Cyberbullying is becoming more of a concern as kids spend an increasing amount of time online during the COVID-19 pandemic. When many schools across the country shut down and activities were being canceled earlier this year, kids turned to the internet to pass the time, opening the door to more cyberbullying.
“We are seeing a rise in all kinds of digital behaviors, good and bad,” Diana Graber, author, and founder of Cyber Civics/Cyberwise tells Parentology. “Unfortunately, this includes behaviors like cyberbullying and digital drama.”
Statistics show 95% of teens are online and most of them are using a mobile device to access the internet. This makes those mobile devices the most common medium for cyberbullying.
Studies have also revealed that about 37% of children between the ages of 12 and 17 have been the victims of cyberbullies, with 30% saying it’s happened to them more than once. When you look at the victims, girls are more likely to be targeted than boys.
Cyberbullying vs. Digital Drama
Some parents and kids get confused between cyberbullying and digital drama. We all know that there is plenty of drama with teenagers — like not being invited to a party, or people gossiping behind your back. However, cyberbullying is in its own category.
Graber tells Parentology that cyberbullying uses digital tools to intentionally harm someone. It’s done on purpose and often happens more than once. Digital drama, however, covers things like misunderstandings, arguments, or hurtful comments that are shared on devices.
“This is so unfortunate because the thing we know about cyberbullying is this, usually when it happens lots of others see it,” explains Graber. “Therefore, it is important for youth to know what to do when they see cyberbullying or are cyberbullied themselves.”
Signs of Cyberbullying & What to Do
Many teens may not tell their parents when they are the victims of cyberbullying. But there are some red flags that signal something may be going on with your teen.
- Becoming angry or sad when they’re online or when they get off
- Withdrawing from activities, family, and friends
- Feeling depressed
- Not wanting to go to school
- Sliding grades
If you notice one or more of these signs or another mood change that seems a little off, it’s important to talk to your child about it. Studies show that young people who experience cyberbullying are at a greater risk for suicidal behaviors and self-harm than those who don’t.
While some teens may be reluctant to talk about the issue, let them know you are there for them. This may help them open up.
Also, know what your child is accessing online. Ask what websites they visit and who they chat with online. This could give you a closer look into what may be going on.
It’s also important for kids to know what to do if they see cyberbullying or think they may be the victim.
Graber tells Parentology that she explains how kids can be an “upstander” and provide a kind word to the target. They can also report any activity to the social network where it happened, tell a trusted adult, or even stand up to the bully.
“These strategies go a long way towards putting an end to online cruelty,” says Graber.