However, when someone draws a specific failing to our attention, the tendency is to try to justify ourselves, minimize the problem, question the motive of the counselor, or object to the way in which the counsel was delivered.
Kui aga mõni inimene mingile meie puudusele tähelepanu juhib, siis kaldume kergesti end õigustama, probleemi vähendama, nõuandja ajendit kahtluse alla seadma või nõuandmise viisi pahaks panema.