Organismic valuing• Actualizing tendency• We like what we need. If we trust our instincts, we will eat and behave in ways that contribute to our well being.• We evolved to favour colours because they indicate ripeness in fruit.
Positive Regard• We value and need positive regard from others but we also need it from ourselves- positive self regard
conditional positive regard• External measurement of a person’s worth are everywhere conditions of worth• Powerful behavioural shaper.• We need positive regard from others, even if it means (sometimes) not acting in our own best
conditional positive regard• Over time, this conditioning leads to conditional positive self-regard.• “I like myself only when I measure up to standards others have imposed.”
Pause the video• and ask yourself these questions...• Is it possible to have unconditional positive regard for others?• What is the role of boundaries and conditions in relationships?• Is it possible to have and give this to yourself?
Abraham Maslow• Terrible childhood• Alcoholic father• Abusive mother• Both were miserly and unloving• Set out to model his own life against successful people
Virtues of Self actualized people• Reality-centered• Enjoyed solitude• Autonomous• Resisted conformity• Humble• Respectful• Value deep connections
Albert Einstein“Few are those who seewith their own eyes and feel with their own hearts.”
Eleanor Roosevelt Great minds discuss ideas,average minds discuss events, small minds discuss people.
Portrait of success• Open to new experiences• Constantly evolving and growing• A love of learning
Hierarchy of NeedsGrowth depends onfulfillment of needs atevery level
growth orientationFocus on what you can doinstead of what you can’t Rick Hansen’s Man in Motion Tour
Summary• Rogers > our natural state is good. Pay attention to that in order to become your true self.• Maslow > Anyone can achieve their potential. Do not focus on unmet needs but look at what you have instead.