Making the leap from being married or in a committed relationship to life as a single parent takes a lot of bravery. Getting a divorce with children involved in the equation is certainly not an easy step, but one that needs to be taken for the wellbeing of both parents and children. This is what Barb decided to do after 14 years married to the father of her child.
After a long period of unhappiness in her relationship, North London-based mother of one Barb summoned up the courage to separate from her husband.
'The decision to split was made in March 2011 and we were officially separated by June,' says Barb. Shortly after they sold the family home and it was at this point that Barbara broke the news to her son, then aged 13.
'I was the one who told my son, his father was in the room as well but he didn't speak,' Barb recalls. 'Our son knew that his dad and I's relationship wasn't brilliant, he knew it was going to happen. There was a big build up.
Making childcare arrangements was particularly hard as Barb's ex-husband would only go through their son to make plans. 'He would only text my son to make arrangements, but certain things needed to be discussed between us – the parents – first.
The Parent Connection is a free information & advice service for separated parents, run by relationship support charity. In addition, The Parent Connection offers two free online programmes: Getting It Right For Children and Splitting Up? Put Kids First which help parents to deal with conflict without putting the children in the middle and create an online co-parenting plan.