Gender is a human experience, not just a trans experience. Every single one of us has a relationship to gender, so how can we change the way we talk about it, challenge misconceptions, and become better allies? Schuyler Bailar is the first transgender athlete to compete on the Harvard University Swim team. His difficult choice - to transition while potentially giving up the prospect of being a national champion - was historic. This book will provide readers with essential trans and gender literacy through empowering and informative stories from his own experiences, and those of other trans and non-binary individuals around the world. This urgent, hopeful guide will cover everything from understanding what gender is and how to talk about it, to gender in the world and how to be a better ally.