So my sebae was settled for a week or so now it keeps releasing and ending up upside down.... thoughts?
So it sounds like he is not happy where he is. Turn down the flow and help it get to somewhere the sand and rock meet might help. Someone else with more experience of this nem might help.
Have you checked foot for tears?
Where are you placing it, sand or rock?
I've had them set right away before, and I've had a couple times it may have taken a couple hours to see it setting on it's own, so it varies some.
I always try to bury them some and have a couple rocks near to kind of block flow.
usually I don't feed them for first couple weeks at least to let them really settle, while it did not stay where you may have placed, at least it's set, so cool.