So, is it wrong to be married and flirting? Or is it okay as long as it does not go beyond just that?
The Oxford Dictionary defines flirting as to "Behave as though sexually attracted to someone, but playfully rather than with serious intentions".
Flirting seems harmless. It is exciting, fun and arouses curiosity about the person you are giving the 'playful attention'.
Flirting sends a message consciously or unknowingly. What is the message? Romantic or sexual interest in the other person.
Up to 90% of our communication is not verbal. We are always communicating without opening our mouths. Our eye movements, posture, facial expressions and gestures are doing the talking. Body language generally prevails over words.
The eyes communicate more messages than any other body part. Flirting signals with our eyes may include winking, smiling with our eyes, batting the eyelashes, intimidating with seduction stares or 'bedroom eyes', or observing someone from head to toe and then giving that little 'twinkle' which provokes interest among others.
You should know that the eyes are the entrance to your soul. The soul comprises your mind, will and emotions. The mind encompasses your thoughts, wants and feelings.
Studies have shown that anything a person thinks about will eventually manifest in their lives.
Napoleon Hill once said, "Our brains become magnetized with the dominating thoughts we hold in our minds." This means that your life tends to follow the direction of the most dominating thoughts in your mind.
When a flirtatious glance is reciprocated, it means a lot. You think about it throughout the day. What you think on expands.
If a person gently touched your arm during a conversation, you will think about the touch for long. Thoughts eventually lead to actions. A point reaches when thinking is not enough. Therefore if you are married and flirting you are treading on a dangerous path.
Many people are married and flirting out of loneliness, curiosity or perhaps to feel attractive and passionate again.
Flirting therefore becomes a means to accomplish emotionally what you think you cannot achieve physically. Just think again. Remember it all starts in the mind.