Adoptee Rage! This blog is written exclusively for the 38% of Abused and Neglected Adopted Children. The U.S. HHSA Identifies #1 Risk: Maltreatment, Child Abuse and Risk for Death In Adopted children. Childhood domination, Coping compensation. Research in Adoption Psychology, Developmental Trauma"The Adoption Paradox". By Rainstorm Red-Smith
About Adoptee Rage
Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.
Saturday, June 25, 2016
How to Destroy the Dignity of the Adopted Child
ADOPTEE RAGE! How To Destroy the Dignity of the Adopted Child ________________________________________________________________
The concept of dignity to express the idea that a being has an innate right to be valued, respected, and to receive ethical treatment. "Dignity" also has descriptive meanings pertaining to human worth. In general, the term has various functions and meanings depending on how the term is used and on the context.
The glue that holds all of our relationships together is the mutual recognition of the desire to be seen, heard, listened to, and treated fairly; to be recognized, understood, and to feel safe in the world. When our identity is accepted and we feel included, we are granted a sense of freedom and independence and a life filled with hope and possibility.
When the adopted child is treated as though they are the property of the adopting mother, the adopted child has no worth or value to the adoptive family as a human being. When the adoptive mother conditions the adopted child to act and adapt himself to be like the adoptive family's collective behaviors, respond in a specific and scripted dialog acceptable to the adoptive parent. These unrealistic expectations of the adopted child to suppress their cellular biological nature, to hold-in their true emotions and raw feelings, and suppress their individual characteristics, talents and spontaneous identity based awareness in adapting to the behaviors of the adoptive family, is killing the very heart, soul and individuality that is the adopted child.
What is obvious to the adopted child in early childhood, is that they have no value within the adoptive family group, they are not acceptable to the adoptive family and they are a failure if they don't assume the adopted child role. As being who the adopted child really is is not acceptable to the adoptive mother, she wants the adopted child to be something all together different than who the adopted child is by nature.
My Adoptive Mother's common, daily gossip based behavior about her adopted child's school, medical and life problems, destroyed my dignity and subjected me to repeated humiliating experiences throughout childhood.
Destroying Your Adopted Child's Dignity:
#1. Referring to the adopted child as "The or Their" "adopted child" the child is not part of the family group, but outside the family group.
#2. Adoptive mothers chronically gossiping & talking about the adopted child to others as if the adopted child is not there, when the adopted child is present. A cruel ans selfish mother.
#3. Gossiping adoptive mother's constantly sharing private and medical information about the adopted child to any and all others who will listen.
#4. Never involving the adopted child in decisions regarding their life. Discouraging the adopted child from speaking, expressing or giving their own opinion/views about their life.