Discussion in 'General Discussions' started by shravs3, Apr 16, 2019 at 4:55 AM.
I think most of them know that I moved to different city recently. Yesterday, I moved into a shared apartment which is already shared by two Indians( Male and female).
As they where from same company,I felt it would be ideal to move with them as it's even easier for transportation and other stuffs.
But the main issue is initially, I was told that they where just friends and since the gal couldn't find any other apartments she had to share with a guy who is her college mate.
I really dint bother much about it as they also moved in last week.
Now I feel that they are in relationship as they share the same room even at night.
But actually she had told that we both will be sharing the room.
I was fine with it. But now it's different.
If she had told earlier that they were in relationship I'm sure I wouldn't have moved in.
I feel I'm intruding their private space.
I even cannot move out now at least for a month.
Not sure what to do atleast for now.
Yesterday they were going out to buy some stuff, I said I'm bored and is it ok if I join them. Through their expressions I felt that they were not comfortable, but they said they are fine with it.
My DH says why should I bother? But it's taking my peace away.
I know, I can't even question them for not revealing their relationship as it's their private stuff. But I'm feeling really annoyed.
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Friend talks uncomfortable stuff- what would you do?
Most uncomfortable clothing you have ever worn ??
So, you are getting a room to yourself? Or is that gal's stuff in your room and she only teleports to the other room sunset to sunrise?
What about the rent? How many bedrooms in the place? Are you paying 1/2 or 1/3 the total rent? If you are paying 1/3 and getting a room to yourself, isn't it great?
Be practical. The money saved by sharing an apartment, with people from the same company, Indians, and the convenience of transportation etc is worth it. Yes, you are surprised and didn't know beforehand, but is it so big a deal?
That is their problem. Don't hide in your room just to give them privacy in the living room.
Such things happen in any new roommates situation. A little bit of square dancing with stepping on each other's toes till all figure out what works.
You could make a note to yourself to use their company or other help that they can offer only when needed, or direly needed. Not because you are "I'm bored." For that boredom resolution, we are here in IL, no?
I once said earlier he is a wise person. He is right. Text and tell him 'you are right' sandwiched between I-miss-you's.
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Are you responsible for your part of the rent ? Or.. would you have to pay higher amount for gaining a "single room" ?
hahaha.... It is so funny that you complain when you get to occupy your own room.
And besides, you are assuming that those two are in a relationship just because they are sharing a room at night -- it may just be metaphysical.... or physical.
Just ignore them, and focus on your life.
when they don't want you to go with them on drives (shopping?), give them a shopping list, and money to buy what is on that list. That would be such a good service.
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@shravs3 . Throw your ethics away.
Since they are known Indians, it's good and safe for you.
Enjoy the entire room to yourself.
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I was told that we gals will be sharing one room and the guy in one more room. I will be paying only 1/3rd of the rent. Yes in one way getting a full room for myself is a jackpot though!
Except that we both are sharing same bathroom and a closet.
Do they cook at home or mostly eat out? Is food/grocery shared? By when will you prove that you are the best cook in the place?
Oh to be young again...... : ) Ensoi the virah and milan's this staying apart might give cause for.
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Follow Rihana's counsel, always. She has that desi-touch that is unique. I have less gray/grey in my thoughts and feelings about things.
As for "disturbing those love birds", you are not. On the contrary, you may be providing a virtual safety cover for the girl. She'd be treated more gently by that boy when he has a witness at earshot. This is like a girl's mother visiting the USA, when the young husband's temperamental behavior is shelved until the mum departs.
What unsolicited... posts are "open house" aren't they ?
Tax-day is almost over... and people tend to feel less stressed.
@shravs3: Tax question: is the job within the same state as your joint income tax filer ?
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By when will you prove that you are the best cook in the place?
I understand your situation. I had female roommates that would constantly have boyfriends over spending the night. This was not discussed when we decided to be roommates and it really put me off. I am all for people in love spending time together but not at the cost of making others uncomfortable.
But I would not confront them about it specially if they are helping you settle down. Chances are even if you change roommates you will encounter this situation ( even with Indians ).
So don't think much about it and enjoy the room to yourself.
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