Do you affirm yourself and others with positive self talk or do you focus more on negative thinking? Do you notice the sunshine or just the clouds? Do you entertain possibilities, or believe all is doom and gloom?
The good news is that even if you have persistent negative emotions and thinking patterns you can learn how to be more positive.
Thinking positively and speaking to yourself and others with positive words pay off. These habits make people happier, more optimistic, and healthier than their pessimistic counterparts.
Positive people are not in denial or blind to their problems. They may even have more than their share. The difference is how they approach life. They have a 'can do' attitude. They practice acceptance, faith and joy in the face of trouble. They believe they can heal even if a cure is not possible. Their positive view extends to others and life in general.
If you are tired of feeling bad about yourself, and making choices that are not in your best interest, the first step is to examine your thoughts. Thoughts create your reality because they influence how you feel and what you do.
What do you tell yourself that is limiting or negative? Review the list of negative thinking patterns and see if any pop out as 'favorites'. Observe yourself and listen as you think and speak to see when, how and why you use them.
Here are some questions to ask yourself?
Are there times and circumstances when you already use positive self talk? Apply the above questions to those times too. How does it feel to think positively compared to the put downs? Celebrate the positive you already control. Use it as a model for other areas.
Use your awareness to take charge of your thoughts. Use that positive self talk to affirm yourself and help you create the life you want.
Tell yourself the truth.
The truth is that your mind and body have great potential to heal and move toward your dreams. The truth is that your limiting beliefs and negative thoughts are a result of early programming. The truth is that you can change that programming and learn how to be more positive. You can create a healthier, happier life.
The truth is that you may have 20 extra pounds on your body, but that does not define who or what you are. You may feel angry or sad, but you are not anger or sadness.
Reframe what you say using more positive self talk. For example, say, "I feel angry," rather than "I am angry." It may sound like you are just playing with words. Be mindful that your subconscious mind and your spirit are listening. How you word things is important.
It is a matter of telling yourself the truth.
The truth is that you are a magnificent being of light. If you don't believe me, watch this video series by Dr. Klinghart.
If you believe in a higher power or a higher self, telling yourself the truth is easier and takes a more expanded view.
For example, instead of staying in victim consciousness with all its blame, guilt and cruel life talk, you can open yourself to the view that you co-create your reality. Your happiness is in your hands.
You understand that things happen for a higher reason and that is okay. You understand there are lessons to learn and meaning in everything. You do not need to figure it out with your human mind. It is enough to know and trust. You know the divine is on your side and all things can work together for good.
Consciously shift to more positive thoughts.
Once your awareness is heightened, it is easier to stop a negative cycle and shift to more positive self talk.
When you get into a negative thinking pattern, stop yourself immediately. Make this a habit. Shift it to a slightly more positive thought that you can accept as truth. Even a small shift is a step in a healthier direction. When you are comfortable with that thought, shift it again.
For example, you may start with a statement such as: "I'm not going to try because I always fail." Shift to: "What if I just check into it?" Shift to:"I can easily do __. I'll start today." And so on.
Change "I/you should" to "I could, I might, I will decide", or even "I won't".
Put positive words to work for you.
Say "yes" to good things in life - happiness, health, relaxation, purposeful work, possibilities, good food, a balanced budget, good relationships, plenty of sleep, new experiences, transformation, and a nurturing social circle.
Say "I love you" and "I accept you" to yourself in the mirror (yes, do it!) and to your family and friends. Say it to your life and all the good things you have around you.
Say, "I can" or "I will" eat better, exercise, take responsibility, forgive, enjoy life, make friends, live on a budget, be fit and trim, make positive decisions, follow through, and make time for fun.
Say, "I am grateful for (all the good things and life experiences...)" " I won't tolerate (abuse from self and others...)" "I release (the past, negative self talk, limiting beliefs...." "I embrace (what you want and what is good in your life...)"
What can be tricky as you incorporate more positive self talk into your life is interference from your subconscious mind. It is not out to sabotage you; it simply runs programs until they are changed. If it does not believe and accept the truths you feed it, your efforts may be in vain.
Fortunately, there is help. If you have trouble thinking positive thoughts, or hear your positive words followed by negating thoughts, put energy flow and releasing techniques to work for you.
You may have a favorite method you use over and over, or several depending on your mood, needs and intuition at the time. They all work.
Do ask for help if you need it. Depending on your needs, a therapist or life coach can teach you new skills and support you as you learn how to be more positive.
You are worth it.