Humans have many ways of expressing a wide range of emotions, some of which are constructive and foster growth and development of the human being. Other means of expressing emotion breed contempt and harbor stress causing the mental degradation of the human mind. Anger is a natural response to any situation that is unpleasant. It can be described as an intense response resulting from feelings of provocation, hurt or threat. Anger comes about when someone believes that something is wrong and needs to be changed. If not expressed anger will cause feelings of great resentment and psychological and emotional trauma. Unresolved anger means that the situation still exists and if the situation no longer exists and the anger is still present, it means that the individual will transfer their anger to someone or something else,
If we do not have control over our anger it can take control of our lives. Responding to a situation in haste can lead to regret, remember that you cannot take back the sting of words once they have been said. Sometimes it may be more appropriate to hold off on replying in anger and actually think about how you should respond. Try putting yourself in the person’s shoes before replying in anger, this will help you have a lot more control of your words and actions because you are not just thinking about your self but of others as well.
It is beneficial to express anger, after you have collected your thoughts and calmed down, try putting your words into constructive criticism. Express your anger calmly, state concerns that you may have or dislikes and try to come to a resolution. Expressing anger in a non-confrontational manner will allow for greater response towards the situation and before you know it, what could have been a situation blown out of proportion can be easily handled through words and resolution.
If you are beyond calming down, learn to walk away from the situation. Walking away does not mean that you are weak or you are giving up, it simply means that you wish to keep the existing relationship or situation intact without using nasty or biting words that could destroy it. Give yourself a time out; try working out to get your mind off the problem. Exercising and meditation can offer solace to an angry mind and allow it to recuperate and think clearly.
Last but not least, do not blow things out of proportion or revert back to situations that have already been resolved. Sometimes in expressing anger the mind usually goes back to certain instances when it has experienced other problems with the same party. This could result in you digging up every and any issue that you may have with the individual or situation, even situations where you have already resolved the issue. This action of blowing things out of proportion can be truly detrimental to you. Remember to stick to the issue at hand and try your best to resolve it and then move forward from your anger. Once your anger has subsided, other preexisting issues can be discussed with a calm and clear mind. Anger is there to enact change and you must have total control of your anger so that you can bring about a difference when dealing with a difficult situation or person.