Well...that escalated quickly.

It started out kinda fun, and was cool because it was a person being open about what works for them sexually, which I'm a big fan of.

But then.... I don't know.

I'm not a woman and I'm going to pretend I know what it's like for a person to exist in a world where they're often not just objectified, but commodified. And I'm certainly not going to say that a woman made to feeling uncomfortable by the constant barrage of sexual imagery isn't completely entitled to their feelings. Hell, I'm occasionally made uncomfortable by such imagery.

However, blaming pornography seems like a bizarre leap. Porn really isn't much different from erotic fanfiction in that it's all fantasy. I feel it necessary to insert a caveat here that obviously some porn is problematic, but for the most part it's consenting adults playing a role, and I'd like to think that the vast majority porn consumers are aware of that fact.

The real problem is the lack of communication and education. If pornography is normalising violent sex for some men and they're engaging in such activities without the explicit consent or after consent has been revoked, than somewhere along the line that guy's sex education was neglected. Porn should not be where young people are going to learn about sex.

I feel for the poet because it sounds as though she had at least one really bad experience, and that sucks — sex is awesome and everybody should be communicating with their partner(s) so they have the best sex possible — but I can't agree with how she's choosing to address the issue.