Honestly, it was easier than I thought it would be from an emotional perspective. What annoyed me was my PIL making a huge song and dance about me going off to work and DD getting upset. DH had a word and the agreement is that if she doesn't go into daycare my FIL will take DD for a walk while we leave for work. She doesnt even notice we are gone when she gets back. I called from skype twice and she was running around the place like she normally does.

I was told by PT that running too soon after child birth and doing sit ups can both cause prolapse, something that none of us want.

Has anyone gone swimming yet? All my downstairs lose has finally stopped, so I would like to take the little ones swimming, but not feeling comfortable with displaying my post baby belly. Does anyone know of a miracle swimming costume to hold in tummy and accommodate big boobs? Wore a bikini after other babies so I could buy different size bottoms and top. Figure didn't hold up as well this time.

Im not going swimming with DD and DS because I just can't face two kids in the pool on my own. They are too close in age and it just isn't safe. DH is either away or studying for his final set of MBA exams. Until he can come with me, or my friend can come and hold DS I will not be swimming :-(

Didn't think of a tankini, that's a good idea. I have older Dcs as well, so will be taking them along to help in the pool as well, as younger Dcs are 23m age gap, so too young to safely take on my own.

Oh yes, I've been looking for good swimwear too. M&S seems dire from a quick browse online. Anyone found a good tankini that has very sturdy straps? I need proper boulder holders at the moment.

I'm not dieting at all, I'm walking quite a bit but my boobs can't take vigorous exercise. I'm hoping that from 12 weeks (milk becomes demand driven rather than hormone driven, so no more engorgement) I'll be a bit more comfortable.

Want2b ignore your PIL. I think childcare benefits children, and going to work certainly benefits me. I stayed at home with DD1 until she was two and I was so depressed ad lonely, and lost so much self confidence. I'm really looking forward to going back, tbh, though it will cost a fortune in childcare.

Anyone else waiting for a post baby repair? I've been referred but am still waiting for my hospital appointment. If any of you have, did you have to wait long? The longer I wait the more I am worrying about it.

Sorry you're worrying Nar hope you hear something soon, could you speak to your GP to see if they can find out anything?

How's everyone's exercise going? I'm still..er..thinking about it!! Really need to find some will power to stay away from though!!

Having good days & bad days here. DS 11 weeks next Tuesday. Still can't get her to take a dummy or bottle, we're finding it really difficult to settle her at nights without putting her on the boob! Then as soon as we put her down she wakes up. Have moved her into cot now as thought rocking motion of basket was waking her so we'll see what happens.

I'd really like to get her to take a bottle so I have the option of leaving her for a bit, we have a wedding in July that the kids as aren't invited too. I've been trying to express to try a bottle but only getting 10 ml a time if that. Wondering if one formula feed in evening will affect my supply, any suggestions?

cackle I do a local buggy fitness class a couple of times a week. Its really good. I just don't have the will power not to eat lots of chocolate.

Spoke to gp during the wk and they said they had only just posted the referral <shock>. The hospital then takes about 3 wks to reply. It sounds ridiculous to me that I had to wait until 8 wks to see if things would magically heal. Then will have to wait another 5 before I even get the date of my appointment to be checked and join another waiting list for the op. At this rate baby will be walking by the time it is all fixed.

Don't give up on expressing. It gets easier with time. Different pumps or hand expressing might work better. Try expressing on one side with the pump while feeding baby on the other side. A regular formula feed every evening will prob effect your supply, but if you don't want to be doing that feed it won't matter. An occasional formula feed shouldn't hurt though, as long as you don't do it too often. You can add to the bottle of expressed milk throughout the day to get a full bottle. 4oz will prob be enough at this age. Hope it gets easier for you.

A couple of my babies took a bottle of expressed milk beautifully but the others hated bottles. Dh got pretty good at using the bottle lids as little cups to slowly pour milk into baby's mouth. I have a training day at work next wk and baby is still refusing to take a bottle. Have warned work Dh might have to bring him in for feeds.

Not in any pain, but a bit uncomfortable. Prob TMI but hardly anything between vagina and rectum, so no sex until fixed. Midwife initially thought I had a 4th degree tear but then decided it was a few 2nd degree tears that didn't join up. She didn't want to stitch it because it would of required an epidural and trip to theatre. I stupidly didn't quiry this at the time. Just fed up that it is going to take so long to get fixed and also very nervous about how much it will hurt and what the end result will be like.

The past few weeks have been insanely busy. DH has his last set of exams at the end of the month and I am in the midst of chaos at work. I got mastitis last week and my goodness it was painful. Missed 1.5 days of work through waiting for various doctors. Didn't know you could get mastitis if you were not breastfeeding. Feeling very cheated.

My tummy is still horrendous. We have a work do this afternoon and I have no idea what to wear. I have a choice of 3 dresses but it is on a boat.

DS is dreamy. I spent hours over the weekend giggling away with him. Aaaahhhhh....

Hi all,DTwins arrived four weeks early on Feb 16th. I've been meaning to look for a postnatal thread on here so I'd love to join you if you're still open to newbies?Hope all babies are settling down nicely tonight and fingers crossed for lovely long chunks of sleep!

GP still hasn't sent the referral to the hospital. They are blaming it on a new computer system they have. I spoke to the hospital and they said it should of all been sorted by now, but they can't see me without a GP referral. They advised I just keep on at GP. DH has taken out medical insurance for me through his work, in the hope I will get everything fixed quicker. Unfortunately the lady from his work who sorts out the medical insurance is on holiday now and as we haven't had any paperwork through we suspect she has left the application in her to do tray.

On the upside baby is doing really well and dispute everything is def. worth it.

Ds can now bounce his chair very vigorously and is extremely vocal. He desperately wants to be able to sit up. Although he has been able to turn over for a couple of months now, he still doesn't seem to realise he can do it.

Looking forward to ds crawling and seeing him play with his older siblings.

3 months has flown by, yet he already seems like he has always been here.

I haven't posted since the group was set up but just wanted to pop back any say hi. How is everyone doing?Hopefully your appointment goes well NAR and they can get everything sorted, it seems mad that you've had to wait so long.

I cant believe how fast 3 months have already, in very lucky that my little man has been sleeping through since about 10 weeks so im no longer sleep deprived! Although in expecting it all to change once teeth start appearing.

I hope everyone else is doing ok, i will try to actually keep up with the thread again now xx

Really turned a corner with the babies in the last week. DT1 had a posterior tongue tie clipped and it's made the world of difference. They're both going 4-5 hrs between daytime feeds now and, if I do them together it only takes 15 mins.

8 days ago I was lucky to get an hour between feeds for DT1 and he was pretty miserable a lot of the time.

So nice to be able to get out and about with the older ones and spend more playtime with DT2.

Annoying though as I wanted the twins done as soon as possible after TT issues with both the older DCs. Still took 4 weeks to get DT2 done and kept being told DT1 was fine!

Hello arseface. Welcome and congrats on bf twins. My friend did it for four months and was just exhausted.

DS is pounding on the weight and growing like a weed. He is well into 9 month clothes. He has his 4 month appointment next week and I can't wait to see how much he has grown. At this rate he will be out of his car seat before he turns six months.