you. Men are only human. There can be numerous reasons; that he has recently ejaculated so has nothing to give, simply doesn't desire too,& at the time is insensitive to oral stimulation, or is unable to surrender control at the time. If you place too much pressure on him he may experience performance anxiety and this can prevent ejaculation as well. If he is on medication like an antidepressant that can impair orgasm too. I just got back from a convention that porn star and sex educator Nina Hartley gave a presentations/demonstrations on cunnilingus and fellatio. She had an agreement with her ex-husband that she would& perform fellatio& any time he wanted, as long as he came within& ten minutes,& that was her limit, because her jaws started to ache; she also can't deep throat, her limit is about 6 inches,& and values her gag reflex more than her desire to be able to perform this sexual act. So even experts have their limits, as do their partners. So don't& perform fellatio to the point it is unpleasant for you; it probably isn't fun for him at that point too. Nina tells the men to masturbate on her tits if they cannot ejaculate within a time appropriate for her. You might value the times he does ejaculate in your mouth rather than there frequency. If he can only do it once& a month then see it as a special reward rather than as a poor reflection on your abilities and attractiveness/desirability. If it happens& less often& it should be valued more, like Christmas. If there is a problem with technique, the way to find out is by watching his reactions, and simply by pausing to ask. Nina said if he is hard you are doing something right. You might find approval in the erection and pleasure you give him rather than the ejaculate he gives you. Brad

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Input: [Topic ID] 64 [Post ID] 367 [Date & Time] 2005-07-25 21:43:12 [Post Text]

Output: I was just curious if using a viberator to often can damage the clitoris. It seems i have lost the sensitivity. Is there a means of repairing what i have done ?

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Input: [Topic ID] 64 [Post ID] 369 [Date & Time] 2005-07-26 00:20:44 [Post Text]

Output: It's not damaged, more like desensitized.& Either cut back your use of your vibrator or maybe get one that is less powerful.& I have noticed the same thing before, and it actually made it hard to orgasm during sex, it didn't matter how hard we had sex, it didn't feel like it was enough.& Try cutting back for a few days (depending on how often you use it) and see if it helps.& your clit should become very sensitive if you leave it alone for just a bit.& I have found it to be very difficult so I just choose carefully when I might want to use my vibrator or if sex will be ideal instead.& :P& good luck

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Input: [Topic ID] 64 [Post ID] 371 [Date & Time] 2005-07-29 15:12:56 [Post Text]

Output: [user=148]simplegirl1970[/user] wrote: "I was just curious if using a viberator to often can damage the clitoris. It seems i have lost the sensitivity. Is there a means of repairing what i have done ?" I also find that stimulating everywhere else around the vulva and vagina first helps. Build up and resist touching the clitoris area at all with the vibrator for at least ten minutes. Then the build up to orgasm with the vibrator when you eventually touch your clitoris will be ..... well lets just say brilliant :) Much more fun than a quick couple of minutes fix on the clitoris alone :) Princess

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Input: [Topic ID] 65 [Post ID] 368 [Date & Time] 2005-07-25 23:00:24 [Post Text]

Output: It's not a wart or herpie for starters.I've been with my girlfriend for almost a year and a couple of months ago she grew tiny bumps that are kind of like a cyst on the inside of her vagina. Thier aren't a lot of them only a few and was wondering what are the possible diagnosis's for something like that.They never noticed at plan parent.They aren't sore or anything and I cant see them,they can only be felt. Thank you

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Input: [Topic ID] 66 [Post ID] 372 [Date & Time] 2005-07-30 13:22:16 [Post Text]

Output: hey, I am 24f and only a few months ago I learned to masturbate to orgasm with a vibrator and then with my hand. Now I orgasm during sex with help from my hand :dude: ... but am finding masturbating harder, before it used to take 10 min, now it's 20 minutes with the ocasional painful cramp in my leg! I was just wondering what do the other women here do to stimulate themselves before/during masturbation other than the obvious manual stimulation, I am talking about fantasy or porn... Personal porn really gets me excited but I cant get my bf to always agree to filming! Regular porn does nothing! Boring and fake! Any ideas :??

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Input: [Topic ID] 66 [Post ID] 376 [Date & Time] 2005-08-02 02:15:46 [Post Text]

Output: He absolutely refuses to make a video w/ you?& Well, there are other porn videos that aren't done as well, they look more like voyeur videos, kinda hot.& I enjoy porn in general.& Doesn't really matter what i am looking at.& Other ways of stimulation....hmm.....its amazing the strange things that go thru my head when I am masturbating.& Sometimes I picture my fiance having sex w/ me and a stranger joining in.& Normally in life I wouldn't be ok w/ this.& But in fantasy land it gets me excited.& But if personal porno really gets you going and he isn't wanting it then maybe you can make him understand how hot it makes you watching him doing you.

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Input: [Topic ID] 66 [Post ID] 377 [Date & Time] 2005-08-02 12:42:25 [Post Text]

Output: Thanks for the tip :) thing is i like looking at men's bodies while they're screwing, it really makes me hot and the thing with most porn is that the focus is almost always on the woman or should I say women (its rarely one ;)) and that doesnt do much for me And my poor bf, no he does agree, I've already made a small collection but I am greedy and always want more, and I can see it gets on his nerves Now if only I could find porn targeted for women and not gay... Men's faces and bodies during sex are so mmmmm....

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Input: [Topic ID] 66 [Post ID] 379 [Date & Time] 2005-08-02 22:24:56 [Post Text]

Output: yeah i know what you mean, I have bought a few porn movies that have 5 or six guys going on one girl so I do get to watch the guys bodies and faces as they screw her.& I do agree that watching that is way better than watching two girls on one guy.& So for my personal collection it usually includes a larger number of guys on one girl (that's my thing).& our personal collection as a couple is a mixture of two girls and one guy, girl on girl, or the old fashioned (lol) one girl one guy.& you sound a lot like me as far as fantasy world and porn goes.& so you bf has agreed to do a few movies for you, that's cool.

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Input: [Topic ID] 66 [Post ID] 487 [Date & Time] 2005-09-03 04:35:13 [Post Text]

Output: i think you should talk to your bf.I'm sure he will accept to make more movies if he loves you.Try to be serious about that and you'll get what you want.

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Input: [Topic ID] 66 [Post ID] 492 [Date & Time] 2005-09-03 09:01:22 [Post Text]

Output: [user=207]coololver76[/user] wrote: "i think you should talk to your bf.I'm sure he will accept to make more movies if he loves you.Try to be serious about that and you'll get what you want." Hi, I would be very careful about using the "he should do it if he loves you" type of speech when speaking to any man. It sounds like blackmail. Again, being filmed on video is an extremely emotive thing for some people. He may not want to do it because in years to come, if anything should happen and the relationship ends, there will be a video of himself in that way. Even in a serious relationship and even marriage before, I would never allow anyone to film me during sex or even take a photograph. I have since then allowed this to happen but only because things have changed for me and I feel wholely secure now. It took years for me to feel ok with that though. Pushing someone into something they just simply do not want to do is a mistake. The more someone pushes, it could have a negative effect on the relationship. Talking about how you feel about making the video will help but the decision as to whether he wants to do one will be his and he should not be pushed into making this decision. It should happen naturally. Perhaps if you tried viewing porn together and pointing out why the ones you can obtain do nothing for you and what you would prefer may help. Princess

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Input: [Topic ID] 66 [Post ID] 493 [Date & Time] 2005-09-03 09:04:55 [Post Text]

Output: Hi have you thought about writing down some ideas for porn for women and sending them into a company who makes films? They are always on the look out for fresh ideas and to hear what people actually want rather than just churning out the usual stuff. Think about it and let me know how you get on Princess [user=153]Kay[/user] wrote: "Thanks for the tip :) thing is i like looking at men's bodies while they're screwing, it really makes me hot and the thing with most porn is that the focus is almost always on the woman or should I say women (its rarely one ;)) and that doesnt do much for me And my poor bf, no he does agree, I've already made a small collection but I am greedy and always want more, and I can see it gets on his nerves Now if only I could find porn targeted for women and not gay... Men's faces and bodies during sex are so mmmmm...."

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Input: [Topic ID] 66 [Post ID] 494 [Date & Time] 2005-09-03 22:50:53 [Post Text]

Output: I find a good masturbation aid is simply panties...when they get very wet you get to rub your panties back and forth by the fron part of the slit of your pussy until you orgasm...a partner can do this also...but has anyone else masturbate using their panties? Melissa &

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Input: [Topic ID] 66 [Post ID] 501 [Date & Time] 2005-09-07 22:50:15 [Post Text]

Output: For me the easiest way to orgasm through masturbation is if i'm reading something that turns me on. What people would call soft porn or really good romance novels. It turns me on just enough to use one of my toys and orgasm within minutes. Before I could do it in 30 seconds or less....unfortunately those days are almost over unless im soooooo turned on I just need to be touched :D Although i'm not a fan of most of the porn out there, watching or reading about "real couples" including my DH and I is was does it for me

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Input: [Topic ID] 66 [Post ID] 504 [Date & Time] 2005-09-08 00:26:13 [Post Text]

Output: Wow...how did you used to orgasm in 30 seconds? Was that only when you masturbated or also when you had intercourse? Melissa

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Input: [Topic ID] 66 [Post ID] 510 [Date & Time] 2005-09-09 00:43:09 [Post Text]

Output: I masturbate a lot.& And I have sex a lot.& My libido these last couple years is crazy out of control.& my poor fiance is probably worn out, but that is also why i masturbate sometimes, because I am so horny.& But i too can masturbate to orgasm very quickly if needed.& Sometimes I use toys, sometimes I dont.& I do it all sorts of different ways.& w/ my fingers, toys, rubbing on something else feels great.& But i have always done this since I was little so its very strange for me not to do this daily.& And we have sex daily as well.& I am 29 and have 2 children, I just feel like I am a very sexual person.

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Input: [Topic ID] 66 [Post ID] 522 [Date & Time] 2005-09-12 15:05:03 [Post Text]

Output: 30 seconds!!! impressive Thx for the tips and I like the idea of sending porn companies tips :) I am also horny alot, always was, and almost never not in the mood for sex but that doesn't make me come quickly, I still have alot to learn since I only became orgasmic 7 or 8 months ago. It feels right now as a mind game, I have to get my head to stop thinking and enjoy the moment then I can come in minutes but that's easier said than done :? Once I go down the "Am I taking too long?" path, the fun part disappears and when I orgasm it's not that satisfying so I end up even more horny. Did anyone who started orgasming as an adult go through this?

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Input: [Topic ID] 67 [Post ID] 374 [Date & Time] 2005-07-31 15:28:03 [Post Text]

Output: Hey,& I have only & recently joined this forum ( hi guys and gals )..& i have a problem i& need some help with..& the girl& I have been going out with for some time now whom& I have never had sex with. Asked me if she could practice oral sex on me which& I would enjoy immensely. But it is& is making me uncomfortable for multiple reasons. the first reason is that she said practice& I don't know if& I am thinking to much but doesn't practice mean your doing something to get better when you do& it for something more important. so & wouldn't that mean she is practicing on me for someone else.. but& I don't want to ask her about it since that would have me sounding like& I don't trust her enough. even though i trust her with my life& I& have a& bad feeling about it.& the other reason is that if she isn't doing it for someone else then she is doing it for me, and& I am afraid that she doesn't want to do it but feels somehow that giving me oral would make me like her more, which isn't true at all this is the first person that& I have ever truly& cared about and& I& to put it simply i just love being in her company and being with her but& having her feel that way would really upset me..& i would never ask her& to do anything like this for me... and& I& just want to make her& happy& so please, if you have any advice that you could give me& I would truly appreciate it Thanks.. Eric

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Input: [Topic ID] 67 [Post ID] 375 [Date & Time] 2005-08-02 02:10:24 [Post Text]

Output: I think you are reading too much into this.& If you look up the word "practice" in the dictionary it isn't the meaning you would think of.& it actually says:& " To do or perform habitually or customarily; make a habit of".& She wants to perform it on you often, not practice to be better w/ someone else.& Besides I "practiced" on my boyfriend for a good year and we have learned so many new things doing it.&

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Input: [Topic ID] 67 [Post ID] 378 [Date & Time] 2005-08-02 12:54:55 [Post Text]

Output: Wow! I've used the word 'practice' alot in this very context and never thought about it this way... My guess is that she meant to ask in a flirty cute way. If she asked to do it, then that probably means she wants to, and she said practice probably bec she wanted to give you a hint that she thinks she's not that great yet and wants to be! If she really didnt like it, she would've just asked to do it then and there to get the thing over with... and from what u say, she didnt!

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Input: [Topic ID] 67 [Post ID] 383 [Date & Time] 2005-08-06 03:34:03 [Post Text]

Output: I don’t know how long you have been together already, but after your explanation it seems to me that she wants sex and can not wait any longer till you ask her doing it. Hence she ask you indirectly with a certain reserve in order to direct your relationship on the right path. Women expect men to do the first step and they don't consider that many men do not have (like women themselves don’t have too) the courage to ask first.

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Input: [Topic ID] 67 [Post ID] 393 [Date & Time] 2005-08-07 10:48:19 [Post Text]

Output: Wow!!!!& Couldn't have said it better Ant.

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Input: [Topic ID] 68 [Post ID] 380 [Date & Time] 2005-08-02 23:22:48 [Post Text]

Output: I was reading about hands free masturbation, and was wondering, do any of the women who said they do it find your jeans get very wet or your panties get very& sticky and wet?

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Input: [Topic ID] 68 [Post ID] 381 [Date & Time] 2005-08-02 23:32:36 [Post Text]

Output: & Hi Melissa, yes my jeans or shorts get very wet specialy the seam that get inside my vulva. love and kisses Luisa :D &

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Input: [Topic ID] 70 [Post ID] 386 [Date & Time] 2005-08-06 15:25:08 [Post Text]

Output: Here's a question for the ladies... Do you experience the need to pee after having an orgasm? And if so, does this happen every time? My wife& always has to pee after we have sex even though she has emptied her bladder just prior to us starting up (unless of course I ambush her in the kitchen or somewhere unexpected and don't allow her the opportunity ). And it also seems that the more intense and satisfying her orgasm, the more volume there is to void. I'm wondering if this might be the result of what I've read described as a "retrograde ejaculation" where a woman ejaculates but instead of it coming out through her urethra it goes the other way because she has suppressed it out of fear of wetting herself. We've never actually analysed the contents of her "post-coital" pee; never even discussed it really. I'm just curious how common this is for other women and why you think this might be so.

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Input: [Topic ID] 70 [Post ID] 389 [Date & Time] 2005-08-06 17:48:12 [Post Text]

Output: Hi Sadi...according to your question what I think is happening is that your wife is "squirting", when we got aroused there are a set of glands around the urethra that produces fluids and some women produce& more than others and they fluids a re expelled at the time of the orgasm; I will suggest that next time you have sex get her to empty her bladder before and put a couple of towels in the bed and encourage her to let the "pee" goo when she get her orgasm. In reality it is no pee it is her squirting, the liqquid should be kind of clear and semi sticky and it is kind of saline a little. love and good luck kisses Luisa

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Input: [Topic ID] 70 [Post ID] 413 [Date & Time] 2005-08-09 12:54:17 [Post Text]

Output: I dont know about pee or squirting but almost always I pee after sex... maybe it's because of all that bumping and pressure?

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Input: [Topic ID] 70 [Post ID] 414 [Date & Time] 2005-08-09 14:02:02 [Post Text]

Output: Hello sometimes if a woman drinks a lot of tea or coffee during up to four hours before having sex this can be a problem. As can alcahol consumed right up to four hours or so beforehand. It is a combination of the internal organs calming down their performace during orgasm and then starting up again afterwards. Like the large and small intestine for example. Also, try different positions. The laying on the back one does squash the kidneys from time to time and then after an orgasm the woman will want to pee because the kidneys have been emptied. Just a thought and I hope some of that helps Princess :)

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Input: [Topic ID] 71 [Post ID] 387 [Date & Time] 2005-08-06 16:24:07 [Post Text]

Output: This is probably an unusual problem. I am in my early 30s, married to a woman of another race. In my culture, pre-marital sex is very rare, so my wife is my first and only. That doesnt mean that I havent fantasised. ;). For the longest time, I have fantasised about performing oral sex to a woman: and this is my greatest fantasy. I want to pleasure a woman through oral sex. Unfortunately my wife does not like to receive oral sex, and she wont talk about why. I am not sure if, the only time i tried, i was so bad that she doesnt want that to happen again. I have tried variety of ways to get her interested, but to no avail. I have often wondered if my lack of experience is off-putting. If so, what are my options? I know that there are books, etc, but how do& I get better if I do not have an opportunity to put theory into practice? The best bet would to be a willing practice-mate or some kind of school! :?& But is that even possible? How would you approach someone and say 'Hey, I can perform oral sex on you? Could you rate me? and maybe help me get better so that my wife will enjoy this more?' :D We have been married for over 3 years, and love each other a lot. This is causing a friction in the relationship (me wanting to perform oral sex on her, and she not letting me do it). I am at a loss as to what to do. Any advice? :shock: My ideal situation would be to perform oral sex AT LEAST once a day (I want it so much, it hurts). Your thoughts are appreciated.

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Input: [Topic ID] 71 [Post ID] 388 [Date & Time] 2005-08-06 17:37:53 [Post Text]

Output: I assume the both of you aren't experienced with giving and receiving oral stimulation. Maybe she didn't like it when you tried it the first time, maybe that's why she won't let you try again. But this doesn't mean you made a mistake or you need to practise before you good enough to do it on her. From my (little) experience I'd say: As long as she doesn't like the idea she won't enjoy it, no matter how good you are. Move in small steps, tiny steps. Maybe she likes you kissing her (without tongue) down their. Then do this and nothing further for some time. Think "make her feel good" not "make her have an orgasm"... HTH

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Input: [Topic ID] 71 [Post ID] 391 [Date & Time] 2005-08-07 04:47:04 [Post Text]

Output: [user=164]eager2learnwell[/user] wrote: "I want it so much, it hurts." Tell her that while looking sweetly in her eyes and stroking gently the inner sides of her thighs. May be it works.

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Input: [Topic ID] 71 [Post ID] 392 [Date & Time] 2005-08-07 10:31:56 [Post Text]

Output: Eager, & That's a tough situation especially because she will not talk to you about it. It certainly could be that you did not perform well. If it were unpleasant to her she may not want to hurt your feelings. The question I have is, does she give you oral sex? I know many women who will not give if they don't get and many women who don't want to receive because they don't want to give.

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Input: [Topic ID] 71 [Post ID] 394 [Date & Time] 2005-08-07 11:08:33 [Post Text]

Output: [user=8]Ant[/user] wrote: "Tell her that while looking sweetly in her eyes and stroking gently the inner sides of her thighs. May be it works." & I have already tried that, but that goes no where!

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Input: [Topic ID] 71 [Post ID] 395 [Date & Time] 2005-08-07 11:09:31 [Post Text]

Output: [user=167]monkey0588[/user] wrote: "The question I have is, does she give you oral sex? I know many women who will not give if they don't get and many women who don't want to receive because they don't want to give. " & yes, she does if I ask her to. I dont ask often, because I feel guilty about not being able to reciprocate.

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Input: [Topic ID] 71 [Post ID] 419 [Date & Time] 2005-08-09 16:48:10 [Post Text]

Output: Hello eager2learnwell and welcome to the group :) You raise some interesting points but from reading this thread, I feel that both of you have a communication problem not necessarily a sexual one. I am also wondering why you mention that your wife is of a differnt race to you? Sorry if that sounds a little harsh, but she is a beautiful woman and your wife, so why mention that part. I dont understand. My Partner is black but when I talk about him I dont initially say anything like that. Does your wife have a culture where oral sex and showing the vulva is deemed as dirty shameful or wrong? Have you tried masturbating by watching each other? Does your wife enjoy you looking between her legs? If the answer to the above last two questions is no, then you have some confidence building to do with her. Looking at her intimately with adoration in your heart will reflect in your eyes and you will become aroused. I am sure you do anyway when you look at her. But gently touching her whilst looking and making her aware that you love what you see may be a trigger for you to gently try kissing around the pubic area, inner thighs and buttocks. Try this first without going anywhere near her vulvar area or attempting oral sex. After a few tries at this if she is well relaxed and comfortably aroused, try letting your lips gently brush past her vulvar area when moving from one inner thigh to the other. Princess Brad's Note: Please use correct terminology here, the external genitals are called the vulva not the vagina.

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Input: [Topic ID] 71 [Post ID] 425 [Date & Time] 2005-08-10 17:10:41 [Post Text]

Output: [user=2]Princess[/user] wrote: "I am also wondering why you mention that your wife is of a differnt race to you? Sorry if that sounds a little harsh, but she is a beautiful woman and your wife, so why mention that part. I dont understand. My Partner is black but when I talk about him I dont initially say anything like that. " & Princess -- Good question. The reason I mentioned is was to give the viewer a sense of where my problems might be. I come from a very conservative culture, whereas she doesnt. Could I have just said that, instead of mentioning race? Probably, but I wanted whoever would attempt to help me to have all the facts. You might notice that I did not mention either of our races. Being from different races does have a small impact on how people approach things, I believe. Not necessarily right or wrong, but different. IMO. I did not intend that as a problem or an issue, but just as a benign fact.& :)& Another benign fact is that I am about 15 years younger than her. To answer your other questions, I have never seen her private parts. She is too shy to let me do that. Have we mastrubated with each other watching - she has seen me do it, and even helps me do it at times, but I havent seen her do it. In fact, I dont think she ever mastrubates. I am sure all this is as baffling to you as it is to you. Thanks for your help and advise

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Input: [Topic ID] 71 [Post ID] 427 [Date & Time] 2005-08-12 21:53:56 [Post Text]

Output: Have you asked your wife why she's not interested in oral sex? Maybe a good place to get started is to ask her what sexual activities she does enjoy, and from there move on to what things she might want improved.

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Input: [Topic ID] 71 [Post ID] 548 [Date & Time] 2005-09-17 16:01:22 [Post Text]

Output: Dear eager...Wow!& It's hard to believe you've never seen your wife's vulva before.& Maybe she was raised that oral sex was dirty. I don't recommend forcing her.& It took me about 1 year before my boyfriend talked me into it.& & I could not even visualize it.& He finally convinced me, and that was the greatest pleasure I've known.& You are going to have to be patient.& The only thing about my situation, I used to let my boyfriend& touch me.& He liked looking at my vulva.& I used to let him rub my clit until I orgasmed.& I also used to masturbate for him.& The only& thing that was missing was the oral sex.& He used to get right& down by my vulva.& He would even explain how he was going to do it.& He had me open my legs& like I was a diagram.& He would say things like,& "instead of rubbing your clit with my finger, I'll be using my tongue.& I will lick here and kiss there, etc."& I do have to say he was very inventive to come up with that whole scenario. After about a year of explaining the diagram, I finally let him.& Good luck to you.& It seems like you have a long way to go. Brad's Note: Please use correct terminolgy when posting here, the external genitals are called the vulva, not the vagina.

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Input: [Topic ID] 71 [Post ID] 555 [Date & Time] 2005-09-18 13:30:23 [Post Text]

Output: Brad& wrote: "Brad's Note: Please use correct terminolgy when posting here, the external genitals are called the vulva, not the vagina. " & Sorry Brad.& Did it ever occur to you that I meant the other "V" word?& Also, I suggest you write notes to all those you used the "P" word for a women's private part, and used "butt hole" instead of anus. Again, sorry for the misuse of a correct term for a woman's body part. Cheers.

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Input: [Topic ID] 71 [Post ID] 556 [Date & Time] 2005-09-18 17:22:17 [Post Text]

Output: Hi, The vagina is inside and cannot be seen without the use of a specula, etc. If you can see it with your naked eye then it is the vulva. External is the vulva, internal is vagina. Sorry, this a pet peeve of mine. Slang terms are permitted. Brad

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Input: [Topic ID] 72 [Post ID] 390 [Date & Time] 2005-08-07 02:09:52 [Post Text]

Output: Are women aroused by the sight of a male penis/male sexual organs or do they find them gross? All women are different, obviously, but what about the women here?

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Input: [Topic ID] 72 [Post ID] 396 [Date & Time] 2005-08-07 13:08:00 [Post Text]

Output: Hi good question..women get aroused different that men becasue we always treat sex as something more affective than physical, meaning that we create an afdfective bond before getting aroused; there is an old saying that says that "women look at the man's eyes and men look at the girls tits". Do not take bad it is the way that we are built...women are selective by nature in order to get the best partner to porcreate and we can not afford to get aroused like men...all the penis are beautiful and there no two the& same and also the size is second to other things. No penis is gross unless it shows a diseaase or dirty.....kisses Luisa

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Input: [Topic ID] 72 [Post ID] 399 [Date & Time] 2005-08-07 22:16:48 [Post Text]

Output: I agree with Luisa on this one... no penis is gross unless it has a disease or dirty. I find it very arousing when I start kissing the guy and then he has an erection in his pants. I think just knowing I'm turning him on gets me going.&

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Input: [Topic ID] 72 [Post ID] 408 [Date & Time] 2005-08-09 00:33:59 [Post Text]

Output: For me the penis itself does not evoke any particular emotion. The way I feel about a penis depends on the way I feel about the man.

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Input: [Topic ID] 72 [Post ID] 412 [Date & Time] 2005-08-09 12:41:36 [Post Text]

Output: I guess some women are, I personally find the penis whether errect or not and the testicles very arousing, shaved or hairy, and I also like looking at pictures of penises especially in porn! actually I love just playing around with it when it's still not erect but that never lasts long ;)

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Input: [Topic ID] 72 [Post ID] 415 [Date & Time] 2005-08-09 16:08:38 [Post Text]

Output: [user=166]callmep[/user] wrote: "Are women aroused by the sight of a male penis/male sexual organs " yes :) Princess

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Input: [Topic ID] 72 [Post ID] 524 [Date & Time] 2005-09-13 13:53:23 [Post Text]

Output: I don't hink a penis is gross, but I also wouldnt& call it beautiful, but yes, it arouses me. It fells like some instinct deep inside of me - I dont really like it, but I still cant stop looking.

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Input: [Topic ID] 73 [Post ID] 397 [Date & Time] 2005-08-07 21:58:50 [Post Text]

Output: I once heard that too much masterbation (or starting too young, etc) can cause damaged g-spot nerve endings and make orgasms impossible. Is this true?

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Input: [Topic ID] 73 [Post ID] 398 [Date & Time] 2005-08-07 22:09:56 [Post Text]

Output: I don't think so... I think it just causes your body to be more immuned to the touch which makes you work a little more to orgasm.

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Input: [Topic ID] 73 [Post ID] 401 [Date & Time] 2005-08-07 23:36:05 [Post Text]

Output: Hi, If you learn to walk and run at a young age does that mean you will have trouble walking when you get older? If you spend hours practicing to play a musical instrument as a child does that make it harder to do so when you are older, make you deaf, cause your fingers to fall off or lose& sensation in your fingers? We need to stop seeing sex as inherently harmful, its not. Your body doesn't know the difference between masturbation and partnered sex, only your mind. Many of the women I receive letters from are having trouble because they didn't learn to masturbate at a young age. Brad &

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Input: [Topic ID] 74 [Post ID] 400 [Date & Time] 2005-08-07 22:37:51 [Post Text]

Output: Hi everyone, I am having a relationship with my gf since more than a year. Everything seems fine but sex is lightyears away. (Just in case you wonder, we are both over the age of consent and there are no religious or moral laws against it.) I am getting worried (honestly -- not just horny) about the situation. I'm afraid this could be a dead end street and the longer we keep moving on the harder it will be to find a way out. Therefore, I don't think the right answer to my questions contains the words "wait" and "not ready" although it's probably what most people I know would answer first. Before describing my situation it wrote down some thoughts to picture my environment: I think we both grow up in world, where information about sexuality is readily available when you're brave enough to look for it; where talking openly (with close friends, family) is always possible and mostly avoided; where there is a magical age limit (varies between 14 and 20) dividing mankind in 2 groups -- those below the limit who should be taught as many abstract theoretical knowledge about sex because (s)he can't know yet anything from real life and those above who know already everything there is to know because they did it. (Thus, you'd better ask all the questions you'll ever have before you hit the magical age limit although you won't understand the answers then) Any girl (no exception) I talked to about sex before their "first" (OK, there aren't that many) thought intercourse hurts -- just a little bit if he is caring, like hell if you're not ready. I don't know who told them that. Another myth is that males need to have orgasm regularly (to survive). Therefore males will masturbate and males want sex. However most women don't orgasm regularly. Obviously they don't need to. It is perfectly accaptable for an adult woman to enjoy masturbation or intercourse while others may prefer shopping or watching TV. Therefore in a relationship, flirt, one-night-stand it's his part to be in favor of sex and her part to object it. The couple has to settle on a compromise, it's sometimes acceptable to trade sex (of which he benefits) for things she prefers. We usually spend a couple of nights together a week, sometimes every night. The weird thing is, from the very beginning till today, often not always it reminds me of sleepovers with friends. There's simply nothing sensational about it, she's in her pyjamas ("I never slept without them"), she insists on sleeping NOW ("Sorry. No time for cuddling. Too Late!"). It's not always that bad, we hug and kiss and sometimes take off her clothes (and my, but that's the simpler part), but she avoids anything that could get us aroused: Only few French kisses and none of them too long. Passionate caressing and cuddling but without touching each other intimately. Lying close to each other but no moving. Automatically I'm trying to touch her vulva (I know I should ask but often I won't as it seems to me to be the most natural thing to do). As long as I'm on her legs she likes it (and says so). When get to touch her pubic hair she's getting uncomfortable (says she it doesn't feel bad but strange). Normally she won't let me touch her asking me to touch her on some other spot. If I do get to touch her the very moment my finger makes contact with her body (before I even realize I touched her) she moves her body back as if hurt. Maybe her clitoris or skin is very sensitive. However I think, it is her mind. She never masturbates or otherwise touches herself. She sais she used to be curious about how shw looked but never used a mirror to actually see down their and then lost interest. I once fingered another girl through her panties which was pleasant for that girl but she won't let me, she sais, she wouldn't feel anything, so why waste energy on trying? I'd really love to orally perform on her but she doesn't believe that I would actually enjoy it. She thinks she's smelly down their which she isn't. She wouldn't even let me give her a single kiss anywhere on her body while not wearing panties. (I think she's too afraid of being asked to give fellatio.) I'm quite sure (though I'd wish I was wrong here) she doesn't talk to anyone about the topic nor read anything about it. Probably she never felt positive about arousal, maybe she never realized she was aroused. We do speak openly about things experienced in the past and she can imagine sleeping with me in the long-term future and enjoy it (after we discussed our family planning in all glory detail and realized it could be too late to start a family eventually). However talking about the present is hard. On the one hand she thinks she's very late and I'm not getting what I deserve but one the other hand it's always safe to wait a few more days/weeks/months... Hope you got an idea about how I feel and what think. I don't expect a solution, just thoughts and hints.

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Input: [Topic ID] 74 [Post ID] 402 [Date & Time] 2005-08-07 23:45:20 [Post Text]

Output: Hi, My short answer suggestion is to show her this website and allow her to become familiar with the sexual experiences of other women. She needs information not sexual experience. If she isn't ready, she isn't ready. You might suggest that she watch you masturbate during& her sleep overs. This way you aren't left frustrated and she isn't being pressured to be more sexual than she is willing or able to be. This might help her to be more willing to explore her own body. Brad

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Input: [Topic ID] 74 [Post ID] 406 [Date & Time] 2005-08-09 00:28:33 [Post Text]

Output: I'd agree with Brad. If she's not ready, don't push her. You may want to bring up this website to her, to see if she's interested in exploring her own sexuality, but the important thing is that she doesn't feel pressured by you. After all, it shouldn't feel like a chore that she's doing for somebody else.

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Input: [Topic ID] 74 [Post ID] 411 [Date & Time] 2005-08-09 12:31:49 [Post Text]

Output: You asked for thoughts and here's mine: You're sharing the same bed regularly and she never asked if you are unhappy with all of this? Didnt she ever ask/wonder whether u're satisfied or not? I just find it abit wierd. It's hard to live in this world nowadays and not notice that bad sex or no sex can seriously strain a relationship if not break it, so what are her thoughts on that? Note Im not saying she should do it to save ur relationship but you seem so attentive to her needs, I was just wondering how does she feel about urs? Anyway.. they're both right, u have to get her interested in exploring her sexuality, not having sex because the later will very likely follow my suggestion: Buy a sex-ed book and read it to her. That way she can not hide behind the excuse that she doesnt have to talk about something that makes her uncomfortable but she will have to listen and you get to watch her reaction. Personal choice: Sex for One by Betty Dodson (first sex book I ever bought!) and great for people with bad sex ed

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Input: [Topic ID] 74 [Post ID] 424 [Date & Time] 2005-08-10 15:26:04 [Post Text]

Output: Thank you for your taking your time to answer my question. Brad's and oceanwind's reply is about what I expected, Kay's is obviously different. You are all right. In my initial posting I tried to stress what my worries are, so the view is a bit biased and too pessimistic. She does care about what I feel about the situation and she did express her worries about leaving me frustated before. We even had a good sex talk once all night long. In the morning we did what Brad suggested above. I can ask her to touch me intimately but her motivation to do it is 10% couriosity and 90% because I asked her. The curiousity part may be increasing but this is only about MY sexuality, it's not about her. I only know the sex ed book my mum read to me as child, which I hated. I decided never to force anyone to listen to a sex ed book. They tend be written by 40-year-olds about the situation of 18-year-olds written in with a child's vocabulary. ;-( I don't think my girl lacks information. At least, I don't think the lack of information is the core problem. The problem is the lack of connection between the information about other women and herself. Everyone is individual, of course, and she thinks that regarding sexuality she is somewhat different from the others. Thus, information about and from others does not neccessarily apply to her. She wants to find out herself by exploring, but not now, maybe tomorrow, maybe later...

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Input: [Topic ID] 75 [Post ID] 403 [Date & Time] 2005-08-08 04:25:29 [Post Text]

Output: Hi everybody, i`m from germany and I dont really know how to ask this in english but I`ll give it a try. When I have sex with my boyfriend I`m almost every time not wet enough. So its always a bit difficult for him to get inside me. It doesnt hurt me but its a littlebit painful for him. Its not that I`m not horny, its just that i`m not wet enough. I had this problem ever since i started to have sex. I asked my doctor years ago about this topic but she just said I`m too tight. But I think the problem is not about tightness.It`s about body fluids. The only way, my boyfriend gets me wet enough is whith oral stimulation. Otherwise everything is just too dry. I don`t want to use cremes or something like that. Does anyone know this problem?

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Input: [Topic ID] 75 [Post ID] 407 [Date & Time] 2005-08-09 00:31:30 [Post Text]

Output: Have you tried oral stimulation before intercourse? A lot of people use oral stimulation as foreplay before penetration.

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Input: [Topic ID] 75 [Post ID] 418 [Date & Time] 2005-08-09 16:35:26 [Post Text]

Output: Hello Janie and welcome to the group :) In answer to your question does anyone else know of this problem - yes is the answer. First of all, I appreciate you dont want to try creams etc. But, it may help if you massaged your vaginal area with sweet almond oil daily. This helps with the elasticity of the inner and outer lips and your vaginal canal wont feel uncomfortable for your partner. Next, the wetness - have you asked the doctor to check your hormone levels? Are you on the pill? Lack of progesterone can cause vaginal dryness as can the contraceptive pill. Also, during sex, it is perfectly natural to use saliva as a lubricant to start you off during penetration. Oral sex is great for getting the outer lips nicely moist and ready for penetration. I would also try getting aroused by teasing etc while you are fully clothed before anything sexual takes place. Teasing by talking or breathing together and gently touching whilst you have your clothes on can often be a great way to kick start your brain into sending down the right signals for your vaginal and vulva area. You may even begin to feel yourself pulsing slightly in those areas before you have even touched eachother's skin if you fantacise enough and be playful beforehand. One more thing - nylon underwear is no good if you suffer from dryness. Neither is wearing jeans. Princess :)

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Input: [Topic ID] 75 [Post ID] 421 [Date & Time] 2005-08-10 01:51:43 [Post Text]

Output: [user=2]Princess[/user] wrote: "One more thing - nylon underwear is no good if you suffer from dryness. Neither is wearing jeans." ... ??? why?

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Input: [Topic ID] 75 [Post ID] 423 [Date & Time] 2005-08-10 14:26:31 [Post Text]

Output: Nylon is a syntetic fiber that doesn't absorb humidity and consequently the warm, wet enviroment develops bacteria and fungus and they find their way inside the vagina. It is recomended to wear loose cotton panties and stay some periods of time wearing no panties at all. The jeans are a very thick knit fabric that even being cotton takes more tiem to soak and evaporate all humidity..Good luck you all kisses Luisa

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Input: [Topic ID] 75 [Post ID] 434 [Date & Time] 2005-08-18 11:50:36 [Post Text]

Output: Hi, More information on care of the vulva is addressed on the page about hygiene linked to below: [url=www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/hygiene.htm] www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/hygiene.htm Brad

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Input: [Topic ID] 75 [Post ID] 435 [Date & Time] 2005-08-18 11:56:49 [Post Text]

Output: Hi, In a survey on the website 56% of the participants have reported they have experienced dryness during vaginal intercourse. There are those who advocate the use of& additional lubricant during all sexual activities, alone and with a partner. It is incorrect to presume a woman's body should produce sufficient lubrication in any situation let alone all situations. Brad

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Input: [Topic ID] 77 [Post ID] 405 [Date & Time] 2005-08-08 08:24:49 [Post Text]

Output: Hi everybody, We often hear about horny thirties (increase of sex desire / drive after 30 years of age). I was wondering, does it happen to most of women or is it somewhat of a myth ? Did it happen to you ? I would really like some feedback. Also, if it does happen, does it happen equally to women who had children and women who didn't ? (Or could it be a& phenomenon nature put there in order to assure that women has more chance of getting preagnent if she didn't already have child& younger?) Thanks, Thorgak

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Input: [Topic ID] 77 [Post ID] 410 [Date & Time] 2005-08-09 09:58:41 [Post Text]

Output: Hi, Below is a link to a survey on the website that asks that question: [url=www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/poll_desire.htm] www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/poll_desire.htm Brad

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