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Amma's stories on managing anger and other emotions – Part 2 (4 more stories)
September 20, 2020 /0 Comments/in Stories told by Amma /by C.V.Rajan
[If you have not read the previous 15 little stories of Amma under this topic, you can read them here: Amma's stories on managing anger and other emotions – Part 1 ]
1. Insignificant victory
An young man received call for a prestigious job interview, which he was eagerly waiting to receive for months. He had to travel to a distant city where his interview was scheduled. For that, he had to travel by air and the travel plan involved changing a plane at an intermediate station. Once his first flight descended in the intermediate airport, the next plane was scheduled to depart after a gap of half an hour. As he was waiting at the departure lounge for the flight, he felt hungry; he decided to utilize the time gap to have a quick bite.
He went to the Restaurant there and ate some fast food. When the bill came, he was shocked as the amount was Rs 500, which was too hefty for him. He went to the cashier and argued with him: "Hey! This is very unfair. I have not eaten anything heavy to demand such a high payment". After arguing for a while, the cashier decided to pacify the customer and offered a 100 Rupees reduction. But the young man was not happy. He kept on insisting that the bill was still unfair. He was very particular not to spend more than Rs 300. After lots of arguments, finally, the cashier agreed for Rs 300.-
The young man was very happy. He felt very proud of himself for arguing so strongly and smartly saving Rs 200.- in the bargain. He walked proudly towards the departure gate. There he came to know that the flight had departed about 5 minute ago!
Forgetting the very significance of his journey for which he had indeed been waiting for months, the young man had wasted his precious time in arguing, just for saving a small amount of money!
[Amma: "Some people tend to complain that time was not favorable to them. The fact is, time is always favorable. Only we are not in tune with the time."]
(Source: Amritam Gamaya – Malayalam – Vol 1)
2. Why so excited?
A middle aged person and a young man were walking around a flower garden.
The young man asked his father excitedly in a loud voice, "Daddy! Isn't this the flower called rose? Ah how beautiful it is!"
The father too spoke in an equally excited voice, "Yes my dear son! This indeed is the rose!'
"Is n't its color known as pink, daddy?"
"Yes! Indeed!" said the father. The son pointed his hand towards the lawn and said, again loudly full of excitement, "Is it not the grass daddy? Isn't its color called green?"
"Yes! My son. You are absolutely right!" The fathers voice too was equally loud and excited.
The young man continued to point one after other and they talked excitedly about each. In a nearby bench, an old man was seated. He had come to the garden seeking silence and mental peace. He felt irritated by the loud-mouthed talking by the father and his grown up son. With obvious expression of his irritation and disapproval, the old man said, "I came to this garden in search of some mental peace. Many people who visit this garden too are like me. When you two people talk so loudly oblivious of your surrounding, people like me have lost peace. Your dull headed son keeps on asking insignificant things and you are so excitedly replaying "yes my son!" to all his questions! Why don't you go to some doctor and find a cure for your son's retarded behavior instead of coming here?"
Hearing this, both the father and son stood there, stupefied for a while. Then the father said, "I am sorry. My son is not mentally retarded. He had been blind right from birth. Only two days ago his eyes were operated in order to bring eyesight to him. After the operation, at the time of removing his bandage, I had this desire to show him some really beautiful and heart-warming sights for the first time as he sees this world. That's why I brought him here. This is the first time in his life that he is seeing all these beautiful things around here. That's why he was talking so excitedly about them. I too was overwhelmed with joy when I my son has got his eyesight and naturally, when he asked the questions, I was equally excited and spoke so loudly. Suppose we got back the wealth that we had lost long back, how much excited we would become! In the same way, we totally forgot our surroundings; kindly excuse us".
Hearing this, the old man felt extremely bad and ashamed about his hasty judgment and the way he had let out very hurting words against them. He immediately sought their pardon. He took a resolve that, in future, he would not get angry at others by framing his own preconceived judgements.
3. Revenge – Is it worth?
Once a person heavily drunk drove his car that ended up in an accident. A young man on the road got killed in the accident.
The mother of the young man who died started crying uncontrollably when she heard the news. He was her only son and his loss at his prime youth was unbearable to her. Despite the passage of several days and months, her sorrow did not reduce. It soon turned to anger — anger against the person who killed her son in the accident. She want to take revenge on him. She wanted to kill him; her heart started boiling with such a desire.
A few days passed this way. Gradually her mind cooled down; she was able to think more logically into the idea of avenging her son's death. She thought, 'What will I really gain by killing the drunkard? Will I ever get back my son? If my son's accidental death could cause so much grief in me, then it will be natural that if I kill the drunkard, his mother and family too will grieve the same way. What will I gain by causing those innocent people to suffer mentally by my act of vengeance? Let them not face the same fate as I had faced'. Now her mind became calm.
She thought further: 'What was the cause of my son's death? Was it not the drinking habit of the person who drove the car? If he were to be a sober person, he would have driven the car carefully and my son would not have died. So the real problem is drinking and driving. If I could do something to make a few people aware of the evil consequences of drinking, to that extent the society would get benefited.'
She discussed the matter with some of her friends and wellwishers. They too came forward to support her enthusiastically. Soon she started a small Social service group through which she conducted sessions with people to propagate the evils of drinking. She dedicated her time considerably for this mission. Within a few years she was running a large organization dedicated to propagate the evils of drinking across the nation.
4. A shift in mindset
[NOTE: This is actually a real life story — from the life of young Ramakrishnan (now Swami Ramakrishnananda Puri, one of Amma's seniormost sanyasis) during the early days of his association with Amma.]
As a college student Ramakrishnan had a goal of studying medicine and becoming a doctor. Unfortunately, he lost the opportunity to join MBBS by scoring just one mark below the selection cutoff level in the entrance examination. He became dejected and depressed because of it. He had no interest in joining any other course. After few days, due to compulsion from his family, he applied for bank job. He got the job.
Even after joining duty, the frustration about not becoming a doctor as per his dreams continued to affect him. He could not deal with his bank clients with courtesy or friendliness; he could not smile at others. He understood that such a behavior was not right.
He went to his beloved Guru (Amma) and confessed about his mental turmoil. He said, "Amma, my mind is not in my control; even on petty matters, I get angry. I am not able to behave respectfully with the bank's clients. With this mental state, I don't think I will be able to continue in my job for long. Amma. what should I do?"
Amma listened to him patiently. Then consoling him, she said, "My son. Suppose I send a person who is close to me, to you to the bank seeking some assistance from the bank, how will you deal with him?"
Ramakrishnan said, "Of course I will receive him warmly and offer all possible help to him".
"If so, you must do one thing. Think of every customer who comes to you seeking Bank's help as though he is a person sent personally by me. If you develop such an attitude, you will be able to behave friendly and nicely with every person approaching you".
From that day onwards, there was a sea of change in Ramakrishnan's behavior. He was able to see every person coming to him for banking help as though he was sent by God (his guru) and was able to serve them with courtesy. Anger and frustration left him once for all.
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This website has been conceived and being developed by C.V.Rajan. He is a retired Engineer and an ex-design consultant, now living with his wife in Ashram at Amritapuri, Kerala, spending his retired life in quest of spirituality under the holy feet of Amma, Satguru Mata Amritanandamayi.
He is an avid reader and a writer. Writing as a hobby started in him at the age of 20. As his interest turned to spirituality in his late thirties, he became an avid reader on the lives and teachings of great Mahatmas like Sri Ramakrishna Paramahamsa, Bhagwan Ramana Maharshi and his satguru Mata Amritanandamayi (Amma).
In his early fifties, he wrote at various blog sites on variety of subjects like Hinduism, spirituality, life & living, healthy living, Indian culture and so on. Now through this website (Hinduism Way Of Life), C.V.Rajan is consolidating and sharing all his writings on Hinduism under a single umbrella.