We all want to host a Thanksgiving dinner that's not stressful and hectic, because that takes away from the holiday's purpose: expressing gratitude. Your host has a lot on their plate (not just turkey!). If you find yourself on the guest list this year, follow these 5 secrets to be the ideal guest and help your host's day run as smooth as gravy.
RSVP ASAP: The number of guests in attendance affects everything: how much food to prepare, how much seating is needed, and what type of activities to plan. Be courteous; respond within 48 hours of receiving the invitation. If you receive an invitation after you've already said yes to another, immediately inform the latter host that you will not be able to attend.
Arrive with Offerings: If you have any special dietary needs, bring a gluten free (or sugar-free, or nut-free, etc.) side dish. Remember to bring food ready-to-serve (serving spoon and all) and wine pre-chilled; try not to encroach on kitchen or refrigerator space. Call or text your host on Wednesday, asking if they need any last-minute items. If not, potted plants fend better than flower bouquets, preventing your host from scrambling through cupboards at the eleventh hour seeking a vase.
Leave the Toast to the Host: Some guests don't realize that giving the first toast as a guest is a big taboo. The host—the curator of the evening—deserves to make the initial toast. If you're itching to make a big announcement or show your appreciation to the hardworking host, ask them privately when they will be making their toast so you know when your turn is coming.
Be an Extra Set of Eyes (or Hands): Observe how the day is going and tune in to wherever help might be needed. If your host denies your offer to help in the kitchen, designate yourself as the resident babysitter, DJ, or coat-check clerk.
Thanksgiving is a time for giving thanks, so don't forget to give thanks to your host! Stay away from offering criticism--they know that the turkey tastes perfect.