What is talking?
As per dictionary, Talking may be defined as
engaging in speech.
the action of talking; speech or discussion.
The root word of “talking” is “talk” and it is defined as
speak in order to give information or express ideas or feelings; converse or communicate by spoken words.have formal dealings or discussions; negotiate.use (a particular language) in speech.
So basically, it is about expressing our opinions and views.
But are “expressing our views” and “imposing our views” same thing ?
No, it is not same. There is a very fine thin line between them and now a days thanks to social media, people have forgotten it and they are abusing it also.
How is it abusing?
When you force yours something on someone, without their consent, it is an abuse.
It might seem like bit confusing what I am trying to write about?
So let’s give a background story to it.
People are very special kind of species. They like to talk. Some in the open ( extroverts ) and some in the close ( introverts ) and some, when the situation is right ( ambivert ).
See around you, you will spot them everywhere. You, the reader, I hope you know your type.
So we have people all around us in many forms like father, mother, brother, sister, boyfriend, girlfriend, friend, best friend and a lot more. And we talk to them all the day.
But do we pay attention to what they are talking about?
-> Some do and some not.
-> Some on few segments of that talking.
So what should we do?
I will get back to it in a while. (see the second part in this post only)
Now back to the background thing, what people like to talk about?
Their experiences. Their lives. Their viewpoint of the world.
Are they right about it?
-> Yes, sometimes.
-> No, always.
People see the world as they are originally behind their mask. And their viewpoints gets their origin from their life experiences and it is not same for all people so it is not necessary that you have to listen to all what they are saying. Listen, carefully, what they are saying and filter out the not so required ones from that talk.
And then what you have in hand is the thing which you need to understand and analyse it so that you know what you have to do in that situation.
Now, back to the talking and people issue :
There are lots of time when we come across people who just can’t stop talking and we tend to be harsh on them(directly or indirectly).
Is that correct?
No. The people who talks a lots about lots of things which doesn’t make any sense can be the result of these two situations.
We don’t know much about that thing so we aren’t able to comprehend what they are talking about. So what can we do in that scenario,is to just listen and then do self work on that thing and learn what you find useful in that.
They lack self confidence and are consistently in search of approval from other people to validate their existence in the world. They don’t need harsh words from our side, but sympathy and help to come out from that inferior feeling. They really need help. Lacking self confidence in the present world is same like running out of fuel on the highway with no fuel station to be known around.
But do all deserve this chance?
No. Absolutely no. People who are close to you only deserve that chance. And rest, you have to get rid of them as soon as possible.
So now, I hope, you might got the concept of what I wanted to talk about.
Keep on talking (just be sensible and logical).
In other news :
I am bored and in need for some new indulgence.