If we label someone, we are branding them, we are damning them to a role or story that gives them not just shame but little room for change. It’s easy though as the mind needs to box everyone up, so it can instantly compare and judge them with ourselves and others.
If we say ‘you are a liar’ it is very different to saying ‘you made a wrong choice to tell a lie’. The second option does not judge them or label them as a liar, it is just us voicing our view of their choice.
Our society is driven by our mind and the collective mind’s need to label and blame others. It is a way of us being superior.
We may choose to offer a view of another person’s decision or choice but to label and judge is not for us to decide. No one is a liar, or unkind or hateful or whatever the label…they just make choices at that moment some we may see as good and some as bad, but that is subjective and depends on perspective.
If we accept others as they are and choose not to judge, that still leaves us a place to comment on their choice of behaviour towards us, without us suffering within from their behaviour, and it comes from a place of not judging them as a person. This allows the other person to be free from shame and labelling.
The human society is structured on its myths.
Myths are how the homo sapiens became the only human species.
Myths are a creation of the collective human mind and only work if the collective mind still believes them. And only work if we remain connected to the ‘matrix’ of the collective human mind.
A myth can be created by a single human and then it can be spread to become an accepted myth by all. After all, Mr Kellogg convinced the entire world that breakfast was the most important meal of the day and to be skipped at your peril. There are countless examples of individuals that created myths we all follow.
If we do not agree with or like the current myths, then we are free to stop believing them and free to create our own. We alone are responsible for everything that happens in our life, we have the choice.
The thing is we all think that we are too small to make a difference, but the reality is we are all creators, we are all able to inspire, we are all able to make our difference. As the saying goes…’if you think you are too small to make a difference, try sleeping in a room with a mosquito’.
We can all be myth creators, but we have to really want to and we can all be acceptors of the fact that we alone choose to believe in a myth or not.