When they grow up enough to understand the notion of empathy, they feel ashamed for what they did to others in their past.
This harms their self-esteem, and mostly – due to the fact they don’t know any other way around, and because they are left alone due to their manners, so they feel angrier than ever – they continue to their lives as aggressive people who are actually fearful within themselves.
The most powerful cure to this problem during school years is education: both for the bullies and the victims.
And here are the 8 measures you can take to prevent “bullyism,” from most common applications combined with my own experience, and knowledge as a personal development expert:
- Create a peer environment that sanctions against, rather than ignores or condones, the kinds of continuing hurtful actions that occur in bully/victim relationships.
- Take into account the fact that many factors help to maintain the bully/victim relationship, therefore the most successful interventions take place simultaneously at the individual, dual, peer, classroom, school and family levels.
- Schedule a full staff meeting to raise awareness and knowledge. Find out what other schools have done. Find out existing programs or initiatives in your school.
- Develop an anti-bullying school policy. Consultation between teachers, students, parents and other school personnel are important. Back your plans with curriculum work and existing policies. Improve playground conditions. You can plan peer supporting programs. And increase adult supervision at key times, such as lunch, recess, etc. However, as much as possible, leave the kids to discover their own and others’ limits among themselves.
- Create a short questionnaire or survey given to students and adults. Ascertain the level and nature of bully/victim problems in school. Create awareness of extent of problem. Discuss at staff meetings and with children and parents.
- Raise parental awareness about the behaviors of their children. Parent-teacher conferences, parent newsletters and meetings might be the best and most powerful tools for this.
Explore possible social skills training programs, such as development of empathy among all children, development of anger management skills for bullies, development of effective conflict-resolution skills for bullies, and assertiveness training for victims.
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