... brave enough to deal with an angry woman. that [foreign language 00:01:34]-

B-R-EY1 V-IH0 N-AH1-F T-UW1 D-IY1 L-W-IH1 DH-AE1 N-AE1-NG G-R-IY0 W-UH1 M-AH0-N DH-AE1-T F-AO1 R-AH0 N-L-AE1-NG G-W-AH0-JH Z-IH1 R-OW0 AW1 ER0 Z-W-AH1-N M-IH1 N-AH0 T-AH0-N-D TH-ER1 D-IY0 F-AO1-R S-EH1 K-AH0-N-D-Z


... of being chivalrous, because they don't want that.

AH1-V B-IY1 IH0-NG CH-AY1 V-AH0-L R-AH0-S B-IH0 K-AO1-Z DH-EY1 D-AA1-N T-W-AA1-N-T DH-AE1-T


they don't want that bad interaction. so then they just-

DH-EY1 D-AA1-N T-W-AA1-N-T DH-AE1-T B-AE1 D-IH2-N T-ER0 AE1-K SH-AH0-N S-OW1 DH-EH1-N DH-EY1 JH-AH1-S-T


... times people want to go back to the days of the knights and the chivalrous code of honor. yeah-

T-AY1-M-Z P-IY1 P-AH0 L-W-AA1-N-T T-UW1 G-OW1 B-AE1-K T-UW1 DH-AH0 D-EY1 Z-AH1-V DH-AH0 N-AY1-T S-AH0-N-D DH-AH0 CH-AY1 V-AH0-L R-AH0-S K-OW1 D-AH1 V-AA1 N-ER0 Y-AE1


being men, it's men being themselves and not filtering themselves to women because we told them not to. because we as women kept telling them, "we're equal, treat us equally, treat us equal-"

B-IY1 IH0-NG M-EH1 N-IH1-T S-M-EH1-N B-IY1 IH0-NG DH-EH0-M S-EH1-L-V Z-AH0-N D-N-AA1-T F-IH1-L T-ER0 IH0-NG DH-EH0-M S-EH1-L-V-Z T-UW1 W-IH1 M-AH0-N B-IH0 K-AO1 Z-W-IY1 T-OW1-L-D DH-EH1-M N-AA1-T T-UW1 B-IH0 K-AO1 Z-W-IY1 AE1 Z-W-IH1 M-AH0-N K-EH1-P-T T-EH1 L-IH0-NG DH-EH1 M-W-ER0 IY1 K-W-AH0-L T-R-IY1 T-AH1 S-IY1 K-W-AH0 L-IY0 T-R-IY1 T-AH1 S-IY1 K-W-AH0-L


... equally, and so when men treat us equally, we're like, "whoa, whoa, whoa. we don't-"

IY1 K-W-AH0 L-IY0 AH0-N-D S-OW1 W-EH1-N M-EH1-N T-R-IY1 T-AH1 S-IY1 K-W-AH0 L-IY0 W-ER0 L-AY1 K-W-OW1 W-OW1 W-OW1 W-IY1 D-AA1-N-T


and there was already a solution in place for that. and-

AH0-N-D DH-EH1 R-W-AA1 Z-AO0-L R-EH1 D-IY0 AH0 S-AH0 L-UW1 SH-AH0 N-IH0-N P-L-EY1-S F-AO1-R DH-AE1 T-AH0-N-D


... i certainly don't condone that. i certainly don't think that men should ever speak-

AY1 S-ER1 T-AH0 N-L-IY0 D-AA1-N-T K-AH0-N D-OW1-N DH-AE1 T-AY1 S-ER1 T-AH0 N-L-IY0 D-AA1-N-T TH-IH1-NG-K DH-AE1 T-M-EH1-N SH-UH1 D-EH1 V-ER0-S P-IY1-K


... sexually about women, both ways, men or women. but-

S-EH1-K SH-UW0 AH0 L-IY0 AH0 B-AW1 T-W-IH1 M-AH0-N B-OW1 TH-W-EY1 Z-M-EH1 N-AO1 R-W-IH1 M-AH0-N B-AH1-T


... but, at least before, there was a point where if a woman walked into-

B-AH1 T-AE1 T-L-IY1-S-T B-IH0 F-AO1-R DH-EH1 R-W-AA1 Z-AH0 P-OY1-N T-W-EH1 R-IH1 F-AH0 W-UH1 M-AH0 N-W-AO1-K T-IH0-N T-UW1


... and there were some people in front of our apartments-

AH0-N-D DH-EH1 R-W-ER0 S-AH1-M P-IY1 P-AH0 L-IH0-N F-R-AH1-N T-AH1 V-AW1 ER0 AH0 P-AA1-R T-M-AH0-N-T-S


... young men, and they were talking about all their nonsense about women.

Y-AH1-NG M-EH1 N-AH0-N-D DH-EY1 W-ER0 T-AO1 K-IH0 NG-AH0 B-AW1 T-AO1-L DH-EH1-R N-AA1-N S-EH0-N S-AH0 B-AW1 T-W-IH1 M-AH0-N


and it wasn't until my sister actually stuck her head out the window and asked them to please stop. then they said-

AH0-N D-IH1 T-W-AO1-S T-AH0-N T-IH1-L M-AY1 S-IH1-S T-ER0 AE1-K CH-AH0 W-AH0 L-IY0-S T-AH1-K HH-ER0 HH-EH1 D-AW1-T DH-AH0 W-IH1-N D-OW0 AH0-N D-AE1-S-K-T DH-EH1-M T-UW1 P-L-IY1-Z-S T-AA1-P DH-EH1-N DH-EY1 S-EH1-D


... not, they would have known, okay. you're not just-

N-AA1-T DH-EY1 W-UH1-D HH-AE1 V-N-OW1 N-OW2 K-EY1 Y-UH1-R N-AA1-T JH-AH1-S-T


... speak about this openly in public. my dad, who is-

S-P-IY1 K-AH0 B-AW1-T DH-IH1 S-OW1 P-AH0 N-L-IY0 IH0-N P-AH1 B-L-IH0 K-M-AY1 D-AE1-D HH-UW1 IH1-Z


... about as well, giving respect to the street for-

AH0 B-AW1 T-AE1 Z-W-EH1-L G-IH1 V-IH0 NG-R-IH0-S P-EH1-K-T T-UW1 DH-AH0-S T-R-IY1-T F-AO1-R


... respect to the street of not harassing women and to-

R-IH0-S P-EH1-K-T T-UW1 DH-AH0-S T-R-IY1 T-AH1 V-N-AA1-T HH-ER0 AE1 S-IH0 NG-W-IH1 M-AH0 N-AH0-N-D T-UW1


i don't remember everything. he's-

AY1 D-AA1-N T-R-IH0 M-EH1-M B-ER0 EH1 V-R-IY0 TH-IH2-NG HH-IY1-Z


... great clean, i don't remember what else.

G-R-EY1-T K-L-IY1 N-AY1 D-AA1-N T-R-IH0 M-EH1-M B-ER0 W-AH1 T-EH1-L-S


oh, vulgar things. they would know, respectfully enough, they would have-

OW1 V-AH1-L G-ER0 TH-IH1-NG-Z DH-EY1 W-UH1 D-N-OW1 R-IH0-S P-EH1-K-T F-AH0 L-IY0 IH0 N-AH1-F DH-EY1 W-UH1-D HH-AE1-V


... equal, treat us equal, treat us equal.

IY1 K-W-AH0-L T-R-IY1 T-AH1 S-IY1 K-W-AH0-L T-R-IY1 T-AH1 S-IY1 K-W-AH0-L


so now when we pass by and we hear that vulgarity, that talk of sex and violence and whatever else-

S-OW1 N-AW1 W-EH1 N-W-IY1 P-AE1-S B-AY1 AH0-N D-W-IY1 HH-IY1-R DH-AE1-T V-AH0-L G-EH1 R-IH0 T-IY0 DH-AE1-T T-AO1 K-AH1-V S-EH1-K S-AH0-N-D V-AY1 AH0 L-AH0-N S-AH0-N D-W-AH2 T-EH1 V-ER0 EH1-L-S


... men as well. but at the very least, when it came to-

M-EH1 N-AE1 Z-W-EH1-L B-AH1 T-AE1-T DH-AH0 V-EH1 R-IY0 L-IY1-S T-W-EH1 N-IH1-T K-EY1-M T-UW1


... gender relations, men held a level of respect for women, even if they weren't respect-

JH-EH1-N D-ER0 R-IY0 L-EY1 SH-AH0-N Z-M-EH1-N HH-EH1-L D-AH0 L-EH1 V-AH0 L-AH1 V-R-IH0-S P-EH1-K-T F-AO1 R-W-IH1 M-AH0 N-IY1 V-IH0 N-IH1-F DH-EY1 W-EH1 R-AH0-N T-R-IH0-S P-EH1-K-T


... after you continue to attack it, but then call-

AE1-F T-ER0 Y-UW1 K-AH0-N T-IH1 N-Y-UW0 T-UW1 AH0 T-AE1 K-IH1-T B-AH1-T DH-EH1-N K-AO1-L


... what's left of it toxic masculinity, and go about [foreign language 00:03:51], trying to what? feminize men, try-

W-AH0-T S-L-EH1-F T-AH1 V-IH1-T T-AA1-K S-IH0 K-M-AE2-S K-Y-AH0 L-IH1 N-AH0 T-IY0 AH0-N-D G-OW1 AH0 B-AW1-T F-AO1 R-AH0 N-L-AE1-NG G-W-AH0-JH Z-IH1 R-OW0 AW1 ER0-Z TH-R-IY1 M-IH1 N-AH0-T S-AH0-N-D F-IH1-F T-IY0 W-AH1-N S-EH1 K-AH0-N-D T-R-AY1 IH0-NG T-UW1 W-AH1-T F-EH1 M-AH0 N-AY2 Z-M-EH1-N T-R-AY1


it doesn't make any sense. and we would do ourselves so much better-

IH1-T D-OW1 S-AH0-N T-M-EY1 K-EH1 N-IY0 S-EH1-N S-AH0-N D-W-IY1 W-UH1-D D-UW1 AW0 ER0 S-EH1-L-V-Z S-OW1 M-AH1-CH B-EH1 T-ER0


... to nurture our nature. those things that are natural about us, natural for men or natural for women, that we nurture it into positive-

T-UW1 N-ER1 CH-ER0 AW1 ER0 N-EY1 CH-ER0 DH-OW1-Z TH-IH1-NG-Z DH-AE1 T-AA1-R N-AE1 CH-ER0 AH0 L-AH0 B-AW1 T-AH1 S-N-AE1 CH-ER0 AH0-L F-AO1-R M-EH1 N-AO1-R N-AE1 CH-ER0 AH0-L F-AO1 R-W-IH1 M-AH0-N DH-AE1 T-W-IY1 N-ER1 CH-ER0 IH1 T-IH0-N T-UW1 P-AA1 Z-AH0 T-IH0-V


... outlet in society. that aggression, and quote unquote violent, well not quote unquote violence-

AW1 T-L-EH2 T-IH0-N S-AH0 S-AY1 AH0 T-IY0 DH-AE1 T-AH0 G-R-EH1 SH-AH0 N-AH0-N-D K-W-OW1 T-AH1-N K-W-OW1-T V-AY1 AH0 L-AH0-N T-W-EH1-L N-AA1-T K-W-OW1 T-AH1-N K-W-OW1-T V-AY1 AH0 L-AH0-N-S


... nurturing aspect that women have, be tunneled into something good. because nurture is not always good. if-

N-ER1 CH-ER0 IH0 NG-AE1-S P-EH2-K-T DH-AE1 T-W-IH1 M-AH0-N HH-AE1-V B-IY1 T-AH1-N D-AH0-L D-IH0-N T-UW1 S-AH1-M TH-IH0-NG G-UH1-D B-IH0 K-AO1 Z-N-ER1 CH-ER0 IH1 Z-N-AA1 T-AO1 L-W-EY2-Z G-UH1 D-IH1-F


... you see the feminist or liberals-

Y-UW1 S-IY1 DH-AH0 F-EH1 M-AH0 N-AH0-S T-AO1-R L-IH1 B-ER0 AH0-L-Z


... admitting that they were wrong in attacking chivalry-

AE0 D-M-IH1 T-IH0-NG DH-AE1-T DH-EY1 W-ER0 R-AO1 NG-IH0 N-AH0 T-AE1 K-IH0-NG SH-IH1 V-AH0-L R-IY0


... of attacking chivalry. but never-

AH1 V-AH0 T-AE1 K-IH0-NG SH-IH1 V-AH0-L R-IY0 B-AH1 T-N-EH1 V-ER0


so i want to let you guys know that if you would like to donate to this podcast and [foreign language 00:04:46], there will be-

S-OW1 AY1 W-AA1-N-T T-UW1 L-EH1 T-Y-UW1 G-AY1 Z-N-OW1 DH-AE1 T-IH1 F-Y-UW1 W-UH1 D-L-AY1-K T-UW1 D-OW1 N-EY2-T T-UW1 DH-IH1-S P-OW1-D K-AE2-S T-AH0-N-D F-AO1 R-AH0 N-L-AE1-NG G-W-AH0-JH Z-IH1 R-OW0 AW1 ER0-Z F-AO1-R M-IH1 N-AH0-T S-AH0-N-D F-AO1-R T-IY0 S-IH1-K-S S-EH1 K-AH0-N-D-Z DH-EH1 R-W-IH1-L B-IY1


... today, i want to talk about-

T-AH0 D-EY1 AY1 W-AA1-N-T T-UW1 T-AO1 K-AH0 B-AW1-T


... anything, and i think this was one of those posts and i'm actually-

EH1 N-IY0 TH-IH2 NG-AH0-N D-AY1 TH-IH1-NG-K DH-IH1 S-W-AA1 Z-W-AH1 N-AH1-V DH-OW1-Z P-OW1-S-T S-AH0-N D-IH1 M-AE1-K CH-AH0 W-AH0 L-IY0


... going to share it tomorrow on facebook.

G-OW1 IH0-NG T-UW1 SH-EH1 R-IH1-T T-AH0 M-AA1 R-OW2 AA1-N F-EY1-S B-UH2-K


it was a post that i felt i needed to write, but i wasn't necessarily ready for any controversy that may have come along with it.

IH1 T-W-AA1 Z-AH0 P-OW1-S-T DH-AE1 T-AY1 F-EH1-L T-AY1 N-IY1 D-AH0-D T-UW1 R-AY1-T B-AH1 T-AY1 W-AO1-S T-N-EH2 S-AH0 S-EH1 R-AH0 L-IY0 R-EH1 D-IY0 F-AO1 R-EH1 N-IY0 K-AA1-N T-R-AH0 V-ER2 S-IY0 DH-AE1 T-M-EY1 HH-AE1-V K-AH1 M-AH0 L-AO1 NG-W-IH1 DH-IH1-T


... that has been a sort of hot topic, so to speak, and-

DH-AE1-T HH-AE1-Z B-IH1 N-AH0 S-AO1-R T-AH1-V HH-AA1-T T-AA1 P-IH0-K S-OW1 T-UW1-S P-IY1 K-AH0-N-D


... willing to risk it for the sake of saying something that i felt was important-

W-IH1 L-IH0-NG T-UW1 R-IH1-S K-IH1-T F-AO1-R DH-AH0 S-EY1 K-AH1-V S-EY1 IH0-NG S-AH1-M TH-IH0-NG DH-AE1 T-AY1 F-EH1-L T-W-AA1 Z-IH0-M P-AO1-R T-AH0-N-T


... especially on my end, because there are certain topics that are really important to me. so-

AH0-S P-EH1 SH-L-IY0 AA1-N M-AY1 EH1-N-D B-IH0 K-AO1-Z DH-EH1 R-AA1-R S-ER1 T-AH0-N T-AA1 P-IH0-K-S DH-AE1 T-AA1-R R-IH1 L-IY0 IH0-M P-AO1-R T-AH0-N-T T-UW1 M-IY1 S-OW1


... and so the people who are discussing it-

AH0-N-D S-OW1 DH-AH0 P-IY1 P-AH0-L HH-UW1 AA1-R D-IH0-S K-AH1 S-IH0 NG-IH1-T


... with me, i kind of just have to keep going through the same-

W-IH1 DH-M-IY1 AY1 K-AY1-N D-AH1-V JH-AH1-S-T HH-AE1-V T-UW1 K-IY1-P G-OW1 IH0-NG TH-R-UW1 DH-AH0 S-EY1-M


... arguments over and over again, and it can get exhausting. and i realize that with some people, when they are-

AA1-R G-Y-AH0 M-AH0-N-T S-OW1 V-ER0 AH0-N D-OW1 V-ER0 AH0 G-EH1 N-AH0-N D-IH1-T K-AE1-N G-EH1 T-IH0-G Z-AO1-S T-IH0 NG-AH0-N D-AY1 R-IY1 L-AY2-Z DH-AE1 T-W-IH1-DH S-AH1-M P-IY1 P-AH0 L-W-EH1-N DH-EY1 AA1-R


to write and to really lay out. so the name-

T-UW1 R-AY1 T-AH0-N-D T-UW1 R-IH1 L-IY0 L-EY1 AW1-T S-OW1 DH-AH0 N-EY1-M


... of the a post is teaching our daughters to be resilient, resourceful, and unafraid.

AH1-V DH-AH0 AH0 P-OW1-S T-IH1-Z T-IY1 CH-IH0 NG-AW1 ER0 D-AO1 T-ER0-Z T-UW1 B-IY1 R-IH0 Z-IH1 L-Y-AH0-N T-R-IY0 S-AO1-R-S F-AH0 L-AH0-N D-AH2 N-AH0 F-R-EY1-D


you should be trying to do so in some way, or if you're not able-

Y-UW1 SH-UH1-D B-IY1 T-R-AY1 IH0-NG T-UW1 D-UW1 S-OW1 IH0-N S-AH1 M-W-EY1 AO1 R-IH1 F-Y-UH1-R N-AA1 T-EY1 B-AH0-L


... there's no doubt about that.

DH-EH1-R Z-N-OW1 D-AW1 T-AH0 B-AW1-T DH-AE1-T


but at the same time for us, it-

B-AH1 T-AE1-T DH-AH0 S-EY1-M T-AY1-M F-AO1 R-AH1 S-IH1-T


... seasons, as someone once said, and i really liked the way they said that; that women go through seasons in our-

S-IY1 Z-AH0-N Z-AE1-Z S-AH1 M-W-AH2 N-W-AH1-N-S S-EH1 D-AH0-N D-AY1 R-IH1 L-IY0 L-AY1-K-T DH-AH0 W-EY1 DH-EY1 S-EH1-D DH-AE1-T DH-AE1 T-W-IH1 M-AH0-N G-OW1 TH-R-UW1 S-IY1 Z-AH0-N Z-IH0 N-AW1 ER0


... lives. and so, it's really important that we get permission from ourselves, from our close ones, from our society-

L-IH1-V Z-AH0-N-D S-OW1 IH1-T S-R-IH1 L-IY0 IH0-M P-AO1-R T-AH0-N-T DH-AE1 T-W-IY1 G-EH1-T P-ER0 M-IH1 SH-AH0-N F-R-AH1 M-AW0 ER0 S-EH1-L-V-Z F-R-AH1 M-AW1 ER0 K-L-OW1 S-W-AH1-N-Z F-R-AH1 M-AW1 ER0 S-AH0 S-AY1 AH0 T-IY0


... reach all these career goals, then they're not going to be able to fulfill some things that are deeply important to women.

R-IY1 CH-AO1-L DH-IY1-Z K-ER0 IH1-R G-OW1-L-Z DH-EH1-N TH-EH1-R N-AA1-T G-OW1 IH0-NG T-UW1 B-IY1 EY1 B-AH0-L T-UW1 F-UH0-L F-IH1-L S-AH1-M TH-IH1-NG-Z DH-AE1 T-AA1-R D-IY1 P-L-IY0 IH0-M P-AO1-R T-AH0-N-T T-UW1 W-IH1 M-AH0-N


and that's one thing that i dislike about modern feminism, is that it feels like even though-

AH0-N-D TH-AE1-T S-W-AH1-N TH-IH1-NG DH-AE1 T-AY1 D-IH0 S-L-AY1 K-AH0 B-AW1 T-M-AA1 D-ER0-N F-EH1 M-IH0 N-IH2 Z-AH0 M-IH1-Z DH-AE1 T-IH1-T F-IY1-L Z-L-AY1 K-IY1 V-IH0-N DH-OW1


... men do work more hours than women-

M-EH1-N D-UW1 W-ER1 K-M-AO1 R-AW1 ER0-Z DH-AE1 N-W-IH1 M-AH0-N


and so in reality, there's nothing wrong with that-

AH0-N-D S-OW1 IH0 N-R-IY0 AE1 L-AH0 T-IY0 DH-EH1-R Z-N-AH1 TH-IH0 NG-R-AO1 NG-W-IH1-DH DH-AE1-T


when we consistently discuss the pay gap, it's as if women are just being measured by what we do in the workforce, and then even when you-

W-EH1 N-W-IY1 K-AH0-N S-IH1-S T-AH0-N T-L-IY0 D-IH0-S K-AH1-S DH-AH0 P-EY1 G-AE1 P-IH1-T S-AE1 Z-IH1 F-W-IH1 M-AH0 N-AA1-R JH-AH1-S-T B-IY1 IH0-NG M-EH1 ZH-ER0-D B-AY1 W-AH1 T-W-IY1 D-UW1 IH0-N DH-AH0 W-ER1-K F-AO2-R S-AH0-N-D DH-EH1 N-IY1 V-IH0 N-W-EH1 N-Y-UW1


... are turning it around and you're looking at, "oh, well, women-"

AA1-R T-ER1 N-IH0 NG-IH1 T-ER0 AW1-N D-AH0-N D-Y-UH1-R L-UH1 K-IH0 NG-AE1 T-OW1 W-EH1 L-W-IH1 M-AH0-N


... by feminists and by others-

B-AY1 F-EH1 M-AH0 N-AH0-S-T S-AH0-N-D B-AY1 AH1 DH-ER0-Z


... we look at it as a problem. we problematize women's choices consistently-

W-IY1 L-UH1 K-AE1 T-IH1 T-AE1 Z-AH0 P-R-AA1 B-L-AH0 M-W-IY1 P-R-AA1 B-L-AH0 M-EY2-T S-W-IH1 M-AH0-N-Z CH-OY1 S-AH0-Z K-AH0-N S-IH1-S T-AH0-N T-L-IY0


... and it's really unfortunate. and it's interesting because, of course-

AH0-N D-IH1-T S-R-IH1 L-IY0 AH0-N F-AO1-R CH-AH0 N-AH0 T-AH0-N D-IH1-T S-IH1-N T-R-AH0-S T-IH0-NG B-IH0 K-AO1 Z-AH1-V K-AO1-R-S


... but i really feel that the oppression that women face, and i can only speak about my own society, but i-

B-AH1 T-AY1 R-IH1 L-IY0 F-IY1-L DH-AE1-T DH-AH0 AH0 P-R-EH1 SH-AH0-N DH-AE1 T-W-IH1 M-AH0-N F-EY1 S-AH0-N D-AY1 K-AE1 N-OW1 N-L-IY0-S P-IY1 K-AH0 B-AW1 T-M-AY1 OW1-N S-AH0 S-AY1 AH0 T-IY0 B-AH1 T-AY1


... really feel that the oppression that we face is a product of modernity; that when women have their own space and men have their own space, and-

R-IH1 L-IY0 F-IY1-L DH-AE1-T DH-AH0 AH0 P-R-EH1 SH-AH0-N DH-AE1 T-W-IY1 F-EY1 S-IH1 Z-AH0 P-R-AA1 D-AH0-K T-AH1 V-M-AA0 D-ER1 N-AH0 T-IY0 DH-AE1 T-W-EH1 N-W-IH1 M-AH0-N HH-AE1-V DH-EH1 R-OW1-N-S P-EY1 S-AH0-N D-M-EH1-N HH-AE1-V DH-EH1 R-OW1-N-S P-EY1 S-AH0-N-D


... as well in the workforce though, we're slowly doing better. and that in and of itself has effects-

AE1 Z-W-EH1 L-IH0-N DH-AH0 W-ER1-K F-AO2-R-S DH-OW1 W-ER0 S-L-OW1 L-IY0 D-UW1 IH0-NG B-EH1 T-ER0 AH0-N-D DH-AE1 T-IH0 N-AH0-N D-AH1 V-IH0-T S-EH1-L-F HH-AE1 Z-IH0 F-EH1-K-T-S


... on men. i believe i have a podcast episode called-

AA1-N M-EH1 N-AY1 B-IH0 L-IY1 V-AY1 HH-AE1 V-AH0 P-OW1-D K-AE2-S T-EH1 P-AH0 S-OW2-D K-AO1-L-D


has anyone ever thought about the cost-

HH-AE1 Z-EH1 N-IY0 W-AH2 N-EH1 V-ER0 TH-AO1 T-AH0 B-AW1-T DH-AH0 K-AA1-S-T


... to men or something like that? if you're interested in me speaking about men's issues, i believe-

T-UW1 M-EH1 N-AO1-R S-AH1-M TH-IH0 NG-L-AY1-K DH-AE1 T-IH1 F-Y-UH1 R-IH1-N T-R-AH0-S T-AH0 D-IH0-N M-IY1-S P-IY1 K-IH0 NG-AH0 B-AW1 T-M-EH1-N Z-IH1 SH-UW0 Z-AY1 B-IH0 L-IY1-V


... for one, i feel like it's very defeatist-

F-AO1 R-W-AH1 N-AY1 F-IY1-L L-AY1 K-IH1-T-S V-EH1 R-IY0 D-IH0 F-IY1 T-IH0-S-T


... i think there are... yeah, i really don't even like the language of-

AY1 TH-IH1-NG-K DH-EH1 R-AA1 R-Y-AE1 AY1 R-IH1 L-IY0 D-AA1-N T-IY1 V-IH0 N-L-AY1-K DH-AH0 L-AE1-NG G-W-AH0 JH-AH1-V


... and sometimes, yes, it can be just sexism. just pure sexism.

AH0-N-D S-AH0-M T-AY1-M Z-Y-EH1 S-IH1-T K-AE1-N B-IY1 JH-AH1-S-T S-EH1-K S-IH0 Z-AH0-M JH-AH1-S-T P-Y-UH1-R S-EH1-K S-IH0 Z-AH0-M


... women. so just to get back to the post, inshallah, and kind of the point of the post-

W-IH1 M-AH0-N S-OW1 JH-AH1-S-T T-UW1 G-EH1-T B-AE1-K T-UW1 DH-AH0 P-OW1-S T-IH0-N SH-AE1 L-AH0 AH0-N-D K-AY1-N D-AH1-V DH-AH0 P-OY1-N T-AH1-V DH-AH0 P-OW1-S-T


... which is that we need to allow our daughter-

W-IH1 CH-IH1-Z DH-AE1 T-W-IY1 N-IY1-D T-UW1 AH0 L-AW1 AW1 ER0 D-AO1 T-ER0


... and resourceful and...


... that's just practical, he could die one day or he could-

TH-AE1-T-S JH-AH1-S-T P-R-AE1-K T-AH0 K-AH0-L HH-IY1 K-UH1-D D-AY1 W-AH1-N D-EY1 AO1-R HH-IY1 K-UH1-D


... exist. you know, we live in a society that tries to push us towards-

IH0-G Z-IH1-S T-Y-UW1 N-OW1 W-IY1 L-AY1 V-IH0 N-AH0 S-AH0 S-AY1 AH0 T-IY0 DH-AE1-T T-R-AY1-Z T-UW1 P-UH1 SH-AH1-S T-AH0 W-AO1-R-D-Z


... the idea of individualism, but the reality is that-

DH-AH0 AY0 D-IY1 AH0 AH1 V-IH2-N D-IH0 V-IH0 D-UW1 AH0 L-IH2 Z-AH0-M B-AH1-T DH-AH0 R-IY0 AE1 L-AH0 T-IY0 IH1-Z DH-AE1-T


... consider the others, i'm not going to, i'm just going to live my own life by my own rules.

K-AH0-N S-IH1 D-ER0 DH-AH0 AH1 DH-ER0 Z-IH1-M N-AA1-T G-OW1 IH0-NG T-UW1 IH1-M JH-AH1-S-T G-OW1 IH0-NG T-UW1 L-AY1 V-M-AY1 OW1 N-L-AY1-F B-AY1 M-AY1 OW1 N-R-UW1-L-Z


... you do is affecting other people. other people are-

Y-UW1 D-UW1 IH1 Z-AH0 F-EH1-K T-IH0 NG-AH1 DH-ER0 P-IY1 P-AH0 L-AH1 DH-ER0 P-IY1 P-AH0 L-AA1-R


these sort of individualistic, capitalistic, because they're very much tied together, idea that we're going to cut down all the trees and build houses-

DH-IY1-Z S-AO1-R T-AH1 V-IH2-N D-IH0 V-IH2 JH-UW0 AH0 L-IH1-S T-IH0-K K-AE2 P-IH0 T-AH0 L-IH1-S T-IH0-K B-IH0 K-AO1-Z TH-EH1-R V-EH1 R-IY0 M-AH1-CH T-AY1-D T-AH0 G-EH1 DH-ER0 AY0 D-IY1 AH0 DH-AE1 T-W-ER0 G-OW1 IH0-NG T-UW1 K-AH1-T D-AW1 N-AO1-L DH-AH0 T-R-IY1 Z-AH0-N-D B-IH1-L-D HH-AW1 S-AH0-Z


... build buildings or build whatever, because we want to make money out of these-

B-IH1-L-D B-IH1-L D-IH0-NG Z-AO1-R B-IH1-L D-W-AH2 T-EH1 V-ER0 B-IH0 K-AO1 Z-W-IY1 W-AA1-N-T T-UW1 M-EY1 K-M-AH1 N-IY0 AW1 T-AH1-V DH-IY1-Z


resources, you can say well-

R-IY1 S-AO0-R S-IH0 Z-Y-UW1 K-AE1-N S-EY1 W-EH1-L


private individual, i don't care about the-

P-R-AY1 V-AH0 T-IH2-N D-AH0 V-IH1 JH-AH0 W-AH0 L-AY1 D-AA1-N-T K-EH1 R-AH0 B-AW1-T DH-AH0


but eventually, it's going to catch up with you. so, when the-

B-AH1 T-IH0 V-EH1-N CH-AH0 W-AH0 L-IY0 IH1-T-S G-OW1 IH0-NG T-UW1 K-AE1 CH-AH1 P-W-IH1 DH-Y-UW1 S-OW1 W-EH1-N DH-AH0


you can just take their money and move to another country or even if the whole planet goes down, they can move to the moon-

Y-UW1 K-AE1-N JH-AH1-S-T T-EY1-K DH-EH1-R M-AH1 N-IY0 AH0-N D-M-UW1-V T-UW1 AH0 N-AH1 DH-ER0 K-AH1-N T-R-IY0 AO1 R-IY1 V-IH0 N-IH1-F DH-AH0 HH-OW1-L P-L-AE1 N-AH0-T G-OW1-Z D-AW1-N DH-EY1 K-AE1-N M-UW1-V T-UW1 DH-AH0 M-UW1-N


and the show, now what is it-

AH0-N-D DH-AH0 SH-OW1 N-AW1 W-AH1 T-IH1 Z-IH1-T


it's an old classic twilight zone, where this man, all he wanted to do was have time and silence-

IH1-T S-AE1 N-OW1-L-D K-L-AE1 S-IH0-K T-W-AY1 L-AY2-T Z-OW1 N-W-EH1-R DH-IH1 S-M-AE1 N-AO1-L HH-IY1 W-AA1-N T-AH0-D T-UW1 D-UW1 W-AA1-Z HH-AE1-V T-AY1 M-AH0-N-D S-AY1 L-AH0-N-S


you don't even care about the environment. you don't care about anyone but-

Y-UW1 D-AA1-N T-IY1 V-IH0-N K-EH1 R-AH0 B-AW1-T DH-AH0 IH0-N V-AY1 R-AH0-N M-AH0-N T-Y-UW1 D-AA1-N-T K-EH1 R-AH0 B-AW1 T-EH1 N-IY0 W-AH2-N B-AH1-T


say or feel, you're not dependent on other people, which is-

S-EY1 AO1-R F-IY1 L-Y-UH1-R N-AA1-T D-IH0 P-EH1-N D-AH0-N T-AA1 N-AH1 DH-ER0 P-IY1 P-AH0 L-W-IH1 CH-IH1-Z


probably impossible for 99.99%-

P-R-AA1 B-AH0 B-L-IY0 IH0-M P-AA1 S-AH0 B-AH0-L F-AO1-R N-AY1-N T-IY0 N-AY1-N P-OY1-N T-N-AY1-N N-AY1-N P-ER0 S-EH1-N-T


of us. you're still dependent on something. so-

AH1 V-AH1 S-Y-UH1-R-S T-IH1-L D-IH0 P-EH1-N D-AH0-N T-AA1-N S-AH1-M TH-IH0-NG S-OW1


glasses. or even we can look at it in a more direct way-

G-L-AE1 S-AH0 Z-AO1 R-IY1 V-IH0 N-W-IY1 K-AE1 N-L-UH1 K-AE1 T-IH1 T-IH0 N-AH0 M-AO1-R D-ER0 EH1-K T-W-EY1


so we're all first and foremost dependent on lots of products down the-

S-OW1 W-ER0 AO1-L F-ER1-S T-AH0-N-D F-AO1-R M-OW2-S-T D-IH0 P-EH1-N D-AH0-N T-AA1 N-L-AA1-T S-AH1-V P-R-AA1 D-AH0-K-T-S D-AW1-N DH-AH0


and then secondarily dependent on people or on the environment or on a-

AH0-N-D DH-EH1-N S-EH2 K-AH0-N D-EH1 R-AH0 L-IY0 D-IH0 P-EH1-N D-AH0-N T-AA1-N P-IY1 P-AH0 L-AO1 R-AA1-N DH-AH0 IH0-N V-AY1 R-AH0-N M-AH0-N T-AO1 R-AA1 N-AH0


on a husband. it's really a false idea because she would be dependent on a corporation-

AA1 N-AH0 HH-AH1-Z B-AH0-N D-IH1-T S-R-IH1 L-IY0 AH0 F-AO1-L S-AY0 D-IY1 AH0 B-IH0 K-AO1-Z SH-IY1 W-UH1-D B-IY1 D-IH0 P-EH1-N D-AH0-N T-AA1 N-AH0 K-AO2-R P-ER0 EY1 SH-AH0-N


and just like people get divorces, people lose-

AH0-N-D JH-AH1-S T-L-AY1-K P-IY1 P-AH0-L G-EH1-T D-IH0 V-AO1-R S-IH0-Z P-IY1 P-AH0-L L-UW1-Z


their jobs, you know? so no one says-

DH-EH1-R JH-AA1-B Z-Y-UW1 N-OW1 S-OW1 N-OW1 W-AH1-N S-EH1-Z


make sure you get a husband who can take care of you because you might lose your job-

M-EY1-K SH-UH1 R-Y-UW1 G-EH1 T-AH0 HH-AH1-Z B-AH0-N-D HH-UW1 K-AE1-N T-EY1-K K-EH1 R-AH1 V-Y-UW1 B-IH0 K-AO1 Z-Y-UW1 M-AY1 T-L-UW1 Z-Y-AO1-R JH-AA1-B


but really it would make just as much sense. people lose their jobs. people get-

B-AH1 T-R-IH1 L-IY0 IH1 T-W-UH1 D-M-EY1-K JH-AH1-S T-AE1 Z-M-AH1-CH S-EH1-N-S P-IY1 P-AH0-L L-UW1-Z DH-EH1-R JH-AA1-B-Z P-IY1 P-AH0-L G-EH1-T


divorced. one is probably not more likely than the other.

D-IH0 V-AO1-R-S T-W-AH1 N-IH1-Z P-R-AA1 B-AH0 B-L-IY0 N-AA1 T-M-AO1-R L-AY1 K-L-IY0 DH-AE1-N DH-AH0 AH1 DH-ER0


i said encouraging our daughters to be independent which-

AY1 S-EH1 D-EH0-N K-ER1 IH0 JH-IH0 NG-AW1 ER0 D-AO1 T-ER0-Z T-UW1 B-IY1 IH2-N D-IH0 P-EH1-N D-AH0-N T-W-IH1-CH


and reality is being dependent on a corporation to fulfill her needs instead of her husband. we are also treating divorce as a passive occurrence. so-

AH0-N D-R-IY0 AE1 L-AH0 T-IY0 IH1-Z B-IY1 IH0-NG D-IH0 P-EH1-N D-AH0-N T-AA1 N-AH0 K-AO2-R P-ER0 EY1 SH-AH0-N T-UW1 F-UH0-L F-IH1-L HH-ER0 N-IY1-D Z-IH0-N-S T-EH1 D-AH1-V HH-ER0 HH-AH1-Z B-AH0-N D-W-IY1 AA1 R-AO1-L S-OW0 T-R-IY1 T-IH0-NG D-IH0 V-AO1-R S-AE1 Z-AH0 P-AE1 S-IH0 V-AH0 K-ER1 AH0-N-S S-OW1


the reality is that when people get divorced, it's for a-

DH-AH0 R-IY0 AE1 L-AH0 T-IY0 IH1-Z DH-AE1 T-W-EH1-N P-IY1 P-AH0-L G-EH1-T D-IH0 V-AO1-R-S T-IH1-T-S F-AO1 R-AH0


i think the next episode-

AY1 TH-IH1-NG-K DH-AH0 N-EH1-K-S T-EH1 P-AH0 S-OW2-D


we expect to not have such high divorce rate-

W-IY1 IH0-K-S P-EH1-K-T T-UW1 N-AA1-T HH-AE1-V S-AH1-CH HH-AY1 D-IH0 V-AO1-R S-R-EY1-T


10 or more. 10 or more years of our lives in school-

T-EH1 N-AO1-R M-AO1-R T-EH1 N-AO1-R M-AO1 R-Y-IH1-R Z-AH1 V-AW1 ER0 L-IH1-V Z-IH0-N-S K-UW1-L


you also learn for the sake of learning, and being a better person-

Y-UW1 AO1-L S-OW0 L-ER1-N F-AO1-R DH-AH0 S-EY1 K-AH1 V-L-ER1 N-IH0 NG-AH0-N-D B-IY1 IH0 NG-AH0 B-EH1 T-ER0 P-ER1 S-AH0-N


and having knowledge, but a lot of our-

AH0-N-D HH-AE1 V-IH0-NG N-AA1 L-AH0-JH B-AH1 T-AH0 L-AA1 T-AH1 V-AW1 ER0


at all. if we had those kinds of pro-

AE1 T-AO1 L-IH1 F-W-IY1 HH-AE1-D DH-OW1-Z K-AY1-N-D Z-AH1-V P-R-OW1


young in our late teenage years or early twenties-

Y-AH1 NG-IH0 N-AW1 ER0 L-EY1-T T-IY1 N-EY2 JH-Y-IH1-R Z-AO1 R-ER1 L-IY0 T-W-EH1-N T-IY0-Z


so maybe three books in one class-

S-OW1 M-EY1 B-IY0 TH-R-IY1 B-UH1-K S-IH0 N-W-AH1-N K-L-AE1-S


reality. why don't we take it seri-

R-IY0 AE1 L-AH0 T-IY0 W-AY1 D-AA1-N T-W-IY1 T-EY1 K-IH1-T S-IH1 R-IY0


seriously. why don't we take it seriously enough to have one-year courses or one- or two-years of schooling just to teach us-

S-IH1 R-IY0 AH0 S-L-IY0 W-AY1 D-AA1-N T-W-IY1 T-EY1 K-IH1-T S-IH1 R-IY0 AH0 S-L-IY0 IH0 N-AH1-F T-UW1 HH-AE1 V-W-AH1 N-Y-IH1-R K-AO1-R S-AH0 Z-AO1 R-W-AH1 N-AO1-R T-W-IY0 AA1 R-IY0 Z-AH1-V-S K-UW1 L-IH0-NG JH-AH1-S-T T-UW1 T-IY1 CH-AH1-S


how to be married? because marriage is so valuable. it's a foundation for the family-

HH-AW1 T-UW1 B-IY1 M-EH1 R-IY0-D B-IH0 K-AO1 Z-M-EH1 R-IH0 JH-IH1-Z S-OW1 V-AE1 L-Y-AH0 B-AH0 L-IH1-T S-AH0 F-AW0-N D-EY1 SH-AH0-N F-AO1-R DH-AH0 F-AE1 M-AH0 L-IY0


other part, just because you have a job that doesn't mean that you learn how to provide for someone else. it doesn't mean that you-

AH1 DH-ER0 P-AA1-R-T JH-AH1-S-T B-IH0 K-AO1 Z-Y-UW1 HH-AE1 V-AH0 JH-AA1-B DH-AE1-T D-OW1 S-AH0-N T-M-IY1-N DH-AE1 T-Y-UW1 L-ER1-N HH-AW1 T-UW1 P-R-AH0 V-AY1-D F-AO1-R S-AH1 M-W-AH2 N-EH1-L S-IH1-T D-OW1 S-AH0-N T-M-IY1-N DH-AE1 T-Y-UW1


know what responsibility is, how to put others before yourself, how to take care of the-

N-OW1 W-AH1 T-R-IY0-S P-AA2-N S-AH0 B-IH1 L-AH0 T-IY0 IH1-Z HH-AW1 T-UW1 P-UH1 T-AH1 DH-ER0-Z B-IH0 F-AO1 R-Y-ER0 S-EH1-L-F HH-AW1 T-UW1 T-EY1-K K-EH1 R-AH1-V DH-AH0


household. they really-


before yourself, how to have ethics, why to even care, why to take care of-

B-IH0 F-AO1 R-Y-ER0 S-EH1-L-F HH-AW1 T-UW1 HH-AE1 V-EH1 TH-IH0-K S-W-AY1 T-UW1 IY1 V-IH0-N K-EH1 R-W-AY1 T-UW1 T-EY1-K K-EH1 R-AH1-V


family. a lot of men don't have that. that's why i've had-

F-AE1 M-AH0 L-IY0 AH0 L-AA1 T-AH1 V-M-EH1-N D-AA1-N-T HH-AE1-V DH-AE1-T TH-AE1-T S-W-AY1 AY1-V HH-AE1-D


unfortunately so many debates with men and i would fight this is one of the reasons-

AH0-N F-AO1-R CH-AH0 N-AH0 T-L-IY0 S-OW1 M-EH1 N-IY0 D-AH0 B-EY1-T S-W-IH1 DH-M-EH1 N-AH0-N D-AY1 W-UH1-D F-AY1-T DH-IH1 S-IH1 Z-W-AH1 N-AH1-V DH-AH0 R-IY1 Z-AH0-N-Z


i almost hope that even if i put something again, related to men maintaining women-

AY1 AO1-L M-OW2-S-T HH-OW1-P DH-AE1 T-IY1 V-IH0 N-IH1 F-AY1 P-UH1-T S-AH1-M TH-IH0 NG-AH0 G-EH1 N-R-IH0 L-EY1 T-IH0-D T-UW1 M-EH1-N M-EY0-N T-EY1 N-IH0 NG-W-IH1 M-AH0-N


online, i think i will completely refrain from the debate because it actually makes me sad. and in a sense, because-

AO1 N-L-AY2 N-AY1 TH-IH1-NG K-AY1 W-IH1-L K-AH0-M P-L-IY1 T-L-IY0 R-IH0 F-R-EY1-N F-R-AH1-M DH-AH0 D-AH0 B-EY1-T B-IH0 K-AO1 Z-IH1 T-AE1-K CH-AH0 W-AH0 L-IY0 M-EY1-K S-M-IY1 S-AE1 D-AH0-N D-IH0 N-AH0 S-EH1-N-S B-IH0 K-AO1-Z


this is not only the responsibility of-

DH-IH1 S-IH1 Z-N-AA1 T-OW1 N-L-IY0 DH-AH0 R-IY0-S P-AA2-N S-AH0 B-IH1 L-AH0 T-IY0 AH1-V


us, our not so distant past. men felt a lot of honor about being able to take care of their family. and now you have men who... there was some meme i saw-

AH1 S-AW1 ER0 N-AA1-T S-OW1 D-IH1-S T-AH0-N-T P-AE1-S T-M-EH1-N F-EH1-L T-AH0 L-AA1 T-AH1 V-AA1 N-ER0 AH0 B-AW1-T B-IY1 IH0 NG-EY1 B-AH0-L T-UW1 T-EY1-K K-EH1 R-AH1-V DH-EH1-R F-AE1 M-AH0 L-IY0 AH0-N D-N-AW1 Y-UW1 HH-AE1 V-M-EH1-N HH-UW1 DH-EH1 R-W-AA1-Z S-AH1-M M-EH1 M-AY1 S-AO1


that said, "a woman without a job is a bill," that basically saying-

DH-AE1-T S-EH1 D-AH0 W-UH1 M-AH0 N-W-IH0 TH-AW1 T-AH0 JH-AA1 B-IH1 Z-AH0 B-IH1-L DH-AE1-T B-EY1 S-IH0 K-L-IY0 S-EY1 IH0-NG


that basically, if you're with a woman, for a man, who does not have a job-

DH-AE1-T B-EY1 S-IH0 K-L-IY0 IH1 F-Y-UH1 R-W-IH1 DH-AH0 W-UH1 M-AH0-N F-AO1 R-AH0 M-AE1-N HH-UW1 D-AH1 Z-N-AA1-T HH-AE1 V-AH0 JH-AA1-B


that she's dead weight, she's useless and valid-

DH-AE1-T SH-EH1-S D-EH1 D-W-EY1-T SH-EH1 S-Y-UW1 S-L-AH0 S-AH0-N-D V-AE1 L-AH0-D


there are a lot of men that think that, believe this in our times-

DH-EH1 R-AA1 R-AH0 L-AA1 T-AH1 V-M-EH1-N DH-AE1-T TH-IH1-NG-K DH-AE1-T B-IH0 L-IY1-V DH-IH1 S-IH0 N-AW1 ER0 T-AY1-M-Z


we have so many songs about men who liked women who were independent and that kind of thing-

W-IY1 HH-AE1-V S-OW1 M-EH1 N-IY0 S-AO1-NG Z-AH0 B-AW1 T-M-EH1-N HH-UW1 L-AY1-K T-W-IH1 M-AH0-N HH-UW1 W-ER0 IH2-N D-IH0 P-EH1-N D-AH0-N T-AH0-N-D DH-AE1-T K-AY1-N D-AH1-V TH-IH1-NG


and it's very interesting because you have to wonder-

AH0-N D-IH1-T-S V-EH1 R-IY0 IH1-N T-R-AH0-S T-IH0-NG B-IH0 K-AO1 Z-Y-UW1 HH-AE1-V T-UW1 W-AH1-N D-ER0


where did men lose that pride? and i'm part of it. maybe-

W-EH1-R D-IH1 D-M-EH1 N-L-UW1-Z DH-AE1-T P-R-AY1 D-AH0-N D-IH1-M P-AA1-R T-AH1 V-IH1 T-M-EY1 B-IY0


the fact women started working, so now it's not a distinctly masculine thing to work and take care of a family-

DH-AH0 F-AE1-K T-W-IH1 M-AH0-N-S T-AA1-R T-AH0 D-W-ER1 K-IH0-NG S-OW1 N-AW1 IH1-T S-N-AA1 T-AH0 D-IH0-S T-IH1-NG-K T-L-IY0 M-AE1-S K-Y-AH0 L-AH0-N TH-IH1-NG T-UW1 W-ER1 K-AH0-N-D T-EY1-K K-EH1 R-AH1 V-AH0 F-AE1 M-AH0 L-IY0


obviously a part of it could be the breakdown in the family that happened in the seventies. so there weren't a lot of men even there to teach their sons-

AA1-B V-IY0 AH0 S-L-IY0 AH0 P-AA1-R T-AH1 V-IH1-T K-UH1-D B-IY1 DH-AH0 B-R-EY1-K D-AW2 N-IH0-N DH-AH0 F-AE1 M-AH0 L-IY0 DH-AE1-T HH-AE1 P-AH0-N D-IH0-N DH-AH0 S-EH1 V-AH0-N T-IY0-Z S-OW1 DH-EH1 R-W-EH1 R-AH0-N T-AH0 L-AA1 T-AH1 V-M-EH1 N-IY1 V-IH0-N DH-EH1-R T-UW1 T-IY1-CH DH-EH1-R S-AH1-N-Z


or even there to be an example of a man take-

AO1 R-IY1 V-IH0-N DH-EH1-R T-UW1 B-IY1 AE1 N-IH0-G Z-AE1-M P-AH0 L-AH1 V-AH0 M-AE1-N T-EY1-K


i'm not immune to this at all. then we have this idea that basically-

IH1-M N-AA1 T-IH0 M-Y-UW1-N T-UW1 DH-IH1 S-AE1 T-AO1-L DH-EH1 N-W-IY1 HH-AE1-V DH-IH1 S-AY0 D-IY1 AH0 DH-AE1-T B-EY1 S-IH0 K-L-IY0


the marriage will go smoothly. and once you're not, then well break up because that's what marriage is all about-

DH-AH0 M-EH1 R-IH0 JH-W-IH1-L G-OW1 S-M-UW1 DH-L-IY0 AH0-N D-W-AH1-N S-Y-UH1-R N-AA1-T DH-EH1 N-W-EH1-L B-R-EY1 K-AH1-P B-IH0 K-AO1-Z TH-AE1-T S-W-AH1 T-M-EH1 R-IH0 JH-IH1 Z-AO1 L-AH0 B-AW1-T


and so we don't put the time and attention and the strength into-

AH0-N-D S-OW1 W-IY1 D-AA1-N-T P-UH1-T DH-AH0 T-AY1 M-AH0-N D-AH0 T-EH1-N SH-AH0 N-AH0-N-D DH-AH0-S T-R-EH1-NG-K TH-IH0-N T-UW1


or teach people, how to have strength into keeping-

AO1-R T-IY1-CH P-IY1 P-AH0-L HH-AW1 T-UW1 HH-AE1-V-S T-R-EH1-NG-K TH-IH0-N T-UW1 K-IY1 P-IH0-NG


keeping the marriage together-

K-IY1 P-IH0-NG DH-AH0 M-EH1 R-IH0-JH T-AH0 G-EH1 DH-ER0


but also what i'll talk about in the next episode is-

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prerequisite is love. i think that is precisely what ruins a lot of our marriages because you get married-

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and you realize, all love is-

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just a basic skillset into our marriages. we would be a lot better prepared. like for example, i think that a lot-

JH-AH1-S T-AH0 B-EY1 S-IH0-K-S K-IH1-L-S T-IH0-N T-UW1 AW1 ER0 M-EH1 R-IH0 JH-IH0 Z-W-IY1 W-UH1-D B-IY1 AH0 L-AA1-T B-EH1 T-ER0 P-R-IY0 P-EH1-R D-L-AY1-K F-AO1 R-IH0-G Z-AE1-M P-AH0 L-AY1 TH-IH1-NG-K DH-AE1 T-AH0 L-AA1-T


we can all share the cooking cleaning. and the reality is that a lot of men still value that. a lot of men-

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expect to come home to a home-cooked meal. now, to me if you are work-

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be yours, kind of naturally, if you're home-

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but any way, i think that to me a lot of women don't learn-

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something that a lot of men don't realize is that a lot of women still want a provider. and that means even if she does work. so women-

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tend to marry, tend to want to marry men who make more than them-

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i may not be able to link it, but-

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so this idea of men being provider-

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and the man's idea of a woman being-

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these are just a couple practical ideas-

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spoke about in detail is to actually try and teach our daughters how to have-

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good marriages and, i don't know, it would be wonderful-

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the nation of islam had courses like this. and as i've said before-

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it's unfortunate that a lot of muslims, black muslims in particular-

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what have we done for our community. i mean-

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you know, i wasn't alive when the noa was strong, i know-

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i know that if you look back 50 years from now-

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what have we done for our community? even-

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what's happening. i'm just sort of putting the idea out there and others have as well. and i know that some-

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communities, i'm sure, to have-

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more global to create some kind of model, some kind of prophetic model, whatever-

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you want to call it, that we'll teach-

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to be married at the most basic level. and what i mean by that is that teaching-

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take honor and pride in providing for their family, etcetera-

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course will teach how to more practical, not more practical, teaching practical skills

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like how to financially run a household. so maybe how to budget, how to deal with emotional issues, etcetera-

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just things that would prepare people to-

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because at this point we just don't. as people from my generation, probably the-

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we'll be married for 50, 60, 70 years until death do them part. whereas-

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for people in my generation and as i spoke about in the blog post-

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so i think the more divorce that we see around, the more that it becomes an option, the more that it becomes easier to not work things-

S-OW1 AY1 TH-IH1-NG-K DH-AH0 M-AO1-R D-IH0 V-AO1-R-S DH-AE1 T-W-IY1 S-IY1 ER0 AW1-N-D DH-AH0 M-AO1-R DH-AE1 T-IH1-T B-IH0 K-AH1-M Z-AE1 N-AA1-P SH-AH0-N DH-AH0 M-AO1-R DH-AE1 T-IH1-T B-IH0 K-AH1-M Z-IY1 Z-IY0 ER0 T-UW1 N-AA1 T-W-ER1-K TH-IH1-NG-Z


... obtain any skill set, you read a few books, if you're fortunate-

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... most of which are not really preparing for anything, but it's just to have some common knowledge in society-

M-OW1-S T-AH1 V-W-IH1 CH-AA1-R N-AA1 T-R-IH1 L-IY0 P-R-IY0 P-EH1 R-IH0-NG F-AO1 R-EH1 N-IY0 TH-IH2-NG B-AH1 T-IH1-T-S JH-AH1-S-T T-UW1 HH-AE1-V S-AH1-M K-AA1 M-AH0-N N-AA1 L-AH0 JH-IH0-N S-AH0 S-AY1 AH0 T-IY0


... job? even if you want to just look at the four years we spend in undergraduate,-

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... you could go to a higher level. even if you want to look-

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... [inaudible 00:00:38] that, that was a valuable part of life, and somehow try to train them to-

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... our daughters and sons, but we're just talking about daughters in particular.

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if we're fearing divorce, why not focus on trying to be married as best as possible, and before that-

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... focusing on who to marry.

F-OW1 K-AH0 S-IH0 NG-AA1-N HH-UW1 T-UW1 M-EH1 R-IY0


and this ties into what i was saying before about teaching-

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... our daughters how to be-

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... wives as an actual skill-

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for example, i think a lot of the times we think that modernity has saved us from a lot of things that house-

F-AO1 R-IH0-G Z-AE1-M P-AH0 L-AY1 TH-IH1-NG K-AH0 L-AA1 T-AH1-V DH-AH0 T-AY1-M Z-W-IY1 TH-IH1-NG-K DH-AE1 T-M-AA0 D-ER1 N-AH0 T-IY0 HH-AE1-Z S-EY1-V D-AH1-S F-R-AH1 M-AH0 L-AA1 T-AH1-V TH-IH1-NG-Z DH-AE1-T HH-AW1-S


... wives would have done in the past, or that the role of a housewife is not as valuable. but i think in some-

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... that modernity hasn't improved our lives in a lot of-

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... ways. it may have made things faster and cheaper-

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... but it hasn't made it-

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fast food or fast clothes, and many other things. the-

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... quality is not high-end. workers are getting paid poor wages. the food is making-

K-W-AA1 L-AH0 T-IY0 IH1 Z-N-AA1-T HH-AY1 AH0-N D-W-ER1 K-ER0 Z-AA1-R G-EH1 T-IH0-NG P-EY1-D P-UH1 R-W-EY1 JH-AH0-Z DH-AH0 F-UW1 D-IH1 Z-M-EY1 K-IH0-NG


... home-cooked meals, then that is a wonderful skill set to offer.

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... is making the money. does it make him-

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... she can also add value with her warmth, her-

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... spirit, her cooking, her organizing, her child-rearing in taking care of the kids.

S-P-IH1 R-AH0-T HH-ER0 K-UH1 K-IH0-NG HH-ER0 AO1-R G-AH0 N-AY2 Z-IH0-NG HH-ER0 CH-IH1-L D-R-IY0 IH0 NG-IH0-N T-EY1 K-IH0-NG K-EH1 R-AH1-V DH-AH0 K-IH1-D-Z


and she shouldn't see herself, and we shouldn't see women as they are dependent, and the man as independent, because he has a job.

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and thank you for listening. take care.

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hello, and welcome to in the days of [nor 00:02:41], with me, nor, where we talk about islamic-related topics and social issues.

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today we're going to be discussing the topic of domestic violence.

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he has a blog called abu amina-

HH-IY1 HH-AE1 Z-AH0 B-L-AA1-G K-AO1-L D-AE1 B-UW0 AA0 M-IY1 N-AH0


[inaudible 00:03:00] one because it's more common that men physically abuse women, as well as it being more dangerous, and-

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... easy for a woman too, but it's just a bit more straightforward. so, if a woman was to hit her husband, it'd be very easy for him to leave that relationship-

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... habiba bint sahl reported, she was the wife of thabit ibn qays,-

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... i think it's pronounced. and in the morning-

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... she said, "i am habiba bint sahl"-

SH-IY1 S-EH1 D-AY1 AE1-M HH-AA0 B-IY1 B-AH0 B-IH1-N-T S-AA1-L


... the prophet, excuse me, habiba bint sahl... the prophet said-

DH-AH0 P-R-AA1 F-AH0 T-IH0-K-S K-Y-UW1 S-M-IY1 HH-AA0 B-IY1 B-AH0 B-IH1-N-T S-AA1-L DH-AH0 P-R-AA1 F-AH0-T S-EH1-D


... "this is habiba", and she has mentioned whatever alliance will fail to mention.

DH-IH1 S-IH1-Z HH-AA0 B-IY1 B-AH0 AH0-N-D SH-IY1 HH-AE1 Z-M-EH1-N SH-AH0-N D-W-AH2 T-EH1 V-ER0 AH0 L-AY1 AH0-N S-W-IH1-L F-EY1-L T-UW1 M-EH1-N SH-AH0-N


[inaudible 00:03:58] i hope i can find it quickly. okay.

IH0 N-AO1 D-AH0 B-AH0-L Z-IH1 R-OW0 AW1 ER0-Z TH-R-IY1 M-IH1 N-AH0-T S-AH0-N-D F-IH1-F T-IY0 EY1-T S-EH1 K-AH0-N-D Z-AY1 HH-OW1 P-AY1 K-AE1-N F-AY1-N D-IH1-T K-W-IH1 K-L-IY0 OW2 K-EY1


thabit [inaudible 00:04:13] and said "thabit and i can no longer be married."

TH-AE1 B-IH0 T-IH0 N-AO1 D-AH0 B-AH0-L Z-IH1 R-OW0 AW1 ER0-Z F-AO1-R M-IH1 N-AH0-T S-AH0-N-D TH-ER1 T-IY1-N S-EH1 K-AH0-N-D Z-AH0-N-D S-EH1-D TH-AE1 B-IH0 T-AH0-N D-AY1 K-AE1-N N-OW1 L-AO1-NG G-ER0 B-IY1 M-EH1 R-IY0-D


thabit take what she owes you and let her go.

TH-AE1 B-IH0-T T-EY1 K-W-AH1-T SH-IY1 OW1 Z-Y-UW1 AH0-N D-L-EH1-T HH-ER0 G-OW1


so in this hadith we see-

S-OW1 IH0-N DH-IH1-S HH-AE1 D-IH0 TH-W-IY1 S-IY1


it seems, just from the hadith that it was one blow, whatever it was, a punch or-

IH1-T S-IY1-M-Z JH-AH1-S-T F-R-AH1-M DH-AH0 HH-AE1 D-IH0-TH DH-AE1 T-IH1 T-W-AA1 Z-W-AH1-N B-L-OW1 W-AH2 T-EH1 V-ER0 IH1 T-W-AA1 Z-AH0 P-AH1-N CH-AO1-R


... hit, he could divorce. it may not be the case, that may not be the case-

HH-IH1-T HH-IY1 K-UH1-D D-IH0 V-AO1-R S-IH1 T-M-EY1 N-AA1-T B-IY1 DH-AH0 K-EY1-S DH-AE1 T-M-EY1 N-AA1-T B-IY1 DH-AH0 K-EY1-S


... for what it appears in the hadith, but what is clear is that there was some-

F-AO1 R-W-AH1 T-IH1 T-AH0 P-IH1-R Z-IH0-N DH-AH0 HH-AE1 D-IH0-TH B-AH1 T-W-AH1 T-IH1-Z K-L-IH1 R-IH1-Z DH-AE1-T DH-EH1 R-W-AA1-Z S-AH1-M


... harm of some kind, some kind of physical harm-

HH-AA1-R M-AH1-V S-AH1-M K-AY1-N-D S-AH1-M K-AY1-N D-AH1-V F-IH1 Z-IH0 K-AH0-L HH-AA1-R-M


... salam allowed her to be divorced from her husband without any complication from the hadith. that's what appears to be the case.

S-AA0 L-AA1 M-AH0 L-AW1-D HH-ER0 T-UW1 B-IY1 D-IH0 V-AO1-R-S-T F-R-AH1-M HH-ER0 HH-AH1-Z B-AH0-N D-W-IH0 TH-AW1 T-EH1 N-IY0 K-AA2-M P-L-AH0 K-EY1 SH-AH0-N F-R-AH1-M DH-AH0 HH-AE1 D-IH0-TH TH-AE1-T S-W-AH1 T-AH0 P-IH1-R-Z T-UW1 B-IY1 DH-AH0 K-EY1-S


the first thing i-


... want to say is that-


... to be able to realize that this religion is not meant to-

T-UW1 B-IY1 EY1 B-AH0-L T-UW1 R-IY1 L-AY2-Z DH-AE1-T DH-IH1 S-R-IH0 L-IH1 JH-AH0 N-IH1 Z-N-AA1 T-M-EH1-N-T T-UW1


... oppress anyone. no one is supposed to be oppressed in this-

AH0 P-R-EH1 S-EH1 N-IY0 W-AH2-N N-OW1 W-AH1 N-IH1-Z S-AH0 P-OW1-Z-D T-UW1 B-IY1 AH0 P-R-EH1-S T-IH0-N DH-IH1-S


... religion. so even while men may have the upper hand-

R-IH0 L-IH1 JH-AH0-N S-OW1 IY1 V-IH0 N-W-AY1-L M-EH1-N M-EY1 HH-AE1-V DH-AH0 AH1 P-ER0 HH-AE1-N-D


... in some things, women may have the upper hand in some things,

IH0-N S-AH1-M TH-IH1-NG Z-W-IH1 M-AH0-N M-EY1 HH-AE1-V DH-AH0 AH1 P-ER0 HH-AE1-N D-IH0-N S-AH1-M TH-IH1-NG-Z


no one is meant to be oppressed by this religion. so if you're-

N-OW1 W-AH1 N-IH1 Z-M-EH1-N-T T-UW1 B-IY1 AH0 P-R-EH1-S-T B-AY1 DH-IH1 S-R-IH0 L-IH1 JH-AH0-N S-OW1 IH1 F-Y-UH1-R


... it's a bit more difficult for women to get a divorce than men.

IH1-T S-AH0 B-IH1 T-M-AO1-R D-IH1 F-AH0 K-AH0-L-T F-AO1 R-W-IH1 M-AH0-N T-UW1 G-EH1 T-AH0 D-IH0 V-AO1-R-S DH-AE1-N M-EH1-N


today i don't have it with me, in front of-

T-AH0 D-EY1 AY1 D-AA1-N-T HH-AE1 V-IH1 T-W-IH1 DH-M-IY1 IH0-N F-R-AH1-N T-AH1-V


... me, but insha allah to allah, i will find it and link it in the description.

M-IY1 B-AH1 T-IH1-N SH-AH0 AA1 L-AH0 T-UW1 AA1 L-AH0 AY1 W-IH1-L F-AY1-N D-IH1 T-AH0-N D-L-IH1-NG K-IH1 T-IH0-N DH-AH0 D-IH0-S K-R-IH1-P SH-AH0-N


there was another really famous case of a woman who didn't want to be with her husband. it wasn't explicitly-

DH-EH1 R-W-AA1 Z-AH0 N-AH1 DH-ER0 R-IH1 L-IY0 F-EY1 M-AH0-S K-EY1 S-AH1 V-AH0 W-UH1 M-AH0-N HH-UW1 D-IH1 D-AH0-N T-W-AA1-N-T T-UW1 B-IY1 W-IH1-DH HH-ER0 HH-AH1-Z B-AH0-N D-IH1 T-W-AO1-S T-IH0-K-S P-L-IH1 S-AH0 T-L-IY0


... with his wife, but she didn't want to be with him. and so the prophets [inaudible 00:06:12] actually interceded on his behalf and said, "you know why-

W-IH1-DH HH-IH1 Z-W-AY1-F B-AH1-T SH-IY1 D-IH1 D-AH0-N T-W-AA1-N-T T-UW1 B-IY1 W-IH1-DH HH-IH1 M-AH0-N-D S-OW1 DH-AH0 P-R-AA1 F-AH0-T S-IH0 N-AO1 D-AH0 B-AH0-L Z-IH1 R-OW0 AW1 ER0-Z S-IH1-K S-M-IH1 N-AH0-T S-AH0-N-D T-W-EH1-L-V S-EH1 K-AH0-N-D Z-AE1-K CH-AH0 W-AH0 L-IY0 IH2-N T-ER0 S-IY1 D-IH0 D-AA1-N HH-IH1-Z B-IH0 HH-AE1 F-AH0-N-D S-EH1 D-Y-UW1 N-OW1 W-AY1


... something like, "why don't you want to make it work with your husband?"

S-AH1-M TH-IH0 NG-L-AY1 K-W-AY1 D-AA1-N T-Y-UW1 W-AA1-N-T T-UW1 M-EY1 K-IH1 T-W-ER1 K-W-IH1 DH-Y-AO1-R HH-AH1-Z B-AH0-N-D


she asks, which is such a beautiful line, so many beautiful-

SH-IY1 AE1-S-K S-W-IH1 CH-IH1-Z S-AH1 CH-AH0 B-Y-UW1 T-AH0 F-AH0-L L-AY1-N S-OW1 M-EH1 N-IY0 B-Y-UW1 T-AH0 F-AH0-L


... "are you commanding me to remain married to my husband?"-

AA1 R-Y-UW1 K-AH0 M-AE1-N D-IH0-NG M-IY1 T-UW1 R-IH0 M-EY1-N M-EH1 R-IY0-D T-UW1 M-AY1 HH-AH1-Z B-AH0-N-D


... explained, i've never heard anyone say why she didn't want to be with him. so we-

IH0-K-S P-L-EY1-N D-AY1 V-N-EH1 V-ER0 HH-ER1 D-EH1 N-IY0 W-AH2-N S-EY1 W-AY1 SH-IY1 D-IH1 D-AH0-N T-W-AA1-N-T T-UW1 B-IY1 W-IH1-DH HH-IH1-M S-OW1 W-IY1


... don't know, is there abuse or was there just a loss of love or something else we don't know,

D-AA1-N T-N-OW1 IH1-Z DH-EH1 R-AH0 B-Y-UW1 S-AO1 R-W-AA1-Z DH-EH1-R JH-AH1-S T-AH0 L-AO1 S-AH1 V-L-AH1 V-AO1-R S-AH1-M TH-IH0 NG-EH1-L S-W-IY1 D-AA1-N T-N-OW1


eventhough he felt bad for the man, and interceded on his behalf, did not force her and did not make it difficult for her to get a divorce. so i don't-

EH1 V-AH0-N TH-UW2 HH-IY1 F-EH1-L-T B-AE1-D F-AO1-R DH-AH0 M-AE1 N-AH0-N D-IH2-N T-ER0 S-IY1 D-IH0 D-AA1-N HH-IH1-Z B-IH0 HH-AE1-F D-IH1 D-N-AA1-T F-AO1-R-S HH-ER0 AH0-N-D D-IH1 D-N-AA1 T-M-EY1 K-IH1-T D-IH1 F-AH0 K-AH0-L-T F-AO1-R HH-ER0 T-UW1 G-EH1 T-AH0 D-IH0 V-AO1-R-S S-OW1 AY1 D-AA1-N-T


... give us a strong-


... what we see in both cases are women who make it very clear. they do not want to be with their -

W-AH1 T-W-IY1 S-IY1 IH0-N B-OW1-TH K-EY1 S-AH0 Z-AA1 R-W-IH1 M-AH0-N HH-UW1 M-EY1 K-IH1-T V-EH1 R-IY0 K-L-IH1-R DH-EY1 D-UW1 N-AA1 T-W-AA1-N-T T-UW1 B-IY1 W-IH1-DH DH-EH1-R


...husband. so i think it's, it's just important to say women have the right to leave an abusive husband.

HH-AH1-Z B-AH0-N-D S-OW1 AY1 TH-IH1-NG K-IH1-T S-IH1-T-S JH-AH1-S T-IH0-M P-AO1-R T-AH0-N-T T-UW1 S-EY1 W-IH1 M-AH0-N HH-AE1-V DH-AH0 R-AY1-T T-UW1 L-IY1 V-AE1 N-AH0 B-Y-UW1 S-IH0-V HH-AH1-Z B-AH0-N-D


my [sheikh 00:07:15] saying that if a man was driving a woman crazy and you know, he did-

M-AY1 SH-IY1-K Z-IH1 R-OW0 AW1 ER0-Z S-EH1 V-AH0-N M-IH1 N-AH0-T S-AH0-N-D F-IH0-F T-IY1-N S-EH1 K-AH0-N-D-Z S-EY1 IH0-NG DH-AE1 T-IH1 F-AH0 M-AE1 N-W-AA1-Z D-R-AY1 V-IH0 NG-AH0 W-UH1 M-AH0-N K-R-EY1 Z-IY0 AH0-N D-Y-UW1 N-OW1 HH-IY1 D-IH1-D


questions, but he said that she has a right to leave him. so if-

K-W-EH1-S CH-AH0-N-Z B-AH1-T HH-IY1 S-EH1-D DH-AE1-T SH-IY1 HH-AE1 Z-AH0 R-AY1-T T-UW1 L-IY1-V HH-IH1-M S-OW1 IH1-F


... he's just, you know, whatever, either he's lost his mind or he's physically beating her up or whatever, no muslim must stay in an-

HH-IY1-Z JH-AH1-S T-Y-UW1 N-OW1 W-AH2 T-EH1 V-ER0 IY1 DH-ER0 HH-IY1 Z-L-AO1-S-T HH-IH1 Z-M-AY1-N D-AO1-R HH-IY1-Z F-IH1 Z-IH0 K-AH0 L-IY0 B-IY1 T-IH0-NG HH-ER0 AH1 P-AO1 R-W-AH2 T-EH1 V-ER0 N-OW1 M-AH1 Z-L-AH0-M M-AH1-S-T-S T-EY1 IH0 N-AE1-N


... have to have some... we have to be in touch with our fitrat to some degree. and the-

HH-AE1-V T-UW1 HH-AE1-V S-AH1 M-W-IY1 HH-AE1-V T-UW1 B-IY1 IH0-N T-AH1 CH-W-IH1 DH-AW1 ER0 F-AY1 T-R-AE2-T T-UW1 S-AH1-M D-IH0 G-R-IY1 AH0-N-D DH-AH0


... to me and what i've heard, at least one of my sheik say, if any of those situations,

T-UW1 M-IY1 AH0-N D-W-AH1 T-AY1-V HH-ER1 D-AE1 T-L-IY1-S T-W-AH1 N-AH1 V-M-AY1 SH-IY1-K S-EY1 IH1 F-EH1 N-IY0 AH1-V DH-OW1-Z S-IH2 CH-UW0 EY1 SH-AH0-N-Z


especially of extreme abuse are happening,

AH0-S P-EH1 SH-L-IY0 AH1 V-IH0-K-S T-R-IY1 M-AH0 B-Y-UW1 S-AA1-R HH-AE1 P-AH0 N-IH0-NG


i think it is far more important to leave immediately and then seek out a sheikh than to wait for-

AY1 TH-IH1-NG K-IH1 T-IH1-Z F-AA1-R M-AO1 R-IH0-M P-AO1-R T-AH0-N-T T-UW1 L-IY1 V-IH0 M-IY1 D-IY0 AH0 T-L-IY0 AH0-N-D DH-EH1-N S-IY1 K-AW1 T-AH0 SH-IY1-K DH-AE1-N T-UW1 W-EY1-T F-AO1-R


... have to live with oppression. and some people may say, well, what-

HH-AE1-V T-UW1 L-AY1 V-W-IH1 DH-AH0 P-R-EH1 SH-AH0 N-AH0-N-D S-AH1-M P-IY1 P-AH0-L M-EY1 S-EY1 W-EH1 L-W-AH1-T


... not, but to me, if your wife gets to a point and we have to emphasize wife again, because it's a lot more straightforward for a man to-

N-AA1-T B-AH1-T T-UW1 M-IY1 IH1 F-Y-AO1 R-W-AY1-F G-EH1-T-S T-UW1 AH0 P-OY1-N T-AH0-N D-W-IY1 HH-AE1-V T-UW1 EH1-M F-AH0 S-AY2 Z-W-AY1 F-AH0 G-EH1-N B-IH0 K-AO1 Z-IH1-T S-AH0 L-AA1 T-M-AO1-R-S T-R-EY1-T F-AO1 R-W-ER0-D F-AO1 R-AH0 M-AE1-N T-UW1


... seek a divorce in his home.

S-IY1 K-AH0 D-IH0 V-AO1-R S-IH0-N HH-IH1-Z HH-OW1-M


if your wife does not want to be with you unequivocally. so she's not saying-

IH1 F-Y-AO1 R-W-AY1-F D-AH1 Z-N-AA1 T-W-AA1-N-T T-UW1 B-IY1 W-IH1 DH-Y-UW1 AH2 N-IY0 K-W-IH1 V-AH0 K-AH0 L-IY0 S-OW1 SH-EH1 S-N-AA1-T S-EY1 IH0-NG


... cool for a period of time that she does not want to be with you,

K-UW1-L F-AO1 R-AH0 P-IH1 R-IY0 AH0 D-AH1-V T-AY1-M DH-AE1-T SH-IY1 D-AH1 Z-N-AA1 T-W-AA1-N-T T-UW1 B-IY1 W-IH1 DH-Y-UW1


what is the benefit of holding on to a marriage like that?

W-AH1 T-IH1-Z DH-AH0 B-EH1 N-AH0 F-IH0 T-AH1-V HH-OW1-L D-IH0 NG-AA1-N T-UW1 AH0 M-EH1 R-IH0 JH-L-AY1-K DH-AE1-T


and you know, there's a space-

AH0-N D-Y-UW1 N-OW1 DH-EH1-R Z-AH0-S P-EY1-S


... of who should you give gone to family members.

AH1-V HH-UW1 SH-UH1 D-Y-UW1 G-IH1-V G-AO1-N T-UW1 F-AE1 M-AH0 L-IY0 M-EH1-M B-ER0-Z


we've talked about it, you've done whatever-

W-IY1-V T-AO1-K T-AH0 B-AW1 T-IH1 T-Y-UW1-V D-AH1 N-W-AH2 T-EH1 V-ER0


... you felt was both possible and necessary to make the marriage work,

Y-UW1 F-EH1-L T-W-AA1-Z B-OW1-TH P-AA1 S-AH0 B-AH0 L-AH0-N D-N-EH1 S-AH0 S-EH2 R-IY0 T-UW1 M-EY1-K DH-AH0 M-EH1 R-IH0 JH-W-ER1-K


are you really me that you're just going to trap her into the marriage? just because it's more difficult for her to get a-

AA1 R-Y-UW1 R-IH1 L-IY0 M-IY1 DH-AE1 T-Y-UH1-R JH-AH1-S-T G-OW1 IH0-NG T-UW1 T-R-AE1-P HH-ER0 IH0-N T-UW1 DH-AH0 M-EH1 R-IH0-JH JH-AH1-S-T B-IH0 K-AO1 Z-IH1-T S-M-AO1-R D-IH1 F-AH0 K-AH0-L-T F-AO1-R HH-ER0 T-UW1 G-EH1 T-AH0


... divorce? you're just going to trap her into that marriage?

D-IH0 V-AO1-R S-Y-UH1-R JH-AH1-S-T G-OW1 IH0-NG T-UW1 T-R-AE1-P HH-ER0 IH0-N T-UW1 DH-AE1 T-M-EH1 R-IH0-JH


for what benefit for whose benefit. and then i guess every night.

F-AO1 R-W-AH1-T B-EH1 N-AH0 F-IH0-T F-AO1-R HH-UW1-Z B-EH1 N-AH0 F-IH0 T-AH0-N-D DH-EH1 N-AY1 G-EH1 S-EH1 V-ER0 IY0 N-AY1-T


you're going to force her to sleep with you?

Y-UH1-R G-OW1 IH0-NG T-UW1 F-AO1-R-S HH-ER0 T-UW1 S-L-IY1 P-W-IH1 DH-Y-UW1


what low, how lowly other vision do you have to have for yourself in your own life to think that that's the best you're going to get out of your life, that this is your wife-

W-AH1 T-L-OW1 HH-AW1 L-OW1 L-IY0 AH1 DH-ER0 V-IH1 ZH-AH0-N D-UW1 Y-UW1 HH-AE1-V T-UW1 HH-AE1-V F-AO1 R-Y-ER0 S-EH1-L F-IH0 N-Y-AO1 R-OW1 N-L-AY1-F T-UW1 TH-IH1-NG-K DH-AE1-T TH-AE1-T-S DH-AH0 B-EH1-S T-Y-UH1-R G-OW1 IH0-NG T-UW1 G-EH1 T-AW1 T-AH1 V-Y-AO1-R L-AY1-F DH-AE1-T DH-IH1 S-IH1 Z-Y-AO1 R-W-AY1-F


... now, and maybe you'll never get another wife, maybe-

N-AW1 AH0-N D-M-EY1 B-IY0 Y-UW1-L N-EH1 V-ER0 G-EH1 T-AH0 N-AH1 DH-ER0 W-AY1 F-M-EY1 B-IY0


that's abuse. you should stay in your marriage. and for sure,

TH-AE1-T S-AH0 B-Y-UW1 Z-Y-UW1 SH-UH1-D-S T-EY1 IH0 N-Y-AO1-R M-EH1 R-IH0 JH-AH0-N-D F-AO1-R SH-UH1-R


i'm at this moment-


... i'm talking about women who unequivocally know they want a divorce, not women who are wavering. that's a different case, but-

IH1-M T-AO1 K-IH0 NG-AH0 B-AW1 T-W-IH1 M-AH0-N HH-UW1 AH2 N-IY0 K-W-IH1 V-AH0 K-AH0 L-IY0 N-OW1 DH-EY1 W-AA1-N T-AH0 D-IH0 V-AO1-R S-N-AA1 T-W-IH1 M-AH0-N HH-UW1 AA1 R-W-EY1 V-ER0 IH0-NG TH-AE1-T S-AH0 D-IH1 F-ER0 AH0-N-T K-EY1-S B-AH1-T


...you are sure, you-


want a divorce, you're not putting up with an abusive marriage-

W-AA1-N T-AH0 D-IH0 V-AO1-R S-Y-UH1-R N-AA1-T P-AH1 T-IH0 NG-AH1 P-W-IH1 DH-AE1 N-AH0 B-Y-UW1 S-IH0 V-M-EH1 R-IH0-JH


anymore. whatever abuse means to you, because the funny thing is that assure you or your husband or whoever on the-

EH2 N-IY0 M-AO1 R-W-AH2 T-EH1 V-ER0 AH0 B-Y-UW1 S-M-IY1-N-Z T-UW1 Y-UW1 B-IH0 K-AO1-Z DH-AH0 F-AH1 N-IY0 TH-IH1 NG-IH1-Z DH-AE1 T-AH0 SH-UH1 R-Y-UW1 AO1 R-Y-AO1-R HH-AH1-Z B-AH0-N D-AO1-R HH-UW0 EH1 V-ER0 AA1-N DH-AH0


...outside may say, well, that's not abuse. that's not a big deal.

AW1-T S-AY1 D-M-EY1 S-EY1 W-EH1-L TH-AE1-T S-N-AA1 T-AH0 B-Y-UW1-S TH-AE1-T S-N-AA1 T-AH0 B-IH1-G D-IY1-L


yes. get all the help that you can before you jump to divorce.

Y-EH1-S G-EH1 T-AO1-L DH-AH0 HH-EH1-L-P DH-AE1 T-Y-UW1 K-AE1-N B-IH0 F-AO1 R-Y-UW1 JH-AH1-M-P T-UW1 D-IH0 V-AO1-R-S


but how is that islamic? how does that, that go to the heart of islam in any way? and even fiqh wise-

B-AH1-T HH-AW1 IH1-Z DH-AE1 T-IH0 Z-L-AA1 M-IH0-K HH-AW1 D-AH1-Z DH-AE1-T DH-AE1-T G-OW1 T-UW1 DH-AH0 HH-AA1-R T-AH1 V-IH0 S-L-AA1 M-IH0 N-EH1 N-IY0 W-EY1 AH0-N D-IY1 V-IH0-N F-IH1 K-W-AY1-Z


i mean, fiqh wise, it's a little more defined. so if there is abu-

AY1 M-IY1-N F-IH1 K-W-AY1 Z-IH1-T S-AH0 L-IH1 T-AH0-L M-AO1-R D-IH0 F-AY1-N-D S-OW1 IH1-F DH-EH1 R-IH1 Z-AE1 B-UW0


...physical abuse, i don't know if the fiqh outlines that at all, but actually, that's a good example. so someone may-

F-IH1 Z-IH0 K-AH0 L-AH0 B-Y-UW1 S-AY1 D-AA1-N T-N-OW1 IH1-F DH-AH0 F-IH1 K-AW1 T-L-AY2-N-Z DH-AE1 T-AE1 T-AO1-L B-AH1 T-AE1-K CH-AH0 W-AH0 L-IY0 TH-AE1-T S-AH0 G-UH1 D-IH0-G Z-AE1-M P-AH0-L S-OW1 S-AH1 M-W-AH2-N M-EY1


abuse me, he calls me names-

AH0 B-Y-UW1 S-M-IY1 HH-IY1 K-AO1-L Z-M-IY1 N-EY1-M-Z


does all these things, i'm emotionally abused by him.

D-AH1 Z-AO1-L DH-IY1-Z TH-IH1-NG Z-IH1 M-IH0 M-OW1 SH-N-AH0 L-IY0 AH0 B-Y-UW1-Z-D B-AY1 HH-IH1-M


i put up with this for x number of years.

AY1 P-UH1 T-AH1 P-W-IH1-DH DH-IH1-S F-AO1 R-EH1-K S-N-AH1-M B-ER0 AH1 V-Y-IH1-R-Z


why someone would force a woman to stay in a marriage that she is completely-

W-AY1 S-AH1 M-W-AH2 N-W-UH1-D F-AO1-R S-AH0 W-UH1 M-AH0-N T-UW1-S T-EY1 IH0 N-AH0 M-EH1 R-IH0-JH DH-AE1-T SH-IY1 IH1-Z K-AH0-M P-L-IY1 T-L-IY0


completely done with. we're not talking about a woman who's wavering, a woman who is done with that marriage, who every time she-

K-AH0-M P-L-IY1 T-L-IY0 D-AH1 N-W-IH1 DH-W-ER0 N-AA1-T T-AO1 K-IH0 NG-AH0 B-AW1 T-AH0 W-UH1 M-AH0-N HH-UW1 Z-W-EY1 V-ER0 IH0 NG-AH0 W-UH1 M-AH0-N HH-UW1 IH1-Z D-AH1 N-W-IH1-DH DH-AE1 T-M-EH1 R-IH0-JH HH-UW1 EH1 V-ER0 IY0 T-AY1-M SH-IY1


why would a man want to be in a marriage like that?

W-AY1 W-UH1 D-AH0 M-AE1 N-W-AA1-N-T T-UW1 B-IY1 IH0 N-AH0 M-EH1 R-IH0 JH-L-AY1-K DH-AE1-T


you know, i can't say...


so that like, i cannot say obviously, so just get a divorce, or like, get a divorce in a secular court or something like-

S-OW1 DH-AE1 T-L-AY1 K-AY1 K-AE1 N-AA0-T S-EY1 AA1-B V-IY0 AH0 S-L-IY0 S-OW1 JH-AH1-S-T G-EH1 T-AH0 D-IH0 V-AO1-R S-AO1-R L-AY1-K G-EH1 T-AH0 D-IH0 V-AO1-R S-IH0 N-AH0 S-EH1 K-Y-AH0 L-ER0 K-AO1-R T-AO1-R S-AH1-M TH-IH0 NG-L-AY1-K


i think we have to also be in touch with ourselves. if you're done, you're done.

AY1 TH-IH1-NG K-W-IY1 HH-AE1-V T-UW1 AO1-L S-OW0 B-IY1 IH0-N T-AH1 CH-W-IH1 DH-AW0 ER0 S-EH1-L-V Z-IH1 F-Y-UH1-R D-AH1 N-Y-UH1-R D-AH1-N


why you would make yourself suffer like that?

W-AY1 Y-UW1 W-UH1 D-M-EY1 K-Y-ER0 S-EH1-L-F S-AH1 F-ER0 L-AY1-K DH-AE1-T


i really feel like we have to be in touch with our own selves, and know that as an overarching theme of our faith-

AY1 R-IH1 L-IY0 F-IY1-L L-AY1 K-W-IY1 HH-AE1-V T-UW1 B-IY1 IH0-N T-AH1 CH-W-IH1 DH-AW1 ER0 OW1-N S-EH1-L-V Z-AH0-N D-N-OW1 DH-AE1 T-AE1 Z-AE1 N-OW1 V-ER0 AA2-R CH-IH0-NG TH-IY1 M-AH1 V-AW1 ER0 F-EY1-TH


the woman who is not unequivocal. so...

DH-AH0 W-UH1 M-AH0-N HH-UW1 IH1 Z-N-AA1 T-AH2 N-IH0 K-W-IH1 V-AH0 K-AH0-L S-OW1


by putting forth the hadith, where-

B-AY1 P-AH1 T-IH0-NG F-AO1-R-TH DH-AH0 HH-AE1 D-IH0 TH-W-EH1-R


by her husband, and she requested a divorce-

B-AY1 HH-ER0 HH-AH1-Z B-AH0-N D-AH0-N-D SH-IY1 R-IH0 K-W-EH1-S T-IH0 D-AH0 D-IH0 V-AO1-R-S


he's saying that a woman should leave if there's abuse. i-

HH-IY1-Z S-EY1 IH0-NG DH-AE1 T-AH0 W-UH1 M-AH0-N SH-UH1 D-L-IY1 V-IH1-F DH-EH1-R Z-AH0 B-Y-UW1 Z-AY1


i mean, i don't think she shouldn't leave either. when there's abuse, it-

AY1 M-IY1 N-AY1 D-AA1-N-T TH-IH1-NG-K SH-IY1 SH-OW1-L T-AH0-N T-L-IY1 V-IY1 DH-ER0 W-EH1-N DH-EH1-R Z-AH0 B-Y-UW1 Z-IH1-T


it is always going to be on a case by case basis. now, if it's-

IH1 T-IH1 Z-AO1 L-W-EY2-Z G-OW1 IH0-NG T-UW1 B-IY1 AA1 N-AH0 K-EY1-S B-AY1 K-EY1-S B-EY1 S-AH0 S-N-AW1 IH1 F-IH1-T-S


extreme violence, then i think that-

IH0-K-S T-R-IY1-M V-AY1 AH0 L-AH0-N-S DH-EH1 N-AY1 TH-IH1-NG-K DH-AE1-T


core state should, if your husband is threatening to kill you, if he's beating you up to the point where it shows or it-

K-AO1-R-S T-EY1-T SH-UH1 D-IH1 F-Y-AO1-R HH-AH1-Z B-AH0-N D-IH1-Z TH-R-EH1 T-AH0 N-IH0-NG T-UW1 K-IH1 L-Y-UW1 IH1-F HH-IY1-Z B-IY1 T-IH0 NG-Y-UW1 AH1-P T-UW1 DH-AH0 P-OY1-N T-W-EH1 R-IH1-T SH-OW1 Z-AO1 R-IH1-T


i don't think you need a clear assignment not to leave that kind of marriage.

AY1 D-AA1-N-T TH-IH1-NG K-Y-UW1 N-IY1 D-AH0 K-L-IH1 R-AH0 S-AY1-N M-AH0-N T-N-AA1-T T-UW1 L-IY1-V DH-AE1-T K-AY1-N D-AH1 V-M-EH1 R-IH0-JH


but there are some women who a-

B-AH1-T DH-EH1 R-AA1-R S-AH1 M-W-IH1 M-AH0-N HH-UW1 AH0


you know, duking it out on a mutual fight with their husband.

Y-UW1 N-OW1 D-UW1 K-IH0 NG-IH1 T-AW1 T-AA1 N-AH0 M-Y-UW1 CH-AH0 W-AH0-L F-AY1 T-W-IH1-DH DH-EH1-R HH-AH1-Z B-AH0-N-D


and that's because the basic overview is that you should leave a marriage like that. if there is domes-

AH0-N-D TH-AE1-T-S B-IH0 K-AO1-Z DH-AH0 B-EY1 S-IH0 K-OW1 V-ER0 V-Y-UW2 IH1-Z DH-AE1 T-Y-UW1 SH-UH1 D-L-IY1 V-AH0 M-EH1 R-IH0 JH-L-AY1-K DH-AE1 T-IH1-F DH-EH1 R-IH1-Z D-OW1-M-Z


domestic violence, you should leave, but it doesn't-

D-AH0 M-EH1-S T-IH0-K V-AY1 AH0 L-AH0-N S-Y-UW1 SH-UH1 D-L-IY1-V B-AH1 T-IH1-T D-OW1 S-AH0-N-T


domestic violence are not how complicated relationships are, and how a woman in that situation-

D-AH0 M-EH1-S T-IH0-K V-AY1 AH0 L-AH0-N S-AA1-R N-AA1-T HH-AW1 K-AA1-M P-L-AH0 K-EY2 T-AH0 D-R-IY0 L-EY1 SH-AH0-N SH-IH2-P S-AA1 R-AH0-N-D HH-AW1 AH0 W-UH1 M-AH0 N-IH0-N DH-AE1-T S-IH2 CH-UW0 EY1 SH-AH0-N


one, may not necessarily see herself as a victim, but two-

W-AH1-N M-EY1 N-AA1 T-N-EH2 S-AH0 S-EH1 R-AH0 L-IY0 S-IY1 HH-ER0 S-EH1-L F-AE1 Z-AH0 V-IH1-K T-AH0-M B-AH1-T T-UW1


duplicated.. so there may be good days-

D-UW1 P-L-IH0 K-EY2 T-IH0-D S-OW1 DH-EH1-R M-EY1 B-IY1 G-UH1-D D-EY1-Z


it can be so many different things, but-

IH1-T K-AE1-N B-IY1 S-OW1 M-EH1 N-IY0 D-IH1 F-ER0 AH0-N-T TH-IH1-NG-Z B-AH1-T


no one is in a relationship.

N-OW1 W-AH1 N-IH1 Z-IH0 N-AH0 R-IY0 L-EY1 SH-AH0-N SH-IH2-P


i remember debating with one of my professors about this, but-

AY1 R-IH0 M-EH1-M B-ER0 D-AH0 B-EY1 T-IH0 NG-W-IH1 DH-W-AH1 N-AH1 V-M-AY1 P-R-AH0 F-EH1 S-ER0 Z-AH0 B-AW1-T DH-IH1-S B-AH1-T


i don't know that it's actually helpful to the woman in that situation. because-

AY1 D-AA1-N T-N-OW1 DH-AE1 T-IH1-T S-AE1-K CH-AH0 W-AH0 L-IY0 HH-EH1-L-P F-AH0-L T-UW1 DH-AH0 W-UH1 M-AH0 N-IH0-N DH-AE1-T S-IH2 CH-UW0 EY1 SH-AH0-N B-IH0 K-AO1-Z


her being in a relationship where there is violence does not mean that she necessarily sees herself as a victim.

HH-ER0 B-IY1 IH0 NG-IH0 N-AH0 R-IY0 L-EY1 SH-AH0-N SH-IH2 P-W-EH1-R DH-EH1 R-IH1-Z V-AY1 AH0 L-AH0-N-S D-AH1 Z-N-AA1 T-M-IY1-N DH-AE1-T SH-IY1 N-EH2 S-AH0 S-EH1 R-AH0 L-IY0 S-IY1-Z HH-ER0 S-EH1-L F-AE1 Z-AH0 V-IH1-K T-AH0-M


and i know that a lot of people hate the idea of a woman talking about, or trying to sort of highlight her role in the dysfunction and i-

AH0-N D-AY1 N-OW1 DH-AE1 T-AH0 L-AA1 T-AH1-V P-IY1 P-AH0-L HH-EY1-T DH-AH0 AY0 D-IY1 AH0 AH1 V-AH0 W-UH1 M-AH0-N T-AO1 K-IH0 NG-AH0 B-AW1 T-AO1-R T-R-AY1 IH0-NG T-UW1 S-AO1-R T-AH1-V HH-AY1 L-AY2-T HH-ER0 R-OW1 L-IH0-N DH-AH0 D-IH0-S F-AH1-NG-K SH-AH0 N-AH0-N D-AY1


may do it, it doesn't make hitting your wife okay.

M-EY1 D-UW1 IH1 T-IH1-T D-OW1 S-AH0-N T-M-EY1-K HH-IH1 T-IH0 NG-Y-AO1 R-W-AY1 F-OW2 K-EY1


i mean, maybe i won't say no matter what, the like-

AY1 M-IY1-N M-EY1 B-IY0 AY1 W-OW1-N-T S-EY1 N-OW1 M-AE1 T-ER0 W-AH1-T DH-AH0 L-AY1-K


...appropriate. i remember one of my [shuru 00:04:28] just to give this example-

AH0 P-R-OW1 P-R-IY0 AH0 T-AY1 R-IH0 M-EH1-M B-ER0 W-AH1 N-AH1 V-M-AY1 SH-UW1 R-UW0 Z-IH1 R-OW0 AW1 ER0-Z F-AO1-R M-IH1 N-AH0-T S-AH0-N-D T-W-EH1-N T-IY0 EY1-T S-EH1 K-AH0-N-D-Z JH-AH1-S-T T-UW1 G-IH1-V DH-IH1 S-IH0-G Z-AE1-M P-AH0-L


but because it clearly-

B-AH1-T B-IH0 K-AO1 Z-IH1-T K-L-IH1-R L-IY0


and in a marriage that women, our role is on the inside and men, their role is on the outside, and it gives a perfectly balanced view of not-

AH0-N D-IH0 N-AH0 M-EH1 R-IH0-JH DH-AE1 T-W-IH1 M-AH0 N-AW1 ER0 R-OW1 L-IH1 Z-AA1-N DH-AH0 IH0-N S-AY1 D-AH0-N D-M-EH1-N DH-EH1-R R-OW1 L-IH1 Z-AA1-N DH-AH0 AW1-T S-AY1 D-AH0-N D-IH1-T G-IH1-V Z-AH0 P-ER1 F-AH0-K T-L-IY0 B-AE1 L-AH0-N-S-T V-Y-UW1 AH1 V-N-AA1-T


but masculinity and femininity before it gets to-

B-AH1 T-M-AE2-S K-Y-AH0 L-IH1 N-AH0 T-IY0 AH0-N-D F-EH2 M-AH0 N-IH1 N-AH0 T-IY0 B-IH0 F-AO1 R-IH1-T G-EH1-T-S T-UW1


but what happens when there are difficulties in your marriage?

B-AH1 T-W-AH1-T HH-AE1 P-AH0-N Z-W-EH1-N DH-EH1 R-AA1-R D-IH1 F-AH0 K-AH0-L T-IY0 Z-IH0 N-Y-AO1-R M-EH1 R-IH0-JH


but then, and i will also say that some shuru, a minority-

B-AH1-T DH-EH1 N-AH0-N D-AY1 W-IH1 L-AO1-L S-OW0 S-EY1 DH-AE1-T S-AH1-M SH-UW1 R-UW0 AH0 M-AY0 N-AO1 R-AH0 T-IY0


opinion, but some do say, in islam-

AH0 P-IH1 N-Y-AH0-N B-AH1-T S-AH1-M D-UW1 S-EY1 IH0 N-IH0 S-L-AA1-M


and he, i can't say went into-

AH0-N-D HH-IY1 AY1 K-AE1-N-T S-EY1 W-EH1-N T-IH0-N T-UW1


seclusion, but he didn't visit them for some period of time. i think it was-

S-IH0 K-L-UW1 ZH-AH0-N B-AH1-T HH-IY1 D-IH1 D-AH0-N-T V-IH1 Z-AH0-T DH-EH1-M F-AO1-R S-AH1-M P-IH1 R-IY0 AH0 D-AH1-V T-AY1 M-AY1 TH-IH1-NG K-IH1 T-W-AA1-Z


there was one sister, i guess, like an islamic researcher or something. and she said-

DH-EH1 R-W-AA1 Z-W-AH1-N S-IH1-S T-ER0 AY1 G-EH1 S-L-AY1 K-AE1 N-IH0 Z-L-AA1 M-IH0 K-R-IY1 S-ER0 CH-ER0 AO1-R S-AH1-M TH-IH0 NG-AH0-N-D SH-IY1 S-EH1-D


material wealth and the prophets, [foreign language 00:05:29], to put it colloquially-

M-AH0 T-IH1 R-IY0 AH0 L-W-EH1-L TH-AH0-N-D DH-AH0 P-R-AA1 F-AH0-T-S F-AO1 R-AH0 N-L-AE1-NG G-W-AH0-JH Z-IH1 R-OW0 AW1 ER0-Z F-AY1 V-M-IH1 N-AH0-T S-AH0-N-D T-W-EH1-N T-IY0 N-AY1-N S-EH1 K-AH0-N-D-Z T-UW1 P-UH1 T-IH1-T K-AH0 L-AA1 K-W-IY0 AH0 L-IY0


not going to buy a big house and live a lavish life. that is not what he was put on earth-

N-AA1-T G-OW1 IH0-NG T-UW1 B-AY1 AH0 B-IH1-G HH-AW1 S-AH0-N D-L-AY1 V-AH0 L-AE1 V-IH0 SH-L-AY1-F DH-AE1 T-IH1 Z-N-AA1 T-W-AH1-T HH-IY1 W-AA1-Z P-UH1 T-AA1 N-ER1-TH


for, and his wives were-

F-AO1 R-AH0-N-D HH-IH1 Z-W-AY1-V Z-W-ER0


so what did he do? he didn't-

S-OW1 W-AH1-T D-IH1-D HH-IY1 D-UW1 HH-IY1 D-IH1 D-AH0-N-T


hit anyone, he left. and so that was the sort of, what can-

HH-IH1 T-EH1 N-IY0 W-AH2-N HH-IY1 L-EH1-F T-AH0-N-D S-OW1 DH-AE1 T-W-AA1-Z DH-AH0 S-AO1-R T-AH1 V-W-AH1-T K-AE1-N


they say? that seemed to be last straw for him. and there was no hitting involved that, at that point of separation, was-

DH-EY1 S-EY1 DH-AE1-T S-IY1-M-D T-UW1 B-IY1 L-AE1-S-T-S T-R-AO1 F-AO1-R HH-IH1 M-AH0-N-D DH-EH1 R-W-AA1 Z-N-OW1 HH-IH1 T-IH0 NG-IH0-N V-AA1-L-V-D DH-AE1 T-AE1-T DH-AE1-T P-OY1-N T-AH1-V S-EH2 P-ER0 EY1 SH-AH0 N-W-AA1-Z


when he acts them and went along, reveal that person [inaudible 00:06:10] will have all the notes in the-

W-EH1-N HH-IY1 AE1-K-T-S DH-EH1 M-AH0-N D-W-EH1-N T-AH0 L-AO1 NG-R-IH0 V-IY1-L DH-AE1-T P-ER1 S-AH0 N-IH0 N-AO1 D-AH0 B-AH0-L Z-IH1 R-OW0 AW1 ER0-Z S-IH1-K S-M-IH1 N-AH0-T S-AH0-N-D T-EH1-N S-EH1 K-AH0-N-D Z-W-IH1-L HH-AE1 V-AO1-L DH-AH0 N-OW1-T S-IH0-N DH-AH0


in the description, not-

IH0-N DH-AH0 D-IH0-S K-R-IH1-P SH-AH0-N N-AA1-T


good evidence for the possibility of-

G-UH1 D-EH1 V-AH0 D-AH0-N-S F-AO1-R DH-AH0 P-AA2 S-AH0 B-IH1 L-AH0 T-IY0 AH1-V


let me get back to the example about one of my [foreign language 00:06:30], when physical-

L-EH1 T-M-IY1 G-EH1-T B-AE1-K T-UW1 DH-AH0 IH0-G Z-AE1-M P-AH0 L-AH0 B-AW1 T-W-AH1 N-AH1 V-M-AY1 F-AO1 R-AH0 N-L-AE1-NG G-W-AH0-JH Z-IH1 R-OW0 AW1 ER0-Z S-IH1-K S-M-IH1 N-AH0-T S-AH0-N-D TH-ER1 D-IY0 S-EH1 K-AH0-N-D Z-W-EH1-N F-IH1 Z-IH0 K-AH0-L


he said, it's not about disobedience simply against the husband, or upsetting the husband.

HH-IY1 S-EH1 D-IH1-T S-N-AA1 T-AH0 B-AW1-T D-IH2 S-AH0 B-IY1 D-IY0 AH0-N-S S-IH1-M P-L-IY0 AH0 G-EH1-N-S-T DH-AH0 HH-AH1-Z B-AH0-N D-AO1 R-AH0-P S-EH1 T-IH0-NG DH-AH0 HH-AH1-Z B-AH0-N-D


so it's not as if, oh, you always make the coffee to-

S-OW1 IH1-T S-N-AA1 T-AE1 Z-IH1 F-OW1 Y-UW1 AO1 L-W-EY2 Z-M-EY1-K DH-AH0 K-AA1 F-IY0 T-UW1


black. something like that. no, it's about disobeying.

B-L-AE1-K S-AH1-M TH-IH0 NG-L-AY1-K DH-AE1 T-N-OW1 IH1-T S-AH0 B-AW1-T D-IH2 S-OW0 B-EY1 IH0-NG


jess is inappropriately and she's always-

JH-EH1 S-IH1 Z-IH0 N-AH0 P-R-AA1 P-R-IY0 AH0 T-L-IY0 AH0-N-D SH-EH1 S-AO1 L-W-EY2-Z


well, i don't know if that's what he said-

W-EH1 L-AY1 D-AA1-N T-N-OW1 IH1-F TH-AE1-T S-W-AH1-T HH-IY1 S-EH1-D


but something like dressing inappropriately, i remember that-

B-AH1-T S-AH1-M TH-IH0 NG-L-AY1-K D-R-EH1 S-IH0 NG-IH0 N-AH0 P-R-AA1 P-R-IY0 AH0 T-L-IY0 AY1 R-IH0 M-EH1-M B-ER0 DH-AE1-T


that part, and that she's continuously doing that, and they've gone to other people to seek advice, to get help for their marriages.

DH-AE1-T P-AA1-R T-AH0-N-D DH-AE1-T SH-EH1-S K-AH0-N T-IH1 N-Y-UW0 AH0 S-L-IY0 D-UW1 IH0-NG DH-AE1 T-AH0-N-D DH-EY1-V G-AO1-N T-UW1 AH1 DH-ER0 P-IY1 P-AH0-L T-UW1 S-IY1 K-AE0-D V-AY1-S T-UW1 G-EH1-T HH-EH1-L-P F-AO1-R DH-EH1-R M-EH1 R-IH0 JH-IH0-Z


that was the example my shuru gave. so-

DH-AE1 T-W-AA1-Z DH-AH0 IH0-G Z-AE1-M P-AH0-L M-AY1 SH-UW1 R-UW0 G-EY1-V S-OW1


when we talk about using physical harm, because even whenever that verse is translated in english, it never-

W-EH1 N-W-IY1 T-AO1 K-AH0 B-AW1 T-Y-UW1 Z-IH0-NG F-IH1 Z-IH0 K-AH0-L HH-AA1-R-M B-IH0 K-AO1 Z-IY1 V-IH0 N-W-EH0 N-EH1 V-ER0 DH-AE1-T V-ER1 S-IH1-Z T-R-AE0-N Z-L-EY1 T-AH0 D-IH0 N-IH1-NG G-L-IH0 SH-IH1 T-N-EH1 V-ER0


quite makes sense in terms of our own-

K-W-AY1 T-M-EY1-K-S S-EH1-N S-IH0-N T-ER1-M Z-AH1 V-AW1 ER0 OW1-N


you don't beat someone lightly, when you talk about beating, it's always-

Y-UW1 D-AA1-N-T B-IY1-T S-AH1 M-W-AH2 N-L-AY1 T-L-IY0 W-EH1 N-Y-UW1 T-AO1 K-AH0 B-AW1-T B-IY1 T-IH0 NG-IH1-T S-AO1 L-W-EY2-Z


it's harsh. hitting could possibly be-

IH1-T-S HH-AA1-R-SH HH-IH1 T-IH0-NG K-UH1-D P-AA1 S-AH0 B-L-IY0 B-IY1


lightly, but then you'd also-

L-AY1 T-L-IY0 B-AH1-T DH-EH1 N-Y-AH1 D-AO1-L S-OW0


have to ask, well, why would that be the limit? how could hitting someone lightly, or even someone would say hitting someone with a [inaudible 00:07:44], like how could that-

HH-AE1-V T-UW1 AE1-S K-W-EH1 L-W-AY1 W-UH1-D DH-AE1-T B-IY1 DH-AH0 L-IH1 M-AH0-T HH-AW1 K-UH1-D HH-IH1 T-IH0-NG S-AH1 M-W-AH2 N-L-AY1 T-L-IY0 AO1 R-IY1 V-IH0-N S-AH1 M-W-AH2 N-W-UH1-D S-EY1 HH-IH1 T-IH0-NG S-AH1 M-W-AH2 N-W-IH1 DH-AH0 IH0 N-AO1 D-AH0 B-AH0-L Z-IH1 R-OW0 AW1 ER0-Z S-EH1 V-AH0-N M-IH1 N-AH0-T S-AH0-N-D F-AO1-R T-IY0 F-AO1-R S-EH1 K-AH0-N-D Z-L-AY1-K HH-AW1 K-UH1-D DH-AE1-T


be worse than separating from the bed? so, you know, [foreign language 00:07:49]-

B-IY1 W-ER1-S DH-AE1-N S-EH1 P-ER0 EY2 T-IH0-NG F-R-AH1-M DH-AH0 B-EH1-D S-OW1 Y-UW1 N-OW1 F-AO1 R-AH0 N-L-AE1-NG G-W-AH0-JH Z-IH1 R-OW0 AW1 ER0-Z S-EH1 V-AH0-N M-IH1 N-AH0-T S-AH0-N-D F-AO1-R T-IY0 N-AY1-N S-EH1 K-AH0-N-D-Z


i'm not a scholar on these issues, i'm just sharing-

IH1-M N-AA1 T-AH0-S K-AA1 L-ER0 AA1-N DH-IY1 Z-IH1 SH-UW0 Z-IH1-M JH-AH1-S-T SH-EH1 R-IH0-NG


that's the example he gave about physical harm.

TH-AE1-T-S DH-AH0 IH0-G Z-AE1-M P-AH0-L HH-IY1 G-EY1 V-AH0 B-AW1-T F-IH1 Z-IH0 K-AH0-L HH-AA1-R-M


i absolutely, i shouldn't say absolutely, but i hate-

AY1 AE2-B S-AH0 L-UW1 T-L-IY0 AY1 SH-OW1-L T-AH0-N-T S-EY1 AE2-B S-AH0 L-UW1 T-L-IY0 B-AH1 T-AY1 HH-EY1-T


just does not understand and nuance of any relationship as-

JH-AH1-S-T D-AH1 Z-N-AA1 T-AH2-N D-ER0-S T-AE1-N D-AH0-N D-N-UW1 AA0-N S-AH1 V-EH1 N-IY0 R-IY0 L-EY1 SH-AH0-N SH-IH2 P-AE1-Z


even those with domestic violence. so women stay for many reasons-

IY1 V-IH0-N DH-OW1 Z-W-IH1-DH D-AH0 M-EH1-S T-IH0-K V-AY1 AH0 L-AH0-N-S S-OW1 W-IH1 M-AH0-N-S T-EY1 F-AO1-R M-EH1 N-IY0 R-IY1 Z-AH0-N-Z


some may stay and probably most of them stay for more than one reason, right? so one or a combination of these reasons-

S-AH1-M M-EY1-S T-EY1 AH0-N-D P-R-AA1 B-AH0 B-L-IY0 M-OW1-S T-AH1-V DH-EH1-M-S T-EY1 F-AO1-R M-AO1-R DH-AE1 N-W-AH1 N-R-IY1 Z-AH0 N-R-AY1-T S-OW1 W-AH1 N-AO1 R-AH0 K-AA2-M B-AH0 N-EY1 SH-AH0 N-AH1-V DH-IY1 Z-R-IY1 Z-AH0-N-Z


most stay for the sake of their children. and some people may say, well, it's better to be a single mom-

M-OW1-S-T-S T-EY1 F-AO1-R DH-AH0 S-EY1 K-AH1-V DH-EH1-R CH-IH1-L D-R-AH0 N-AH0-N-D S-AH1-M P-IY1 P-AH0-L M-EY1 S-EY1 W-EH1 L-IH1-T-S B-EH1 T-ER0 T-UW1 B-IY1 AH0 S-IH1-NG G-AH0-L M-AA1-M


i would say yes, of course, in terms of finding a better relationship-

AY1 W-UH1-D S-EY1 Y-EH1 S-AH1-V K-AO1-R S-IH0-N T-ER1-M Z-AH1-V F-AY1-N D-IH0 NG-AH0 B-EH1 T-ER0 R-IY0 L-EY1 SH-AH0-N SH-IH2-P


or taking some space, or do i want to say, taking some space to be alone...

AO1-R T-EY1 K-IH0-NG S-AH1-M-S P-EY1 S-AO1-R D-UW1 AY1 W-AA1-N-T T-UW1 S-EY1 T-EY1 K-IH0-NG S-AH1-M-S P-EY1-S T-UW1 B-IY1 AH0 L-OW1-N


it would be better to me to be alone than to be in an abusive relationship.

IH1 T-W-UH1-D B-IY1 B-EH1 T-ER0 T-UW1 M-IY1 T-UW1 B-IY1 AH0 L-OW1-N DH-AE1-N T-UW1 B-IY1 IH0 N-AE1 N-AH0 B-Y-UW1 S-IH0 V-R-IY0 L-EY1 SH-AH0-N SH-IH2-P


child support will almost always be less than what you would have.

CH-AY1-L-D S-AH0 P-AO1-R T-W-IH1 L-AO1-L M-OW2-S T-AO1 L-W-EY2-Z B-IY1 L-EH1-S DH-AE1 N-W-AH1 T-Y-UW1 W-UH1-D HH-AE1-V


kids, or when he's working, you're with the kids, whatever it is, having that emotional support, even can-

K-IH1-D Z-AO1 R-W-EH1-N HH-IY1 Z-W-ER1 K-IH0 NG-Y-UH1 R-W-IH1-DH DH-AH0 K-IH1-D Z-W-AH2 T-EH1 V-ER0 IH1 T-IH1-Z HH-AE1 V-IH0-NG DH-AE1 T-IH0 M-OW1 SH-AH0 N-AH0-L S-AH0 P-AO1-R T-IY1 V-IH0-N K-AE1-N


another reason women, they could be because of their relationship, with or without kids. so i just said-

AH0 N-AH1 DH-ER0 R-IY1 Z-AH0 N-W-IH1 M-AH0-N DH-EY1 K-UH1-D B-IY1 B-IH0 K-AO1 Z-AH1-V DH-EH1-R R-IY0 L-EY1 SH-AH0-N SH-IH2 P-W-IH1 DH-AO1 R-W-IH0 TH-AW1-T K-IH1-D-Z S-OW1 AY1 JH-AH1-S-T S-EH1-D


but i was very careful to say almost, because-

B-AH1 T-AY1 W-AA1-Z V-EH1 R-IY0 K-EH1-R F-AH0-L T-UW1 S-EY1 AO1-L M-OW2-S-T B-IH0 K-AO1-Z


at the time the relationship is good, but when we get into these heated arguments, then he may-

AE1-T DH-AH0 T-AY1-M DH-AH0 R-IY0 L-EY1 SH-AH0-N SH-IH2 P-IH1-Z G-UH1-D B-AH1 T-W-EH1 N-W-IY1 G-EH1 T-IH0-N T-UW1 DH-IY1-Z HH-IY1 T-AH0 D-AA1-R G-Y-AH0 M-AH0-N-T-S DH-EH1-N HH-IY1 M-EY1


hate me, for some women-

HH-EY1 T-M-IY1 F-AO1-R S-AH1 M-W-IH1 M-AH0-N


physical intimacy. they may feel that all of that-

F-IH1 Z-IH0 K-AH0 L-IH1-N T-AH0 M-AH0 S-IY0 DH-EY1 M-EY1 F-IY1-L DH-AE1 T-AO1 L-AH1-V DH-AE1-T


that either, i think men-

DH-AE1 T-IY1 DH-ER0 AY1 TH-IH1-NG K-M-EH1-N


just the way that, this is what they were taught was a part of love through what they were shown through their parents. they love them, but-

JH-AH1-S-T DH-AH0 W-EY1 DH-AE1-T DH-IH1 S-IH1 Z-W-AH1-T DH-EY1 W-ER0 T-AO1 T-W-AA1 Z-AH0 P-AA1-R T-AH1 V-L-AH1-V TH-R-UW1 W-AH1-T DH-EY1 W-ER0 SH-OW1-N TH-R-UW1 DH-EH1-R P-EH1 R-AH0-N-T-S DH-EY1 L-AH1-V DH-EH1-M B-AH1-T


...the other person triggers them. you can love someone and treat them badly...

DH-AH0 AH1 DH-ER0 P-ER1 S-AH0-N T-R-IH1 G-ER0-Z DH-EH1 M-Y-UW1 K-AE1 N-L-AH1-V S-AH1 M-W-AH2 N-AH0-N-D T-R-IY1-T DH-EH1-M B-AE1 D-L-IY0


...or because of you, because something is wrong with you, and your anger issues. so you should to tell...

AO1-R B-IH0 K-AO1 Z-AH1 V-Y-UW1 B-IH0 K-AO1-Z S-AH1-M TH-IH0 NG-IH1 Z-R-AO1 NG-W-IH1 DH-Y-UW1 AH0-N D-Y-AO1 R-AE1-NG G-ER0 IH1 SH-UW0-Z S-OW1 Y-UW1 SH-UH1-D T-UW1 T-EH1-L


...that her husband doesn't really love her because he hits her, i also don't ...

DH-AE1-T HH-ER0 HH-AH1-Z B-AH0-N-D D-OW1 S-AH0-N T-R-IH1 L-IY0 L-AH1-V HH-ER0 B-IH0 K-AO1-Z HH-IY1 HH-IH1-T-S HH-ER0 AY1 AO1-L S-OW0 D-AA1-N-T


... feel is useful.


i do not believe you can help anyone if you're not willing to understand them, and understand why they're doing what they're doing to some degree, have some kind of...

AY1 D-UW1 N-AA1-T B-IH0 L-IY1 V-Y-UW1 K-AE1-N HH-EH1-L P-EH1 N-IY0 W-AH2 N-IH1 F-Y-UH1-R N-AA1 T-W-IH1 L-IH0-NG T-UW1 AH2-N D-ER0-S T-AE1-N-D DH-EH1 M-AH0-N D-AH2-N D-ER0-S T-AE1-N D-W-AY1 TH-EH1-R D-UW1 IH0 NG-W-AH1-T TH-EH1-R D-UW1 IH0-NG T-UW1 S-AH1-M D-IH0 G-R-IY1 HH-AE1-V S-AH1-M K-AY1-N D-AH1-V


...thing that could happen to any woman, but the women who stay are...

TH-IH1-NG DH-AE1-T K-UH1-D HH-AE1 P-AH0-N T-UW1 EH1 N-IY0 W-UH1 M-AH0-N B-AH1-T DH-AH0 W-IH1 M-AH0-N HH-UW1-S T-EY1 AA1-R


...probably, again, a lot of them are alone, but are probably woman who don't...

P-R-AA1 B-AH0 B-L-IY0 AH0 G-EH1 N-AH0 L-AA1 T-AH1-V DH-EH1 M-AA1 R-AH0 L-OW1-N B-AH1 T-AA1-R P-R-AA1 B-AH0 B-L-IY0 W-UH1 M-AH0-N HH-UW1 D-AA1-N-T


...have familial or communal support.

HH-AE1-V F-AH0 M-IH1 L-Y-AH0 L-AO1-R K-AH0 M-Y-UW1 N-AH0-L S-AH0 P-AO1-R-T


like the lowest of men, and sadly, it's not even funny, but sadly get with almost the lowest of men that no one wanted in our community.

L-AY1-K DH-AH0 L-OW1 AH0-S T-AH1 V-M-EH1 N-AH0-N-D S-AE1 D-L-IY0 IH1-T S-N-AA1 T-IY1 V-IH0-N F-AH1 N-IY0 B-AH1-T S-AE1 D-L-IY0 G-EH1 T-W-IH1 DH-AO1-L M-OW2-S-T DH-AH0 L-OW1 AH0-S T-AH1 V-M-EH1-N DH-AE1 T-N-OW1 W-AH1 N-W-AA1-N T-AH0 D-IH0 N-AW1 ER0 K-AH0 M-Y-UW1 N-AH0 T-IY0


again, not just get involved but stay in domestic violence,

AH0 G-EH1-N N-AA1-T JH-AH1-S-T G-EH1 T-IH0-N V-AA1-L-V-D B-AH1-T-S T-EY1 IH0-N D-AH0 M-EH1-S T-IH0-K V-AY1 AH0 L-AH0-N-S


but they were telling me that their mother had told their daughter...

B-AH1-T DH-EY1 W-ER0 T-EH1 L-IH0-NG M-IY1 DH-AE1-T DH-EH1-R M-AH1 DH-ER0 HH-AE1-D T-OW1-L-D DH-EH1-R D-AO1 T-ER0


...basically if your husband hits you or something like that, don't come crying back to me, because essentially she would always try and teach the daughter...

B-EY1 S-IH0 K-L-IY0 IH1 F-Y-AO1-R HH-AH1-Z B-AH0-N-D HH-IH1-T S-Y-UW1 AO1-R S-AH1-M TH-IH0 NG-L-AY1-K DH-AE1-T D-AA1-N-T K-AH1-M K-R-AY1 IH0-NG B-AE1-K T-UW1 M-IY1 B-IH0 K-AO1 Z-IH0 S-EH1-N SH-AH0 L-IY0 SH-IY1 W-UH1 D-AO1 L-W-EY2-Z T-R-AY1 AH0-N-D T-IY1-CH DH-AH0 D-AO1 T-ER0


...different feminine household skills while the daughter was focused on education and her...

D-IH1 F-ER0 AH0-N-T F-EH1 M-AH0 N-AH0-N HH-AW1-S HH-OW2-L-D-S K-IH1-L Z-W-AY1-L DH-AH0 D-AO1 T-ER0 W-AA1-Z F-OW1 K-AH0-S T-AA1 N-EH2 JH-AH0 K-EY1 SH-AH0 N-AH0-N-D HH-ER0


...husband, the girl's father also supported her in her educational pursuits.

HH-AH1-Z B-AH0-N-D DH-AH0 G-ER1-L-Z F-AA1 DH-ER0 AO1-L S-OW0 S-AH0 P-AO1-R T-AH0-D HH-ER0 IH0-N HH-ER0 EH2 JH-AH0 K-EY1 SH-AH0 N-AH0-L P-ER0 S-UW1-T-S


...so her mother said something like that, like...

S-OW1 HH-ER0 M-AH1 DH-ER0 S-EH1-D S-AH1-M TH-IH0 NG-L-AY1-K DH-AE1 T-L-AY1-K


...don't ever come crying back to this house if you get hit.

D-AA1-N T-EH1 V-ER0 K-AH1-M K-R-AY1 IH0-NG B-AE1-K T-UW1 DH-IH1-S HH-AW1 S-IH1 F-Y-UW1 G-EH1-T HH-IH1-T


...coming from a more traditional culture...

K-AH1 M-IH0-NG F-R-AH1 M-AH0 M-AO1-R T-R-AH0 D-IH1 SH-AH0 N-AH0-L K-AH1-L CH-ER0


...anywhere, which is that if you don't have a home to go back to, it's going to be a lot harder to leave an abusive marriage. if your parents...

EH1 N-IY0 W-EH2 R-W-IH1 CH-IH1-Z DH-AE1 T-IH1 F-Y-UW1 D-AA1-N-T HH-AE1 V-AH0 HH-OW1-M T-UW1 G-OW1 B-AE1-K T-UW1 IH1-T-S G-OW1 IH0-NG T-UW1 B-IY1 AH0 L-AA1-T HH-AA1-R D-ER0 T-UW1 L-IY1 V-AE1 N-AH0 B-Y-UW1 S-IH0 V-M-EH1 R-IH0 JH-IH1 F-Y-AO1-R P-EH1 R-AH0-N-T-S


...or a number of other things that would lead you to believe that you're not so welcome...

AO1 R-AH0 N-AH1-M B-ER0 AH1 V-AH1 DH-ER0 TH-IH1-NG-Z DH-AE1 T-W-UH1 D-L-EH1 D-Y-UW1 T-UW1 B-IH0 L-IY1-V DH-AE1 T-Y-UH1-R N-AA1-T S-OW1 W-EH1-L K-AH0-M


...to leave a marriage with domestic violence. if you don't feel like you can come back home, then you won't...

T-UW1 L-IY1 V-AH0 M-EH1 R-IH0 JH-W-IH1-DH D-AH0 M-EH1-S T-IH0-K V-AY1 AH0 L-AH0-N S-IH1 F-Y-UW1 D-AA1-N-T F-IY1-L L-AY1 K-Y-UW1 K-AE1-N K-AH1-M B-AE1-K HH-OW1-M DH-EH1 N-Y-UW1 W-OW1-N-T


...be able to leave, you have to have somewhere to go to leave. and i believe it's about...

B-IY1 EY1 B-AH0-L T-UW1 L-IY1 V-Y-UW1 HH-AE1-V T-UW1 HH-AE1-V S-AH1 M-W-EH2-R T-UW1 G-OW1 T-UW1 L-IY1 V-AH0-N D-AY1 B-IH0 L-IY1 V-IH1-T S-AH0 B-AW1-T


...but something about one out of five women after divorce live in poverty. so, clearly in america, that's a real issue,

B-AH1-T S-AH1-M TH-IH0 NG-AH0 B-AW1 T-W-AH1 N-AW1 T-AH1-V F-AY1 V-W-IH1 M-AH0 N-AE1-F T-ER0 D-IH0 V-AO1-R S-L-AY1 V-IH0-N P-AA1 V-ER0 T-IY0 S-OW1 K-L-IH1-R L-IY0 IH0 N-AH0 M-EH1 R-AH0 K-AH0 TH-AE1-T S-AH0 R-IY1 L-IH1 SH-UW0


...but the money that the men end up paying after divorce sometimes...

B-AH1-T DH-AH0 M-AH1 N-IY0 DH-AE1-T DH-AH0 M-EH1 N-EH1-N D-AH1-P P-EY1 IH0 NG-AE1-F T-ER0 D-IH0 V-AO1-R-S S-AH0-M T-AY1-M-Z


...something like that. i forget the name of it, but...

S-AH1-M TH-IH0 NG-L-AY1-K DH-AE1 T-AY1 F-ER0 G-EH1-T DH-AH0 N-EY1 M-AH1 V-IH1-T B-AH1-T


... back, it's going to be very difficult to leave an abusive marriage.

B-AE1 K-IH1-T-S G-OW1 IH0-NG T-UW1 B-IY1 V-EH1 R-IY0 D-IH1 F-AH0 K-AH0-L-T T-UW1 L-IY1 V-AE1 N-AH0 B-Y-UW1 S-IH0 V-M-EH1 R-IH0-JH


...their husband is abusive, or even if they just are having a lot of issues or whatever it is...

DH-EH1-R HH-AH1-Z B-AH0-N D-IH1 Z-AH0 B-Y-UW1 S-IH0 V-AO1 R-IY1 V-IH0 N-IH1-F DH-EY1 JH-AH1-S T-AA1-R HH-AE1 V-IH0 NG-AH0 L-AA1 T-AH1 V-IH1 SH-UW0 Z-AO1 R-W-AH2 T-EH1 V-ER0 IH1 T-IH1-Z


...don't completely remember, but if you're experiencing domestic violence...

D-AA1-N-T K-AH0-M P-L-IY1 T-L-IY0 R-IH0 M-EH1-M B-ER0 B-AH1 T-IH1 F-Y-UH1 R-IH0-K-S P-IH1 R-IY0 AH0-N S-IH0-NG D-AH0 M-EH1-S T-IH0-K V-AY1 AH0 L-AH0-N-S


...an uncle and aunt, whoever that can take care of them for a period of time, while you attempt to work on your marriage. so, if there was domestic violence...

AE1 N-AH1-NG K-AH0 L-AH0-N D-AE1-N-T HH-UW0 EH1 V-ER0 DH-AE1-T K-AE1-N T-EY1-K K-EH1 R-AH1-V DH-EH1-M F-AO1 R-AH0 P-IH1 R-IY0 AH0 D-AH1-V T-AY1 M-W-AY1 L-Y-UW1 AH0 T-EH1-M-P-T T-UW1 W-ER1 K-AA1 N-Y-AO1-R M-EH1 R-IH0-JH S-OW1 IH1-F DH-EH1 R-W-AA1-Z D-AH0 M-EH1-S T-IH0-K V-AY1 AH0 L-AH0-N-S


... put your children elsewhere and try to work on the marriage. but...

P-UH1 T-Y-AO1-R CH-IH1-L D-R-AH0 N-EH1-L S-W-EH2 R-AH0-N-D T-R-AY1 T-UW1 W-ER1 K-AA1-N DH-AH0 M-EH1 R-IH0-JH B-AH1-T


...that also involves community...

DH-AE1 T-AO1-L S-OW0 IH0-N V-AA1-L-V-Z K-AH0 M-Y-UW1 N-AH0 T-IY0


...involvement. if a woman doesn't feel like there's somewhere safe, that she can keep her children, or people who can help her with her children, if she needs to...

IH0-N V-AA1-L V-M-AH0-N T-IH1 F-AH0 W-UH1 M-AH0-N D-OW1 S-AH0-N-T F-IY1-L L-AY1-K DH-EH1-R-Z S-AH1 M-W-EH2-R S-EY1-F DH-AE1-T SH-IY1 K-AE1-N K-IY1-P HH-ER0 CH-IH1-L D-R-AH0 N-AO1-R P-IY1 P-AH0-L HH-UW1 K-AE1-N HH-EH1-L-P HH-ER0 W-IH1-DH HH-ER0 CH-IH1-L D-R-AH0 N-IH1-F SH-IY1 N-IY1-D-Z T-UW1


the last thing i'll say is that, of course, in our communities, in general, as muslims, we really...

DH-AH0 L-AE1-S-T TH-IH1 NG-IH1-L S-EY1 IH1-Z DH-AE1 T-AH1-V K-AO1-R S-IH0 N-AW1 ER0 K-AH0 M-Y-UW1 N-AH0 T-IY0 Z-IH0-N JH-EH1 N-ER0 AH0 L-AE1 Z-M-AH1 Z-L-AH0-M Z-W-IY1 R-IH1 L-IY0


...need to evolve our thinking. the funny thing is that...

N-IY1-D T-UW1 IH0 V-AA1-L V-AW1 ER0 TH-IH1-NG K-IH0-NG DH-AH0 F-AH1 N-IY0 TH-IH1 NG-IH1-Z DH-AE1-T


...anti-woman or misogynistic it isn't. but it has to do with what we highlight in the religion, and what we don't highlight. so everyone knows the verse about...

AE1-N T-IY0 W-AA2 M-AH0 N-AO1-R M-IH2 S-AH0 G-IH0 N-IH1-S T-IH0 K-IH1 T-IH1 S-AH0-N-T B-AH1 T-IH1-T HH-AE1-Z T-UW1 D-UW1 W-IH1 DH-W-AH1 T-W-IY1 HH-AY1 L-AY2 T-IH0-N DH-AH0 R-IH0 L-IH1 JH-AH0 N-AH0-N D-W-AH1 T-W-IY1 D-AA1-N-T HH-AY1 L-AY2-T S-OW1 EH1 V-R-IY0 W-AH2-N N-OW1-Z DH-AH0 V-ER1 S-AH0 B-AW1-T


...quote, unquote, hitting your wife, if that's really what is meant...

K-W-OW1 T-AH1-N K-W-OW1-T HH-IH1 T-IH0 NG-Y-AO1 R-W-AY1 F-IH1-F TH-AE1-T S-R-IH1 L-IY0 W-AH1 T-IH1 Z-M-EH1-N-T


but let me also say that...

B-AH1 T-L-EH1 T-M-IY1 AO1-L S-OW0 S-EY1 DH-AE1-T


...it is very detailed in the fiqh when that would even be a possibility.

IH1 T-IH1-Z V-EH1 R-IY0 D-IH0 T-EY1-L D-IH0-N DH-AH0 F-IH1 K-W-EH1-N DH-AE1 T-W-UH1 D-IY1 V-IH0-N B-IY1 AH0 P-AA2 S-AH0 B-IH1 L-AH0 T-IY0


again, it's not about, the food tastes like...

AH0 G-EH1 N-IH1-T S-N-AA1 T-AH0 B-AW1-T DH-AH0 F-UW1-D T-EY1-S-T S-L-AY1-K


...there isn't any beating your wife up in islam like there...

DH-EH1 R-IH1 S-AH0-N T-EH1 N-IY0 B-IY1 T-IH0 NG-Y-AO1 R-W-AY1 F-AH1 P-IH0 N-IH0 S-L-AA1 M-L-AY1-K DH-EH1-R


...bruise, bleeding. so if anything, as i gave that example that my shuyukh gave, it should really, instead of...

B-R-UW1-Z B-L-IY1 D-IH0-NG S-OW1 IH1 F-EH1 N-IY0 TH-IH2 NG-AE1 Z-AY1 G-EY1-V DH-AE1 T-IH0-G Z-AE1-M P-AH0-L DH-AE1 T-M-AY1 SH-UW1 IH0-K G-EY1 V-IH1-T SH-UH1 D-R-IH1 L-IY0 IH0-N-S T-EH1 D-AH1-V


...beat lightly, which doesn't even logically make any sense.

B-IY1 T-L-AY1 T-L-IY0 W-IH1-CH D-OW1 S-AH0-N T-IY1 V-IH0 N-L-AA1 JH-IH0 K-L-IY0 M-EY1 K-EH1 N-IY0 S-EH1-N-S


it should really say physical force or something like that, because that's a more nuance. and then would lead someone who reads that first to go and read the fiqh.

IH1-T SH-UH1 D-R-IH1 L-IY0 S-EY1 F-IH1 Z-IH0 K-AH0-L F-AO1-R S-AO1-R S-AH1-M TH-IH0 NG-L-AY1-K DH-AE1-T B-IH0 K-AO1-Z TH-AE1-T S-AH0 M-AO1-R N-UW1 AA0-N S-AH0-N-D DH-EH1 N-W-UH1 D-L-EH1-D S-AH1 M-W-AH2-N HH-UW1 R-IY1-D-Z DH-AE1-T F-ER1-S-T T-UW1 G-OW1 AH0-N D-R-EH1-D DH-AH0 F-IH1-K


beating is domestic violence. but if it were to say physical force...

B-IY1 T-IH0 NG-IH1-Z D-AH0 M-EH1-S T-IH0-K V-AY1 AH0 L-AH0-N-S B-AH1 T-IH1 F-IH1 T-W-ER0 T-UW1 S-EY1 F-IH1 Z-IH0 K-AH0-L F-AO1-R-S


...what is physical force? what does that mean? and go to the fiqh. beating, you think, you know what it means. and that's why people actually believe that they can use that verse...

W-AH1 T-IH1-Z F-IH1 Z-IH0 K-AH0-L F-AO1-R S-W-AH1-T D-AH1-Z DH-AE1 T-M-IY1 N-AH0-N-D G-OW1 T-UW1 DH-AH0 F-IH1-K B-IY1 T-IH0 NG-Y-UW1 TH-IH1-NG K-Y-UW1 N-OW1 W-AH1 T-IH1 T-M-IY1-N Z-AH0-N-D TH-AE1-T S-W-AY1 P-IY1 P-AH0 L-AE1-K CH-AH0 W-AH0 L-IY0 B-IH0 L-IY1-V DH-AE1-T DH-EY1 K-AE1 N-Y-UW1-Z DH-AE1-T V-ER1-S


...to support his behavior. so we really have to be so...

T-UW1 S-AH0 P-AO1-R-T HH-IH1-Z B-IH0 HH-EY1 V-Y-ER0 S-OW1 W-IY1 R-IH1 L-IY0 HH-AE1-V T-UW1 B-IY1 S-OW1


...but it's also about what we understand it to mean, how we use the language. when you call someone a wife beater...

B-AH1 T-IH1-T S-AO1-L S-OW0 AH0 B-AW1 T-W-AH1 T-W-IY1 AH2-N D-ER0-S T-AE1-N D-IH1-T T-UW1 M-IY1-N HH-AW1 W-IY1 Y-UW1-Z DH-AH0 L-AE1-NG G-W-AH0 JH-W-EH1 N-Y-UW1 K-AO1-L S-AH1 M-W-AH2 N-AH0 W-AY1-F B-IY1 T-ER0


...you don't mean someone who lightly hits their wife, or someone who uses physical force because it was absolutely necessary.

Y-UW1 D-AA1-N T-M-IY1-N S-AH1 M-W-AH2-N HH-UW1 L-AY1 T-L-IY0 HH-IH1-T-S DH-EH1 R-W-AY1 F-AO1-R S-AH1 M-W-AH2-N HH-UW1 Y-UW1 Z-IH0-Z F-IH1 Z-IH0 K-AH0-L F-AO1-R-S B-IH0 K-AO1 Z-IH1 T-W-AA1 Z-AE2-B S-AH0 L-UW1 T-L-IY0 N-EH1 S-AH0 S-EH2 R-IY0


it means the one who beats up his wife.

IH1 T-M-IY1-N-Z DH-AH0 W-AH1-N HH-UW1 B-IY1-T S-AH1-P HH-IH1 Z-W-AY1-F


...scary to hear women...

S-K-EH1 R-IY0 T-UW1 HH-IY1 R-W-IH1 M-AH0-N


...dade, who mentioned my sister...

D-EY1-D HH-UW1 M-EH1-N SH-AH0-N D-M-AY1 S-IH1-S T-ER0


...who went to fortuna college,

HH-UW1 W-EH1-N-T T-UW1 F-AO0-R T-UW1 N-AH0 K-AA1 L-IH0-JH


...told me that he didn't have a date set.

T-OW1-L D-M-IY1 DH-AE1-T HH-IY1 D-IH1 D-AH0-N-T HH-AE1 V-AH0 D-EY1-T S-EH1-T


...system, and you want to deal with it in the islamic way, you want to go to the...

S-IH1-S T-AH0 M-AH0-N D-Y-UW1 W-AA1-N-T T-UW1 D-IY1 L-W-IH1 DH-IH1 T-IH0-N DH-AH0 IH0 Z-L-AA1 M-IH0 K-W-EY1 Y-UW1 W-AA1-N-T T-UW1 G-OW1 T-UW1 DH-AH0


...and i'm not, i think that any relationship is very nuanced. and really the woman who was being abused...

AH0-N D-IH1-M N-AA1 T-AY1 TH-IH1-NG-K DH-AE1 T-EH1 N-IY0 R-IY0 L-EY1 SH-AH0-N SH-IH2 P-IH1-Z V-EH1 R-IY0 N-UW1 AA0-N-S T-AH0-N D-R-IH1 L-IY0 DH-AH0 W-UH1 M-AH0-N HH-UW1 W-AA1-Z B-IY1 IH0 NG-AH0 B-Y-UW1-Z-D


...she has to really consider what it is that she's allowed. of course...

SH-IY1 HH-AE1-Z T-UW1 R-IH1 L-IY0 K-AH0-N S-IH1 D-ER0 W-AH1 T-IH1 T-IH1-Z DH-AE1-T SH-EH1 S-AH0 L-AW1 D-AH1-V K-AO1-R-S


...the man that's abusing is...

DH-AH0 M-AE1-N TH-AE1-T S-AH0 B-Y-UW1 Z-IH0 NG-IH1-Z


...podcast too long, but that's a part of the conversation that's missing...

P-OW1-D K-AE2-S-T T-UW1 L-AO1-NG B-AH1-T TH-AE1-T S-AH0 P-AA1-R T-AH1-V DH-AH0 K-AA2-N V-ER0 S-EY1 SH-AH0-N TH-AE1-T S-M-IH1 S-IH0-NG


...is that men like that need help, a man...

IH1-Z DH-AE1 T-M-EH1 N-L-AY1-K DH-AE1 T-N-IY1-D HH-EH1-L P-AH0 M-AE1-N


...or emotionally abuses her needs help.

AO1 R-IH0 M-OW1 SH-N-AH0 L-IY0 AH0 B-Y-UW1 Z-IH0-Z HH-ER0 N-IY1-D-Z HH-EH1-L-P


...something went wrong. so we need to figure out what went wrong and...

S-AH1-M TH-IH0 NG-W-EH1-N T-R-AO1-NG S-OW1 W-IY1 N-IY1-D T-UW1 F-IH1 G-Y-ER0 AW1 T-W-AH1 T-W-EH1-N T-R-AO1 NG-AH0-N-D


...change it. so inshallah to allah, i hope...

CH-EY1-N JH-IH1-T S-OW1 IH0-N SH-AE1 L-AH0 T-UW1 AA1 L-AH0 AY1 HH-OW1-P


...i may change the title, but i've titled it as...

AY1 M-EY1 CH-EY1-N-JH DH-AH0 T-AY1 T-AH0-L B-AH1 T-AY1-V T-AY1 T-AH0-L D-IH1 T-AE1-Z


...where we talk about islamic related topics, and social issues.

W-EH1 R-W-IY1 T-AO1 K-AH0 B-AW1 T-IH0 Z-L-AA1 M-IH0 K-R-IH0 L-EY1 T-IH0-D T-AA1 P-IH0-K S-AH0-N-D S-OW1 SH-AH0 L-IH1 SH-UW0-Z


...is because someone messaged me concerning its own recording today on...

IH1-Z B-IH0 K-AO1-Z S-AH1 M-W-AH2-N M-EH1 S-AH0-JH D-M-IY1 K-AH0-N S-ER1 N-IH0 NG-IH1-T S-OW1 N-R-AH0 K-AO1-R D-IH0-NG T-AH0 D-EY1 AA1-N


...two weeks from now. so, and i'm saying that because some of the things that i mentioned...

T-UW1 W-IY1-K-S F-R-AH1-M N-AW1 S-OW1 AH0-N D-IH1-M S-EY1 IH0-NG DH-AE1-T B-IH0 K-AO1-Z S-AH1 M-AH1-V DH-AH0 TH-IH1-NG-Z DH-AE1 T-AY1 M-EH1-N SH-AH0-N-D


...for example, a twitter conversation.

F-AO1 R-IH0-G Z-AE1-M P-AH0 L-AH0 T-W-IH1 T-ER0 K-AA2-N V-ER0 S-EY1 SH-AH0-N


so just to mention that...

S-OW1 JH-AH1-S-T T-UW1 M-EH1-N SH-AH0-N DH-AE1-T


...to do this topic, but this message came to me and i thought, okay, this could be...

T-UW1 D-UW1 DH-IH1-S T-AA1 P-IH0-K B-AH1-T DH-IH1 S-M-EH1 S-AH0-JH K-EY1-M T-UW1 M-IY1 AH0-N D-AY1 TH-AO1 T-OW2 K-EY1 DH-IH1-S K-UH1-D B-IY1


... i feel this way. and of course, no one has to agree with...

AY1 F-IY1-L DH-IH1 S-W-EY1 AH0-N D-AH1-V K-AO1-R S-N-OW1 W-AH1-N HH-AE1-Z T-UW1 AH0 G-R-IY1 W-IH1-DH


...and with dealing with other people's point of view...

AH0-N D-W-IH1-DH D-IY1 L-IH0 NG-W-IH1 DH-AH1 DH-ER0 P-IY1 P-AH0-L-Z P-OY1-N T-AH1-V V-Y-UW1


...and that really isn't what i'm about...

AH0-N-D DH-AE1 T-R-IH1 L-IY0 IH1 S-AH0-N T-W-AH1 T-IH1 M-AH0 B-AW1-T


...putting my point of view about a lot of issues is pretty clear in my writing, through my, what i have on social media if you've spoken to me...

P-AH1 T-IH0-NG M-AY1 P-OY1-N T-AH1-V V-Y-UW1 AH0 B-AW1 T-AH0 L-AA1 T-AH1 V-IH1 SH-UW0 Z-IH1-Z P-R-IH1 T-IY0 K-L-IH1 R-IH0-N M-AY1 R-AY1 T-IH0-NG TH-R-UW1 M-AY1 W-AH1 T-AY1 HH-AE1 V-AA1-N S-OW1 SH-AH0-L M-IY1 D-IY0 AH0 IH1 F-Y-UW1-V-S P-OW1 K-AH0-N T-UW1 M-IY1


...because i think on certain issues, we just...

B-IH0 K-AO1 Z-AY1 TH-IH1-NG K-AA1-N S-ER1 T-AH0 N-IH1 SH-UW0 Z-W-IY1 JH-AH1-S-T


...really haven't been able to have open and honest discussions.

R-IH1 L-IY0 HH-AE1 V-AH0-N-T B-IH1 N-EY1 B-AH0-L T-UW1 HH-AE1 V-OW1 P-AH0 N-AH0-N D-AA1 N-AH0-S-T D-IH0-S K-AH1 SH-AH0-N-Z


so when it comes to the issue of women choosing to work or not to work, how many...

S-OW1 W-EH1 N-IH1-T K-AH1-M-Z T-UW1 DH-AH0 IH1 SH-UW0 AH1 V-W-IH1 M-AH0-N CH-UW1 Z-IH0-NG T-UW1 W-ER1 K-AO1-R N-AA1-T T-UW1 W-ER1-K HH-AW1 M-EH1 N-IY0


...women grew up in our society today, and your mom when you were 15, 16, 17...

W-IH1 M-AH0-N G-R-UW1 AH1 P-IH0 N-AW1 ER0 S-AH0 S-AY1 AH0 T-IY0 T-AH0 D-EY1 AH0-N D-Y-AO1-R M-AA1 M-W-EH1 N-Y-UW1 W-ER0 F-IH0-F T-IY1-N S-IH0-K-S T-IY1-N S-EH1 V-AH0-N T-IY1-N


...however old asks you, "would you like to grow up to be a stay at home wife, or work outside the home?"

HH-AW2 EH1 V-ER0 OW1-L D-AE1-S-K S-Y-UW1 W-UH1 D-Y-UW1 L-AY1-K T-UW1 G-R-OW1 AH1-P T-UW1 B-IY1 AH0-S T-EY1 AE1-T HH-OW1 M-W-AY1 F-AO1 R-W-ER1 K-AW1-T S-AY1-D DH-AH0 HH-OW1-M


the only choice was work. people ask...

DH-AH0 OW1 N-L-IY0 CH-OY1 S-W-AA1 Z-W-ER1-K P-IY1 P-AH0 L-AE1-S-K


...most of the time, unless you grew up in a very conservative religious household with simple rules...

M-OW1-S T-AH1-V DH-AH0 T-AY1 M-AH0 N-L-EH1 S-Y-UW1 G-R-UW1 AH1 P-IH0 N-AH0 V-EH1 R-IY0 K-AH0-N S-ER1 V-AH0 T-IH0 V-R-IH0 L-IH1 JH-AH0-S HH-AW1-S HH-OW2-L D-W-IH1-DH S-IH1-M P-AH0-L R-UW1-L-Z


...that have conversations about...

DH-AE1-T HH-AE1-V K-AA2-N V-ER0 S-EY1 SH-AH0-N Z-AH0 B-AW1-T


...but secondly, about how that would even look...

B-AH1-T S-EH1 K-AH0-N D-L-IY0 AH0 B-AW1-T HH-AW1 DH-AE1 T-W-UH1 D-IY1 V-IH0 N-L-UH1-K


...silly, not silly, but for most women, even if you want to...

S-IH1 L-IY0 N-AA1-T S-IH1 L-IY0 B-AH1-T F-AO1-R M-OW1-S T-W-IH1 M-AH0 N-IY1 V-IH0 N-IH1 F-Y-UW1 W-AA1-N-T T-UW1


...enjoy your kids life, it probably would be more relevant to you when your kids are younger. and even if you stay a housewife when your kids are older...

EH0-N JH-OY1 Y-AO1-R K-IH1-D Z-L-AY1 F-IH1-T P-R-AA1 B-AH0 B-L-IY0 W-UH1-D B-IY1 M-AO1-R R-EH1 L-AH0 V-AH0-N-T T-UW1 Y-UW1 W-EH1 N-Y-AO1-R K-IH1-D Z-AA1 R-Y-AH1-NG G-ER0 AH0-N D-IY1 V-IH0 N-IH1 F-Y-UW1-S T-EY1 AH0 HH-AW1 S-W-AY2 F-W-EH1 N-Y-AO1-R K-IH1-D Z-AA1 R-OW1-L D-ER0


...but i think that for a lot of women, as i heard someone put it recently,

B-AH1 T-AY1 TH-IH1-NG-K DH-AE1-T F-AO1 R-AH0 L-AA1 T-AH1 V-W-IH1 M-AH0 N-AE1 Z-AY1 HH-ER1-D S-AH1 M-W-AH2-N P-UH1 T-IH1 T-R-IY1 S-AH0-N T-L-IY0


..but i think it is just very important to stress the point that we...

B-AH1 T-AY1 TH-IH1-NG K-IH1 T-IH1-Z JH-AH1-S-T V-EH1 R-IY0 IH0-M P-AO1-R T-AH0-N-T T-UW1-S T-R-EH1-S DH-AH0 P-OY1-N-T DH-AE1 T-W-IY1


". as women are not socially given the equal opportunity, "

AE1 Z-W-IH1 M-AH0 N-AA1-R N-AA1-T S-OW1 SH-AH0 L-IY0 G-IH1 V-AH0-N DH-AH0 IY1 K-W-AH0 L-AA2 P-ER0 T-UW1 N-AH0 T-IY0


" a rare person that grew up in a household where they were told you can only be a housewife in our american society. "

AH0 R-EH1-R P-ER1 S-AH0-N DH-AE1-T G-R-UW1 AH1 P-IH0 N-AH0 HH-AW1-S HH-OW2-L D-W-EH1-R DH-EY1 W-ER0 T-OW1-L D-Y-UW1 K-AE1 N-OW1 N-L-IY0 B-IY1 AH0 HH-AW1 S-W-AY2 F-IH0 N-AW1 ER0 AH0 M-EH1 R-AH0 K-AH0-N S-AH0 S-AY1 AH0 T-IY0


" so that's part of the reason i believe that "

S-OW1 TH-AE1-T-S P-AA1-R T-AH1-V DH-AH0 R-IY1 Z-AH0 N-AY1 B-IH0 L-IY1-V DH-AE1-T


" is because those voices are just not there, you have to date to find them. and young women are not growing up with the opportunity to "

IH1-Z B-IH0 K-AO1-Z DH-OW1-Z V-OY1 S-AH0 Z-AA1-R JH-AH1-S T-N-AA1-T DH-EH1 R-Y-UW1 HH-AE1-V T-UW1 D-EY1-T T-UW1 F-AY1-N-D DH-EH1 M-AH0-N D-Y-AH1 NG-W-IH1 M-AH0 N-AA1-R N-AA1-T G-R-OW1 IH0 NG-AH1 P-W-IH1-DH DH-AH0 AA2 P-ER0 T-UW1 N-AH0 T-IY0 T-UW1


" someone has a career. that's an umbrella word for so many different types of things, so "

S-AH1 M-W-AH2-N HH-AE1 Z-AH0 K-ER0 IH1-R TH-AE1-T S-AE1 N-AH0-M B-R-EH1 L-AH0 W-ER1-D F-AO1-R S-OW1 M-EH1 N-IY0 D-IH1 F-ER0 AH0-N-T T-AY1-P S-AH1-V TH-IH1-NG-Z S-OW1


" good meals and bakes and arts and crafts.are you going to be a housewife that "

G-UH1 D-M-IY1-L Z-AH0-N-D B-EY1-K S-AH0-N D-AA1-R-T S-AH0-N-D K-R-AE1-F-T S-EY2 R-Y-UW1 G-OW1 IH0-NG T-UW1 B-IY1 AH0 HH-AW1 S-W-AY2-F DH-AE1-T


" brings a sense of religiousness into the household, holding religious gatherings and being the household where people come and feel welcome? "

B-R-IH1-NG Z-AH0 S-EH1-N S-AH1 V-R-IH0 L-IH1 JH-AH0 S-N-AH0 S-IH0-N T-UW1 DH-AH0 HH-AW1-S HH-OW2-L-D HH-OW1-L D-IH0 NG-R-IH0 L-IH1 JH-AH0-S G-AE1 DH-ER0 IH0-NG Z-AH0-N-D B-IY1 IH0-NG DH-AH0 HH-AW1-S HH-OW2-L D-W-EH1-R P-IY1 P-AH0-L K-AH1 M-AH0-N-D F-IY1 L-W-EH1-L K-AH0-M


" what kind of housewife are you going to be? "

W-AH1-T K-AY1-N D-AH1-V HH-AW1 S-W-AY2 F-AA1 R-Y-UW1 G-OW1 IH0-NG T-UW1 B-IY1


" so we don't, and then lastly, "

S-OW1 W-IY1 D-AA1-N T-AH0-N-D DH-EH1 N-L-AE1-S T-L-IY0


" how do you get the skillset to do that? "

HH-AW1 D-UW1 Y-UW1 G-EH1-T DH-AH0-S K-IH1-L-S-T T-UW1 D-UW1 DH-AE1-T


" so we don't get to explore any of that in our society because "

S-OW1 W-IY1 D-AA1-N-T G-EH1-T T-UW1 IH0-K-S P-L-AO1 R-EH1 N-IY0 AH1-V DH-AE1 T-IH0 N-AW1 ER0 S-AH0 S-AY1 AH0 T-IY0 B-IH0 K-AO1-Z


" isn't seen as equal to having a career. that's part of the reason "

IH1 S-AH0-N-T S-IY1 N-AE1 Z-IY1 K-W-AH0-L T-UW1 HH-AE1 V-IH0 NG-AH0 K-ER0 IH1-R TH-AE1-T-S P-AA1-R T-AH1-V DH-AH0 R-IY1 Z-AH0-N


". and also in my writing "

AH0-N D-AO1-L S-OW0 IH0-N M-AY1 R-AY1 T-IH0-NG


" life, i believe it's the first two years of life "

L-AY1 F-AY1 B-IH0 L-IY1 V-IH1-T-S DH-AH0 F-ER1-S-T T-UW1 Y-IH1-R Z-AH1 V-L-AY1-F


" that is so crucial to a baby's life "

DH-AE1 T-IH1-Z S-OW1 K-R-UW1 SH-AH0-L T-UW1 AH0 B-EY1 B-IY0 Z-L-AY1-F


" that they have a primary parent there "

DH-AE1-T DH-EY1 HH-AE1 V-AH0 P-R-AY1 M-EH2 R-IY0 P-EH1 R-AH0-N-T DH-EH1-R


". what does that message become? it becomes a watered down message, "

W-AH1-T D-AH1-Z DH-AE1 T-M-EH1 S-AH0-JH B-IH0 K-AH1 M-IH1-T B-IH0 K-AH1-M Z-AH0 W-AO1 T-ER0-D D-AW1-N M-EH1 S-AH0-JH


" that's just not my life. "

TH-AE1-T-S JH-AH1-S T-N-AA1 T-M-AY1 L-AY1-F


" if i'm not working and having a family in terms of husband and children, "

IH1 F-IH1-M N-AA1 T-W-ER1 K-IH0 NG-AH0-N-D HH-AE1 V-IH0 NG-AH0 F-AE1 M-AH0 L-IY0 IH0-N T-ER1-M Z-AH1-V HH-AH1-Z B-AH0-N D-AH0-N-D CH-IH1-L D-R-AH0-N


" i've only recently been married."

AY1 V-OW1 N-L-IY0 R-IY1 S-AH0-N T-L-IY0 B-IH1-N M-EH1 R-IY0-D


" there is enough of that. i think there is enough "

DH-EH1 R-IH1 Z-IH0 N-AH1 F-AH1-V DH-AE1 T-AY1 TH-IH1-NG-K DH-EH1 R-IH1 Z-IH0 N-AH1-F


" you how to balance your life between work and family. "

Y-UW1 HH-AW1 T-UW1 B-AE1 L-AH0-N S-Y-AO1-R L-AY1-F B-IH0 T-W-IY1 N-W-ER1 K-AH0-N-D F-AE1 M-AH0 L-IY0


" and she spoke about these women who were giving up their careers to be housewives, basically. "

AH0-N-D SH-IY1-S P-OW1 K-AH0 B-AW1-T DH-IY1 Z-W-IH1 M-AH0-N HH-UW1 W-ER0 G-IH1 V-IH0 NG-AH1-P DH-EH1-R K-ER0 IH1-R-Z T-UW1 B-IY1 HH-AW1 S-W-AY2-V-Z B-EY1 S-IH0 K-L-IY0


" but her book it even, i love the book because i got to explore this idea of women who were giving up their careers to be housewives and find "

B-AH1-T HH-ER0 B-UH1 K-IH1 T-IY1 V-IH0 N-AY1 L-AH1-V DH-AH0 B-UH1-K B-IH0 K-AO1 Z-AY1 G-AA1-T T-UW1 IH0-K-S P-L-AO1-R DH-IH1 S-AY0 D-IY1 AH0 AH1 V-W-IH1 M-AH0-N HH-UW1 W-ER0 G-IH1 V-IH0 NG-AH1-P DH-EH1-R K-ER0 IH1-R-Z T-UW1 B-IY1 HH-AW1 S-W-AY2-V Z-AH0-N-D F-AY1-N-D


" value in that sector of their life. "

V-AE1 L-Y-UW0 IH0-N DH-AE1-T S-EH1-K T-ER0 AH1-V DH-EH1-R L-AY1-F


" this was a negative thing, basically.i mean, it wasn't "

DH-IH1 S-W-AA1 Z-AH0 N-EH1 G-AH0 T-IH0-V TH-IH1-NG B-AA0 S-IY0 K-AE1 L-IH0 K-IY0 M-IY1 N-IH1 T-W-AO1-S-T


" so harsh. she was more so at the background of just tell "

S-OW1 HH-AA1-R-SH SH-IY1 W-AA1 Z-M-AO1-R S-OW1 AE1-T DH-AH0 B-AE1-K G-R-AW2-N D-AH1-V JH-AH1-S-T T-EH1-L


" them, putting their stories, but you could obviously tell she was not on the same page as these "

DH-EH1-M P-AH1 T-IH0-NG DH-EH1-R-S T-AO1 R-IY0-Z B-AH1 T-Y-UW1 K-UH1 D-AA1-B V-IY0 AH0 S-L-IY0 T-EH1-L SH-IY1 W-AA1 Z-N-AA1 T-AA1-N DH-AH0 S-EY1-M P-EY1 JH-AE1-Z DH-IY1-Z


" women and kind of have the attitude of like what has happened "

W-IH1 M-AH0 N-AH0-N-D K-AY1-N D-AH1-V HH-AE1-V DH-AH0 AE1 T-AH0 T-UW2 D-AH1 V-L-AY1 K-W-AH1-T HH-AE1-Z HH-AE1 P-AH0-N-D


" since the feminist movement, and we fought for the right to work, why are there women? "

S-IH1-N-S DH-AH0 F-EH1 M-AH0 N-AH0-S T-M-UW1 V-M-AH0-N T-AH0-N D-W-IY1 F-AO1-T F-AO1-R DH-AH0 R-AY1-T T-UW1 W-ER1 K-W-AY1 AA1-R DH-EH1 R-W-IH1 M-AH0-N