Family togetherness during Ramadan is especially important for parents of young children and adolescents. Children’s early experiences of Ramadan informs the feeling and memories they associate with this blessed month throughout their lives. Creating family traditions to get children excited about and engaged with Islam during this month will help them grasp hold of the inexplicable aura of blessings and sacredness that we as adults cherish about Ramadan.
So how do you go about getting your children excited about Ramadan? We’ve outlined some ideas below on how to do this. Use these ideas to start thinking creatively about how you can make this month a time of spiritual growth and togetherness for your family as a whole.
Set spiritual goals together
A common practice for adult Muslims is setting Ramadan goals. While you’re setting your own goals for spiritual growth and character development, engage children in a conversation about what these things mean and why it’s especially important during Ramadan. This helps them develop a growth mindset, and builds their resilience.
Brainstorm with your children about ways that they want to change. Empower them to make a change with helpful tools. You may want to help them document their success through written goals, journals, and Ramadan charts. Or simply give them a list of ideas so that they can get good deeds in this blessed month rewards. To ensure that the ideas are age appropriate, refer to these examples: preschool, younger elementary, older elementary and middle school, and high school.
Encourage them to keep coming back to their list the same way you might to your own. Make a family goal sheet to create a sense of togetherness even when you’re working on yourself individually. As they reach their goals, celebrate and reward them for increments of change.
For more goal setting ideas and resources, refer to the Personal Development section of The FYI Ramadan Readiness Toolkit.
Decorate the house together
One of the best ways to kick off Ramadan as a family is to work together to get the house decorated. Listen to Ramadan anasheeds (Islamic songs) or play the Qur’an to help get everyone in the Ramadan spirit as you decorate the house. Creating a distinct, positive, sensory stimulation is important to introducing positive connections that children will associate with Ramadan for the rest of their life. There are lots of ideas available online for very simple decorations to get the house looking Ramadan-ready.
Increase visibility of Islamic materials around the home
Another great way to get children to start thinking about Ramadan might be to place Islamically-relevant children’s books and magazines out on display. These can serve as a fun and effective way for younger children to learn about Ramadan and its importance. In addition, these resources can also serve as identity-enhancing experiences because they are able to see themselves and their religious community in mainstream children’s literature.
Involve children in preparations
Much of creating the “Ramadan experience” for children is simply a matter of involving them in the things you already do to practice and prepare for the month. For example, having children tag along on grocery trips and letting them help pick out healthy food options for iftar goes a long way in getting children in the spirit. Involve them in the meal planning and cooking, iftar organizing, and general house preparations for Ramadan.
Learn together as a family
Spend 5 minutes learning together as a family. Watch a short Islamic video, read a verse from the Qur’an, hadith, discuss Ramadan related ayat and hadith, or simply share reflections on what each person is grateful for. Keep it short, simple, and have fun as a family. When you learn and share religious knowledge/thought as a family, you are encouraging a family tradition of learning together, exchanging ideas, and making Islam an important part of your family lives.
Make du’a (supplication) together
The moment before iftar (breaking fast) is a great time to introduce kids to the power of du’a. They can brainstorm du’as they want to make in Ramadan beforehand, read dua’s that they like or find meaning with, or simply encourage them to share the du’as they have on their mind.
Set some time aside to sit together and have them share their du’as aloud. Have children explain why they chose those du’as, and why those things are important to them. This will teach children to be conscientious about the du’as they make, allow you to gain an understanding of what’s on their mind, and spark family conversation about topics that might not have otherwise come to your attention.
For additional strategies on working on your child’s spiritual development, here are some training tips and techniques to transform your children’s minds and memories this Ramadan.
Engage in charity together
Giving charity is an important aspect of Ramadan, both as a teaching tool and as a way to bond together. Engage in acts of charity in the community, whether it’s making food for those less fortunate in the community, helping clean up the city, buying gifts for foster children, or simply helping an elderly person clean up their house! These actions help model charity in many different ways. It also empowers your children to realize they can give charity at every stage of life and in whatever financial situation they are in — because even a smile is charity!
In addition, get them in the habit of giving money intentionally. Talk to them about how much they spend on themselves verse how much they are willing to share what Allah (SWT) has gifted them. Help children create a budget for donations, research and evaluate charities’ impact and effectiveness, explain the rationale behind donations, and then let them choose where the donations go. This helps children increase their financial literacy, critical thinking skills, practice decision making, and express their opinions.
Involve children in strengthening relationships
Make it a point to have them join you when you reach out to extended family and friends as much as possible. Whether you ask them to make phone calls to relatives, visit others with you, invite people into your own home, or simply give Ramadan gift baskets to your neighbors and co-workers — any effort made to maintain those relationships will stick with your child. Their involvement in these activities will instill the importance of maintaining relationships, teach them important social skills, and Islamic manners.
Include children in night prayer
Qiyams, planned as a fun family event, can also go a long way in creating positive memories for children to associate with Ramadan. Taking breaks often and having activities in intervals is key to making this fun for them. For example, you might read a few surahs together, and then play a game as a break. Maybe focus on how to pray for some time, and then have some special snacks prepared for them to munch on. Fun qiyams are a great way to encourage family bonding.
Remember, the key here is very simple: just find ways to meet your children at their level while getting them engaged in the things you already do to make the most out of Ramadan. Just the fact that you are making an effort with your children during this month means that you are doing things right–just be together! Most of all, Ramadan is the best opportunity to talk more with each other, listen more to each other, and grow together as a family – both spiritually and in character.
For additional strategies, check out the following resources:
- FYI Webinar- Growing in Ramadan as a Whole Family
- Creating Joy in Ramadan with Kids
- Get Your Kids to Love Ramadan
- How to be Productive with Family During Ramadan
- Ramadan Activities for Teens
This article was authored by Duaa Haggag LLPC, Sameera Ahmed Ph.D., Aminah Raazi B.A., and Madiha Tahseen Ph.D.
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