As parents, we each have our own Parenting Style, no ones way is right and no ones way is wrong. We choose to raise our child in our own manners. Parenting styles are the portrayals of how parents respond and answer to their children.
We all want our children to be well behaved and liked in society. The way we react or don’t react, affects the behaviour of our children. How does your child react to your style of parenting?
Have you ever wondered what kind of style you have as a parent?
Behaviours and the 4 Parenting Styles
Those with an authoritative parenting style have rules and guidelines that their children are expected to follow. Authoritative parents are responsive to their children and willing to listen to questions. When children fail to meet the guidelines, these parents are more understanding rather than punishing. They are assertive, but not intrusive and restrictive. The methods are supportive, rather than punishable. They want their children to be assertive as well as socially responsible, and self-regulated as well as cooperative
Authoritative parenting styles tend to result in children who are happy and successful
Children of Authoritarion Parents are expected to follow the strict rules. If the rules are not followed, punishment is set. These parents fail to explain the reasoning behind these rules. If asked to explain, the parent might simply reply, “Because I said so.” These parents have high expectations, yet are not responsive to their children’s need.
Authoritarian parenting styles generally lead to children who listen but may be lower in social acceptance and self-esteem.
Permissive parents have very few demands to make of their children. These parents rarely discipline their children because they have relatively low expectations of maturity and are more responsive than demanding. Permissive parents are generally take on the role of a friend more than of a parent.
An uninvolved parenting style is characterized by few demands, little to no responsiveness and rarely communicates. These parents fulfill the child’s basic needs, but are generally apart from their child’s life.
Uninvolved parenting styles These children tend to lack self-control, have low self-esteem and are less competent than their peers.
Some probable causes of these differences include culture, personality, family size, parental background,social status, education, and religion.
The parenting styles of individual parents are usually combined to create an unusual blend in each family. (mother may be an authoritative style while the father has a more permissive style), it is important that parents work together with combined parenting styles.
These styles have various behavioural outcomes as well as social status. It is all in the perceptions of the child. Effective strategies can teach children to become responsible adults who are able to make healthy decisions on their own. If we set the example, our children
should will follow. Depending on the child, styles may differ.
What’s your parenting style?
In our family , we have combined, authoritative and permissive. Our daughter understands our rules and values, she may test us on occasion but we talk and respond appropriately. She is very social and respective to other’s feelings the way she wants hers to be treated.