They allow their children’s natural struggle for independence to cause them — as one writer put it — to “feel insulted, outraged, embarrassed, threatened or rejected. ”
Kasutades ühe kirjaniku väljendit, lasevad nad laste loomulikel iseseisvumispüüetel panna end tundma ” haavatuna, pahasena, häbistatuna, ohustatuna ja hüljatuna ”.