Posted Jul 11, 2012

The chances of this conversation being an easy one are pretty much slim to none. But it’s going to happen eventually, whether they find out from you, your Facebook news or somewhere down the line. Your family and friends are probably going to be more upset with you if you leave the country without their knowledge than if you sat them down and told them what was up beforehand.

Before you break the news, you need to sit down and think of the questions they are going to ask:

1) Have you done all your research?

2) Are you excited about your trip?

3) Why did you join MissTravel?

4) What are your expectations?

5) What are his expectations?

6) Are you using common sense?

You need to be prepared to answer all these questions, and more. In your mind you are a hopeless romantic, getting ready to embark on a romantic first date in a far off land. But to your parents, you have met a stranger on the Internet who is taking their child out of the country on a first date.

The Pros of Telling:

If anything were to happen, someone knows where you are (it’s a safety net).

You wouldn’t have to keep any secrets.

The Cons of Telling:

People may not understand and give you a hard time about it.

They may not want to talk to you when you get back.

They may prevent you from trying to leave.

Honesty is usually the best policy in any situation, especially when there could be potential risks involved with not telling. It’s up to you to decide who to let in on your plans, but my suggestion would be to at least tell one other person close to you where you are going. Who do you tell before you embark on one of your trips?

I’ve looked at both sides here – whatever decision you make about telling your friends and family how you can afford this trip, you’ll need to be prepared to handle the outcome. My next blog post will focus on how to handle the aftermath.

24 Responses to “Coming Clean for Travel Girls – The Pros and Cons”

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I have done some traveling with an older gentleman in the past and had to explain it to my dad. He thought it was really weird and that I was crazy. Lol! It was uncomfortable to go over all of the details, but in the end the honesty really paid off.

I’m 24 so I can make my own decisions in life, but I like maintaining a close relationship with my father (we still live together) and I like to maintain being an honest person.

The older gentleman was someone I met in real life, not off of this website, but it was the same kind of arrangement that I’m using this website to seek out. We were intimate with each other, he paid for everything, and it was a blast! I told my dad the truth about where I was going, who I was going with, travel dates, and how we met etc. The only part I didn’t mention was the sex part. Haha If there is info like that that would actually hurt my dad, I leave it out. That’s private anyway. 😉

After I told him I kept in touch with him throughout the trip as well to let him know I made it to my travel destinations safely and that everything was going well. He really seemed to chill out after that. As parents, their number one concern is our safety and with so many risks potentially able to happen, they just want to know their babies are okay!

Once I was back from the trip dad was back to normal, stopped harping on me, and didn’t think I was so crazy anymore. I told him about some of the highlights of the trip and even showed him pictures. I think that was re-assuring for him too as it was proof that everything really did happen the way it was supposed to.

Now the next time I am able to travel I am not going to be as nervous to tell my dad about it and I can almost guarantee he won’t be as nervous about me taking off. The first one is always the hardest, but as long as you’re honest and you keep the parents/family/friends informed and updated so they know that what you say is going to happen really does with nothing bad happening while you’re away, you are building a form of trust with them and you are doing yourself a huge favor. Not only do you not have to live a double life or hide secrets, or LIE, but they get the chance to settle in with the idea and with each trip they will worry less and less until it becomes the norm.

When in doubt tell the truth but leave out details that might actually cause harm. That’s just mean. They just need the basic important details. Who, what, where, when, how, and why. 😉

I have a girlfriend who is a Sugarbaby, like me, and she and I function as each other’s safety net. Also she knows my parents’ information if really there was a severe problem.

Additionally, I find that if you tell your traveling partner that there is someone else who is completely informed of all the details of your trip, it makes them wary to try something that might not be safe. I have found that even one guy canceled the trip when he found out that my friend knew everything… I was a little unhappy not to go on the cool trip proposed, but in the end I am glad to safe rather than just to travel….

I don’t think there is anything wrong with it as long as both people are comfortable with one another and have done their homework (i.e. background check, talking, exchanging photos, whatever is needed to quickly get to know one another). I am a mature woman over 55 and would love to do this (did I say I am beautiful and of normal weight). Do any of these men want a mature woman or just these little baby dolls in their 20’s and 30’s?? Anyone on here over 55???

I travel a lot so my family has gotten used to it, although it was not a smooth transition when I first travelled specially coming from a country where culture and tradition is important. I, on the other hand does not feel to belong here as for my ways and lifestyle. It was hard for them to accept who I truly am and what I love to do but I guess because they just want to live the life I live, they just don’t know how.

I find that age, I am 52, is in the eye of the beholder. I am a 16-18 BMI, fit and attractive. Granted thier are alot of men looking for younger travel companions, but I find that there are also men who seek not only attractiveness but an ability to communicate and have relatable discussions as well as romance. This is a very exciting opportunity for all who venture to try. Well matured woman are not as easy to meet as our younger co-horts. We have more discretion as well as experience in the world of men. I do still keep my family updated on my plans and venues, for thier comfort and ability to contact me if need be. If a potential travel companion is on the same page he will respect your responsibility to those you know care about you. Happy and safe travels! 🙂

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