How to Heal Self-Doubt With Self-Compassion
Imagine you’ve just finished a job interview. You really want this job. But, as you leave the room, the emotional storm begins. You start thinking of all the reasons why you won’t get chosen.
“I bet I looked nervous. I had to explain why I was let go from my last job. I’ve put on all this weight….”
You beat yourself up with negative thoughts for a while. If you can relate to this way of talking to yourself, you’re not alone.
Being seen up close and personal can trigger self-doubt and shame. That’s when it’s time to practice self-compassion.
What Is Self-Compassion?
Researchers and psychologists have found a powerful tool to help ease struggles that challenge our self-esteem. It’s self-compassion.
Self-compassion is the thoughtful kindness you extend toward yourself as you would a valued friend. Having an inner resource of self-compassion involves:
- Acknowledging suffering
- Noticing and being responsive to suffering and emotional pain
- Offering kindness and understanding rather than judgment
- Realizing that suffering, imperfection, and struggle are a part of the collective human experience