Is there anyway I can flash or just plain install the action bar from honeycomb or ICS, ICS preferably??
Well it's probably not impossible but the framework for honeycomb and even more so in ICS is different from what we have in gingerbread.
The action bar isn't something you add. It's the designated location where app controls are supposed to go according to the suggested layout guidelines for developers.
You're talking about the navigation bar.