Input: [Topic ID] 123 [Post ID] 639 [Date & Time] 2005-10-05 10:44:43 [Post Text]

Output: I have several questions/concerns...... I am 26, and a newlywed. I know it may sound crazy to most, but I have never really masturbated.& Lately, I have attempted a couple of times, but doesn't seem to do much good.& First of all, I'm not even sure where my clitoris is; can't seem to stimulate it.& I was sexually active before marriage, and for the first several years, I enjoyed it, and felt strong desire for it.& Over the past few years, however, I haven't had very much desire.....some, but it seems to continue to decrease.& I feel something is wrong with me, especially being only 26 and just married to someone I am very attracted to.& My husband, now and prior to marriage, would perform oral sex (even for long periods of time) but I could not orgasm.& After a while, I just get a bit tired of it, because nothing is happening.& I very rarely can have an orgasm during intercourse, but I can't seem to find a way to make sure he hits the right spot.& It seems that he is always ready to go, but I am not.& I feel bad that I'm not.& And, afterwards, I feel frustrated, because I am unable to feel fulfilled.& Then, I can't just take care of it myself, because I truthfully, just don't know how............ & Please help.& I'd appreciate any advice.&

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 123 [Post ID] 640 [Date & Time] 2005-10-05 16:31:58 [Post Text]

Output: Hi Windy...I'll suggest that you try to know your body better and get familiar with different ways to masturbate and try to find your most sensitive spots, you can take a look at a very informative site for us it is called [url=www.the-clitoris.com] www.the-clitoris.com& here you'll find the anatomy of our sex organs and theri functions. If you desire to write look at my profile , my e-mail is there Good luck kisses Luisa

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 123 [Post ID] 645 [Date & Time] 2005-10-05 21:49:13 [Post Text]

Output: find a position where you can stimulate your clitoral area while his penis is inside of your vagina...so you can get off from stimulation and have intercourse at the same time

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 124 [Post ID] 651 [Date & Time] 2005-10-07 02:48:21 [Post Text]

Output: uh... i'm seventeen and in comparing myself to my girlfriend (who has orgasms during sex& while I do not. i've never had one) I've found that her clitoris seems a lot larger than mine. In fact, mine seems almost ridiculously small, and since i can't seem to get any really good sensation out of it, it's really worrying me. I've been trying to find information, but all I've found is a lot of very reassuring statistics& about diversity& of the& inner labia. So I thought I'd ask... is it possible that my clit is underdeveloped, and therefore really small and not really responsive to stimulation? We/I've tried everything to have an orgasm, but nothing works, and I really just wanna know what's wrong with me.& (as an aside... Penetrative sex feels good, or at least, pleasantly intense, but i don't get orgasms from that either.) & Thoughts, comments, advise, all would be appreciated, thanks.&

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 124 [Post ID] 654 [Date & Time] 2005-10-07 09:38:14 [Post Text]

Output: Hi and welcome :) Not all women have orgasms whilst being penetrated. I dont. It could be a number of reasons why you feel your clitoris to be not sensitive enough. Maybe you are just trying too hard? I think it would help you a lot to read and look at the photographs on the following pages : www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/v_image1.htm www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/c_size.htm Quite a few young women worry about the size of their anatomy. You are not alone there. But I dont think that comparing yourself to one woman is enough. Every woman is different in terms of size and shape of the clitoris. No two are the same. The varying of size ranges quite a bit and you will probably be surprised by this. You are so young so I would give it time for your genetals to develop further. The best way is by teasing yourself. Dont make it a goal of sex or masturbation to have an orgasm. Stimulate yourself in your brain first. Discover what turns you on the most visually and mentally first. Then the sensations will start around your clitoris area and pulsing sensations in and around your vulva. Princess

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 124 [Post ID] 659 [Date & Time] 2005-10-08 22:37:29 [Post Text]

Output: Hi Anay, & & I was wondering, is your clitoral hood large so it covers the clitoris, which makes it seem underdeveloped? Does your clitoris have a frenulum, which is the labia minora attaching to the underside of the clitoris? Anyways, it is just the tip of the iceberg...if it feels good, it may eventually give you an O if you explore.. Melissa

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 124 [Post ID] 661 [Date & Time] 2005-10-09 09:16:40 [Post Text]

Output: Hi, my clit is also& quite small that at some point i thought it was underdeveloped, covered by the clitoral hood almost completely.& I have to pull it back for it to show.& But then the pictures on the old yahoo forum helped me realize it's normal and as far as masturbation and oral sex go,& functions completely normal.& A small clit is probably not your problem.

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 124 [Post ID] 662 [Date & Time] 2005-10-09 15:25:59 [Post Text]

Output: Hi Annay I'm with Melissa, if you achieve orgasms touching your clit then noto worry about size as melisa said "explore", grab a mirror and explore your vulva and maybe you'll get a big "O"...kisses and luck Luisa

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 124 [Post ID] 667 [Date & Time] 2005-10-10 21:41:42 [Post Text]

Output: Hi, Regardless of size they always have the same number of nerve endings, that is my understanding anyways. This means smaller ones tend to be more sensitive, but perhaps harder to find and stimulate for a partner. If you can masturbate to orgasm then it probably works fine. Rarely the hood needs to be trimmed to allow access to the clitoral glans. Brad

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 129 [Post ID] 666 [Date & Time] 2005-10-09 22:43:23 [Post Text]

Output: Hey all, I've just discovered this discussion board even though I've been visiting theclitoris.com for a few months. My post regards a condition I suffer from called endometriosis (called endo for short). Wondering if anyone else here suffers from it? This quite often makes penetrative sex painful for me, especially if I take a position on top of my partner. But, endometriosis affects my life in other ways, too. For example, I sometimes feel incredibly moody and irritable for no real reason or& simply because of abdominal cramping that comes periodically& with endo. This really puts a strain on my relationship, for the most part my parter is so supportive and I love him to death and I'd just like to thank him for putting up with me, but we really do have our moments. I don't usually bleed very much because I am on a birth control implant called implanon but I suffer irregular bleeding because of this. On occasion I have been ready to have sex with my partner and I have begun bleeding without knowing it and it makes me upset. It& makes me exhausted, I am a nursing student and really enjoy my course but I'm falling behind because I'm sick all the time! I'm going for an operation to treat the endo next week which will require about a week to recover. I'm worried about my final exams (i'm australian, our semesters are backwards to yours, we begin in feb/march and finish in oct/nov). I'm really run down because I'm so exhausted and I'm exhausted because I'm run down, it's a vicious cycle! I've had tonsilitis, sinusitis and bronchitis all& in the last 6 weeks! It also causes bowel upsets. ie:& diahorrea and constipatation. You may ask, how can you explain that you have& diahorrea and constipation at the same time. Well, on any particular day I could have diahorrea or be constipated, I won't go into details but I'm sure you can imagine. I can't take pain killers to control my abdominal pain because it is sporadic, some days are good, some days are awful. The way the pain occurs is irregular, I will feel a cramp coming on and it may only last for 10 - 30 seconds but it reaches 8 or 9 on my pain scale (1-10). I can't justify taking dangerous painkillers like mersyndol and panadine forte or anything with codeine in it because they make me loopy and I need to be aware enough to live my life properly. So when I feel one coming on I take big deep breaths and try to imagine a nice, safe, warm place. This image usually consists of my partner's big strong arms holding me close in our bed. So then the stabbing pain doesn't seem quite as bad. I was speaking on the phone this morning with a friend of mine who suffers endo as well, she's had 4 operations to fix the problem but clearly it is a recurring disease that could last a life time and has the potential to decrease or eliminate fertility. We spoke about how it's difficult for people who dont have endo to understand, a lot of people hold the mindset that it's just period pain and we're just whinging. But it affects my life so much more than painful menses. I masterbate quite regularly, if you've read in the "I love to masterbate" thread, it helps me to relax and usually takes my mind off the dull cramping that sometimes lasts all day. And when I masterbate it doesn't involve penetration so I don't experience any discomfort related to that. Sorry this is long, but it may help other sufferers and it has certainly helped me to talk about it. Mantra

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 133 [Post ID] 672 [Date & Time] 2005-10-12 14:46:46 [Post Text]

Output: I'll be frank. When I have to pee I have orgasms. I'm not talking about the urge-to-pee felt before and after orgasm. I'm saying that the usual pressure+the orgasm are the indicators that tell me to go to the bathroom! All attempts at finding out what the deal is have fallen flat. There's no way I can put "urine" and "orgasm" in the same search field on internet search engines without getting inundated with sex fetish sites. I've tried scrolling through medical journal articles but have found no information. This is a condition I've had my entire life. I had no idea it wasn't normal until I wondered why pop culture lacked all the obligatory references to the condition. Any ideas?

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 133 [Post ID] 673 [Date & Time] 2005-10-12 18:29:11 [Post Text]

Output: Hi Little miss...you're right there is no a place to put together orgasm and urination.. I had aproblem like yours long time ago and a friend told me that it looked like& I was ejaculating at orgasm and& I found& I was; she explained to me that it was the product of stimualting a set of glands aorund the urethra called the feminine prostate and all the liquid produced was expelled thru the urethra. She told me to empty my bladder before sex or masturbating and use a towel and when& I was reaching the orgasm and felt the need to pee just let go the "urine" and check and Iwill find that it is sticky semiclear and in& no way lookslike urine.There is a site that explain it..good luck Luisa You can look my info in myprofile... &

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 133 [Post ID] 674 [Date & Time] 2005-10-12 19:29:22 [Post Text]

Output: my problem isn't that i discharge too much liquid during orgasm. It's that when I'm just sitting around doing nothing I have an orgasm and& I have to get up and go to the bathroom. And it is indeed urine that comes out. I've tried to talk about it to a couple of people but they either don't take me seriously or assume I am mistaken about what's goin on. The issue itself may not seem like a problem on the surface but it can be a tremendous inconvenience. Ex: when I'm driving or when I'm sitting in class and on top of a tremendous need to pee I keep& having orgasms. It happens every-single-time I have to go.& I'm wondering if this 'condition'& could be indicative of some other condition. &

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 133 [Post ID] 675 [Date & Time] 2005-10-12 19:42:09 [Post Text]

Output: Hi littlemiss..I missundeerstood you, now I unerstand your dilemma..having orgasms in the way you experience them is wonderful but all the times and without control it can be anoying..the only thing I can think it is that our urethra goes straight thru a very erogenous zone and maybe if your bladder is full it is kind of stimulating you sexually to orgasm. There is a place about sexuality maybe they will help [url=www.the-clitoris.com] www.the-clitoris.com good luck let me know if youfind any help ,meanwhile I'll look around kisses Luisa

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 133 [Post ID] 676 [Date & Time] 2005-10-12 21:36:22 [Post Text]

Output: Hi Little, When you use search engines put a "+" sign in front of words that must be in the pages you want to see and a "-" sign in front or words you don't want to see, like sex words. I have to do this when I research a subject too. Here is a google search using this: Things to consider are whether these full bladder orgasms are the same as orgasms brought about by other forms of stimulation, like masturbation. Are there pelvic and/or vaginal muscles contractions? Does the sensation spread outward from your clitoris like a clitoral orgasm or center elsewhere? Read the page about female ejaculation on the main website and then do some exploring in your vagina to see if perhaps your female prostate gland is engorged and/or irritated. Perhaps the full bladder is putting pressure on your female prostate and triggers your orgasms. Perhaps these glands need to be encouraged to release their fluid through stimulation. Other things to consider are chronic urinary tract infections, medications, and prescription birth control, and tight or relaxed pelvic muscles. There is also a chance it is conditioned response from childhood urination/masturbation habits, or so I am guessing. Here is the link to the page about female ejaculation. Information about infection of the female prostate gland is linked to there too. [url=www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/ejacula.htm] www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/ejacula.htm Brad

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 139 [Post ID] 690 [Date & Time] 2005-10-18 10:17:33 [Post Text]

Output: When I masturbate I avoid touching my clit because it hurts a lot when it's stimulated, even if it's an indirect stimulation. On the other hand my vagina seems to be steel plated because I can barely feel anything inside of it. Has anyone got any ideas as to why this happens? Everything else seems to be working fine except that I have never reached an orgasm. I'd really appreciate some help ^^;

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 139 [Post ID] 692 [Date & Time] 2005-10-19 07:17:24 [Post Text]

Output: Hello and Welcome Do you or have you in the last year taken any prescription medications? Have you had a baby or miscarriage? Do you wear jeans everyday? Are your knickers made of cotton? You dont mention your age, so I will do my best with your concerns. Firstly, wearing nylon and other material knickers can not be good for the vagina or vulva. Cotton best for everyday use. Jeans or other restrictive clothing can also have an impact on your secretions and muscles. Adequate time spent without underwear is essential for vaginal health. Sleep at night without any if this is at all possible. Also, some medications change the balance within the vagina and can have a major effect on hormones. Some foods can also have an effect. For the clitoris, leave it alone for about a month. Do not try to stimulate it. Massage in oil like sweet almond oil when you get out of the bath and when you wake up in the morning then leave it. Resist the temptation to masturbate. Include lots of green leafy vegetables in your diet. You cold be lacking in iron slightly. Fresh fish is also really good. Try to include some at least twice a week for a month. Cut down on wine, spirits and beer. In fact, if you can, stay off alchahol for one month. For your vagina, do pelvic floor excercises. Clench and hold then release. Repeat this as often as you can. It is one of those exercises that no one knows you are doing so you can do them doing other daily things. Again, massage the oil into your vulva as well when you do your clitoris and pay particular attention to your perineum area ( the area between your vagina and anus ) It feels to me like you may just need to change your diet if you have not been on any medication and cutting out alchahol can make a huge difference. You are not alone in not being able to reach orgasm. Do you fantasise? Read erotic stories. Thought provoking ones. After one month you will notice an improvement in yourself. Try to keep in mind that orgasms start in your brain. But the brain can also block them particularly if you have undergone some sort of stressful situation recently. If you try to hard, it will have a reverse reaction and you wont be able to orgasm. Try to relax. Stick with the massaging. Do not masturbate for a month but during that time read erotic fiction. Have fantasies. Day dream. It will happen naturally. An orgasm is something which can not be forced. Hope this helps Princess

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 139 [Post ID] 695 [Date & Time] 2005-10-19 10:55:17 [Post Text]

Output: Thanks for the reply :) i'll get right on to tweaking my (bad?) habits. The only medication i take is Diane-35 (it's a hormonal treatment because i have a tendency to have too much testosterone in my blood.) and Ventilan on occasion (i'm asthmathic.) I don't drink and I'm not sexually active yet. I do wear jeans every day but not the incredibly tight ones. I usually wear the ones with a classic cut so they're not pressing against anything at all and i always sleep wihout underwear. I already do a lot of pelvic floor exercises especially when i'm bored but i'll try to turn my diet around since i don't eat a lot of vedgetables or fish. Again thank you very much for the tips :)

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 139 [Post ID] 698 [Date & Time] 2005-10-19 18:28:33 [Post Text]

Output: Hi I would have mentioned testosterone before but did not want to worry you unnecessarily. The medication could be causing your vagina to react differently. If you could speak to your doctor about possible side effects that would be a good idea. Mention to him or her the effect that your sex drive and physical feelings have changed down below and that you are extremely worried by this. They may well give you some female hormone to balance things out a bit for you. Princess

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 139 [Post ID] 700 [Date & Time] 2005-10-20 02:21:22 [Post Text]

Output: The thought has crossed my mind but I don't believe that's the cause of it because I already had this petit problem before I got on those meds. I'll talk about it to the doctor anyway though. I have to go see him anyway. Again, thank you for the tech support :)

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 140 [Post ID] 691 [Date & Time] 2005-10-19 00:50:36 [Post Text]

Output: Hi& I'm fifteen and I've recently been really worried about my health. I had sex for the first time and my boyfriend could only insert his penis a few inches into my vagina before it pretty much ended. He tried to push it in further but it really hurt, so he stopped. It was really emabressing and I think it may have had something to do with my missed periods. I didn't have one for six months and finally had one at the beginning of last month, but it was really heavy and really painful. I've been to a doctor and she said she couldn't see anything, but i don't understand how she couldn't because i checked to see if the ending was gone but it wasn't. I'd really appreciate some& info& and get this weight off my chest.

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 140 [Post ID] 693 [Date & Time] 2005-10-19 07:24:08 [Post Text]

Output: Hello and thank you for posting. Welcome to the group :) Did you use lubricant during the attempted penetration? Were you relaxed and did your boyfriend use foreplay before attempting to enter you? With the missed periods, I am surprised that your doctor did not do a hormone test to check for your thyroid or testerone levels. I would go back to a well woman or family planning clinic. Ask for the reasons why a fifteen year old girl would suddenly stop having periods. There could be a whole host of reasons for this. Stress being the first and hormone inbalance being next. With penetration, especially the first times, you will need to be sufficently relaxed for this to be a very pleasurable experience. Have you read some of the pages of www.the-clitoris.com at all? You will find lots of other experiences similar to yours talked about on there which may help you to not feel like an alien. You are not alone in this, lots of women have experienced the same thing. Do you masturbate and explore your own body? It may be that you just were not ready for intercourse just yet and need to spend some time alone exploring your own body first. After you look at the web site, come back and let me know your new thoughts. Princess

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 140 [Post ID] 707 [Date & Time] 2005-10-20 21:55:57 [Post Text]

Output: Hi, Please see the information on the page linked to below: [url=www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/qa_9/qa9_9.htm] www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/qa_9/qa9_9.htm Brad

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 140 [Post ID] 708 [Date & Time] 2005-10-21 04:14:09 [Post Text]

Output: To bother Princess and Brad. The pages you sent me sound exactly what's been happening. & I feel extremely relieved that I'm not messed up. I suppose I just have to work around it. I really appreciate your help. - Ashilla

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 140 [Post ID] 711 [Date & Time] 2005-10-21 07:32:06 [Post Text]

Output: Hi Ashilla you are most welcome and do let us know how you get on in the future. you are still young so take things nice and slow. Princess

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 141 [Post ID] 694 [Date & Time] 2005-10-19 08:47:52 [Post Text]

Output: Hi all I started reading on the-clitoris.com about 3 years ago but abruptly quit when I found what I was looking for. Recently (for a month) my visits to the site and this board have been more and more regular to the point of registering and de-lurking to wave you all hello :D I don't know if this question belongs here or is better nested elsewhere, tried searching but 'male' drew too broad results, anyway there it goes: Is there any specific board for Discussion of Male Sexuality and could any of you please point me to it? In the-penis.com you can find heaps of useful info, but I couldn't discover the link to any board, discussion group or whatever. Anyhow, if theres no positive outcome from this quest, could my main doubts be aired here as they involve my female partner? (I'm male). much gratitude for any response /feel guilty for making you through my poor English :?

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 141 [Post ID] 697 [Date & Time] 2005-10-19 18:24:27 [Post Text]

Output: Hello and Welcome :) Glad you decided to de-lurk. If your query involves your partner then yes, by all means raise your question here. I dont know of any all male web forums similar to this one. I think we are unique in what we do here and our open mindedness at least :) Perhaps Brad may know of one? Princess

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 141 [Post ID] 706 [Date & Time] 2005-10-20 21:53:53 [Post Text]

Output: Hi, I have created a forum for the discussion of male sexuality. It is listed below General Discussion when you enter the discussion group. On the page where the different language forums are listed. Brad

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 143 [Post ID] 699 [Date & Time] 2005-10-20 02:15:16 [Post Text]

Output: hi just found this forum looking forward to reading and learning many things.......I have& question about using toothpaste on your clit to mastubate i've read techniques where people have used toothpaste or vicks rub can either of these hurt you in any way does anyone know? I'm always looking for new things to try while masturbating Breezzy

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 143 [Post ID] 701 [Date & Time] 2005-10-20 13:03:13 [Post Text]

Output: Hi this is interesting :) But why would toothpaste be fun? Cool breezy feeling? I would also like to know about this, specially if it could upset the vagina or anything

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 143 [Post ID] 702 [Date & Time] 2005-10-20 16:44:00 [Post Text]

Output: I don't know if I'd trust it.& :? It's like a guy I knew from High School that used Icy Hot to masturbate with.& He said it burned like hell.& So, I'd probably just stick with warming KY Jelly and other warming things. :)

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 143 [Post ID] 703 [Date & Time] 2005-10-20 17:58:50 [Post Text]

Output: Hi Breezy...I have used the toothpaste the minty one..it was kind of interesting and my husband liked it...before the sex sesion& Ibrushed my teeh with the tooth paste and didn't washed out& a gave my husband a good BJ then he did the same on my clit it felt very good..I never tried directly on my vagina or clit or his penis. Good luck& kisses Luisa My mail is in the profile

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 144 [Post ID] 704 [Date & Time] 2005-10-20 18:36:39 [Post Text]

Output: I found out i had gential warts awhile ago and now my clitoris is very swollen and extremely red and painful - ive been on a cream to help the warts go away- but do u think this is just the healing process of having gential warts or should i seek help?

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 144 [Post ID] 705 [Date & Time] 2005-10-20 20:51:04 [Post Text]

Output: When in doubt, consult a doctor.

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 144 [Post ID] 709 [Date & Time] 2005-10-21 05:15:51 [Post Text]

Output: Consult a doctor. I hear genital warts are tied to cervical cancer. Warts are common, but it's best to be safe. - Ashilla

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 144 [Post ID] 712 [Date & Time] 2005-10-21 07:34:16 [Post Text]

Output: Hi Definitely seek help and advice from a doctor. The swelling could be herpes and that needs to be treated properly. The cream could be causing you irritation and sometimes antibiotics are needed to stop this. Please please see your doctor without delay. Princess

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 147 [Post ID] 717 [Date & Time] 2005-10-22 17:51:51 [Post Text]

Output: Hello Everyone, There are two users in particular guilty of posting their email address in a post. Please refrain from doing this. People can contact you by clicking on your name which then shows a drop down menu. They can either private message you from there or email you if you have enabled your email address. Whilst this is a friendly and open place where people are free to discuss matters that perhaps they may be unable to elsewhere, but I would rather not have to keep coming down on a select few members by removing email addresses and editing posts. Please bare this in mind when using this board in future. Failure to comply will lead to you being removed from the group. Thank You. Princess.

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 151 [Post ID] 737 [Date & Time] 2005-10-29 21:01:20 [Post Text]

Output: okay, this is kind of dumb, but sometime after I hit puberty I started getting acne on my vagina. It's dumb because I didn't know that this was weird - up until recently I had acne pretty much everywhere. I assumed other girls probably had the same thing going on. I thought it would just naturally go away like everything else eventually does, but I'm 19 now and it's still there. About it, it's not itchy or painful or anything, and I'm not sexually active. So is it just like an excess of oil thing, or should I be seriously worried at this point? thanks in adv.

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 151 [Post ID] 739 [Date & Time] 2005-10-30 07:54:55 [Post Text]

Output: Hi and Welcome no need to be overly worried at this point considering you say you have acne everywhere else too. I used to get this around my pubic hair area and on my back mostly. You are only 19 so technically still a teenager. How are you in general? Are you bloated or overweight? Is there a history of diabeties on your mothers side of the family? Sometimes, our hormones are out of sync and at sixes and sevens with us. Do you do a lot of sports? I am simply asking these questions to prompt you to think about some causes of acne in young women your age. Diet has a lot to do with acne in teenagers as well. Fatty foods like fried chips or crisps. Cake. Fizzy drinks. Basically quite a bit of different foods that are not natural. Try to include food which contain vitamin B in your diet like pulses ( lentals ) and barley etc. Wheat also. There is nothing better than fresh vegetables and white fish. Not the oily ones like sardines. Cod or Haddock etc. If you become too anxious, it wouldnt hurt to speak to someone at your women's health clinic about this. They may well be able to prescribe some cream for you and check your hormone levels. Especially your thyroid and do a diabetes check too. Just to rule these things out. Hope this helps Princess

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 151 [Post ID] 741 [Date & Time] 2005-10-30 10:57:26 [Post Text]

Output: thanks for the reply I'm at a normal weight, maybe a little under. I'm not bloated or anything. I think an aunt on my mom's side has diabetes. I'm not particularly sporty. I really recently changed my diet to include vitamin B foods, and stopped eating junk food and coffee. I was on the pill for a year to help with the acne, but my doctor took me off it last month because the risk of blood clots was too high with the combination pill I was on. Since then my periods have been kind of weird, I guess because I just came off the pill. Like my period would be heavy for two days, then stop for a day or two, and then start up again for maybe two more days. Now I have a new problem, like last night kind of new - I'm getting this weird discharge. I wouldn't worry about it normally, but the color is sort of pale brown, and it's sticky. It doesn't seep out continually like a yeast infection or menstrual blood, but it does smell sort of fishy. My period ended last week, so I don't know if this is just cast off from that.

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 151 [Post ID] 742 [Date & Time] 2005-10-30 11:54:25 [Post Text]

Output: Hi there, please please get this checked out. Any discharge which is discoloured and has a fishy odour must be checked as it is the first sign of an infection. As you are so young, and have not had or probably thought about children yet, please get this checked out properly. Have a pelvic exam to rule out pelvic inflamation and a series of swabs done to see what type of infection it is. Many people leave these things untreated only to find years later when they are settled and ready for a family, that they now have problems conceiving. When was your last smear test? I dont suppose you have had one if you are not sexually active. Ask for one of them as well. You simply must look after yourself and eat well and healthily. No junk food or coffee accept maybe once a month as a treat. You only get one body which has to last you many many more years to come. So please, get checked out and look after yourself. And, one more thing, please let me know what your doctor says and how you get on. Princess

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 152 [Post ID] 745 [Date & Time] 2005-10-31 06:12:17 [Post Text]

Output: I made the recipe for arabic wax 2 as per discussion on trimming or removing hair. I have the toffee substance but I cannot use it. The stuff wont stick to the hair (I got a proffessional job done first and it is now about 5mm long). I have tried rolling it in a ball then flattening out on the area to be removed (used a walnut size ball), I then tried to heat a little hotter so it was fluid and spatula the stuff on (way too hot), I then tried to stick it to a cloth strip place on then remove (nothing happened). I left the stuff on for a few seconds to see if it would harden but still no luck. For all those who are besides themselves laughing by now at my very messy antics, please advise how on earth I can get a nice soft waxing job that removes the hair wihtout making a mess. I think I got the recipe right, it is a lovely toffee colour that when heated forms a pliable lump, will not stick to hands when working it. Have I used too much oil? used about a tablespoon as per instructions.

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 152 [Post ID] 755 [Date & Time] 2005-11-05 17:05:04 [Post Text]

Output: From what you describe, it sounds like you're doing things correctly, but are you pulling the cloth off right? The opposite direction of hair growth?

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 152 [Post ID] 759 [Date & Time] 2005-11-05 20:07:26 [Post Text]

Output: Hi sorry about this but your post made me remeber a funny story I read abotu a month ago so I thought you may appreciate the laugh as well. :) Princess My night began as any other normal weekday night. Come home fix dinner,played with the kids. I then had the thought that would ring painfully in my mind for the next few hours. Maybe I should pull the wax out of the medicine cabinet. So I headed to the site of my demise; the bathroom. It was one of those cold wax kits. No melting a clump of hot wax, you just rub the strips together in your hand and then they get warm and you peel them apart press it to your leg (or wherever else) and hair comes right off. No muss, no fuss. How hard can it be? I mean I'm no girly, girl but I am mechanically inclined enough I can figure it out. YA THINK!!! So I pull one of the thin strips out. Its two strips facing each other stuck together. Instead of rubbing them together, I get out the hair dryer and heat it to 1000 degrees. Cold wax my a** . (Oh how this phrase haunts me!) I lay the strip across my thigh. Hold the skin around it tight and pull. OK so it wasn't the best feeling, but it wasn't too bad. I can do this! Hair removal no longer eludes me! I am Sheena, fighter of all wayward body hair and smooth skin extraordinaire. With my next wax strip I move north. After checking on the kids I sneak back into the bathroom, for the ultimate hair fighting championship. I drop my panties and place one foot on the toilet. Using the same procedure I apply the wax strip across the right side of bikini line, covering the right half of my vagina and stretching down to the inside of my butt cheek (Yes, it was a long strip). I inhale deeply and brace myself. RRRRIIIPPP!!!! I'm blind!!! Blinded from pain!!!!.... Vision returning, I notice that I've only managed to pull off half of the strip. CRAP!!! Another deep breath and RRIIPP. Everything is swirly and spotted. Do I hear crashing drums??? OK, back to normal. I want to see my trophy - my wax covered pelt that has caused me so much pain. I want to revel in the glory that is my triumph over body hair. I hold up the strip but there is no hair on it. Where is the wax??? Slowly I eased my head down, foot still perched on the toilet. I see the hair... The hair that should be on the strip... I touch... I am touching wax! CRAP!!!!!!!! I peel my fingers over the most sensitive part of my body that is now covered in cold wax and matted hair and then make the next big mistake... (remember my foot is still propped up on the toilet). I know I need to move to do something. So I put my foot down and then I hear the slamming of the cell door. Vagina? Sealed shut. REAR-END?? Sealed shut. I penguin walk around the bathroom trying to figure out what to do and think to myself "I hope I don't get the urge to poop. My head may pop off" Hot water!! Hot water melts wax!! I'll run the hottest water I can stand, the wax should melt and I can gently wipe it off right??? WRONG I get in the tub - the water is slightly hotter than what is used to torture prisoners of war or sterilize surgical equipment - I sit. Now the only thing worse that having your business glued together is having them glued together and then glued to the bottom of the tub. In scalding hot water. Which by the way doesn't melt the cold wax. So now I'm stuck to the bottom of the tub!! I call my friend thinking surely she's waxed before and has some secret of how to get me undone. It's a very good conversation starter "So, my rear and vagina are stuck to the bottom of the tub!" She doesn't have a secret trick but does try to hide the laughter from me. She wants to know exactly where is the wax on the rear "Are we talking cheeks or hole or what?" She's laughing out loud by now...I can hear her. I give her the rundown and she suggests I call the number on the side of the box. YEAH Right!! I could be the joke of some one else's night. While we go through various solutions. I guess I'll result in scraping the wax off with a razor. Nothing feels better then to have your girlie goodies covered in hot wax, glued shut, stuck to the tub in super hot water and then dry shaving the sticky wax off!! I then find the most beautiful saving grace.... that is the lotion they give you to remove the excess wax. I rub some and scream "IT works!! It works!!" I get a hearty congratulations from my friend and she hangs up. I successfully remove the remainder of the wax and then notice to my dismay... The hair is still there... all of it. So I shaved the mess off. Heck, I'm numb at this point. Then I put the wax back in the medicine cabinet, I may have a mustache that needs work someday. Next week I'm going to try hair color....

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 152 [Post ID] 810 [Date & Time] 2005-11-14 02:59:10 [Post Text]

Output: Yes this is verry funny. Thank you for sending as I ended up purchasing Nair sensitive wax and after reading this I took the lot off with thin (spatula width) strips that were only 3" long at the most. I still dont know how to make the homemade stuff as I live in a remote area and do not get to the pharmacy often enough to purchase the real stuff. I can safely say that I discovered bits with my mirror that I did not know existed. Regards Brocky

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 152 [Post ID] 816 [Date & Time] 2005-11-15 11:44:25 [Post Text]

Output: Hi, My grandmothers and mother and aunts all use the arabic waxing method and they're pretty quick at it (grandma could do both my legs in under 15 minutes!!), but I could never really get the hang of it :(, it takes too much practice to get it right. But the recipe they use is simply lemon and sugar and that's it, no oil or anything else, i can call home to ask for the particulars, but from personal experience (grandma waxed me first at the age of 12, that's 12 years ago) I found the wax roller, not sure how they're called, you know the ones with a rolling head that deposits a thin film of wax on the skin and then taken off with a strip, the best way to go. One application is enough for an area. Though some kinds of wax need oil to clean it up!

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 152 [Post ID] 819 [Date & Time] 2005-11-15 17:51:58 [Post Text]

Output: I would love it if you could find out how they make it some time. When and if I get to a shop or pharmacy in our region they only have the absolute necessities of life, that means no fancy personal stuff. I have to send away for all my cometics, clothing, and even ingredients for cooking. If I could make it myself it would be great as sugar and lemons are always on hand. I think the sesame oil I added may have mucked up the wax. thanks for replying. Regards Brocky

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 153 [Post ID] 748 [Date & Time] 2005-11-01 20:41:47 [Post Text]

Output: Are there any instances where a hidden clitoris CAN make it difficult to stimulate the clitoris? I have read that it is most often low sex drive that makes clitoral arousal difficult, but then why do so many women who get circumcisions report that it makes there clitoris more sensative?? One website said that& having the& hidden cliroris itself will make a female's sex drive lower. I have low sex drive and a hidden clitoris. I have a very hard time stimulating my clitoris. Did my hidden clitoris lower my sex drive and make it harder to stimulate& the clitoris? Or is it my low sex drive that makes clitoral stimulation hard for me regardless of whether or not I have a hidden clitoris? Is it at all possible for a hidden clitoris to affect the ability of a female to sltimulate her clitoris, or is it ALWAYS hormone levels that are to blame?

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 154 [Post ID] 753 [Date & Time] 2005-11-04 16:08:32 [Post Text]

Output: I really miss the people that used to post on the previous forum. Seems to be youngsters on now with little expertise. I loved the vivid descriptions and the love of the female form they wrote about. Hope they soon return.

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 154 [Post ID] 758 [Date & Time] 2005-11-05 19:59:04 [Post Text]

Output: Hi Sadie, I agree :( But some of us are still around so if you want to suggest a topic you remember from the old forum then please feel free. It may help to promote different kinds of discussions again. Princess

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 154 [Post ID] 772 [Date & Time] 2005-11-06 21:52:03 [Post Text]

Output: Considering I've never seen anything of the older forum, I would love to see some of the older threads that were posted - especially if they host very good information about the female body, good tips& and such - and interesting conversation ^^!

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 155 [Post ID] 762 [Date & Time] 2005-11-05 20:45:24 [Post Text]

Output: Today I woke up with a small pimple on my outer vulva lip / labia major. I didnt think anything of it but became aware of it when I went to the toilet after getting out of bed. By six in the evening it had grown into a very painful lump and was bright red and violent. The pain was unbearable too. I took two painkillers that I had in the house and started to drink lots of water too as my mouth was all fury and dry and I had also developed a nasty cough. I also became aware of my breathing sounding a bit wheazy. I dozed off around seven this evening and then woke in terrible pain. The lump had grown to about two and a half inches big. I swallowed my fear and telephoned the emergency out of hours doctor who arranged for me to be seen immediately at the Gyni department at the hospital. They said it was an abscess and if not calmed down or burst by tomorrow night would have to be drained. My Partner asked them what caused it and they said an in growing hair folicile which had become infected and is quite common. I now have pain killers and some antibiotics and am scared of the whole thing. The doctor who exammined this lump said that it appeared that it may well burst on its own. I am now willing that to happen. I was relieved when he said no one would touch it tonight because I need to get the antibiotics into my system first. I hate things like this but am relieved that it is not something more serious. I was alarmed at the rate this thing grew today. I have posted my experience here in case it helps someone else. There has been a bit of discussion on this forum lately about vaginal acne and other spots. It is quite a common problem which on the whole is nothing to worry about but should always be checked for a second opinion just to rule out infection. Basically if the spots hurt from within, it is infected and needs treatment. Hope this helps Princess

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 155 [Post ID] 764 [Date & Time] 2005-11-05 22:37:02 [Post Text]

Output: thanks princess! A girlfriend of mine had a similar thing happen, although I think it was related to a Bartholian gland. she had to have a general anaesthetic to remove the lump and have a biopsy etc. she's actually had it done twice. it reminded me of your experience because she explained that it swelled up in a matter of hours. i have also had a bit of a freak out, i found& a lump once - with no redness or pain, just a lump& - but it disappeared after about a day. My reckoning is that it was a swollen lymph gland. thanks for sharing.

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 155 [Post ID] 768 [Date & Time] 2005-11-06 20:22:00 [Post Text]

Output: Thanks Mantra, I am worried sick tonight as this thing is just not giving up. It will not burst and is so painful I am unable to think straight any longer. Antibiotics do not seem to be kicking in just yet. The pain killers the hospital gave me last night are crap and I am in hell. With the Bartholian Gland, was the lump high up on the outer labia or lower down? I am very concerned now that this could be a Bartholian Cyst or Abscess. But all the pictures I have seen online and diagrams show the lump along the labia major but lower down. Mine is on the right side of my labia major just below the clitoris area so is in the way for going to the toilet as well. It is not grown since last night but does feel harder and more fierce than 24 hours ago. I have taken three doses of pain killers in the last twenty minutes which finally have stopped me feeling the deep painful throbbing that I have been dealing with marginally since yesterday. They have enabled me to clean up the area properly and inspect it more thoroughly as well. I am scared. The thought of having this burst, cut and drained is freaking me out. How will it affect the way I look down there afterwards? I am not ashamed to admit that this is scaring me rigid and I cant decide whether to see the doctor tonight as an emergency or ride it out till the morning to see if it does burst overnight itself. With the amount of pain killers I took, I should be able to fall asleep quite solidly and then with my natural moving about during my sleep I am hoping this will finally happen. I NEVER want to experience anything like this EVER again. Princess

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 155 [Post ID] 774 [Date & Time] 2005-11-07 07:12:33 [Post Text]

Output: Success! Last night I got so wound up I took some extra pain killers. After half an hour I moved about and hey presto - the bubble burst :D I never really fully appreciated the word 'relief' until right at that moment. Going to have the remainder checked later today at my doctors surgery and he will send some cells away for lab tests. I feel a hell of a lot better today than I did yesterday :) Princess

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 155 [Post ID] 780 [Date & Time] 2005-11-07 17:42:37 [Post Text]

Output: So glad it worked out for you! You really did sound panicky! I think my friend's& blocked bartholian's gland was down lower between the outer and inner labias. Ahh the power of pain killers! I'm a nursing student and they do wonders! Just dont get hooked on them is all!:P

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 155 [Post ID] 781 [Date & Time] 2005-11-07 19:35:48 [Post Text]

Output: It has been proved that the use of painkillers to mitigate the pain DO NOT CREATE ADDICTION, if you take them without pain you will get hooked.

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 155 [Post ID] 784 [Date & Time] 2005-11-07 20:54:12 [Post Text]

Output: I'm glad that all is well, Princess.& Pain like that really does hurt.

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 155 [Post ID] 904 [Date & Time] 2005-12-16 09:47:09 [Post Text]

Output: Hi On Sunday 11th December, I had another one of these swelling bumps only this time it was on the other side and lower down more inwards than the last one. It did not get as big as the last one but was just as painful and angry in the quickness that it swelled up. I have been on Cefalexin and Pain Killers since Monday morning and although it burst of its own accord, no doctor here seems to be able to tell me what is causing them. I had blood tests and cell samples taken from the first one but they all came back as normal. Normal? This is not normal by any stretch of the imagination so I have asked them this time to check for other things like hormone inbalance and polycystic ovaries. I have also arranged for a diabetes test to be done in a few days time. I have obviously researched this and looked up possible causes of cysts that grow within a few hours from a tiny dot to a walnut sized ball which causes pain like you wouldnt believe. But as far as I can tell, and the hospital confirmed this as well, it is not the Bartholin Glands. So what else could it be? I am healthy, 35 years old, am not on any medication and eat a healthy sensible diet and do not drink alchahol only the occasional glass of wine with a meal. So I simply can not accept this as 'normal' The anxiety these now two lumps have caused me is ridiculous. My mind first raced down the ovarian cancer route when the second one appeared and I have had a test for that which will come back in two weeks. Two weeks we will be right on top of the New Year. I feel frustrated because this situation does not make sense. Anyway, just wanted to share in the hope that someone has an insight into this. The lumps really are so painful and as I am sure you can imagine, on the inside of the vulva quite possibly is the worst place they could ever be. Princess

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 155 [Post ID] 988 [Date & Time] 2006-01-06 22:12:01 [Post Text]

Output: OK this week I was presented with what can only be described as feeling as though I was being branded by a hot iron on my clit every time I moved my body a millimetre. Another two of these cysts grew first as tiny raised dots and then boy, within three hours they were like walnuts. Only this time one was covering my clitoris and the other one slightly lower on the left hand side so they touched each other. I shouted at the hospital and demanded that this was not normal. Today I get called back into the doctors office after being on a third set of antibiotics all since Tuesday. He said that I have a problem with producing insulin and progesterone and that could be causing this area on my body to behave like this. During the testing to rule out other things like ovarian cancer, polycystic ovarian syndrome and the onset of early menopause, they found unusually high levels of protein in my urine and abnormal bloods came back too. I have had a problem with producing progesterone for about two years now but to have developed into a diabetic as well? So more blood tests booked for this coming Tuesday morning. It is called a 'Fasting Sample' where you dont eat or drink anything the night before from about seven onwards only water is allowed. Then go for the test first thing in the morning. Straight after the blood is taken, you are given a glucose drink and then blood is taken again four hours later. I am fairly confident that I do have diabetes because of the other symptoms the doctor and I have discussed today. Like facial hair and falling asleep after eating certain foods. No one ever suggested looking at diabetes before really as being associated with cysts on the vulva. I find that weird because if you do a search on google for vulva cysts, almost every site points to a link with diabetes. I always say it, but when in doubt always seek medical advice and if you dont feel happy with the diagnosis, get a second opinion. Just think I could have lost some of my anatomy by now and the problem still not have been solved. The first thing anyone spoke to me about was surgery. I could not get out of there fast enough in November. There was no way I wanted to discuss it! There mere thought scared me to death. Anyway, at least if anyone out there gets an angry red lump that grows rapidly, ask to get your hormone levels checked along with the way your blood handles your sugar intake. It may well save you a lot of time and terrible pain in the process. Princess

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 155 [Post ID] 1326 [Date & Time] 2006-03-19 22:09:04 [Post Text]

Output: I noticed a lump on my right labia yesterday and it's grown bigger, harder and more painful as the day progresses. I think its an abscess and I'll be going to see the doctor tomorrow. I'll be sure to have them check my hormone levels as well as do some diabetes testing. I'm glad I found this info. Thanks.

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 155 [Post ID] 1327 [Date & Time] 2006-03-20 06:47:38 [Post Text]

Output: Ouch! I really feel for you just now. It was probably the most worrying thing even overtaking worrying when having stitches down there after giving birth. One thing you can do today is drink about six to eight pints of water. Ridiculous amount I know but that did help me with the last one I spoke about here. Touch wood, none have returned since but the antibiotics I took were pretty heavy going as it ended up with a weeks dose, then a few days after finishing them I started another two weeks dose of Cefalixin. They really did work for me. But having been on antibiotics for most of the time since early November, my skin hair and nails are in a bit of a run down state. But at least there has not been a repeat. I wish you well at the doctors and if the pain gets too unbearable you will have to get an emergency appointment for today or take yourself off to the emergency room. I hope it does not come to that but if you really cant bare it any longer dont feel bad or anything just go in to have this looked at. The sooner you get the antibiotics into your system the better. Do let me know how you get on. Princess

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 155 [Post ID] 1585 [Date & Time] 2006-05-11 16:28:18 [Post Text]

Output: So for about three years or so, I've been getting ingrown hairs on the upper-inner most part of my thighs.& Just between the outer area of my labia and where my thigh meet--exactly where my underwear rub.& The last gyno I went to told me that they were ingrown hairs, and there was nothing I could do to prevent them, except to stop shaving.& So I did, but the bumps still came back, just as painful as ever.& Every couple of months I get them, they become extremely inflamed and painful.& I have scars on the insides of my thighs from this happening over the last couple of years.& I think I took my gyno's advice a little to seriously when she told me ther was nothing to do but stop shaving. I just moved to a new city and need to set up an appointment with a new gynocolegist, but I was wondering if anybody had any advice for me on this matter. & &

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 155 [Post ID] 1586 [Date & Time] 2006-05-11 16:52:10 [Post Text]

Output: I did have a growth inside the labia and the doctor found that it was pus so he had to make an incission to drain it and left a wick inisde for one week and it is painful but I guess if you have& ingrown hairs why don't try a dermatologist maybe he has the solution...good luck Luisa

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 155 [Post ID] 1588 [Date & Time] 2006-05-11 22:35:03 [Post Text]

Output: When I get an ingrown hair in the area you're talking about I usually take tweezers, locate the hair, and pull it out. Eventually the bump goes away in a day or two. I also put scar and disinfectant oinment on it to reduce the chances of scarring and from getting infected. The reason why you get bumps is because a "foreign object" is getting attacked by your body hence the pimple like form. Once the hair is removed, the body doesn't have anything to attack anymore. Hope this helps some. Since you have been growing your pubic hair out, you're more prone to getting ingrown hairs. If you keep your hair short and or trimmed regularly, you shouldn't really have a problem with them. I get them once in a blue moon.

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 155 [Post ID] 1591 [Date & Time] 2006-05-13 15:24:52 [Post Text]

Output: Thank you, that is very helpful!

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 155 [Post ID] 1605 [Date & Time] 2006-05-14 17:32:21 [Post Text]

Output: No problem.

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 155 [Post ID] 1696 [Date & Time] 2006-06-14 22:27:02 [Post Text]

Output: Hi, I am new to this forum.& I have been suffering from vaginal "pimples" for years.& I have become completely frustrated.& I am healthy and have had multiple test done to figure out what the cause is.& In the beginning I was convinced my sores were sexually transmitted, even though I had been super safe all these years.& Each doctor tells me these bumps that pop up about once every 2-3 months are simple pimples (I have been to 3 different doctors during the outbreak and they just pop them and tell me I am fine).& This past weekend, my boyfriend and I (he lives in another state) got together.& Within a day, I got three bumps.& Granted we were way& more active than a day to day couple sexually.& That was Saturday and I still have& two (of three).& One popped and did its usual release Monday.& Does anyone have any idea why these occur?& I have had thousands of dollars worth of tests done.& I have been tested for every single STD.& Nothing. Tests are perfect.& In a super strange way, I wish there was some label!& Then I could do something about this.& I am a very clean woman so I don't buy into the fact this is due to not being clean enough.& Please, I am begging for any information.& I do the salt bath, in fact heading for one after I am done with this post.& I do not wear thong underwear but DID shave right before my boyfriends visit, could shaving be causing these? Any advice or help is much appreciated!

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 155 [Post ID] 1705 [Date & Time] 2006-06-16 07:41:43 [Post Text]

Output: Yes shaving can cause bumps as can friction if at certain times of the month you are dryer than usual. Use one of the water based lubricating gels during sex to help with the friction. I had loads of tests done as well but I am still not convinced about the hormone thing even though all test show that my hormone levels are normal what ever that means :) I am now trying wild chaste berry tablets. I have heard great things about them so thought I would give them a try myself. I have only been taking them since Tuesday of this week so will be able to let you know if anything has improved in about another two weeks or so. One thing to consider too is what your boyfriend eats and uses to wash himself with like strong soaps and alcahol as these can have an affecct on your delicate skin area as well. Princess

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 155 [Post ID] 1814 [Date & Time] 2006-06-28 14:50:07 [Post Text]

Output: Thank you for all the information.& I got a lump in my labia, is painful.& My husband checked it out and he doesn't think is infected(there is no discharge or bad smell).& He thinks is maybe that hair cut the labia or something like that.&

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 155 [Post ID] 1815 [Date & Time] 2006-06-28 15:11:43 [Post Text]

Output: I honestly think it might be a combination of shaving then having sexual intercourse, which might infect or irritate the minor cuts that happen when shaving?& Maybe some women are prone to these horrible little nightmares.& Ugh.

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 155 [Post ID] 1816 [Date & Time] 2006-06-28 15:38:21 [Post Text]

Output: Yes, my husband and I are very active.& & I will definetely go to the doctor if it gets worst.& Reading all about another females's experiences& and their symptoms made me feel a lot better to know I'm not alone!!! Thank you for your quick response.

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 155 [Post ID] 1817 [Date & Time] 2006-06-28 16:45:13 [Post Text]

Output: Yes it is good to know you are not the only one isnt it :) I would still get it checked just to be on the safe side though. It could turn out to be nothing but it can also be the first sign of something completely obscure you just never know and there are somethings that only a proper check up may reveal. So my advice would be to get it checked out at a Well Woman Clinic or similar if you dont want to see your doctor about it. Princess

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 155 [Post ID] 1818 [Date & Time] 2006-06-28 18:16:18 [Post Text]

Output: & Dear flower..some time ago I had the same problem..a lump in the labia painful tothe touch, even wiping out after peeing so i went to the doctor and found it was like an ingrown hair infected and he made an incision and squezed the pus out and let a piece of cotton for drain and gave me antibiotics; about a week later he pulled the wick and I healed ok.....don't wait to long& Love Luisa

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 155 [Post ID] 1839 [Date & Time] 2006-07-03 15:00:11 [Post Text]

Output: Hi everybody!!! Well, good news, I had a check up and it was an inflamed gland.& Even my doctor told me that she had one just like that last week.& One thing she explained me is that this is& OK to happened maybe once per year, or maybe later in life, but it is not suppose to happened all the time.& Thanks for all your support on this discussion.

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 157 [Post ID] 765 [Date & Time] 2005-11-06 14:31:44 [Post Text]

Output: I have read that a woman is to avoid touching a man by teeth during bj. Is it true? My bf likes it and asks about it.

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 157 [Post ID] 766 [Date & Time] 2005-11-06 15:04:42 [Post Text]

Output: Hello if your boyfriend likes being touched by your teeth then what difference does it make? Just enjoy what you have and what works well for one couple may not work for another. This is a person thing. Obviously biting would be something a lot more potentially dangerous but if you are doing something that works for him, then carry on. Princess

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 157 [Post ID] 776 [Date & Time] 2005-11-07 09:05:23 [Post Text]

Output: [user=2]Princess[/user] wrote: "Hello if your boyfriend likes being touched by your teeth then what difference does it make?" Just curious... I was very careful and was afraid of touching him by teeth but then he asked me to do it...

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 157 [Post ID] 778 [Date & Time] 2005-11-07 10:40:53 [Post Text]

Output: that is great if he likes it. My Partner loves it when I run the edge of my teeth gently along the shaft. We have never discussed it, it is just something I did one day that sent him wild! Princess

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 157 [Post ID] 782 [Date & Time] 2005-11-07 20:41:24 [Post Text]

Output: I mostly avoid it, I'm morely affraid of hurting the man.& I have seen a scar left from a girl on one of my partners.& The girl scraped her teeth on his shaft.& I think a slight nibble and lightly running your teeth along the shaft is probably good.

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 158 [Post ID] 767 [Date & Time] 2005-11-06 18:22:29 [Post Text]

Output: Hi, I need help! I dont seem to be able to orgasm? I rub and think and rub more but i get a tingle and nothing else.How do i learn to "explode" on my own? I dont really enjoy vibes but want more clit action! plz help if ya can. Thanx boox

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 158 [Post ID] 769 [Date & Time] 2005-11-06 20:33:33 [Post Text]

Output: Hi firstly can I ask how old you are? Have you had children and have you been on any form of medication in the last six months? Take things very slowly. Dont make an orgasm your goal. This just creates a vicious cycle and the more desperate you are to have an orgasm you wont be able to have one. Caress yourself. Do what feels good for you. Avoid touching your clitoris for at least half an hour of pleasing yourself some other way. Perhaps laying down naked stroking your body all over gently. Imagining someone from a fantasy o yours is doing the stroking. Use feathers, and other textured objects to stroke your skin. Caress yourself lovingly. Build up a fantasy in your mind. Let your imagination flow. Visualize the scene. Are you floating on a boat laid out bare where no one can see you miles from the shore with the person of your dreams just pleasing you? Touch your clitoris gently do not rub it. Just gentle strokes. Trying too hard has the opposite effect. Relax more. Use essential aromatherapy massage oils. Enjoy exploring your body. All its curves and softness. Love the way your skin feels. Breathe deeply and slowly. Sink into your pillows. Just dream. It will happen for you but it will take a bit of time. Make orgasm a last resort for now. Forget about it. There is a whole body to explore. Leave your clitoris alone for at least two weeks while you explore the rest of you. Enjoy yourself fully. An orgasm will happen when it has no place else to go other then to errupt for you in waves of pleasure. Princess

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 158 [Post ID] 796 [Date & Time] 2005-11-11 15:54:19 [Post Text]

Output: Firstly thanx for the reply. I am 45 and have had 2 children.....i am currently taking anti depressants, does this make it harder?.... i have always been a bit difficult to get to the point i would love to be, but have only recently started to try to find pleasure on my own. I am divorced now, but my ex did humiliating stuff to me previously.I just want to feel like others have said they feel. Boox .x

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 158 [Post ID] 798 [Date & Time] 2005-11-11 17:23:58 [Post Text]

Output: Hi there, Yes, anti depressants will be the cause of you not being able to achieve orgasms. Discuss with your doctor your dosage and how it is affecting your not feeling sensations in your vulva and clitoris. The dosage may be too high, you may have been on one type too long, or, you may need a different type. Try a vibrator. Many many women can only achieve a proper fulfilling orgasm with one. I used one only in the last two years and learnt what proper orgasms were supposed to be like. I had a history of on and off with anti depressants and have been off them now completely for well over a whole year. I have much more feeling in my clitoris now than ever before. I am 35 years old and the mother of five. Nowadays, even my partner can bring me to orgasms. He used to use the vibrator with me but recently we have progressed without this year. It is a wonderful feeling when you start to experience proper pulsing orgasms either on your own or with someone else. I know how you feel. Like half a woman. That is how I felt before. Also, I must admit I took viagra on two occasions when I was on anti depressants. Worked wonders! Princess

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 158 [Post ID] 817 [Date & Time] 2005-11-15 14:40:44 [Post Text]

Output: Thanx princess for you're advice i will keep you posted. X

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 159 [Post ID] 779 [Date & Time] 2005-11-07 15:40:05 [Post Text]

Output: Hello all. Im a 26 year old woman living in the UK. I found the clitoris.com via one of the vaginismus support groups I am a member of and found it to be a real eye-opener. I think every young person should read that site and every older person too for that matter. I have passed it around to no end of people. Anyway, to the main point. As I already mentioned, I'm a woman who is lucky enough to be lumbered with vaginismus. I suffered in silence since I found out at 22 and, only earlier this year, did I seek help after joining the groups and finally talking to other sufferers. I've only had one BF and that only lasted 6 months, I called it off, not him. We weren't compatible generally and& I found myself wanting to avoid any situation that might lead up to another attempt at sex and we argued about that a lot. I don't think he realised what I was trying to avoid.& I knew what it was I was suffering from because I had read about it previously but went into denial about it so I couldn't discuss it with him and he thought it was just nerves and that it would work out of we kept trying. Since then, I have been too scared to date anyone else because of this condition. I don't, and never have, desired to have children. I'm much better with animals and don't even like babies very much but not many blokes will stick around if there is no intercourse, like it or lump it. I know it says a woman shouldn't be oblicated in the clit.com website but try telling most blokes that. Also, it is something I would like to be able to do for me, I want to, at least, feel what it's like. I'm on the pill because I had too many problems with periods before, I got all the physical symptoms, not the mood swings though, and& I got em bad. I used to feel crap every month and really wouldn't want to go back to that so I stayed on the pill. I recently bought a set of dilators with four sizes and can insert the first two but used to practise with my fingers before that and can insert up to two although it's tight and a bit uncomfortable. I have no probs with masturbation and orgasm and can have over 20 orgasms in one session, not uncommon actually, I never settle with just one, I got greedy, I suppose. I usually make myself have at least 15 before I'll finish but, on the couple of occasions when I decided to count to see how many I was having, I counted 21 the first time and 26 the second...phew, I didn't know I was having that many, haha. if only I didn't have this dratted vag and sexual aversion and I'd be well away. I've started with therapy now at a clinic that specializes in sexual dysfunctions, just talking, nothing physical so far although I'm not sure what future treatment I'll get. I've been twice and have to go every two weeks. I've never had a successful smear test, I tried to have one but the speculum made me feel like& I was being split in two and the nurse couldn't open it up to take the swab so we had to abort. That was a horrible horrible experience. I've never gone back for another attempt. I've never been sexually abused or anything but I was picked on a lot at school, made to feel ugly and inadequate and lads never fancied me although people tell me now that I am attractive, I still feel that inadequacy and can't seem to shake it off. I'm also a compulsive skin picker as a result of my depression and anxiety. It stemmed from acne and wanting rid of the spots and then escalated to a plain obsession with squeezing stuff out of my skin so& I make myself look a mess by doing that and can't stop even though I know it will make a mess. Big question is, what would most of the blokes in this forum say and think if they started dating a woman who, after a few dates, informed them she had vaginismus and that intercourse was impossible for her, at least for the time being until she got it cured and the time taken to cure this can vary from weeks to years. Would you be able to handle it ok or would you run in the opposite direction? I know that if a bloke did run, he wouldn't be worth it but my self image is low enough as it is, I'm not sure if I could cope with an emotional blow like that. Would you also be willing, if you did stick around, to take part in the treatment of it, attend therapy with the woman, join in during dilating sessions, things like that? Anyway, this is getting a little long now. I'll be glad for any replies and will answer any other questions you might ask as well as I can. Thanks for reading.

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 159 [Post ID] 795 [Date & Time] 2005-11-11 09:48:05 [Post Text]

Output: Well, I see there isn't much hope for me then judging by the large number of replies I got.

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 159 [Post ID] 797 [Date & Time] 2005-11-11 17:17:05 [Post Text]

Output: Hello, do you suffer from Primary vaginismus or Secondary vaginismus? Princess

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 159 [Post ID] 799 [Date & Time] 2005-11-11 17:37:05 [Post Text]

Output: Hello, thanks for replying. I have primary vaginismus.

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 159 [Post ID] 801 [Date & Time] 2005-11-12 06:08:40 [Post Text]

Output: Hello thanks for replying. I have to confess, I did not answer your original enquiry because I had to research a bit more on the subject for my reference etc as I did not want to give you false info on the problem you are having. You may already know this but there is a Yahoo group which covers this subject in full run by other sufferers of primary vaginismus. Give them a try if you are not already a member. health.groups.yahoo.com/group/primaryvaginismus/ This paper challenges the efficacy of a cognitive-behavioral treatment model for women with primary vaginismus and proposes a conceptual shift from a focus on behavior to a focus on differentiation. Given that there are psychological as well as physical symptoms to this condition, what treatment are you or have you received for the psychological side effects? Also, with the orgasms, you mention that you enjoy reading the-clitoris.com and have found it useful. Have you read the definition of an 'orgasm' set out on the site? I am having a bit of trouble understanding how you claim to be having up to 15 or more orgasms in one session with yourself, when you have primary vaginismus which effects both the pelvic floor muscles and the mind as well. Lots of young women talk of having more than the average orgasms through masturbation during one session by themselves. But then when their sexuality grows and they gain a few more years experience, they realise that they were not experiencing the orgasms fully at all and where they originally counted say 15 during one session, now know it to be only three multiples, one after the other. You are functioning on one level in that you are able to achieve sexual pleasure through stimulation of your clitoris. It is just penetration you are having pain with - is that part right? How do you feel about older men / partners? It may be that you need someone clued up on primary vaginismus and who will actually take the time to learn and be gentle with you. I am fairly confident that you will overcome this condition with the right partner and yourself. The pain part sounds dreadful. I was sorry to hear that you have to go through this and sorry that I could not have been more help. Princess

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 159 [Post ID] 802 [Date & Time] 2005-11-12 09:14:56 [Post Text]

Output: Hello I understand the need to research the condition before replying as it is little recognized in general even among doctors. I am already a member of both the yahoo vag groups and post there regularly. It was from one of those groups that I found the clit.com website. I had my first orgasm at 18 and it was quite by accident. I have read what orgasms are supposed to feel like in the clit.com website and these do pretty much match, The build up with that weird tangy feeling starting in the clit and spreading outwards, then the sudden jerk and the pelvic throbbing, I even feel the little muscle contractions in my vagina when they happen and they are explosive in mind as well as body. I know the record for orgasms is 100 in one hour so somebody in one of the vag groups said so I don't come anywhere near that. Still, they can't be anything else. I used to only have about one or two a session and it gradually became higher as time went by and I got better at it. I suppose I'm still& able to have all those orgasms despite the vag& because: A. When I had my first one, I had no idea I had vag and so wasn't mentally aware which is why it didn't affect me. I was 18 then and only found out about the vag at age 22 by which time, I was already having quite a number of orgasms in one session and had become quite trained in it so to speak. B. There is no pressure for penetration when by myself. It is something I just don't have to worry about and, if I do try it with fingers etc..it is on my own terms and that was only after months of practising dilating with fingers beforehand so that I was comfortable with it. C. People often think that vag women must be frigid with is false. They are usually perfectly capable of experiencing arousal and orgasm through alternative means that don't involve penetration. I never orgasmed with my ex mind. As for the treatment, I'm having psychosexual counselling although I only had two sessions up to yet. Up to now it has basically been talking about my childhood, growing up, events that happened, trying to find anything that could have triggered the vag and then maintained it afterwards. Also, I have homeworks on improving my self image like choosing certain body parts I am ok about and pampering them...looking at my vulva and identifying all the bits etc...things like that. I wasn't clueless about my anatomy or anything although I certainly wasn't familiar enough with my own vulva and did have a certain degree of an aversion to it which I am working on. I still don't use fingers to stimulate myself, I use other things. My sister doesn't have vag but, she too, has this same aversion. I'm being forced to face mine whereas she probably never will. "You are functioning on one level in that you are able to achieve sexual pleasure through stimulation of your clitoris. It is just penetration you are having pain with - is that part right?" Yes, thats right. I don't mind the idea of a partner a little older than me, in fact I prefer them a little older than younger. Still, I worry that they are too used to having problem free penetration with previous partners& and that they wouldn't want the bother of messing around with me and my problem. Also, if anybody shows an interest in me that I actually like in return, I wonder why they'd look twoce at me, I see them as being out of my league, thus, I'm too petrified to do anything about it or even let it show that I do like them and then they think I am not interested. I will go to that link you provided now and have a read. Thanks for replying. Still, I have researched all of this a lot myself and with the other girls in the vags groups, it is the opinions of men about this condition that we lack, especially us singletons. Some of the women in the groups have partners or are married and the vag can prove to cause some serious problems ranging from arguments about not getting sex to the man& actually cheating on the woman or leaving her because he can't cope without intercourse any longer or the man developing impotence due to a fear of hurting the woman and, sometimes, bluntly blaming the woman for it. Makes single vag women like me feel pretty hopeless about finding a good partner.

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 159 [Post ID] 803 [Date & Time] 2005-11-13 07:25:31 [Post Text]

Output: Hello again, I am getting the feeling that your problem is more psychological than physical in terms of being able to achieve sexual pleasure. Many women would say that penetration from a man is not all it is hyped up to be but then if you are without something, the need to try it out weights the masses I suppose. With powerful orgasms, the opening to the vagina and all around the vulva contracts with the muscles used from your pelvic floor. Essentially, that is the opposite of the definition of your condition. In your childhood, were you allowed to watch films or see adult material? I would suggest that you have seen something which frightened you terribly at an age when you were too young to remember it. Now you are a young woman with natural desire, your subsconscious is preventing you from moving on. Have you watched a movie called "Cybil" which came out in the late 1970's early 1980"s? It may help if you can get hold of a copy. I have not seen a copy of the film for some five years now but there must be one somewhere perhaps in a library. Then I would like to suggest further reading from an author Pat Califia. Brad often recommends her books to people. Essentially she is a transexual but her writings help put you in tune with your femininity and sexuality as well. Do not be put off by her being a transexual. Her insight into the female mind and sexuality is amazingly correct and appropriate in your case as well I think you will benefit from reading her books. With regards to an older man, by the time a man reaches say 45 to 55 years old, they have a lot of experience. Granted, they may not have experience with the physical aspects of your condition, but, they do have experience with partners and are very sensitive towards other aspects of sex aside from penetration. Different types of love making become relevant for some men of that age and they can and are exciting too. What about being with a woman? Have you thought about that? I would not rule that out either. There are so many options open to you to have a fulfilling sex life as you are young and I am confident with the right analysis you will overcome this and achieve a great many things. Princess

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 159 [Post ID] 805 [Date & Time] 2005-11-13 10:50:59 [Post Text]

Output: Hello again I don't think I could ever, and& I mean EVER, go with another woman. I have nothing against homosexuals but it is not something I would ever want to indulge in myself, the thought makes me feel sick and doesn't attract me in the slightest. I must admit, I have asked myself whether I was gay before due to lack of boyfriends, it took me longer than many to even get interested in them in the first place but being as most were generally just nasty to me, I found myself not feeling comfortable with them anyway. I think the bullying and such that I got at school played a big part and making me how I am. I was never viewed as being attractive even thought my therapist thinks I am. I have trouble believing people when they say that like they are just trying to make me feel better. At school, I was made to feel ugly and inadequate, I had some mates who said I'd die a virgin but then they were just little slappers who slept around and thought they knew everything there was to know about sex and sexuality. Nobody ever fancied me either, I just thought I was too ugly and nobody would ever want me and I can't seem to shake that crap off. I know this is more psychological than physical. I always had issues about inserting things which is why I never used tampons, I was too scared to try them, that they wouldn't go in or it would hurt or something like that, I'm not really sure. This was well before I knew about vaginismus, I read about that in my late teens in More magazine. It was that same magazine that taught me about the existence of the clitoris because you don't get taught those things at school, sex ed at school was pretty crap and they wonder why all these kids get preggers. As for seeing things as a child, I don't really remember anything that affected me or that sticks in my mind as being something that could cause this. I did sometimes accidentally see things kids shouldn't, scary films, nudity, stuff like that. I can't think of anything though that might contribute to this. Still, I am discussing anything and everything with the therapist but, even then, we can only speculate that something might have been responsible, can't we, it could be something else entirely. I think the school bullying does play a large part because things that happened then sort of crop up in my mind a lot during situations where this problem rears it's ugly head or when I try to think about why I feel this way. The only thing that I know of which traumatized me at an age when& I couldn't remember was accidentally slipping under the water whilst in the bath with my older brother. My grandmother took on the job of getting me to go in the bath again and would have to bathe me in the sink for months and I would cling onto her for dear life so she said before gradually getting me to go back in the bath again. I was never a good swimmer and it wasn't until I started going swimming with school at age 8-9 that they could even get me to go into a swimming pool, not even the shallow end. Even now, I feel claustrophobic if I go under water, I don't like it at all. I don't remember any of the initial fear and being scared to go in the bath because I was only a toddler, I think, I only knew myself that I didn't enjoy deeper water like in a swimming pool etc... I haven't seen a movie called Cybil or even heard of it. I work at Blockbusters though so I am in a good position to find out whether it can still be obtained. As for the orgasms, I'm not alone there. Many women in the vag groups are perfectly capable of having them, whether they have primary or secondary vag. Some aren't but then there are a lot of non vag women that have trouble having them too. I'm not the worst care scenario, I have always been able to have a finger inserted without pain, just nothing the size of a speculum or penis, my ex's penis would not go in at all, it felt like there wasn't even a hole there for it to go in and it hurt so much, I'd have to push him off and tell him to stop. Some women can't even insert a cotton bud. The largest thing& I can insert is the #2 dilator which is 1" in girth and that causes some discomfort and slight pain on entry and taking out. Also, if I let go of the handle, it pops out on it's own, the muscles pushing it out. It also hurts if I try to purposely clench my muscles around it like a kegel although I could do that with two fingers inserted without any pain. Still, I feel like I'm relaxed when I do this, I don't feel the spasms other woman talk about, I just know it hurts and that it feels tight. I also notice that my muscles clench up a lot when I'm walking showering and such. I try to relax them when I think about it& but they clench up again as soon as I'm not thinking about them or not concentrating fully on them. Also, it feel strange walking with them relaxed, like my insides are going to fall out or something. I have my third session at the porterbrook on Thursday. Now that I know how to get there and back which worried me last time because it takes three buses and about an hours travel through areas unknown to me, I'm actually looking forward to it. I'll keep you updated on how that goes. I suppose, if anything, getting info on this right from the horses mouth will increase your pool of knowledge as it will mine.

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 159 [Post ID] 806 [Date & Time] 2005-11-13 13:02:11 [Post Text]

Output: Hello, On being Ugly - only YOU can feel one way or the other about that. If you feel ugly on the inside, you will radiate this for others. If you feel something good about yourself, it will show in your smile, in the way you present yourself and the way you are. I understand completely about that side of emotional torment. I battled with it for years until I finally let go and freed myself from the chains that bound me. No one no matter how well intended or heartfelt can tell you how beautiful you are and expect you to believe them especially if this has been ongoing most of your life and you have felt and believed yourself to be ugly. I wish you well for your next appointment. I hope this place you are going to is the right place for you. Here in the UK things are very limited with unchartered territory in the medical profession. So I am sure you have waited and waited on a list before being seen at all. So congratulations for actually making it through two appointments and now anticipating your third. With the subconscious mind, you may very well have seen something which scared the absolute crap out of you when you were little and then your mind has erased it from the main part of your brain so that you can get on with your life. It is a possibility. Even if you were a baby or too young to understand that what you saw was overwhelming, at some point in your life something has caused you to physically clam up so now you are at the beginning of a long journey unravelling yourself again to get back to the source of what ever it was that started this all off for you. May I be so humble and to suggest you keep a journal about yoru appointments, how you feel, all your emotions etc? Try www.livejournal.com for an online journal which you can make secure so that no one else can read it. Also look here www.writingthejourney.com/ for useful tips on journal writing. One more thing before I head off into the kitchen - please do not misunderstand this or take it the wrong way as I am in no way suggesting that you have this - but - read up multiple personality disorder. The reason I am suggesting this for you is because, obviously something is going on inside of your mind which is causing you a lot of physical sexual problems which in turn is causing you emotional stress too and a great deal of anxiety because there is no quick fix to the problems. One aspect of multi personality disorder treatment is allowing yourself the freedom to explore your own mind and all its faults, emotions and traumas with someone else. It strikes me that the treatment of MPD is in keeping with what the center may be hoping will work for you as well when trying to get to the bottom of your phobia and the physical reactions, clenching of muscles etc. So forearmed is forewarned as it were. Read about the treatment of MPD. It may ring true for you you just never know. Princess

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 159 [Post ID] 808 [Date & Time] 2005-11-13 18:04:53 [Post Text]

Output: [user=315]Canis Lupess[/user] wrote: "Well, I see there isn't much hope for me then judging by the large number of replies I got."There is hope for you.& I apologize, I didn't say anything, because I just didn't know what to say.&

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics


Input: [Topic ID] 159 [Post ID] 809 [Date & Time] 2005-11-13 18:07:42 [Post Text]

Output: Hello Thanks for the info. I'm not sure about multiple personality disorder, I'll have to look it up. Still, I do have dermatillomania which is a compulsive skin picking disorder and is a type of Obsessive compulsive disorder although I don't really have any other OCD tendancies other than the skin picking....that I've noticed. I also believe I am pretty high scoring with Borderline and avoidant. Basically, I'm a messed up person, lol. I have a lot to get through. Thats an idea, writing a journal. If anything, it can help other women who have my problem in the future. I don't mind sharing all this crap with other vag sufferers because they can't judge me, they are in the same boat. The place& I am going to is the Porterbrook clinic. It specializes in sexual dysfunctions. I'm lucky I live as close to it as I do even if it is still a little way out. There is a website for this clinic but it seems the site is down at the moment for some reason. Vaginismus is one of the more common problems they deal with in women but they deal with pretty much anything that can affect sex lives and sexuality. I had been waiting a few months for the first appintment.& I went to see the GP in March after suffering in silence for nearly 4 years, she referred me, in May, I get a letter and forms from the porterbrook that I had to fill out and send back within 4 weeks to comfirm I still wanted treatment and then heard from them again 2 weeks before the first appointment which was on the 20th of October and I go every other Thursday so that made it 5 months since the porterbrook contacted me but 7 months since seeing the GP who referred me. It seems it isn't just the UK that has few resources for vag. Women in the groups from all over the world report the same problem finding a medical proffessional that understands their problem or even knows what it is. Many have been told by docs to just have a few glasses of wine and relax. How stupid is that? I read up about vaginismus in the More magazine, yes, I found a lot out from reading those. I'm glad I did because I wouldn't have known what was wrong with me if I hadn't read up about it before. Many women who find they have this don't even know it is a condition with a name at first. Everyone knows what impotence is but hardly anyone knows what vaginismus is. Oh, Sorry Ladybug, you got in there just before me. I know that most people wouldn't really understand my condition very much but I was hoping I'd get some male opinions on how they'd react and feel if they started dating somebody who turned out to have my problem so that I could, at least, get a few mens views on this.

The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics