( 1) You could constantly point out his failings or (2) you could usurp his role as head of the family or (3) you could sincerely commend him for any efforts he does make.
1) Sa võid talle seda pidevalt nina alla hõõruda, 2) võid haarata ohjad enda kätte või 3) kiita teda siiralt ka väikeste pingutuste eest.