Why would a guy ask "what are you wearing right now?"
this is a question for a friend of my teenage daughter. I've told her what I think the answer is, but sometimes you guys surprise me so I thought I'd ask you lol...she says every time she's on the phone or texting with her boyfriend he'll randomly ask her (about 3 times in a day) what she's wearing "um tshirt and jeans" or "tank top and pj bottoms" whatever the case may be and he'll say "Ok :)"
why is he asking her that...thanks!
fyi as I said below I told her it's because he wants a visual so he can think about taking it off(?)she being a naive teenage girl doesn't understand why he would even bother asking that I'm hoping to get a guys perspective to explain to her why he'd ask
jdcpa | 97 opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.
Usually, guys just say it to make the girl feel good about herself. It's an indirect compliment.
Direct:
You look good --> (She feels good about herself)
Indirect:
What are you wearing right now? --> (Her: he wants to imagine what I look like) --> (Her: he can't help but thinking about me) --> (She feels good about the way she looks) --> (She feels good about herself)
Of course, the KEY ASSUMPTION is that the girl is smart enough to fill in the blanks in her own head. lol
So this poor guy probably tried it once, and the girl is like "I'm wearing blah blah blah. Why are you asking me what I'm wearing?" And this guy is like, "Okay, so she's a little slow, but we'll try it again, she'll eventually get it." Welcome to 3 times a day later, and this girl still doesn't get it, and it's evolved into this complicated issue.
But, as far as his own motives? (In order of hierarchy) Maybe (1) he wants to give her an indirect compliment, so she can feel good, without him doing so directly, because he's shy, (2) he wants to visualize how she looks, so he can think about her, and so his sexual interest in her doesn't disappear; (it's definitely NOT to do anything else; p0rn is just clicks away, a guy's imagination isn't HD enough to give a guy quality-enough fap-content), (3) he wants to get a feel for the kind of things she wears, so he can get a better understanding for her style. (after all, what you wear speaks volumes about your personality. It's a proxy for him to assess this girl's self-esteem, confidence, intelligence & creativity [even though, I hope his answer to that is clear by now], and to see if he's REALLY attracted to her. I mean, after all, if she doesn't have the style she's looking for, that's definitely one factor to take into account when deciding whether to continue being interested in her or not).
he's pretty big into compliments with her so that could be the case but he's usually not shy about handing them out so not sure about that one. it's not really complicated she's just perplexed by it lol it doesn't bother her and they've been dating about 6 months so he knows her style pretty well.
thanks for the answer!
Or he just wants to sext? Would've saved you all this typing lol
He's wanting to talk dirty to her, or get an image of her at the very least. Unless he's genuinely into fashion, then I doubt it's anything else lol. He has a little friend of his that is wanting some attention.
she thinks it's weird that boys need to get an image. I talked to her about how guys are visual and want to get an image of her in his head...girls don't need to do that we make up our own images so she doesn't really get the point of asking that so much lol...that's one way that men and women are very different I think.
Yeah, we do like to visualize something in sexy clothes or nothing at all. But I do think he's wanting to talk dirty (sext) to her. I'm not downing the other guys answers, but trying to compliment her? Come on guys, we all know what he's up to. If he was a Romeo, he'd already be complimenting her. No need to beat around the bush with someone that's already his girlfriend.
yeah that's what I think. lol it's curious that the girls were like "he's horny/he wants to f**k her" but the guys are coming up with reasons other than sexual. it's interesting lol
I know right! Maybe they're trying to keep our secret safe and keep you girls in the dark lol
sneaky boys! you aren't nearly as covert as ya think :P
I'm covert enough to have you playing my little game right now ;)
Just an option... I had this friend in a relationship with this guy he would ask her to see if she's dressed like a slut then stalk her to make sure she's not lying. I know creepy. But maybe he is genuinely concerned about what his girlfriend is wearing? Um just my input sorry to bother. Haha. but what the others said first popped in to my head till I remembered that. lol
tyt_2012
LOL isn`t it obvious? *rolls eyes*
He`s fantasising about f***ing her, duh.
I already told you I gave her my opinion(which is the obvious duh answer lol) I am waiting for guy responses lol
I told her "well he's either gay and into fashion or he's visualizing what you're wearing because he's thinking about taking it off" lol
LOL I`d go with the latter ha ha or he could be another Gok Wan LMFAO!
scar1
he could also be straight and into fasion
That is true or he could be another Gok Wan ahaha
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DaveMicharl69 | 69 opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.
Sounds like he's trying to be "sexting" or getting a good visual so he can masturbate. Sorry to be blunt, but that's my best opinion...
mike5150 | 2.5K opinions shared on Society & Politics topic.
He is probably horny and wants to masturbate (thats not sarcasm that's really what I belive)
giggle22
he wants her to have phone sex with him I think or maybe tell him that she's in her panties or what ever.
Yeah probably. Are they doing that when they meet up in person?
He may just want to know the image of her body type or how she would fit in them, sexual interaction, or he just wants to know what girls in general wear.
IamaPlayboy
He must be confuse about what to say next,so he asks this question.
hmmm this is something to consider. knowing this kid I could see this as a conversation starter type question. thanks!
Alternatively, he could think he's being funny.
he's horny
basically but she doesn't understand how that question translates to horny I'm trying to figure out a tactful way to explain it to her LOL
Opinion Owner
tell her he is sexually attracted to her.
she knows that he is she just doesn't understand how 'what are you wearing right now?' translates to ' I find you sexually attractive' she doesn't understand what he's going to do with that information that means he's hot for her.
is he going to masturbate with that info? idk
yeah I don't know if I want to assume that sort of detail I'd rather a guy filled that in for me lol
He/she doesn't respond to texts right away. Is this relationship doomed?
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