What Is Body Language
Body language is the way how you move and represent yourself. Moving in so many ways usually reveals how you feel, what you are about to say, what you aim for and what you allow to slip from your hands.
By becoming more aware of your own body language and understanding what it might means, you can learn to read people more easily. This puts you in a better position to communicate effectively with them and gaining what you want.What’s more, by increasing your understanding of others, you can also become more aware of the messages you convey to them.
Often,your inner life through your body expression can tell much about you,your emotional state, or level of confidence.It is SO easy to notice when you have a lack of confidence only by your body posture.For example, slumpy shoulders and look down usually reflects sadness or depression.
The way you move your body ,shows whether you seek more influence and power in your professional life, or more intimacy and clarity in your personal life.Self-awareness of your body language is crucial.
Remember,body language reveals all you strengths or weaknesses.
How Do You Appear On A Date?
An open body language signals trust, warmth, solidity, and comfort in being yourself and it feels inviting to others.
While, closed body language,being cold and insecure,makes the other person to feel pushed away and unaccepted.
Body Language Rules
- Posture – standing tall with shoulders back.
- Eye contact – solid with a “smiling” face.
- Gestures with hands and arms – purposeful and deliberate.
- Speech – slow and clear.
- Tone of voice – moderate to low.
Eye contact.The first form of connection with another person will be through your eye contact.You have to be aware if your eyes are welcoming or not. By having warm and relaxed eyes, accompanied with an easy slow smile, will make the other person feel welcomed and accepted.
Chest appear.If you are sitting with arms crossed in front of you what do you think of the signal sent? Is it welcoming and open free? Not at all!
Uncrossing your arms, and not holding anything in front of you (a drink,books or else), signals that you’re open to interact with people, and ready to face the world.However, when you block your chest with folded arms, it may seem like you’re trying to protect yourself from something consciously or not.
Your posture.Stay straight.Look in the eye level.This kind of posture shows strength,alertness and confidence. On the other hand, if you hunch your shoulders and your head is dropping down, you emit lack of sureness and solidity.
Your voice and speech.The tonality of your voice says it all.If you want to be inviting surely you must sound like that.Start noticing the tonality of your voice and others, and the social dynamics in your life will start shifting to better.
Establish Touch By Communicating
Touch can be one of the many ways of body language expression.When you add a slight touch while communicating, you certainly add closeness to the interlocutor.To create a sense of appropriateness, you can start slow,by touching hand or shoulder while you are in conversation.Create comfortable space.
The Distance While Communicating
The physical distance from a person,influences the kind of impact you have on them. The closer you are to a person when you’re communicating, the deeper the connection will be. If you’re farther away, the lesser the connection will be established.It is simple as that.
On the other hand,an overly close talker might feel inappropriately intrusive. Try modulating your physical distance. You’ll feel a psychological difference, and they will too. Instead of standing directly opposite to someone by creating a “confrontation” feeling, try to stand a side while speaking. Make some diplomatic distance.
We are all look alike.For many things.Even when communicating.Our brain process everything it sees or hears.We are intelligent people.We can instantly spot the gestures, key words, vocal tonality and pace of speech.We analyze with a speed of light.Our intuition speaks out loudly. It almost never make mistakes.
All of these gestures my seem like insignificant, but they certainly do create a tremendous amount of familiarity and comfort.
The question is, which frequency — friendly or unfriendly, safe or unsafe, authoritative or submissive — do you want to send?
Note that these fundamental body language secrets will speed you toward goals set. Learn them and apply them in your life!