Hong Kong socialite Gigi Chao was reluctantly thrown into the spotlight when her tycoon father Cecil Chao Sze-tsung declared his refusal to accept she was a lesbian by issuing a HK$500 million ‘dowry’ to a man that could marry her. Now she has written a poignant open letter to him after he doubled his offer last week.
Despite the fact that Gigi Chao married her partner of nine years, Sean Eav, in a civil ceremony in France in 2012, her property developer father has continued to attract the attention of the world’s media with his bounty. In an interview this month with the Malaysian newspaper Nanyang Siang Pau, Cecil Chao insisted his daughter was still single, adding that he believed it was not too late to change her thinking because she was only 33.
Previously, Gigi, an executive director at her father’s Cheuk Nang property development company who has made no secret of her sexuality, has laughed off the bid to find her a husband.
However, today she issues a plea to her ‘Daddy’ in an open letter she hopes will finally halt his interference.
Dear Daddy,
I thought the timing was right for us to have a candid conversation.
You are one of the most mentally astute, energetic yet well mannered and hard-working people this humble earth has ever known.
Your confidence, quick wit, and charisma brightens any room you enter.
I love you very much, and I think I can speak for my brothers also, that we have the utmost respect for you as a father and role model in business.
I am sorry that people have been saying insensitive things about you lately. The truth is, they don’t understand that I will always forgive you for thinking the way you do, because I know you think you are acting in my best interests. And we both don’t care if anybody else understands.
As your daughter, I would want nothing more than to make you happy. But in terms of relationships, your expectations of me and the reality of who I am, are not coherent.
I am responsible for some of this misplaced expectation, because I must have misled you to hope there were other options for me. You know I’ve had male lovers in the past, and I’ve had happy, albeit short-lived, relationships. I found myself temporarily happy, buoyed by the freshness, the attention, the interest, of someone physically stronger than myself.
But it was always short-lived, as I quickly lost patience, and felt an indescribable discomfort in their presence. It usually made me frustrated, and I would yearn for my freedom again. I’ve broken a few hearts, hearts of good, honest and loving men, and I’m sorry that it had to be so.
But with Sean, a woman, somehow it was different. I am comfortable and satisfied with my life and completely at ease with her. I know it’s difficult for you to understand how I could feel romantically attracted to a woman; I suppose I can’t really explain it either. It just happens, peacefully and gently, and after so many years, we still love each other very much.
My regret is that you have no idea how happy I am with my life, and there are aspects of my life that you don’t share. I suppose we don’t need each other’s approval for our romantic relationships, and I am sure your relationships are really fantastic too.
However, I do love my partner Sean, who does a good job of looking after me, ensuring I am fed, bathed and warm enough every day, and generally cheering me up to be a happy, jolly girl. She is a large part of my life, and I am a better person because of her.
Now, I’m not asking you to be best of friends; however, it would mean the world to me if you could just not be so terrified of her, and treat her like a normal, dignified human being.
I understand it is difficult for you to understand, let alone accept this truth.
I’ve spent a lot of time figuring out who I am, what is important in my life, who I love and how best to live life, as an expression of all these questions. I am proud of my life, and I would not choose to live it any other way (except also figuring out how to be gentler on the planet).
I’m sorry to mislead you to think I was only in a lesbian relationship because there was a shortage of good, suitable men in Hong Kong.
There are plenty of good men, they are just not for me.
Wishing you happiness.
Patiently yours,
Your daughter, Gigi.
Watch: Gigi Chao: 'Love shall prevail.'
„Dear Daddy, you must accept I’m a lesbian“ (Lieber Papa, bitte akzeptiere, dass ich eine Lesbe bin...) – mit diesen Worten im Titel veröffentlichte die in Hongkong erscheinende South China Morning Post einen offenen Brief von Gigi Chao, der Tochter des Hongkonger Unternehmers Cecil Chao.

Gigi ist eines von drei Kindern, die Cecil Chao von drei verschiedenen Frauen – mit keiner war er je verheiratet – hat. Gigi Chao verfügt durch ihren Vater über ein nicht unerhebliches Vermögen, führt aber auch eine Model- und PR-Agentur, ist aber eine ansonsten unauffällige Socialite. Schon 2013 hatte es eine Aussprache zwischen Tochter und Vater gegeben, als dieser eine Belohnung von 500.000 HK$ für den Mann aussetzte, dem es gelänge, Gigi zur Hochzeit zu bewegen. Zuvor hatte Gigi ihre langjährige Partnerin Sean Eav in einer Eingetragenen Partnerschaftszeremonie im September 2012 in Frankreich geheiratet.

Nun schrieb Gigi diesen offenen Brief, nachdem ihr Vater die Belohnung auf eine Million Hongkong Dollar (umgerechnet ungefähr 95.000 €) verdoppelt hatte. Gigi entschuldigt sich in dem Brief dafür, dass sie ihren Vater bisher in dem Glauben gelassen habe, sie sei an einer Beziehung zu einem Mann interessiert, aber sie erklärt, dass alle diese Bemühungen nur von kurzer Dauer gewesen seien und dass sie mit ihrer Partnerin Sean Eav den Menschen gefunden habe, der sie rundherum glücklich mache. Sie warb bei ihrem Vater nicht um Akzeptanz für ihre Entscheidung, sondern nur darum, dass er einen normalen Umgang mit Sean pflegen würde. Der Brief erschien kurz vor dem chinesischen Neujahrsfest (2014 am 31. Januar), einem Fest, das ähnlich dem christlichen Weihnachtsfest das wichtigste Familienfest im chinesischen Kalender ist, und von daher nicht nur wegen des erhöhten Geldangebotes.

Die chinesischen Neujahrsfeiertage dauern traditionell sieben Tage und sind eine Gelegenheit, bei der mögliche zukünftige Ehepartner den möglichen zukünftigen Schwiegereltern vorgestellt werden. Nicht als Single zu den Feiertagen bei den Eltern zu erscheinen, ist für viele junge Menschen ein hoher Erwartungdruck, der sie dazu veranlasst, sich einen Freund oder eine Freundin nur für dieses Ereignis zu mieten. So bot ein Mann auf dem chinesischen Twitteräquivalent Weibo eine Million Yuan (umgerechnet ungefähr 122.000 €) für eine Frau – vorzugsweise mit Universitätsabschluss und Bonus für Frauen mit Doktortitel oder Jungfrauen –, wenn sie ihm für die Neujahrswoche als Begleitung zur Verfügung stände.