  We find general parameterizations for generic off-diagonal spacetime metrics
and matter sources in general relativity (GR) and modified gravity theories
when the field equations decouple with respect to certain types of nonholonomic
frames of reference. This allows us to construct various classes of exact
solutions when the coefficients of the fundamental geometric/ physical objects
depend on all spacetime coordinates via corresponding classes of generating and
integration functions and/or constants. Such (modified) spacetimes display
Killing and non-Killing symmetries, describe nonlinear vacuum configurations
and effective polarizations of cosmological and interaction constants. Our
method can be extended to higher dimensions which simplifies some proofs for
embedded and nonholonomically constrained four-dimensional configurations. We
reproduce the Kerr solution and show how to deform it nonholonomically into new
classes of generic off-diagonal solutions depending on 3-8 spacetime
coordinates. Certain examples of exact solutions are analyzed and that are
determined by contributions of new type of interactions with sources in massive
gravity and/or modified f(R,T) gravity. We conclude that by considering generic
off-diagonal nonlinear parametric interactions in GR it is possible to mimic
various effects in massive and/or modified gravity, or to distinguish certain
classes of "generic" modified gravity solutions which cannot be encoded in GR.
