  It is widely believed that the underlying reality behind statistical
mechanics is a deterministic and unitary time evolution of a many-particle wave
function, even though this is in conflict with the irreversible, stochastic
nature of statistical mechanics. The usual attempts to resolve this conflict
for instance by appealing to decoherence or eigenstate thermalization are
riddled with problems. This paper considers theoretical physics of thermalized
systems as it is done in practise and shows that all approaches to thermalized
systems presuppose in some form limits to linear superposition and
deterministic time evolution. These considerations include, among others, the
classical limit, extensivity, the concepts of entropy and equilibrium, and
symmetry breaking in phase transitions and quantum measurement. As a
conclusion, the paper argues that the irreversibility and stochasticity of
statistical mechanics should be taken as a true property of nature. It follows
that a gas of a macroscopic number $N$ of atoms in thermal equilibrium is best
represented by a collection of $N$ wave packets of a size of the order of the
thermal de Broglie wave length, which behave quantum mechanically below this
scale but classically sufficiently far beyond this scale. In particular, these
wave packets must localize again after scattering events, which requires
stochasticity and indicates a connection to the measurement process.
