Forgiveness is a Gift that you give Yourself. Usually, people who often gets angry lose their sight of why they were offended in the first place. All they know is that they are right and the other person is wrong. Being right makes the person angry and they go around making everyone else angry. Learning to understand yourself and forgiving others provide the tools to understand what it feels like to forgive. Forgiving does not mean forgetting. Forgiving does not minimize or justify the act it just releases the hurt that the past holds on you. If you cannot forgive you are the one left with the pain. You must learn to let go of the ill feelings of anger, hurt, and upset and to untie your heart to frees you up.
Forgiveness Is a Gift that you Give Yourself
Forgiveness lives in the past. Every time you remember what happened you relive the experience and it brings it back to the present moment. Forgiveness allows you the opportunity of staying in the present, providing you with empathy and compassion from the perceived wrongdoing.
Learn to handle speak out bluntly:
We get hurt, and it is usually by the people we love and most probably are closest. Because they are the ones we have let into our lives. Family and friends can be the one who take liberty to abuse, reject and insult us and they are the ones that we never expect to treat us this way. People we let into our hearts and homes do things that we may not like and we suffer instead of speaking out and honouring ourselves. Most of the time we are mad at ourselves because we did not honour ourselves or speak up. We feel bad because it is a negative experience which affects our feelings.
Negativity is a disease
If negative incidents are not handled immediately they begin to grow bigger and faster. The resentment quickly immerses into bitterness and continues to kill off any positive feelings surrounding the person who wronged you. You cannot face the person anymore and you find yourself having difficulty with this relationship and you begin to avoid them. Eventually you begin to bring pain into every relationship by repeating your story about what has happened over and over again thus reliving it over and over as if it happened yesterday. You are continually slicing the perceived wound open, never treating or giving it time to heal.
Take care of yourself:
When you forgive yourself or another person, the feelings of upset, disappointment, and angriness vanish. When we forgive our heart expand and our feelings become whole, complete and perfect. In turn, we feel honest and our giving of forgiveness becomes organic. Anger is usually telling you that you have not taken care of yourself and it is time to take care of the wrong you feel.
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