What is self-harm?
Self-harm, or self-injury, involves the deliberate act of physically harming oneself.
There are many forms of self-harm, including cutting or burning skin, hitting oneself, or punching things. Sometimes it is less obvious, such as reckless driving, binge drinking, drug abuse, and unsafe sex.
While self-harm can result in serious injuries, a person who self-harms is not trying to commit suicide.
Why might someone self-harm?
There are a number of reasons a person may self-harm.
Examples of these reasons include:
- To cope with anxiety or depression.
- As “punishment” to themselves.
- As a response to loss or trauma.
- To turn emotional pain into physical pain.
- To feel better.
- To feel something; not just emptiness or numbness.
"I know that we all deal with things in different ways but I really don’t understand why my friend chooses to harm themselves..."
"They say that it’s just their way of dealing but I feel like I should be able to do something to help them.
This is more than just me being there to listen to them vent and I knew that I needed to talk to someone about this. It was to help not only my friend, but also to help me.
That’s why I chose to talk to someone who could help."
What are the signs of self-harm?
Think someone you know is self-harming? Here's what to look for:
- Unexplained injuries, bruises, cuts, or scars.
- Wears long sleeves or pants, even when the weather doesn’t require it.
- Low self-esteem.
- Problems with relationships.
- Problems handling or expressing emotions.
How can I help?
You can help a friend or family member who is self-harming.
Read information to help you and other family members manage and understand mental health and substance use problems. By speaking to a trusted adult, you can help get the person the help they need.
- Show them concern for their well-being.
- Celebrate any little changes they make.
- Support them, even if they try to hide their behaviour.
- Talk to a trusted adult. It's important you get the support you need.