Distinguish between the real and imaginary dangers
In order to cope with the anxiety you need to realize the difference between the real risks that you will face and the ones created by your imagination which aggravate the anxiety. You have to try to control the things you can deal with and accept those you cannot change.
Determine if the problem is real rather than imaginary.
If your concern is imaginary, determine how likely is it to happen. Is it realistic?
Can you prepare for the problem somehow or it cannot be controlled?
This will help in adequate estimation of your resources for coping with stressful situations.
Even if you simply analyze the problem, you get distracted from your emotions and feel like you’re getting something accomplished.
Increase neurotransmitters in your body by making adjustments to your diet
Serotonin, a neurotransmitter associated with happiness and relaxation, is derived from tryptophan. Serotonin helps feel calm and overcome stress. Food that contains tryptophan includes bananas, milk, yoghurt, cottage cheese, turkey, chicken, oats, cheese, soy, nuts, peanut butter, dried dates, sesame seeds and pumpkin sees. However there are doubts whether tryptophan derived from food can cross the blood-brain barrier, so the effect will not be very powerful.
Carbohydrates are responsible for increased production of serotonin in the brain. However, make sure you do not consume processed options such as sugary foods and drinks or white bread and white rice. Eat whole grains, which take longer to break down so that the sugar is slowly released into the bloodstream. Processed carbohydrates will provide fast increase in energy, followed by an insulin rush, which rapidly drops blood sugar levels, and eventually cause sleepiness.
Protein promotes the production of norepinephrine and dopamine neurotransmitters that function similarly to serotonin. According to studies, high concentrations of norepinephrine and dopamine improve alertness, mental energy, and reaction time. Good amounts of proteins are contained in Greek yogurt, fish, meats, cheese, eggs, nuts, beans, soy, and lentils.
Eat B vitamins supplements or foods rich in B vitamins
Some people may be susceptible to depression due to a deficiency in vitamins B such as folic acid and B12 (cyanocobalamin). You can choose to take vitamin B supplements or eat foods that are rich in B vitamins to beat off anxiety.
Note that folic acid is the synthetic form of the vitamin B9. The body is more used to using folate. Good sources of folate are dark leafy greens (like spinach, turnip greens, mustard greens), asparagus, broccoli, citrus fruits, beans, avocado, okra, Brussels sprout, seeds and nuts, beets, corn, celery, carrots, squash. Folate is also contained in beef liver, lean meats, poultry, seafood.
Some of the folic acid supplements that can be bought on Amazon:
Postponing technique is designed to help you feel more in control of your worries and put you back on track. This technique includes the following steps:
Agree to recognize your fears.
Choose specific time and place to worry. Save the worries for later and enjoy the rest of your day.
Postpone your worries. Once that worry period arrives, allow yourself to worry or postpone the worries to another specific time. Whenever possible, choose to postpone. As you improve your ability to postpone your anxious thoughts, you’ll will break your habit of dwelling on worrying without suppressing your thoughts.
Exercise is particularly beneficial for easing anxiety. Exercise decreases the levels of stress hormones, adrenaline and cortisol, and promotes the production of endorphins.
It also improves the activity of the serotonergic system, and therefore may be helpful in dealing with anxiety.
Additionally, exercise raises your core temperature which leads to simultaneous decrease in the muscle tension, so the sense of anxiety is alleviated. You can take a walk, do some running, rowing, rollerblading, hiking, biking, dancing, swimming, surfing, step aerobics, kickboxing and sports such as soccer, tennis and basketball.
If you are getting anxious, accept it. Do not try to struggle and hold back the symptoms of anxiety.
This may seem illogical, but anxiety itself is not the real problem. The real problem is that we try to control and get rid of it. If you fight against your anxious symptoms, your heartbeat will increase, your palms will become sweaty, your stomach will become tense, you will feel dizzy and lightheaded.
When you notice these signs, tell yourself that it is okay to feel the things that you feel, that you expect yourself to be nervous right now, and that you can deal with this. Try to believe these statements, not just repeat them.
A study compared levels of the amino acid GABA in those who does yoga compared to those who do an equivalent amount of walking. GABA is needed for functioning of brain and creates feeling of calm, and low levels of this amino acid is linked to anxiety. It has been found that GABA levels were significantly higher in those who practised yoga.
However, don't push yourself beyond limits. Remember that yoga may even induce anxiety instead of curing it, if you overexert yourself.
This list contains yoga poses that are beneficial during anxiety.
See the following video that shows how to relieve anxiety with yoga.
Chamomile tea might help in calming you down. Some compounds in chamomile affect the same brain receptors as drugs like Valium.
You can also take supplements containing apigenin (active ingredient) or dried chamomile flowers. According to studies there is a significant decrease in anxiety for the patients who took chamomile supplements for 8 weeks compared to placebo-takers.
Few examples of chamomile supplements can be found here:
When anxiety attacks, you may experience a mindset called "catastrophic thinking" or "catastrophizing." You think of really terrible, unbearable things and what if they really happen.
Take a few deep breaths, take a walk and consider the real chances that this problem will really turn into catastrophe. Most probably, a catastrophic outcome is less likely than you think when you're anxious.
Studies show that L-theanine, amino acid, contained in green tea, helps reduce a rising heart rate and high blood pressure, and a few found that it reduces anxiety. In one study, anxiety-prone subjects were calmer and more focused during a test if they took 200 milligrams of L-theanine. This amount of L-theanine can be obtained from green tea, but you'll have to drink 5-20 cups.
Focus outwards. Socializing is about focusing on another person, the outward thinking, showing an interest in the things about that person. People love to be noticed, so when you start to take an interest in them they will naturally be warm to you.
You also tend to miss a lot of other things around when focusing too much on yourself and your feelings. That might be something that could become an interesting point of conversation, or some clues about how that situation works.
Sometimes anxiety can be difficult to manage and cope with on your own. If that is your case and you feel overwhelmed, you should seek help from a professional psychologist. Among other signs that indicate the necessity of contacting a therapist is inability to properly function at work, school, home or in social settings.
Self-help manuals are usually intended to supplement therapy, but they can also be helpful if you are trying to overcome social anxiety on your own. Here are some good books that might help you in fighting your social anxiety.
An exposure hierarchy is a list of situations that make you anxious, written in order of severity. First, you perform the situations that are the easiest, and gradually move up the list. Create your own exposure hierarchy by listing 10 anxiety-inducing situations, and rate them on a 100-point scale.
You can find more information insights about this technique in this document.
You might start you list with a situation when you ask a stranger for directions and end it with joining Toastmasters.
Try self-hypnosis. Use your imagination to try out new ideas and rehearse for the real thing in a calm relaxed state of mind. You have probably already experienced self-hypnosis by attending social events in your mind, saying the right things to the right people, and getting the right responses.
Worrying is self-programming. When you worry about future social situations you are linking anxiety to them. And when you actually go into these situations, you get anxious, since you have programmed yourself.
Think about the upcoming gathering while being relaxed – sitting in a chair or taking a warm bath. Imagine yourself in the social situation looking confident and relaxed. Do this repeatedly and your body and mind will create a new automatic association to these situations.
Once we express externally the voices in our head that seem insane, we often see the lack of reason and logic that we have been submerged into. We are forced to confront the mirror of our internal dialogue.
By externalizing our voices we stop holding things in, and start to create a conversational flow and feel more comfortable when we open up to others.
We tend to be afraid of the unknown and we tend to hide from whatever we are afraid of, including the fear of death.
You need to face your fear and get the facts instead.
You may become a volunteer at Compassion in Action at The Twilight Brigade or similar organizations. That way you will become more familiar with death and its potential healing, beauty and peace. It will become clear to you that death is not an ending but a transition. You will face your fear, and walk through it.
Dannion Brinkley in his book Saved By The Light, based off his own experience, explains that our lives are not really ended when our physical bodies die. This understanding can grant you acceptance and peace.
We will all die maybe some in 5 minutes, or in 50 years. 200 years from now our world will change and none of us will be here. Accepting the inevitable helps to relieve stress and anxiety. This book contains more insights on facing mortality.
Forgive yourself others their mistakes. We all make mistakes, but you need to realize that we are doing the best we can. Much of the death anxiety, or fear of death, comes from a fear of judgment and hell.
We cannot undo the mistakes we have made in the past. But we can often ask forgiveness, repay debts and make amends. These actions can heal the sense of guilt and death anxiety.
When it comes to life and death, that is beyond human power. If you are religious, it is really best to ask those questions to God. Ask God to remove the fear, so that you will be able to serve him better.
First, visualize death as a kind and loving event - a sacred transition. Imagine someone who goes through this transition right now. They are genlty released from the body and welcomed by the loving presence of God. Imagine and feel this transition as a healing experience for this person.
Fear of death is an uncomfortable emotion that we project on to the future. Ask yourself, is everything OK right now? Focus on your life and not on the end of it. Focus on what you can control. When we stay firmly in the present, there is no fear.
These books may help you learn to live for the day:
Recognize the role your body plays on a macro level
On a larger perspective our lives fit together to form societies and communities which depend on our energy and actions in order to sustain a certain level of organization. Your own body has the same mechanisms and consists of the same materials as other ones around you. Understanding this can help you become more comfortable with the thought of a world without you still being around.
Tea, cola, hot chocolate energy drinks and other caffeinated beverages boost the energy and concentration levels. However, caffeine decreases serotonin in the brain, making you feel depressed and irritable.
Moreover, caffeine is a diuretic and may lead to dehydration, and even mild dehydration can cause depression. Caffeine also can keep you awake, leading to stress and anxiety. There is even a state called coffee-induced anxiety when the symptoms of caffeine intake - sweaty palms, increased heartbeat, ringing in the ears - lead to a panic attack in a anxiety-prone people.
Some people believe that alcohol soothes anxiety. However its effect is only temporary and in fact alcohol is both a sedative and a depressant. Your body can build tolerance to it's initial de-stressing effect which makes anxiety even more difficult to deal with. It is also a diuretic, and may lead to dehydration, and even mild dehydration can cause depression.
More details on the negative effects of drinking alcohol during anxiety can be found here
You should get 7-9 hours of quality sleep every day. Insufficient sleep may lead to anxiety. If you find it hard to fall asleep, do something relaxing before bedtime, such as taking a warm bath, listening to calm music or breathing deeply.
And, if you become anxious right before going to bed, which is often a case, try to calm down for 10-15 minutes earlier in the day or try mental exercise, for example recite lyrics from your favorite song.
A few tips on how to shut off your brain during bed time are given here
Spend less time with the person who makes you anxious or set healthier relationship boundaries. You might want to abstain from discussing certain topics if you know that talking about them with that person will make you anxious.