I have just started a new job, and while I am meeting people at work, they ask me if I have any chidren. I had a D&C in Feb.of this year and it would have been my first child. It is still painful for me to talk about,but if I say no, I don't want to leave out my baby. I feel like if I tell them about my miscarrage they will feel sorry for me and I don't want that.
Hi there. I get that question often and I say "I've had three pregnancies and no children". This way in my mind I'm stating that they are a part of me. They usually say I'm sorry, and I say, thank you or lets move on or I don't talk about it too much, but thanks. Depending on what they say.
Good luck and I k now you'll find your very own way to respond.
I have one child with me and one child in the Spirit world. When people ask me how many children I have I just say one, because my loss is something that's very personal to me and I don't want to get into a discussion with anyone about it.
I had my baby's initials tattooed on my wrist and if people ask me about my tattoo I tell them but I change the subject right away. One of the ladies at work asked me about it and when I told her, she said that was a sweet way of remembering my little one.
Its up to you if you say anything about it or not. Even if you say you don't have any children, you know in your heart that your baby will always be a part of you and will be loved.
There is no right or wrong answer. When I'm asked how many children I have I say, "Five, four are living." and then I very quickly divert the conversation to something else. You are not showing any disloyalty to your baby if you choose not to answer right now. You know and God knows and that is all that matters.