Children tends to display different behavior at different stages as they grow up, therefore it is important for parents/guardian to help a child improve school behavior.
Else, improper behavior which is as a result of reactions based on their emotions or feelings, what they were taught from home, what they’ve picked up among friends, probably from a disorder, what they’ve believed and stuck with can negatively impact their upbringing.
Absolutely, many of the children out there struggles with school behavior and this raises the question of how to help a child improve school behavior? in order to not interfere with their lessons and respective social life.
Although, some children are raised with the best of the abilities of their parents but due to negligence or influence along the way, they left the teachings and adopt another way to behave in the society maybe through friends, neighbors or peer pressure.
In lieu of this, it can be concluded that not only the parents can raise a child morally but teachers also have a very big role to play in the picture. Since the moment a child starts schooling, they spend less time at home and more time in school.
Good teachers get more closer to their pupils and has the tendency of knowing more about the child through this way. That’s why they also have a role in making a child have good behavior not only in school but outside school.
The area of of morals is very important in child and cannot be left unattended to behind child’s upbringing, therefore everyone involved in raising a child must try their best to input morals into a child based on what they do, see or say.
How you can help a child improve school behavior?
Following are few proven tips you can adopt to help a child improve good behavior in school or outside the school.
- Study them and know them
Children tend to pretend or have many sides but because they are still children they will let it out one way or the other. As a parent, guardian or teacher, one must be able to study them and note what they are like, what triggers them and how they react to things.
Know when they are down, pretending, cheerful, happy or jealous and see how they behave in those situations, know the difference and spot where they are lacking morally.
- Show you care
When you see children behave irrespective of the state of emotion they are, approach them and care for them, ask If they are having fun if they are happy and cheerful, ask what’s wrong when they are down and do things to make them happy when they are sad.
Tell them it will be okay and try making them understand no feelings last forever so they should fight through it or enjoy the happy moment while it lasts.
- Make a class or talk session light digestive
If by chance you end up talking about morals in your class for the day or you organize a moral talk with children, don’t be over serious or make the atmosphere tense.
Avoid the use of harsh and heavy words rather make your sentences and talks light, let them see the reasons why they should behave in a certain way and why it will benefit them.
Do not enforce a way of behavior on them, instead guide them with love to make them digest your points, make them ask question, talks and also put what they learnt to good use.
- Don’t Judge
Some teachers are strict in the sense that they judge children by their appearance. If they see a child poorly dressed, they believe and assume they are rugged, rough and morally poor whereas it might not be so. A child might lag in area of cleanliness and in this case appearance doesn’t show manner. It maybe due to the child himself or the parents didn’t take care of the child enough. So, don’t judge based on appearance, beauty or expressions, you will only end up hurting a child and make them flare up, disrespect you or even extend the aggressiveness to their classmates.
Also, as a parent, don’t judge a child especially when they bring home their results, you will only make an already academically stressed child more depressed and exhausted which might in turn leads to them look in direction of doing unruly stuffs like smoking, drinking or bullying to relief the stress of judgement you’ve instilled in them. Extra care must be adhere to handle sensitive situation that has to do with children behavior.
- Keep track of their progress and emotions
Keep a record of how your child or students behave to detect their behavioral graph. See how they react and move on from things or happenings from incidents. A child who must revenge about something his friend did to them either intentionally or unintentionally should be studied on various occasions and quickly be corrected in order for the child not to be obsessed with revenge.
A child that reacts angrily rather than letting go have the tendency to develop anger disorder if neglected since they already show signs of it bit by bit. A quick attention from parents, teacher, therapist and psychologist if necessary will help the child correct that bad behavior before it becomes rooted because one way or the other they will behave that way in school to their classmates or at home to their parents.
- Try listening to them without responding when they express their feelings
Even as an adult, we hate when people cut into our explanation because it frustrates the flow so when a child is trying to tell you things or express their feelings or what they are going through. If you are the cause of the emotion they are feeling, apologize immediately and guide them where they are getting it wrong.
If it’s their friends then invite the friend, listen to the both sides of the story and correct each of them where they are wrong. If you keep cutting in while they are explaining they might stop mid-way and refuse to continue their expression and will never come to tell you anything another day. They will behave as they deem fit next time.
- Reward good behavior and praise the good deeds
Reward students or children that have a good behavior and set them as exemplary of good behavior students, others would be challenged to receive the prize next time and try to cultivate good behavior because they would be enticed by the rewards attached to it.
Students whose moral behaviors need adjustment needs extra care and attention, don’t just slam them with their bad behavior, praise the good deeds they do or their good side while lovingly correct the ones that needs to be addressed. Don’t condemn them or make them feel like they are second to Satan. But situation where the the case worsen such child should be recommend for further school of thought that specialize in remodeling good behavior.
- Interact with their teachers/parents
Relate with the parents of the child who needs to be improved morally and also vice versa, parents should relate with the teachers. Even more preferably, it’s not until a child needs attention that you both talk on a child but also children generally need to be addressed once a while about good behavior it can even be on a visiting day.
Both the parents and teachers need to talk about how the children behave around them to see if there is no form of disorder or deceit. Funny enough a child might behave well in school but be a terror at home or terror in school and angel at home but when the teacher and parent relate, they can fish out where it’s going wrong.
- Solve problem with children
Don’t leave children alone to attend to their emotional needs but instead help them solve any problem they encounter or they are facing through so it will not stress them out and cause a disruption in their behavioral pattern.
Always ensure that you don’t leave children to themselves but be there to take care of their needs and quickly attend to any changes in their behavioral pattern so they don’t derail or develop bad habits.
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In conclusion, it is the responsibility of parents, teachers and all kids lovers to work together in upbringing and developing kids good behavior starting from early childhood, and with the few tips mentioned above you can help in not only growing good behavior but also model good character in our up coming generations.
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