I was listening to a talk by Don Miguel Ruiz Jr. today, and he said something that just really clicked.

It's not about right or wrong, success or failure. It's about seeing that there is a choice.

We may strive to change, and feel that we are failures when we do not become what we wanted. In the end it was never about becoming, but in recognizing that there are opportunities everyday to choose how we approach the events that we encounter.

Yes, you always have choices. However, the best choices are the choices that support your inner state of peace and not that which distract you from it. Therefore, there is no right and wrong, because that is normally tailored for the person and his perspective.

Nonetheless, there are certain choices that are almost certain to be always wrong, such as harming yourself or others. So, no one with their right mind would do that, notwithstanding that it is a choice too.