This week we watched another video from the Wild at Heart series titled "The Poser and the Question." The premise is that each of us has worked hard to develop a personality – an image – that is really just an elaborate disguise. It isn't necessarily fake, but it likely is a cover up for our greatest fear…being exposed.
Every man has a question to which he desperately needs an answer. Do I have what it takes? When it's crunch time, will I be able to come through? If everything comes down to me – just me – will I be able to pull it off? Our fear, of course, is that we might not. And, not knowing that we would, really knowing for certain, leaves us afraid to ever be in a situation to find out. If the best answer we can come up with is "I think so," or "maybe," or "probably not," then we live our life avoiding being put to the test. We create a false image so that others will get the impression that we have what it takes, even though we aren't sure ourselves.
The message of the video tells us that we won't really know if we have what it takes until we face our fears, and do that which scares us. Drop the pretend self, and start the journey. Each of us committed that this week we would do just that.
Ivy Lane – Very thoughtful discussion on Wednesday. We talked about a lot of ways that we're posing: to fit in, to be friendly, for comfort, to hide, etc. Sometimes poses are forced on us and sometimes we force them on others. Poses aren't always bad, but we just need to be aware of when and why we are doing it.