I don't know if my boyfriend loves me anymore, because he started being distant and cold. And I tell him to change it but he doesn't do it.
He stopped even saying " I love you" and forgot about my birthday.
I am going for a 12 days trip with my girl friends, he doesn't know yet . Should I leave suddenly not telling anything ? and I wouldn't send him messages,
It would be test , if he really loves me he would miss me and will find a way to find me.
If he wouldn't worry for this time , won't miss me , and wouldn't like to know why I left so, that would mean he doens't love me.
Is this good idea? ( I know you will say it's bad, I should talk honestly with him.. but believe me I was talking with him 100 times, talking doesn't help, and I want know if he loves me bcs I don't see it )
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saying "i love you" means nothing.
i can say it to you right now; hey, anonymous user, I love you. (note: I'm lying)
love is shown by actions not words. and from what you wrote, it seems that you got a little problem there.
now, I would agree with others that you should be direct; don't say to him he needs to change. no. ask him if he really loves you. now, if he says he does, THEN you start testing.
and unlike others I will say this; you need to test him. as I said love is shown by actions and if he doesn't respond appropriately you know what time it is.0