Here are 10 things that emotionally intelligent people refrain from saying:
Well, life isn’t fair – something most mature adults understand. Perhaps what happened is not fair; it may even be an egregious injustice. The thing to remember is that people surrounding us are often unaware of the “incident,” and even if they are privy to the scenario, proclaiming “It’s not fair” does absolutely nothing to solve the problem.
As difficult as it may be, focus your attention and efforts on resolving the issue. You’ll feel better about yourself, maintain your dignity, and may just solve the problem!
Instead, phrase your statement or question in an empathetic fashion. For example, “Is everything okay?” suggests that you’re concerned about what’s going on.
As we all (or should) know, age and gender biases still exist. The chances are that the person you’re speaking to is well aware of such biases, and are offended by the very mentioning of them.
No qualifiers needed. Just compliment the person.