Posts tagged 'love'
Quantum Jump into Better Relationships
One of the most wonderfully imaginable ways to visualize an improved world is one in which relationships with others are more supportive and positive. While we might assume there's nothing much we can do to improve the chemistry or attraction we feel for others, researchers have recently proven this is not the case. Studies show there is a lot we can do to improve how close we feel to others and how positively they feel about us.
Finding True Love in a Telepathy Experiment
When Julie Beischel signed up to participate in a telepathy experiment, the last thing she expected was to fall in love. Beischel was in a room by herself, unable to see her experimental partner, Mark Boccuzzi. Boccuzzi's instructions were simply to gaze at Julie intently on a closed circuit screen that intermittently showed her (live) image. Intriguingly, the data showed Julie's physiological responses every time Mark could see her, with noticeable spikes at the exact moments her image was taken away–as if her body was saying, "Oh, where did he go?" Julie said. At the time, Julie didn't immediately tell Mark about the powerful connections she'd felt to him, since after all, they were strangers. Now married, Julie and Mark credit telepathy for helping them meet and fall in love. "It was like nothing I had ever encountered," Julie said.
Improve Relationships by Acting Close
University of Hertfordshire psychology professor Richard Wiseman may have begun his working life as a professional magician, but no amount of magic books could explain the amazing results he got when he conducted an experiment with a hundred speed-daters in Edinburgh, Scotland. Wiseman separated the speed-daters into two groups: one which conducted the speed-dating activities as usual, and the other with special instructions for couples to pretend they were already intimately acquainted. These couples were instructed to hold hands, share secrets, and gaze into each others' eyes.
At the end of the study when all the speed-daters were asked how close they felt to their partners, and how many of them would like to see their partners again, only about 20% of the conventional daters indicated a desire to reconnect, compared with 45% in the pretending-to-be-intimate group. Wiseman explains,
"The assumption was that the emotion leads to the action or behavior but this shows it can happen the other way around, action can lead to emotions. Behaving like you are in love can lead to actually falling in love."
Wiseman adds,
"Actions are the quickest, easiest, and most powerful way to instantly change how you think and feel."
University of California at San Diego psychology professor, Dr. Robert Epstein, conducted similar exercises, asking couples of students to participate in what he called "soul gazing" — looking deeply into each other's eyes. Epstein found a 7% increase in loving, an 11% increase in liking, and a 45% increase in closeness…. with 89% of participants reporting the exercise increased feelings of intimacy.
Epstein's love-building exercises include embracing each other gently while sensing and synchronizing breathing, placing the palm of your hand as close to your partner's palm without actually touching for several minutes (in which you might not only feel heat, but surprisingly also some sparks), write down secrets and discuss them, fall backward into the arms of your partner, mirror each others' movements, and try a mind-reading game.
Taking action to become closer to loved ones is not inauthentic, explains Dr. Epstein. It's something we can actively do to improve our relationships, rather than passively accepting the status quo.
"The students in my course were doing something new–taking control over their love lives. We grow up on fairy tales and movies in which magical forces help people find their soul mates, with whom they effortlessly live happily ever after."
The fact that we can increase closeness by acting close in relationships is wonderful news for both old and new relationships. The findings from these studies give credence to the advice of our parents and grandparents who impressed upon us the importance of good social manners. When we make eye contact, shake hands, and inquire how others are doing rather than only talk about ourselves, we're well on our way to becoming a bit closer to people we might otherwise not care nearly so much about.
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Living in Parallel Quantum Worlds
While reading an article in Scientific American recently, Living in a Quantum World, I felt heartened to see the article's subtitle, "Quantum mechanics is not just about teeny particles, it applies to things of all sizes: birds, plants, maybe even people."
As noted a few months ago in A Unified Universe of Entangled Diamonds and Altruistic Rats, we are truly living in wonderful times as we see mainstream scientific articles acknowledging that quantum mechanics applies to everything in the universe–even ourselves. What this means for our expanding world view is that we can expect to see signs of such things as quantum entanglement, quantum teleportation, and quantum tunneling around us in everyday life–with no need for electron microscopes.
The Scientific American article Living in a Quantum World states, "In a quantum world, a particle does not just have to take one path at a time; it can take all of them simultaneously." One implication of this idea of quantum behavior showing up on the macro scale includes the notion that we can expect to see occasional signs that the world we see around us and so often take for granted is not the only one. These signs can clue is in to the possibility that we are surrounded by an infinite number of parallel universes that, on some level, we are experiencing in their totality.
The science behind parallel quantum universes
According to physicist Hugh Everett III's many worlds theory, there are an infinite number of parallel worlds that exist alongside this one. The significance of this theory is that it allows for quantum particles to behave as we've observed them and know them to behave, which is probabilistically.
Experiments mentioned in the Scientific American, Living in a Quantum World, indicate that many macro-scale entities such as birds, plants, and salt crystals exhibit signs of being entangled with one another. Such entanglement is a quantum behavioral characteristic which was previously relegated to the realm of the very, very small–yet now entanglement appears to be a quality of quantum behavior we can now claim also for ourselves.
What is it like to visit parallel worlds?
Any time we see a shift in reality in which something appears, disappears, transforms, or transports, presents an excellent time to consider the possibility that we may have just walked between parallel worlds. There are two marvelous books I recommend reading if you'd really like to know how it feels to visit parallel worlds: Traveling to Parallel Universes, and Reality Shifts: When Consciousness Changes the Physical World.
Traveling to Parallel Universes
I was thrilled this past month to read a book of first-hand accounts of travels to parallel universes by author Trish LeSage. In Trish's book, Traveling to Parallel Universes, Trish describes physical changes she often observes days or weeks prior to switching between universes, such as changes in her body temperature, and observing sights, sounds and sensations of other universes. Trish also writes about how she knows when she has arrived in parallel universes, as she observes differences in the way things manifest, and sees changes in people and animals in each parallel world. I especially love the matter-of-fact way Trish describes her parallel world journeys, along with her authentic emotional reactions when encountering such a variety of parallel universes. In one of the more interesting accounts, Trish describes a universe in which people can easily manifest whatever they contemplate relatively quickly and easily, yet due to lack of character-building through hardships, people are not very friendly, genuine, nor heart-centered.
In my book, Reality Shifts: When Consciousness Changes the Physical World, I write, "Living with the waking dream experience of reality shifting around me feels a lot like walking with my feet in two (or more) worlds."
"… to all outward appearances, my life seems the same as usual. I still do all the mundane things I need to do for survival, so much of the time I am living a life of habitual response. The biggest change in me is mostly one of attitude and mindset, as my sense of what's real has changed. My mind seeks a stable place to consider solid or real, and that sense of reality is no longer based simply on what I see in front of me or what seems to be solid. My sense of self is not limited to being confined to my body, since I so often experience feelings, sensations, and realities that don't happen where my body is."
"By welcoming a waking dream state of consciousness, I allow for the unexpected to occur. Even ordinary things like cooking dinner have a different feeling for me. Sometimes I've opened my refrigerator to get something, shut the door, opened it again a few minutes later, and found a jar had vanished and reappeared in that short space of time. I savor these sensuous experiences of feeling awake in a dream, because I am aware of my wishes, desires and feelings shaping reality all around me. I often find my passing thoughts answered by the universe, as I engage in a continuous dialogue with all that is. I feel this communication best when I also feel how loved I am and how everything around me is here for my benefit and appreciation, surrendering myself as fully as possible to knowing I am love."
I hope you'll enjoy watching and sharing my YouTube video summary of Living in Parallel Worlds–and please feel free to leave comments either on this blog or on my YouTube video page!
One of the benefits of asking the question, "How good can it get?!" while traveling between parallel universes is that you're likely to get some pretty wonderful answers. Happy travels!
Smile More Intensely for a Healthier, Happier Life
I've been feeling inspired this month after reading about a psychology study conducted at the University of Pennsylvania, showing that the more widely a person smiles on their facebook profile photo, the better the chances are that their next several years will be satisfying to them. If it's true that Facebook Profile Pics Predict Future Happiness, and that fate smiles on those who smile most, it seems only prudent to find ways to feel happier now, so the next several years will be be good ones!
Not only does this smile intensity / life satisfaction research confirm the results of an earlier study from 2001, which found a link between smile intensity of a group of female college students in 1958 and 1960 and their self-reported life satisfaction three decades later… it also lends a fresh perspective on a research study from last year of baseball players that found those who smiled intensely in early-career headshots lived seven years longer on average than those with small or nonexistent smiles.
Wow! Who would have guessed that increasing the intensity of one's smile could have such far-reaching effects on one's life satisfaction and longevity? This news encourages me to keep on smiling intensely, even though sometimes I'll see a picture of myself smiling so much I think I look slightly crazed… apparently, such smiling zeal is good for me in many ways!
I sometimes have smiled so much that people have asked me, "Why are you so happy?" and "What are you smiling about?" The truth is that I'm often feeling a great deal of bliss from my awareness of just how fortunate I am to be here right now, on such a wonderful planet in such an amazing universe. I frequently feel a nearly overwhelming sense of reverence for the great mystery that is life, and for a sense of eternal love I feel around me every day.
You can watch this video to join me in a meditation to feel eternal love, which I find to be the key to inspire me to feel happiest and smile most intensely:
I hope reading about smile intensity research encourages you to smile more, which in turn will likely encourage others to smile more… which can have a wonderful domino effect and help make the world a friendlier, happier, healthier place for us all.
As I love to ask… just how good can it get?!