Throughout our business and personal lives we meet wonderful and unique characters and those memories remain with us. We encounter individuals that have a personality that we may define as odd or quirky and yet we are drawn to them because of the individuality. They add to our own enlightenment and growth in being able to communicate.
We also encounter some very quiet and simplistic characters and with these lovely individuals we admire the uniformity and calmness in their methods of communicating their thoughts and feelings. Once again they teach us new methods to communicate as well.
There are all types in between from quirky to simple and how lucky we are to be able to meet them all. Each individual is an inspiration of communication. Even those that do not communicate well are an inspiration on what we want to avoid and maybe what we can teach. I get excited when I meet someone new. I tune my ears and open myself up to the wonders of meeting a new friend or colleague along with honing my skills on how to be an effective communicator.
The most important part of communicating is LISTENING!
In this quick paced and ever-moving world we hurry through everything; including our conversations. As a matter of fact, I can sense that the next words coming from someone are before I have even finished my thought. Did they hear me and my ideas all the way through? Have I answered their concerns and they weren’t even paying attention?
There are some tips when trying to effectively communicate:
- LISTEN! You need to know the question before answering. You can take a lot of information away from the conversation that will help you in future if you stop and really listen!!!
- Two way speaking is very important. Focus on the person you are speaking with and train your mind to STOP trying to find the immediate answer. Take a breath before replying and if you don’t have the answer or want to take the time to think over your thoughts tell them so. The answer, “I believe I really would like to think this through”, is much more thoughtful than a half hearted, “Sure”.
- Know that there are different communication styles and you need to know how you communicate and what others need to hear and feel to understand you. I am happy to help with different communications styles as I love to explore this avenue and enlighten others.
Speak with integrity. Your enthusiasm and honesty shows through to your words and sincerity is the key. Be yourself and explore!
Anna Ottaviani is a Board Certified NLP Master Practitioner & Master Coach, Board Certified Master Hypnotherapist,Creating Your Future® , Time Line® Therapist Practitioner and Reiki Master. Her methods are unique and tailored to each individual client. She can be reached at www.sucessfullyyou.ca or by phone at 289-221-5772. You can follow her onFacebook