I am just reading this now, many years later. Do you have an update on your life? Still single or found the one? (This is the first post of your blog that I have read, so I am sure if I continue to read it, I might find out – sorry). I think this post hit it right on the head! I am one of two that are single amongst my friends at the age of 29/30. It is a very hard time and I was actually writing something last night to this fact. They will all tell you – oh, being single is great! live it up! But… how can you live it up when you are by yourself single and don't have any of those partner in crimes to do those fun stuff with? They are now "families" and don't have time for you. It is definitely a tough time to navigate life but I love that you wrote about this!!
Thank u, ur words continue to help and resonate. So good to know I'm not the only one!
I love this post! You are right, there are rarely any blogs about being single over 30. I am thinking about starting my own (actually I have started, but its just one post yet https://frustiary.wordpress.com/), which is why I have looked around the internet and was so surprised not to find masses of blogs on the topic. I agree with EVERYTHING you say and naturally I am wondering (because this post is quite old) – are you still single?
Love it! Thank you, I totally agree! We need more positive outlooks and advice on being single, it's not a horrible time to speed through. It is a wonderful adventure in becoming your best self!
Honestly- you're amazing. I mean, yes, I'm not your traditional "single", I have a boyfriend of almost 7 years, and you know what? As it seems we are on the fast track to now where. He says all of the right things, "yeah I see it coming" but nothing has changed to tell me otherwise. So I'd like to pose this question for all to read….. Though single has many meanings, is being with another person in a stagnant situation equally as miserable as being alone? Would it honestly be better if you were alone rather than with someone who is incapable of making any significant moves in your relationship? These questions are not posed to take away from what you are saying, I hear you sistah. Everyone around me is getting married… and here I am, with my guy, and my plants, and my little friggin fish, and nothing is changing. I'm in my 30s and want babies. I am in my 30s and need to be married before having babies. I'm freaking out that it will never happen. I'm freaking out that maybe I'm wasting my time on a person who can not, and will not fulfill my lifelong dreams. I know what you're thinking, he really is wonderful, he makes me feel safe, he doesn't make me feel less than, he is my best friend…. but what if that's all we are? Whaaaaaaaaaat prepares you for these moments? NOTHING! I have friends dealing with post pardom, I have friends who are pregnant, I have family members who are engaged, family members who are mothers… and I'm tired of being that person who just gets degrees. Yay! I have a masters, yay I am going for my second… but you know what? That is not fulfilling for me. I know I am in charge of my own life, but I'm also responsible for the choices I've made. You are amazing, you are brave, and single comes in many forms. Yes I'm laying in my bed with another person tonight, but there are times when I might as well be laying alone. You are an absolute inspiration. Go get em' girl!
Wow! That's really good! I'm dating right now and I'm 30. This blog is exactly what I was looking for!! Thanks for expressing your thoughts!!
I am almost 30th and I just broke up with my boyfriend couple weeks ago. It is terrifying to face in a reality while many of my friends are getting married.. Thank you for telling us being single in 30 age is a good thing. Knowing people who are in the same situation helped me a lot. My ex-boyfriend was amazing. We were together for almost a year, and he broke up with me because of his bad depression. I never thought this issue will come to me, but wow life is unknown. really. Anyway, thank you Ali for your great blog.
I am 29.5 and single, and it's hard! Sometime in the last few weeks, in a moment of panic I starting browsing the web for resources to help me navigate the switch into my thirties, and I feel super blessed to have come across your blog posts from 5 years ago! Your series has given me inspiration and positive ways to think about this aspect of my life going forward.
– I realized I've been putting off big and little plans either because I imagined doing them with a significant other, or because I didn't want to make those plans and then cancel them when he turned up. I am now planning to fix that!
– I'm so happy to have learned that I am making the choice to be single – I usually feel like I'm involuntarily single, since if things had gone according to plan I'd have been married by 24 and had kids before 30 like my mom. But I love the way you framed this, that is to say, I hope to be married but at the moment, I'm choosing to remain single until I find the right guy (and I'm not a victim of some curse of singlehood). Understanding that it is my choice is empowering.
– I hope to discuss singleness with my friends more, so that I'll have more support from married and single friends alike who may have no idea that I even think about this stuff. And I hope it will help me confront some of the shame and loneliness that I sometimes feel around my non-single friends.
I love your positivity, courage, and honesty, and hope that I can bring some of your style into my own way of being single in the world, for as long as that may be.
Lastly, congratulations on your marriage! Wishing you guys all the best, and a lifetime of health, happiness, and adventure together!
Also, really enjoying these recipes on the blog.
It's kind of why I started my blog…i literally know no one like me where I live.
Hi…..Ali. I came across your blog quite a while ago and now I getting here again as a new Christian Single blogger. It's true enough to have single bloggers who are Christian and mostly are overly commercialised. Most are theorical "ways" instead of genuine own stories sharings. Absolutely agreed with your blogs objective.
Hi, it's so true what you say that not enough bloggers talk about being single. Actually this seems to be only an issue with single women… the boys club loves to talk about being single… it's such a double standard.
Anyway… I'm curious if you have ever looked into anything like this https://attractiontheories.com/at/ to help make a better connection with men? I'm 32 and it feels like I've been single my whole life and I've really been thinking about buying a course that might help me get better results in my relationships. What do you think?
Hi! I know you're happily married now and love that (I stalk your Instagram and vicariously live through your happiness). I'm about to turn 30, all my friends are partnered or married, and am ridiculously scared (even though I know I'll always be okay). Any advice or pieces of hope to give?