"Are you saying ALL Tunisians with European friends act in the same way?"
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All this place and the nice members here can do is responsibly inform; try their best to intercede. But, people will do as they have decided. The nice part is she (and any other victim who eventually learns the game) is always welcome to come back for support.
It's hard to accept this kind of information, because the level of Tunisian rat evil is off the hook. People are blinded by different factors; they think all cultures are the same, people are the same, abuse is the same, morality is the same, etc... and, it's hard for people to understand how bad rat bezness is (because they feel invincible). But, going directly into the depths of Tunisia will be the real education and cure for all of that.
I am not old. I am 20 years old. I am not fat or ugly. I am pretty and slim and petite. I attend a prestigious US university. My rat passed around his phone to others, or gave others his messenger password. I don't know if they laughed at me. Maybe they laughed at me or at how the rat was able to con me. I don't know. But I do know he had other people message me sometimes. The words and slang would be different, the texting style would be totally different. His stories wouldn't fit. One time he thought I was 16. He changed his birthdate. My rat would spell out every word like I do while the others would use acronyms and slang words I never heard of and had to google.
The guy you are talking to may do some of the things but not all. You said, you are not dating and are just friends (officially) so the game is likely slightly different.
Five years is not a long time for some of these guys. Some get married, get the visa, have a bunch of kids, then when they've saved enough money, they bail leaving the wife broke and with the kids. Or the wife leaves him because she has had enough of the abuse.
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Girl, they don't give a rats behind what you look like. You can look like the model Christie Brinkley, or rated the most beautiful woman in the world, they will still make fun of you and you still won't be the ideal woman they want unless you are a Tunisian virgin.That's the only woman they want and need. If you are attractive, sure it's a plus but it don't matter. Scroll back to my comment about how they hate us and anyone from western countries...we are infidels to them. This is why they do these things to us, we are disposable, they don't care.
It's not too late for you...heed the warnings here, it will save you a lot of pain. These are not just stories, this is real life.
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Go for it then. Your life, your decision. Don't doubt our words though.....none of us has call to lie....our words are truth, but no Amiga stage will accept that their rat is not different, that they are all the same.....my rat was the perfect bloke at the beginning....I would have believed mine was different too.
I would suggest you send no money and no pics, but again....do what you wish.
I do wonder how long this will go on for though....will you go and meet him?
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This is not normal behaviour at all.
Not once has my hubby spoke out of turn to me, he isnt even nasty in an argument.
I can ignore him after an argument and he is the one texting me asking me if i am ok yet. Not once has he ever raised his voice to me.
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I want to add and highlight that under no circumstances ever would a muslim man ask for money.
If he was stuck for some reason he would ask males only.
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I am curious, would a Muslim man (who is not a rat) expect to take over your assests (including money) once you were married or do you get to keep that yourself?
No my money is my own.
Before you get married you sign a declaration. 3 choices.
We did he provides for me .
But regardless of these options his role is to provide for his wife and family and any muslim man under any circumstances would not take money from a woman.
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Dollars to doughnuts this man has a string of women that he is talking to and that are visiting him. Why do YOU think he disappears for days at a time?
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Believe it. I live here. I see it on a daily basis.
This is true. I never believed it. How could he? We talked all the time, he was always there. We would talk 5 or 6 hours a day. Then I found out my rat had other women in tow on-line and Tunisian girls too.
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Especially if you're on a different time zone as them. My Canadian, USA, Brazil, Mexico, etc ladies would never know because for 7 to 8 hours while we are sleeping they could be doing whatever. Makes it easier to juggle others that way.
When I got on the same tine zone with him, it really became apparent what he was doing. But they are still good at hiding and disappearing. Common excuses, i was working, phone died, no service, i was driving, i was out for coffee, etc. Nope you were entertaining another victim.
At some point, we have to look at our worth. Im worth more than some bottom of the barrel, guttersnipe mamas boy.
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