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Seiiti Arata.
If you feel nervous, anxious or don't have
enough confidence, you can change all that
by simply changing your body language.
Body language is the posture we adopt, the
way we move and even the expressions we make
with our face.
It is called language because there is a type
of communication, there is an interaction.
This interaction can be with other people.
How we judge others.
How others judge us.
It is also a communication with yourself.
Body language affects not only the way others
see us, but it can also change the way we
see ourselves.
How do you talk to yourself?
What do you say to yourself?
In addition to the way you verbalize communication
with yourself, you need to be aware of how
your body communicates with you non-verbally.
You can have more confidence by changing your
posture.
Amy Cuddy argues that "power poses" can increase
feelings of confidence and can have an impact
on our chances of success.
You use the power pose while remaining in
a confident posture, even when you are not
yet confident.
[Source:
https://arata.se/source-9our ]
You use body posture to reveal your mental
state and you also have your mental state
affected by your body posture.
They say that even your hormones like cortisol
and testosterone can be affected by the change
in posture, although this is a statement that
today is being questioned [sources: https://arata.se/source-1l35
and https://arata.se/source-5yk1 ]
Even if the power poses do not cause hormonal
changes, adopting a more confident posture
can greatly improve the way we think, feel
and act.
All animals instinctively communicate different
signals to be bigger, smaller, louder or quieter
in different situations.
In the case of the human species, occupying
less space represents wanting to be smaller,
a desire to be invisible, not to disturb,
not to occupy space, as if we don't deserve
belonging.
The fetal position is the clearest sign of
a fragile state.
It is a way the body curves and closes itself
as if expressing the desire to return to the
mother's womb.
There is also another meaning of body language
with a shrinkage, which is reverence.
In a sign of respect, we bow.
But in other situations, such as when walking
in the corridor of the college or the company,
if I walk with my head down, with short and
hurried steps, avoiding eye contact, with
my knees close to each other, this means that
I don't feel confident and maybe I put myself
in a lower position.
As if I don't want to harass others with my
presence.
I feel inadequate.
I think people are annoyed by my existence.
I have feelings of shame.
That is why I make short movements, such as
short steps, legs with knees close to each
other, hands that move in a limited way like
a t-rex and also being brief in communication,
short phrases, a low voice, indicating that
you do not want to be seen.
Use the appropriate body language for each
situation.
Our communication is not just verbal.
In other words, it doesn't matter just what
we say, but also how we say it.
Your posture, your look, the way you move,
even the clothes you wear, all of this communicates
as much or even more than the words you say.
And just as you use different words for each
type of situation, your body language must
also suit the context.
Just think that you don't speak the same way
when you talk to a childhood friend than when
you talk to your boss.
To communicate assertively, the ideal is to
adopt a strong, confident and relaxed body
language.
This includes keeping your posture upright,
with your shoulders back and your head up.
Try not to close yourself.
Crossing your arms or even your legs can send
the signal that you are not open to hearing
what the other person has to say.
Keep your arms and legs free from crossing
and keep your face relaxed.
You shouldn't be tense, but you should be
aware of your body and your composure.
To be able to do this in a relaxed way, the
ideal is to practice.
The first times, adopting this type of posture
will not be natural.
Be aware of the muscle tension in your body.
Stretch a little or take a deep breath to
relax your muscles.
With time and practice, to embrace more and
more an assertive posture will become part
of who you really are.
And soon you will be able to have a good posture
in a relaxed and natural way.
Be careful where you look.
In addition to body posture, your gaze also
says a lot about what you are thinking.
Ideally, you should maintain direct eye contact
with the person you are talking to, but not
staring, without blinking, with wide eyes.
The ideal is to make eye contact, but in a
relaxed way, showing that you are attentive
to what the other person is saying.
Avoid looking at other parts of the person's
body and, especially, do not look at the cell
phone while the other person is talking.
Sometimes looking down can also communicate
that you are getting the message and agree.
For example, if you are getting a reprimand
from your boss for doing something wrong,
looking down can show that you admit your
mistake.
Here, again, it is the context that will tell
you where to look.
There is a time to face and there is a time
to look away, the important thing is to be
aware of adapting your body language to what
the situation requires.
Better than doing a confident pose, is to
be truly confident.
The idea of ​​doing power poses to feel
more confident is very useful when you need
extra doses of confidence in specific situations.
If you don't have good self-esteem, you will
show signs of weakness in your body language.
Other people will pick up on it and may unconsciously
treat you with less respect, and it can further
aggravate the way you feel, in a negative
spiral.
But don't be overly dependent on these power
poses.
Instead of putting on power poses all the
time, if lack of confidence is a problem in
your life, it is best to work on your development
as a person to actually become someone more
confident.
This is done little by little.
You start to read more, to study certain aspects
of human behavior, to get to know yourself
better.
Little by little, your intellect, your physique,
and your posture will improve.
While this is happening, you will be using
power poses here and there whenever you need
to, but with a focus on no longer needing
this technique.
Body language is just as important or even
more important as verbal language.
If you want to have more confidence to change
the way you think, feel and act, you can force
yourself to adopt specific postures - the
so-called power poses.
But the ideal is not to rely only on these
power poses.
The best thing is to develop yourself as a
person so that you don't even need these power poses, to have a good posture always and naturally.
The solution to all this is to work on your
identity and so you naturally project a communication
of greater confidence.
You can do this starting today by checking
out the Personal Development course at https://arata.se/personaldevelopment
