Enneagram Fours and Fives are both deep thinkers. Fours are driven by their need for a distinctive identity, while Fives are motivated by a desire to be competent and knowledgeable. Fours should be direct with Fives, avoiding overly emotional expressions. Fives should address Fours with sensitivity, allowing them to share their thoughts and avoiding harsh phrasing.
Fours should communicate their perspective in a balanced, even-tempered way; they should also allow Fives plenty of space to reflect if the situation becomes too tense. Fives should listen attentively to Fours and remain open to other perspectives. Both personalities should acknowledge their part in contributing to the situation while working together to find a suitable compromise.
Fours generally trust Fives who can be emotionally honest. Fives should spend quality time with Fours, avoiding withdrawing when uncomfortable. They should work to be more expressive and understanding.
Fives are likely to trust Fours who appreciate their knowledge about the world. Fours should also give Fives plenty of space to think and reflect privately.
Fours tend to be artistic and insightful, while Fives are intellectual and rational.
Fours bring creative ideas and sensitivity to a work environment; they can help Fives better understand others.
Fives offer intellect and practical solutions to a workplace. Fives can help Fours learn to express themselves more logically.
Fours and Fives aren’t generally concerned with routine and don’t tend to be very affected by change. Fours are usually focused on internal factors, while Fives tend to only be impacted if a new situation disrupts or lessens their personal time.
Fours and Fives need to seek to understand what brings stress to the other type and should try to avoid causing it when possible.
Fours should give Fives plenty of time to be alone, while Fives should avoid belittling Fours’ emotions.
Fours and Fives can encourage and motivate each other in their personal and professional lives.
Fours can encourage Fives by appreciating their wisdom and rational thinking.
Fives can motivate Fours by affirming their creative works and acknowledging their uniqueness.