Many times parents and teachers do not finish finding the way to communicate and end up generating little positive emotions between both parties.
Often, the relationships between parents and teachers are not as good and fruitful as might be expected, which causes really uncomfortable situations and leads to confrontation. To put it another way, “sometimes parents and teachers do not finish finding the way to communicate and emotions and currents are not very positive between both parties. In the end, it’s just a matter of emotional communication” said Delia Maraa Saez Gonzalez, an experienced teacher and pedagogue. Adequate emotional communication between parents and teachers is very important to develop the enormous potential of children, adolescents and young people. Stem Tutoring describes the following guidelines to achieve that adequate and always necessary communication with the teachers of our children:
- There is nothing that bothers a teacher more than finding out by third parties, or later, that something we said in a meeting is not true or that we stopped telling something important for the development of our children.
- Never Attack! If we do this, we will only get our interlocutor to become defensive and we will not advance in common objectives. From then on, the teacher will treat us with distance and a lot of caution. It is better to be kind and nice. Let’s always say what we want to say correctly and positively. The great benefit of having cordial relations will be our son.
- They know what needs to be done. We have to explain to the tutor how our son is, but we should not tell him what he has to do. They have a great experience in dealing with students and they know what they have to do to help them.
- Frequent meetings. If there are no serious problems, we should have a meeting, to exchange impressions, at least, once a quarter.
- It is important to be involved in the activities of the center in which the parents participate and in which the school proposes. We will get them to know us in a more relaxed way and, sure, they will understand us better.
- Pay a lot of attention. We must pay attention to what the professors tell us. It is a common mistake to believe that children will behave in school as well as at home. The teacher gives us valuable information, gives us many clues, when he explains how our children act in school. It is time to ask how we can help at home so that our son improves day by day.
- Speak without fear. The best thing is to expose with frankness, without fear, our doubts and problems. Sometimes, we would like to tell the tutor something, but we do not dare. We believe that he will not understand us or that he will later “take it” with our son. Nothing is further from reality. There is no perfect father, we all have had to learn. Surely the tutor can give us some guidelines.
- Family Circumstances. Explaining the family circumstances that affect the mood of our children helps a lot. As far as our think is convenient, we must tell everything that can condition your life in the center. They can help you more if they know you better.
- It agrees to accept the suggestions that they give us. The teachers have a lot of experience of many years and with many children, and they see our son with greater impartiality than we do. In addition, they greatly appreciate all the help that can be provided from the family.
- Understand the message. From the interview, parents should come out with very clear ideas about what ‘duties’ we have as parents and what strategies remain in the center regarding the education of our children.